Bachon Ki Tarbiyat Kis Ka Farz Hai? | patriarchy | misogyny

[@rehanjanjua4337]

I fully agree, in my opinion. Father has greater responsibility to develop a healthy culture at home, which directly affects personality grooming of children

[@manntarang_]

Exactly!

[@raza_92]

One of the illuminated celebrities of Pakistan. Thanks Tamkeenat for anti patriarchy statement

[@amnagrewal5197]

💯 agreed. Unfortunately in our society this mindset is so common. Even in well settled families. This is absolutely unjustified to blame a female in such issues. Kids observe both parents neutrally to learn from them!

[@fahadsohail7914]

Dearest Doc Greetings from Switzerland. You nailed it like always !! Cheers.

[@shseasycooking4857]

Sometimes mothers have no say at home, but still she is "resposible" for bachon ki tarbiat💔

[@mitthosaleh2172]

اگر باپ کا بچوں کی تربیت میں ہاتھ نہ ہوتا تو آنحضور صلی اللہ علیہ والہ وسلام کبھی بھی یہ نہیں کہتے کہ جو اپنی 3 بیٹیوں کی اچھی تربیت کرے گا وہ جنت میں میرے ساتھ ہو گا۔ اور بیٹوں کو تو زیادہ باپ کی تربیت اور توجہ کی ضرورت ہوتی ہے۔ زیادہ تر بیٹے اپنے باپ کو ہی کاپی کرتے ہیں باپ کے کردار کا بچوں کی شخصیت پر بہت زیادہ اثر ہوتا ہے

[@Rana-xx1ft]

پرورش کرے گا،کیوں جھوٹ ملاتے ہو

[@janbaz79]

Agreed, let's we fathers and mothers join hand together.

[@glamgalvogue9741]

Dear Doctor you nailed it again 🎊 well explained desi mindset routine 😢

[@MissSwiftie7719]

this is so true i have noticed that Pakistani men actually have no family life, they dont take any i mean any family responsibility. they need to understand just going to office and earning money is just basic thing to run life it is not life in itself. father's attention is most crucial thing in the life of children whether daughter or son. father makes his daughter stronger and more open to overcome problems in life and son needs his attention at every aspect of life; how can a boy become a man without proper guidance of his father? no he can't. boys don't listen to mother mostly because they cannot relate to whatever mum says; they just think ammi ko kya pata while abu jin ko sub patta he normally goes out to friends after office timings or is too busy in earning. it is only when beta haath se nikal gya he comes to understand that he is father so should blame his son's mother for not proper training.

[@lubnarahman1065]

Agreed Agreed Agreed 👍🏼👍🏼

[@uzzqureshi983]

Aur Maan ki tarbiyat pe ungli bhi ek Maan he uthati hai The mother in law

[@fkn738]

👍you are right Baap ka tarbiyat main bara role hai 7 years k bad bachey ki tarbiyyt baap k zimme hai

[@fahadprince484]

بالکل درست کہا آپ نے

[@nousheencheema4305]

Well said T!!! I totally agree with you.

[@seemabatool2513]

Excellent message

[@kassimtufail9061]

You are 💯 percent right I agree and raising kids properly is the most difficult thing to do in parents job not only one parent both have to do together!

[@mrsrizvi9530]

True!

[@PhoenixTuitions]

God bless you Dr,you always give Avery sensible advice, totally agreed with you

[@tahirasultana6706]

بلکل درست ۔۔ معاشرے نے مرد کو کمانے کی ایک زمہ داری دے کر گھر کے اندر کی ہزار زمہ داریاں صرف عورت پہ ڈال رکھی ہیں ۔۔ حالانکہ گھر دونوں کا ہے اور تمام زمہ داریاں بھی دونوں کی ہونی چاہیں اور مرد کے کمائے پیسے بھی دونوں میاں بیوی کی ملکیت ہونے چاہیں

[@insaniyatsabkeliye304]

Sahi bilkul sahi !!!

[@izzaatif9799]

Absolutely right Its not about right or wrong it's about normalizing a certain behaviour. Fathers even if they spend 1_2 hours daily with kids as family time children learn a lot from them

[@zuhairfan2490]

🎉 Absolutely!

[@samibabar9543]

Agreeed!!!

[@akankshasharrma327]

You are a Rockstar!!

[@TamkenatMansoor]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@hirasultanee3899]

Bilkul sahi kaha apne ❤

[@ibtehaj95]

The role of father in a child's life is EXTREMELY important, especially for girls. Girls that grow up without fathers have a lot of unresolved mental issues that manifest during their adulthood, causing relationship and trust-related problems. I'd go as far as to say that a father's presence in a girl's life is what allows her to be "feminine".

[@sana_capricorn]

So rightly said

[@maloomat5387]

True action speak louder then words

[@leenakhan4096]

Very true

[@zainabarshad6473]

You have done it again 👏🏻

[@user-go4bm3on2c]

U r right ↪ I m with u

[@Pakistance]

Agreed

[@PreppyBlindBag77]

100% agree. Islam tells MEN to be good to women. RasoolAllah’s last words had instructions for men to be good to their women. By extension its for fathers to show their kids how women should be respected.

[@nadiailyas7263]

Aurat ko blame krna asan hai mard ko Apne rights ka to pata responsibility se dur bhagta

[@bakhtawarishaq2933]

baap ka impact zyadah hota ha leadership role usi ka hota ha and natutally insan leader se he zyadah influence hota ha..

[@user-we7lz9jt7s]

Very good massage gob job keep it up Allah may bless you and your children's

[@TamkenatMansoor]

Ameen. Bless you too 🙏🏽

[@ayshashahid2398]

Agreed 👍

[@kamranyousaf8459]

Dear this can be considered as good message. But now a days in modern world and complex society. Kids and adults indiscriminately learn from everything they interact with like, social media, schools, journalism and even from religious institutions and scholars.

[@fayyazkhan1473]

Agreed dr

[@tahirakhan2857]

very very well said.

[@zoyaaa5751]

Point

[@Wanharian1985]

U r absolutely right

[@user-we7lz9jt7s]

Its not only mother's responsibility its both father and mother responsibility for thiers children to take care of them in every matters and teaching them in every way all types of problems and mishaps

[@uzmaadnan1757]

Absolutely. Working women- comes home after work. Doesn’t ask anyone for her khidmat. Completely takes care of her kids & family Working men: comes home after work. Complains & expects khidmat. Can’t do any other work That is majority Of course exceptions are there Who is sinf e nazuk, sometimes I seriously wonder

[@annieshabbir478]

I am trying to understand what is the paradigm or lens through which you are assessing how to distribute these important things as a couple. What is the guideline to follow and the evidence behind it. I’m curious to know your thoughts

[@dastaan.]

ممکن ہے کہ ماں کی تربیت تو بہت اچھی ہو ۔ لیکن باپ کی کمائی ہی حرام کی ہو ۔۔۔ !

[@girlsguidetosurvival]

What are you trying to say. Tafseel se apani Cuban mein kah do.

[@sumbulyousuf4292]

You are phenomenal

[@TamkenatMansoor]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@salambushra]

💯

[@izzaatif9799]

Tamkibat please make a video on making kids toys gender specific. Like boys are encouraged to play with cars and guns,while girls play with doll house kitchen sets ironing washing machine. We see when they grow up men care only about their cars and don't contribute in house hold activities . Highlight role of grand parents and haw haye culture in this regard . Like my son used to help me in making roti my mil said kurian Waly kam na kr

[@sahrishsalman1316]

JB BACHYE KO DUNIYA MEIN LANYE WALE 2NO HOTYE HAIN TU RESPONSIBLE EK Q?MAA BAAP 2NO KI RESPONSIBILITY HAIN 🙄 I AGREE 💯 WITH YOU 💜 BUT OUR SOCIETY IS NOT AGREE WITH YOU BECAUSE SB KAHTYE HAIN MAA KI ZEMEDARI HAIN ☹️😢 BAAP KI NAHE,SO SAD🙁BUT TRUE 🙌KEEP IT UP DOCTOR,GOD BLESS YOU 💞💞💞💞💞💫💫✨✨

[@Abira475]

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[@MuhammadAsif-qh8vl]

❤۔یہ بات آئندہ ضرور کیا کریں کہ یہ جو کہا جاتا ھے مردوں کو تیری جنت ماں کے پیروں کے نیچے ھے تو ھر مرد کو یہ پیغام جاتا ھے بس اس عورت کی خدمت کر کے میری جنت پکی ھے تو دوسری عورت چاھے وہ کسی بھی رشتے میں کسی نا کسی مرد سے بندھی ھیں وہ کسی کی جنت نہیں ھیں۔ اسلئے میرے نظریہ تو اس جملے نیچے بدلا ھے کہ"ھر عورت کے پاوں کے نیچے جنت ھے" کیا خیال ھے۔

[@girlsguidetosurvival]

Kisi bashar ki Jannat dusare insaan ke paon ke neeche ho hi nahin sakti. Hamari salaahiyatein aur nekiyaan hi humein jannat ka haqdaar banaati hain.

[@123azbx]

Hi I love ur videos but it would be nice if the voice quality in videos could be made better

[@immanuelkant7334]

بچوں کو بگاڑنے یا سنوارمے میں زیادہ کردار ماں کا ہی ہوتا ہے. باپ اکثر پھر بھی سختی کر لیتے ہیں لیکن ماں بے جا لاڈ پیار سے اسکی غلطیوں پہ پردہ ڈال دیتی ہے. آپ ایک بڑے شہر میں رہتی ہیں لیکن عام دیہاتی خاندانوں میں جا کر دیکھیں... یہ صرف patriachal سوسائٹی کا نتیجہ نہیں بلکہ عام مشاہدے کی بات ہے. ماں اکثر غلط کاموں پہ بھی بچوں کو ٹوکتی نہیں.

[@mikie-theparrot]

12 sal Ki Umar k Baad Bachy Ki Tarbiat Baap Se Hoti he.

[@HafsaHaroon-p2l]

Well said

[@kssumera6049]

Hamasha such kahti hn ap❤❤❤ mojay ap bohat zayada پسند hn❤❤

[@saifabbas5197]

This lady blocked me on Instagram for criticizing one of her videos....

[@milominderbinder6209]

Freedom of speech is one way street for some, I assume you were respectful in your criticism.

[@saifabbas5197]

@@milominderbinder6209 Yes, I was respectful in my speech (no slangs). But I had to criticize her in a video where she was intermingling facts by comparing the dressing of Hum Style male models with the traditional male dressing of the Subcontinent.

[@mahamsart682]

Tarbiyat maa ka he kam hai. Bap agar halal kama raha h to bacha acha banega. Otherwise maa jitna b koshish krly bachy ke pet me halal nh ja raha to bacha bura banega. Mashry ki sari buraiyon se bachy ko bachana or ek acha fard society ko tayar krky dena sirf or sirf maa ka farz hai. Agr wo kama rahi h to uska excuse judgement day pe justify nh chalega. Ku k Allah ne uski ek duty rakhi h woh h bachy ki tarbiyat. Asehi to Allah ne walden me se bachy pr maa ka haq 3 guna ziada nh rakha hua

[@sabahatahmed]

Responsibility dono ki hoti he, 3:1 ka ratio he 3 mothers 1 father Toxic behavior wali baat sahi thi agar baap ka ravaya toxic he to faraq parta he uska rario bhi 1 rahega. Har achhai or burai 3:1 k ratio se hi influence karti he Maa ka darja or responsibility dono ziada hen or jannat nazeer mothers responsibility ki wajah se banti hen.

[@anumelyk]

100%%%%

[@AishaNikita-w7k]

In islam tarbiyat is the responsibility of father, in saudi arabia where there is shariah, mothers don't take care of kids, its the responsibility of fathers!

[@kashifhameed1776]

In my opinion, .. Jese jese mard apne responsibilities ko avoid Karen gy, vese bacho ki tarbiyt mei kami reh jaigi, basic ethics towards women, to male hi smjha skta hy,.. Akele maan se bache kaha control hote hein

[@sukhqazmi5837]

Bibi maa pehli darsgaah hai especially of beta. Beta bdmuaash bhi ho but sirf maa keh ilfaaz aur amal unn peh sb seh zayadah asr krtay hain but yes aisi maaon ki khhuli chhoot trbiyat for betay is coz father was ignorant of how his wife is raising the sons but such toxicity is mostly put in by housewives rather than working mothers.

[@thinkingloud1988]

Maa baap ki zimidari taqreeban khatam hojati hai jab bacha baligh hota hai..

[@bao958]

Sadddddd e kadya ay

[@Ali1976.]

Bi bi ! Baap Ki tarbiat bhi to aik aurat ne ki ho gi, agr aaj ki aurat baitay ko aurat ka maqam bta de to muashra sudhar sakta hai

[@farahabdullah8782]

5:26 pm

[@dr.zunairajaved]

Isky sath sath fahashi pr mabni mawad jo jm entertainment ky name sy (indian movies dramas Pakistani stuff also ) apny bacchon ky sath dekhny main koi burai nae samjhty to ikhlaqiat main ye pehlo bhi ata hy.....ap apni tarbiat den baqi Allah pr chor den..... lekin ye kehna kh nae ye to nae cheezain industry main arhi hain ye fahashi hy aur electronic media ka ismain boht role hy

[@user-bk4en2og8m]

Ye shirt na use Karin please

[@Chidiya_Cooking]

Like me❤❤❤

[@bao958]

Ja ja turrrrr ja

[@dontlosehope2723]

sister tasveero wali shirt mat pehnaen, rehmat k farishtay nahi aatay jis ghar main tasveer ho.

[@TamkenatMansoor]

Bhai aap bhi KZbin mat dekho. Is mein bhi tasveerein he aa rahi hain.

[@dontlosehope2723]

@@TamkenatMansoor Ap khud perh laen is baare main...Apk nabi nay hee mana kiya hai jinki pairwi ka ap log daawa kartay hain...Unho nay hee ye bhi btaya hai k ghar main kutta as a pet rakhnay say 1 qeeraat nekiaan zaaya hoti rehti hain per day lekin ap Muslims hee gharo main kutto ko as a pet rakhay hue hotay hain, unki taaleemaat hee nahi pata tou emaan kis baat ka rakhtay hain un par?

[@girlsguidetosurvival]

​@@dontlosehope2723gazab shirt se kutte pa aa gaye...

[@abbasjunaid5631]

😂​@@TamkenatMansoor

[@samibabar9543]

​@@dontlosehope2723bhai tu pagal hai?

[@shazebabrar197]

Patriarchy and misogyny are new concepts came from the west. It is indeed responsibility of both parents to raise their children with values however the bigger role is to be played by a mother who with child is more attached to and spend maximum time in the early growing age a time when personalities are developed. I don't understand why there is constant effort to distort reality and course of nature just to promote feminism

[@TamkenatMansoor]

Patriarchy and misogyny are NOT new concepts. Just because you heard these words recently doesn’t make them new. Also, there is no agenda that is out to get you or bring down this rotten society. It is already a failed system. Stop looking for conspiracy theories. There is no shame in accepting that a system is broken and in trying to fix it. I merely said that it is both parents’ responsibility to raise kids. If you think that is an effort to distort reality then you need help.

[@Moonlightcrystalcreations]

​@@TamkenatMansoor bilkul theek kaha aapne! Mard apni behaviour se hi example set karta hai Betay ke liye ke kaisay treat karna hai biwi, Behan aur Beti ko aur bahir bhi sab Behne aur Betiyon jaisi hain aur same respect deni hai unko bhi. But jahan Baap hi maar peet aur bezzat karte hon ya gaaliyan dete hon aurton ko ghar ke andar, unki Maa phir kya kar sakti hai siwaye divorce ke? Warna aisay Mard to nahi sudharte, bachon ko beeghartay hain apne ganday behaviour se with the females at home.

[@samibabar9543]

Bhai kuch parh likh ja kab tak jahil rahega ke ye east hai aur ye west. Achi baat achi hi rahegi. Ye east west bol kar fuzool baat na kia kar

[@Rana-xx1ft]

اس کی سب سے بڑی وجہ شوشل میڈیا ہے اور ہمارا بدبودار معاشرہ

[@TamkenatMansoor]

These things were happening even before social media. You can not put blame on outer influences when the parents themselves are toxic & instilling problematic behaviours in children.

[@Rana-xx1ft]

@@TamkenatMansoorare all the parent are toxic?,we cannot make issues on excemtion we haven't excess billons of families

[@girlsguidetosurvival]

​@Rana-xx1ft aww aa gaye no all parents karne. When and where did she say all parents? It applies to large population coalate it with the size of population and and the number of problem facing the society.

[@humazafar512]

True!

[@dastaan.]

Very true

[@user-er4xr2or8c]

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