Attachment Specialist Adam Lane Smith on: How to bond him to you during sex

Have you ever been ghosted by someone when you thought you shared a deep connection? That's because men and women experience sexual bonding differently. The same problem can happen in committed relationships where the man doesn't seem to bond emotionally during sex. This bothers many women who want to feel closer to their partner. Some wonder if he doesn't really love the, or if they're doing something wrong.
Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith explains how your relationships are driven by secret factors you aren't aware of. If you've wondered why men don't share the connection that you feel, this video was made for you. And it will teach you how to activate the part of your partner's brain responsible for bonding during sex so he'll never forget you, can't get enough of you, and will keep coming back for more.
This video is part of an ongoing series related to attachment.
Many young women feel trapped in casual sex and hookup culture. They want to find a meaningful relationship, but none of the people they meet are interested. Why are men so eager to have sex but then leave as if the sex meant nothing? The few who do want something more are insecure and get really creepy. What's a woman to do if she wants love and connectedness but can't find it? And why don't men feel the same way?
Married women may also want to bond with their husband during sex but don't know how. Why does he seem so distant during or after sex? What's up with his need to give you multiple orgasms even if you don't feel like it? Why is he so focused on achieving sex goals instead of just enjoying it? If you've wondered these things, this video will teach you.
And if you struggle to bond to your partner during sex, this video may teach you why. When your attachment is broken, everything else is broken. Casual sex and hookup culture is built on broken attachment because it provides the illusion of intimacy without the real connection. Through hookup culture, you can "play house" with your hormones without any of the bonds that should exist to support your emotions. And when you develop feelings for your casual sex partners, you'll be left miserable as your partner who you thought felt the same way ghosts you. And you're going to bond to people who either don't feel the same way or who are toxic for you. If you want an answer to why casual sex and hookup culture feels so wrong, this is it.
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[@mwalker3868]

this man cracked the fucking code for us, ladies

[@AttachmentAdam]

Have fun. 👍

[@Lupina-mp5ck]

😂

[@elsagrace3893]

I don’t see it that way at all. Men cannot accept what makes a woman feel good no matter how clearly we tell them or show them.

[@MollyTheMoonchild]

​@@elsagrace3893I'm afraid that's an unfair generalization...

[@caseylynn5976]

@@elsagrace3893 probably because you're making it too simple...if you're just telling him, there's no problem to be solved, as the video mentions. There's no stressor, nothing to fix, or teamwork to engage in. The man is probably therefore complicating it, by trying to make it somehow more challenging, which appears to you as him not accepting what you say feels good, but he's just honestly trying to bond, and not be like a robot simply following orders.

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

as a representative of the entire female community, I want to thank this brave man for sharing his knowledge in order to help us

[@AttachmentAdam]

Happy to help! I would love to know what was the most helpful part of this video in your opinion.

[@spookyvegan1402]

EXACTLY RIGHT I AGREE! Thank you ❤️

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

There is no "community".

[@GoddessAthena_here]

“the entire female community” 🤣🤣🤣

[@jiziz5751]

Exactly 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@SoulRevolutionTV]

You can also just give him fairly easy problems to solve for you and then praise him for it. Damsel in distress scenarios. 🔥

[@AttachmentAdam]

That's a great idea! What are some examples that come to mind?

[@SoulRevolutionTV]

@@AttachmentAdam If for example he likes working on cars or does it for a living she can ask him to help her with a car problem or find a project you can work on that you both would be interested in learning more about. It could be anything from learning a new language or culture, diy, or as simple as working towards the same goal. Connecting through the shared experience of completing that goal by overcoming challenges.

[@detox_13]

That's giving me visions of a guy trying to relax and de-stress after work then his wife or girlfriend giving him chores just so she can "praise" for doing it later. Like how some would to a pet. Honestly it sounds pretty demeaning to me. Plus could ruin a guy's peace which almost all guys greatly treasure.

[@SoulRevolutionTV]

@@detox_13 look into biology and psychology and it will become clear. Human nature.

[@detox_13]

@@SoulRevolutionTV WTF? what kind of advice is that? Lol

[@rokkiperez4827]

Fascinating! I took my boyfriend to go play in an escape room for his first time. He was so jazzed when we left and he was very affectionate, talkative, and excited afterwards. I had never seen him like that! I think we vasopressin bonded! Amazing!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Sounds like you found a winner

[@Kurio71]

escape room?

[@user-kb8qw7dy4t]

I remember when we used to just call it having a fun time.

[@vlst8715]

​@@user-kb8qw7dy4t not all kinds of fun time contribute to bonding

[@buddehify]

@@user-kb8qw7dy4t Imagine not wanting to evolve and be educated 💀

[@amaliaandrews6526]

✍🏻 stress ✍🏻 him ✍🏻 out ✍🏻 got it 👍🏻

[@AttachmentAdam]

But in a good way. Don’t just pull a knife. 🤣

[@evamirikantor]

🤣🤣🤣

[@kaylabrown7045]

😂😂😂I love it 👌🏽

[@emanuelemanuel1402]

Lmfao 😂😂😂😂😂 I love this comment 🤣😅🤣😅🤣 lmao

[@AnnaA-uc9ep]

😆

[@diaryofamadmixedgirl1018]

I learned the true meaning behind the lady/freak saying today. He wants peace in the streets but stress in the sheets 😁

[@morganchristmas6299]

Lmfaooo

[@Leahmoonbeamflower]

Balance 😂❤😂

[@angelawaters400]

Damn girl!! Whole new perspective there 😂 stealing this!!

[@wemia1817]

@@diaryofamadmixedgirl1018 😂

[@stellawall38]

Exactly what it’s supposed to be isn’t it???!!!!Just My opinion 💓

[@KasN.O.]

This should be apart of sexual education, it would prepare both young men and women correctly on the emotional aspect of sex which no one seems to talk about enough in education

[@ginarenee1625]

Eloquently said.

[@KasN.O.]

@@ginarenee1625 Thank you !

[@papabird4425]

Not having sex with other guys usually bonds me pretty well

[@Lovergirlstudiio]

That part

[@papabird4425]

@@Lovergirlstudiio which part?

[@Lovergirlstudiio]

@@papabird4425 it’s a phrase that means I agree. As in emphasis on that part.

[@alanahnatalie8167]

@@Lovergirlstudiioim dead at you having to explain it 😂

[@nazc5349]

😂😂😂

[@eunpark6269]

As far as i have understood this bonding occurs when women asks(requests) men to achieve some thing, man takes the challenge, and woman prizes him with compliment. Okay I’m using this method from now on.

[@AttachmentAdam]

This approach is more about solving the challenges TOGETHER so you work as a full team, and your brains release the bonding hormone as a signal that you can trust each other to overcome stress during a crisis.

[@yegs22]

Maybe this is the reason why some guys tent to trauma bond with crazy difficult girls that toy with them oh they loveee that. Definitely a challenge!!

[@impossiblegems]

Yes/ my ex just left and went back to his ex who literally is a dumpster fire- guys say they want a girl a with her shit together but they actually don’t

[@Erica-ye8we]

I don't think what he said is out of the ordinary. Men want to feel like they can achieve the job of making you feel good during sex. If you're lying there like a dead fish and not making any noise, then what's the point? Sex definitely won't be enjoyable, and it doesn't seem like it would be enjoyable for either partner in that case.

[@echase416]

Yup. Men love the bitches or the wild and crazy ones, it seems. 😢 They’re fun, until they’re not…

[@echase416]

@@Erica-ye8we the lack of sex ed isn’t very helpful. A lot of guys watch porn and think it’s real anatomy and what women want/need, etc. 😢 The ‘orgasm rate’ is actually is actually higher among us lesbian couples vs M/F couples.

[@TheDrummingXbox360]

​@@echase416so is the domestic abuse, violence, and separation rate. Are you really surprised that a woman would know what a woman likes?

[@patrickkelley3655]

What he is saying ladies is, don't be lazy . We want you to be vocal tell us what you like and we'll move mountains to achieve it .

[@elsagrace3893]

But you don’t. You guys don’t listen!

[@patrickkelley3655]

@@elsagrace3893 Then you're not talking .

[@patrickkelley3655]

@@SerendipitousSynchronicity ?

[@doesnotFempute]

@@elsagrace3893 most of them only have 2 or 3 moves, often learned from p*_n. And if you ask them to do something else, they freeze. My husband was the first (and last) dude to actually know how to do what feels good, rather than the ridiculous positions than look good on a camera. They do exist. But p*_n and hookup culture has really ruined a large portion of the population (from talking to other people about s_x for the past 20+ years)

[@impossiblegems]

I definitely had guys purposely withhold what I specifically say I need

[@maddcharity1721]

Ok this proves men are more complicated than woman. That sounds very stressful and I get why be single is liberating

[@miladydewinter8551]

Exactly

[@kasijune88]

The male y-chromosome is often described as damaged x-chromosome. That's what's showing in men. So many are broken ...

[@zamar2158]

@@kasijune88 it isn't though. Y Is the default. In fact the precursor to the female sex hormones estrogen and progesterone is testosterone. Vasopressin is the hormone that increases blood pressure.

[@rjstrange]

Says the woman. Women are a lot better at staying single.

[@isabellamarvel9400]

@@zamar2158 Then why you are a female in womb until 3-6 weeks of gestation? X chromosome is the default. You are female before male in the womb no matter what hormone.

[@tannischapman9141]

Why am I just learning about this now?? I have ALWAYS been a giver and not always completely satisfied. This advice is gonna change my life!!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to be of help. Enjoy your future. 🥂

[@beatsg]

I think Esther Perel is correct in saying that men and women need to play games of coming towards and moving apart from each other. And seeing each other in different lights. In their element, in their passion to assist you in seeing them in ways that make them feel more attractive to you.

[@starr234]

Thank you for your comment. I just went and bought Esther Perel's book Mating in Captivity because of your comment. I think there is truth to absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[@beatsg]

@@starr234 that makes me so happy 😊 I've found her to be so great!

[@Eleanor-ku3iv]

Love Esther Perel

[@godislove4540]

None of her advice is actually based on any research studies. Watch the Gottman’s instead as all of what they advise is based on research.

[@beatsg]

@@godislove4540 the Gottmans are awesome.

[@kasijune88]

As far as I know dopamine levels drop dramatically with ejaculation which is why men oftentimes feel ashamed, guilty or repelled after a one night stand if there are no other beneficial bonding hormones in their bloodstream

[@flash_flood_area]

Oh, interesting. That seems to explain why my avoidant guy ghosted me a few times - always immediately after we had been sexting - throughout our long distance relationship

[@ilvivente]

I think you're on to something. As a man, I've been conditioned to think that one night stands, or flings are the best, but I've never related to that. I want someone who genuinely likes me. Ever since my first kiss, I've always known that sex is for special relationships and not something to just play around with.

[@253Monty]

Sure, and because we know that type of sex is just wrong in a deep level.

[@sunflowerroark5170]

It's like they become super moral after their organism.

[@manal9514]

@@flash_flood_areasounds exhausting I hope you find better

[@firedancerbear116]

Thank you! Stale sex life with my avoidant hubsy, post toddler and twin babies has made reconnecting so difficult. Especially with other problems of life coming at us and not having secure attachment to each other. I asked him if he was up for a challenge, he conquered, said thank you, and I got a well needed flood of oxytocin! I'm hopeful for our marriage and our children's well-being. God bless you!

[@jorosehart7639]

This is the single most vital information that every woman needs to know!

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is definitely important for healthy relationships. This bonding is huge. Have your past relationships included this, or will you start including it now?

[@drgoodwell1082]

@@AttachmentAdam what should women do to bond them during intimate times

[@Ahbhswrzq9221]

I guess what he means is that men like to know that you are enjoying their time with them in the bedroom. It makes them feel masculine when a woman tells them you are good in the bedroom. But of course being honest about it and sharing what you like and don’t like.

[@KaraKahn]

So this is why men want you to help guide them in achieving your orgasm. Being shy and faking it, because you're uncomfortable in your sexuality will have adverse effects in the relationship. So ladies, if you've never had an orgasm with penetration, you should really consider asking him to help you- and don't fake it if it's not happening- don't lie because you're uncomfortable. Trust that he wants to figure it out, because once he does, and he will, even if it takes a few times. Because once you guys figure out what it takes, your relationship will begin to blossom. And if he's selfish in bed and only thinks of himself, then he's probably got some toxic things going on and you should probably steer clear of him. We have to have dignity if we want to find a true lasting healthy relationship. Great video.

[@Mingthemercil3ss]

Thank you for helping the neurodiverse community understand this video ♥️

[@anaa1]

What a great comment!

[@30sandrita1]

@@KaraKahn This is really a great comment and I thank you for it, but in my opinion, based on my experience, there are some great lovers whom you don't have to say anything and they get you there every time, and you have some lousy lovers who are just lousy lovers and nothing you say can change that no matter how many times do you say it. So, choose wisely and enjoy! 😉😁❤️ Generally a person has to be smart, if it's stupid nothing helps. Trust me! 😅

[@muamelanie]

Wow. I'm 49, and literally, you just like decoded a mystery I've been trying to solve for years in a few minutes! Thank you for doing this video!!!

[@bruiserbruiser7852]

Could this be the reason why men almost always jump into problem solving mode while women just want men to listen to their problems?

[@AttachmentAdam]

That’s a major piece. Men’s brains work on solutions. Stopping to process feelings is counter-intuitive. Men shoe they care by helping to find solutions but women feel ignored or trampled.

[@kenyanicholas6809]

@@AttachmentAdam Shoe 👞

[@lydiabaumann308]

​@@AttachmentAdamfor me and my boyfriend it is usually the other way round. He tells me about his problems and I automatically jump into problem solving mode. This annoys him, because all he wanted, was someone, who just listens. Now I have learned from it, but originally I was really bad at "just listening".

[@ThatOneGirl126]

@@lydiabaumann308 men don't necessarily want us to solve their problems unless they ask. They want to know that we believe they're capable to figure it out.

[@Braveheart0803]

@@lydiabaumann308likewise here! He told me he didn’t need help. So l just researched how to be an active listener! 😅

[@angelicamartinez613]

I wish I could give this guy a thousand thumbs up 👍

[@karld9482]

I guess this video is supposed to be for girls. But as a man I can absolutely not confirm this. All the tipps given in this video are literally what makes it nearly impossible for me to bond to my girlfriend during sex. With previous partners we just shared this experience together, told each other how much we enjoyed it and fell asleep cuddling. That was all I could ask for. A very bonding experience, every single time. In my current relationship I'm just being ordered arround in bed what to do and what not to do, and how to it to fulfil her needs, which makes me feel more like a service provider than like a partner. Pure stress. To me this should be a joyful time together, not a performance challenge. When we're done I'd like to stay in bed with her cuddling, but she usually instantly get's up to get dressed and get her stuff done. Like this Sex feels more like a duty than something I'm looking forward to or would even bond trough. So to whoever this advice might work for, good luck, not for my girlfriend. In fact, all tipps given in this video is what makes my relationship a real challenge.

[@laceandribbonsviolin]

I don’t know her but it sounds like she’s coming from a place where she was ignored or didn’t get her needs met and now that you’re listening she asks. And/or she isn’t ready to trust you enough to relax into feminine energy and trust. I personally took a long time to open up because I didn’t have an example of a trusting wife and gentle husband to learn from. Also not to step on your toes or judge, but there’s a difference between sex outside of marriage and sex in marriage. I and my husband waited til marriage because we set boundaries before dating and wouldn’t stay in a relationship where the other person pressures us for sex. We decided we were going to wait until we committed in marriage so that we could be as vulnerable as possible because of the commitment to stay married. When there’s no marriage commitment, there’s nothing keeping you loyal and faithful and it can be hard for a woman (and probably a man, even though it doesn’t get talked about a lot culturally) to fully open up and trust and be vulnerable and seductive, knowing that she is free to give herself away because she’s loved unconditionally. In marriage she knows the husband promised to stay no matter what and so she is free to be seductive or honest about not being ready for sex at that particular moment without fear of backlash or “punishment.” If she’s not married she doesn’t know when her boyfriend will leave and so if she does decide to have sex it comes with fear too. Marriage does a lot to eliminate that fear of abandonment and let her reveal everything (seduction)

[@arianakim8255]

Wow. You have honestly gave me more confidence and power through this video. I have been easily agreeing with my partners to make them feel better, and now I see why things never worked out. Keep giving great advice! You have definitely changed my perspective on relationship.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Being honest is a great chance to bond. Thanks for watching!

[@nz2blue]

As a male this has helped me understand my relationship also. I understand why we work well together because I put a challenge for once a week to try to do the best I’ve ever achieved and the rest of the week is for cuddling and bond making for her. I have also never asked if I’ve done well, I’m never satisfied with my own work so I’ll always try harder

[@bdmenne]

Really great knowledge here. Had no idea why my sexual intimacy faded with my wife. Thank you. 7 years too late, but better now than never.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Good knowledge for the future.

[@lydiaann5261]

hey man how’s it going?

[@antnfs]

I’m always skeptical about this sort of content but every word of that was completely relatable, accurate and valid.

[@Shock-zy2xx]

This was so great! Taking notes. Thank you!!

[@chriskarow6094]

I have never needed information more than this. Thank you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’m glad it was in your path. 🙏

[@adostereohead]

I thank you so much for educating me on this aspect I had never even heard about before! Will definitely put it into practice ☺️

[@jeancooper7953]

You are amazing!!! Thank you!! Shared this information with my new boyfriend, he was so grateful and we have a new perspective.

[@seren1ty88]

THIS VIDEO HAS BROUGHT SO MANY THINGS TO LIGHT

[@AttachmentAdam]

I hope that’s a good thing.

[@trangmai2716]

This is one of the most helpful videos I found this year. Thank you so much!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for the kind words.

[@foxhound725]

Mind blowing. We just don't know how each other /ourselves work and I'm only just learning this! Thank you!!!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Great time to learn and apply!

[@inyoureyes25]

Omg I wish I knew this before we broke up. 🤦‍♀️💔 Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this knowledge. Will help going forward.

[@kingkami2474]

PLEASE make more content about this topic!! It would be great if you could make a video with a woman's perspective on this topic and have a conversation.

[@AttachmentAdam]

A woman’s perspective such as what? What happens with women during sex?

[@-ay-pp4mc]

@@AttachmentAdam what about if a woman masturbates and develops an oxytocin bond to her partner by thinking of them during orgasm? Is that possible?

[@clairecheatham1076]

@@AttachmentAdam i would guess by having a conversation about this with a woman guest!

[@MyBeautifulHealth]

This isn’t something that needs dialogue. He’s just informing..take it for what it is.

[@Rosalinda_Mojica]

Wow so much deeper than I thought 😭🤧 thank you for giving me some insight and looking from a new perspective. Crazy how opposite we are

[@AttachmentAdam]

Useful stuff to know.

[@celestestar5439]

Thank you so much for such valuable information. This is very easy to understand. 😊 Also it's very honorable of you to share this info and any secrets that can help women bond better with men. Much respect for you. ❤️👍

[@luckeelaydee57]

Ok. I knew this to some degree, but not the reasons behind why this is. You answered a lot of questions. Great video.

[@kristinej.4182]

This is great information. I’m learning so much from your channel. Thank you!

[@oambitiousone7100]

This explains why it felt like I was being used. No vasopressin, no oxytocin, he got dopamine and I got to rinse off😏

[@AttachmentAdam]

Oh no 😭 Are you doing OK now?

[@oambitiousone7100]

@@AttachmentAdam we are in divorce proceedings. I don’t know how to feel attracted to him again. Grew apart and he doesn’t want to live like roommates.

[@yegs22]

😂😂😂😢

[@danielw.8356]

@@oambitiousone7100 The classic "roommates" whenever that is said you or him need to stop listening to whatever the hell is telling you that. Unless it is to explain why it is bad, it almost ALWAYS comes from people who are selfish, or failed relationships. Don't put yourself first, put him and your family (Him and children) first. When you do that, he may change. But he has to do the same. Do not judge him when he does not, just do what you need to do (not what you feel like doing) NEED use logic

[@sp4rkle81]

Learned something new today, thanks for sharing ❤

[@bethinaofficial]

This was fascinating, useful and a very good feedback in why our relationship and intimate life is so good. Thank you very much.

[@amandaw.8461]

Thank you sir! You are a gentleman and a scholar!

[@danclaudiu8119]

Ok this vidoe explained so much, now I understand how and why. Ty very much, this explains so much, continue with this good work. And the best part is when you provide with good examples while being able to continue explaining scientific.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad this is helpful.

[@Ruby-dd3sp]

This is my new favourite KZbin channel 💓💓 interesting contact and intelligent delivery.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you.

[@annaholtz]

Thank you so much for this video. It was the confirmation we are truly both bond to each other , but still I have learnt so much from it. Thank you

[@DEMillerEarl]

In this fifteen minutes you've revealed a huge cause of two break-ups. I distinctly remember feeling like "the girl" in these relationships because it felt like sex was just masturbation and I didn't want that, I wanted to connection. They wanted sex for the connection, no connection was being made. Fear of feeling the shame and inadequacy from attachment issues, no proper communication without triggered emotions surfacing from past trauma. Attachment and understanding how males and females differ is so important, it feels to me like female focus and care for emotions has taken precedence/or there is a lack of help for men on this issue. Idk, but thanks Adam.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Now that you’ve got the answer, you can build something that lasts. 👍

[@laurenmarie9303]

had no idea my partner & I have already been doing this. good to know the science behind it

[@AttachmentAdam]

Makes sense when it’s all spelled out. But it’s also a natural process.

[@Nicole-rx8ib]

No but listening to you is so calming and nice! You explain really well, thank you for such useful info :D

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching.

[@vivdoolan6846]

I have been looking for info on this and avoidance for YEARS and now Ive found your content you are literally the oracle !!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Happy to have you here! Which videos have been the most helpful so far?

[@Kz36g]

Wow! Great new information!! Did not know thank you ❤

[@foxyfocus3170]

Interesting points. Thank you

[@miir2280]

Thank you gor sharing this was very helpful 😊👍🏼

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear it.

[@deniseunknown4576]

This is definitely good info. I’ve done both, this makes so much sense. Thank you! Subscribed.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for your feedback and support. Happy to have you!

[@kianablack559]

This was great 👍🏽. Definitely helped! I love your breakdown of the topic.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Awesome! So glad to hear that it resonated with you.

[@megancampion18]

Omg you literally hit the nail on the head wow wow wow brilliant thank you

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks, it all makes sense once you put the pieces together. 👍

[@joanagonzalez1916]

This is an awesome and super informative video. Thanks & keep up the good work! I love all of the ones you’ve made so far.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks! What was your favorite part?

[@arabchic7855]

What an amazing explanation thank you so much ❤

[@debbiefox2343]

Amazing information, I don’t think of us as mismatched as genders but that it is natural polarity. We really do need to understand more about this, thank you for helping with this.

[@alexisscott5022]

This was soooo on point !!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching. 👍

[@ralucadiaconu8011]

I'm so glad I found you on tiktok this is great!!!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you’re here.

[@duckthesystem8569]

oh my thanks so much I love your presentation so genuine Definitely subscribing

[@aeydra]

I did not expect to LAUGH SO HARD and so much during a video like this 😂 Fantastic insight, will be implementing it, thank you 👍

[@ifyousayso4864]

This explains a lot! Thank you

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’m glad. Thanks.

[@jlgon]

The advice about vasopressin is gold. How come I've never heard about this?! It explains so much. I can now see the difference between guys who bond with me when I respond to them with competence versus those who only want to bond with men, against me! It's like they see women as problems they need to take down. Can you make a video about how to spot them?

[@jackrippper3389]

Thank you! This may contribute to twin flame relationships more than anyone knows.

[@elisepecksydney]

Loved this, thank you!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks! What stood out to you most?

[@Marymiracle1275]

I'm engaged now. I saw the video on tik tok and it was so interesting, i couldn't resist. Great content

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching. Enjoy your marriage. 🥂

[@karinacg8118]

this is the most useful video I ever came across :")

[@AttachmentAdam]

Awesome. What point in particular made the most sense?

[@relaxbebe]

Wow you are a blessed! Thank you. He just give us what we need for our men!!!! I’m so happy ❤😊

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that the advice has been helpful for you and your relationship.

[@buddehify]

You are absolutely amazing for this. This was VERY informative - I thought I was educated on the differences but I had no idea! Love the way you speak as well and give examples. 🙌🏻

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Gui-iq7dp]

Thank you so much man!!

[@jenniferschultze300]

This is very interesting! Thank you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching.

[@catalystphoenixmoon5385]

This was extremely helpful. Thank you 🙏 for explaining this clearly and directly and giving perfect examples.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad it was helpful! You're very welcome.

[@RR-sl1by]

THISSSS is one of the most HELPFUL things I've EVER heard! Dear God THANK U Adam! NOT all heros wear capes!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Happy to help! Which part stood out the most to you?

[@TheKatherine205]

This is amazing. Thank you so much! Love both this and your twitter ☺️

[@AttachmentAdam]

I’m glad to be useful 🙏 Thanks for watching.

[@v.v.5046]

This is so interesting. Found you on TikTok. Can you do more about how women can make guys release vasopressin before sex, in the earlier dating stages?

[@AttachmentAdam]

Check out the rest of this channel, there’s one video about how men bond through vasopressin with loved ones. 👍

[@riverafay]

@@AttachmentAdam I can’t find the video, what’s the name of it?

[@holisticevolution3285]

Haha :) Sorry, I don´t mean to be rude. I understand. But this sounds like wanting to manipulate and instrumentalize a man into fulfilling your needs. Is that REALLY what you want?

[@v.v.5046]

@@holisticevolution3285 You think men don’t manipulate women for sex and for their needs?

[@MayBlake_Channel]

@@holisticevolution3285 No it doesn't l. It sounds like she wants to learn more about vasopressin bonding in the early stage of a relationship. You sound like you're just automatically assuming she's the enemy because she's a women. I recommend you go watch some Jordan Peterson and come back when you've stopped being an incel and/or empathy-lacking-fuckboy

[@nanafatimalouassef808]

I never heard about this approche before , its Amazing! Now i undrestand these facts better than i was, thank you a lot ❤

[@AttachmentAdam]

So glad to hear that this was helpful! ❤

[@scorpio-girl687]

I'm so glad I found this tonight. Ove been doing stress, ptobkem solving things already but never heard it described from the guy's point of view!! Thank you. ❤😂❤

[@AttachmentAdam]

You are so welcome! Glad you found this helpful.

[@Ramonaliz1]

Thank you for this video

[@AttachmentAdam]

Was this helpful?

[@shanicesingletary6656]

This makes so much sense!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear it resonated with you!

[@JS-mh1fh]

Information I wish I'd known years ago! This makes a lot of sense, and information I can use in my life to improve my relationship. Thank you!

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm happy to hear this helps and that you're committed and willing to improve your connection with your partner! Thanks for your honest feedback.

[@deepikapinkrose]

Hey thanks for sharing this wonderful information which usually very few people are aware of.

[@AttachmentAdam]

You're welcome! I'm glad you found it helpful. 😊 Make sure to subscribe and stay tuned for more insights!

[@saradeyo9434]

You just filled in all the holes like as in our grandparents stayed married till death did them part because of the chemical bonding that's the reason ppl are so superficial and can't stay together today. your words 👌,you paint a very good picture in understanding relationships

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad the explanation resonated with you and helped make sense of relationship dynamics. How has this new perspective changed the way you view your own relationships?

[@nahdawg299]

Or mayyybeee women couldn't leave legally and the social consequences were kinda dire at the time to be a single mother. Like get real, half the problem is romanticizing a bunch of dysfunctional crap that was hidden constantly. Ask an elderly woman about her younger years, you'd be surprised if she's able to allow herself to tell the truth

[@Cookies205]

This explains so much

[@UrsaBella]

it does not explain much at all.

[@emilyjoeblow9755]

Dude! Thank you. 😂 He always thanks me and I throw my hand up for a high five and say oh no baby, thank you!! It makes perfect sense after hearing all this information, bc I’m naturally quite vocal and since we’re so comfortable together, we have no problem expressing our needs & desires and then work together to achieve the blastoff. Thank you very much for taking the time to make this video and doing such a great job articulating it in a way that everyone can understand. I had never even heard of this chemical. I was informed about oxytocin when I was breastfeeding, but never vasopressin. This video is informative, entertaining, quite funny, and I’ll actually be informing my girls about this in about 30seconds. 🤣 😂 Sharing in the group text! Thanks again, Sir! Have a great day & I’m subscribing. You’re awesome!

[@micheller3731]

"I'm laughing because it's funny" 😂 That made me chuckle. This video was excellent. Thanks for your candid advice, youve answered a lot of questions i never realised i needed answers too!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you so much, and I'm glad you enjoyed it!

[@RegineBrady]

You’re a great teacher 👍

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks so much!

[@flynnmorrow6945]

Wow, this explains so much. We didn't have any serious issues with sex, but I didn't understand why vanilla, boring sex wasn't cutting it for him, particularly when I'm postpartum and breastfeeding, and therefore less interested in sex. Now I totally see. And I get why my genuine reactions have a real effect on him. Thanks, Adam! Love your content!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear this info is helpful! Most women don’t understand this part because it’s opposite from their own. Now that you do know, you can use it differently. And use this bonding in other areas outside of the bedroom. What other parts of life could you see this applying to?

[@flynnmorrow6945]

@@AttachmentAdam when we were first dating, he loved going on "misadventures" -- he would try to take me out somewhere that he thought would be nice, and it would end up being really far away and/or not all that great. Those dates were so important to him, whereas I would have rather just done something simple and close by. He loves when we go through hard things together, whereas I would love an easy life.

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is great insight! Sounds like he enjoyed experiencing stress with you. That shows a lot of trust and desire to bond. How do you want to apply this insight going forward?

[@naturallylogan]

The best therapy session and college lecture in one! Wow this changed my life. You just cracked the code for women, THANK YOU

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that this resonated with you and provided valuable insights. What did you find most impactful, and how do you plan to apply these insights in your life?

[@Vicky-st1cm]

Solid advice 👍

[@bubbles88sudss]

Came from TikTok. Thanks!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you’re here.

[@user-cz9yo9ke8b]

this video gave me serotonin

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to help.

[@daniellemichayla]

Wow you just blew my mind

[@dorothymahally9551]

From Tanzania,this one was really Helpful

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for watching.

[@Emma-kn8zn]

Hi Adam heard you recently on modern wisdom, absolutely loving your area expertise so delighted to have come accross you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the support. 👍

[@donnaokrongly]

This was awesome - sooo helpful! Thank you!

[@AttachmentAdam]

So glad to hear you found this helpful!

[@shavawnekelly8376]

This was very informative thank you