My WIFE Took And Hid My Necklace That Has My Son's Ashes In It

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[@OnetoughHufflepuff]

Bruh. Get rid of the wife in the first story. Losing a kid is something no parent should go through. First story absolutely nta.

[@mayurakshimukherjee7948]

Seriously why is it important how people feel about it?

[@ruthgriffiths7365]

Other people's opinions, issues and judgement are not op's problem. This is a small, very personal and comforting way of keeping his beloved son, quite literally, close to his heart. That is a beautiful sentiment. Unfortunately, I think people are far too quick to rush straight to demanding divorce. A family therapist could be a great help, certainly worth a try before taking any major decisions. Op has already suffered one debilitating loss, I don't think he's ready to face another. If his wife does not listen or refuses to recognise his need for comfort then that would be a very different matter. I think op is a strong, caring and considerate man, his wife should recognise how fortunate she truly is to have him as her husband and partner.

[@hugrat]

I have a stainless steel pendant for the hairclippings of every pet that traveled to Rainbow Bridge. I never take it off unless it's to protect the pendant. My partner does not mind and even had me store a little fur of a late dear cat so that it was in good company.

[@nicholaswilley9001]

The wife in the first story is an evil, horrible witch and should be kicked to the curb...

[@personman8734]

This goes beyond divorce this is a how to hide a body situation. I would have left right there and then and never came back.

[@jinxgiz3104]

Story 1: NTA. Can you imagine being so heartless that you'd hide the ashes of your spouse's dead child? The OP should divorce her.

[@sherritilley1274]

This. Exactly this.

[@amanur1518]

Truly. This reminds me of those stories wherein a new spouse tries to get of things from their partner's first spouse that passed away. Trying to erase the memory of your partner's dead spouse has always seemed immature and selfish to me. To try and do the same thing with someone's child is exponentially worse and unforgivable to my mind. I can't even imagine how hard it is to lose a child, and OP found something that helps him cope with that loss, but it's too weird? F*ck that! I feel like trying to interfere with his grieving process like this because she's worried about what other think means they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

[@personman8734]

This is beyond divorce territory this is how to hide a body levels . The audacity to act like she’s the victim because he used harsh words.

[@sobeit19]

Yes!! Imagine his fear he’d lost them, imagine his heart beating out of his chest. It’s his child for gods sake. When I first got mine I just wasn’t used to wearing necklaces, I had laid it on the dresser and my daughter was dusting. She slid it in the top drawer and went about her chores. I was in melt down mode until my daughter got home from school and told me where it was. I have never taken it off except to shower and then it goes right back on

[@personman8734]

@@sobeit19 pretty sure if my wife tried to hide the dead ashes of my son from me to save herself some comments from Karen, I’m pretty sure I’d be ready to commit murder.

[@stargazerkawaii]

My mom was friends with a man whose daughter died in her teens. The last time they went shopping together she joked about buying him pink cowboy boots. After her death he bought himself pink cowboy boots and wore them in her honor. I don't know for sure, but I think he wears pink boots today.

[@brandi5126]

Why do people think the necklace is strange? It is the ashes of his child ffs. NTA and anyone who makes you feel bad for wearing it is TA.

[@fionamasters1822]

I've even seen people get tattoos with the ashes mixed in with the ink. It helps with grief.

[@roserocks1979]

100 % agree

[@MrJpaynebb]

Ashes in a necklace which is hidden by his shirts the majority of the time he wears it, how is that strange or out of line? He hasn't set up a shrine to his son in the middle of the living room or get his room untouched all these years which many grieving parents do. NTA and OP should really consider whether he wants to stay in this marriage. A spouse or partner should respect your grief especially for a child who died far too young. Condolences on the loss of your son, OP.

[@renoloverxoxo]

Death makes people uncomfortable. Mourning jewelry fell out of behavior in modern times, though it's coming back with the death positive movement (yes it's a thing). People aren't necessarily wrong for being uncomfortable by it but bothering OP for a healthy coping mechanism is wrong.

[@drumsalive]

I no I would never do that to my partner .. toxic poo

[@Tiger-dg4jh]

He needs to throw the whole wife away in the first story.

[@lancethedemon994]

Ya Yeet

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

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[@Russman67]

This is what happens when you're doing things you love doing. Way to go Mark!

[@thomastsohonis1218]

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[@nataliiievberg7757]

YES🙏💓💕❤️🎊

[@rickrollrizal2364]

Man. 1st story hits hard. Look at it in this way. When a husband loses a wife, he's called a widower. When a wife loses a husband, she's called a widow. When kids lose parents, they're called orphans. But when parents lose a kid, what do you call them? I don't think society has made one because it is unnatural and immensely painful. The wife is toxic.

[@hello93617]

Vilomah is the closest thing I could find. On urban dictionary, but not yet recognized by webster I guess. Seems like they should have a word, considering how often this must happen with war alone.

[@rickrollrizal2364]

@@hello93617 ah. Vilomah means unnatural so I guess it would fit.

[@hello93617]

@@rickrollrizal2364 That's almost too on the nose. It seems a little mean too, but I don't have children so I can't really judge. Calling someone "unnatural" seems like a negative thing when they are already going through the most negative thing, but in this case, maybe it's appropriate.

[@rickrollrizal2364]

@@hello93617 I'm not calling someone unnatural. The word vilomah or unnatural is being suggested because it's unnatural for a parent to lose a child.

[@hello93617]

@@rickrollrizal2364 I'm aware you arnt calling them unnatural. Those who refer to a parent having lost a child as a "Vilomah" might be insensitive. But looking further, it seems like some parents who have lost children take great comfort in the word, so what do I know about it?

[@janicewilcox8590]

Take your son back to the restaurant and make him apologize like a man.

[@kimdupont3731]

He obviously don't know what a real man with manners is.

[@pyromoose948]

Yelp

[@janicewilcox8590]

@@kimdupont3731 true. Maybe the mom should.

[@chiefdadworth5880]

Bro that first story pissed me off so much, what the hell.

[@drumsalive]

Me tooo divorce the woman

[@skylarjnelson6898]

for the second one, all I can think is that MAYBE this husband has a fetish he's forcing on people? He gets very defensive about it when his wife brings up her, understandable, discomfort with it. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who acts like a baby, either. Either that or he's trying to end the marriage on purpose.

[@hello93617]

It would seem odd that he would just now start to try to get her into his kink, unless he was getting bored or just discovered it, which would be supported by the MIL comments that this was a midlife crisis. I would also be careful implying that this is malicious on his part. He could have a kink that he is aware is sexual yet. He just knows he feels good when he talks like a baby with his wife, and he doesn't know why. He sucks because he into looking at why he likes doing this, and not communicating with his wife, the person he's trying to get into this. Honestly she doesn't seem like the easiest person to communicate with, and I can empathize with the fear that if he comes out and says "I want to be treated like a baby sometimes. It gets me off/ makes me feel good (it might not really be sexual)" she will leave him. He's got to make a decision to either indulge whatever this is on his own time (porn if it's sexual, if it's not... I really have no idea. Maybe they make recordings of a woman talking to baby he would enjoy) or telling his wife what he likes and seeing if she's interested in helping him out (I feel like most SOs would be, men maybe a little less. It seems like we get in our own heads more, although I also can't think of any common kinks that women tend to have that match men's (not bringing in someone else and strange enough to cause pause)). Either way he's got to stop riding the fence.

[@personman8734]

This man had the fucking audacity to say his wife embarrassed him. If my someone started pulling this shit while I was with him. I would kick the shit out of him .

[@erikrungemadsen2081]

I have only ever heard this kind of language change happen to stay at home parents somewhat isolated from adult interactions. It is weird.

[@sobeit19]

Wow, you’ve never lost a child have you? It’s nothing to do with fetish’s. It is a symbol of everlasting love

[@hello93617]

@@sobeit19 Different story. I believe story number 1 was about losing a child, story number 2 was the guy who likes to talk like a baby. The stories are not linked and have completely different casts of charecters. To be clear, the guy who lost a child and carries the ashes in a necklace is not the same person who has started baby talking, although I can see where they would seem to be linked.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 1: NTA. What is wrong with her? How can she do that knowing how important it is to OP?

[@joshuaegbert3723]

First story...your 2 months in look at an annulment

[@rambofan334]

Too late for an annulment. But yeah, he should divorce her.

[@kakashilova227]

The last story: I would recommend OP to check to see if his house is up on AirBnB. It sounds like Brian is running a type of scam; from the story, it seems like he had these two strangers book with him to stay in your house and then tried to put it in motion by tricking OP. OP should’ve asked the strangers how they knew Brian (before doing exactly what he did). OP’s definitely NTA, but needs to check that out.

[@susanlayton2143]

If my grown man of a husband acted in public the way the OP in story 2's husband was acting, I would leave his butt in the grocery store too. Acting like that around the friends that think it is funny is one thing but acting like that in PUBLIC when you know that your wife is BEYOND uncomfortable with it is another all together.

[@ceciliacalvin9469]

Story 2: in the bdsm community there is section called Littles. It’s where the person regresses to child like behavior. The partner is “the mommy or daddy”. But in the story I think something could be medically wrong because it has suddenly started.

[@theinquisitorisamage1653]

Agreed - if it's a medical condition, then I hope he gets the help he needs. Brain tumors/aneurysms are no laughing matter. If its a new fetish, then he should've talked to his wife before introducing this into their relationship.

[@renoloverxoxo]

I'm a little: we don't do it outside of Littlespace. Based on how he does it to his friends, he's just doing it to be annoying. I personally don't do the voice either and don't know any Littles who do. We might use the vocabulary but he's got that inflection going... nah that's a boner killer for me and my partner.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

There’s an update- there was a bet the partner did this for- a stupid signed baseball. She left his stupid, foolish ass.

[@fandomfan2800]

​@@renoloverxoxo I'm a little for trauma reasons and I don't do it outside

[@FunSizedGirl365]

I'm also a little. I have a dom who I regress in front of when we're in private and I always bring up fetishes with potential partners as part of figuring out the boundaries. If this is kink related, then it's extremely mishandled. This first part should always be consent and communication.

[@Angelkitty604]

Story 1: As a person who wears a necklace with my mother's ashes in it everyday, this person is absolutely NTA. When I lost my necklace once I felt very panicked and on the verge of crying when I couldn't find it, and it felt like the biggest relief when I eventually did find it. If someone were to deliberately take it from me and hide it, I would be enraged. No one has the right to disrespect something that has so much meaning to you. I also don't understand the concept that it's weird to wear a necklace with a loved ones ashes in it. It's no weirder, as Mark said, than keeping an urn full of someone's ashes in your home. I've had several people, even complete strangers, ask about my necklace and when I tell them the truth, they all reacted the same way, by giving me condolences and saying how nice it is to have a piece of my mom with me at all times. THIS is how those people SHOULD be reacting, not with disrespect towards someone who meant so much and unfortunately passed away far too soon. If his wife treats the necklace with so little value, then maybe he should reconsider the marriage.

[@hugrat]

About story nr 3: I was taught that it was completely normal to be the butt of jokes like that and just be polite and lighten up. Then later I was scolded for having no self respect and being a doormat. The pattern of this eluded of course pretty much every one until I had to get professional help for the resulting mental confusion. I'm glad more people are learning nowadays about toxic patterns of thinking. We learn that sometimes jokes are actually harmful. Not only because the victim of the joke is hurt, but because those who make the jokes internalize the toxic parts of the joke and make it a serious problem.

[@sarahe.wright9442]

Re: the hidden pendant story: I'd send her on a trip, pack everything she owns, pay for a month of storage, and present her with my attorney's card, the storage information and key, and a petition for divorce. on her return. I really, really hope you have a prenuptial agreement! Re: toddler husband: Start saving documentation for your possible split. Ask the grocery store for a copy of the security footage as a beginning. It might also be useful if your husband agrees to go to therapy.

[@sobeit19]

I agree

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

@@sobeit19 So do I.

[@ComaLies225]

Story1: OP needs to disassociate with all these people who think it’s “weird” of the OP to wear a necklace, wife included. They clearly don’t care about OPs grief. NTA but they are

[@youarehere594]

Story 2 - nta - if the hubby wants to act like a toddler, treat him as one. When you make dinner, tell him he doesn't get desert until he eats his vegetables. Set him a bed time at some ridiculous hour like 7, tell him he only gets an hour of screen time, make clothing choices for him and set them out for the day, and oh, time outs if he does something "bad." I wonder how long it would take for him to drop the act.

[@sophieshep12]

Story 3 - so almost every woman around him was telling him that it was sexist and he just goes"nah its not, I know better" ??? jeez man

[@GallantRage1]

Seeing the joke, I wouldn't say it's exactly sexist since it isn't targeted at a specific gender. Instead I'd classify it as straight up sexual harassment and probably racist(?)

[@GallantRage1]

@Gi Gi if you want to get into the semantics of it, sexual harassment doesn't automatically mean sexism. Woman harass men, men harass men and women harass women. It would have been sexist if the joke had been disparaging towards women, instead he pretty much asked a girl for sex while she was trying to do her job hence sexual harassment.

[@nicholaswilley9001]

@@GallantRage1 : By definition, sexual harassment is...SEXIST!!!

[@nicholaswilley9001]

@@GallantRage1 :You're ignorant and, once again, wrong. Go into the corner and think about the stupid crap you said.

[@GallantRage1]

@@nicholaswilley9001 Sexism: prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex. Sexual harassment: behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation.

[@theblackantonio]

Story 3 Reddit: hmm... what DID he say? OP: *reveals what son said* Reddit: Y T A

[@justine8387]

Is completely gross.

[@selimkarayl7823]

Joke was rude not funny but if they talked it out and apologize what more do these people, OP's wife and other moms want?

[@theblackantonio]

@@selimkarayl7823 they did not talk it out properly.

[@theblackantonio]

@@DiamondDM13 I kinda sorta agree with you. It would still be inappropriate and an AH thing to say, but if the kid had kept it within the friend group instead of saying it to the waitress, much would have been averted.

[@selimkarayl7823]

@@DiamondDM13 Good jokes and bad jokes comes from the place. Some work some don't and the only reason people accuse OP's son as s*xist and racist, because he said to a woman who is indian. Doesn't make sense.

[@mallorymason1402]

I love that you put trigger warnings! Not many people take the time to do it, it's really nice to see you not only have the reputation of being extremely wholesome and adorable, but live up to that expectation! :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww thank you 😁❤

[@mallorymason1402]

@@MarkNarrations Anytime! Also, is your tattoo sleeve actually lilies or is that just your sprite? Been wanting to ask for a while lol

[@MarkNarrations]

@@mallorymason1402 Yes it's lillies, was my Mums favourite flowers

[@digit5465]

I kinda sympathise with OP in the first story. I lost my great uncle to cancer, so in woodwork ive used some materials that weren’t being used to make a nail look like its fishing, something he done and something i wanted to do with him. NTA, I’m deeply sorry for OP’s loss

[@tobybarnett7147]

It’s totally normal to have ashes of a loved one in a necklace. Then they’re physically at your heart as well as metaphorically. That’s his SON it’s not something from an ex it’s literally ASHES OF HIS CHILD.

[@andreawalker8343]

Letting strangers stay in your cabin in the woods sounds like a set up for a horror story. Absolutely NTA!

[@cheskydivision]

Typical male reaction, "it doesn't offend me", " it was just a joke". If a woman tells you something is offensive then it is.

[@fionamasters1822]

I've had similar happen to me and I felt disgusting for hours and just wanted to go home but couldn't because working.

[@CL-lx2pm]

I got a real chuckle out of "It wasn't anything I'd consider sexist" Yeahhh bro, cuz you're clearly the expert on misogeny here. I'm sure he didn't hide this from his wife because she'd know better. Nope, not at all.

[@erikrungemadsen2081]

It is only a joke if we all are laughing.

[@nimrath]

You mean men and women are actually different? Shocker.

[@selimkarayl7823]

This means you have no idea about what "funny" is and all you know about sexism is "when a man says something a woman doesn't like." which is clearly not what sexism means. When it comes to funny both good and bad jokes comes from the same place. That's was comedians keep trying new materials. In this case joke made by someone who is even 20 has a low confidence and socially somewhat awkward. It was rude not funny. Also "if a woman tells you something is offensive then it is" how is this acceptable but when men says otherwise what they opinion is unacceptable?

[@SmoothBrainStuff]

I just wanna appreciate how kind Mark is He seems like he genuinely cares about all of us and our days, and he adds trigger warnings for possibly touchy subjects which is always appreciated I hope you're having a good day Mark, and everyone else too

[@MarkNarrations]

I'm very well how about you? 😁❤

[@SmoothBrainStuff]

@@MarkNarrations oh sorry for my late reply My day's been alright, could've been better but at least I got Chick-fil-A. Glad yours was good

[@jinxgiz3104]

Story 2: NTA, although if I was OP I'd be worried about having to deal with CPS if she continues to leave her toddler alone in public.

[@LunaMane]

The father in the third story was not only an arsehole, he's an out-of-touch enabler. I looked at his responses to some people on the thread and he was immensely tone deaf to how bad the son's behavior was. Coddling your kid from consequences like that is a sure fire way to set them up with the mentality that they can act this way and worse, and when the police get involved you can't say shit about it. I don't blame the wife and other moms for being angry - and the other dads who didn't think it was "that bad" are just as stupid.

[@mayurakshimukherjee7948]

Yup one day the kid will do something that can cause jail time, and dad will wonder how did that happen?

[@GallantRage1]

Reminds of the Brock Turner case where the dad argued that his son "only" got 20 seconds of action instead of being allowed to rape her to climax

[@fionamasters1822]

People seem to forget that wait staff is only being paid to be nice to people and if he said that on the street he would have got his ass kicked.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Hopefully both the son and dad get their asses beat because they harassed the wrong person or their victim has a boyfriend that saw them going too far. Some people need an ass whooping to stop their behaviour.

[@lunahix4815]

First story: ESH except for OP. The wife sucks for touching something that doesn't belong to her, and everyone else sucks for thinking OP is weird for having a necklace with his son's ashes in them. And cancer sucks for taking OP's son. Edit: Just in case someone gets confused, OP isn't the asshole. Everyone else is.

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

💯

[@nofuninc.2358]

JUST SAY NTA THEN, GOSH.

[@crdnls1]

You should change it to NTA then because a ESH is meant for everyone including OP.

[@kchenderson3683]

For story 2, j e s u s c h r i s t. Even age regressors know not to do that in public, and even more so if their partner isn't okay with it. I would be absolutely horrified to be associated with that, my god-

[@joimumu]

Maybe and I mean that seriously that he has brain damage?

[@renoloverxoxo]

I don't think he's doing agere. He's just being a dick to get a rise out of her.

[@ACCER]

Story 1 The comment that said the wife had "crossed the finish line" was 100% correct. She thinks she has the right to dictate and control him now. My brother married a woman like that. There was "something" about her that I just couldn't put my finger on. She was the nicest, most perfect woman. Fit into our family perfectly. But there was "something." The joke in the family is that he left with her on their honeymoon and brought back her evil twin. It was that fast. When they got home a week later, suddenly we all needed to make an appointment, at least a week in advance, to see him. This included his own daughters. She even refused to "allow" him to attend the wedding of his oldest daughter. It just about destroyed our family. The marriage lasted 5 years, until just after the birth of his grandson. He filed for divorce. I paid for it. Best money I ever spent. OP needs to get out of the relationship and he is NTA. Hell, I would have thrown her ass out of the house FOR him......and we have never even met! Story 2 I briefly dated a guy when I was 20 (He was 34....yeah, I know) that would go into baby talk. I told him I didn't like it. He stopped doing it, most of the time. He's still say things like, "Sodie" for Soda, or when asked if everything was okay with his food in a restaurant would reply with, "It's yummies!" He largely kept it in check.....until the first time we were about to have sex. He went into a toddler voice and, being a normal healthy adult woman, desire turned OFF and mommy mode turned ON. Most women are wired to respond to the tones of a child in a specific way. Sexually isn't it. A toddler voice asking for my "boobies" triggers my brain to respond in a manner that is about feeding the hungry toddler.....not having sex with an adult man. I got up, got out of bed, got dressed. When he asked what was wrong, I told him that he needed to grow up and that voice had not only turned me off, it reminded me I needed to go home and feed my dog. He tried to talk me out of it....I left and that was the end of the relationship. I admit, I laughed when he got his mommy involved....rather fitting under the circumstances! OP is NTA......They need counseling. Or, he needs counseling.......and so does their marriage if he doesn't grasp that this is a problem. Story 3 Yes, it was that bad. The OP is not only an asshole, he's a Chad..... Story 4 OP is NTA. It's his home. You just don't do what Brian did.......

[@toniaherbert9448]

Ok the flavor flav reference makes me feel even more of a waffler lol man you rock!

[@MarkNarrations]

Haha 😊❤❤

[@eldeano9964]

Story 2: buy some adult nappies and tell him to wear them before going out to meet friends

[@Fete_Fatale]

... except that sounds like it would just feed into his fetish.

[@marybutler9250]

God the first story is so infuriating. What kind of heartless monster would condemn a parent for mourning the loss of their child?! Disgusting.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 1: NTA. She’s abusive if you ask me. Leave the b!

[@A-whoopsie-daisy]

I love how Mark calls every new patreon and member by their name! It is so heartwarming to know they are not just paying and not get recognized. Hell, I always think "Hell yeah, (name)! You rock!" And giving the posters also credit by naming them. Idk why but I think thats something a lot more youtubers should do

[@peteranon8455]

You know, I've never been banned from a restaurant... I'm thinking you have to say something pretty offensive, and in a pretty offensive manner to have this happen.

[@haydennoble9253]

Story 2: it sounds like he needs a psych evaluation

[@globalwarming5243]

Grief is one of the most tricky things to deal with. Everyone reacts differently and there is not much to can do to help somebody suffering except for being supportive. I hope everyone can find someone that will help them.

[@alexsantoire4701]

Story 1. That spouse has absolutely no respect for their partner. Its a sentimental item. To say it's creepy or whatever is just disheartening. She knew going in to the marriage that he would wear it all the time. To think she could change him wearing it is sad. Im sure there were red flags to this behavior ahead of time. She is just feeling more bold to put her foot down about it. Time to get out of that marriage if something he hides under his clothes is embarrassing. Toss the whole woman out. Story 2. Sounds like some weird joke find wrong. Like, he enjoys seeing his wife looking miserable or getting embarassed. I'd be embarassed too. There is a time and place for everything and jokes only go well with certain folks. But, that's just weird. She obviously isn't okay with it and he is making it be her fault with saying stuff like calling her a party pooper. That's some mental regressing there. Time to google search if he is in to age play stuff. Therapy and doctors asap if they want to save that marriage.

[@heathermcdougall2399]

@Mia Smith Doesn't need a doctor. It's 100% under his control. He doesn't ever do it at work. Doesn't do it around family. Only her and she's got to put a stop to it. Perhpas the wake up call he needs is for her to tell him she's going out to get sex from a real man, as babies can't meet her needs.

[@jinxgiz3104]

Story 3: YTA. Gee, I wonder why all the mums were upset to find out their sons had been harassing a woman just trying to do her job? Also, that joke was sexist AND racist.

[@ezra2701]

The husband in story 2 sounded like he had age regression until he was just being awful

[@pearl_lisha896]

It still amazes me how cruel some people can be!

[@lightspeed7312]

Story 1. I would be filling for divorce. "You don't respect my feelings? Ok. Have fun being single."

[@gingermaniac5484]

She’s not his partner if she’s so cruel as to disrespect and belittle him and the memories of his child in a pendant that is probably one of the only things keeping the poor man going some or most days. She’s no partner, she’s a captor if anything.

[@krattgirl124samarama4]

A month ago I lost my dog due to old age and heart problems. She died in my arms and I kept her collar around and wore it for a few days until my dad told me to stop wearing it because it was "dirty" and made me feel so horrible for wearing it in the first place. Hearing that collar make that small tinkle noise helps calm me down since it makes me feel like she's still there for me

[@maggpiprime954]

Story 1: NTA. Two months of marriage? I'd get an annulment, mate. What an entitled jerk, gatekeeping the memory of your son. Story 2: NTA. Well, it's not a stroke or aneurysm waiting to burst. You can't pick and choose when to display symptoms of neurological distress. My best guess is that he's developed a fetish and hasn't learned the rules of consent (or doesn't care). Story 3: DTA. Ooh, all the men deciding what the waitress should feel! "It's not that bad, honey, your boss has agreed to look the other way instead of standing up for you so it's all good!" Like, WTF?? Annnd OMIGOD, I hadn't even heard the "joke" yet! Just...HELL to the NO!!! I hope that waitress quit on the spot, she deserves better! Story 4: Omigod LOL! Definitely NTA!

[@becausemynameiscommon5609]

Had just gotten into the story when I was reading the comment about story 2. I was wondering why you were mentioning fetishes. Lol. Now I know. I wouldn't be able to handle a fetish like that. Not kink shaming, It just wouldn't be for me. My best guess though was that he enjoys knowing it irritates her. Sometimes people like to annoy people.

[@maggpiprime954]

@@becausemynameiscommon5609 Oh! I guess I hadn't considered that his fetish was for pissing off his wife! Lol! But yeah, it's perfectly fine to have a fetish, and perfectly fine to not have any. As long as communication is open, respectful and further involvement is fully consenting. There are rules. What he's doing is not cool, fetish or not.

[@becausemynameiscommon5609]

@@maggpiprime954 For sure .

[@selimkarayl7823]

Story 3; Assuming the owner was a man is quite the sexist of you, unless OP mentioned the owner was male which I didn't see. So what do you want? OP's son and his friends clearly not even 20, socially awkward and has confidence issues (which OP didn't say but that dumb joke and his actions does point to that direction) and what happens in puberty does effect you for a long time, rest of your life even. I also don't think OP's son hates women or indians but I'm curious about one thing. Everyone wants OP to punish his son for one dumb joke, it wasn't funny but rude, so what's the punishment?

[@becausemynameiscommon5609]

@@selimkarayl7823 " When she told the owner, "HE" got upset and asked the boys to leave." Unless, that was a mistake or the OP makes a habit to referring to females as he, It is safe to assume she wasn't assuming at all.

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

That's pretty odd to not wear the necklace to family functions because it's like not inviting his son. (And it's not like hes taking a giant urn with him everywhere he goes)

[@harrywalkey6298]

First story divorce her. Just don't even try and "fix things" with her. He's only been married for a short time and it sounds like he owns the house so if he divorces her she'll get nothing. Also as bad as this sounds I'm a little relieved because the reminds me of another story from reddit about a toxic MIL and a spineless husband. Where OP's husband had similar necklaces made at his mom's behest without even talking to OP about it, and gave them to all of his relatives, who never even bothered to visit when the kid was sick and dying (including the MIL).

[@msindestructible1]

I need to know what happened to the chicky nuggie guy

[@Tammohawk1]

Story One: NTA What is that woman's problem and issue? To be embarrassed by him wearing a necklace with his sons ashes? I know many people who do that. I would leave if it were me. No way would I tolerate someone overstepping my boundaries in such a way. I wear my husbands wedding band on a chain. I double dog dare anyone to say a word to me about it. But, I have no filter and my give a f' is completely gone these days. Second Story: NTA But that reminds me of a time my husband and I were going into Walmart one day. I called him a derogatory name for a gay man. OMG, I regretted it immediately. He took my purse, and pranced, yes pranced around the store the entire time we were there while lisping while he talked. When we checked out, the guy who was checking us out could barely contain his laughter. Thankfully, that was a one off. For both of us. Story Three: YTA Your son is a little punk OP and you just went and reinforced it. Thank goodness I raised my sons to know better than that. And that my husband was a better man that OP. Fourth Story: NTA I would be very upset. That would be so strange if I were the friend. I think OP's "buddy" was up to no good. I only let people I know stay with me also. I too felt like OP's friend was treating his place like an AirBnB.

[@renoloverxoxo]

Story one: I think she's just uncomfortable with his coping mechanism and people keep asking her about it. People don't like being confronted by death. Taking it was 100% not okay and it sounds like they need counseling.

[@skylar6301]

As someone who does age regression as a personal mental health thing (on my own; it's difficult to fully do alone but I don't have a partner and it's something I do to cope with certain issues I'm not going to get into right now) it's really baffling to me that someone would just kind of *go for it* in public, I mean, I hide my bottle and pacifier even in my own room because I never want to have to explain it to literally anyone aside from when I have a trusted partner, and even then, I will explain it 100% before I even think about doing anything around my partner. I know it's a trauma-based thing for me and I know it's not wrong, inappropriate, vile, or anything like that, I'm also aware of how society views it and I'm not going to force someone to take care of me when they don't know why I need to be taken care of. And I'm 22.

[@justine8387]

I am so glad you have some ways to cope and so much respect for others.

[@stellac3994]

Every morning when I wake up, there is a video from mark, every day when I get home from school, there is a video from mark. I always check when I wake up so I can get ready listening to your videos and when I get home tired I can grab a snack and do my homework whilst listening to your videos

[@marist6734]

The wife in the second story might as well put him in a time out and give him no ice cream or TV after supper if he wants to act like that.

[@hello93617]

The thing is, if she did that one night a month, he could love it and it could clear the problem up and he would return to normal the rest of the time.

[@livsweetdreams]

@@hello93617 I think he is into the fetish of being a "little" which in my kink shaming opinion I think is disgusting . . . not so much the people pretending to be the toddlers more so their partners sexualising their behaviour . . . gives me pedo vibes I dunno . . .

[@hello93617]

@@livsweetdreams I mean, it would be all acting, and the awareness that it is acting is important. Im sure most women who like being tied up during sex/ play like it's non-nonsensual don't actually want to be raped. Just like if you are sleeping with a "little" you don't actually want to have sex with a child.

[@maggiedean5691]

@@livsweetdreams So a good chunk of bdsm kinksers don't have sex during these scenes. Scenes don't have to have sex. Also if they do most aren't thinking of an actual child. It's still a dominate submissive thing. Like the other poster said you need to have awareness to be in that kink. I find it odd, but it's not my thing. I'm know some live for it though.

[@aduckwithayoutubechannel]

That wife is a disgusting, awful, terrible excuse for a spouse and human being. Losing a child is something no parent should have to experience. It’s a simple, therapeutic method of keeping his sons memory alive. What an absolute POS. The husband should divorce her as soon as possible. She IS childish and inconsiderate.

[@15oClock]

1. All of this over a necklace. Did this woman think OP was going to discard it when they married? 2. This went from meme language to devolving into baby talk, complete with the lisp. You know he's being childish when he went to his mother over it. 3. It was always going to come down to what was actually said, and it was bad. OP shouldn't be so quick to stop giving his son shit for this. 4. Few people want to host strangers at their home, no matter who they know. I wonder if Hanlon's razor applies to Brian.

[@darkshadow5581]

100% honesty, unless im missing something, I've had much worse said to me in customer service than someone assuming I was indian. Plz tell me i am actually missing something.

[@CreeperOnYourHouse]

By my book, for 3, that's just a really really bad pickup line. Depending on the delivery and the appearance of the guy, it might actually work.

[@darkshadow5581]

@@CreeperOnYourHouse i agree, it seems a bit creepy, but I've heard stupider pickup lines. Seems abit far from that to sexual harassment.

[@Lazy_scorpio]

@@darkshadow5581 He basically equated her to less than human and fetishized her ethnicity as an "exotic woman" according to the comments I read. What I, and the vast majority can also see, is that he was basically saying that he would like for her to perform sexual acts for/with him. This is what he meant when he said he wanted to have Indian and if she would help with that. He definitely wasn't talking about food anymore. This is, in fact, sexual harassment as it is defined by unwelcome physical or verbal advances of a sexual nature that creates a hostile environment.

[@darkshadow5581]

@@Lazy_scorpio TL:DR, i agree with the YTA, but personal assessment disagrees with the explanation of why YTA. i get the sexual nature of the comment, was unsure before, but the clarification helped. Thank you Onto the post, its difficult considering my previous belief of sexual harassment becoming harassment after the party acting is told to, in short, stop and the action is repeated. Similar to how if someone drove past you and yelled "F*ck you!" It would be rude, but not harassment. Despite this i do believe he failed to understand the rock/hard place he placed the girl into. She effectively had no way to de-escalate the situation due to her working and him being the client. As such my belief is, If OP isnt overstating what his wife would do, both parents are incorrect and on either extreme of the punishment, and a compromise would be best, hence OP not talking to his wife to decide and agree on a punishment caused more strife than there needed to be. Thankfully, regardless, if OP is correct the reaction has shamed OP's kid into not being likely to make further comments, and it does appear this is a first time occurrence based on the family's reaction and disagreement.

[@moakristenssom936]

For story 3: I feel like there might be a reason why all the women thinks it was bad and all the men thinks it’s just something trivial???(sarcasm)

[@richardgray2706]

I have heard the equivalent joke told to a male server in a restaurant by a female customer as a way of asking him out, and no-one was surprised and no-one seemed to take offence. Maybe time have changed and it would be considered offensive now a days. But I consider it is more likely to be hypocrisy and sexism against males (fine if a women does it but awful if a done by a man.)

[@lukaseldenrust2637]

@@richardgray2706 it’s not necessarily sexist but more sexual harassment since it’s not disparaging of a specific sex but it is unwarranted sexual advances

[@apopuffkin1717]

@@richardgray2706 Regardless of the sex, its just not cool to hit on people when they are working - especially when they work a job where they are obligated to be nice to you and can't just tell you to go F off.

[@richardgray2706]

@@apopuffkin1717 I sort of agree. But a lot of people do end of going on successful dates as well. I guess this would only work in the long run if the asking party is not pushy at all and the worker is in a position to express clear but unobtrusive interest. Not obvious to me how to make it work consistently, but I have seen it work....

[@laurenmentink7401]

I love it when you ramble. I pray for you and your dad. You show that you care and you Rock when you do. You are the reason that I subscribed and then joined with money.

[@carmenbarrera80]

I really have no sympathy for those Man and Woman who let their new partner disrespect, hurt, humiliate, mistreat their kids from a previous relationship. If you stay with someone who does any or all of that you deserve each other, Crappy people can stay together.

[@paden1865able]

Hey, love, I love doing the chores while listening to you. Much love to you and your dad!

[@Suilimani]

Ugh that first story so cringe I’d probably leave him at the store too. An ex started mansplaining to a woman how to do her job even though he’s never done it before. I had to walk away it was so embarrassing

[@flowerjpotter1629]

The necklace with the ashes... The new wife needs to go, especially if it bothers her, her friends and her family. This is a big reg flag about this woman one that can't be ignored. After the necklace it will be something else she's not happy with. Run OP !

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

The comments on story 2 about medical issues have taught me something new. It is a good day.

[@KittenUndercover]

Hey men - if every woman in your life is telling you that something is sexist..it’s sexist. Hope there’s an update to that story where both the husband and the son have learned their lessons.

[@selimkarayl7823]

I would take you seriously and certain things can be but after witnessing more often than not what women agree on like let's say infidelity, I respectfully disagree with you. If there is any lesson for OP and his son, OP is the only parent his son has and OP's son young sure but he should think twice before saying or doing something dumb. One bad joke doesn't make you sexist. You clearly don't know what that word means. That joke was certainly rude and not funny but that's it. It wasn't something that talking and apology couldn't fix. I think people should start thinking situation with role-reversal. If that was the case, either waiter wouldn't act out or even if he did the owner probably wouldn't kick them out.

[@KittenUndercover]

@@selimkarayl7823 you lost me at ‘I would take you seriously’ - credibility gone

[@selimkarayl7823]

@@KittenUndercover That just shows the limit of your decency or you're not able read. 50/50

[@miniaturepaws]

My partner lost his best friend (a very good friend to me too) in a tragic way and his brother gave my partner a necklace with his ashes in it. I cannot even FATHOM telling him he's not allowed to wear it or have it around. That's just some kind of sick power trip. I feel awfully for that man. My heart breaks for him. Absolutely leave her. Anyone without even an ounce of sympathy isn't worth a damn on this planet.

[@midnight_sniper_wolf8992]

In story 3 the only thing the OP did was show his son that whenever he gets into trouble he can just tell daddy what happened & daddy will take care of it & make it go away. He’s definitely the ass. There was also absolutely no mention of the waitress getting any sort of apology. That poor waitress deserves to be treated far better than she has been.

[@laurenmentink7401]

Hi Mark. To add to my previous comment. I have no problem with the music. I generally ignore it to listen to you reading the stories. You have a nice voice and a great heart. You seem to be always ready to learn about subjects that you don't understand. Kudos to you for doing that.

[@jadeily3662]

5:22 lmaoooo not a big flava flava clock!!!! 🤣🤣

[@mitchverr9330]

Story 1: To me it honestly feels like she is jelous. I would not be surprised if she was asking people overtly "its so weird isnt it?" to try and gaslight them into attacking OP over it because she cant bare to be 2nd to a dead child. It comes out 100% to me as this because OP says that nothing was commented about till AFTER they got married/got together. The 2nd comment is so right, wife now thinks she doesnt need to respect OPs feelings.

[@charleshelm79]

Story 1: NTA I'd throw her out of the house and divorce her asap. I wouldn't put up with that crap.

[@sophiaann8918]

Omg a giant Flava flav clock with ashes, thats kinda cool tbh

[@whatsername77alis]

The Flava Flav clock bit caught me off guard and I had a good chuckle, thanks Mark 😆

[@ahmedrabah3200]

I love this, so interactive

[@tiredol2851]

I never knew people considered keeping ashes of someone you loved in a necklace weird. My family does this all the time with family members and no one has ever said it was weird to us.

[@floridafrostbite8002]

Music wise, getting different tracts for different stories is a fantastic idea. It’ll help set the mood for the stories, like what they do in movies.

[@clairebear-96]

Perfect timing, I’m getting ready to leave for work in a bit! Love listening to these while i do my makeup and have breakfast 💛

[@melissarae4341]

I love this channel because you give your input on each story; it makes it so much more engaging and enjoyable! I also love the times you tell your own stories in relation to what your read. :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you Melissa 😁❤

[@tegantalks9612]

Story 3- YTA! As a mom I think it’s my right to know when my child has done something so bad that he’s been banned from a restaurant. The dude is teaching his son it’s okay to treat service staff poorly which is also not okay. I hope mom gives the son an actual punishment so he learns some respect and I hope she also gives her husband a good chewing out as well because it sounds like he needs it too.

[@piperh08]

Story 1 really hits hard with me. I just lost my dad and I asked to have his ashes put in a necklace for me to keep him as close to me as possible. My Fiancé 100% supports me and thought it was a great idea. I also have an Ex who had his cousins ashes in a necklace as well and wore it all the time and it never bothered me I thought it was an honorable way to remember him. What a shame to have such an unsupportive spouse and WTF is wrong with the other people like why is this such a big issue to them? Smh people man. Truly sad and breaks my heart.

[@Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs.]

Story 2 had me in stitches. Especially as here in the UK it's quite normal to use childish terms for genitalia your entire life.

[@MarkNarrations]

Too true you tally wacker 🤣🤣

[@Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs.]

@@MarkNarrations Shurrup, willyhead!! =P

[@thecraftycyborg9024]

I usually listen to you while either sewing masks or laying in one place trying to cope with pain. (My health issues aren’t so hot right now.) But you keep me very entertained during hours of ironing and sewing. :)

[@ohno8398]

Story two was wild I had such a vivid mental image of the grocery store incident

[@kristenhlady4079]

FLAVOUR FLAV LMAO 🤣

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

NTA at all on the first one! I know how hard it is to lose a family member to cancer; my mom died from it when I was a very small child and it affected my family greatly and still does in some aspects. She was buried and not cremated as per her wishes, but if I had a necklace with her ashes in it, I'd do the same. All the time I got to spend with my mom was simply when I was a newborn infant and then she got sick. Why does everyone think that ash necklaces are awkward and weird? It helps people grieve and keep their old family close. Edit: I also forgot to point out that I'm getting my mother's jewelry sometime in the near future. Once I get it, I certainly am going to wear at least one piece everywhere I go, probably just a necklace but I digress.

[@sketchbook8725]

Is it wrong that every time I hear waffle gang I I immediately thing there is a pancake gang out in the KZbin world and people will fight over who is the better breakfast food gang....

[@clairebear-96]

Makes me think of “do you like waffles, yeah we like waffles, do you like pancakes....” 🎶 🎶

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ChaoticNalilitoMC]

@@clairebear-96 omg I forgot all about that song until now

[@lrock48]

Bacon FTW!

[@red0421]

The Bacon Bunch. The Pancake Pals. The Crumpet Crew.

[@Pydite]

Story 3: Damn I was thinking the number was something like a cheesy pickup line asking for her number to elicit that kind of response from the dad. That joke was horrible lmao absolutely YTA and damn thanks OP for trying to downplay that joke.

[@hatterrose]

OP in story 1 needs to get a divorce. Wife is jealous of a dead kid, and that will never change.

[@Scottsshow]

Free hugs for those who need em. Love you all have a good day!

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Thank you 😊

[@kennarose783]

I've got my day off today so I'm just lazing around before grabbing sushi for lunch!

[@colinharrison7204]

I pictured a grandma with a giant gold clock hanging around her neck.

[@MarkNarrations]

🤣🤣🤣

[@MakiPcr]

Kinda love that everyone in story 2 thinks there's something medically wrong with the guy, even I thought there might be something medically wrong with him

[@katherinestahl7845]

. 1) If she did she would respect you and your son. When I was young my boyfriend died and I would wear his shirt alot and I would get a memory flash and react to the memory. (Usually laugh) My father told me to stop thinking about him he was dead. I was not allowed to say his name again. Say goodbye to the wife. I am sorry about your lose

[@jinxxm5520]

I've had two different necklaces of ashes. My first one my ex best friend snatched and refused to return to me after we had a fight over me asking for gas money. I cried for weeks over it. I do not take this one off for anything. OP needs to get out of that relationship. That's not just disrespectful, it's cruel and evil.

[@audrey9561]

Hi Mark, currently laid up in bed with a neck injury from work and watching your videos. The cat laying on my chest and I wish you well :)

[@rhylla_864]

That soft "fuucks sake" killed me

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1: OP is not the Ah, there something wrong with the wife, she doesn't care about OP feeling and about his gief, she too focus on other people opinion. OP diovce her, and it not weird to have a necklace of his son ashes. Story 2:OP is not the Ah, what is wrong with the husband? The husband is a man child, he call his mom to talk to OP. This funny and weird at the same time. OP don't apologize, it's weird. Story 3:OP is the Ah, the comment the son made was racist and misogyntic. Omg and OP basically let his son get off scotch free with no punshiment and teaching him that this ok. The wife and other mom are right, he should be ban for saying that. Story 4:OP is not the Ah, Brain most likely set this up and use OP's house as an Airbnb and ignoring OP text about him being uncomfortable for having two people he doesn't in his home. Brain is the Ah.

[@lizcatty9281]

Story 1- He needs 2 run... Now! 🤨