I Told My Biological Parents My Childhood Was AWFUL!

[@claws2129]

Story 3: The sister is sus. OP SAW how the boyfriend was becoming uncomfortable and her sister "never lying" just sounds like a desperate lie they're telling themselves. He was on board with her living there until he suddenly avoided her at all costs? That screams some shit is going on. OP's boyfriend deserves better. Best of luck random dude, stay away from the crazies in the future.

[@CL-lx2pm]

I swear, any partner I have that "sits me down" and tells me what to do would have hell to pay for it. Fuck that noise. I can't even be surprised that she didn't ask why because when she did get an answer she not only flipped it off, but then kicked the man out of his own home with threats and, again, *told* him that he has to stay out of his own home for *her* guest's sake. I'd have boxed her ears in, but I'm a woman so I guess this whole situation would've gone down differently from the get-go.

[@Tanjaaraus]

especially since her reason for not wanting to live at home was that her "parents are unreasonable" - like what does that mean? Does it mean removing the door and not giving any privacy/being invasive or abusive - or does it mean that they don't let her snoop through other people's belonging and have normal houserules. The fact that OP just told the BF to stop avoiding the sister, and not have a talk with him on why, makes me very unsympatethic to the OP. People shouldn't live together and be in a comitted relationship if they are unable to communicate.

[@claws2129]

@@Tanjaaraus The fact that she never even attempted to take his side tells me he needs to lawyer up and get the hell away from this woman. Typical Reddit response but in this case she made it painfully obvious that his side of the story doesn't matter to her.

[@Tanjaaraus]

@@claws2129 or at minimum write down the time and place for any of the interactions he was uncomfortable with. Then find a way to get his name off the lease. Or hopefully get her name off the lease as it was his place before OP moved in - but finding a new place to live is far better than going up against a possibly entitled teen/young adult and their enabling sister who will confirm whatever story they spin

[@stanleypennock2118]

If I was the BF, I would get my name off the lease, find another apartment, move ALL my stuff out and ghost OP! He's a fool to get back together with a crazy person! He needs to run away fast!

[@15oClock]

1. Alex's comfort isn't worth OP's health, even if he's a special needs kid. His mom needs to step up; it's her child after all. 2. Feeling guilty that your parents know the truth of your horrible life isn't normal, even if they do cry and apologize for their part. Who hurt you, OP? 3. Literally took the side of the sexual harasser and kicked the victim out of his own apartment. OP doesn't deserve her boyfriend after the way she treated him. 4. Did OP really call a child a dramatic brat when they themselves are one? She's five, they're an adult; act like one!

[@thedestroyasystem]

2. It's the cause of a life of trauma. You second guess every action you make, especially major ones. Whenever you express emotions your brain is wired to automatically assume you're in the wrong, because to someone who's abused, emotions are dangerous and can get you hurt. If you feel guilty when you express emotions, you won't express emotions as often, and in the eyes of your brain, you're "safe." Telling the truth, especially a harsh truth, after years of abuse wherein your brain was wired to lie and hide is impossibly difficult. OP is extremely strong and, surprise surprise, NTA.

[@13wolfy13]

2: Honestly? Imagine if you crushed someone's hopes when they honestly thought they were doing the best for you. Feeling bad about it is perfectly normal. It's called empathy. And as Destroya said, trauma's can lead you to wonder 'is it my fault?' about everything.

[@thecookinestkid401]

Facts all around! In story 4, I immediate realized OP was a ....bad Karen (shudders) the moment they said the part about the "brat" part. Projecting much? 🙄🙄🙄

[@rainorld2493]

3. Bf: *avoids the op sister for a good reason* Sister: why your bf so mean to me? Op: Stop ignoring my sister Sister: *tries to flirt* Bf: *avoiding* Op: get out of your apartment! So I and my sister can have peace

[@rainorld2493]

@Jayce Antonio not this bot again

[@owl7072]

Story 2: NTA. "Ah yes, let us get in contact with our child we abandoned 19 years ago and not only bring our spouses but also the children we had after them that we *didn't* abandon. Yes, this won't overwhelm them and make them emotional at all."

[@miazonorize773]

How do you know if they abandoned her? They probably were not okay financially so they had to give her up so that she gets a better life. They didn't know if what they were gonna do would do this much damage. They were also very happy to meet op and very apologetic after they heard her story. Don't just assume things.

[@adak5805]

@@miazonorize773 Well, they could look for her sooner not after 19 years

[@owl7072]

@@miazonorize773 1. It was a joke, I'm sure they had plenty of valid reasons as to why they gave up OP 2. What bothered me is that they brought their other children without thinking about any of the possible negative effects it could have on Op. They just did it, yeah they apologized but they should have just gone on their own, and then mention the others over time. Springing everything about the fantastic lives they had at once like the way they did can be very upsetting for the child who was given up immediately after birth, especially if you don't have any clue what their life was truly like other than what you imagined it was

[@shithead1029384756]

I say more the adoptive parents and the foster system is the ah. Sure the birth parents kinda suck, but can only blame them very little.

[@cptkettch]

Most people never look for or want to be found by their children they gave up for adoption. I am adopted and have no desire to find or meet my bio-family. I do have to say the bio-parents or donor's bringing their families with them was a dick move and may have damaged any possibility of a future relationship.

[@MetalHanyou1]

Story 2: Why did they bring their families with them? At that point you're basically rubbing in her face the children you *didn't* give up. Worse, you expose her to way too much and make the meeting far less personal. I won't say the biological parents are A-holes but they definitely did something extremely stupid. They should have met her alone and let her adjust to reconnecting to just them before introducing her to their families -- assuming she ever wanted to meet them.

[@raymondjohnson2744]

The only thing that slightly puts them ah territory for is bringing the kids. I get the idea of wanting to include them but it is only a good idea based on the assumption that OP had a good life and would be less likely to be resentful of them. If they had the slightest doubt of op's quality of life which I assume at least the father did since he brought up the lack of info on Facebook. They should have abstained from bringing the children or ask if op was open to meeting them as well.

[@IM-rs6br]

One parent brought their kid 😮

[@IM-rs6br]

@ᒪITTᒪᗴ ᖴᖇᗴᗪ ᗷᒍÖᖇᑎᗩ never said it wasn’t

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

@@raymondjohnson2744 naaaaaah, they were not ready to have kids so they put OP to adoption, why didn't they reach out when they were ready? They were always bad and now they feel guilty about it. From the father's side he was probably forced by his mother

[@47896285pgdfzgnd]

"I was a jerk to a child, AITA?" How are people like this?

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@roderickpollard7431 You know it's gonna be a YTA when they literally have to make excuses about their behavior in the post. "It's a pool, you're gonna get splashed." Plus, insulting someone (especially a child) doesn't bode well. "They're brats... I'm not even surprised they're doing this."

[@beyondEV]

KAREN in the wild.someone call animal control, pls. it's the i pay ('m a paying customer) so i have the right to be a POS attitude. and when the manager (/ mother) didn't cave, she took her business elsewhere.

[@brandonszczech6516]

Wasn't there a story like one or two days ago where the friend of the cousin was harassing the boyfriend and he was actually scared to tell the girlfriend because he thought he wouldn't be taken seriously? Because Story 3 shows exactly why men are scared to show that they are uncomfortable with something.

[@TonySamedi]

Story 3: Wow. Just wow OP. I just wonder how many other significant others you're gonna go through believing your sister before you actually acknowledge maybe she's the problem and not her victims.

[@Hanzo1]

Sounds like the bf in story 3 dodged a massive bullet.

[@donniejefferson9554]

I hope he does the right thing and throws them both out of his place

[@TP-bw5jx]

I wonder if theres an update

[@zerobolt9506]

What if the reason the boyfriend was avoiding the sister was cause he started to hit on her and she denied his advices and he turned around on her just to save himself, like isn't weird that he'll leave just cause OP said she'll take her sister and leave. I was thinking that the sister was in the wrong until then, if what he said was true why not let OP and her sister just leave.

[@donniejefferson9554]

@@zerobolt9506 I mean if that's what happened I think the sister would have said it when he accused her. And the dude probably cares about his girlfriend and doesnt want to make her leave

[@zerobolt9506]

@@donniejefferson9554 I don't know I think we need more info first.

[@joannewoodward3480]

The advice for reconnecting bio parents and children, especially first meetings, is do it slowly and one on one. Mobbing OP like that until was completely wrong, especially going in with an unrealistic expectation that it would nothing but happy families.

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

and come with a good excuse of why they didn't reach out before, especially when they were capable of having another family

[@suzieseabee]

The last story. People generally don't like to be splashed. The ones doing the splashing are generally jerks.

[@susanyoung1600]

Yeah. I remember being nearly drowned with the epic splashing by a big kid.

[@lujaynmigdadi]

Bruh literally 5 yo and shes arguing with her ???

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Yea, and then they say "but it's just a joke, it's funny." And continue to ignore your boundaries. ugg, no wonder I hate swimming xD.

[@Cottontailart]

My 5 year old cousin asked me why Was my belly so big when I was 19, I replied it’s cos I’m fat, she said oh well I love u anyway 😂

[@Tanjaaraus]

I have a 4yr old Niece and the things that come out of that child's mouth is straight up treasures 😂 With a healthy dose of humor and some patience it's the best age! (but I don't really have that, so I prefer kids 10 and up)

[@Cottontailart]

@@Tanjaaraus ahaha I’m the second eldest of my cousins and I have blackmail material galore, this cousin is now 20 and I was telling her about some of the stuff she’s said and she gets really embarrassed

[@beyondEV]

that's so adorable. the only ones who can't handle a little kid speaking the truth, are the ones in serious denial. i manage my mental issues with smoking (why, is a bit a long story). my 10 year old niece asked why i smoked, and i explained but she couldn't fully process it emotionally (she doesn't like me smoking at all). later my SO notices the signs (as was smoking far less than usual, one of the mental disorders was acting up) and tells me to go smoke my cigarette. my niece: "why do you want my uncle dead"? (she read the label "smoking kills you") :D

[@Cottontailart]

@@beyondEV awwww I can’t have kids but I love them to bits, I used to be a self employed photographer and I had a lil girl tell me she loved me the first day she met me, kids are hilarious, my same cousin used to ask who every person getting on the bus was and had all the people laughing who where already on there

[@TheTacosAreHere]

Story 3: If the roles were reversed and you'd react differently, then most of the time you're in the wrong. I get there's a familial bond with wanting to protect your sister especially if things are bad with the parents, but that's no excuse to blow up on a victim who might have just been sexually assaulted. My advice is that sister needs to get in therapy (I know shocker) and there needs to be an actual conversation with her, if she's guilty she's not going to come clean especially if she's just a teenager. She should have believed her bf while also talking with the sister, now the sister has no consequences for sexual harrasment and what kind of example is that? Don't kick either one out, but keep them separate for a bit while you figure it out. As an older sister and mother myself I wholly get it, but that bf was belittled and just pushed how bad wr treat men with regards to sexual assault. I don't think that relationship can be salvaged after that, be skeptical not dismissive.

[@philwill0123]

First point of action should have been sister moves out. Fact that her boyf had to leave is crappy. Especially when he was the one who admitted what went on, not opd sister. And sister still hasnt given a reason the argument.

[@TheTacosAreHere]

@@philwill0123 While I don't think you'd be in the wrong, there's still issues that need to be addressed. I don't remember if they said the age of the sister, but if they're just a teenager there's still a chance for her. Something is going on and needs to be addressed, kicking her out won't fix that especially because yhe parents described as unreasonable could mean anything from 'No going out while we're still in a pandemic' to 'Obey our every rule or we punish you severely.' Just depends on the interpretation. Or they could even enabling that behavior by other things. Perhaps she is lying because she doesn't want to get kicked out and go back to a potentially abusive household... We just dont know. This doesn't change the YTA verdict on Op's part for doing very little to actually find the truth.

[@philwill0123]

@@TheTacosAreHere problem is now you have a boyfriend stuck in his own home with someone he feels very uncomfortable with, and is stuck dealing with this while OP "sorts this out" , when OP has made it clear her sister doesn't lie. That does not help the situation at all. The boyfriend will still not trust OP or sister,and whatever happens, the sister will not be staying there because its a recipe for disaster. Reverse the situation if it was boyfriends teenage brother perving on OP, OP wouldnt be comfortable with the brother living with them. Whatever happened to sister at her home, his accusation is a dealbreaker. Either she goes or relationship is over. OP is not getting this.

[@TheTacosAreHere]

@@philwill0123 oh 100% agree with you, I actually forgot that it was going on for a lot longer than just the catalyst fight. Maybe if the OP had actually addressed this when the BF first started showing issues they could have resolved this much much earlier and it wouldn't have escalated to the point someone had to move out. Her neglect of bf his feelings/actions is wholly on her... In the end he's the victim and needed to be believed and the OP should have supported him the MINUTE he started showing being uncomfortable around her sister. I'm sure he didn't say anything because he didn't fully know at first what was actually happening and didn't want to cause a scene. I feel for him that's really not okay and I hope he can move on and find someone less neglectful. Edit: I forgot because I listen at work and comment on breaks so that detail slipped through.

[@blazzo9633]

@@TheTacosAreHere the sister is 19.

[@dune3001]

That woman upset at a 5 year old has to be troll. No sane adult would act this way, right?!

[@jazz-cat00]

Keyword: _sane_

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

Story 4: Splashing Child So, OP is getting upset at a 5yr old and applying standards of maturity that is not suitable for a toddler. Of course they are mad that you didn't listen. They don't understand conflict resolution, managing emotions or understanding how to be grateful. This is a teaching moment for them, as they feel that you invaded their level of comfort and are clearly not trustworthy to recognize their need for respect. Apologize, make them see that you are very sorry for hurting them and point them towards the bright side. "It won't happen again, and I will listen to you a lot better from now on. Now, how about we continue our fun vacation? Can you forgive me? Here have some pizza. If you don't feel like it now, it's ok but if you need anything I am here." Too many times have adults interpreted my pain as malicious when I was a kid, and it still affects me to this day - that I am never allowed to feel injustice or else I am unreasonable. It turns you into a doormat who can't stick up for themselves when necessary. Fix your mentality now, OP.

[@PANG0LIN]

wrong story number

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

@@PANG0LIN thank you

[@audreyyu5153]

yeah that whole story infuriated me. The op is literally manipulative af. especially the part about abandoning them. I hope their friend never speaks to them again

[@justine8387]

@@audreyyu5153 I hate being splashed. I always have. Don't so things to people when they say no.

[@PANG0LIN]

@@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849 you welcome

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP is NTA. Question, the child was over at his father's home for months... Obviously, somehow the father was able to handle him not having his Uncle cook and eat and play with him. So now that the kid is back, the mother is just dropping the ball because she doesn't want to be strict and control her child. Special Needs should not be used at an excuse for bad behavior. OP needs to move out and his sister needs to use the child support she gets to pay for inhome care and behavioral therapy. Kid needs to learn to maintain themselves NOW while they are small. The kiddo will eventually grow and as an adult male, his outbursts of violence can be very dangerous for anyone around him.

[@CL-lx2pm]

So much this! People seem to think the only two options for special needs kids are "give in because fits are hard" or "scream and abuse because fits are annoying." Neither are acceptable. The kid isn't just some special needs annoyance, he's *a person* and he's not going to be a kid forever. Even if he ends up being dependent for life he still needs someone to establish a healthy routine for him to at least be able to function and have his basic health needs taken care of. Fits suck for *everyone* involved but that doesn't mean the sister can just give up on her son's health. Nothing in life is easy, everything is unfair, but making things harder for someone else to make them a little easier on you is a huge dick move.

[@ettinakitten5047]

To be fair, assuming the kid is autistic because his behavior sure sounds like autistic behavior - routines are often place-specific. He probably didn't mind uncle not doing stuff for him at his dad's place because that's his dad's place and uncle isn't part of the routine there. In fact, if uncle had gone over to dad's place to visit him, it's possible that would've freaked him out because uncle belongs at mom's place, kinda like meeting your teacher in the supermarket. Also, behavioral therapy for autism is terrible. There's a whole movement going on to get it banned because it's abusive and does more harm than good. It's basically the exact same methodology, level of ethics and potential for harm as gay conversion therapy but because it's applied to a disabled person it's seen as more acceptable. I've even seen a dog trainer point out that behavioral therapy for dogs has a stricter code of ethics than behavioral therapy for autistic children.

[@veravanriet2761]

Story 4, knowing myself as a child, I would've openly claimed to dislike anyone who splashed me to. Besides, some people have legitimate reason to hate being splashed, for me it's ear problems. Congrats to OP for being a jerk to a 5-year-old

[@ColdBloodedBastard]

5 or not, my parents would have made sure I apologized. That's the parents job, to teach the kids.

[@GothMermaidGamer]

I hate it so much(because I experienced it as a kid) when adults invalidate a child's feelings just because that adult thinks it's ridiculous to feel that way Like in the story - they didn't want to be splashed, they didn't like it And that adult tells them to stop being a baby and stop whining etc. like the kids aren't allowed to be uncomfortable about anything if it doesn't make sense to the adult That shit infuriates me

[@jeremyweiner8743]

Oblong

[@sambillings2254]

They are down 60 pounds, still amazing btw just thought I'd correct the math here lol (220-160=60)

[@dune3001]

@@sambillings2254 you sound really fun at parties :)))

[@EM38101]

Fat person; that's fatphobic Me:ok whale

[@jayc7171]

@@dune3001 chill dude lol. It’s Just a correction

[@saifallarakia692]

@@dune3001 funnier than you i bet

[@mstree9173]

The op in the last story sounds more like a 5 year old then the actual 5 year old

[@katsmenagerie106]

Story 4: Team 5-year-old. Better instincts than most adults - that kiddo can smell an AH. (Plus as an adult, if somebody kept splashing me in a pool, I'd be pissed.)

[@nightcorelucario2218]

Story 1: NTA. It sounds like you're being used as a free caregiver and you need an out. Story 2: NTA. I can't say I wouldn't be overwhelmed by all that myself. I sincerely hope your actual parents can help you move forward and perhaps give you a better life than you've already been through. It honestly sounds like they just want to try give you a second chance with life. Maybe seek some therapy before doing another face to face meeting, with just your parents this time, to see what you want to do with this opportunity and dig up some questions you may want to ask them moving forward, so that you have a more solid starting point if you want to continue this relationship. It may also clear up some resentment about you feeling your past has been ruined by their decision to give you up for adoption because nobody wants that, and from the sounds of it, especially not your parents. Good luck to you all moving forward and apologise for the long rant Waffle Gang. I'll try keep the other judgements short. Story 3: YTA. Have you even properly taken your boyfriends side of the story into consideration at all here? Story 4: YTA. You were purposely splashing a 5yo child. Can you not see how that could be traumatic to a child? Also people can still go to a pool and not want to be splashed. They'll put themselves in positions where they're less likely going to get splashed, especially by assholes like you going round purposely going round plashing people. Your behaviour about all this makes you a massive asshole.

[@Ospyro3em]

Last story- INFO required- is the OP the 5 year old? Because she's certainly acting like it! 😂

[@edisoncrisostomo3786]

3rd one, i hope he gets rid of you. 4th OP is the entitled brat.

[@madhattergodess]

Op 3 well enjoy no boyfriend and being on the hook for the rent as she kicked him out. Also will not be surprised if the same thing happens again with Ops future relationships.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 3: OP is TA because she's protecting her little sister without knowing the facts. She should contact the parents and find out what's going on between them. Could very well be that the boyfriend is lying... But then again, the teenage sister could be the issue. In the end, the child needs help and OP needs to move out, remove herself from the lease and get another place where she can stay with her sister and perhaps teach the girl how to be a good person.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@claytonmize6159 - For us reasonable peeps it looks like the BF is the one being victimize. But just consider a sociopath, they are pathological liars. Like maybe he's the peeper and he's trying to make the sister look bad...

[@zerobolt9506]

@@claytonmize6159 ok but why did he leave if OP's only threat was to just leave herself with her sister? That part makes no sense to me, why didn't he just say then go to both of them. I could be wrong but I think he was trying to hit on her and she said no so he started to avoid her and flip the whole thing around on her.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@cjandauntieyaya1446 yes I thought the same, they do this all the time in movies and shows and books, and before anyone say well that's just movies, shows and books if it couldn't happen in real life it wouldn't be in them at all. Except you know the scifi and other things.

[@backpug1228]

Because abuse victims dont really think that they deserve all the justice while still in the abusive relationship. And then men are so often told by society/the people around them that their feelings when being sexually harrassed and/or assaulted are not really valid.

[@philwill0123]

Story 1. Ops sister is lazy AF. Her son is her responsibility. Also i get feeling sister is jealous of OPs new lifestyle and is creating a sabotage of OPs new lifestyle.

[@cl1cka]

It's a single mother of AUTISTIC CHILD....How did you come to the conclusion she is lazy??? Wtf.... She works, pays her bills, doesn't have support of the father who feeds the child junk...... You are retarded if you think it's easy to raise autistic child, with no support from the father....

[@carolsimpson4422]

@@cl1cka I think the issue is how entitled she is towards her sisters time and lifestyle. She doesnt show gratitude for all her sister has done, only complains about what she is no longer doing.

[@Norinia]

cl1cka From the fact that the kid somehow has regular access to OP. That says that the mom leaves him regularly to OP’s care.

[@cl1cka]

@FoxLimbs And you missed the POINT of what I wrote.... All i said was that raising autistic child is HARDER than normal one. How much harder depends.... But I was addressing the moron on top.

[@cl1cka]

@@Norinia Nope. At least read the fucking story in it's entirety, BEFORE you comment. They LIVE TOGETHER. Of course the child will have access to OP.....

[@TsukiKageTora]

OP had the audacity to call her friend’s 5 year old a brat when she, a full grown adult, was upset that said 5 year old hates her for basically endangering her life. Splashing a 5 year old, no matter the swim skill, can be overwhelming for the little body to keep afloat risking the possibility of drowning! Dear god OP is so detached from reality it’s amazing.

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1:OP is not the Ah, the sister need to take care of her own kid not rely on OP do it. The sister need to get help from professor in order to better understand her kids condition and how she can take care of him. Story 2: OP is not the Ah, they abadon OP. Why did the gave up OP? But why did they bring other family member to show you, to me that mess up, it should of been the three of them. I can understand why OP reacted that why. Story 3:OP is the Ah, without hearing both side, OP took her sister side. The bf was ok in the beginning until the sister made him comfortable and OP accursing her bf for lying all because her sister isn't a lie. I wouldn't blame the bf if he break up with OP. Story 4:OP is the Ah, the're kids and the fact that both kids say they don't like OP, they see something bad within OP. Op need help and I think they will no longer talk/befriend again.

[@bioshockbrat9171]

Story 2: parents should've gauged OP's reaction first. Meet privately and ask abt their life before springing their family on them.

[@KurosakiNaturo]

Imagine letting yourself be kicked out of your own house. Couldn't be me.

[@angelizdaboss]

Story 3: wooooow wow. It was his house first, and he expresses some concern, but OP is just going to kick him out for feeling violated. What a dick. I can’t imagine all of this.

[@destinedtogame]

It does take a village. That person has a skewed idea

[@quesproductions7170]

The backhandedness is too severe in story too, especially with the other children, its saying "Yeah, we didn't want YOU in particular in that particular moment, but we did want your siblings.". Honestly, very shitty of the parents to try and reconnect in a upfront and bold way, especially when there is an adoption options to keep in touch with the child (not sure if this goes in other countries) as they grow. To then act as if all is good is very ignorant.

[@sleepythemis]

Even just not having the other kids there would be such an improvement. Baffles me why they wouldn't have met up with just the three of them. No one else needed to be involved.

[@lorifiedler13]

It was horrible that OPs bio parents came with their families. Also, they really should have asked OP about themselves first. If j were OP, I don't know if I'd ever want to see them ever again.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

story 2: they gave up their kid to the foster care system because they were naive to how awful it is.

[@jessical4866]

Story 3: I have read so many novels where the sister was trying to sabotage the relationship or steal her man, often by "innocently" suggesting that the man is actually terrible and setting up fights from behind the scenes. Since it's already pretty obvious that's what OP's sister was doing, I'm more curious as to which cliche reason she did it. Was she jealous of her sister? Was she trying to sleep with the boyfriend? Did she just want them to break up so she has her sister to herself?

[@Tammohawk1]

1st Story: NTA What is up with people expecting others to help them parent their kids? Seriously? I don't care if the kid is special needs. It makes no difference. And little one needs to learn how to manage change regardless. I know it's not always easy, but it has to be done. 2nd Story: No one Sucks here. I have to believe that the bio parents did believe they were doing the right thing. OP wasn't wrong for not saying more or for telling the truth. It was bound to come out, sooner is far better than later I believe. I think bio parents deserve to at least be listened to, one on one though. When OP is ready and not a moment sooner. This entire situation just sucks. Those adoptive parents are the real ones to blame here. 3rd Story: YTA OP's sister is up to no good. And for OP to immediately jump to sisters side instead of listening to her boyfriend speaks volumes to me. She's not mature enough for this relationship. I would love to hear the update on this one. Wow. 4th Story: YTA OP is the arsehole for getting so bent out of shape with a 5 yr. old!! I don't think OP is fit for civilized society, ever. If my friend like that, we wouldn't be friends after that. And little kids don't generally like to be overly splashed. The kid asked OP to stop, and OP didn't. That was mean.

[@Iflie]

When a 10 year old is eating at 9 at night instead of being asleep they have a parenting problem, it's important for any child but especially special needs kids need a set routine and enough sleep. His mother should be enforcing that as well as the father, aunt isn't responsible except for backing those rules up as long as they live in the same house.

[@holloweddollart487]

I love how the waffle just looks like "hey, how dare you" when you say you can skip it lol it's precious~

[@phunkyzilla]

Story 3: If I were the boyfriend would’ve just said “alright you and your sister can leave then” that boyfriend is so patient about his nuts girlfriend

[@CL-lx2pm]

Ok, I have so many issues with story 1 I can't even figure out where to begin. Autistic kids are hard to help, it's just the reality of things, but that doesn't mean that you just give in and not only allow but enforce bad habits. What's that boy meant to do when he's older and all he'll eat is nuggets and no veggies? What about *his* nutritional needs?! The sister needs to step up as a parent in so many ways, and she should start with her parenting her own kid but cannot stop there for Alex's sake. So many autistic youths end up fucked over as adults because they weren't helped to adapt when they had the chance. She can either work with her husband to establish a routine they should've had years ago, or establish it all on her own because it's her kid and she needs to help *her kid* to adapt and develop routines to preserve his heath and help him thrive whether he's with family or independent.

[@cheskydivision]

BF avoids sister there must be a reason. Omg, I'm an adult and don't like being splashed.

[@phunkyzilla]

Mark. Glad to hear the channel is doing so well you can focus half your working energy on it. You deserve it for your hard work and it seems to be something you really love

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you so much 😁❤

[@lightwork11]

Story 1: OP made amazing changes in her health by losing so much weight and eating healthier food. There are people who get upset by this and try to sabotage someone who makes positive changes in their life. I don't know if this is what her sister is attempting, but OP needs to make sure her sister is not using her son to short circuit the great changes in her life. Stick to your plans and don't let anyone stop you. You are heroic! I hope you are still doing well over a year later.

[@maheenahmed6653]

Story 1: It definitely sucks for Alex, because he can’t help hating a lot of food. He isn’t picky because of just being picky, he can’t help it. OP was right to put their foot down. His mom should be making his food. Maybe op can tell his mom what he likes so she can make it.

[@legtemal7304]

Good luck with the meeting! Hope it goes well.

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 1: Omg I love hearing when people have done better for themselves. Go OP! And NTA. It’s her job to be the parent. Not OP’s.

[@wildlifesymphony]

Ever since the last video, where someone said the waffle in the beginning looked mighty hungry.... I can't help but laugh xD

[@missluciddreams3472]

I originally didn't like being called a waffle but I love the cartoon waffle in ur introduction so I have learned to just laugh at it (but u already know I am a little weird so it is a me issue) Story two: NTA...I mean, the parents should have known better...it was too much too soon. If they want a relationship with OP, take it slow. Story four: YTA and a bully. No is a complete sentence and OP should have respected that. Then to threaten to strand them? Wow.. what a bully...this whole post screamed entitlement to me. Hi, Mark? How is life? 😁

[@Kimi_Khaos]

Story 4... are we sure OP isn't the 5 year old? Certainly sounded like it based on the post. Geesh! When my youngest was 5, he'd tell me he hated me every single evening when it was time to clean up toys before bath/bedtime. By the time I tucked him in to sleep, his last words for each night to me were always, "Goodnight, mommy, I love you." Children's feelings change on a dime. They don't even have words, much of the time, for what those feelings are. OP was super childish and seems to me like the friend wrote her off a long time ago and rightfully so. Not sure why she even posted except to try to get validation for acting ridiculous.

[@LunaMane]

The girlfriend, likely ex-girlfriend now, in story four was absolutely an arsehole. Blindly believing a sibling will get you both in major trouble if they turn out to be lying and the truth could land them in jail. Boyfriend is better off.

[@tamsinmoore2111]

Fingers crossed for good news. Also, don't be so grateful for our support. You produce a brilliant post and it's really friendly. We're not self flagellating here wearing coarse hair undies! Keep doing what you're doing, hopefully you can get things sorted. Much love guy. Txxx

[@STB-jh7od]

Story 3-BF has name on lease, he should tell OP that SHE AND HER SISTER NEED TO MOVE OUT. If she refuses, tell her "fine then I'm taking my name off the lease and moving out and you can put yours on." Can't wait for the reddit relationship advice when OP asks "I believed my lying sister over my BF, and now he wants nothing to do with me. How do I fix this?"

[@greenteawithhoneyandcream7173]

Man I love coming home to a new video, a hot cup of peppermint tea, a blank page in my sketch book.

[@MarkNarrations]

Psst another one coming within the hour, don't tell anyone ;)

[@greenteawithhoneyandcream7173]

@@MarkNarrations hehe I wont, lol

[@scousemouse9566]

🧇🧇🧇🧇Story 4, YTA, OP sounds like a 5 year old too. She is such a baby and who splashes a 5 year old. Great video Mark, thank you 🧇🧇🧇🧇 Waffle Gang

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks Scouse, hope you're well

[@cl1cka]

Yeah story 3 - you CANT KICK HIM OUT. It's his house as well.....That is not going to look good at a court when he asks for deposits/rent back....

[@amberleeannalee1999]

I was told “your childhood was great” when I mention I can’t remember most of it. I had a brother with a TBI behavioral issues and learning disabilities. He was so bad and my dad was absent due to driving long haul trucking. I was the “good one” so anything I did was the end of the world. I have an ED and adhd and never ever got help and I literally have no memories of most of my past before age of 16

[@Elkrid665]

Glad to be back, and I love the new background going on! Take care m8

[@MarkNarrations]

Good to see you here Elkrid 😁❤

[@annyphoenix2099]

Good luck with the meeting Mark!

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks Anny

[@runawayfromtoads674]

Finally had my lappy fixed and I can listen to you again! (Normally I listen to you as I work so while I missed being on time, I have a lot of vids to listen to hehehehe) Story 3 pisses me off. I was called spineless back then so I tend to reserve my judgment for people who don't know what to do in the heat of the moment. OP, though, was just so avoidant! Ignoring an issue for a day and then approaching it is okay. But they immediately took the sister's side, told the boyfriend to go, when they don't know what truly happened. And somehow they call the shots? Their relationship should end. If OP could not handle confrontation and addressing issues, they're better off without a relationship. Being in a relationship means you have to work things out and discuss things. It bothers me because she's the one overwhelmed and somehow, she makes people adjust to her needs. She may not be a bad person and she must have had this avoidant personality due to upbringing or environment but if she can't face things, she won't be able to fix things too.

[@katecooper3410]

1st story: NTA. You treat your nephew as a nephew, and your sister is trying to come at you as if you are somehow his other parent. You put your foot down and set boundaries about your relationship with her and your nephew, and your sister shouldn't be asking you to act as a stand in parent

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

Story 1: NTA. He isn't your kid or responsibility. Story 2: Ouch. Your bios didn't handle that very well. NTA, for blowing your stack. :( Story 3: YTA. Everybody lies. EVERYBODY. Something was going on there that you refused to see. Stpry 4: YTA. It's absurd to react to a child of 5 like that. They don't know how to put into words how they feel. The two kids were probably also tired and hungry and become quite bratty. I think you overreacted.

[@RokoFireFox]

story 3. I hope op's boyfriend dumpers her. There was clearly something going on as to why he was voiding her. Her SISTER said it makes her feel bad that he's avoiding her. Op is the biggest AH story 4. crocodile tears or not, when someone says stop, YOU STOP. She's 5 kids have zero filter. My niece's say whatever they want without a care. Also the "I wouldn't have shared my pizza with them either, but to be fair, my friend paid for half of it." Then it's not YOUR pizza. You didn't pay for it fully. I hope op's friend never talks to her again.

[@panicguts6608]

im going through a tough time and your videos are really helping me catch a break. Thanks mark, i appriciate you a lot :) i hope the best for you and your family!

[@AmaltheaGaming]

Story one) The poor kid needs structure and routine and change needs to happen slowly. However it's the parents who need to do this not you. The fact that he has very different routines in the 2 places he stays is the main casue of his meltdowns. The parents need to sit down and set down a strict routine with visual cues so that he knows what happening. Maybe a clock that has different sections coloured in so he can see that it's meant to be dinner time and when it's OP's time to sleep. It would be hard at first but if it's stuck to it works.

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

Love the dynamic intro man. Good vibes and positivity to anyone that reads this!

[@simplylivinglacey7702]

Story #1: NTA. It was crazy how the sister expected things of OP. She got to used to OP doing those things.

[@FriedaMMartin]

Story 1: NTA how can you expect someone to be there forever to take care of your child? Even to the point of having to do dinner according to his time?

[@raptorpeep2622]

gl with the meeting, mark! i love your content and will always be a part of waffle gang! you make so much content so i always have some stuff to listen to, you are growing, and you are slowly killing the reddit text to speech channels, which is rad, you is rad!

[@MarkNarrations]

Lets get those bots! :)

[@raptorpeep2622]

@@MarkNarrations oh hi mark! ill bring snacks to the battle! ngl i was not expecting a reply this made me really happy, you is rad as hell!

[@abdullahalali3962]

I hope your meeting goes good Good luck mark ❤️💜

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

Hopefully things go well with the 50% part time 50% KZbin

[@MarkNarrations]

Had a discussion with them, they'll be able to get someone to take over my other half by Christmas so I'll have to wait till then 😁

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

@@MarkNarrations hell yeah!

[@Flossie710]

@@MarkNarrations good luck to you Mark, you seem lovely (and very British, never wanting to give offense :-)

[@OutsideGalaxy]

With Story 2 I feel like OP's reaction was completely understandable. I don't think their parents were trying to hurt them, but it sounds like they've been through a lot in that situation would have been emotional and probably traumatic without bringing in the entire family. Like, I don't consider that I've had a particularly hard life although I've had my struggles and issues. And if my biological father suddenly showed up in my life and wanted to meet me and I agreed and I came to a restaurant and he was there with some sort of perfect happy family I think I would be upset and emotional. And I'm 29.

[@larry9910]

If I was the boyfriend in the 3rd story I would have when presented with the options she gave I would have told her "well if its me leaving my apartment because you want to blindly believe your sister then you can pack all you stuff and don't let the door hit you on your way out" like wtf it that kind of mindset everyone is going to tell at least one lie in their life if they haven't yet it just means that they haven't needed to or just don't want to but everyone will at some point tell a lie

[@dalecampbell8141]

Mark, I love your programs, and I hate to say this but it puts my teeth on edge every time I hear this. Please please, don’t say, “If you was *****.” The correct grammar is “If you were ***.” I know it is none of my business, but I watch so many, and it is so grating.

[@problematicprincess6270]

I wouldn't be making food and living my life around a kid that isn't mine

[@annvictor9627]

Nicole the splasher, did you invite those kids so you could torment them? If not, why did you splash the 5-yr-old when she didn't want to be splashed? Would you be grateful to someone who invited you for what was supposed to be fun but instead made you the butt of pranks you hated?

[@lista2308]

Story 2: OP is NTA, parents maybe TAs for bringing the hole family for the frist meeting. Who tf thougth that was a good idea? Any and all reactions OP had/has are valid

[@andromeda3496]

Good luck with the job!!!

[@MissMystery1412]

Best of luck my guy! Your videos help me get through my boring work day, and make it worth sitting through the ad breaks without skipping✌️

[@MarkNarrations]

I appreciate that! You are a legend

[@MissMystery1412]

@@MarkNarrations you’re the legend here mate, you’re a beast releasing so many of these videos! Found you through your AITA content as it’s hard to find (and one of my faves), you do an amazing job with them and I love your insight. Waffle gang forever 🧇🧇

[@MarkNarrations]

@@MissMystery1412 Aww thank you so much Mystery and I'm very glad you enjoy them :)

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 4 yes she is the A hole. She never explained the splashing. It sounds like she was splashing the child and wouldn't stop even when the child said to stop. ( brother backed her up) That was the frist a hole move and it went down from there.

[@tweetydiditforeal]

The mom from the last story should've went " it's a pool, people drown in them, should've stick your head in the water and not let go?

[@reptilelover2129]

Good luck with the boss!

[@moon7shinev150]

Story 2 NAH I get OP resentment and I get the parents wanted to do a nice surprise and like you said it didn't say why he was put up for adoption

[@jlyo1991]

Story 3 needs an update

[@TheKorfish]

For the title story NTA if they "loved" them so much then why didn't they check on OP they knew his adoptive family and even when he was placed in foster care they could've at least tracked him down and saw how he was doing but know they carried on and forgot he existed. They can't turn back time and the damage is done and prob do what they did before and forget he existed.

[@digitalharmony26]

Who thinks it’s a good idea to reconnect with the child you gave away and decide to bring your new family and tell them about your happy life before asking about theirs?! Wtf?!

[@sianchild]

The OP who made healthy changes is doing brilliantly. They aren't responsible for parenting their sister's child.

[@MsTemptation]

Story 2: This is why abortion will keep moments like this from happening. NAH.

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 2: NTA but i feel OP should reach out again, if only to let them know he didn't want to hurt them and ask for time before they talk again, IF they talk again.

[@paden1865able]

I have a saying about my son, "My kid, my responsibility to raise and care for." Yes, he's on the Spectrum but I would never dump him on anyone because I love him more than my own life.

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

Story 3. That relationship is probably over.

[@metalking837]

Story 3. YTA. Punishing a victim of sexual harrassment on the grounds of blindly believing family is deplorable. The bf had every right to stay, as he is on the lease, so OP resorted to threatening instead of leaving herself. The bf should turn tale and never look back. If he stays the sister now knows OP will defend her actions and she won't be reprimanded for her disgusting behavior.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

Story 1: Raise your own kid. This is not your responsibility, her problem. NTA Story 2: NTA Just not! So sorry OP NTA Story 3: I doubt he's lying. The sister is definitely wrong, he was avoiding her. Why would he just do that, why not ask why? YTA

[@caiargagnon]

Story 3: great scam. Move into boyfriend's apartment, get sister to move in and be creepy, kick boyfriend out because sister doesn't lie, keep apartment. But also very AH scam

[@globalwarming5243]

I might be late but good luck with the meeting!!!

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 4: OP sounds like a narcissist. She provides a FREE thingy for her friend and kids. She then doesn't respect the children's body autonomy by assaulting them with water making the swimming pool not very fun for them. OP sounds like she has no empathy for anyone but herself. She can be overbearing and rude and play rough with kids. But no those kids can't complain about not being treated with respect. They are children so they way they'll complain will NOT be very diplomatic, but at least it will be sincere. OP then gets offended like how dare they be mad at her for ruining their fun by splashing on them when they didn't want it. OP should have instead felt sad and guilty for making the children's swimmingpool experience miserable. That meant their mother, OP's friend, also didn't have an enjoyable time because her children are upset. Sounds like OP has the mentality of a child who was wanting the full attention of her friend but had to tolerate the fact that she had to share her friend's attention with two little children. Good thing they are no longer talking to OP after OP threatened to just abandon them without any transportation.

[@ebrown7338]

Story 2... NTA... Bio parents AH! Excitement is one thing but they were over-the-top and extraordinarily insensitive. I cannot imagine that NO ONE suggested they slow walk reuniting with the child they gave up for adoption 19 years prior. They did NO research on how best to reunite with a child put up for adoption? No one said, maybe one of you or if OP is comfortable, the two of you (bio parents) should meet with OP first? It is just incredulous to me that they had a full-on family reunion at OP's expense. So their two families' curiosity was more important than the mental health and well-being of OP? Though apologetic AFTER THE FACT, there's too much information out here for them not to have known this wasn't the best for OP. Their selfishness makes them the AHs in my opinion.

[@passionproject568]

I cried for story two...

[@andronikoswendsofchange1151]

Story 1: The woman shouldn't change her lifestyle at all. You should never give up the habits that are benefiting you for someone else. You'll lose those benefits, resent the other person, and no one will be happy. The habits she has cultivated are difficult to start and maintain. If she gave them up, she'll have to start over again and make up for her losses. Story 2: Highly inappropriate for the parents to bring their extended family. At the maximum, they should have only brought their spouses and the first words out of their mouths should have been questions about where their son is in life and what happened to him. Story 3: If I was the boyfriend, the relationship would have been over the second she didn't believe me and told me to move out. Also, I wouldn't have moved out. When she threatened to leave with her sister, I would have helped them pack their bags and showed them the door. Story 4: The woman's first mistake was inviting her friend and her daughters to this retreat in the first place. It sounds like she didn't care for the children to begin with, so it's her fault for subjecting herself to a situation where she has to put up with these children whom she considers bratty (whether they really are or not is beside the point, the woman thinks they are). She would have been better off going alone or inviting her friend only. I also have to wonder if she actually was a little mean to the children in the pool because of her low opinion of them and didn't realize it due to her bias. Whether the child is five years old or not is irrelevant. If the child spoke in the way described, it sounds like there are some parenting issues, perhaps the parent(s) blindly believe their children do no wrong or they are weak on disciple and instilling manners. The mother should have had her daughters apologize, not for what they said, but for how they said it. It may have been a good opportunity for the daughters to learn how to more politely express themselves and there may have been a chance the woman would have apologized for going at the children a little too hard at the pool.

[@zerobolt9506]

Story 2: I say it one of those rare NAH and the only thing that would make OP an AH is if they don't talk to their bio parents and try to make them and not sure if OP's a boy or girl but their self feel better.