The Truth About Vasopressin Bonding

Ever felt confused or hurt because a man didn't bond with you after intimacy? You're not alone! Discover the groundbreaking differences in male brain chemistry that affect bonding and learn how to ensure he stays connected with you long after the passion fades.
🎥 In this video, Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, dives deep into:
The mystery hormone most women have never heard of, but is crucial for male bonding.
Why some actions in the bedroom might be driving men away.
Practical, research-based tips on how to strengthen the bond both inside and outside the bedroom.
Common misconceptions women have about male bonding and how to avoid them.
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Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:00 - The science of male bonding
3:00 - What women are doing wrong
5:00 - Oxytocin vs. Vasopressin
7:00 - Achieving bonding in and out of the bedroom
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[@sunmoonstars0369]

This.explains why men bond so deeply in war and on sports teams

[@AttachmentAdam]

Great perspective! There's also the 'us vs. them' factor and identifying with a community in those cases.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

If they only would not draw women and children into their competition games.

[@kjbrocky]

​@@oOIIIMIIIOoExactly!!!

[@smokingcrab2290]

@oOIIIMIIIOo, men drag you in? Ya'll voluntarily join the military because ya'll want to be like men lol and then the military lowers their standards just to allow you to voluntarily join.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

This is why the 4B movement is on the rise in the US. Thank goodness.

[@katiataggarta1914]

“You feel like he’s your best friend, but he feels like you’re his favorite hamburger.” BYE 😭🤣🤣🤣

[@deniseunknown4576]

😂

[@soleil7259]

I was like nauw.. i don't even feel like going into a relationship anymore 😂

[@Mortablunt]

Complete with putting the meat and pickles between the buns and letting out all that good white sauce!

[@metaLungiez]

​@@soleil7259 I mean he told you the answer, you just don't like that it requires effort on your part.

[@soleil7259]

@@metaLungiez It takes effort on both sides to start there. Don't even think that a relationship is a one side investment. And you must the life of the party to take my joke so serious. Calm down.

[@Typeher]

Okay, I had a partner who really cared about me, he used to love fixing things with me, and helping me to achieve goals, we were a great team, inside and outside bedroom. He was very affectionate, protective, a very good provider and he enjoyed it a lot. He took care of me like nobody else in my entire life, and he used to tell everyone how special I was in his life and how much I meant to him. BUT, he never stopped having affairs here and there, he is a very attractive man so it is so easy for him. He always treated me as the most important person in his life, also, I came to know that he used to tell the women he was having an affair with, how wonderful I was (I really can't understand that), he used to get entangled for short periods of time with as many women as he could. That is why I finally finished our relationship. My point is: a man can be attached and promiscuos at the same time

[@andreaberg1735]

🥲

[@lilaschwarz1236]

Which a woman usually can't. Very interesting story.

[@Hannahrose26853]

Sounds kind of like a sexual addiction. I’m sorry you had to go through that :(

[@ewawlodarczyk4709]

It is because men are polygamous and we women are monogamous. And if a man is attractive and has options, he will use it. That's not an excuse. That's a fact. So we can choose a man who has no options and is only for us or choose a man who has options but can have affairs. I have a man who is very loyal to me, but I have that awareness that one day he can be unfaithful to me. I hope not, but he is only human. So congrats on that you've chosen yourself! ❤

[@candicerogers7777]

Read the book "Sex at Dawn". Completely changed how I think about sex and monogamy.

[@dannycolwell8028]

I’m in a new relationship, and my lady friend had some car troubles. She called me for advice and it made me feel so good. Then because her car was expensive, she let me cook her dinner and give her leftovers to take home. I felt like such good caretaker and she was so grateful and affectionate.

[@maureenjossick429]

This makes me happy. 😊 I’m really happy for you both. She definitely has much respect for you, and a high opinion of you. And that was very thoughtful to cook her a meal, and leave her with the food to take home..I know she must have been beyond grateful and thankful..women pay attention to those kind of gestures..I really am rooting for you both!! 😊😊 Never change friend!

[@StephanieG1]

Wow, you're really setting the bar high for all the other guys out there! 🍲🚗 Taking care of her car troubles, cooking her dinner, and sending her home with leftovers? That's some top-tier boyfriend material right there. She's lucky to have such a dedicated and caring partner like you. Keep up the good work, super simp! 👑💖

[@tenshimoon]

@stephanieG1 someone doesn't know what simp means even if you're just being sarcastic...

[@dannycolwell8028]

@@StephanieG1 affectionate was a euphemism, she’s definitely sending me the energy back. I don’t think that makes someone a simp.

[@BetabelL-mh1xw]

That's being a gentleman not a simp. Touch some grass and meet real women ​@@tenshimoon

[@yngproduzioni]

Bro I'm a male and I've been deeply in love with the same woman for years! We were best friends and classmate for 10 years and we literally JUST KISSED ONCE. I never understood why I couldn't get over her, why I kept loving her and why the BOND was so deep in me. I literally thought I was crazy. Now I understand. Being classmates meant solving challenges together every day, like homeworks, finding the money for snacks, takin the bus in time etc etc. Thanks, you gave me the answer I have been lookin for the last DECADE. Women THIS WORKS. Fucking Vasopressin.

[@Nonfiction.Reader]

@@yngproduzioni 😊

[@derekgeorgeandrews]

Whoa my Fiance is nailing this so well...she does so many things with me, projects and reading and dancing and piano. We haven't even been together yet (traditional Christian lifestyle).. also im very good at cuddling her and giving her backrubs. I think we are giving each other our bonding hormones x1000. gonna be married in the Fall

[@AttachmentAdam]

So glad to hear this!!! Congratulations!

[@Kelli-ru7yy]

There it is bro, awesome.

[@spilledit]

She's gonna cheat. They all do.

[@christinamckinney2370]

@@spilledit Don’t rain on his parade. Not all women cheat. Thirty-five years over here and I haven’t. I’m also a Christian woman. Not that Christians are always faithful, but it helps to have a set of morals that at least create guidelines for the relationship.

[@spilledit]

@@christinamckinney2370 not enough of you to need to talk about it. It will almost never really happen it is so rare.

[@edenwilliams2959]

Men sound like the complicated ones 😂 I’m glad I came to this channel and learned the truth.

[@ladybug3380]

They are.

[@jessicaagosto3633]

hahaha me too 👏🏼

[@BeefKaKE971]

Lol relatively simple, good sex, loyalty and work together to solve problems.... Make life easier.

[@nicoobrowner59]

It sounds complicated, but I think they are quiet simple 😂. Maybe my man feels simple? I don't know. Us on the other hand? Girl, I think we have a little bit more complexity.

[@_FJB_]

They are not. They will tell you what you want to know when you ask. They won't hint at things and expect someone to understand and if the don't, oh well. On to the next guy. Loyalty. Women are not committed in a marriage anymore. There for we have given up on that 100%.

[@Kelli-ru7yy]

I'm 4 months into a relationship and this naturally happened for my relationship. We would get in a pickle and figure out solutions together. He would say "I don't know if it's possible but I love you more now " I never heard of this before but am super glad I know now. This is so wonderful what you're doing for both men and women.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Love to hear it! Maybe watch this video with him

[@eac-guy7272]

Can you please explain then why do a lot of men leave the women who supported them in hard times for another woman when they've gotten to be financially stable?

[@SuzanneAtwood]

Bc they use us as a resource and after you help them level up, they view you with disdain and think now they can do “better.”

[@eyennordic348]

Because they feel the best when they are themselves supporters. When they evolve they find a women with lower status and become a giver to her pleasure. Their wife now seen as a supportive mother rather than pleasure taker.

[@amandagrayson2769]

Because they only want to use them. If I were a man and wanted to impress a woman, I would make sure to be the one helping HER, not have her help ME. What a strange idea...

[@BrainTrainbuddy]

It's because that woman reminds him of his struggles when he wants to start a new... Sometimes we don't want to stick with a trigger of the past.

[@johndegoede7639]

Because when the woman becomes the caretaker that is all he sees. Caretaker positions in marriage are not sexy. Men will get sexy elsewhere while remaining with the caretaker because now he has his 2 for 1 deal

[@onlydotter]

This explains why cheaters bond with their mistresses. And why the mistress gets dumped when the wife dumps the cheater - there’s no “challenge” to bond over when the wife leaves

[@r-ratedstudios3847]

wow, so much baggage.

[@rhythmnblues9195]

@@r-ratedstudios3847 Wow, so much a cheater.

[@HANZELVANDERLAAY]

Sure wish...I was casual like that....oh well.....dogs are faithful..yay🎉

[@Coco-chrispy]

Men don’t like being alone. So he’s not dumping the mistress😂

[@r-ratedstudios3847]

@@Coco-chrispy damn they hurted you so much u live so salty now

[@abbey428]

This explains how my bestie got full-blown commitment from her fiance only 3 weeks into dating him. She lived with me at the time. They came back from a date, and there was gunfire up at the gas station less than a block away. A week later, she moved in with him. He was protecting her. ❤ They are still going strong after all these years.

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

it’s called trauma bonding

[@lulabell79_31]

Nothing about your comment makes sense. Was he firing the gun at the gas station? Or if they were together a block away from the gunfire what was he protecting her from? I don't think this has anything to do with what he is saying in his video.

[@Sizzlor1337]

Protection and trauma bonding sure. Doesn't have anything to do with this video though

[@user-kb8qw7dy4t]

That's called trauma bonding, and it's not a healthy way of bonding.

[@Gunshinzero]

​@@leedlbagginshield8492 How is that trauma bonding? What trauma?

[@ulrikschackmeyer848]

Absolutely stellar explanation for me with degrees in biology and psychology. And two divorces.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad the explanation resonated with you, especially given your background in biology and psychology. Your perspective adds valuable insight to the discussion. If you have any further questions or topics you'd like to explore, feel free to reach out at [e-mail]

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

Same

[@_THE_NUT_]

Your pfp itself explains your struggles.

[@ym2931]

Oxytocin sounds so much sexier and beautiful than Vasopressin lol but thank you for clarifying the differences. I've never heard of this before.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm glad this helped! Both are essential for healthy relationships. How do you think this new understanding will impact your approach to relationships?

[@carlpanzram7081]

Really? To me it feels like it's much more hedonistic and meaningless. Ocytocin is what you get for closeness. It's nice for sure, but what is it's meaning? You share a space? Howany people have you shared a space with, and the left? I have known a lot of promiscuous woman, but I don't know a single men with lots of loyal fried ships. It's usually a very short and important list of people you can rely on no matter what, and you cant really replace them either.

[@katelynwoodworth9989]

I'm a giver. Dated a lot of takers. Never realized taking could be a bonding thing. Thanks for the advice!

[@smokingcrab2290]

The truth is no one's really attracted to you

[@jenifernadeau]

Being a giver or a people pleaser is actually a fawning response from childhood trauma and neglect. There's also fight, flight and freeze. Without learning to receive in life, regularly..... and ask for help and assistance.. you are actually harming the other person because you're taking away from their Joy❤

[@katelynwoodworth9989]

@@jenifernadeau You nailed it. This was something I only recently began to learn. I'm 33 years old, but it's better late than never.

[@heatherr1141]

@@katelynwoodworth9989 I didn’t learn till 40. I been practicing and learning now 5 years. It’s a lot when i hadn’t been practicing and didn’t understand because of the trauma and learning how to get through that as a child. Like you said better late than never. Mine wasn’t all from trauma. My mom had trauma and was taught to people please as a way to be good to others. Not taught to be good to herself. So i learned from my mom. I thought I was being good to others. Then one day I realized I wasn’t getting treated the same way as I was others and I realized I wasn’t being good to me and if I wanted to be happy I had to do it and teach others the way I want to be treated by doing so for me first. Even if others don’t at least I’m good to myself.

[@katelynwoodworth9989]

@@heatherr1141 I'm so glad you learned to treat yourself better. I see too many women suffer in silence. It's heartening to hear of women who break free 😊

[@Enjoyinglife22]

Men and women are so different! No wonder it’s so hard to be in relationships!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Yes, we're wired differently, but it doesn't have to be so hard. What's the most difficult aspect of being in a relationship in your opinion?

[@LeJa-ks1vc]

@@AttachmentAdam to unite in our differences Also, I believe, we'll both have to be somewhat mature or have the same level of maturity to be able to mature further together

[@seasim888]

@@AttachmentAdam most difficult is definitely how stubborn men can be. And most set in being certain they know everything when in reality… it’s a feelings thing and we are never wrong in our feelings. Seeing our feelings and negative feeling reactions to our world and whatever as a threat, or something needing to be fixed or “done away with immediately” sort of attitude have been hard to overcome in my own dating scenarios and relationships.

[@Pschychotically]

It is not hard. You just have the wrong partners.

[@seasim888]

@@Pschychotically hahaha yeah okay

[@AlexandraZack-pc9le]

This is the first actually good, practical, and APPLICABLE breakdown on Vasopressin I've seen that isn't just trying to sell us some stupid online course. Thank you!

[@morganeoghmanann9792]

Women also produce vasopressin. We tell men we need hugging, hand-holding, etc. and we get blown off.

[@patriciamccraig1772]

Yes we do

[@themoonbleu627]

We?😂

[@JustCammie]

Yeah a lot of this video is bs. I have definitely bonded with men in high stress situations that I handled very well with them and it didn't matter. I'm done trying to learn tricks and tips. I want someone who is willing to put in the work like I am.

[@JustCammie]

Also the orgasm thing is totally about a man's ego and not about the woman most of the time.

[@morganeoghmanann9792]

@@themoonbleu627 I am a biological female and proud of it.

[@user-ze6cf4ls6c]

When my older sister told me that you have to make a man feel like your life depends on him I didn't believe her. Turns out she was right 😂

[@tenshimoon]

Idk, I hear so many times that men don't want a woman they have to "rescue" or even just take care of. So I don't think even men know what they really want half the time lmao

[@terry9238]

Well, at least he needs to think your ORGASM depends on him!

[@littlehami7278]

Unless he has avoidance attachment issues then he long gone haha

[@user-ze6cf4ls6c]

@@terry9238 😂 😂

[@carlpanzram7081]

Not really, men just wants to feel useful and needed. I don't understand why so many woman try to twist this simple aspect of male bonding into something weird or even unethical. The amount of woman telling in themselves in this comment section is WILD.

[@debbiefinley7827]

Thank-you. This explains so much. Pictures of men holding up fish; often men wanting the chase, more than the actual catch, etc.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm happy to hear you found this helpful! Have you heard of this hormone before?

[@Stein99]

Ok...explain to then why men are 7 times more likely to leave their female partner when they get sick? And why men cheat when women are pregnant? Shouldn't they have bonded with their partner and don't need sick...right?

[@Evagealia]

The video says women are not meant to be the CAUSE of their stress, but rather their peace when they solve the problem together. I suppose some men see a sick partner as the cause of the problem ...

[@laizerwoolf]

I think its the other way around, if a man is in love or bonded enough with her partner he will never leave her when she is sick. But if the bond is not established a sick partner would probably be seen as a burden.

[@michaeldevlin7747]

I'm guessing those women sounded a bit like you...

[@Mzz-erika]

Maybe its because theyre not sexually attractive to them any more 🤷‍♀️

[@MayBlake_Channel]

Those men are toxic. This video is about the decent men

[@antiwokeaction]

Omg that explains why men bonded with me because I was in distress 😮

[@kat-601]

And they knew it too.

[@antiwokeaction]

@@kat-601 but I never trusted them 😉

[@KrakenIsMahB]

@@antiwokeaction your mistake 🤣

[@antiwokeaction]

@@KrakenIsMahB nah

[@ReinertZerker]

Women don't care, now men don't. Go cry a river.

[@vanessastevenson6101]

First time i have heard of this... i dont think you covered this: but puzzle piece, Vasopressin, explains why men and women in the work place is the most fertile affair ground... sharing goals, vision, skills omg heaven forbid a mentor/mentee working relationship... bonding, bonding, bonding... treacherous pathways, no matter how strong the bond at home. The longer the interaction... it takes a very special person to resist this... and finally once in this "affair situation"... how bonded are you now, no pun intended!? The secret shared and guarded... and worked on to maintain it.... the high - unmatched! For a while.... then it all comes crashing down. Om gosh - what a revelation .... good one Adam. Eyes wide open. Wow.

[@deemelody2396]

What a good insight here! Conversely, co-workers would not be attracted to each other if they were not succeeding together. It only happens when there is the success. It is too easy, for some humans to reason & always think the grass is greener on the other side, and will want to go to that greener place. People can fall to temptation too easy when things are good, and run away from things that become difficult, or abandon those who helped them through the difficult times.

[@edenwilliams2959]

This would really apply to men who need that type of interaction to “bond”

[@AZMR240SX]

@@edenwilliams2959you mean… 98% of men?

[@abbey428]

I'm bonded to a former coworker. Ours goes beyond mere vassopressin. We have a telepathic connection. Another coworker was looking for an opportunity to cheat on his wife. He tried getting my attention, and I ignored him. He's shallow and full of conceit. Another woman snapped his bait. She's giving me superior looks and is riding high at the moment. I can't wait to see how long it takes him to tire of his little hamburger!

[@curlyhairdudeify]

What you said was real pre 1990s.... Now, everything a se/xual harassment suit money grab waiting to happen.

[@zachariah380]

This man is a genius. Ladies: Listen to him. He knows what he's talking about.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for the feedback!

[@Adoreabl3]

​@AttachmentAdam please read my recent comment I'm in dire need of help and understanding. 😢

[@Kelli-ru7yy]

He's pretty on point with how women think too haha This dude is uniting the sexes. Yay finally. I'm sick of the sex war.

[@HellenofTroy897]

I agree.

[@lynnbuffalow4336]

Never heard of it

[@smith899]

5:21 OMG, this is so ironic! My husband and I went through A LOT when we first got married! My MIL commented that most people divorce for less than we went through. We walked out of it saying, “You and me against the world, babe.” And it has been that way for 30+ years.

[@Dontbuglee]

So damn cute girl do yall have kids?

[@smith899]

@@Dontbuglee Three. Grown. Two married.

[@nowgo7638]

Congrats!

[@yujibell]

During a social event we were all assigned a treasure hunt for fun. I asked this guy if he can help me with my remaining list. He got mad that I asked for help without talking to him first. He got mad that I didn't notice he was wearing earrings, one of the remaining items i needed. Men can also be fkn complicated

[@Dontbuglee]

@@smith899 Wow!! Been through it all! Congrats 🎉

[@indigowanderer1105]

First off, I think you're right about all of this. But this is so fundamentally different from how women view sex that it almost makes me feel that men and women are truly romantically incompatible. Not to mention that a lot of men are unable to apply constructive criticism in the bedroom and also, outside of the bedroom, often think that yelling half-assed directions at you is an appropriate way to "teach" you how to do something new. So i guess my point is that the vasopressin thing may be true, but this approach wont suddenly make dealing with a man who is inherently toxic any easier. Also, let's not pretend that the "i want to make you orgasm multiple times tonight" is anything more than a selfish, ego-driven goal. Women don't want this. Stop pressuring them about it.

[@seabreeze4559]

make you v let you

[@indigowanderer1105]

@@seabreeze4559 exactly

[@elsagrace3893]

Thank you! Women don’t want this and stop pressuring them about this. It makes me throw up in my mouth a little.

[@JulietteZephyr]

I know... the video made me depressed because no man I've been with cares

[@sctaylor705]

If we're incompatible and I'm starting to believe we are then (romantic) love is dead if it ever existed and maybe this is just how the human race ends itself. Legitimately It just gives me total despair like its not worth being around anymore.

[@pascalcooper4518]

No girlfriend has ever made me feel like she would be my ally in hard times.

[@latinaalma1947]

Sorry to hear that....solving problems together is very bonding....knowing someone has your back is great.

[@carlpanzram7081]

Because they wouldn't. If you show woman that you need help, they leave.

[@ReinertZerker]

The fact they need a man to explain this to them should say enough dude, it's not in them to care.

[@laciehamblin8584]

My husband always says I am very relaxing and peaceful, I put him to sleep, and I ask him doesn’t that make me boring? Haha 🤣 he’s like no, haha you relax me.

[@leannehickey1986]

Haha same I always say to my boyfriend why do you always fall asleep on me, am I boring ? 🤣

[@dizasadorableanimals6554]

@@leannehickey1986 I think he finds ease and peace with you quickly and effortlessly. You are his safe place and he can let go of his tensions and fears momentarily whilst he sleeps on your lap. It’s seems like heaven to a man to be able to do that, from what I’ve experienced. He feels secure.

[@leannehickey1986]

@@dizasadorableanimals6554 thank you 🙏 I hope that is the case. Took him a while to get to that place so it means a lot.

[@kkibela]

Yeah I'm confused .. trauma bonding is a terrible basis for relationships.. I want peace not problems .. i want a man who wakes up and knows what's good for him.. not the human equivalent of a rubies cube

[@silver_grunge9007]

​@@leannehickey1986 I have heard that when youre around people you love you turn relaxed and sleepy and thats why you fall asleep easier with a person you love

[@MonaLisaFaceMusic]

I think I’ll become a nun.

[@franceslovato9842]

Same. Lol

[@Sizzlor1337]

Have fun

[@Victoryin1945]

And that’s what you’ll get, none.

[@franceslovato9842]

@@Victoryin1945 Yes, literally. Unevitably there is a definite correlation between being a nun & not getting none. 🤣

[@JR-gq3ww]

Weak

[@mattfischer1]

This is my first time to hear about vasopressin. And I’m always trying to solve my man’s problems so this is exactly what I needed to hear.

[@rachelross5829]

Hes not saying anything about a woman solving a mans problems. If I'm not mistaken he's talking about solving things together. Can be a jigsaw puzzle lol😂

[@deniseunknown4576]

Same

[@purepelican8972]

I was surprised this weekend when my boyfriend seemed so happy after he and I spent the day in the garden cleaning it up. Maybe it was the enjoyment of achieving something together. I'm guessing this was vasopressin in action.

[@jayzenstyle]

It's that "brotherhood" feeling where you feel you can fight against all odds better because you have a reliable partner that knows how to complement your strategies and motions. This is why we love team sports and multiplayer video games

[@1111fairy]

Can we just buy him the nose spray? 😂

[@createa.googleaccount713]

😅😂🤣

[@orangepeaches8238]

Right?🤔😂😂😂

[@Portia620]

🤦‍♀️😂

[@Portia620]

I think we need to use it later on the relationship, but not the beginning and that’s the problem

[@mordecai144k2]

Only if we can get you the nose spray as well, so he doesn't have to fulfill your needs himself.

[@Jjhh81]

Oh wow. This was an eye-opener! My partner of 2.5 years is obsessed with health and fitness. I’m into it…as much as I’m also into wine and socialising, etc. I’m always telling him to leave me alone about diet and exercise, but he begs me to stick to a plan with him because he’s weak when it comes to his fave foods, and says he wants us to ACHIEVE GOALS together. He’s been annoying me, but I can see now that’s he’s just been trying to bond with me. He is not affectionate at all and it drives me mad. I’m going to go out of my way to achieve some fitness goals with him and see what happens…

[@chopin7788]

Anything happen?

[@Nik-xb4on]

Keep us updated I will ne waiting

[@carlpanzram7081]

How did you not realize this earlier? 🤣

[@maam-yj8ph]

​@@carlpanzram7081 because when women do this to men, it's called "nagging."

[@user-wz7is4os9c]

The hamburger analogy cracked me up!! LOL

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad that one hit well! But it makes sense, right?

[@romy3582]

Me too!! I never thought they would see us like that 😂

[@Lynniepinnie-jr7lb]

it’s so hard for him to get an O - I thought due to medication … but I’m really going to change my attitude here & approach. Shoot you watch “it’s my attitude this whole time lololol.”

[@aylex1974]

This is real we are food only lol

[@morganchristmas6299]

​@@AttachmentAdamyes and is funny.

[@alokamchinenyeaugusta3319]

Never heard of vasopressin hormones before, my boyfriend sent this to me. Thank you so much

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad I could help! I've got 5 more videos for this on here, plus a lot of bonding videos for you too.

[@createa.googleaccount713]

😲MG! WHO KNEW??? I'm a Vasopressin Virgin, 1st time I've ever heard of it! Super Thank you! You're my Hero! 🤜❤🤛🙏🏻🙌🏆🏆🏆🎖🏅🥇

[@MoonGlitter17]

Thank you this is so helpful. Achieving goals together is something that now has taken on a new level of importance to me in my relationship. Never thought of bringing that into the bedroom.

[@cassandraconroy1682]

This is the first time I've heard of vasopressin. This is the first time I've heard dating advice from this scientific standpoint. Thank you so much!! 🙏🏼❤

[@olgaloutokhina6213]

Never heard if vasopressin and yes, clearly pushed a guy away by making things too easy, bummer… What a great video! Thanx so much! 🙏

[@hulahandskc]

Yes, it’s the first time I am learning about vasopressin. Thank you!

[@n0426]

Wow. I have always been very continuous about this fact. I always knew that men naturally value women who value themselves and not give sexual advances to them very fast. It’s because they won’t see you as long term mate. It’s very dangerous as a woman because we do bond physically but the man usually doesn’t!

[@AfterAFashionASMR]

I dont think that’s what he said tho… 🤔

[@n0426]

@@AfterAFashionASMR i know. But it approves this fact.

[@smokingcrab2290]

If this is true why do you ride the dick corousel carelessly in your 20s and then when your eggs are about to dry up you want to settle down for a good guy and then you refuse to give him sex after marriage? If men don't bond through sex then why do men leave sexless marriages? You live in a totally different reality

[@AfterAFashionASMR]

@@n0426 how exactly? Im genuinely curious

[@n0426]

@@AfterAFashionASMR once you know what to avoid. And what you won’t accept. You know what you want and how to approach it.

[@jessicaagosto3633]

wow it took this video to learn about a man falling in love with me, thankyou I still have hope at 57! 😅👏🏼thankyou

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm so glad to hear that! It's never too late for love and hope! 😊💖

[@27Kathrine]

This is the first time I have ever heard of Vasopressin Bonding. Thanks for sharing it and making this video.

[@miami4005]

I have ro agree with someone else in here, Adam is a genius. He's helping us women understand men on a level we would've never thought. Helping both men and women. Nothing but good can come!

[@sharxxnaushxr]

That…. Was the most useful piece of information i have heard in a very long time. And it made a few incidences come to mind that helped me understand why a specific person comes back to me at certain times. Also made me understand one time when i said I wanted to help him do something to make it easier for him to run his business, it made him want me even more. lol… I asked him why he said he wasn’t sure why he just felt like a rush and wanted to be with me even more. So thank you! Now i can better understand!

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm glad you found this insightful! How will you use this information moving forward?

[@moosings2048]

You're a good man, the delivery of this information is crucial to the survival and advancement of mankind.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you, I appreciate that. What stood out the most to you in this video?

[@moosings2048]

@@AttachmentAdam The fact that peaceful cooperation in completing important tasks is the main principle I need in a permanent companion. My relationship is very complex and often has left me wondering if I should be in it, due to the very principles you illustrated (in both directions actually). She's both horrible at it and the only one I can count on for it lol. Like having a loyal ally who is very bad at peacefully accomplishing the tasks together. But I showed her the video, I think your calm soothing demeanor might get it across better than I can. It's far too multilayered and paradoxical to explain, or to fix so simply, but your information and delivery is a good start.

[@twinmommy3189]

Vasopressin is completely new to me. I'm so glad I found you and this video. 😊

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to have you here and to help!

[@LeMidgen]

As a guy, I’ve struggled a bit to understand my attraction to women and why I was bonding the way I did. This is absolutely true, everything he said he hit the nail on the head.

[@user-ee4xu9lh4k]

This was the first time I’ve heard this and I’ve been studying these topics for a long time. Thanks.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad it was helpful! I talk a lot about vasopressin here so stay tuned for more.

[@DennyPlank]

“They wake up and wonder where they are.. and how they got sticky” Fell out of my chair

[@rhq2114]

I have never heard of Vasopressin. I am definitely going to try this tonight with my husband. Thank you Adam for sharing your wealth of knowledge ❤

[@joyj3286]

I love your content. This has changed me forever and healed my anxious side. All of your content is a game changer. Excited to bond with him. Thank you 🙏

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm happy to hear that, and I'm glad I could help. Feedback like yours means a lot!

[@BestLife1133]

Conversly; had a friend who only provided the vasopreson path(loved to do chores) but not the oxytocin. He was a clumsy lover and it never gelled on my side.

[@heatherduke7703]

I had one like this too. I couldn't get it to improve to the point where I was having fun in the bedroom. I was sad to end a relationship where the guy was so invested in helping me with pretty much anything

[@StarOnTheWater]

Same. I sure want to give him the satisfaction of pleasing me but if he just doesn't get it that's not an option , unfortunately.

[@Deelee77]

My DA kept telling me to tell him certain things in the beginning but it was vague and I didn’t follow! Now I get it!!! This makes perfect sense! Thanks Adam- you are brilliant! Love the content! It has helped me so much with him!!!❤

[@haldendoerge]

Vasopressin is something I'm very interested in because it's played a big role in my life. I had a brain tumor affect my hypothalamus which completely removed the ability of my body to make vasopressin (& testosterone). I've been taking them exogenously since and am able to maintain normal levels and function, which is great. All that to say, I learned firsthand that vasopressin's primary role is to regulate the kidneys function in retaining water and balancing electrolytes in the body. I haven't seen any research linking it with bonding or achieving goals, and I'm curious what research you've encountered that shows this link. Thanks for the work you're doing and the content!

[@haldendoerge]

@AttachmentAdam Just hoping you see this, as I'm curious about your response.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Check this one out: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5743651/

[@vital.elements]

​@@AttachmentAdamThanks!

[@brettthompson9082]

Wait..Vassopressin is involved with electrolyte balance?! Is that why magnesium levels are so low WHILE Im lonely?! Gotta learn more!

[@shereeclinton8741]

This would make sense why sports players are not supposed to have sex before a game or whatever.

[@samarakaye2573]

This is my first time hearing vasopressin. It’s very interesting to know how men’s brain chemistry works that way. I’ve always thought men and women are built differently but with equal share of roles to play in the family and society. Thank you for this! I am not only thinking about my significant other but with improving my relationship with my father, too, such as in coming into a point of common interest we can both bond and enjoy with.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you enjoyed it! This can help your relationship with all the men in your life!

[@shanbuchan7298]

Love your content and your videos - learning so much!! First time to hear about Vasopressin and wow wish I had known all this years ago! Thank you.

[@NocturnalNagatoro]

This is making so much sense now, it really DID just click 😭 its like he devises a battle plan to reach the finish and is literally so proud of himself for doing it, and proud of us for having the experience together.

[@ggrace1133]

Love your calm tone of voice and the soothing music in the background. Great info. Thank you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

So nice of you. Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Chrissygirl67]

Never ever ever heard of this. Been married 3 times. Each one had 10 years. Don’t think I ever want to do that again but if I ever do, I’m going to give this a try. Thank you so much.♥️

[@sookibeulah9331]

Thank you so much. It makes so much sense and is the first time I’ve heard of vasopressin. It ties in with some other recommendations (or even strategies) I’ve been told that felt either too long-winded, game-playing or subservient However, this is simple, can be be relevant in different situations and makes sense for a psychological, physiological and neuro-chemical reasons.

[@bentealgreen-ussing3818]

It IS the first time I hear about vasopressin... an absolute eye opener, THANK YOU 🍀

[@Flicka1April2]

This is a great video, it was engaging and easy to follow. You have such a wonderful way about you and it was a joy to learn from you. Thank you so much for the time and effort you put in to make it! I adore my future husband and I am so looking forward to all the goals we’re about to achieve together☺️

[@jessaanderson627]

Yes this is the first that I’m clearly hearing about vasopressin

[@blancaperez3470]

I’ve heard of vasopressin. I love the way he explains how bonding happens for females and males. The analogy of the hamburger is a great way to understand the concept.

[@MadisonEstes]

I hope he's wrong about that because it feels really dehumanizing and gross.

[@richerDiLefto]

@@MadisonEstes As a woman, it almost makes me want to avoid sex altogether.

[@carlpanzram7081]

It's not dehumanizing at all. Men do not think of WOMAN as hamburgers, they think of the SEX as hamburgers. In that analogy, the woman would be the cook. While for the cook, serving hamburgers would be this deep, meaningful act, to those who eat, it is merely a great hamburger.

[@wandadevitry5236]

Although I’m on board with the vasopressin idea, let’s be real. The notion of intending to receive multiple O’s is putting way too much pressure and sometimes pain on the woman who is happy with one (or two) big O’s. Why can’t we normalize the idea of one or two O’s per intimacy time because in reality it is the norm. This is not just my experience but according to anyone I’ve ever talked to about having multiple o’s. It seems to me multiples are not about pleasuring women multiple times it’s about making the male feel good about being a (big) giver. I mean if you’re still young and under the age of 35 without children plus a full time job, you might have that kind of energy and if so more power to you, but that’s not the norm.

[@StarOnTheWater]

100%. MOs are possible for some women but it's not the norm and the image has mainly been constituted by p*rn.

[@Tomas-ql9yo]

Wow you are really good I am watching your videos I did this with my late husband without realizing it. We had an eighteen years honeymoon. Unfortunately he died of covid 19 in 2020. But, when I'm ready to have another relationship i will be mindful of this I will teach my two daughters this too

[@IshtarBellydancer]

Thank you Adam ! After 20 years of marriage and separated …. I finally understand what I can do to love him how he needs not what I think… :) I have faith in our deep love that we can grow secure and change :) maybe in that next stage - we will come to you for learning good communication skills

[@Eh-Ma-Lee]

First time watching your videos. I just found your channel....... And yes, first time I've heard of this and it makes total sense. It's like the stars all aligned after watching this video. Honestly, you're videos are best I've seen. They are fact driven and I greatly appreciate that it didn't contain any of the usual subjective "opinions" or relationship stereotypes that every other channel spews all over. Only channel I'm watching from now on. Thank you for your hard work.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that you found the content informative and engaging. It means a lot to me. Thanks again for watching, and I look forward to bringing you more valuable content in the future!

[@emilylitchko9414]

This was an eye opening video. Great information and very well put together. I’m impressed.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I appreciate that! Glad it was helpful!

[@anthonyc362]

This is the BEST explanation I’ve ever heard!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Appreciate your kind feedback and I'm glad it was helpful 👍🏻

[@user-hv3ln3rk8i]

Thank you so much, you have great talent and sense of humor❤

[@pamellayantolo3797]

Thanks for sharing this is my first time hearing about vasopressin

[@laurawalsh2829]

This is the first time I have heard of anything like this. Thank you for your insights. 😊

[@wayofathame]

I've never heard of this before, thank you for the information! Can't wait to put it to practice

[@fnffnchfhc154]

But how are you supposed to orgasm and reach the goal together if you don’t feel safe and relax? Doesn’t the man also have a part to okay in actually making the situation comfortable and relating for the woman?

[@KuriousKi77y]

Thankful for the algorithm for leading me to your channel!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks for coming and happy you're here! 😊

[@krissekivisto4805]

Thank you for getting into the point, and your honesty 🙌👍

[@mommamargo2141]

I've heard about this on TikTok from a woman named Shae. However details weren't given for a marketing strategy type of thing. Then I found you! I appreciate you sharing your knowledge!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thanks a lot for your feedback! Did anything sound surprising or shocking? I'd love to hear more from you.

[@tiffanyh629]

"I trust you, I'm here for you and we'll get through this together" moment. It's so easy. Literally so many relationships would be so much happier if BOTH partners, no matter the gender, express what they want without the bs societal conditioning (ie. Guys can't ask for hugs because it's "unmanly/gay/feminine" and girls can't voice her true desires because she'd be freaky/b-tchy/too much). There's WAY more similarities than differences between genders, we just think otherwise because we shattered children into boxes.

[@linagirl8817]

Wow! This is new to me. Thank you!!!!❤

[@DevynNickens]

This is my first time hearing about vassopressin. I have seen men wander away from women and they've been devastated. Thank you

[@maureenjossick429]

As a woman, I have learned quite a bit about the male/female bonding from a males chemical/hormonal perspective. Everything I’ve heard seems to make 1000% sense! I have NEVER ever heard of vasopressin before! All you EVER hear about, is testosterone! Never do you hear of men having their own bonding chemical, I was under the impression that men and women would release oxytocin, obviously a lot more we release as women, but I honestly thought men used smaller amounts of oxytocin for their bonding hormones as well.. I’m really happy this channel appeared in my news feed! I also really enjoy the content creator, as the way he explains these things are very easy, down to earth, and delivered in a very compassionate way..I’m subbed! Thank you for educating me, who wrongly assumed,or “thought”! Also this almost reminded me of all the commercials like” make your man love you and only you!”etc.. maybe this was the information they were trying to SELL us.. lol 🤔😂

[@AttachmentAdam]

I'm glad you found this information helpful! Thank you for your kind words about the content-it's great to hear that the explanations resonate with you. What other topics or insights are you curious about?

[@relaxwithme__]

This man’s giving us cheat codes 📝

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you find this helpful! What stood out the most to you?

[@ReinertZerker]

In one ear out the other, cause it goes against female nature.

[@shootermcgee5507]

Ladies, if you love your man, listen to this. Spot on

[@Joanna.swiderska]

Yes first time hear about it! Thanku for shearing your Knowledge! ❤❤❤

[@katinacoffey1386]

This explains a lot of things. Thank you for the clarity.. 😊

[@Elhastezy888]

Really *REALLY* Wish Id Seen This 35 Years Ago. Thank you for helping people 🤍 Its astonishing HOW accurate. Wishing you many blessings

[@CuddleClaw.]

You explain things super well. TY

[@AttachmentAdam]

You're most welcome. Happy to help!

[@owlani1]

Best video I’ve ever watched!!!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you! What made this one so good for you?

[@Musa-Mommy]

🎯🙌🏾 I loooove your videos! Your content teaches me SO much about my partner and his attachment style as well as help me ease my own anxiety in various relationships. I genuinely thank you for sharing!🙏🏾😊

[@AttachmentAdam]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that my videos have been helpful. It's truly rewarding to know that my content is making a positive impact. Your support means a lot to me! 🙏😊

[@YogaWithAashirya]

Thankyou so much for your wonderful and practical knowledge ❤

[@dnoelani5588]

Thank you so much for this!!! He told me he likes so many things about me, but he doesnt feel connected. Man, this explains a lot! The only time I heard of Vasopressin was here and in another one of your videos!

[@AttachmentAdam]

This is going to be a big help to you, give this a try as a couple!

[@KalleThordenberg]

Excellent advice! 🤌🏼

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you think so!

[@justincoats7236]

I've never heard of vasopressin. I've watched a lot of videos. I've read tons of books and articles. I've listened to hundreds of podcasts. This makes complete sense. I've talked about this exact thing. (If my wife could do this with me. It would mean so much to me.) Thanks for teaching this. I've already sent it to the friends.

[@MrVvdliz]

I love this video, great information. Thank you!!

[@SpunkyHomeSchoolBlog]

And please answer the question of how an avoidant starts to feel that bonding and then sabotages because the closeness is not easy for him.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Because they're really in love with you

[@abilityup6734]

You nearly answered it. Avoidants will get out once they sense too much love or closeness. It's a defense mechanism related to past trauma. Essentially they've been betrayed too much or too deeply that they'd rather just leave than relive that potential betrayal.

[@vkeapple]

Yes, first time hearing of vasopressin

[@kpaden2487]

Never heard of it. This explains a great many things, Thanks

[@duckylove3930]

Have never heard of vasopressin. This is a wonderful video, thank you.

[@AttachmentAdam]

You are so welcome, glad it was helpful!

[@SynthDecay]

Y’know, this is spot on. Went through some of the most existentially threatening challenges together, came out of it bonded like super glue. I blinked and we were almost 90% bonded, whereas most probably would've been like 30% of the way there. It’s been close to 2 years now. I would risk my life to protect this man. It is worth it.