Alex Cooper ON: Feeling Insecure? This Video Will CHANGE Everything! | Jay Shetty

Today, I talk to Alex Cooper. Alex is the creator, host, and executive producer of the hugely successful podcast and brand Call Her Daddy, which amasses millions of listeners per episode and frequently tops Podcast charts. In 2018, Alex began to blaze a path through the podcasting medium that had never before existed: a space where women were encouraged, empowered, and emboldened to share their unapologetic stories and truths. Now one of the most listened to female podcasters in the world, Alex continues to break all boundaries by shattering stigmas and stomping on misogyny, all while keeping mental health and personal empowerment at the forefront. Her thought-provoking conversations are meticulously designed to explore wide-ranging topics such as life experiences, culture, health, relationships, and more, all through her lens of comedy and extreme candor. To the millions of devoted gen-z and millennial listeners (“The Daddy Gang”) the Call Her Daddy brand represents a new set of values and standards, with many quotes and phrases permeating pop-culture vernacular. In addition, the Boston-bred entrepreneur has a successful merchandise line, as well as several exciting business endeavors in the pipeline.
Alex bravely shares how she suffered through constant bullying in her younger years and the trauma she still carries because of it, the pain of feeling uncomfortable with your body, and how creating content has helped her find calmness, peace, and purpose. We talk about how gender equality remains a delicate subject, how women can help other women through various programs and campaigns, and how self respect is one of the things we owe to ourselves. We also discuss how social media can heavily influence our thoughts and actions, how to set boundaries with it and for yourself, and why finding the right partner plays a big role in our success.
Throughout the conversation, we learn that despite the many challenges we’ve faced and will face in the future, there’s no other way but to keep moving forward. Having the will to do so will help mold us to become a better version of ourselves.
What We Discuss:
00:00:00 Intro
00:04:56 What was your favorite thing about Italy?
00:06:33 “I turned to making content as an escape.”
00:18:01 We all go through similar experiences
00:20:07 “I’m the same person…”
00:25:54 The trauma of being bullied
00:32:04 We are not equal to men?
00:38:18 You can be mindful and determined
00:43:32 What is your relationship with respect?
00:55:20 Taking the show to a different level
01:00:23 It’s okay if you don’t know things
01:05:46 Dealing with hate comments
01:12:34 When people assume you’re a bad friend
01:23:54 Respecting the privacy of your partner
01:30:55 What are you looking for in a partner?
01:36:45 TheManySidesOfYou
01:42:25 Alex on Fast Five

[@Kopfootball9]

In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.

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[@jackiee2430]

I love how they listen to each other. No interrupting.

[@mobill93]

Yes it shows respect and genuine engagement. When I'm talking to someone and they keep interrupting i either don't continue or end the story faster bcs i know they just want to talk.

[@selin3282]

I had goosebumps for 80% of this interview. This brought me so much clarity on so many personal experiences. Thank you both.

[@grannyronna]

Same here. I was moved by this video and has inspired me to be a better person by reminding myself that I am empowered and can influence a lot of people.

[@joseph7105]

I have a teenage daughter I'm going to show her this interview

[@missnoellechristine]

This was BY far my favorite interview.. not only do I adore Alex, but I felt like this was so therapeutic for not only us, but the both of you as well 💕

[@claytonbrown7120]

Didn’t Alex dog her friend though

[@claytonbrown7120]

@@owenwilson4608 other than those meaningless things, don’t ya kinda think she’s pretty cool?

[@t5396]

@@claytonbrown7120 I think they are both skanks.

[@claytonbrown7120]

@@t5396 Skanks? You mean like every guy

[@iyaabdo7524]

Love this! We are always looked down upon or called “dumb” when we don’t know things but it’s like no, we simply just don’t know that. I love when Alex said “When you have people on platforms that are acting like “you don’t know what you’re doing?!” It makes you feel ashamed. It makes you feel insecure and then you just don’t do anything at all”, because the exact same goes for a topic she covers often: intimacy.

[@nikole625]

I became a fan when Alex started having these types of conversations with others. It was just more relatable for me than the original conversations on the show and now I love all of it. We can find so many things to relate to if we don’t judge someone from just the outside

[@connoryoungman5393]

Such a good point. It’s cool to see the other sides of her that she doesn’t always show on her podcast.

[@lynnbilbrey8823]

I have never needed a podcast more deeply. I am so moved and loved by this episode. I love love love y’all’s voices. Something about both of them just calms me and makes me feel seen.

[@SaraClark92]

YES!!!! This is incredible, so happy that you had Alex on the podcast to chat.

[@elisamay4936]

i am SO moved. I turned 24 yesterday and needed this more than anything. thank you both! never listened to call her daddy before because of the stigma of being overly sexual which was something I had no interest learning about, because I felt secure in that department. I will definitely tune in from now on. and I am here for it. thank you Alex and Jay

[@hopeyonekenobi]

I relate to Alex so much dude down to being a Leo. I was bullied and am now such a loving person. I’ve always connected with strangers so easily. Just finished a year and a half of therapy myself to heal a lot of trauma. What an episode thank you guys for your vulnerability.

[@Alice-zm7rx]

Thank you Alex and Jay for a very relatable and inspiring conversation

[@general.disdain]

I’m crying so hard right now because Ive gone 30 years with this being the first time I’ve ever heard someone else say out loud that they wore 3 pants to school to look bigger. It felt so shameful and we think no one else has done it so thank you for saying it out loud. Idk why I needed that but I did.

[@SJ-zd9el]

I did it too🙃

[@alanarose3359]

This was so therapeutic to hear someone so successful and with a huge platform be honest about the incredibly dark and difficult experience of bullying. I’m so grateful for the vulnerability on both sides of this interview. Thank you, thank you, thank you. There are no sufficient words. ❤

[@krystalc5823]

I love this! This exactly what me and my husband have been talking about. We listen to different perspectives, but we pick and choose what works for us individually.

[@nathanleung5592]

Thanks for making my weeks, days & months better! Continue to listen to this podcast & this duo! Confident more than when l first started listening to this podcast! Keep up the good work Jay!

[@imaginator13]

Getting this interview free is feels like a precious gift! This was important therapy sessions 101 ! So thank you Jay S for bringing such a insightful conversations with various people from various fields.. every episode gives something very important to include in my life

[@laurenjackson4564]

Jaw dropped when she talks about the teacher calling her out absolutely heartbreaking 💔

[@karacoldmusic]

Ugh me too. Made me wanna cry but also made me really angry at the teacher

[@sahibkaur9298]

In tears listening to Alex story :)) but super proud and happy for her .. Jay god bless you !! Truly honoured and blessed 👑🪷♾️

[@hannahschmitt4144]

Love this podcast episode. It again shows, you never know what a person has experienced in the past. Always be kind.

[@barbaramariadasilvadasilva3226]

“I am the same and a different person at the same time” and the power of inner strength vs. external strength. I love it, it really resonated with me ❤

[@jessandd03]

I did not think I would have made it through this whole video, but I ended up learning so much and it gave me so much to think about and reflect on. So thank you for that.

[@allisonlavanture8331]

This interview is so wonderful 🤍 it explains the experience during early education that many young women endure, and don’t always talk about. In a world where all children are free to grow without judgement, imagine all the unique humans serving their purpose on earth with love!! 😌thank you both so much🤍🫶🏻☮️

[@victoriavelazquez7028]

You’re not loud you’re just passionate about the topic you talk about & I love it bc I’m the same way 🥹❤️ I love you both 💕

[@scentofcanela1803]

This is my fave guest podcast episode in this year. Wow, what a convo! Thank you both🧡

[@rhiannonsavatar2619]

Jay, I love your podcast. I love Alex. I love the vulnerability and connection that I feel every time I tune into what you share with the world. Thank you for doing this work

[@ashleyparcells8755]

Life is such a product of the total experience :It's a disservice to suppress the darkest part of the struggle while staying grounded embracing the positive rewards of present .Thanks for sharing

[@MiTestimony]

Such a powerful message. So relatable and the vibe between you two just fitted me in this conversation and my life and perspective, blown. ❤❤❤

[@butterflybaby4467]

Thank you so much for this podcast! So glad you had alex on. This was an important one for me to hear every word right now : )

[@vinnykenya2]

This podcast has given me a reason to always appreciate myself and I learn to be strong when I'm at my lowest ! I'm a big fan of Alex cooper .she's doing a great job out here and that's what we want from her and I'm rooting for her everyday ❤❤!

[@haleyferguson1094]

Spectacular!! We are far more similar than we are different. Feeling inspired to use my journey to help others! ❤ Makes me saddened to see a world where real beauty is unappreciated. Rise up, make a difference and chase your dreams.

[@anagarciadiaz8549]

I love both, Alex Cooper and Jay Shetty's calling and intention embedded in their work. Huge admiration for what you guys are developing proffessionally💕

[@hannahbush9952]

This interview was so PRACTICAL - I learned so much from Alex - just the idea of "does this make me feel good?" and putting the phone down, etc. THANK YOU!

[@stephaniec9355]

This episode made me feel horrible being almost 30 and still struggling with the effects of abuse and bullying. I didn’t have the opportunity to “find my outlet” so I dissociated. She’s lucky her dad was mentally stable and a supporter!

[@kingfresh3100]

I don't think you should feel bad about that at all. We all have struggled with some type of trauma in our lives these days in some way shape or form and I don't believe we ever truly get over it. It reminds me of when I confronted my mom about the abuse she put me through as a child. Her response was "that was a long time ago, just get over it". That we extremely hurtful to me because in reality everything I did after that was because of that abuse as a child. You cannot trivialize your own emotions. Learn to live with them and make your situation better as time goes by. Everyone's story is going to be different but that's okay. Some people have father's but I don't. That is okay because I know that he's in a better place. I know that I will be great because of the advice he gave me when I was young. I'll end it with, live your life and don't try to compare to anyone else's situation and be proud of any progress you have made! You got this and don't ever give up!!

[@09karolita]

Every day is a good day to begin your healing process.

[@angel288577]

Instead of feeling bad realize its never too late to find that outlet! Switch your perspective. I know its way easier said than done but trying could allow great things to happen.

[@brittanys670]

Whatever your going through it’s different for every individual this is just her pov. You’ll get there and your going to be ok ❤ ✨🕊🙏🏼

[@Petunia1738]

Therapy

[@Rocksteadyxo]

Omgsh, I grew up being bullied (by mostly boys) about being really skinny. People would make jokes consistently about how they could break me. Hearing about the bullying and how you started escaping in creating content really hits home for me and kind of peeled back a scabbed wound (this was 10-20years ago) I had to pause the video here to journal and reflect but I’m so excited to watch the rest of this.

[@paulalee2345]

This was a very interesting and humble interview. I love the both of you humans. Y’all are so down to earth, I wish we had more souls in the world like you Jay and Alex ❤❤👌🏾

[@hassnatahmad5339]

It’s crazy how a lot of the bombshells, studs you see nowadays were bullied in school and struggled to fit in with their peers. Respect ✊

[@alid0228]

I literally went straight to Instagram and DM'd her ❤ Jay THANK YOU FOR INTERVIEWING HER! I got so emotional during this- I relate so much to her. And jay she really got you to open up as well. This was such a naturally flowing authentic conversation. One of my favourite podcasts of yours to this day!

[@LauraZepedaR]

I was not expecting this to be my favorite interview you have ever done. I clicked on it because I was bored and I fucking LOVED THIS INTERVIEW. This is insane. She is such an inspiration andI have to confess I always put her in a category that was so far from the truth. Thank you for being such an amazing interviewer, this was crazy good. You two should make another podcast together.

[@Teddietonbear23]

The way he talks about he’s mum. How sweet and beautiful. She’s the Rock and clue to everything ❤❤❤❤

[@maca_campo]

Minute 23, how she took the question to the next level to answering in the opposite way as the confidence she have already and won’t take her back! Alex♥️

[@myaalberto2959]

Ommgggg Love this!!! I had to send to my nieces!!! Where were you 35 years ago lol this would of grounded me during my high school years what a powerful message to all the young ladies out there on their path to self-love, groundness & healing!!! Loved it 🥰🙏🏼.

[@yazminlomeli]

Loved this interview 👏🏼 this is my first time listening to Alex and her podcast but definitely not the last, very inspirational. As always thank you Jay for sharing awesome content with us 🤍🤍

[@mariajosesanz1626]

Possibly the best podcast I have ever watched. Absolutely loved it.

[@TheCatluvr10]

Okay wow. I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a KZbin video, but I cannot be passive here. That was such inspiring and moving content. Thank you, Alex!

[@tinythunder7300]

I really love this episode! it resonates so much for me and see areas that I need healing and growth and even how to get more comfortable with myself.

[@jamiefordx]

I'm HAPPY this happened! Thank. you. MUCH LOVE.

[@mobill93]

Shes such a beautiful person inside and out she would be amazing to just hang out with her vibe is very calming.

[@Therealvjv5]

What an fantastic episode 😍! I really enjoyed the vulnerability, realness, and willingness to go there!

[@heidimacias9243]

THIS IS THE INTERVIEW IVE BEEN WAITING FOR! ❤ so proud of you Alex !!!! Nice seeing you on the other side of the chair !

[@clairenicholls8024]

Thanks for making my day better! Love this duo! ❤❤❤ smiling from ear to ear 🎉

[@laurenhoagland3751]

i love seeing their souls connect

[@flowieedenn]

My coach always tells me that "90% of social media is fake, everyone only posts the best side of themselves, the fact that nobody is perfect" from here I learned that we especially women being forced to fit in with the beauty standards, beauty products, models, plastic surgery etc, will make people insecure even though everyone has flaws

[@tyeanehalbert]

Jay I recently started watching your Podcast while work with my AirPods on and I think you are amazing. I also saw the Podcast with your wife’s attendance with Jety(if I said her name correctly). You both are awesome. I have many struggles I’m working through that dates back to my childhood. I’m a 50yo black lady with the most unapologetic goals for myself. Keep up the good work, it’s working for Me.

[@alyf.6698]

They need to have a podcast together. love both their energies.

[@tikikiki14]

Jay Shetty saying he’s a part of the daddy gang just made my whole day! 😂🎉

[@liayoon4015]

thank you so much for sharing your most vulnerable stories

[@hannahk8857]

I think I have a full circle moment right now ✨espacially when you talked about people receiving you as “loud” just because you tell the truth and that might cause change. I am going through this over and over again. Currently I am recovering from a burnout, but I always wanted to do a video podcast. This conversation is so inspiring that I think I have to consider to start when I am doing better 😍 I can relate so much with your stories, been there done that. Thank you for sharing, love both of your podcast! 🌺

[@etherealisis3737]

This was so healing to listen to. Thank you.

[@krissyk354]

This podcast was so real, so engaging, so authentic, that I related to each truth. Also the last part of the podcast - preach it girl! I want someone whose not afraid to speak his mind, is honest, respectful and isn’t going to be intimidated or put me down for my success. Best of all someone who isn’t going to tell me who to be and allow me to be myself in my own space. It’s extremely frustrating when you find someone who shows no respect to what your doing. Finding someone who embodies that strong mentality - yes, give it to me 👌🏼

[@nadiaalzino5789]

I am so happy you brought on Alex Cooper!! My favourite podcaster. She absolutely smashed it #daddygang

[@PiliVen]

Wow, this conversation is a master piece! Thank you so much to both of you for your honesty and novelty. You really inspired me in so many leves. Love from Mexico!

[@JessiStephenson]

Loved listening to this!! Thank you both for being so raw and inspiring🤍

[@natashalayton3091]

PREACH ALEX!!!! I resonated with so much that you said in the "we are not equal to men" section of this episode!

[@vanillaastarr8955]

LOVE ALEX! But I loovedddd seeing this side of her. She is so strong, beautiful and I am so proud of where she is today

[@Hayaaaasd]

I would’ve never guessed that Alex went through such bad bullying- shes amazing and love both your podcasts!!

[@johannapenameza4342]

Wow!!! What an interview!!!! I’m reading everybody having goosebumps, I had too!!!! How inspiring you both !!!

[@AsmitaSubhashDiaries]

Its Amazing. I can relate so many things looking back, the untold stories . You guys radiated so much of power! Thanks a lot!

[@yunuenmartinezsanchez2554]

One of my favourite interviews!!!!❤very inspiring 😊

[@TinaMartinez97]

I felt every word of Alex’ story deep in my heart. I went thru a very similar thing, being bullied for being very skinny as a kid/teenager and then I also had bad acne. It was the hardest time of my life and drove me to think about suicide at 11 years old. I am very happy that she was able to use this experience find her purpose!

[@jacquelinekha801]

So sorry you went through this. Suicide is never an option. Proud of you for coming out the other side ❤

[@breannaangstadt2925]

I enjoyed this episode SO much! It is so relatable & to her point, our stories sculpt us & we all have shit. Love love loved this ❤

[@saraendestad4945]

Ah, such an incredible and refreshing conversation

[@STAYSANEWITHADRI]

she is an amazing human. Cant wait to connect with people like her. time is of the essense LOVE YOUR POD JAY

[@Laminamistica]

This was one of my favorite interviews. Thank you!!!

[@chrissyg9576]

Ok this is my 5th time watching and listening to Alex Cooper. I love ❤️ her! Jay you did a phenomenal job interviewing her. By far, my favorite 💙🦋💯

[@daisychavez7899]

i loved this episode so much!!! so inspiring to be true to yourself always

[@rcz2023]

This was such a great interview!

[@andreadoruskova]

really honest, open Alex, thank you so much...really respect a nd so much thank you for sharing!!! You are really amazing! Thank you! I have 2 teenage daughters, and thank you of your sharing that can help me to remember how it is to be young human in this society....love from Prague Alex!

[@jimenamedina16]

Just by hearing You guys, it literaly makes me heal

[@annapinchuk8706]

Beautifully said and very relatable

[@shehariliyanasuriya9325]

I love these interviews because they doesn't focus on publicity. They just give this genuine message they want to give. Much love❤

[@nexigent]

literally everything I have been thinking lately thank you

[@dshaka1116]

you are both brilliant and riff off eachother wonderfully!!

[@melocado]

I’ve been waiting for this duo!! Love this episode!

[@melanylopez2961]

God I fucking love Alex more and more every time I hear her speak on herself

[@theenergeticdiabetic]

Keke Palmer and Jay Shetty in the same room would be such a beautiful inspiring healing interview😍❤️‍🔥💚

[@maddynicole]

Wow i relate so much to the acne seriously loved this!!

[@aby9097]

Phenomenal talk Alex and Jay. I’ll be honest with you, as you both mentioned on this, I watched 1-2 episodes of the Call Her Daddy podcast and it wasn’t my cup of tea, and I indeed had an image of the podcast itself and didn’t watch any further episodes. I will say it’s nice to see this other side of Alex and I might listen to her recent podcast as she’s mentioned she has incorporated mental health into it and that’s something I find to be fascinating.

[@lauragrundy9109]

Alex is my absolute favourite. This was amazing.

[@lititiakorau6285]

Listening to these two vibe from the get go, is so therapeutic 🥰😘🙏

[@SandiSullivan-mz6jt]

I am so glad I listened to this interview. I did not know about Alex Cooper and the Call Her Daddy Podcast (I guess I live under a rock!) but I was discussing with my daughter that I have been longing for a place and discussions with woman where we talk about deeper topics. I am tried of all the superficial and I know woman want to talk about more . I will be checking out the podcast for sure!

[@yourfave4417]

the unexpected duo we needed! Loved this episode great conversation

[@kerrygomez5711]

This was sooooooo good 💯💯💯 So much power of words

[@lynnehodel4563]

such a good interview!

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

My favourite speaker Jay genius l love all his programs very much.

[@user-vz8dz3mq5s]

Alex is crazy awesome, hearing her speak makes me feel so empowered it's mind-blowing

[@ydkmn-pb2bc]

Wow I wasn’t expecting to like this as much as I did! I felt a true bond and connection between them like jay just made a true friend out of Alex in this interview and it was beautiful 🥲. I hope you guys stay friends forever after this 😂

[@sandrasoto933]

Thank you jay. For sharing Alex. After your guys great talk. I had to look her up.. ❤

[@nashdannenburg8617]

Loved it, thank you so much! Much love

[@MariaRodriguez-mp4bs]

I just had a dream of me being bullied, in which it happened in real life. Waking up to this is just what I needed and it seems that I still have some work to do.

[@mrbusterful]

I have heard of the podcast but didn’t know who she was or what it was about until now… thank you Jay for introducing her! 😅what an awesome human being!❤ so passionate and inspiring. I will definitely be going over to her podcast 😍 Many thanks Jay hope you are well