Are Gender Reveals Getting Worse?

Are all gender reveals a fail, and what happens when a lesbian goes to a gender reveal party?
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[@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar]

Oh dang it I really want to come see you in Boston! But it's 90 minutes away just to get to Boston, not counting in town traffic. And I'm the primary caregiver for my 81-year-old mother and parking is $40, I can't manage it this time. But next time you're out this way!

[@princesskatarina351]

I can't wait to see you in/near Chicago on the 10th of June!

[@AlexHigbee-nl1fy]

I'm here with my steel toe boots to tell you once again Jamie is a girl and she's always been a girl it is what it is get over it

[@hyperthermophile23]

I just got a ticket to see you two when you're in my town! 🎉

[@RivLoveshine]

You're not coming to Phoenix, so I can't. Sorry.

[@amygriffith8224]

I saw once a trans gender reveal, like with a trans flag on a box and a trans woman came out of it, it was amazing! But the comments were unfortunately not very nice :(

[@LittleV_Animelover]

Yeah, I saw that video too. The comments were something else.

[@barrylangille3523]

The thing is, that's a true gender reveal. And one thing I really hate are the haters.

[@borealernadelwald]

Every time I see a trans related post anywhere other than safe spaces like Jamie's and similar lgbtq+ friendly channels I feel physically sick reading the comments. Why is there so much hate out there? (I already don't have any social media, because I'm too sensitive for these kinds of comments, I don't want to have to considerably limit my use of YT too..)

[@AtPlume]

I got curious and I looked it up and I indeed found it. Every single comment in that comment section is fucking horrible. There is one that was like kind of nice? It's from a trans person, actually and the responses to that comment were, of course, awful. Someone was calling them a Jew which is... yeah.

[@deadsushi4287]

​@@borealernadelwald i mean, those who hate trans people tend to have lots of free time, and they love obsessing over us

[@Lady_Eleven]

*Black gender reveal balloon floats away* "So what gender is your baby going to be?" "Celestial." Big sibling just gave their little sib the coolest gender.

[@summerlovinxx]

"is it a boy or a girl?" "mortal, hopefully."

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

@@summerlovinxx LOL

[@blazelightshine2311]

The idea of siblings granting their younger siblings their genders like that is so funny to me

[@SilvrRazorFeather]

Is it a boy or a girl? It's a GooGoo Doll

[@kiraeaton5414]

Celestial reminds me of that dnd post where it's like in dnd it would class reveal instead of gender reveal

[@ardeni8385]

"I don't know if they're all fails, but they're all gender reveals, and some would argue that's the same thing." -Jamie, 2024

[@nowitchisanisland]

Profound. No notes.

[@John_Weiss]

I, Internet Uncle-Gay🏳‍🌈, very much think they're the same thing.

[@Cereja-Lua]

The best gender reveal I saw was for a non-binary kid by their parents. It was so adorable.

[@HaphasardWards]

The only good ones ngl, if they're intersex at least

[@tamararoberson8060]

The kid the first popular gender reveal party was for later came out as nonbinary...

[@PrincessofKeys]

​@@HaphasardWardsI mean I find any gender reveals to be just fine as long as it doesn't hurt the environment or anyone in said party.

[@katanah3195]

The best gender reveals I've seen are ones where the parents understand gender is a social construct and celebrating fetus genitals is weird, but they want an excuse to party and want to appease their relatives, so they throw the gender reveal, but the colour stuff comes out not blue or pink, and the reveal is "it's a healthy baby and we will love it no matter what."

[@elizabethking8373]

I’d love to see enby reveals!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The most disturbing ones are where the father is pissed off it’s another girl.

[@ttintagel]

Yeah, if either parent has a strong preference for one sex over another, finding out the sex in front of a bunch of guests at a party that's being filmed for posterity and going on the Internet is the absolute LAST thing you should be doing. Mostly because the kid is probably going to see it someday.

[@Rikrobat]

Why specifically the father being pissed off? I think it’s equally a concern if the mother is disappointed and lets that disappointment be so public.

[@yakuzaman5074]

The one with the mom actually dropping and pushing her baby because she's having a boy is so... Creepy. Boy moms and boy dads are just gross.

[@tabeatamm3594]

​@@Rikrobat either parent being disappointed at either gender sucks, but statistically speaking I feel like the father is disappointed at having a daughter more often than any of the other scenarios.

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

Or any parent not liking the gender. I mean, your baby can feel it, sense it! When you are pregnant the baby can feel it and just makes me want to cry. A child is ALWAYS amazing and perfect just as they are!

[@emsisrbc]

If you're not going to be happy no matter what the gender is, don't have a reveal moment. Your kid will see the video of your disappointment someday.

[@kevinle1083]

It makes the child feel like their parent or parents don’t love them bc they were disappointed on their kid’s gender.

[@shelleykoone2987]

Totallly agree. My least favorite gender reveals are the ones where one or both parents are visibly disappointed at the gender of the child. However, it is cute/funny when they tell their other children and you see mixed reactions from the other children.

[@katanah3195]

​@@shelleykoone2987Gender reveal sibling videos can be a lovely window into children's views of gender and gender roles. Reasons for sibling gender disappointment range from actual good insights on gender out of the mouths of babes, to very stereotypical and funny Kid Logic about gender.

[@Kirschbaumleiche]

I also wonder... Are not the parents the one who knows first usually? So why are they surprised at all? Did they not organize this shit by themselves?

[@sanikuanonym1105]

@@Kirschbaumleiche They typically hire someone to prepare the part that reveals the assigned gender of the child as to not spoil themselves. For this purpose the doctors put the result of the ultrasound (or whatever else they use to check) into an envelope that is then given to the planner of the reveal.

[@christywillis1707]

The wardrobe one seems potentially the least wasteful because most of the stuff inside seems like it would actually be useful for raising a baby and isn't being destroyed. It is super weird, but I like that its at least useful stuff.

[@shelleykoone2987]

It does seem weird to have this outside, especially if it is not near their home where the wardrobe can easily be moved into the babies room. But I agree. The wardrobe seems to be filled with some useful items and serves as a gift for the couple/child that can be used for many years.

[@kitcat8308]

That's what I was thinking exactly..... If you're going to have one... At least it's practical stuff and not causing a ton of damage.... Maybe not outside though

[@BuddyBouncer]

At least the most upsetting aspect (beyond the absurdity of the event itself) is that the "A" and "Y" on the boxes are on backwards

[@bitchenboutique6953]

@@BuddyBouncerthere’s a high school here with a big W logo and the number of people who put it on the wrong side of the car window because they don’t understand serifs 😂

[@Gremlin_Boi_]

Oh look at all that environmental damage :D

[@mtarek2005]

yeah, they're all horrifying (ignoring the very small scale cake ones)

[@allyturner147]

That's the real tragedy.

[@Redthreadwitch]

This is always my first thought when I see these. And honestly for the last one with the couple in a bubble, I was relieved they weren’t releasing a whole mess of balloons from under that cloth!

[@sashadoom]

To be fair, breeding in general is bad for the environment

[@allyturner147]

@@sashadoom True.

[@Janokins]

Generally not a fan of gender reveals, to quote Monty Python, "I think it's a little early to start imposing roles on it, don't you?" The black balloon floating away was my favourite. Maybe they could have had a baby stencil with the spray paint one to give it a more well defined ending

[@verenabecker2724]

Agreed. Speaking as the parent of a non-binary kid, I'm endlessly glad I didn't let myself get talked into having a gender reveal. It's just...so very pointless, and I hate how they're reinforcing the gender = sex bs that so many people are working so hard to debunk. Like, it's a sex reveal. Hooray, we are literally announcing what private parts were seen on an ultrasound.

[@PrincessofKeys]

I personally think its not bad at all as long as you treat your child later on on life with said respect and don't force gender roles onto them its fine in my eyes

[@Church_of_the_Skittles_Snek]

Ase 🙏🏿

[@wizardontherocks]

​@@callmekells.WOW, that is literally awful.

[@verenabecker2724]

@@callmekells. That is NIGHTMARE FUEL 💀

[@ttintagel]

Just the fact that they call it gender reveal instead of sex reveal is ridiculous to begin with.

[@niknak8412]

Isn't pregnancy a sex reveal anyway?

[@LemonHallPartii]

@@niknak8412LMAO

[@RainbyFIN]

​@@niknak8412Ayyyyyyyy

[@MidoriyamaRArekusu]

I think it’s because the parents who hold “gender reveal” parties are the kinds of people who think gender is the child-friendly word for sex.

[@MidoriyamaRArekusu]

@@niknak8412 😂 I love that response.

[@Heather_Duke]

It's insane what gender reveals became considering where it started. IE: the woman who made them popular had had miscarriages before and was just happy that this pregnancy had gotten to the point where you could find out the biological sex, considering the pregnancies had never gotten to that part before. She had a party with close family/friends and made her own cake (that was like a duck or bunny?).

[@PerovNigma]

She also disavowed gender reveals becoming a trend, and her own child later turned out to not be cisgender.

[@Heather_Duke]

@@PerovNigma Yup! She did. It's clear she really loves her kids.

[@dietotaku]

so it goes with most things. the person who created mother's day wanted to acknowledge and celebrate her own mother for all the sacrifices she'd made raising children, and it not only got turned into a hallmark card holiday where most people put in little to no effort actually acknowledging their mothers, but now all the childfree people want to butt in and make it about themselves talking about "fur moms" and "plant moms" and shit. the one day a year that's supposed to be about mothers of human children not being taken for granted and ignored, and we still get taken for granted and ignored.

[@PerovNigma]

@@dietotaku And because it's the 2020s, there are even people who claim that the existence of Mother's Day and Father's Day is insulting to single fathers and mothers respectively... 🙄

[@kdepp90]

​@@PerovNigmaliterally how, tho?!? 🙃🙃

[@Clownin-round]

The balloons and planes are just the textbook definition of what's wrong with gender reveals

[@lilkitebastard]

Iirc one of the planes crashed and they kept celebrating.

[@Him_He_Me]

Or when people are starving.... lets waste money on this

[@luishp3]

@@Him_He_Me isn’t humanity great? I hate it here. 🥲

[@yakuzaman5074]

Hard to agree with you imagine spending millions of dollars on your unborn kid just... To tell your friends and family what set of genitals they have. Like yikes,

[@armie4172]

I hate seeing ridiculous amounts of waste in any context…but when it’s for something as unimportant as a “gender reveal” it’s just so, so stupid. 🤦‍♂️

[@Moka_Peach]

Gender reveal parties were made by a woman back in the 2000s, after a string of miscarriages, where she celebrated getting to find out the sex of her baby. The state of gender reveal parties has made her disavow them altogether which is so sad. Her child is also non-binary and she's very accepting which is nice to see. I've seen a few gender reveal parties for trans/non-binary people which are always lowkey and sweet. I did love seeing the young kid cut the balloon away, bye bye I guess?

[@katanah3195]

I love "oops, we got it wrong" gender reveals.

[@_Lvserr_]

The one where the balloon ran away was non binary rebellion, relatable

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

LOL Should have been a yellow balloon then :D Its usually the neutral colour if you dont want to use the traditional ones.

[@Chocobo0Scribe]

I keep seeing these off the rails gender reveals and keep asking “what happened to just…cake?”

[@rebeccathegachatuber3040]

Yeah my parents revealed my little sisters genders(twins) with just cutting a cake with pink inside.

[@ILoveYou-rv3pd]

Gender reveals in general are a pretty new concept, and honestly just an excuse to have a second baby shower. The fact that they’ve gotten this excessive this quickly is bizarre.

[@alliex51]

Well if it doesn't make the 5 o'clock evening news it wasn't done right.. jk.

[@dietotaku]

well that won't get you very many likes and shares on instagram, will it?

[@cathleenc6943]

Yes, but the cake one where they cut open the belly was full on creepy.

[@Rikrobat]

My biggest issue with these gender reveal things is that so many feel like an excuse to show off online rather than being an intimate fun reveal for the parents and their loved ones. Just feels tacky and attention-craving rather than sweet. But if that’s what people want to do, then whatever.

[@mr.x2567]

They’re doing harm by accelerating climate change over a Tik Tok. They don’t deserve people going easy on them.

[@elaexplorer]

Well, I mean the normal ones don't go viral so there is a skewed view of them in general

[@Rikrobat]

@@elaexplorer - Right, but that still leans into what I mean. Doing a gender reveal party for friends and family is chill, whatever makes the couple happy, but if the intent is to post it online for attention, grandiose or no, it feels tacky to me. Intention over execution.

[@petthequeenofmaddness8592]

that one was good with all the cake's and stuff

[@tamhalls646]

As a 48yo non-binary queer with four rather younger cishet step-siblings who now have 9 kids under 7yo between them, I have been that relative wearing the "Gender is a Social Construct" t-shirt to the gender reveal party. Also a "Cinnamon Rolls not Gender Roles" t-shirt to another, and "The future is non-binary" to the third one. They stopped inviting me after that 🤣

[@XenoTheFolf]

I have a shirt like your "Cinnamon rolls not gender roles" shirt but mine says "pizza rolls" instead of cinnamon rolls! XD

[@ekrtznekrtz5229]

@tamhalls646 There is no such thing as non-binary. A person is either a man or a woman. Fact.

[@sashadoom]

Keep on fighting the good fight, comrade!

[@Conklestothemax]

The wardrobe one could be really sweet if it was paired with a baby shower and it was stocked by gifts from friends of the couple to help with baby prep

[@TheQuietTyper]

It kind of looks like that. You can see quite a few clothes.

[@benjikohoss8069]

That's what I thought it was, I was getting boomer vibes (I mean that jokingly of course!) from Jamie on that one hah. I thought it was nice, a new place for baby stuff, already half filled with said baby stuff. I liked that one.

[@elizabethmcdonald2569]

I agree, at least there was stuff in there that they could use, instead of renting vehicles for a day

[@adidi7789]

So proud of my sister and brother-in-law for being ok cis people and just telling people they're having a girl. No drama, no danger to anyone

[@AutisticRebbetzen]

We only told close friends and family. When people asked, I'd say in an artificially animated voice, "It's a [some kind of baby animal like a puppy or a kitten!]" When I got so big with my second that I looked like I was having twins, I switched to, "It's a hippo!" (Though I am also in a culture where it is common not to tell. Many of us don't even say we are pregnant until it is obvious.)

[@colorbugoriginals4457]

in my family, no one knows until after the birth. i wouldn't have it another way.

[@cassdun619]

I'm the "toxic" one that told no one the gender cause I didn't want the gender roles on my kid before they were even born. I knew the gender but told no one and people in my family were upset and 1 even waited till my kid was born to buy presents because of all this

[@davidestabrook5367]

​@@cassdun619When my brother's had kids, I didn't want to know what sex they were until after the kid was born, because I wanted it to be a surprise.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

One of my friends had a kid recently. No drama, just a pic of her, her husband and her little girl in the crib with the announcement in a FB post. That's good enough.

[@Leena79]

The one with the planes was like, yeah, we're making the next generation, but also making sure they have no world to live in.

[@HauntakuTV]

Imagine a helium balloon catching fire yikes

[@CatarinaStone]

@@HauntakuTV a what...?

[@lawan7]

Exactly what I was thinking, thank you!

[@tartarussauce2498]

​@HauntakuTV helium doesn't burn though, you must be thinking of hydrogen

[@sentientbeingslove]

I organized a gender reveal for myself a couple years back. I had a white-frosted piñata cake that was layered with the colors of the genderfluid flag, and it was filled with Skittles that spilled out when cut. 🎉

[@ShadowAnimeation]

I don't like gender reveals because not only are they over the top stupid these days, but the women who came up with them says she feels like people are making a mockery of her party. She had a gender reveal because she had miscarried several times and then she finally carried a child long enough to know it's gender. That's why it was a milestone event for her. Not an excuse for a second party like most people use it for, or some way to show off to friends and family. But actually something that was deeply meaningful to her and her partner. And now it has a bad name and has been trivialized, because of people being stupid and trying to out do each other.

[@PrincessofKeys]

Well its those people fault and not those who genuinely just want to share it with friends and family. Knowing the backstory makes a difference afterall.

[@bore-aliss]

It really is a sweet origin story, especially since you can't tell sex in first trimester, when ~80% of miscarriages occur. Very much re-contextualizes from "it's a ___ role!" to "yay we can actually celebrate our child without fear!" (the bit about that kid being non-binary is very much the cherry on top)

[@alice5790]

​@@bore-aliss literally, I was just about to comment how the kid ended up being non binary 😅

[@StarryLily22]

I did a gender reveal with my trans ftm friend a few weeks back so he could come out to his mum. We bought a small cake and crappily wrote “boy” in writing frosting on top. We also bought a “it’s a boy!” Pin and a blue paper confetti popper. It was just the three of us and his mum found it very cute.

[@ninotor2080]

Im trans, i wanted to come out to my family, did My own gender reveal

[@barrylangille3523]

Yes! That's the kind of gender reveal I like!

[@borealernadelwald]

I wonder how I would do that. I'm agender and the only thing I can think of is slathering a balloon in whipped cream so when I reveal what's inside the "cake", it would just pop, haha. (Just a hypothetical, because I don't have anyone I would want to tell anyways)

[@TCHorwood-xq7mw]

​@@borealernadelwald You've told us, and I for one am happy for you ❤

[@borealernadelwald]

@@TCHorwood-xq7mw Thank you. Those words made me unreasonably happy. 💚

[@eledeog]

@@borealernadelwald 🫂

[@hyphencubed]

the cupboard one at the start was probably "We want to have a gender reveal party but there have been too many disasters in recent years. If we want to do one, we are gonna do a small and safe one. Get someone to fill a cupboard with colourful stuff"

[@dietotaku]

cupboard? you mean the wardrobe? i get the feeling that's the actual wardrobe from the nursery and they were like "fill 'er up, fam, and we'll find out when we see the stuff we got"

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

I actually was okay with that one I figure that was the cupboard they bought for the baby's actual room and they're going to be using if for the baby. I don't really worry about genders at this age. Believe me, the kid is not going to care of notice for quite some time.

[@Hannah-lo3gn]

My first thought was they combined it with a baby shower. Revealing the gender with things the parents actually need for the baby like clothes makes WAY more sense than wasting money (and damaging the environment) with balloons/smoke/dyes/fires/etc. That cupboard is actually useful! Once they get it out of the field, of course. I guess it's simply unrealistic to expect anyone throwing a gender reveal party to make sense 100% of the time, the silly sausages (or silly NOT sausages - wait for the bbq to explode to find out which!) 😂

[@dantevito1193]

Why make a "gender reveal" of someone that wasn't even born, if they won't have a sense of their own gender until they are at least 2yo (and it might not even match what they were asigned)?

[@barrylangille3523]

If they called it a sex reveal or something, it would make more sense. That might change when the child grows up enough to express themselves, but still, it's accurate at the moment. I still think the whole idea is silly, especially the extravagant ones. For context, I'm old enough to remember when people had to wait for the birth for the gender reveal...

[@dietotaku]

@@barrylangille3523 but if they called it a sex reveal, people would think "sex = intercourse" and it would be too creepy. and "having a boy or a girl reveal" is just a mouthful. i do agree the extravagant ones are dumb, like surely there are better things you can spend your money on? oh to be rich enough to afford THREE STUNT PLANES to find out what bits my unborn baby has

[@overlydramaticpanda]

Because calling them "genital reveal parties" would probably get you arrested. And because these people clearly have a desperate need to show off how much money they have.

[@StormTheSquid]

@@overlydramaticpanda How about just being overly descriptive, "soon-to-be-born child's anatomical dimorphism reveal party"

[@PGOuma]

​@@dietotakubut that's how babies are made to begin with... I think these are weird either way because why y'all announcing that y'all banged 😭😭😭

[@wanderingspark]

Considering that there have been multiple deadly gender reveal fails, I don't think you're being overly cautious to worry about the car.

[@Heather_Duke]

You mentioned fire hazards, which yeah, I definitely agree with. But I was also thinking of how genuinely unhealthy it would have to be for all of these guests to be breathing in airplane fumes/smoke and powder. Especially the woman who is pregnant and anyone who is a lot older or has health issues.

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

And the pregnant woman breathing is the blue or pink dust!

[@kamianya]

And sending the colored dust everywhere can’t be good for the environment as well

[@Heather_Duke]

@@kamianya Definitely not. I mean, look at the colored dust that is clinging to the grass after all of this stuff.

[@Christina-hj4hh]

0:37 if the pregnant person has regularly done lifting pre-pregnancy, and they’ve spoken to their doctor about it, it’s safe to lift while pregnant. However it wouldn’t be recommended to start doing lifting during pregnancy if it’s not something you’ve done before. Or if they have a high risk pregnancy, it wouldn’t be recommended.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

They might not have been real weights? Just imitation ones and they held them together to give the ILLUSION that its heavy? Its just being done for a stunt after all, no sense risking a sprained wrist with a real one.

[@alyssamlaska6964]

i love when gender reveals fail, i saw one where the couple were popping ballons and blue power came out when it was supposed to be pink

[@HauntakuTV]

Fate is funny like that

[@katanah3195]

If that child turned out to be a trans guy, that'd be hilarious. Toddler me insisted that my mum was having my baby brother, until Mum found out it was a girl. About 13 years later... we find out that four year old kid was bloody right. Not nearly as funny as a botched gender reveal ending up being right, but definitely funny years after both parts of the story.

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

That second one. I wonder how many children in third world countries could have been immunized with the money they spent on all that. I know, people can do with their money as they wish but that was just ridiculously over the top.

[@coasttocoast2011]

I can’t understand the people who get upset when the gender is revealed, like ain’t the most important thing that your baby is happy and healthy, not what genitalia they have

[@kevinle1083]

I’ve heard of the woman who created them made them to celebrate her child living long enough to see the child’s gender. Yeah, I wish for a happy, healthy baby, not what my baby’s gender is.

[@ekrtznekrtz5229]

@coasttocoast2011 If the baby has a penis, it's a boy. If the baby has a vagina, it's a girl. Fact.

[@remy2718]

But daddy wants to do manly man things with his baby boy :( It's pretty silly to be this invested in their child's gender but what really baffles me is that they still choose to, essentially, gamble on it. If you feel this strongly about your kid's gender, adopt one (and hope they're not trans, I guess)

[@coasttocoast2011]

@@remy2718 Getting a little disappointed if you’re a bloke and you’re having a girl or vice versa is one thing but you see these people chucking major strops at gender reveals when the baby is not the gender they wanted

[@roowyrm9576]

Since my children were born over 40 years ago, gender reveals didnt happen, in fact the nearest I got to a scan was an x-ray to check the first born baby's position because they thought the baby was breech (she was). Both daughter (1) and son (2) arrived without any need for all the gender reveal fuss, no one expected it. My daughter did know the gender of her babies before birth, because during the 2nd scan both of them were very clearly revealing their genitals. In my daughter's case, the sex of both baby 1 and 3 years later baby 2 was told to family members only. My son and his partner are child free by choice, the only gender reveal needed there is to discover which gender my gender fluid offspring-outlaw is presenting as on any oarticular day.

[@PrincessofKeys]

Yet again I don't see a problem with these reveals. If it makes them happy and thats what they want to do then fine people deserve to be as extravagant or not as they want to. I do think if they are trans or identify as such then respect that and make sure to support them on their journey getting them to where they want to be. Remember we are all different and we dont want to do the same thing as other people. We don't want to be copies of each other the world would be so boring as it is. I truly get where people are going with this, but I also want to be neutral in all of what people want to do.

[@Misa.misato]

Thank you for being such a supportive mom/grandma to your kids and grandkids. ❤

[@KiboSanti]

"gender fluid offspring outlaw" 💖🥰✨😻🥰

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

Hehe, did you make a cool radar for that?

[@Benjifan2000]

According to my mom, after I found out she was going to have twins, I said, "But we already have a cat."

[@johapunkt3053]

12:56 Those "cakes" are stacks of diapers bound together with a ribbon, the toppers are plushies. It's basically a baby shower/sex reveal party rolled into one, which is kinda cute and fairly reasonably done if you're into that kind of thing. The actual food seems to be cake pops, cookies and meringue rings (?). So, the whole thing seems to be rather low budget in comparison to others we've seen, but I really appreciate the garden party vibe!

[@SheepasaurusRex]

funny story that i guess is a little relevant so i just had a baby last week and i had to get her blood drawn the other day. i appreciate the hospital being really inclusive and all, seeing as they have a policy where each and every patient is required to fill out a small sheet answering about sexuality preferences and gender identity. the hospital wanted to know if my 3 day old is trans.

[@teritt]

That’s hilarious like. Gender isn’t even a concept for them until like 5 lol

[@ttintagel]

It's probably just easier for them to use the same form for everybody, but it's still funny.

[@RainbyFIN]

Meanwhile the little bean hardly knows they're a human yet

[@SheepasaurusRex]

@@ttintagel yeah exactly! i'm not complaining, just havin a giggle

[@dietotaku]

@@teritt more like two but yeah

[@kiryanna]

I also love the one where the balloon floats away without revealing anything. I hope no one present had the answer, so that they just had to go on with the party not knowing

[@marieugorek5917]

If by some miracle, I ever have a reason to hold a gender reveal party, it will absolutely be a trans-ish event... blue and white and pink up front, and blue and white and pink in the reveal with a note saying, "They'll let us know when they figure it out."

[@carmenattallah6244]

I am so glad this trend wasn't a thing when I had my first child 21 years ago. But even if I was having children today I wouldn't do this. It's so cringey. I hate it. Especially the ones where one partner looks upset about the gender.

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

I agree giving a cake a c section is just creepy. Suddenly don't want dessert.

[@dietotaku]

at least they didn't make the cake "bleed"

[@cathleenc6943]

I'm hoping it wasn't a red velvet cake.

[@sashadoom]

@@dietotaku Missed opportunity😆

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

As a c section baby myself, I think its kinda cute!

[@gus8824]

*winces for the climate*

[@kevinle1083]

Weeps for the climate.

[@GlitterEnby]

Oh yikes, some of those are as much about reminding people how much money you have as they are about revealing the baby's gender. And the car one! They were endangering kids!

[@Milky_way_galaxy115]

I have a great idea for a gender reveal, but I do not want kids, so feel free to use it. You can do anything, pinata, balloon, just anything with powder of color coming out. Then when it's time for the color, it will be green. 😈 Then you say "colors are not gendered you have to guess" and watch the chaos unravel

[@ghosttieee7]

ITS A GOBLIN

[@summerlovinxx]

pretending to buy a stained glass item only to reveal it's normal, completely colorless glass. "why should I care what color goes on there? they'll change their favorite color 3 times a day, why do I have to pick one for them?"

[@vanipina7832]

It seems so weird to me to be so fixated on the kids gender, truly baffling. My parents didn't know my or my siblings gender until we actually popped out 😂

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

It is a little bit pointless honestly. The child will neither know no care for a few years, and if they decide to be something else instead that's their decision. It hearkens back to the bad old days of "carrying on the family name" nonsense. I think people just desperately want a party.

[@slimcognito383]

My mom told me that the doctors said before I was born that I was a boy but then later into the pregnancy that was girl. I find that interesting considering I’m trans so it turns out they were right the first time

[@katanah3195]

​@@slimcognito383That kinda happened to my brother. Toddler me insisted, until Mum got the ultrasound data, that I was getting a little brother. U/S said girl. Kid was assigned female at birth. Well, 13 years later, that preschooler got some vindication, she was right.

[@electronics-girl]

Yeah, my parents didn't find out my AGAB until I popped out, and they didn't find out my actual gender until 47 years after that.

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

@@slimcognito383 Very good point there, the scan is NOT a certainty, it just a "we are mostly sure". The technician giving the scan is always careful to say "don't depend on this I could be wrong". The only certain one is the amniocentesis test for down syndrome and other genetic diseases and most women don't get that test done!

[@Hanaconda_Aquaponics]

I actually liked the idea pf the wardrobe one, because they can use the stuff they're going to need to buy anyway, but I'd just troll everyone by going with a colour that wasn't blue ore pink and letting everyone be confused. 😂

[@AutisticRebbetzen]

I don't even discuss my kids' sex or gender on the public internet after they are born. I don't share their names or their pictures or info about them until they're old enough for informed consent. We all got to create our own online persona. Our kids deserve the same opportunity to decide how much of themselves to share with the public. If I feel the urge to share how cute my kids are, I share pictures of myself from when I was a kid instead.

[@sunnyandthechlo]

What?! A reasonable responsible parent? With healthy boundaries around their children’s info? How dare you.

[@AutisticRebbetzen]

@@sunnyandthechlo I guess I have a lot of chutzpah? I sure try to be reasonable and responsible. They're kinda depending on me to keep them healthy, safe, and happy and teach them to keep themselves healthy, safe, and happy as they grow up.

[@edenp22]

7:15 do you think when the kids are older and watch these videos back, see the bad reactions they will think "Mommy/Daddy didn't wan me?"

[@rockandrollfantasy86]

Very likely.

[@MegaGreencarebear]

I hate this. Why start the inevitable gender stereotyping by well-meaning friends, family and strangers (and yourself, thanks subconscious) earlier than necessary?

[@Caprabone]

For many people that's the point 😢

[@PrincessofKeys]

There not inherently bad in my opinion just support your child through their life even if they reveal to be trans. Whats wrong with a gender reveal anyways jayt society needs to change their ways of treating people and educating. I honestly feel like the only person here who don't care about gender reveal parties ans eveyeone else complains about them. As long as they aren't harming anyone or the environment I see nothing wrong ad I said.

[@krispycookez]

@@PrincessofKeys You got the best opinion here ngl.

[@nikkicoyotie8431]

If I was going to do a gender reveal, I would just use yellow and leave everyone with ._.?

[@katanah3195]

I would use yellow and purple and have a note or whatever read "They'll tell us their gender when they figure it out. If y'all came to find out the gender, no kid knows for sure until at least five years old, so it's gonna be a bit of a wait. If y'all came to hear about baby genitals... that's gross and creepy, get off of my lawn."

[@nikkicoyotie8431]

@@katanah3195 Yellow used to be the neutral colour you bought baby stuff in if you didn't know. That was what I got c:

[@thulium_3169]

every second they exist, they seem worse to me

[@libraryoflilylol199]

Are you talking about gender reveals or babies?

[@only.in.silence]

​@@libraryoflilylol199 why not both?

[@barrylangille3523]

Why the planes? As a flex, I'd say. (Look how important we are, we can get military aircraft to perform at our party)

[@EggnogTheNog]

Not sure if they’re military aircraft, but definitely flexing for the sake of flexing.

[@docteurmonkeybro8753]

those are civil planes but i do agree they still cost a fortune in gas just for flexing money

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

The wardrobe one bothers me the least because its obviously for the baby's room and they'll just move into the nursery now.

[@MarcusH]

Yeah, I'm also in the camp of "WTF is the point of this?? A LOT of expense and effort to do something silly."

[@DuskShadow235]

This reminds me of when one of my friends came out at Non-Bianary and their parents, to show support did a “re-gender reveal” and everything was yellow and purple contrary to blue or pink and ngl it was really wholesome in my eyes

[@chloe-sunshine7]

Wait, can we call them genital reveal parties?

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

We can, but it feels a little over sexual for babies. I just wish we had some other party excuse instead altogether. How about a decorate the nursery party or something? The gender isn't relevant!

[@chloe-sunshine7]

@@charlotteinnocent8752 gender assignment party?

[@lukasxaviernicolas2117]

not the dick reveal 💀

[@sunnyandthechlo]

@@charlotteinnocent8752 There are already baby showers. Presents for the baby or something for the nursery. I wonder if people who do gender reveals also do a baby shower?

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

@@sunnyandthechlo I don't know maybe they are just party people or something but it feels like such a made up excuse for a party. And a bad one at that because I feel you can see disappointment in people's faces when this or that gender is revealed what a way to be a downer on a child that isn't even born yet.

[@allysontousignant591]

The lesbian friend with that shirt is a legend, damn😭 Also may be going to Pride this year in Grand Rapids, I’m going to an anime convention so I’ll be in the general area, would so love to meet you Jammi, your sense of humor is raw and I love it

[@ZombieMinion1992]

Gonna be honest. Kind of like the idea of a gender reveal where you go to your hairstylist, have them dye your hair while you are blindfolded, get it all styled up and then having it be a cute intimate reveal.

[@SunBeeSmoked]

Gender reveals are largely unnecessary. Literally the only reason anyone has asked me if i am going to do one is "so they know what to get me for the babyshower". I dont care what people get me or the baby for the babyshower. They can get gender neutral stuff, or not, im not picky about free stuff. If me and the baby can use it i dont care what gender is associated with it. If me or the baby cant use it its probably not a great gift anyways. We dont plan on finding out the sex until birth. Gender reveals can be cute when its a small intimate thing done safely and simply, but it gets ridiculous very fast.

[@sunnyandthechlo]

See how much yellow stuff you get! For some reason when people don’t know the gender they go with yellow lol

[@SunBeeSmoked]

@sunnyandthechlo luckily, yellow is my favorite color, so I would be 1000% happy with this, lol

[@kimcarter129]

For me, they have become dangerous. There was at least one where a person got seriously injured and another one where someone was killed, here in Iowa.

[@oreolaw9911]

the balloon and aeroplane one honestly got me angry , three planes flying in close formation low to the ground with projectiles being launched up to the same height the planes is so stupidly dangerous . there are so many factors and precise timings involved in the stunt and if one thing goes wrong it could have ended in total disaster . it would have endangered not only the pilots but also the bystanders and the stupid people announcing the genitals of their baby , it is such a irresponsible stunt that no one involved should be allowed near a child let alone pop one out and raise it. also it would have cost a fortune

[@hatorigirl1202]

I feel the need to point out that the wardrobe one was on a manicured lawn, not in a field, probably at their house. Some houses just have big yards in the US

[@joycelinlgbtq]

The excesses of rich folks with aeroplanes and helicopters and yachts pisses me off. Think of the college fund!! Would that money not be spent more wisely on living expenses FOR THE CHILD? What if the market crashes and the family is left destitute? Tax the goddamn wealthy.

[@kittym4256]

We did a gender reveal for our first born, purely for family members. We had a faux gender reveal cake: it was white with a pink layer of buttercream and a blue layer of butter cream inside. Everyone knew we were only having one child, so they were very confused. Then our dog came out wearing a t-shirt with "It's a boy" written on the back. So he became centre of attention and loved every minute of it. in saying this, we're still dressing our child in gender neutral clothes 5 years on. We talk about gender a lot, and sometimes he likes to be a girl for the day, and sometimes a boy. I know and trust he'll tell us when he's ready what his gender is.

[@ChantalMonette]

I think that if you know that one of the options of your child's genitals will disappoint you, maybe don't have a gender reveal? Unless you're going to be happy regardless, do that in private?

[@sashadoom]

Or maybe don't have a kid lol

[@MischaMischief]

Regarding the fire hazard bit, in 2020 a gender reveal caused a forest fire that burnt 23,000 acres, destroyed 20 buildings and killed a firefighter.

[@jennaheiser625]

8:11 I think what happened is that they knew they were having ONE baby, and they received a box with both colors in it. That service royally screwed up!

[@SophiaMorgan-sm6hu]

Not the gender reveal parties 😭😭😭

[@v.e.8885]

Maybe that's just my middle-aged non-binary ass getting in the way but I still don't get point of gender reveal partys.

[@NevermoreIQuoth]

I bet 10:45 was loud too, it could’ve damaged a child’s hearing.

[@tessaholman5511]

Might be an unpopular opinion, but I actually really liked the wardrobe one. No ridiculous explosions, instead a wardrobe full of useful baby supplies!

[@user-fr6zt6jx6y]

Agree, if you want to do a reveal, a colored cake or wardrobe full of baby supplies is pretty harmless. People are excited about their babies. Could they be excited about something other than gender? Sure. But if it doesn't hurt anyone, I'm not hating.

[@rklong1790]

In general I feel queasy about how happy they are once the parents know. There were a few were they showed disappointment. These kids in a decade or so will know that they were at the most basic level a failure in their parent's eye. What happened to wishing for 10 toes, 10 fingers, yelling and healthy?

[@kevinle1083]

I dunno, parents want a desirable child with a desirable gender so they can either shove a camera down their throats I guess. I don’t really care about my kid’s gender; I’ll love that kid unconditionally.

[@nettlesandsnakes9138]

I think I do a gender reveal for my child when they are 12 years old, and the child will tell the guest themselves.

[@cabbitprincess]

Child who cut the balloon to make it go into space was the shero we needed

[@chocolatebar2306]

5:33 this scared the sh*t out of me 😂😂 I want to have parties for my partner I's top surgeries, should we do a gender reveal at the parties too? haha

[@jlp11889]

I have two kids, the closest we got to a gender reveal was my second son was being bashful during the ultrasound so we didn't know 100% he'd come out male. We just told our family then announced the births on FB like the Millennial Boomers we are.

[@WalterWhite-jz7ct]

4:39 THIS is the only acceptable way to do this. What is it? A BABY! YAY!

[@CreatiVastARTS]

All that powder can’t be good to breathe in. I feel like “gender” reveal should be in quotes

[@wingedyera]

I was thinking the same thing

[@reynastrange2828]

I mean, there are lots of fundamental issues with gender reveals, but the one that bothers me the most is that the first gender reveal was for a trans kid, and then it got coopted into a glorified cisnormative baby shower based on an incorrect understanding of how gender works

[@hanam7866]

why did they give that cake a c-section

[@SandraLugn-nc1rk]

Because a vaginal delivery had been more disturbing.

[@barrylangille3523]

@@SandraLugn-nc1rk 😆😆😆

[@TCHorwood-xq7mw]

Especially since dinosaurs lay eggs.

[@maggpiprime954]

I was afraid the planes would be that one where the pilot flew into the trees and crashed, and the person with their phone just turned back to the deliriously happy, screaming party like a whole person didn't just go up in a flaming ball of petrol 💔 I'm guessing that one got removed from all platforms, rightfully so.

[@julsdemers4740]

if i ever have a child, im doing a reverse gender reveal, where instead of revealing their gender, it'll just say "ITS A CHILD!" and watch everyone's disappointment as they had all been so eager to find out its gender, and revel in their misery >:D

[@sashadoom]

"It's a human!"

[@333kbool]

Sold out for my state, but the location gave me anxiety anyway. I kept trying to get myself to feel like I could do it. Too late sold out. Which I am happy it is for you.

[@theconfusedvampire]

I would probably be a little horrified if I found out I was having twins. "You know that carefully thought out financial plan? Time to burn it and get a second job. Surprise!" 😅

[@castielcurran4463]

I would be deeply embarrassed and ashamed of my parents for being this proud of specifically which genitals I have a statistically higher chance of having

[@pumpkinprincess7135]

I think you can lift when pregnant especially if you are regularly active before pregnancy a lot of doctors would recommend to keep doing it but make sure to not over do it and listen to your body but I’m not a doctor so look in to for it is different for everyone

[@DrWho160]

Yeah. I’ve seen people with low risk pregnancies still working out and the baby is perfectly healthy. I’ve heard it also helps with birth and recovery to stay active if you can.

[@ayajones6069]

"Gender" reveals are so weird/cringey to me. You're just going "Everybody! This is what my unborn baby's genitals are! Now we'll be having certain expectations of them!"

[@jennivamp5]

I did recently see a very sweet and wholesome gender reveal 'fail'. Mum knew and was revealing to dad with a homemade cake but the cake didn't work cos it turned out green, mum being very hormonal starts crying cos it didn't work so dad comforted her and suggested an alternative. The cake was decorated with fresh blueberries and strawberries so he suggested she feed him one while he had his eyes closed and that would reveal it for him. She fed him a blueberry and they were both very excited and very happy. ❤ It was a really sweet little video.

[@e.a.spikol6229]

My mum was pregnant with me in 1979 and my parents asked not to know my gender as they wanted it to be a surprise. I transitioned in my 30's so I guess it was 😆

[@foxesofautumn]

The second one just made me think the child’s gender was “climate disaster.”

[@Cloud_Eats_IceCream]

Ah yes, the best gender; "climate disaster"

[@russelhundchen8000]

My opinion on gender reveals: they are unnecessary and can be a danger for humans and/or the environment

[@lazyfoxplays8503]

I want a cake flavor reveal party. Where someone gets a mystery cake and we do a huge celebration to find out what flavor of cake it is.

[@austinluther5825]

I actually really like the cake with the little fetus reveal. I'm a medical molecular scientist, so it's fun to incorporate what is essentially a diagram of the pregnant person's current state. It would be even cuter if the parents worked in obstetrics.

[@user-kh7hu7kn1f]

They really gave a little kid scissors and thought that they wouldn't cut the string???😂😂

[@heathstolton362]

I'm sure you have had these comments but I'm bummed you're not coming to Atlanta. There is a large queer community here. I know you're in the UK but Georgia being a purple state in the US south is a huge win that should be rewarded.

[@cabbitprincess]

I think the spray painting dude was just having the time of his life and didn't want to stop lol

[@Panguinolucy]

6:22 no misogyny from that one for sure…

[@mat_has_a_hat]

I like to call them genital reveal parties, because that's what it is, and i think thats weird as heck

[@leekestner1554]

Yeah, there was a gender reveal about 4 years ago out west with fireworks that started a huge brush fire. Took them a week to put it out.

[@rolfs2165]

If you handed me a paint sprayer, I'd definitely keep spraying until it either runs out of paint or someone takes it away from me. Because I'm socially awkward and spraying paint is way more fun than having to interact with the whole extended family and whoever else showed up. Then again, I wouldn't have a gender reveal in the first place. Sure, there'd be some kind of baby announcement, but it's not like amab and afab babies have hugely different needs during their first year, so people would get to know once the baby is there and we tell them its name.