Are you AFRAID to QUIT DRINKING? Get sober now! (Episode #55)

[@summer_poems]

ohhh and this quote you said, "Drinking is giving yourself a flat tire before you set out on the road of life". Damn. That's exactly what I needed to hear.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Right?! It can become addicting talking about the excuses and low level bullshit that keeps us from just leveling up. Thank you for both of your messages! I am all tucked in for bed and hadn't heard from anyone today so thank you for checking in and letting me know how you're doing. Maybe this conversation will continue on the land of dreams. If you get there first, I'll take a french press, cream and sugar!

[@CD-zy5te]

Dear comment lurkers, You are not alone and this is a great community here at getting sober. We care about you , please dont stop trying! I found jae's channel on night 30 and today i have now reached 1 year of sobriety. Come say hi at our livestream sometime!!!

[@skol6517]

Just started following this page. I just turned 29 and have been drinking each day since my best friend died in January of 2022. 3 weeks after his death, I was in a car crash when a guy blew a red light. I was sober when I was driving. My mental and physical health has been suffering. Yet, I've not gotten in trouble with the law and I'm getting damn near perfect grade at my Community College. I don't know why I drink. I miss being fit, I miss my old car, I miss my best friend, I skip events now cuz I don't want to drink around ppl. I'm scared of withdrawals and not being able to function

[@GettingSoberAgain]

How much are you drinking that you're worried about withdrawals? Not all withdrawals are padded cell sickness, it could be as simple as just having a headache, being tired and being irritable for a few days. The people who are most commonly having debilitating withdrawals are people that are drinking 20+ units of alcohol per day. Just taper down slowly. Have 1 less drink today. 1 less tomorrow, 1 less the day after that and then be done with it. 💪

[@Knightcommander69]

Facing reality was 100% what I was scared of. When things used to get overwhelming, I'd just go escape to the bottle, and just hope things got better. They did, for a bit, until everything crumbled. Thank god for sobriety Jae :D.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Reality certainly can be scary for most of us 🤷

[@Julian-uo4is]

I want you to know what an impact you have on me :). Every time you post a video I watch it and get reminded what I'm working towards. Thank you so so much for your videos, you deserve a much larger audience (and also the audience deserves you 🙏) I'm glad to have found you, I'm going through a tough time over here in Germany but I will never look away from my goal to becoming sober - or ideally a controlled and occasional user. Even though I obvsl don't know you, I can relate to the things you share about yourself so well and I'm confident that I am actually getting better with little helpers like you supporting me on my journey. Can't thank you enough and keep doing what you love 💪☺️

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Juli it's really a special feeling to hear from you. I really appreciate your support and kind words. Part of why I do this is because I feel alone and know that there are other people out there who feel the same, think the same, and have similar experiences in life. I'm very happy to be making an impact and contributing to making the world a better place. Please keep believing in yourself to become that fully functional adult! It may just be that your inner child wants and needs to feel safe and protected...even from yourself. Keep going! Keep growing! Keep me updated 🙏🙏

[@Julian-uo4is]

@@GettingSoberAgain thank you so much for replying and reading my comment :)) I will definitely keep you updated. Feels so good to not be the only one with this struggle. And at the same time working towards a change for the better together 🙃

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Julian-uo4is how you doing today? Just wanted to check on you and hopefully give you a little motivation to stay on your path :)

[@Julian-uo4is]

@@GettingSoberAgain was contemplating whether to have a drink today or not but I'm staying busy doing stuff with my flat mates who don't drink 💪💪 having this opportunity makes things so much easier :) I did not expect to receive a message from you and it cheers me up so much 😊 100% sure it's going to be a sober day now. I hope you're able to stick to anything you might want to accomplish today as well (idk what time it is where you are) and hope your day was/is wonderful 😊

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@Julian-uo4is I like you! Haha. I'm on cleveland ohio usa, same time zone as New York. 130pm currently

[@himawari4166]

you're so right! I can absolutely relate. the absolute worst is waking up the next morning, grabbing your phone and .... oh NO!!! Which of those stupid messages can just be erased, which can be ignored and which actually have extreme consequences in real life.... like the ones you've written to people you haven't talked to for years usually for good reasons. I'm on day 1 again, today and no, unfortunately the messages can't be erased.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

A Wednesday to remember huh? Haha, welcome aboard. I'm glad you were able to find my beacon of light and I hope to be of service to you. Please stay in touch and be kind to yourself. The first 3 days are pretty rough, especially going into a weekend. Plan your days out and what you hope to achieve. Schedule some self care with your productivity :)

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I also suggest downloading the "quitzilla" app to keep track of your days and money saved. It's good to have measurable data to reference

[@himawari4166]

@@GettingSoberAgain Yeah thanks! I actually found you while typing in, how to survive the first days or something like that. I had many day ones, especially during the last couple of months, on the 2nd day, it's like a complete mind shift and I'd just start drinking again, no matter how motivated and convinced I was before. It's so annoying...

[@sarahm7764]

Same feelings

[@Julian-uo4is]

I'm afraid to become an independent adult and it's hard for me to visualise a future where I can provide for myself. And potentially my family as well. As you said it's easy to find excuses for not moving forward when youre so busy drinking and recovering from the last night of regrets. Without wanting to toot my own horn, I can see so much potential in myself. Meaning am still kind of functioning with this addiction but could be doing so many incredible things and learn new skills if I gave it up..

[@rboyeee4377]

By far losing that social life.....the last thing I want to do is always explain myself....this time of year is easy....summer is not....messed that up last year

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Very good point! I often ask myself too how I will adjust to those situations, but I have to remind myself that I will rarely be in the same social settings as I previously was. A lot of places I went to or events I participated in, I would only really dare to if I were drunk anyway. So it became a matter of: well is it something we should spend anymore time on?

[@rboyeee4377]

@@GettingSoberAgain I somewhat agree....the pub near my house is a bit of a meeting place...I sometimes just have breakfast there on weekends...you know most people there...hell two years ago I went to the states with the bartender lol....but you also see how a lot of these people end up...every year a few die off...people have a shot to remember them...which is ironic in a way

[@9coil]

This was another great episode! 2:14 Bright future or afternoon 8:40 Face life 10:56 Just in time for happy hour These really resonated with me on my journey. 15 months & 3 weeks. Thank you Jae🙏

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Hit the re-re-re-reeeeeewind dial! Let's GET MOTIVATED!!!

[@chrissiewilson7623]

......I'm trying to 'get away"....from the job I don't like....cleaning the house....trying to get away from tooooooo many responsibilities!....

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I think most people will agree with all of that lol

[@moonsauce480]

I needed this. I can never explain to people the fear i have of quittinf because theyd look at me like i was crasy. And i also didnt know exCtly what i was afraid of. Im starting. Tomorrow is day 1

[@ccxfrank109]

saying goodbye to heineken was hard for me. i love heineken but i was about to die for like the 7th time. after my last hospital stay for about 2 weeks, i got home and just stayed sober. alcohol will ruin your life. once your body is dependent on it it is all downhill from there. stop while you can in a safe way(monitored if needed).

[@TheBirdie1943]

I'm afraid to be myself.. again. I was sober for three years and fell of the wagon and then again for two months starting in August of this year. I don't know what happened. I just can't be myself for too long.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Why?

[@TheBirdie1943]

Because I haven’t found myself yet.

[@TheBirdie1943]

Did you know that this is the 8th day of tabernacles?

[@TheBirdie1943]

Thank you Jay (I know that’s not how you spell it) for just answering back!

[@firstlast8258]

No fear

[@beverlybond5217]

Because I think I’m cool being a woman and shooting whiskey and getting crazy and jumping off cliffs and riding a motorcycle and whatever else I do to mask the pain of years of childhood abuse and beyond ..I want people to think I’m a bad ass so they won’t abuse me but I always get abused because down deep I want someone to love me

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Such amazing awareness!!! WOW! We have a video on Childhood Trauma and addiction. also another older video about "What else are you avoiding by drinking alcohol?" look for those titles and more in this playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt

[@amelianac6498]

thought of a theme song for this page... "It's time to say goodbye..." to alcohol. bocelli. brightman