an evening self-care routine at the cottage

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A cottage self care routine + body and skin insecurities
THERE MAY BE AN EXTRA AD IN THIS VIDEO. I never put ads in the middle of my videos, however I decided that I would make a one-time exception in order to raise extra funds for wildfire relief efforts in my county. My valley is currently burning - I filmed this video before things got as serious and I will share an update soon. I hope you can understand that it is a one-time decision and I will take the advert down once I have made a donation ❤️ THANK YOU!
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SOAP RECIPE: I just buy local bulk melt and pour goat’s milk soap and add additional honey and herbs and oatmeal. I add fragrance as well - very economical!
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(I recommend Dr. Dray on KZbin for advice for skin conditions! She busts skincare myths and helped me drastically improve my acne)
Products I use for my oily, sensitive, irritation and acne prone skin (eczema friendly skin care. I also use Differin for my acne. Please research how to use each item):
Cerave Healing Ointment
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Cerave Calming Cleanser
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Gentle Moisturizer
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Shampoo for dandruff prone thick curly hair (clarifying, this helps me keep my scalp clean with very thick hair, the nozzle helps apply directly to the scalp and not dry out hair. It has salicylic acid in it that helps exfoliate the scalp. I only wash my hair once a week so it really helps as a stronger clean.)
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Important Channel Update + how you can help + possible evacuation :(
A lot of wildfires in my part of the world this month. Many homes lost, unbreathable air, power outages, and an enormous fire burning through my valley. Seems there will be no respite for a couple months unfortunately, until rain comes. This is not meant to perpetuate fear, only update you on my situation. This is not abnormal for this area. It is important to stay positive and focus on caring for each other at this time ❤️ We are all safe and our town is facing the destruction together and supporting those who have lost their homes. It’s a long road ahead, and this disaster will affect my channel in several ways:
1. When I first heard about of the fires I worked ahead and made some videos, knowing the blue skies might disappear. Soon I’m hoping to get some respite from the smoke by visiting family on the coast.
2. I do not want this channel to be focused on the wildfires, these videos are my haven to retreat from stressors like this (especially since we will probably have fires until fall, and I do not want to dwell on it more than needed). However, I will make a single video on this topic soon updating you on the situation, hoping by then to know whether or not my home is safe and no evacuation will be needed.
3. HOW YOU CAN HELP: If you feel inclined to help with any relief efforts I will be donating half of the proceeds from this weeks video to support our natural areas and firefighters, so simply by watching it you will be able to help.
4. At this time it is unknown, but I may have to evacuate on very short notice. That means there may be an unexpected halt in my video postings with no updates, as power outages and smoke may not allow me a stable enough wifi connection for uploading.
5. For more information and ways to help, here are some relevant links:
Support relief efforts for our wild lands: methowconserva...
Fire Updates: methowvalleyne...

[@TheCottageFairy]

THERE MAY BE AN EXTRA AD IN THIS VIDEO. I never put ads in the middle of my videos, however I decided that I would make a one-time exception in order to raise extra funds for wildfire relief efforts in my county. My valley is currently burning - I filmed this video before things got as serious and I will share an update soon. I hope you can understand that it is a one-time decision and I will take the advert down once I have made a donation ❤️ THANK YOU! A lot of wildfires in my part of the world this month. Many homes lost, unbreathable air, power outages, and an enormous fire burning through my valley. Seems there will be no respite for a couple months unfortunately, until rain comes. This is not meant to perpetuate fear, only update you on my situation. This is not abnormal for this area. It is important to stay positive and focus on caring for each other at this time ❤️ We are all safe and our town is facing the destruction together and supporting those who have lost their homes. It’s a long road ahead, and this disaster will affect my channel in several ways: 1. When I first heard about of the fires I worked ahead and made some videos, knowing the blue skies might disappear. Soon I’m hoping to get some respite from the smoke by visiting family on the coast. 2. I do not want this channel to be focused on the wildfires, these videos are my haven to retreat from stressors like this (especially since we will probably have fires until fall, and I do not want to dwell on it more than needed). However, I will make a single video on this topic soon updating you on the situation, hoping by then to know whether or not my home is safe and no evacuation will be needed. 3. HOW YOU CAN HELP: If you feel inclined to help with any relief efforts I will be donating half of the proceeds from this weeks video to support our natural areas and firefighters, so simply by watching it you will be able to help. 4. At this time it is unknown, but I may have to evacuate on very short notice. That means there may be an unexpected halt in my video postings with no updates, as power outages and smoke may not allow me a stable enough wifi connection for uploading. 5. For more information and ways to help, here are some relevant links: Support relief efforts for our wild lands: methowconservancy.org Fire Updates: methowvalleynews.com/2021/07/20/breaking-cedar-creek-cub-creek-fires-force-level-3-evacuations/ (I recommend Dr. Dray on KZbin for advice for skin conditions! She busts skincare myths and helped me drastically improve my acne) Products I use for my oily, sensitive, irritation and acne prone skin (eczema friendly skin care. I also use Differin for my acne. Please research how to use each item): Cerave Healing Ointment amzn.to/3iCxdQf Cerave Calming Cleanser amzn.to/3BCtV8H Gentle Moisturizer amzn.to/3iDiFQm Shampoo for dandruff prone thick curly hair (clarifying, this helps me keep my scalp clean with very thick hair, the nozzle helps apply directly to the scalp and not dry out hair. It has salicylic acid in it that helps exfoliate the scalp. I only wash my hair once a week so it really helps as a stronger clean.) amzn.to/3kHRUwV My soap recipe is simple, I buy local melt and pour goats milk soap in bulk, and add extras of honey, herbs, oatmeal and fragrance. Very simple and cheap! Making soap from scratch is far too a complex operation for me, this alternative is quite fun and budget friendly.

[@pamzibell6309]

I so hope you will be safe and your home is undamaged. 🙏❤

[@kita3256]

I’m in California and the fires have been so stressful! I hope you stay safe! I pray all this goes away soon. Also, I love watching Dr. Dray! I can’t go to my derm often (insurance issues) but with her recommendations, I have seen improvements. Take care Paola , and know we understand if you can’t upload on a regular basis with all that’s going on with the fires. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[@jenemar14]

Now that I know what the ad is for, I will go back and actually watch it. :) Thank you for your delightful videos. I hope you're staying safe. Sending prayers for you and your loved ones, including the fur baby loved ones.

[@simpleextrovert]

You’re so sweet ❤️

[@petitsjoujoux5011]

Please let us know if you are alright in the upcoming days when you have the chance to!

[@Abrar-ho9tz]

“ I found a lot of confidence by realising that I reflect the love my parents shared” 💗

[@SamLowry_DZ-015]

Your physical beauty is exquisite, but as you said that is the least interesting aspect of you as a person. Your inner beauty will not diminish as you age. I admire you for your creativity, your peaceful presence and your living life on your own terms.

[@ItCameFromAVlog]

Well said

[@monicaravenwolfwilliams4755]

❤️💕

[@soilgrasswaterair]

External beauty is usually considered as something that diminishes with age due to external beauty standards set by society. Beauty comes in many different forms and ages, even though society has indoctrinated people to believe the only/highest form of external beauty comes in the form of white, youth and slender. With that said, they way people look is never a reason to admire or wish to be close to them. It’s the inner qualities to look for in each other. /Scandinavian

[@ElisavetKioseoglou77]

❤️❤️

[@deligracy]

Ahh I love these calming videos. So wholesome and every post is a reminder to me to live peacefully ☺️❤️🌸 thank you!

[@consciousbeing912]

Who needs a therapist when you have The Cottage Fairy🕊 Thank you for your vulnerability and for sharing your life with humanity. Your words touched my heart & soul this evening🙏

[@yourmajesty3569]

Don't be silly. This is not her real life. Someone is filming her. And she's already said that she doesn't have internet so her team doesn't edit the film here. It's a beautiful illusion.

[@whenitgrowsbright]

Hey, that was a bit rude.

[@whenitgrowsbright]

Not you Concious being

[@numivis7807]

@@yourmajesty3569 what makes you think someone is always filming her? Most KZbinrs are filming themselves. You just need to position your camera

[@monicaravenwolfwilliams4755]

❤️💕

[@haleya1066]

The detail about how changing part of your body would be erasing a marker of where you came from is so beautifully said. Instant perspective shift

[@fee1051]

I totally 100% agree! I never saw it that way but I guess those are the words I had to hear and that everyone needs to hear at least once in their lives 🤍🤍

[@rbivproductions7146]

I hope the people who disliked this wonderful video have a better day

[@jayb3931]

What a kind and lovely person you are. x

[@sallylunamoth5542]

Ditto 💕

[@endriandri7914]

Sometimes you click dislike by accident just scrolling down. Happens to me sometimes

[@ruthieruef2185]

And the other 18 too

[@rbivproductions7146]

@@tinkerbelle1763 could be

[@cecilyerker]

Paola, you’re going to be one of those naturally beautiful women your whole life even if you’re 100.

[@luannedimaggio7025]

Prayers to your firefighters, we too are surrounded by fires. They are our heroes. Be safe

[@Gleich200]

Have here big troubles with sudden floods in Germany. Nature rebels against human interference. Our and the next generations will have to handle the problems caused by former generations

[@dr.fajeraljumairi]

I admire your hair so much , you are very beautiful .

[@glowinbble5082]

I admire everything she's got♡

[@HanzoDSagittarius]

Her hair is truely beautiful.

[@MimimooIllustration]

"My appearance is the least interesting thing about who I am" ❤ I love that, and really enjoyed yet another beautiful video of yours! Thinking of you and your area with all of the wildfires, I hope you get some respite soon ❤❤

[@jonetsu8890]

And here I sit, baffled by the secret of her gorgeous curls...water. Huh.

[@nfij]

Paola, your type of beauty is much more lovely than the airbrushed ones in advertisements. Would you be willing to share your soap recipe?

[@odaline8629]

I d love that too! Please make a video about it

[@sallylunamoth5542]

Yes Yes Soap Recipe

[@beaghmne2369]

Yes, yes, yes! Soap recipe!

[@solacesoul1881]

Yesss pleaaassee

[@lilglowfairy1585]

yesss!

[@bmknighton]

I LOVED this video. Especially where you talk about your ancestors and how you are a culmination of your ancestors and all their hopes, dreams, and experiences, and that's reflected in your appearance. Such a beautiful way to think of it.

[@1888starz]

Hello Paola, like you I've spent many years worrying about my image, looks, shape etc but realize that we are all different, have different looks and shapes and that's why we're all unique. I spent my teens worrying about my pimples, but they vanished and I was always ready to wear make-up to make me feel better. As I grew up (literally) I realized that our looks are what makes us who we are and there is no-one any better than any one else. We must love ourselves first and appreciate our differences. A good diet is the best remedy for health, body image and looks. Blessings to you.

[@sharronvoth6208]

I loved this video! I stopped watching television about 12 years ago and it has been one of the best things I have done for my health and peace of mind. I also became more introspective and learned about meditation. And, I try to be outside in nature. Thank you for your wonderful videos, which always make me happy!

[@spokinabout2236]

i just adore the scenes where you do things with your hands. breaking down wildflowers and herbs; laying them out to dry; mixing them with oils in niftily lidded jars; mixing ingredients for baking, handling the hot baked goods, lathering on a layer of some delectable spread you made and decorating it with flowers or herbs. and string! oh my, the endless wondrous things you do with raw twine! i could watch your sensitive sure hands all day long. there is such clarity and comfort in their movements, a familiarity and intimacy between your fingers, the materials you handle and your intentions. clearly all the moves you make and all the objects you handle are old friends and your connection to them is tender and true. it is all quite magical, really, and watching it never fails to bring a peaceful meditative delight to this viewer. thank you, for this dance in particular. may you, all your creatures and your valley be well.

[@peacockyman]

Beautiful write-up ☺️

[@lakemichigan6598]

Excellently put. She is so very clearly well studied & highly practiced in how to take what nature freely provides to produce interesting, useful, & always artistically arranged personal & home items. And I'll bet they're usually more effective, and certainly more attractive, than anything similarly purchasable from over the counter.

[@spokinabout2236]

@@peacockyman thanks!

[@spokinabout2236]

@@lakemichigan6598 agreed! who needs the mall when you have her meadows and mountains and forests...and capability.

[@lakemichigan6598]

@@spokinabout2236 And she's not just trying to save money. These are clean, healthy, practical products she's having fun making - and I think it's plain to see whatever her endeavor, artistic expression is always part of it.

[@gaddic.5593]

I really appreciate your lovely content. I used to be worried about vain things, such as clothes, shoes , make up, skin products but I have realized during this year, I can perfectly survive having 2 outfits only ,basic make up and some basic skin care oil. The most important thing in this life is having faith in God , inner peace and be heathly. I LOVE the small reading night lamp and your kitchen , it is so cozy and warm. Take care 😉

[@Fitzy222]

Funny how we perceive ourselves.💚 You've always reminded me of one of those literary heroines from Jane Austen's time, with their classic beauty (the kind that transcends the "fashions" of the times). Their beauty was so skillfully written about as a beauty (both internal AND external) that they were never fully aware of-like an Elizabeth Bennet from Pride and Prejudice. Thank goodness female written literature of such quality survived to our times as, let's face it, it takes a female to properly write about the irony of naturally beautiful women who are not fully aware of that beauty. Take care, Paola.

[@TheCottageFairy]

Awww thank you very much ❤️

[@Fitzy222]

@Subtle Nature I think so. Very appropriate💚

[@ClaireDeLune12]

'Anti-aging' as a term should be replaced by 'well aging' by everyone..especially the beauty industry.. If you think about it..'anti'..its so silly. Its most peoples wish to become aged...we seem to forget this and should celebrate it way more..

[@nons1206]

I literally wait for all her videos every week I just got into college and online class is so draining and life feels so fast your videos are the only time I stop and reflect in life 💜

[@Elizabetha2514]

I look forward to them all week, too. I'm not a busy student, but they still de-stress me.

[@ginamarieofficial]

I so agree!! Best of luck with college :)

[@nons1206]

@Marianne im so sorry u feel like no one cares but this is a safe space for everyone ☺️

[@janetgenolos7245]

"You are fearfully & wonderfully made." Psalm 139

[@cherylfrey7318]

Can you provide a recipe and process for your little hand soaps. I would like to make some for my friend. All of your videos are so very special!!!

[@j9keystone806]

Me too!

[@LaCocinadera]

Hermosa 🥰

[@brook7365]

“.. was drastically lowering the amount of sugar in my diet.” Me watching this while eating sour patch kids: 😳

[@TheCottageFairy]

they are soooo good though!!! 😭🍬🍬🍬 those and haribo gummy cherries lol

[@katiekatie1660]

OMG, yes, the Haribo gummy cherries!!! 😍

[@jukes243]

I'm munching dark chocolate chips.

[@cecilyerker]

I’m so serious though, she’s absolutely right. I have PCOS and my skin cleared up and my cycle regulated itself when I made a SERIOUS effort at losing weight and changing my diet. Sugar will fuck you up on every level of your body. I still have hair growing on my neck and chin, but it doesn’t grow as fast now. There’s such a connection between insulin and other hormonal systems in your body.

[@amazingandrea9983]

Take a look at Dr Sanjay Gupta’s newest book Keep Sharp re how sugar speeds up Alzheimer’s. That will scare you straight off sugar. I live in the Okanagan Valley in British Columbia ~ and share your concerns re the fires. Thank you for your gentle, instructive messages.

[@jennyfranke7466]

"SOAP RECIPE: I just buy local bulk melt and pour goat’s milk soap and add additional honey and herbs and oatmeal. I add fragrance as well - very economical!" - If you have time it would be grand with a little more specific messurments. I´ll pray you will have rain soon.

[@ashlee883]

I can't get enough of your eloquence... it's truly captivating. Thank you for each lesson you bring, in life and simple living. You're a beautiful and beloved soul.

[@bobinagebobinage2052]

hello how are you nice day from which country are you

[@ayeshaabdulghaffar7308]

These videos always make me feel like I want to cry. Its like therapy for me and reminds me to slow down. I can relate so much to when you said that you had to develop a taste for whole foods. I lived almost 30 years eating a completely junk processed diet. I have slowly added many natural things like plain unsweetened yogurt, fresh milk, herbs etc and I would literally gag at first but now I love these things.

[@pouponcrazycat5987]

Me too

[@brightpurpleviking]

So beautiful. You are wise to come to these conclusions at such a relatively young age. As a woman in her fifties, I encourage you to continue doing your body a great favor by not being in the sun all the time. However make sure you do get some “pure sun” time with no sunscreen so you can fully absorb the rays as we are photo dependent on the sun for a healthy life. Some direct sun is good but all in moderation of course! Just like those who go “earthing” and take off their shoes to connect to the earth through contact with their feet, connecting with sun, wind, rain, and even the snow is good for our bodies. What a journey we are all on! Take care and be safe in your beautiful valley.

[@pollypocket4323]

Words of wisdom! So many people never go into the sun and i can’t imagine that’s good for us. Who cares about a possible future extra wrinkle from it!

[@ninawildr4207]

Yes vitamin D from the sun is needed! I dont use sunblock...agreed

[@brightpurpleviking]

@@ninawildr4207 yes, dozens of sunscreens have benzene or benzene-like ingredients which are quite carcinogenic. There are a few good alternatives worth checking out!

[@brightpurpleviking]

@@blancaah6 nobody is being “stupid.” Educate yourself on vitamin d absorption and sunblock and the sun’s importance as far as human biology. As I said in my comment, everything in moderation.

[@moonch1l_d]

I have also gone through periods in my life where i avoided being in pictures, I have gotten sad over this but i feel comfort that it’s not just me, thank you!

[@moonch1l_d]

@@burntsoup yes that’s me with makeup! working on my confidence without it is another story, but i appreciate it so much thank you! (:

[@TJ-kz1ul]

I think you are absolutely beautiful. I come from 2 bloodlines of toxic, abusive, appauling behaviour. It has bothered me for so many years, and sometimes I make up characters in my mind of people I would love to say I come from. Maybe this is partly why I enjoy reading so much! However, as I get older I am learning I was unable to chose my family/heritage and I'm not defined by them. I am my own person and I can make a beautiful life despite where I come from.

[@TheCottageFairy]

Well said ❤️ my grandmother broke a cycle of generational abuse in her family - while I am not proud of those people in my immediate past, I focus instead the culture and ancestral ties of people who came far before them, my Taíno indigenous roots as well. It has helped me heal my relationship with my ancestors, but I understand that approach does not work for everyone. Thank you for sharing, very insightful 🙏

[@karenmininni4962]

@@TheCottageFairy Thank you for sharing this information. I have been attempting to break cycles of family abuse as well. My mother just passed away and I found out the day of her burial that her father had been an abuser of the family. I suffered sensing this abusiveness in my mom and loving her through many years despite rage was a sincere process of my soul. She died at 88 years old. I feel that abuse is a spirit that is passed down generationally and must end.

[@milenaandreamarchetti2969]

Life can be quite hard and challenging sometimes...people have suffered much violenc in the past...( not that it iis an excuse for maltreating others) One needs to be strong to deal with it not passing ahead but care for those around... It is worth the efort !!!!

[@asil6069]

So was the case for me. I came from a very abusive family..l suffered a lot in my childhood 😢 tears roll down my face when l reflect back on those days.. cursing, smashing plates, throwing furniture around, shouting and slamming doors are all l remembered about my childhood.. l am actually typing this with teary eyes and a lump in my throat.. l have no qualms to share the story of my life with you guys.. lt's very long and rough that l could write a novel about. lf it were up to me to choose my family, l would opt for gentle, laidback and caring ones. l feel happy that l left the nest and broke free from them .. l am not defined by anyone else but myself.. l am my own person l'm doing my best to be the best version of myself.. l love how l am now and still working hard to be better.

[@illuminatedgalaxies7777.]

Well said I too broke the cycle of mistreatment and broke away and made a life of my own 💜😘

[@bianka94825]

My god, this video is a literal therapy. You are so soft spoken and the background calming tunes were lovely❤ I got some proper tingles watching and listening. Thank you❤ so happy I found your channel

[@bobinagebobinage2052]

welcome! How are you. Good day. where do you come from

[@PeachesSkinCare]

You said things so perfectly. You didn’t like the state of your skin, but you were not willing to give it the time and patience. It really is that simple. What we put on our skin and body and in it, make a huge difference. You do not always need a doctor and pills, the skin is an amazing organ. Your on the right path. In our society we show false images and we also don’t value an aging and wise face. We need to change that story and realize we are all beautiful and unique and we don’t need to do invasive things to change that and in fact look like everyone else. Your videos are beautiful and so are you and you exude love and peace and that is a very beautiful thing and a beautiful gift. Blessings 🍑🙌🏻🧡Lisa

[@TheCottageFairy]

Well said Lisa! Inspiring words, thank you for sharing ❤️

[@PeachesSkinCare]

@@TheCottageFairy Thank You for allowing me 🙌🏻🙌🏻🧡🧡🍑🍑

[@ladyquinn2559]

Another girl with a strong nose here ~ I've grown to love it, and recently I learned from an old highschool friend (way back in the 80's) that she always admired it. Even when we are painfully self conscious, others often perceive us very differently.

[@dakotaovdan]

Me: Gets ready for bed The Cottage Fairy: Posts new video Me: Lays in bed and watches the video

[@roseboudelair3729]

They make me sleep better

[@barbaramazzacco6644]

Me too 🥰

[@debjh]

When you turned out the lights, I actually said out loud “Good Night Sweet One”. And then morning came, and I was glad there was more! Have a beautiful day!

[@lindamaldonado6807]

What you eat really influences how your skin, is, also water is so important, how much sun exposure.

[@michellebilodeau3882]

Eating healthier is more costly. Isn't that crazy?

[@dannihernandez9580]

This channel is amazing, it gives me peace of mind that remains and inspires me to follow my art dreams and have a clean and healthy life. I really thank God for showing me this channel a week ago. I even started my own garden... 🌿 Greetings from the Mexico City Con amor para Paola🌸

[@joychabala3040]

I never realised what drew me the most to you but now i realise its your wisdom. You are a wise woman.

[@SisterSherryDoingStuff]

we always want what we don't have. I'd love to have curly hair...bone straight, baby fine! It is what it is. As a 55 year old women, I don't buy any anti-aging products. They don't work. Had I been smarter when I younger I would have used sunscreen. Never did, but now I can't get enough of it. Simple, natural is the secret. Thank you

[@liz3511]

Same here. Dead straight hair. I used to pray every night for curly hair!

[@SisterSherryDoingStuff]

@@liz3511 💯❗

[@OriginalAcefanatic]

You have beautiful hair!! You have such a great attitude towards yourself. I’ve been VERY self conscious about my appearance my whole life. I can remember as far back as 5 years old being picked on for not being attractive. I was hoping that as I got older my feelings about myself would change. But, here I am, 53 years old and still hate how I look. Its all I can think about. I have days when I really don’t care about such things but more often than not, I’m obsessed with my appearance. Thank you for all your great videos.

[@annchovey2089]

People who affect the world in ways that matter do it because of the acts of the heart and not external beauty.

[@TheAutumnGypsy]

Your appearance is the least interesting thing about you and yet you are one of the most beautiful people I've ever seen, inside and out. Never forget that.😘 I am praying for everyone having to deal with wildfires. And a special prayer for you and your family.

[@jenniferklupfel3158]

Can you tell me what's the genre of the music you always choose? Couldn't find something similar in spotify. Greetings from Germany!

[@bobinagebobinage2052]

welcome! How are you. Good day. where do you come from

[@SelfcareforBodyMindSpirit]

I was thinking of dying my hair, you've convinced me to postpone the decision. Indeed, so much of what we do for our appearance is fueled by advertisements. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@ginamarieofficial]

Have you tried henna? I didn't want to dye my hair either and found henna to be a nice alternative! It isn't the best fit for everyone, but it's all natural :)

[@salmaa3801]

It's totally okay if you wanna dye your hair.

[@avew6448]

@@salmaa3801 i think they were doing it in the wrong way

[@avew6448]

@@salmaa3801 like wanting to dye your hair just to adhere to beauty standards and stuff

[@salmaa3801]

@@avew6448 oh yeah that is

[@aneasetucker6115]

When you spoke about how embracing your ancestry helped you feel less insecure about certain parts of your body, that really hit home for me and changed my perspective. Thank you!

[@nilox2823]

I've been feeling a lot of pent up garbage lately, especially regarding my appearance since I'm newly pregnant. I've always had body image problems, even though I have been more or less fit and lean most of my life. But being in a happy relationship, busy new life and now expecting a child, I'm afraid of what these life changes will do to my body. I'm terrified of the prospect, so much that I can barely enjoy these blessings. This video really put my thoughts into perspective and touched my heart beyond words. Thank you!

[@pollypocket4323]

Awe, I’m so sorry you’re going through that. It’s not easy but have you ever imagined if you would talk to a friend instead of yourself? Imagine your amazing, kind, smart and beautiful friend is growing a human in their belly all by themselves! A mini human looking like her and her husband. What would you say to this friend, I’m sure its nothing alike what you might feel about yourself. You’re growing a little miracle right there and I’m convinced you look absolutely amazing in the eyes of everyone who knows you. Maybe you need a little break, a quiet day out in nature or a spa day where you really feel and look inside - what do you actually think about yourself and how much of it is shame about how others might see you? I know to me, my mother is always the most beautiful. Loose skin, stretchmarks and all. None of it matters when she smiles. I hope so much for you that you are able to enjoy this magical time - you deserve it so much

[@ahandfulofbliss3045]

I went through a similar experience when I was pregnant with my little girl and the only thing I can tell you is that once you hold that baby in your arms you will only remember your pregnancy as the miracle that brought you the most precious gift. I don't even remember how I looked pregnant but I do remember the little kicks and I miss them dearly.

[@SMichelle626]

I needed this! Thank you so much!!! 💜. That soap looks beautiful! What’s helped me *Cleaning up my diet (😩) *Cutting out toxic people in my life (family). *reading *getting sunlight *early morning workout

[@salome7311]

*Random Question😊: What perfume/fragrance do you wear, you look like you smell amazing...like flowers🌺🌷🌹🌼 or fresh fruits🍏🍒🍓🥝🥥🍉*

[@ValedasBrumas]

It's a long process to learn to like and accept our appearance. It never ends, we have to constantly remind ourselves that we are unique and that it's okay! I love your videos! Hugs from Brazil =) 🇧🇷💖

[@kita3256]

I have suffered from acne since age 12. Now in my 30’s, I still with it. It comes and comes and I’ve tried it all. Veganism, sugar free or low sugar diet, Whole Foods, skin care routine. Everything has helped a bit but a skin care routine given to me by my dermatologist has made a huge difference. No oils on my face whatsoever. But stress and hormones always flare things up on my face and back. So it’s a constant battle. I also have very curly hair. And since the age of 15 I had been straightening my hair all the time. No one knew other than my family knew I had curly hair. 2 years ago I started my natural hair journey and I love my curls and now they are coming back to life. I’m learning to love myself just as I am. 😊 I appreciate this topic and this video.

[@TheCottageFairy]

Ahh! I love your story about your hair. I feel the same, hormonal issues keep my acne coming back consistently, but yes I also got improvement after following a experts regime. You’re right though, I’ve accepted I will probably always have flare ups, it’s been a journey to accept it as part of me and find peace in it ❤️ thank you for your thoughts

[@ninawildr4207]

@@danat5983 me too cant do gluten nor dairy...no sugar...

[@bubbles469]

34 people who disliked this were not able to overcome their insecurities ..

[@Amuseitt]

No , Actually this all was out of their understanding

[@Isa-yv3ce]

I just want to say thank you for the love and comfort you send through in each and every video. It’s a lovely passage into such a beautiful life. Your content calms me in a way nothing else can .You have a genuine way of touching so many souls, you’re truly amazing. Thank you 💕🥰

[@RyverBlu]

I am half Guatemalan and the other half is Norwegian, Irish, German, and Czech. My skin tone is a light yellowish tan and my hair is dark brown. I was raised by my mother and her side of the family(white) and I’ve never had contact with my Guatemalan side(they live in Guatemala). When I was younger I noticed I was different. I grew up in a mostly white community and school. I use to want my skin white and hair straight instead of curly but as I grow older I’m trying to embrace my Guatemalan side. I still feel very disconnected from it but I plan on studying Spanish and finding my family there someday but for now, we’ll start with embracing my looks.

[@shirleycirio6897]

Clara in "The Cook of Castamar" seemed so familiar to me. Her grace, poise, charm, beauty, perseverance, calm kindness, and creating in the kitchen, reminded me of someone. Then it dawned on me. The Cottage Fairy! Such a pleasure to be acquainted with both admirable characters. I am grateful. :)

[@chereeharder3871]

That was truly a stunning series ! I couldn’t stop watching over several days till the end!💕

[@Zacatecana91]

I just watched it too! You’re right about the resemblance!

[@andreamarr7213]

Binge watching as we speak.

[@leeann6662]

Binge-watching now as well. I wish there were a season 2. And yes, I see the similarities between the CottageFairy and Clara.

[@van355a6]

i almost teared up at the mixed race comment. i’m puerto rican and white and me and my sister talk about the struggles growing up mixed. hearing this was very inspiring and comforting

[@caga-ananchristine2885]

Your voice is so relaxing. I could listen to you for a whole day😅😍😍

[@QTrooper]

The de-stressing highlight of my week, The Cottage Fairy! One of my favorite things in this weeks video...the little light bulb with the plants (in it?) by the window. Any chance to find out your source for that bulb? Thanks in advance. I know it is hard to respond to everyone! Have a blessed rest of the week!

[@dorisfranco9897]

You videos always bring me joy and peace. It makes me reflect in my choices of life maybe moving in the future ✨✨✨🥰🥰💕🥀🥀

[@teresadavenport3074]

I would love to buy a package of 10 (or so) homemade Christmas cards or “anytime” cards that I could gift my mom. She loves sending ppl cards and she loves homemade artsy cards.

[@valentinatiu8353]

If such a small thing like watching an ad could help you, your area, your neighbours, i will watch it over and over again.... Big hugs and kisses from very far away! ❤️❤️❤️ Valentina from Romania

[@oceanbreeze9248]

Your hair is absolutely stunning! I've wanted hair like yours ever since I was a little girl! What an absolte beauty you are Paola - inside and out 😍😍

[@kita3256]

Wednesday time with Paola😊

[@Ojuolape]

First time I’d actually sit through a 3min ad. Sending all my love! 🤍

[@simpleextrovert]

If you’re reading this, remember that you’re loved and all things will be better soon.

[@KM-nq7ez]

Thank you for your sweet message♥️

[@simpleextrovert]

@@KM-nq7ez you’re welcome. Blessings ❤️

[@zonkebellamkhomazi2977]

Thank you blessings to you too

[@jennifertomlinson7726]

Thank you for sharing you story. You are an inspiration to many. May the Lord Jesus bless and keep you.

[@rzch6092]

It's 4.20am in London atm. Just retiring for the night at what better vlog to watch to unwind. Thank you good night /morning wherever you are peeps.

[@SharonCullenArt]

It’s crazy that I live in Michigan, and it was so smoky here. The entire state. Loved your video. I have curly hair and I just wet mine in the morning also. I wash my hair about every 5-7 days.

[@jei1625]

Hi Paola! I'm loving your videos so far. They are a breath of fresh air after a very exhausting day. Would really appreciate it if we could see you film your valley at night! Are stars super visible in your area? Thank you so much.

[@TeacupAndRoses]

My only secret to keeping my skin good (at 46 ...) is KARITÉ butter. I use it on my hair and all over my body. In combination with natural oils (which last a long time!) And it is also suitable for massage, if you mix it with lavender oil. I buy KARITÉ from wholesale suppliers. I buy a kilo, for a very reasonable price and that bag of butter can last for many months! more than a year... Rosehip oil (ROSEHIPS) is also very good, but it can be more expensive. But I use it. And castor oil too. Sometimes coconut oil. I have not used creams for many years! not even those prescribed by dermatologists. They all irritated my skin over time, and I was spending a lot of money. My favorite soap is OLIVAS :) But Marseille soap can be very expensive in my country. Better to look for local artisans. That soap can be used to wash hair too. I try to buy non-toxic shampoo and soaps. But it is a separate investment ...

[@stormflame829]

Legit a proof that you don't need 20 products for your skin/hair care routine.

[@laurenwilliams5815]

Thank you I have been struggling with my mind and negative thoughts recently I've been in a mental rut you could say so this video was so refreshing for me to watch! I needed to hear your perspective so I could change my own about how I view my appearance! I really appreciate all the effort that you put into your videos they are like a gentle hug for me! ❤

[@cindylucero5582]

YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL,YOU BRING SO MUCH JOY TO MY LIFE . YOU ARE TRUE AND AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL. LOVE FROM CHILLOQUIN OREGON

[@betsylohr214]

Thank you for sharing! I’ve found going thru menopause, my complexion is a mess! So appreciate this video.

[@PKTLFE]

I love your message in this video! One that needs to be shared more. Instead of trying to look like each other we needs to learn to love our uniqueness. Xx

[@elizabethfreshcorn6488]

I too am saddened about the whole anti aging mind set. Though one needs to take care of their body. As a temple of the Lord's. I embrace every year of my life and every winkle that now appears on my body! God bless and praying for the firefighters!

[@amandal8404]

'And now the body I find the most attractive is a healthy one'. It's amazing how intentionality and reflection can transform your perspective on things, I too find a healthy mind, body, spirit to be very attractive. I also love that you prioritize suncare, something that's underrated in the US!

[@Gandellion]

Hi Paola, I have really come to appreciate your channel and I was wondering if you could talk a little about how you started this life? I don’t feel this is the case with your channel but so many channels lack transparency about making life change. How much did it cost you financially and otherwise, and did anyone help you with this? What was your situation before making this change? How did you develop the skills to do all the things you do? What are the challenges? How did you prepare? What research did you need to do? I feel that a life like yours is the kind of life I would like to live, and I would also like to do some acting perhaps for work but I have been so indoctrinated to believe that nobody actually does these things that I can’t even see the way from my suburban life and office job that is “normal” to one that fulfils me.

[@followthefreemans]

Wow this was so needed. Thank you for your thoughts and insight. I’m so encouraged and inspired. I love how you said your looks were the least important thing about you and just a bonus or compliment to who you are as a whole. I am going to remember that and pass it along.

[@marybooth1361]

I have an herb garden and grow lavender, rosemary, eucalyptus and make my own soap too. Simple and beautiful.

[@mrs.w3058]

This video was medicine for me. As I’m staring into my midlife I can reflect back at my younger insecure self and say you have to love yourself before you can love somebody else. So glad you figured that out quicker than I did. Thank you for relaxing my mind before I go to sleep. I have my father’s funeral in a couple of days and the roller coaster of emotions have been overwhelming. You are an angel on earth. Dios te bendiga.

[@lorenenoe4472]

May happy memories help you on your journey of grief in your father’s transition, blessed be Mrs W. 🦋

[@mrs.w3058]

@@lorenenoe4472 you are a very sweet soul. Thank you for your kind words. God bless you…

[@jenjem5810]

🙏😔😘

[@mrs.w3058]

@@jenjem5810 😘

[@cherrycain6425]

Thank you for this video. I’ve always been self conscious of my looks. Even though I’ve had a number of people to compliment me on my looks. I too always was unhappy with my nose. I’m almost 55. My son is always telling me I still look like I did in high school. I’ve had cancer and lost most of my hair and my teeth are very damaged from the chemo, radiation and medications I have taken. I suffer from depression so I don’t take care of myself as well as I used to. But, you video has helped alot. Thank you and God bless you. And, I think you are a beautiful young lady. ❤️🙏🏻

[@richhudnut5110]

+1 to just water... Every time I get a haircut, they always want to sell this and that... "nope, I use water :)". I do love custom soap, I buy from Hawaii / goat's milk soap, its fantastic.

[@TheCottageFairy]

Haha! My brother is the same! The soap I was making is goat’s milk, it is wonderful

[@Vlsm_kess]

@@TheCottageFairy do you buy it in usual shop or have some friends/neighbours that have a goat? Or can I use any kind of milk? Just want to try to make some soap. :)

[@kikigeeu2be]

I've always liked the idea of making my own stuff.....

[@anye76]

This was so beautiful to watch. My prayers and deep concern are with you and all affected by the fires and the first responders who are working tirelessly to battle the blazes. @5:11 is that an essential oil diffuser or humidifier?

[@TheCottageFairy]

It’s a humidifier! Helps with my allergies and the dryness here ❤️ highly recommend Thank you for the kind words, hoping for an end soon

[@jkendall-marks3866]

If there was ever any doubt, you are truly both inward and physically beautiful. I like drawing people and your face is so unique. Maybe I will try a portrait of you & mail it. We are all awkward from 14-18. :0)

[@kellieborriello9028]

Thank you for posting the organizations above. Prayers for the community and wildlife need our support and prayers. Good bless the Forestry Firefighters. I enjoyed this video very much. I was wondering if you could share your soap recipe? ❤️

[@LG-lb7sf]

Paola!!! Please list these soaps if you can on your Etsy shop!!!! Me want!!!!

[@spd6318]

I just want to keep listening you..you have a beautiful voice...when i see your videos..i feel we are all unique and should embrace ourselves..

[@thequietlittleteacup]

0 seconds ago Going to all white schools was quite tough for me. Although when I look back I realize other students had it much worse than me. I just stayed quiet and hope to be invisible. Even though I was so shy and awkward people always were drawn to me for some reason. Many people would always try to talk to me and make me laugh. Though my grade school experience wasn’t perfect and had some downs it did have some sweet moments

[@healthwithgrace2083]

Oh yeah! Spraying water on your curls is the best🥰🥰🥰🥰 I do the same to moisturize my afro

[@jespinoy]

Those who are reading this someday you will be successful. To God be the glory.

[@dianefilteau5199]

Thinking of you and your beautiful cottage in this uncertain scary time.

[@tractormantp2113]

Very good words it is not an instant thing to heal the mind body and soul it does take work and patience a lot of work diligence self-awareness, and it’s funny because we all get caught up in the routine of just work rush home rush to work rush home get up early go to bed late everybody’s in Road rage in a hurry and if we just calm down and take more time and just like the old saying is basically stop and smell the roses and take care of your body and mind Life is much more pleasant I was on the fast track of work work work with my own business for 35 years , And I found out just prioritizing one part of your life makes you very unbalanced that doesn’t mean that I go to Disney World every weekend now I just means that I said smell the roses drink coffee spend a lot more time in nature and quiet time ,

[@et1016]

You are as gorgeous as you are brilliant. 🤗

[@Kiki--bg8sp]

What do you mean ?You buy your groceries in a supermarket? I thought you are fairy living in the woods and birds bring you fruits and deers bring you some vegetables as gifts ? 🎁

[@healthwithgrace2083]

Yes, we need to have a healthy lifestyle change to take care of ourselves 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@mutiaradianhergiati2220]

Paola, it's really nice to see this video since yesterday I discussed about body positivity with one of my best friend. Thank you so much 🌻

[@lianapalumbo8457]

I too am mixed race, to the point that when I was in primary school everyone thought I was Japanese. My father's family originated in Egypt, migrated to Rome and Mr mother's family is very mixed race. Her father was Spanish and her mother's parents were french. They ended up in Sicily and that's where she was born. Both my mother and father migrated to Australia and this is where I was born. I have very curly hair but am fair with freckles, my brother on the other hand is very VERY dark, we look nothing alike. The throwback to our ancestors is all over the place. Now my 3 children look like me but my eldest is very dark with curly hair, my second has straight dark hair with olive skin and my youngest has strawberry blonde curly hair, hazel eyes and is as pale as you get. I love seeing mixed race families and all the throwbacks to their ancestors. This is what makes us unique and beautiful. Much love Paola, stay safe Liana xx

[@TheCottageFairy]

That’s beautiful! Thank you for sharing. My sister - her name is Liana too ❤️- also has dark skin and hair. No one believed we were related growing up! So beautiful to see how creative genetics can get!

[@lianapalumbo8457]

@@blancaah6 she is mixed. As you know, the Moors ruled Southern Spain for a long time, mixing with the "caucasian" looking Spaniards. My mother is blonde, as was her grandmother. As for Sicily one side was invaded by the Turkish resulting in very dark skinned people and the other side invaded by Spain resulting in very fair skinned. There's a very big misconception that everyone from this part of the world are dark. Our family has red hair and green eyes on my mother's side. My uncle who was able to trace back our ancestry found out a lot of interesting things. But for me it's doesn't matter where people come from, it's what's in their hearts and actions ☺️

[@lianapalumbo8457]

@@blancaah6 and there you bring racism into it. This is not what the discussion is about. I'm proud of my heritage and have never knocked others. I hope you can come to realise it really isn't about skin colour at all and nor it should be. I wish you a wonderful day and nothing but good fortune. Goodbye☺️

[@lianapalumbo8457]

@@TheCottageFairy I agree and I feel the more mixed races become the better. Our beautiful planet and life on it, shouldn't be defined by what country people are from, language they speak or religious beliefs, but by the pure beauty of life and love xx

[@jukes243]

Agreed. "The most attractive body is a healthy one".