AITA Giving ENTIRE Inheritance To My Twin Bro, My Family Is NOT Happy!

[@PINKKYLIELOUISE]

So parents and other siblings are not heartbroken about the tumour just the inheritance I’d tell them two words second word is off

[@kathrynandkandi9165]

oh I would say muuuuuuuuuuuch more along those lines

[@firerosenight6937]

I'd say a lot more then just two

[@okwhy8720]

Leave them exactly 1 penny or see if you can specify in the will that you do not want ANY member of the family that isnt the brother to get anything. The 1 cent tho. That's just a 'fuck you' cent.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

This!!

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

@@okwhy8720 I heard of doing a dollar but a penny is even more wicked. Love it.

[@fcold9402]

1. So, dying person leaves everything to their twin and the rest of the family doesn't say "oh my god i am sorry you are dying is there anything i can do to help". No, they say "how dare you leave money to you twin". Of course a twin favors their twin. Do people not understand twins? What a carpy family i would nake sure they get nothing.

[@jinxgiz3104]

Story 1: NTA. Love how the parents are like "how dare you do to us what we've done to you for year"

[@rossbarone298]

story 2: nta. what’s he gonna do when the kid is born? constantly stress over them? become a helicopter parent? keep the kid in a bubble so the kid never ever gets hurt? the husband NEEDS therapy in order to be even a vaguely serviceable father.

[@raptorpeep2622]

this!

[@Bleg94]

not helicopter parent, he will become a lawn mower parent (atleast i think that was the step above)

[@raptorpeep2622]

@@Bleg94 lawn mower parent? ive never heard of that before, thats great!

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I think OP should file for divorce and get out while she still can.

[@olly2027]

@@MaryTheresa1986 I would say trail separatation.

[@catandrobbyflores]

I can't see any doctor ignoring a pregnant woman with high blood pressure who has already lost a baby saying her husband is making her uncomfortable could he not come in to the appointment.

[@dataweiss3756]

Story 2: This guy is enacting a self fulfilling prophecy. He is so afraid that he will lose another child that he is stressing out so badly that they very well might lose another child and if she's high risk because of blood pressure, he might lose his wife too.

[@smokingsoilder]

Cancer sucks! Homie your money is yours to give as you wish. Your brother seems like a proper recipient for it! Also, currently introducing my wife to Avatar the Last Airbender while I listened.

[@samminicksm]

YEEES ONE OF US!!!!

[@catandrobbyflores]

If she likes it I would pay to see her reaction to the cactus juice episode. 😄

[@mlapointej]

Easiest way to make sure will can't be contested give it while you're still alive if you already know you're dying. They can't contested it was never left behind

[@LinneAzalea]

I’m jealous of your wife. Imagine not knowing about avatar the last air bender and watching it all new and discovering this treasure for the first time? Me and my hubby rewatch it like once a year at least, but even though I love it so much, the excitement of not knowing what’s going to happen is of course gone when I can almost recite the dialogue word by word 😅

[@smokingsoilder]

No need to be jealous! I have reached a point in my life (34) where I don't remember every episode. Case in point Kyoshi Island and Suki were in book 1 and I forgot until watching it again. We finished book 1 and will start book 2 in a couple weeks when I get time off again. My 7 year old visits on my weekend off too and even though he watch them with me as a baby now he is able to remember the show.

[@rakky9694]

3rd story: NTA, misogyny goes both ways. My dad works at a quite demanding job. He tried to ask for his (by contract, entitled to) 2 weeks vacation sooner than he normally did because my mom was sick and is high risk, also the c virus. He was told he couldn't because some female coworkers had already asked for it and they had more rights to it because, even if they worked less (2 hours less per shift and no extra hours) they are mothers and women, and they have to be with their families.

[@GothKatt]

What a lot of people missed on Story 3 is that the mother was flat-out being ungrateful. It's not as if she brought up allergies or other sensitivities. She wasn't even giving constructive criticism. She was just straight-up insulting him for putting in work because it was "woman's" work. OP was putting in work; and his mom insulted him for it in return.

[@ciomaria6137]

Lol, ironically enough, while listening, I was cooking dinner (lots of sautéed onions, lol)

[@martinprochazka3714]

I hope those spicy onions didn't melt right through your pan.

[@zelbel5043]

@@martinprochazka3714 😂🤣🤣

[@Hanzo1]

Anyone who genuinely believes that men should never cook has lived a very privileged life

[@ciomaria6137]

@@Hanzo1 Agreed. Also, anyone who believes onions are too spicy would not survive in my house.

[@ciomaria6137]

@@martinprochazka3714 LOL, I’d better watch out for that! 🤣🤣🤣

[@baskethil2]

Story where husband is freaking out about baby . She needs to talk to Dr and have him tell your hubs to stop and get therapy

[@brothersgt.grauwolff6716]

I'm worried what he might do if the developing infant survives OP should get a restraining order until he gets therapy or he's never going to be allowed around the child ever

[@BMakabre]

It is understandable about the pain the husband is still suffering over their last loss - BUT, this is too far. He is pushing OP into very high stress (which is not healthy) - he NEEDS THERAPY - and OP will need to go to stay with family if her husband keeps this up (just to keep her own sanity and health until the baby is born). Plus if he refuses to get help, what sort of father will he be? Take the baby to look at urns? Or will he just ignore the baby because 'what's the point parenting a baby that is likely going to die?'

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

@@brothersgt.grauwolff6716 ???? He doesn't want the baby hurt, he's just deadly afraid of losing it again.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 3: NTA. That's misogynistic and misandristic at the same time.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

But that was super hilarious malicious compliance! 😂😂😂 LOL!!!

[@HyLo-rule]

LIZZIE HEARTS

[@wrestlingfan3117]

@@BersealiaDreamheart true. He did what she said and she thinks she’s right.

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

You mean...sexist?

[@Tokuijin]

That Op's mom is the quintessential definition of "sexist".

[@shannalese]

I'm sorry....but did this man call onions....onions and garlic spicy?????? Story 4 btw

[@Flakey101]

People are different. My mouth burns and I break out in sweats eating just Southern fried chicken fillets, and have for years. I cannot handle even basic spices.

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

*RIGHT?!?*

[@duskjohnson8195]

I LOVE your profile pic. Is that your art?

[@beastly7106]

Take it from me, never eat a ghost pepper.

[@samuelwolch1302]

@@duskjohnson8195 it’s a character from the Magnus Chase series I believe.

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

The pessimistic husband MUST get therapy; otherwise, this will never end. He'll be overprotective of the baby and will drive you and the kid bonkers.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Yep.

[@sarahe.wright9442]

Re: Dying twin leaving all to twin brother. Get an attorney for sure, but if you're worried about him being vulnerable to other relatives trying to guilt him into giving them money, put most in a trust and find someone reliable as trustee to administer and protect your brother's interests. Also, possibly leave these relatives small symbolic amounts or state in the will that they are being left out on purpose and why.

[@zifengpi4776]

The second one with the baby-- nta. People who constantly stress out a pregnant woman can be harmful and deadly. My niece was born premature because sil mother is.... Well, a karen and also a blonde and weird. She complemented the shape of my lips the first time I ever met her lmao. And she kept forcing herself into sil pregnancy despite her protests

[@jdd9993]

Story 2: The woman who lost her first child should avoid telling her toxic husband when her doctor's appointments are, perhaps go when he is at work.

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

Second story: She needs to get the doctor(s) and any nurse practitioners, involved in her care. They will support this request for therapy and back up the fact she is being stressed by him, which is a danger to her and the baby.

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

S1: NTA, regardless of circumstances you're the one who chooses where your money and property goes when you die. It is not selfish.

[@mirandanils5114]

that’s how you know they have no love and respect for op

[@thedarkestkinghtstar]

Not in this case whatsoever but I slightly disagree with that statement. I disagree if it's biased "conditional" based. Example: Children can get inheritance so long as they marry a x religion person, aren't homosexual, etc. However, that's not the case here by any means though

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

@@thedarkestkinghtstar yeah true,it's still their money and their choice, but under those conditions they're definitely the asshole

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

@Kageyama’s Milk being homophobic

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

@@mirandanils5114 because they are attacking a dying women for her money?

[@lessimeharuhi4236]

If they didnt support you when you had nothing, they dont deserve to share in your success

[@gaylenewood7707]

You've been watching dhar's.videos?

[@raptorpeep2622]

@@gaylenewood7707 DHAR MAAAAAAAANNNNNN

[@gaylenewood7707]

@@raptorpeep2622 Yep I love watching his videos their great.

[@raptorpeep2622]

@@gaylenewood7707 i dont really watch the man himself dhar mans videos but i love the one where cody did an acting

[@teacheschem]

Story 1- start paying off your brother’s stuff now, before you pass so that their is less to contest!

[@Night_Owl2023]

Story two, here in the uk, pregnant women are so restricted it is beyond cruel, it is bloody despicable, no one is allowed in the labour and delivery unit, it is a real disgrace, these poor women, are being so badly let down, no support what so ever, it is bloody outrage, so OP I feel for you.

[@Nyanx4]

Last story: See, the problem with this- and I suspected this when he brought up "spicy onions"- is not that he can't handle spice. He can't handle *flavor.* And believe me, bud. It is very easy to make meals without flavor. He is more than capable of making some of those for himself. Edit: It turns out the story is fake. I checked the site for additional comments, and it was posted by a south asian girl trying to spread awareness for the way some people treat their spouses. On the one hand, it's an honorable cause; on the other hand, I feel a bit silly for getting duped. ^^; Though I suppose I can turn this into a PSA? Don't be afraid of a little flavor in your food guys. Sometimes an intense smell can put you off, but give it a shot. Even if you need to dab it down with rice, bread, etc. You might find something you like!

[@addisonmadison5989]

Thank you for that clarification. Not surprised it's fake, although I honestly have real European friends who think putting both onions and an herb, such as parsley, in a dish is "too spicy." I'm Caribbean and that's barely starting. The whole thing about eyes watering from the onion seemed farfetched and if my German friend didn't tell me about her aversion I wouldn't have believed the story.

[@sarahshock6805]

Reminder: hot spice HURTS unless you're used to it. Not all spices are hot, but those that are can be painful. So no, disliking spicy onions does NOT equate disliking flavor. I agree the guy should learn to cook though.

[@sarahshock6805]

I looked up spicy onions and recipes for them include chili powder, which has hot spices. Dammit, we need a separate word for hot spice so people don't think I mean things like parsley or cinnamon when I say I don't like spicy food. I like those spices.

[@Nyanx4]

@@sarahshock6805 That's why spicy dishes are typically served alongside bread and rice, or milk. My point is not that you should dive headfirst into _HOT CHILLI EXTREEMEE RAW CHALLENGE_ dishes, but to not be afraid to try something different if it's offered.

[@Nyanx4]

@@sarahshock6805 But cinnamon _is_ spicy. It's just also sweet and often used in dishes where there's either fat or sugar to cut its taste down. Not to mention it's used in moderation. I feel like a lot of people have this perception of spicy food that it's supposed to make your eyes water, your fists clench, and summons uncles to be cried for and a bucket to retch it back into. And I don't think that's at all warranted- and so people avoid any kind of spice or pungent flavor like the plague. I totally get when it's a medical issue, like for people with IBS- but that's like decrying all meals that use honey because some people are allergic to it, you know?

[@sethjr9815]

The spicy food story reminds of a good friend, he is a full English/Aussie (even pepper is too spicy is for him), nearly 20 years ago he went on a 2 weeks travel trip across Turkey, he ate nothing but hard biscuits and oj, lost about 10kg when he returned. He only eat fish if it is fish finger, don’t think he have ever seen a whole fish in his whole life🤣

[@Homewarfare]

She's a surgeon OP can just frickin cook.....

[@brothersgt.grauwolff6716]

It's fake

[@Homewarfare]

@@brothersgt.grauwolff6716 The story? if so we all got duped

[@delilahbelle2125]

1st Story: NTA. I have M/F twins. They're still young (4 years old), but are very close and I hope that they stay close throughout their lives. I know there are reddit stories where one twin is cruel to the other, but as I witness my children's bond, it surpasses words. They worry for each other, look out for each other, care for each other. It's truly touching. I can only imagine how it would devastate them to lose each other. OP's $$ won't comfort her brother in his loss, but it will help him move forward in life, something OP's parents & sisters never helped them with. I hope OP was able to lock everything down to protect her assets for her brother.

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

I think you can actually prevent the will from being contested simply by stating that you didn't forget but chose not to leave them anything for X reason.

[@15oClock]

1. Favoritism, yes, like what the parents did with the younger girls for years. These people want OP's money, not her love. 2. Most couples, even with a history of infertility, don't look into urns during pregnancy. In fact, I've never heard of anyone doing this; this husband is absolutely in need of therapy! 3. Cooking isn't woman's work; it's an essential life skill! Can we talk about how internalized misandry sucks about as much as internalized misogyny? 4. Lunumiris on kiribath isn't as spicy as OP's making them out to be; it's basically a Sri Lankan equivalent of chili on rice. If OP expects his wife to cook that, two more dishes and be a surgeon on top of that, he needs to take a look in the mirror and see if he's the abusive one.

[@rorimorganwilliams7294]

Okay, I’m a female and I have taken cooking classes. That doesn’t change the fact that almost everything I make could be considered a biological weapon except for my baked goods those are awesome. I once made Baked Alaska complete from scratch, including 3 different kinds of ice cream. Some people should not cook main courses and I am one of them, the OP married to the surgeon may also be like me.

[@whittersricchy4825]

I'm either washing dishes, doing laundry, cooking, or just general cleaning when listening to you. Its nice because if i get all depresso, i can throw on a video and its a bit easier to get myself to do things. Like "ah, todays video is 20 minutes, so when its done, I'll be done"

[@nads3024]

Wow. You can really tell how much OP and her twin mean to their parents. Their daughter does not have long to live and their priority is not trying to comfort her, but to have a go at her because she’s choosing to support the family member she was closest to.

[@Tyanna01]

Last Story: Commenters made great points but something was missed IMHO. The twins were imitating their father's reaction. Being young boys they are looking up to their father on how to react. Daddy didn't like it and thought it was too spicy and LEFT THE FUCKING HOUSE to escape it. Obviously the boys would think it's too spicy with that sort of reaction from the other parent. OP is the AH b/c he has taught the boys this behaviour by refusing to eat his wife's cooking. The appropriate response would be to give them a glass of milk and some yogurt as a side and encourage them to keep eating. The reason they didn't like the dish wasn't b/c it was spicy. They didn't like it b/c of OP being a drama queen.

[@blueblur1984]

American father here. I had to stay in the waiting room for my wife's pre natal appointments until she was asked safety questions and I got the green light. If she wanted at any point I would have been escorted out by an officer (at gun point if necessary) and she would have been hooked up with emergency services. We're a happy family so it was never an issue, but I think the dad in story two is in for a rude awakening.

[@karencarpenter5845]

Story 1, this is your twin, he will have the most problem with your passing and it is your money. Do as you will. Enjoy the time you have left. Peace 💙😎💙

[@dawncooper5308]

Go figure. Parents dont want anything to do with you or your twin till you're dying then expect you to leave them all your money. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Leave your twin everything with the knowledge that he was the one who cared and loved you. ❤

[@greenteawithhoneyandcream7173]

I saw this somewhere but the guy gave the people he didn't like 2 cents basically giving his 2 cents and also so that they cant contest the will it was hilarious.

[@thedestroyasystem]

That's what I was gonna say, give them something so they can't contest.

[@MalachioftheForest]

Pretty sure the mother was being misandristic in this case. She was adamant that a MAN couldn't do housework properly.

[@hithere911]

She was being both. Assigning essential life skills to a specific gender is sexist in general.

[@MrJpaynebb]

It's the malicious compliance that makes it so sweet. Careful about those gender specific roles parents it make come back to bite you later. Think she learned any new lessons? Probably not but it's good to expose her to the rest of the family.

[@smileytuna]

Listening on the bus on the way home from work, i work in a metropolitan hospital, in the US today a doctor told us that at the rate we're going with COVID we will run out of respirators in 2 weeks. I am STRESSED. Personally saw 5 positive covid cases yesterday listening to your narrations helps take my mind off the shit show of my life.

[@virtualatheist]

As children we were ALL taught to cook (amongst other things) by my Mum. As she said it, "Every adult should be able to cook themselves a meal, sew a button on, repair tiny rips in clothing, change a fuse in a plug, etc."

[@justine8387]

I was driving to work. I have realised that I really love your content and the reason why is that it is part of my recovery. I am in therapy for childhood trauma and I am currently relearning how to interact with others, build relationships, caring and kindness. You are a very important part of that. Your efforts to improve yourself, your loving out look etc. It is a very important thing in my life. I have no money for sub or patreon but I hope that me sharing this with you is enough. You will be part of a journey that means my son's are not exposed to the same cycle I was. So yeah... Overshare but thank you

[@ray30k]

Final story: YTA big time, but also: if you have this strong a reaction to onions, you might want to check if you're allergic to them.Onions aren't spicy, and if you can't stay in a room with cut onions, that's highly unusual.

[@ruthgriffiths7365]

Hi Ray, onion allergy is quite common. Unfortunately a true allergy also means avoiding all allium including garlic, chives, shallots and mugwort. Several types of lily and iris should also be avoided - in vases, not eaten! My cousin is severely allergic to all forms of allium and also celery. The celery problem is especially bad in parts of Germany and France.

[@TsukiKageTora]

The story was written by a girl apparently so it’s 100% fake.

[@fabiancarrascalsalazar5793]

TBH. ESH. The man is wrong for not offering to help nor doing it himself, and she's wrong for yelling them to deal with it (mainly to the kids who are not used to Spicy food) and for making it abour race. Whenever a discussion is Intertwined with race / sex without a reasonable link... you are just an asshole. (In this case, the kids just didn't want to eat something spicy. He was an ass for the expectation but unless he's forbidden her to cook those dishes for them, her saying he's gatekeeping her culture on the kids (not the daughter but the others) is bullshit. (and yes i know it's fake but i just want to call out the hypocrisy of everyone in reddit. Disgusting)

[@AllenTax]

Was thinking allergy to. Glad I don't have a allergy that could kill me,but I can't eat majority of sea foods. I get sick like I have the flu. My body often makes me throw up. Strangely I only like tuna and body fine to it. I can eat little to salmon and baby shrimp, ( from cup of soup ) but can't to bigger sized ones. Otherwise I start to get sick. Can get very annoying.

[@0MarkHunter]

I would say an ESH fore the Husband that was expplained by others already the Wife: 1.) There is a reason why Ghost Papers have a warning label as a Doctor the Wife should know that Spicy Foods can cause serius Proplems 2.) Serving food which you know does not fit your children is abuse 3.) If you want your kids to enjoy the Food like your self you take baby steps toward your level ( It is easy to climbe a Wall if you have a ladder but try it without one) IF i missunderstood the term Spicy food i would have to rethink. (I am not a native english speaker)

[@susanlayton2143]

In story 1, the woman can leave HER money and property to whoever she chooses and she is choosing the twin that she has been close to for all of her life. While I'm sure he appreciates what she is leaving he would much rather that his twin sister was healthy and would still be here for years to come. If he is like a lot of twins when his sister is no longer here, he will feel as though part of him is gone. Shame on the parents and sisters for being (so it seems) more concerned about the money she will be leaving behind.

[@jessicawolfe5861]

Story 2: omg the dude cannot be in the room during delivery. He needs help.

[@johnniekilgore3499]

If the surgeon's husband and son can't eat her food because it is too spicy, why can't she oak her food and make it less Spicey for them and then add the rest of the spice and onions to the rest of the food. If she would make theirs first and put it in a separate dish for them it could work and make everyone happy.

[@afatcatfromsweden]

The husband from story 2 shows signs of ptsd...

[@LadyCheshire95]

Story 4 ESH Most of the time parents make these dishes and add less spice for their children. Their is no reason for her to make the meal that spicy and she could build their tolerance to the spice over time. Making it very hot and then calling your children babies about it is just awful and all she has done is made sure her children never try food from her culture again. Alienating them in the process. YTA because your wife should not have to cook 2 completely separate meals to appease your preferences.

[@annahenry8032]

You do know that asian food is naturally spicy right? It's their culture to eat spicy food. Plus it's not the first time she has made the food. The twins said that they want the food. They convinced the mother to make the spicy food. They know the food is spicy.l because their mother always makes it. Even if they don't eat it they have had it before that is why they don't eat it. So they know how spicy it is. Why you going to ask me to make you spicy food that you know it is spicy and then when you eat it and see that it is spicy, you tell me make something else? That's hella rude and you wasted the mothers time and energy. I swear if they were living in a black or latino house hold the mother would say the same thing. They lucky they didn't get an ass whooping for being so disrespectful.😤😤

[@jackiewepps4694]

Story 4: As a person who don't like spicy food either, I get where OP is coming from. The rest of my family like spicy food though, so whenever we make some, they usually make it a bit milder than they would like and I put things in to make it even milder, if its' too spicy for me. Other times, they add the spices to their own portions. OP is the A for calling his wife abusive, but instead of cooking two to three seperate meals each evening, they should maybe try thinking on how to make the food something everyone can eat, But if OP can't eat onions or salt or pepper, he needs to work on something, besides cooking more.

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

You're getting at least one new member every day. I'm so proud of how you've rebuilt after the rebrand. :') I know how a hiatus for any reason can really burn through your subs, even more so your patrons. While I'm listening to the video, I'm tearing apart my entire house and even going through the bin to try and find the $300 proximity car key that's disappeared into thin air. No luck the past 2 days but I don't have $300 to pay as an idiot tax. So imma keep looking and listening to your AITA Playlist. S1 NTA. It's OP's money, she can do what she wants with it. I can't fathom having the brass balls big enough to treat someone like garbage and then demand all their earthly possessions from them on their death bed. My late grandmother said she wanted me to have her jewelry (all real gems and metals) and her gorgeous, heirloom jewelry chest. It's mine. But I would NEVER ask for it before my grandpa who I'm very close with was ready to let it go (he's not yet, and that's ok). S2 NAH. He DOES need therapy, but OP also needs protect herself and her baby. He's terrified to hope because if he expects loss, the shock won't hurt as much. His own panic at the prospect of another loss makes it physically impossible for him to calm down without some really REALLY hard therapy. I'm so sorry for both of them. S3 NTA. I also grew up in an ultra religious household that pushed traditional gender roles. Once I hit puberty, I no longer fit in the traditional female role in ANY way. All of my traditionally masculine interests were sneered at. Congrats on the functional table and the r/maliciouscompliance! She's definitely a misogynist. S4 YTA. They "convinced her" to let them try it, which means they wanted to try it!! She didn't force them! She's totally right (except the racist comment). If you can't handle the food she makes, make your own damn food. If you can't handle onions, ONIONS, you have an extremely limited pallet. OP is a picky eater and demanding his wife, who works her ass off in an extremely high stress job with one of the highest suicide rates in the country explicitly due to that stress, come home, cook multiple dishes for one single family sit down, and then rage at her when the sons don't like the food they demanded to try. I'd wager he also makes her do all the dishes she had to use to make that many hot meals. A very fair rule in my house was always "you cook, you don't clean." Gets the kids cooking and makes it so one single person isn't stuck with 2 hours cooking and at least another hour cleaning. Gtf off reddit, fall at wifey's feet and BEG for forgiveness, and take over meals for the three of you picky brats entirely. Forever. ETA about the cooking gender roles: Women belong in the kitchen. Men belong in the kitchen. Everyone belongs in the kitchen. Kitchen has food.

[@talonsage954]

Um. It wasn't the onions alone that he considered spicy; they were MARINATED in various spices. I'm not saying he's not an asshole, but why doesn't the wife...if she is going to cook, make the traditional dishes milder? It's not that hard. Spice can always be added.

[@roxysmith7562]

I agree with this, but if we’re talking about marinade you can’t just add spice later, you might as well skip the marinade part. The shortest time I’ve marinade something would be 1 hour while the longest is 36 hours.

[@talonsage954]

@@roxysmith7562 Marinade's can be adjusted so you can have flavor and minimum spice. I'll also say, there's no way she should have EVER been cooking three separate meals a day. IF she is insisting on cooking, some compromise in the beginning would have rendered this issue completely moot.

[@kathybeckford3592]

Don't know why OP doesn't cook or why the wife won't modify the food so everyone can eat it but it seems like there's more than just a food problem. OP mentioned the parents talking to the wife about OP accepting their culture but what about her (and them) accepting his? My dad was from a different country. My mom learned how to cook some of his culture's food. We didn't strictly have his food but a variety of both cultures...and they both cooked.

[@LadyCheshire95]

Most Asian parents tone down the spice and build up a child's tolerance as they get older. The mother has just ensured her kids never eat her cultures food again. The dad should have cooked their European style meals so she's not cooking multiple dishes.

[@talonsage954]

@drosera You may notice my very LIBERAL USE OF THE WORD "IF". Do you have compression issues???

[@adamryan977]

For the last story NTA. It's not like they are picky eater and won't eat her food because they don't like it. They CAN'T eat it because its too hot. And she knows this. So instead of cooking one meal everybody can eat she CHOOSE to make an extra meal for herself and her daughter. It's like cooking everything with peanuts for someone who is allergic to them and than complaining that you always have to cook an extra meal for them. And than she is blowing up because it's too much work. She can even cook one meal and add spices to her dish afterwards so she can eat hot . There are many hot sauces you can add to make your meal spicy afterwards. Should he cook if she had a long day at work, sure, but making everything too spicy for the family to eat has nothing to do with culture.

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

Thank you! My faith in humanity is starting to be restored.

[@afatcatfromsweden]

Story 4 is an ESH. Both of the parents seem to have some issues. However there is a lack of information so i can’t say to what level.

[@somenerd7927]

I always appreciate how respectful of everyone's opinions and how open you are to new information. You're very positive and I'm appreciative you're making the videos.

[@globalwarming5243]

I liked the malicious compliance in the third story. It always spices up life

[@Russman67]

Story 4: Wife's a surgeon and cooking three dinners. After work. The twins like mom's dinner and it's too spicy. OP only does food when she's NOT there. He's treating her like a cook. She's probably getting ready to replace the whole husband and start over. Definitely the asshole.

[@thecraftycyborg9024]

My baby bro was multiply disabled, so my mom was a stay home mother. His care would have been crippling expensive otherwise. But this meant mom cooked all the meals. She NEVER cooked a second meal, if we hated what was made, we went to bed hungry. I think I was allowed to make myself a pbj maybe twice in 15 years as a meal replacement. She also made me pack my own lunches every single day, starting right after my 6th birthday. I came home from the first day of first grade and told her what was wrong with my lunch. The next morning she taught me to make pbj and pack a lunch and that was that. I could add things to the grocery list (within reason!) but I had to pack them or go hungry.

[@eileenmoran235]

Kiri bath is coconut rice (not spicy) and luna miris is spicy form the added red chili flakes. This can be made mild and the chili flakes added afterward (for those who like spicy). So, the wife is TA for not making it milder and adding her own spice as she prefers to her own plate. Wow!

[@anitaallahdin867]

The husband in story 4 would have starved to death in my family because you either ate what was on your plate or you'd go to bed hungry.

[@monicarodrigues985]

Spicy food story: NTA Because there's no need to cook 2 different meals. My half of the family are used to spicy food but my H and kids can't stand it, so some of our friends, I just cook the same meal and after it's done (or almost done) I put aside their share and add the amount of spice I like. That's not difficult.

[@raeishimura]

First story absolutely NTA. They never treated OP and her brother fairly, and now they reap what they sow. They never did anything to deserve that money or your effort. As for the leave a dollar thing, from what I understand that doesn't actually help make a will uncontestable. It can actually hurt that case by showing that the deceased acknowledged them as important enough in their life to remember them and leave them something in their will. If there is no mention of them, it can be argued that the person was so distanced from the deceased that they didn't even consider them when making the will. You are better off not doing the $1 thing because it's an open door for the vultures to swarm in

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

Story 3: the moms definitely pretty sexist on both ends, I wonder what her parents were like and why she thinks this way.

[@MsTemptation]

Story 4: YTA. It sounds like her family was right on the nose about you and she's finally starting to see you as you really are. Plus when the hell has anyone ever referred to an onion as spicy? Dude you have quite the delicate constitution.

[@jakealter5504]

It wasn’t the onions alone

[@EleanoraDzen]

@@jakealter5504 I knew a girl who considers onions with black beeper “super spicy” I know she used red pepper and all, but honestly, they could have built the kid’s tolerance over time. He is babying the kids.

[@teresarayburn4501]

nta. get lawyer , or solistitor to protect your wishes with the money that you want to go to the brother. the parents and other siblings may try to take it, but it will be protected from any protests that they have . and as for cancer? please spend as much time as you can with your brother. out of everyone in that family, he sounds like an angel.

[@beckyhartley9502]

So with the cooking one, why was it skipped that he does cook and the wife's and wife's families blatant racism?

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1:OP is not the Ah, the parents favorite the sister and spoil them, making them entitled brat. The brother deserve it, it's clear that OP have a closer relationship with his twin compare to everyone else. Also, the family memeber that OP hardly see should mind their business and keep their mouth shut. Story 2: OP is not the Ah, the husband is making things worst for OP and the baby. He cause stress to OP. He need therpy, he haven't come to term of the death. OP should go to the appoiment with someone else. Story 3:OP is not the Ah, the mother is the ah and misogynatic and got what she wanted. A good malicious compliance OP. Story 4:OP is the Ah, OP owe his wife a big appologize, he should be the one that's cooking not her. Also, why she cooking? She a surgoen and OP is an ah for calling abusive when she wasn't.

[@hilaryc3203]

If I were in OPs place, I would sign over everything to my twin whilst still alive. No probate, no legal fees. She's dying ffs, and they don't seem to give a shit about that. Vile, heartless people; they deserve a penny each, which might fulfill some laws in her area about family benefiting from death.

[@Hanzo1]

No one is entitled to money by sheer virtue of being blood related.

[@JJ-my9lf]

I usually have to listen AND read at the same time as I can’t focus on or understand other peoples voices when reading out a block of text. But I really like Marks voice and can put my phone down and still be able to listen, understand and enjoy. Thank you Mark 🥺

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Oh story 1 ☹️. This video is a year old, so OPs 6 months may have passed. 💔 so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for their situation with their family, what horrible people.

[@beingWantable]

Listening to these posts Im usually getting dressed in the morning or going to bed. Sometimes I'm cooking :) 4th story: handling spice is something you build up especually during your childhood. Some people really are terrible with it and it can also be inherted or maybe a body malfunction. But most people just need to start small and see the sensation as nice instead of being told it hurts. It is also a "threshold" that can go down if you dont eat spicy food often. But because of my familly I've been thaught the feeling in your mouth is a challenge, fun, warm, good for the body to sweat it out, fighting your demons/being strong lol So start small and build it up. Also onions smell spicy but should be while eating when it's not raw -_-

[@darcyvarattre2721]

Is it possible to hate someone even though you never met them? Yeah, I absolutely hate the whole family in the first story. SHE IS DYING AND THEY ARE MAD AT HER FOR LEAVING HER THINGS TO HER BROTHER!

[@AuntieCreed]

Story 1 - NTA. It's OP's money, she can leave to whoever she pleases. The family sound like entitled ghouls. Story 2 - NTA. Hubby NEEDS therapy for the loss. Stress is very unhealthy for the baby. OP is right to ask him not to come. Story 3 - NTA. Malicious compliance ahoy! It's great that OP is open to "non-masculine" tasks. Story 4 - YTA. If OP's daughter can handle the food just fine, then why can't the boys? Sounds like OP is a picky eater and the twin boys are learning from him. OP could cook bland stuff himself.

[@hiro4344]

Every time I hear "My spouse cooks two(or more) separate meals for everyone" it's guaranteed YTA

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

S4: the dish actually sounds pretty damn good.

[@vanni5993]

exactly. when did onions become "spicy"

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

@@vanni5993 when people didnt grow up on spicy foods

[@BiologicalClock]

@@brigzbeebroadcasting2870 More like when you grow up without flavorful food. Onions have zero spice, they just have a strong flavor.

[@bunnyslippers191]

I opened two more tabs and googled both dishes. It's a combo dish of rice made with coconut milk instead of water and a sauce that has onions, garlic, lime juice, fish, and crushed red pepper. So what's stopping the husband and the boys from putting just a little bit of the sauce on a lot of the rice cooked with coconut milk? Its served separately, so everyone can put as much of the spicy stuff on their rice as they choose. Just a little bit for the boys and Dad and daughter and Mom can ladle that stuff on. My own family did that with beans and cornbread. Some like more cornbread than beans and others liked more beans than cornbread, some wanted vinegar added to their beans and some didn't. There were a lot of variations.

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

@@BiologicalClock true

[@storyjumper]

That last story, let's review: Wife does cooking 3 meals (holy shit that's a ton of work) Sons ASKED for the food Wife didn't at any point shove the food down their throats simply refused to make more Hubby didn't get off his lazy ass to fix this himself At bedtime hubby accused his wife of 'abuse' No she did not abuse her kids. F him for that. The one thing he might have had in his corner was her making the parents were right comment. However instantaneous loss of high ground when he whined to mommy and daddy. Lastly, really... really? Onions are NOT a spices, read a book, look up a video, and learn to cook.

[@Tammohawk1]

Guess what's for dinner at my house tonight? You guessed it, waffles. You're invited Mark. lol

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 OP made her money herself without parental support. It's her money and she can leave her money to whoever she wants to. OP is NTA she and her brother had to make their own way without parental support. Make sure the will cannot be contested and leave a message saying exactly why she is excluding them from the will. Story 2 the husband does need therapy. If he wants to be realistic then he can be realistic by himself and stop stressing OP out. I always attended appointments by myself, my husband never expected to come with me.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

In Story 4 I couldn't help but laugh when OP specifically mentioned the onions as adding spice. We have a joke in my country about Ashkenazis (European Jews) burning their mouths if there's too much pepper (as in peppercorn, not spicy peppers) and the onion comment made me think of that. My boyfriend and his family tease me because I'm Ashkenazi and they're Moroccan so my spice tolerance is lower than theirs. My brother also married a Korean woman and he gets the same jokes directed at him. I totally understand the wife. When the boys complained about how spicy the food was why didn't OP offer to cook them something else? Why did they turn to her??

[@Andrea.S.Alvey12]

1st story: Op could look into transferring monies to her twin while still able to do so; she could go ahead and pay off his student loans now, so that money isn't subjected to probate and inheritance laws. Add his name to her accounts, giving him co-ownership. Definitely speak with a probate lawyer as soon as possible. Totally NTA. Last story: I'm going against the flow here. Op's with may cook as a distress reliever. If she enjoys cooking, which it sounds like she does, it may be her choice-we really don't know. With the 7 yr old boys wanting to try the meal, and her attitude about her culture, and her daughter being 12 (her palate may have developed well enough to truly enjoy spicy foods), but I'm wondering if she might have made the food spicier than normal. And while onions aren't a spice, they are used to enhance flavour, it sounded to me li k e there was a lot of raw onion in it. I love onion, but I can't eat raw onion anymore. I was never able to cope with lots of raw onion. And 7 is really young. If the boys turned to her for something else, rather than snapping at them, she could have said she was really exhausted and suggest they have dad feed them. I think both Op and his spouse have a lot more going on than we know about, so my vote is both adults suck here. They need to speak to a therapist/counselor to work out their differences and better define what they each need from their marriage. The story of the high risk pregnancy, I think she needs to talk with her OB about what her husband is saying/doing, explain the stress it's causing and ask for back up. Doctor should have the right to refuse the husband's attendance based on negative effect on Op's pregnancy. Op is NTA.

[@bgcorporation]

Story 1: To help the family from not contesting the will give every other family member $1. That way in a court of law they'll see that they got something. Edit: Hah, someone else suggested it. Sweet.

[@lunanight2151]

If it where me I would instead leave them each a letter that reads "Dear family member, F*ck you, you get sh*t, sincerely the late Op" that way they still get something in the will that they can't contest. but everything of value still goes to the brother and all the money still goes to the brother.

[@lunanight2151]

@vergorance Not sure if a hospital will let op get away with that one, if i was doing it personally I wouldn't be able to stomach the smell while jarring the said sh*t. Its not bad idea however.

[@lunanight2151]

@vergorance Your pure evil. I like You. XD

[@Tieflingtails2045]

My husband's family is one of those "onions are spicey, pickles are vomit, and pepper is gross" types... So I definitely get the making three different meals thing goes. But thankfully after a while my husband at least has come around to pretty much everything I make, even things with pickles and olives in them. He still doesn't like either of those that much but he doesn't act dramatic about it anymore. Lol. I even got him to try a dill pickle crisp the other day. But yeah, once you put your foot down and stop acting as a short order cook, well your family will adapt. (However in the case of food intolerances and texture issues disregard me please. Lol) Right now I'm currently heating up a cup of coffee and working on a embroidery project. :)

[@ilayda6024]

You are such a good youtuber Mark, I admire your wholesomeness and energy. You have a good accent and good opinions (you doubt them often, which you shouldn't have to:)). You are one of like 3 youtubers that I watch full ads on even if there are two back to back (if I can catch myself before automatically clicking them away lol) I genuinely wish you the very best. Keep being amazing man!

[@lydianlyre5596]

I stopped drawing cause you asked lol. I usually have these videos playing on my roku while I’m drawing, so I don’t usually comment. Also, in the last story, when OP mentioned the wife being a surgeon I stopped everything, exclaimed “A SURGEON? COOKING THREE DIFFERENT DINNERS? Good lord.” Before quietly returning to my art LOL

[@kimsawyer3918]

O.P.your not wrong !!!!! My condolences on your diagnosis i pray you have peace and you and your twin enjoy the time you have left.

[@rinpaisys]

2 years later and I am still flabbergasted that anyone could think of onions and shallots as spicy.

[@megangreen5851]

The family is more concerned about money than op

[@Rose-bi2rg]

Great video! I keep your videos on in the background if I can’t sleep or when I’m Illustrating. Makes me feel like a friend is telling me an interesting story. You just have that easily likeable tone and I really appreciate that. Thank you! I hope your father is doing well.

[@Reiameino]

to be fair the last story makes me think of how my mom would make spicy food night after night and i wouldnt be able to eat any of it because i just had a low tolerance for spicy food, so i couldnt eat without getting really sick or in pain, and she would start screaming at me and hitting me because i wouldnt eat. so i genuinely did agree with him for a bit that she seemed abusive before i realized a few more factors making him seem a bit more on the entitled side.

[@RecklessFire29]

Story 2: NTA. I'm usually the first guy to preach consideration for the fathers... but everyone's telling him to get counseling and he's constantly going off on her with all his doom and gloom. That's not healthy at all, and he's had every chance to get help or get his crap under control, but he won't. Story 3: NTA. Why is this misogyny though? She's just a plain ol' sexist. Staying at home cooking and cleaning, being your own boss while you're being provided for and protected by hubby? A lot of women know that's a good life and don't want the boat rocked. Heck man, sign me up for that life. But no, I can't, they'll call me lazy and useless because I'm a guy. Story 4: NTA. I've read the ingredients in Lunu Miris, and holy crap that's a lot of red pepper and lime juice, among other things. This also isn't taking into consideration the fact he and his family might have Acid Reflux, which would probably be going nuts. As someone else sensitive to spice and the like, no, I feel these guys. Gonna have to roll my eyes at Mark attacking the Dad... again... for wanting a meal they can all eat. It's not even mentioned what the Dad does. He may be stay at home, he may have a stressful job too. Lots of families have two working parents. Also, for those crying about onions being spicy: He specifically mentioned RED ONIONS. Google without quotes "Red Onions Spicy". THEY ARE SPICY.

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

Precisely!!!

[@aduckwithayoutubechannel]

Lmfao, the guy in the last story feels like he has to go outside and catch his breath after smelling an onion? A FUCKING ONION!?

[@milliemaehendrie597]

That first story is heartbreaking.

[@notevenlistening6072]

Onions. Dear jeebus. Eta: I was listening while feeding my fussy nine month old mush, which I suspect would be too spicy for the last op.

[@missluciddreams3472]

Story one: NTA and that is sad af...OP, leave ur money to who u want and find peace. Story two: NTA...he needs therapy or u need to leave him...stress is not good right now. Story three: NTA...she asked for it and got what she asked for...a spicy mix of AITA and Malicious Compliance 🌶️ Story four: YTA...he breezed over the fact that she is a SURGEON like it was nothing. He and his plain jane sons need to stick to their mac & cheese with hotdogs and OP needs to cook.

[@Arylwren1]

The wife cooking story, how do we know the wife doesn't kick the husband out of the kitchen? Also, we don't know what OP does for a living, he nah have just as stressful as a job. Given that we lack so much info, I think the people commenting aren't taking this into account

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

Agreed! Wholeheartedly!!

[@cheskydivision]

I love when your avatar pops up. Especially when it acts like it's actually talking to us.

[@hannahelzer4314]

Hi Mark! I finally got the join button to work! Don't know if you will see this, but I had a wholesome story to tell you about your videos. Every day, I can't resist watching the moment I get the notifications. However, I also watch them every night with my boyfriend, so I have to pretend I haven't seen it yet. I think he also watches them before we watch them together, but I have not been able to confirm!

[@MarkNarrations]

lol I love that you even watch them together. Tis very wholesome, thank you both very much for the support

[@redeyes232]

Mark some of the spices uses are cayenne pepper saigon cinnamon curry and other hot spices a friend of mine's wife is from the Philippines and uses some of the same spices in her cooking. and if the kids are not use to the food then yeah it will be spicy as all get out. And could be legitimate child torture until they get use to it. Plus some of us can't handle that amount of spice.

[@lizfritz6546]

The pregnant one is referring that in the US there is a ban on the # of people in appts and hospital rooms because of the pandemic. If you request for it to be just you and you can make your own medical decisions, then you can definitely request that.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 1: NTA They seem not to care about him at all. Yikes. Glad that they love their brother so much though. Aww Story 2: NTA The husband seems stupid af. Just cause OP lost the first baby doesn’t automatically mean she’ll lost the next.. Some people, yes do have have those issues but not all. And it sounded like OP was not having that issue. It was a dick move on the husband to assume that bs. smh 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@jennilynne1977]

Story 2: I live in the US and have never heard of that mandate (or whatever) that says the father can't be there. I do know that if she doesn't want her husband at the appointments, then they won't let him in there.

[@lianabaddley8217]

Unless your spouse (husband or wife) allows you to be there the Dr will make them leave the room even for just a checkup. After my daughter turned 18 the Dr asked her if she wanted me to be in the room. At one point she did want to talk to the Dr alone easier for her to be open and not embarrassed about anything. So she had me leave then came back after. Also when my son had to do his checkup he asked me to leave just for a minute. The nurse stayed, everything got checked then I came back in. If I call our insurance that I am primary on to ask about my hubby or my kids over 18 they will not answer any questions. Not even did you REALLY charge us $400 per ace bandage (had 4) when he wore the walking cast out that he wore in from the ER.

[@shannonfbc1]

I don't understand the whole fighting over inheritance thing I always found it disgusting to watch family fight like that when someone died... I literally hated everyone when my grandfather died I was so heart broken and he wasn't even cold yet when the fighting started it was horrible he deserved so much better.

[@joimumu]

In the story if OP had any children or a spouse he/she might be a AH but that’s not what’s happening the rest of OP family is a major AH