Are You the Family Scapegoat because You are a Truthteller in a Dysfunctional Family?

[@f.t.9889]

I can so relate to this, not only in my family but also when I did an internship at a hospital and I said to the team I was in that I did not think it was ok for them to laugh at and humiliate patients behind their backs. I ended up being bullied, shunned and punished for standing up for the dignity of the patients.

[@hyunjoobigjoe7497]

It's worse with the blue line.

[@michignamymichigan]

Exactly!

[@Roxy0405]

I had a similar experience at a hospital working as a mere lowly volunteer. It was one of the worst mobbing attacks I've had in my life. Viscious people. They took all the care out of health care.

[@lisaaromano1]

I am so sorry this was your experience.

[@lanapenrodgratzer8587]

Worked in healthcare a long time. We had an employees only bus that ferried us to/from the facility/parking lot. On the way home one day, some med students were discussing the HYGIENE of an older lady's CORPSE they had just autopsied!! Their words (and smell of formaldehyde) were making me SICK! The words more than anything else, really. I turned and looked each of them straight in the eye and asked them to be quiet/have some respect for the dead. They SNICKERED, so I followed it up with: "That's someone's GRANDMA your bad mouthing! How would YOU like it if someone was saying those things about YOUR Grandma??" That shut them up for the remainder of the trip to our cars :) Others stopped me on the walk to our cars and THANKED ME for shutting them up though - I wasn't a scapegoat.

[@musicandpoetry_8]

“Don’t try to explain yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you”

[@philipmulvihill1455]

the higher we SOAR the smaller we appear to those who can not FLY - Nietzsche

[@undercoverbird8592]

Nice ❤

[@terence4427]

She is hitting the nail on the head in this video. The reason so many people stay in relationships with toxic relatives is because of their fear of loss, and the confusion that has been created in them from years of gaslighting and manipulation. Thus, leading one to believe that they are the problem and not vice versa.

[@lisaaromano1]

Thank you!

[@nikstar1313]

Yes! Thank you! I am so sorry you went through this too. I still blame myself because it’s easier to compartmentalise and it is familiar. I can’t unsee this Family Scapegoating Abuse and am nearly 4 years of no contact. 🎉

[@BlueMosaic5]

I KNOW this now, but I’m almost 60. What a hurtful abusive life I was forced to endure. I’m learning and as an empath I keep moving forward in light & love 🙌

[@emj3677]

I was the scape goat. If I opened my mouth and said anything about what was happening, my psychopathic husband would take it out on me. I divorced him and he kept me from telling the truth by using my narcissistic daughter to keep me quiet and not tell my other two daughters what he did to all of us. I have been estranged from my other two daughters for over 15 years. It breaks my heart but I am strong now and am doing well now.

[@lisaaromano1]

You got this!

[@nicolajane6264]

Your not alone! ❤

[@Hephzibah-eq9kr]

That's me now

[@emj3677]

@@Hephzibah-eq9kr Best thing you can do is be strong for yourself, don't let anyone do that to you anymore. Find your own happiness.

[@Hephzibah-eq9kr]

@@emj3677 I am I always seen the dysfunction I just thought I could show them and they would change I had to accept it's not for my family but help those that want to

[@Joseph-dr6si]

When people engage in Unacceptable, Irrational, Immoral Shameful behavior I have learned that sometimes it's best to Not say anything about it. Just think of it as if you are watching a crazy movie, observe the crazy movie, don't be a player in that crazy movie. People don't really need to know what I think of bad behavior, It's nobody's business what I think. I just stay focused on the kind of person I want to be. I try not to focus on others these days. It takes practice and over time it will become A new automatic way of being.

[@LogicalLove]

As a truth teller myself, I really wish that we had the support and resources available back then that we have now. This information is very reassuring and it feels good to be related to for a change.

[@Healingestures]

We pay huge price for telling the truth and for trying to help another but there is no real help I have zero real help beside virtual angels that I can learn from to live inside of the hell and they are everywhere so there is no escape beside the real true self state and the moon

[@LogicalLove]

@@Healingestures I understand and can agree in some ways. I find appreciation however in people like Lisa who spends her time speaking on this topic thus providing support and reassurance to those who may not feel supported otherwise. Be well.

[@Hephzibah-eq9kr]

This truth don't stand up in court they automatically believe the smear campaign

[@colmanlong1032]

Your so right, the scapegoat is 100% right,and boy is there penalties and punishments like a tidal wave to follow from the narcos.absoulety brilliant vlog.

[@lunarae8037]

This happens in work places too where it’s a don’t ask don’t talk don’t speak attitude. Work dynamics happen because people from these family dynamics bring their thinking and behavior into the work place. Thanks for the amazing info, there is much work to be done to heal

[@screllin]

So so true!

[@Roxy0405]

Bully bosses come to mind.

[@lisaaromano1]

You are so welcome!

[@undercoverbird8592]

Yep. I left an 18 year toxic marriage and now I refuse to work in a toxic workplace.

[@mina.t.]

So true. And without therapy your life style becomes the scapegoat to include all those around you to include your kids, co-workers, boss, friends. It is a heavy burden to bare. Thank God for therapy!

[@catgrl76]

This is my family system. My parents are elderly and very set in their ways. Mom is a huge denier of reality, has always been but even more so now. I have siblings who see it, recognize it, then go along and enable it. Like I can have a conversation with my sister about a particular issue that is going on and she will agree then go into gaslighting once the truth is out. It feels definitely like the Twilight zone. How can you agree something is problematic then backtrack to denying it all together??

[@JodieCoston-ew3rv]

You just described one of my brothers. With me he says he sees it and he gets it. And they do it to him sometimes too but not like they do me. But then when he’s with them he does it to me too.

[@Darkpath03]

I have a mom that denies reality too. She's delusional and think she knows more than what she does. Covert narc at it's finest.

[@djignatin4043]

We don't talk about how one member of the family has a personality disorder, and abuses everyone in the family.

[@gigievans395]

ABSOLUTELY TRUE! All my life in this family 😭 57 finally figured it out 😭

[@keithstewart7514]

I figured my famdamnly dysfunctionality out on my mid year b day @ 58

[@gretchenphilbrick9933]

Similarly the slow down of the pandemic and therapy made me stop diminishing the abuse and neglect I experienced at the hands of my family for almost 60 years. I suffered. The abuse was real and they harmed me. It's not up for debate by dysfunctional and mentally ill family members. No contact. for 3 years and truth teller for 60.

[@Aochic]

Ditto. I'm just glad i figured it out!!!

[@lorralorra222]

Ditto, I sold my house abroad to be with my parents, after my brother just died, to look after them,it involved moving a 20 ft container, now I’m stuck with them, until I look for a new home and can ship the container. After my brother died my narcissistic mother told me my brother didn’t really love me, I told my father and he was like, u know what she’s like don’t listen to her, I was devastated to realize they are that messed up. I want to just leave my stuff and get up and go, but owning my home for 20 years and now nothing, I have the means but other family members are, ohh they are old it’s ur duty to stay. Aug 19 ,2024

[@sunnyadams5842]

I discovered there was a name for it!! Finally @ 55. I'm 57 now and quite Happy,🌞 I hope🙏

[@pjmrees]

I REALLY needed to hear this today. I've been exiled by my immediate family because I wasn't willing to be their emotional punching bags anymore. I was shunned and not even allowed to come to my own house for Christmas or I would "ruin" everyone's happy time together.

[@FrankieDavidson-q9m]

Been there it hurts

[@ardent9422]

Thank you for this! I'm in this type of family system, it's not as bad as what you describe but I'm clearly the scapegoat, the person that doesn't get any support and even when I accomplish things with no support it's still ignored. I'm starting to learn to keep any little things I manage to accomplish to myself, I no longer bother to share with my family if something good happens for me, I just let them hear about it after it's happened.

[@mercedesvallar3384]

Sorry to hear that. I am going through the same thing

[@peterknyk1942]

"Oh, that's just the way they are", when I asked why so and so was being a jerk....Aarrgh!!!!!

[@dlk8439]

Thank you!!! We truth tellers need to hear this truth often. ❤

[@lorralorra222]

I must have watched 1000 videos on this subject, this however was the most powerful for me, I will sleep better tonight. Aug 19, 24 thank u lisa..

[@lisaaromano1]

Wonderful!

[@jilllandgrebe2139]

I feel the same way. Sept 2024

[@flyleelee5351]

Yup! I speak the truth and I'm the odd man out

[@joshuaanzalone2060]

I can definitely relate to this. I've always called them out. In my early 20s I called them all out and they were crying. They couldn't face it. Broke up a couple family parties when doing this. I didn't feel bad for it at all.

[@indigoechos6796]

I'm currently in therapy for this lol it's so hard a lot of people don't get it

[@christinerobertson9596]

Thank You for this. Ive been lost in my husband's addiction- I know more about his family trauma than his family does , they don't want to hear about how their father/husband abused him. Husband is 2 years sober (SA) and is slow to finds ways to continue support systems. I went to a CODA meeting last night , they suggested ALANON. Hubs doesn't readily see he's an addict. I need me back. Thank you Lisa. Also , totally a scapegoat. No one in the fam gets mad at the addict of the family- just me. I was born that way. Thank you!!!

[@lisaaromano1]

You got this!

[@RebeccaBecc]

As a child the adults in my life never protected me from bullying and sexual abuse 😢

[@allysonvanraden8810]

I have been the scapegoat and truth teller in my family system. The disrespect that I have experienced is beyond. The public smearing that I have received from a younger sibling who is a narcissist and the family system that supported that behavior I have been through so much and I can see clearly so much. And I’m still on a healing journey. Thank you for your channel ! ❤

[@marycampeau9378]

oh wow i can totally relate. hugs!!

[@nopcshere6097]

Thank you for this so much. I had a mother-in-law who was a narc and father-in-law & brother-in-law also had narc tendencies but were probably not full-blown Ns. My former wife enabled her family to abuse me verbally, financially and emotionally and participated in the abuse herself. When I started standing up to them they became MORE abusive, and when I tried to point out to my then-wife what her family was doing she would start talking over me (as her mother did too) and later on became more abusive, controlling and exacting revenge. All for telling the truth about her family (especially her NMom) and wanting No Contact with them (which, I was told, 'was not (my) choice to make'). By the time I escaped them, I had all the self-worth of a boiled potato and was suicidal. About 18 months later I met a woman who is the love of my life, and have never imagined life could actually be this much better.

[@wholewellnesswithann]

Eek. Gosh, Lisa, this is the first time I’ve had to stop one of your videos due to triggers. Whew! My dad died about three weeks ago, and he was what I’ll call the “patriarch of denial” and the “patriarch of control.” So the aftermath of his death has been a circus…better than I expected but still. And yes, what you’re saying is 100% on point; as the scapegoat, I “can’t” speak up to and with my siblings about unfairness, injustice, abuse, and so on, that’s going on RIGHT NOW, without them accusing me of being “overly emotional,” “dramatic,” etc. it’s frustrating and painful, yes. But…this is exactly the reminder I needed to keep my distance. In my imagination, our “loving family” (NOT) cleaves together in their time of grief. HA. Riiiiight. Like I said, IN MY DREAMS. ❤ All the best to you!!! ❤

[@JodieCoston-ew3rv]

I just want to say I’m sorry because everything you said….it’s me. It’s exactly what they say to me and god it really hurts.

[@wholewellnesswithann]

@@JodieCoston-ew3rv how heartbreaking 💔😔 I’m saddened to hear you’re experiencing the same! Now that some time has passed my pain has eased a bit, but I still have my moments where I wonder things like, “why can’t we DEPEND on each other???” It makes no sense…at least, from what I know to be true, a person “SHOULD” be able to depend on their loved ones. Wishing you well, Jodie 🙏❤️

[@Conscious59]

God bless you Lisa Romano!!

[@bronwyntanner4501]

YES. That is me. They loathe me

[@sharonjones7138]

Narcissistic mother must’ve seen that I was the truth teller cause she sure made me the scapegoat. She poisoned the enabler father so he saw me as the problem kid. When you said that at the beginning of the video, it was a dagger in my ❤️. Realizing that the family I grew up in wants me…expects me to stay in my lane…the scapegoat lane. NOPE!!! I’m becoming the authentic me and thriving. Leaving them in my dust. I appreciate your videos. Thanks for the validation.

[@carolynlamar8079]

Thank you💕 I was am the truth teller and was the scapegoat and treated as I was crazy when I was the sane one I write poems and put my truth in them I also keep talking Thanks for your truth💕💕

[@TN-ow7yd]

Lisa is the best in town when it comes to dissecting and explaining the program of a scapegoat. Thank you Lisa!! You are the light barrier for me all through my healing journey. Blessings to you ❤ Before I speak truth, but now I just keep it to myself. People don’t want unsolicited truth. As long as u know your truth and hold on to it, that all it matters. And yes, grievance is so important in the healing process. Accepting your truth and recognizing their truth is important to healing. Acceptance is a virtue for healing. Lol

[@ThisIsMe155]

That was me my whole life in my family 😓😥😢. The abuse, guilt, shame, anxiety, depression and rumination was horrendous. I eventually left to go abroad, aged 28. I stayed away for over 25 years. I was told the same evil things that you were told. You could be my sister!! Thoughts, Prayers and Love. 💔😥🙏😓❤️🤔🌅

[@kristienvanlaar5637]

so, when you are a truth teller, you have much bigger changes that you are going to heal than those who live in denial!!! thank you for sharing this, it's what i need, as the SG of a 2 narc parents family with 4 kids, completely isolated from everybody and i had to deal with many smearcampaigns, even on a lot of workplaces, not only in my family. The truth sets me free !

[@lavadamorrison4569]

Boy, I relate to this. I became the truth teller as a child, but the one who had a negative reaction to this was my codependent mother not my narcissistic father. It was so challenging to her. I often felt misunderstood by her. My greatest wound came from her. She once told me I love you but I don't like you sometime. It took many years to realize how this had effected me in life. I think perhaps my dad was more Borderline than narcissistic. What saved us was that he always worked two or three jobs and wasn't around a lot and we stayed out of his way when he was.

[@awaywithfairies4689]

I love you Lisa. Thank you for helping me with my mind, heart, and soul. 🤗💕🌻 God bless you my dear one 🙏🏻🌟

[@philipmulvihill1455]

it sounds like she is talking about our government 🥳🙃

[@colleendensmore7731]

I had the exact same thought. Heaven forbid if you see through all the propaganda and then try to point it out to others. The backlash I have received over the last three years has been a real eye-opener.

[@lifelessonswithjo]

@@colleendensmore7731Same!

[@tbunnyshy1]

My son and I tell the truth. My parents can’t handle that. The beginning of this story is that they do not want to see ANYONE in the world do well. They sabotage us and its taken its toll. Im running out of steam. Thank you for sharing all that you do.

[@mels7769]

... how come this video came out today that I had such event yesterday night? I had a serious panic attack due to to my narc parents. I'm a scapegoat still living with them, my sis has escaped & has completely blocked them. I had a panic attack because I realized they don't give a damn, my parents, fixing our relationship. They see me as an enemy in a situation while they should simply protect me. It's like they are against me & I'm the crazy one. But it's the end, after this panic attack yesterday night, I'm not gonna try for a convo or show up for them. It is what it is, at the very most, I do know what healthy is like & feels like. I drew the line.

[@izawaniek2568]

I love this message Lisa! Absolutely Wonderful! Let us rock on! Only truth can set us free! God bless you!❤

[@deniseparkes6919]

Accepting yourself and what that means for your relationships with family and friends can be hard but the truth in you will set you free!!

[@t-bonena3609]

Good way to start my day.

[@lisabrummett6075]

I am the scapegoat but only realized it last year once I had to move back home after being gone 8,yrs. It's worse than it was before and the bullying, the lies, blaming, shaming. Absolutely horrific. Now I'm researching, learning, grieving and trying to heal and find a way out safely. I know they don't love me and never have and NEVER will. It's heartbreaking knowing this. 💔it's scary realizing I have nobody. But, I never did. They have ALWAYS been against my happiness and achievements 💔💔💔💔💔

[@JodieCoston-ew3rv]

I’m sorry you are going thru it all again. I am too! I moved back in with my dad in September 2022 and I’m on the verge of a mental breakdown. You are right….it is so much worse the second time around. It was bad the first time as a child but I see so much more now and it hurts way more. I got addicted to drugs at 16/17 and I know this played a role in my bad choices. I got clean at 20 and stayed clean til I was 34/35. The abuse never stopped but I wasn’t living with my parents for those 15 years that I was sober. It was still not great but bearable. Then my husband had a few episodes of gran mal seizures and couldn’t work for 6 months so we moved into an apartment built on to my moms house because I was a full time college student at the time. A year after being there….I relapsed. I was treated so bad that I thought I may as well be on drugs again because I do nothing but tell the truth and no one believes me. It wasn’t long after that that I was offered drugs and did them. I have now moved to my dads to get clean and my lord it is so much worse than it was even at my moms. I have always struggled socially because I’m a truth teller and now I am wondering if I stop being a truth teller would they treat me better?

[@lorralorra222]

Ditto, I sold my house abroad to be with my parents, after my brother just died, to look after them,it involved moving a 20 ft container, now I’m stuck with them, until I look for a new home and can ship the container. After my brother died my narcissistic mother told me my brother didn’t really love me, I told my father and he was like, u know what she’s like don’t listen to her, I was devastated to realize they are that messed up. I want to just leave my stuff and get up and go, but owning my home for 20 years and now nothing, I have the means but other family members are, ohh they are old it’s ur duty to stay. Aug 19 ,2024

[@lhuynh731]

That me! I do not truly belonged to this family since I don’t do their ways. I have friends and ( good ) peoples are my family and they understand me better and except me for me only not anyone else’s.

[@tracyfascia4856]

This is me 🙋‍♀️and I’m proud of it!! The work to heal was so painful and hard, but so worth!! Thanks to Lisa A Romano I’m happy now ❤😊

[@beaatpeace2490]

Thank you for this one, much needed

[@leonoraholley1025]

Lisa I truly understand where you are coming from.Yes I was always the scapegoat in my family. Now am 62 years old and it has not changed. But with these awareness and education I am free. It’s a daily struggle but I am FAR from where I was. Thank you soooo much Lisa. When JESUS sets you free you are FREE indeed ❤️🙏🏽

[@salbill4484]

Speaks directly to me. I screwed up so many times in my life by telling the truth, in my family, on work in the military... man o man did I F up, and some people hated me for it. Yes, I am grieving for the family I *never* had. The pain, abuse... they hated the fact that I loved reading and would be me terribly if I was reading a book they did not like... there's so many thing.

[@crazykatrockchickhippie4835]

Scapegoat is my middle name within anyone so I stay at home with my cat as that's the only place I'm not plus health etc which I see as a blessing strangely so I dont have to be around it all. It's comforting having these videos that see us and have compassion 🙏🌱😻🕊🦉

[@Joshdifferent]

Absolutely! Story of My life

[@DefenderofTruth.]

Facts!!! They are the ones that a narcissist feels more comfortable expressing how bad they feel to (putting the feelings on them) !! Its crazy.

[@Charmpierre]

This video was helpful & empowering. I’ve been ostracized in my family for calling out the favouritism my mother has shown to my sister and her children over me and my children. My mother has dealt with her own trauma, parented with trauma (I received a lot of silent disapproval) and now I’ve parented from a place of unworthiness. It’s devastating to recognize that my wounds negatively impacted my children so now I’m trying to heal their wounds while also healing my own. Being a truth teller is painful and even though I’m still stuck in the pain, I know that acknowledging it and getting support is ultimately starting to heal our inter-generational wounds.

[@lucycp2881]

Everything you described is exactly my experience!!! I have been shamed so many times from my family for being the truth teller, being told I need another perspective. I have had enough now. I recently got assaulted from my younger NPD sister and I ended up in ER. I told my folks I’m never going home again, then when they came to visit me a few days later they didn’t even want to talk about what happened to me, I was just shamed for saying I don’t want to go home again. My father (enabler) told me to go say sorry to my mother (vulnerable NPD) because she is upset that I said that. I was shamed for setting my boundary. It became so so clear to me in that moment how messed up the whole family NPD cult is. I could have been killed in the assault. They just don’t even want to know about it. It’s all very sad, but I am doing well now because of the love and support I get from my friends and other family (my parent in laws who are amazing). I am grounded like a tree in the cement when it comes to the truth. I have 2 NPD sisters, the one is an unsupportive enabler along with other family members, my mother is also an NPD. Feeling sorry for my dad has always made me go back but I can’t try help him anymore. I feel sorry for my sisters for not being happy in life but when I try support them , things end up worse for me. I feel very fortunate I am the truth teller. I need to let go of what does not serve me anymore. I have had a huge amount of NPD treatment from my family and I will come out stronger.

[@marycampeau9378]

omg the worst was having to go home again. my heart goes out to you

[@RebeccaBecc]

Yes 😢

[@veracityhunter7777]

Story of My Life. This is why I was ostracized and abused by my family. This is why I I was fired from a daycare center job, because I told on one of the workers that was kicking children. I've always gotten in trouble for this very reason. I'm still going to do it though lol I'm always going to tell the truth.

[@cup_o_TMarie]

👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥💝💝💝🙏🙏🙏 It’s so true that the truth telling scapegoats have a greater chance at healing due to their inability to deny what’s going on! I don’t ever remember thinking that my family was any kind of normal & I believe it served me well. I FINALLY feel like the only one who is truly free🤩 It helps that I moved across the continent from them of course😜😹💪

[@isyrk]

Less then three minutes in and it's describing my life perfectly.

[@hazelsutton-childress3331]

LOVING IT.... TRUTH... A LIE WILL NOT LIVE 4EVER

[@lesliewind338]

I think this video was the longest "aha moment" of my life!

[@nicolajane6264]

I was a scape goat, I was always put down, always made fun off. I spoke out and boy did they come down on me. When I had cancer they all ignored me. Still till this day I don't speak to any of them. I'm alone but never been happier. I felt so destroyed I went through hell as well as cancer. I got stronger though. Now I refuse to let them get to me. They still all talk about me, they turned everyone against me and I lost everyone it wad deverstating. But as I said I am strong I got over cancer & them! Thank you Lisa ❤

[@abbykendrick5748]

This was my family and my experience.

[@adblackwell33360]

MY SISTER. SO MUCH GRATITUDE FOR YOUR CLARITY AND RECOGNITION. RIGHT ON AND BLESSINGS. NOONE IN MY FAMILY TALKS TO ME BUT A COUPLE OF REAL GOOD PEOPLE. I AM NO LONGER UNDERMINED BY THEIR GASLIGHTING AND ABUSE. THE MOTHER AND STEPFATHER LOCKED ME IN A BARN WITH FLIES AND ANIMALS FOR FOUR MONTHS, AND THEN TOOK ALL MY ESTATE THAT WAS IN STORAGE AND ALL STOPPED TALKING TO ME. IT HAS BEEN A MINDBENDER TO GET COOL WITH IT AND LOVE ME. I AM A LONER BUT AM STEPPING OUT MORE. SENDING LOVE. I KEEP TO MYSELF NOW BECAUSE I WAS BULLIED A LOT SINCE AND REALIZE MY INDEPENDENCE IS MY PEACE. LOVE BECOMING A BETTER PARENT AND CAREGIVER TO ALL MY ANIMALS.

[@kristieheineman3351]

You rock! I love being a truth teller! ❤️❤️❤️ It beats the alternative for sure!

[@radfem2010]

Definitely the tuth teller here. Unforgivable sin in my family. It's funny that my siblings who were educated at home (while I was set to a convent boarding school out of state) were doing drugs, drinking, trashing the house with parties, shoplifting, maxing the credit card etc, I was treated as the problem child for my grades and being introverted. I was being bullied at school because one of my siblings and a friend were ditching school and got caught. She sicced her crew at school on me to try to beat me up, waiting by my homeroom. I wasn't the fink or rat they accused me of being. My sister and her friend got caught b/c they ditched on the same week day each week. I think the problem was that I was the child in my family that didn't have the "right" friends, i.e. the wealthier friends (my parents friends were all wealthier than him) but except for a couple they just weren't what I was looking for in a friend. We all had been told we would be going to an orphanage when we were "bad" and when we outgrew that it was boarding school but I was the one who spent most of my high school going to one. When I flew home for breaks, I would be homesick and glad to be back but outside my mother and stepdad my siblings treated me as if I didn't even exist. So I didn't go home on breaks except to spend a couple days before flying to spend break with my aunt. I didn't understand a lot of my childhood and even into adulthood but finding these videos on YT has really been an education! So thanks to those folks who put these videos together and online for people to learn from including those who can't afford to get therapy. I think it helps a lot of people especially since a lot of time is spend (too much probably) feeling like you're the messed up problem one, just because there is one of you and 20 of them.

[@inmyownwords9798]

Indeed, peace and healing to you ❤

[@radfem2010]

@@inmyownwords9798 Thanks!

[@mariannekoroleva6495]

I was a scapegoat, I never said the Truth, I was waiting for the Truth all the time (I knew there must be Truth). It was a cause enough...Thank You!!:))!!👍💐🎁🌺🌈⚓!!

[@darlenelelle5866]

My Quest has always been that the truth is always there and necessary for health and growth 💚 Thank you for the validation 💚

[@denaweber4006]

This is what is meant by the phrase speaking truth to power!! Well said and spot on … thank you Lisa!!

[@jimbyrne8281]

Lisa thank you so much. I always knew I was different and after a horrible marriage and broke in everyway my healing journey started 5 yrs ago and learning tons like a addict NPD, family systems, complex truma, and this message is powerful. 🙏 Thank you!

[@robertmayfield8746]

I agree with every word you said. I especially like the phrase that the truth teller is the strongest part of the family. Which is what every single person in dysfunctional family denies and want you to think otherwise. From this point of view they look quite grotesque. Great video.

[@terrancemcclendon456]

We always the emotional ones and invalidated for everything

[@monicaespinoza1806]

Thank you so much, first time I could understand the position I have in my family. This is me 🙏

[@dnk4559]

Why yes, yes I am. Thank you for your content Lisa!

[@highpriestess322]

Your an amazing person with untold wisdom thank you for sharing your presentations its the inspiration I needed to pull myself through the day. I am that scapegoat. My dysfunctional family they're friends and associates are those people 😪.

[@megandavis324]

Cheers to us scapegoats 🎉

[@kevinlaleau5107]

Lisa A romano Please do content on narcissistic inlaws

[@stevendedeian7774]

Lisa... this video really hits at the very core, of my own upbringing....very thankful to you, for it...........steve.(.my solution at that time,was joining the military. Where I found the truth..outside of the entirety of falsification...god bless ya for this one...really..my existence in my family unit, was that of the proverbial red headed step child, until I just left for the Air Force..)

[@alaynelangerak9392]

Amen sister. Thank you for this powerful Truth!

[@johnfromflorida9441]

Wow.... This topic is spot on, You know what you're talking about! If I would have found your channel before my nervous breakdown it would have saved me a lot of pain, just doing my best to keep moving in the right direction, and this channel is a big help,, thank you, and mayJehovah bless you by Christ Jesus 🙏

[@donnabramante2419]

So helpful THANK YOU!

[@cc967]

Your videos have helped me so much in navigating the past few years. Thank you. At 64, I am still the designated scapegoat of my family. My 92 year old mother tirelessly tries to make me play the role. I refuse and it has totally upset everyone in my family. My sister says that “my personality has changed” and my father continues to enable my mother’s evil ways. I believe I have gone through the 5 stages of grief and have finally settled into acceptance.

[@terrimoore8962]

Lisa you have helped me so much!! I’m still healing !!

[@lisadee9749]

Was really nice to hear that it is good that I feel like I don't belong in my family. Why would I want to belong? Dah Thanks!

[@user-xr4iq7kq1k]

I told him all to hit the road and never come around me again and I am so totally beautiful happy now❤❤❤❤❤

[@nikstar1313]

I am feeling so compelled to send this miraculous video to my other scapegoat thrivers. It is so spot on and I feel like you’re discussing my story too. Like, to a tee. Thank you 🙏 Thank you 🙏 Thank you 🙏 ❤

[@ryanjackson4597]

Thank you so much. You are me. This was powerful.

[@SolomonKing-n4u]

Truth is the path to freedom.

[@lifelessonswithjo]

Omg thank you Lisa. I am a truth teller and I felt awful realizing all my mistakes.

[@TheAng58]

Oh Lisa thank you for this! This has so been my life. I've begun not trying to get another to see. The letting go. I am in that grief phase. I always liken this to the life of Jesus Christ, and seeing is exactly what he experienced. Still he rose again. 🙏❤️

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

There is no my truth. Only the truth. And our emotional regulation is not the problem. It's theirs. Rather than changing ourselves to make them feel better, we walk away from them. People who actively delude themselves are not people with whom it is worthwhile or wise to have a relationship.

[@frankielyman8769]

Hello Lisa I recently went to a family gathering, I haven’t spoken to my mom and sister for about 5 months. My brother passed tragically and we celebrated his sons birthday. My sister broke down and asked to be part of her life. I proceed with caution bc these people, treated me not the best. Along with my mother as well, she’s the narcissist leader. I see the dynamics and am questioning being part of the thrall

[@myvortex5D]

Thank you Lisa this is packed with so much helpful information and encouraging affirmations, answering my prayer request for today 🙏peace, love and infinite gratitude 🙏💞💞💞

[@StarSunfire]

I am both. Beautiful video Lisa. I hope you can talk on toxic in laws and more on family issues too. Such a lovely person you are and much appreciated in the work you do. Sending love out. God bless. 😇💘🌹

[@musicandpoetry_8]

Thank you for yours, dr Ramani, Patrick Teahan, etc for all of your videos, they really help us ❤❤❤❤❤

[@theperfectautumn8781]

This describes my place in our family cult.

[@victoriaholler2949]

Bravo Lisa ....I can relate to you on every point ....this is one of your best vids yet ...😂❤❤

[@nancyP7448]

Great topic. I am a truth teller and my family's scapegoat. Wished I would've known all this when I was young. It woulda helped.

[@lorralorra222]

I sold my house abroad to be with my parents, after my brother just died, to look after them,it involved moving a 20 ft container, now I’m stuck with them, until I look for a new home and can ship the container. After my brother died my narcissistic mother told me my brother didn’t really love me, I told my father and he was like, u know what she’s like don’t listen to her, I was devastated to realize they are that messed up. I want to just leave my stuff and get up and go, but owning my home for 20 years and now nothing, I have the means but other family members are, ohh they are old it’s ur duty to stay. Aug 19 ,2024

[@charlottemckenzie5259]

You and I are so much alike. Thank you for this message I feel like I've been going through this since I was so young.

[@meloneymoore8856]

I am the truth teller in my family.

[@maryamqadri4828]

Rock on!!! ❤️❤️❤️ I love the way you speak. God bless and keep you. 🙏🏼