I did this to my sons dad, because I still lived with my mom and she would judge him. When she would mention things that were no big deal to me, I would run and criticize him. I saw myself breaking him down and I pushed him away. I regret it but that relationship made me want to self reflect and change. Also to realize my mom was projecting her hurt and bad relationships on to me.
@Timetrae6 жыл бұрын
This video made me very emotional because I am married and I definitely criticize him in hopes of change and he constantly says that doesn’t help him but I didn’t know where to begin in changing that. Thank you for sharing this!! So much food for thought!! I need to learn how to edify him and help him re- associate me with positivity. So much wisdom here. I appreciate it!!!
@elizabethjones43256 жыл бұрын
hey @timetrae one of the things that helped me was focusing on what I need to change. Vs imposing on someonelse to change.
@JaniceHylton5 жыл бұрын
Timetrae Sounds like your son dear. Never deshield, your hubby in public and never criticize.
@shawnesewoods85646 жыл бұрын
Great message! I can relate to this video in terms of using insults in hopes of improving someone behavior towards me. I not only successfully hurt people, I also reduce myself as a person. Negativity breeds negativity. I’m happy to say I no longer behave in this manner, but it took a good bit of trial and error. I wish I came across this video earlier in life.
@mariek43626 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I'm going on 60 and going in another (final) relationship and your advice is priceless!
@pearlpearly89986 жыл бұрын
OMG!!! You are the one! Thank you and Thank God .I have been praying and searching for a woman online who God could use to minister to my heart about relationships and femininity. Happy to have come across your channel today.
@honeychilehontina31736 жыл бұрын
You so Right. The key is us women been broken and fixing it. Love all u said. Thanks so much for your message.
@iqueen24726 жыл бұрын
i agree with you. from experience i can tell you that it also works in the reverse. meaning ...when he empowers you, he then becomes the king of your heart as well. great vidoe sis. thnx for sharing 👍👍👍
@kristianm61027 жыл бұрын
You are heaven sent dear. So glad I found your channel❤
@FEMININEINFLUENCE7 жыл бұрын
Welcome!
@bodypilot20065 жыл бұрын
You're speaking truth! I love personal revelations when they lead to real breakthroughs of perspective
@kkrobertson16 жыл бұрын
You're teaching excellent musing skills. A lost art in today's western woman.
@Ang.1436 жыл бұрын
Yesssss queen I’m learning! We are so much happier when I let him take the reigns in his life. I want him to be the best man he can be and I want him to make the best choices for himself because he is capable.
@latresemagee85546 жыл бұрын
I did this too, he's still here but I'm sensing resentment but I'm praying that I can heal and still have him in my life, I'm praying that I can be the woman we both need....hes really a good guy but I've been something else
@angelinasamson69962 жыл бұрын
That helps his confidence build , Wow I’ve just been asking the universe how to empower my man and help him shift into his masculine energy ❤
@feliciabarnes62346 жыл бұрын
This is confirmation, I need to connect with you. You are helping me and I just started thinking this way... I have incorporated affirmations in my relationship.... thank you for this
@JMSCollegeFun4 жыл бұрын
As a fiance, I definitely don’t know how to not be critical too. I always feel that he could do so much better without me. But he loves me through all my bs. He’s so amazing and a girls dream but sometimes I feel I take him for granted. I need to learn to speak power, and uplift to him
@baiyinadotcom6 жыл бұрын
Amazing Monique...such a powerful story and so inspiring. Yes!!!
@Silkyslim487 жыл бұрын
I love this video and thank you for sharing your private thoughts with strangers. I needed to hear this for me!
@lakieshatucker996 жыл бұрын
Shena52. ME too so guilty
@rhondabrown87076 жыл бұрын
I need to be reminded of this also so me three!😏
@dionnemoore32496 жыл бұрын
Hi Monique, I've been watching a few of your videos, you are always such an inspiration! Thank you for sharing this story, we as women allow our insecurities to take hold of us and some of us don't acknowledge our part in the "bad" relationships. What I think we ought to do is LEARN from each experience and work on becoming better versions of ourselves. God bless you sweetie!
@errandsunlimited12765 жыл бұрын
I am currently working on that femininity allure myself. Confidence self love ❤️ appreciation.
@Frue_denFrie Жыл бұрын
So well said, Thank you for sharing ❤ agree with your message. I am learning the same, we need to empower our man, not break him down ❤
@rodericko9534 Жыл бұрын
This is very powerful..very insightful..i think for both men and women..and I am a man..i am sometimes guilty of that too.. learning n growth is so important..but acknowledgement of our lacking or needs is very vital so we can address those needs..
@thelotusexperience66836 жыл бұрын
Ive always done this and hasn't got menanywhere I've invested in trying to build someone else up when I've should've put that energy into myself
@lluvsu096 жыл бұрын
Yes i agree with you because that’s the same way my son dad & I ended because we were both broken but now we’re friends
@reneeware89645 жыл бұрын
Very honest thank you for your transparency I needed to hear this
@ramonan37205 жыл бұрын
Thank you Monique for being open with your life experiences! You're helping the Queens...
@entheogenicmidwife6 жыл бұрын
Thank you much. Definitely need to work on receiving. Someone JUST called and interrupted me watching this. They told me to come to the door and quess what, they had a gift for me and left. ✨💪 I admire you already.
@LovelyMsJ6 жыл бұрын
Hi Monique, I just came across your channel today March 2018, and I subscribed! This is so refreshing and inspiring. This is what All women need to know. Everyone can use encouragement and instruction on how to become a better person in their quest for companionship. In order to accomplish anything it takes skill and you are teaching that...Love,Love, Love it! Take care..Be Blessed!...Johnetta Crumpton
@rhondabell-jones97066 жыл бұрын
Johnetta Crumpton ĺ
@AnotherShyFlower7 жыл бұрын
This video was right on time!!! You are a jewel ❤️
@TM-pj7yu6 жыл бұрын
I have gone above and beyond in relationships before these videos were available. I am conversational, mysteriously risque and submissive but not a doormat, clear about my expectations and open. I can get any man by the way I carry myself as well. Still my finances are not satisfactory and when men find out I'm a single parent and struggling men RUN and stay gone. I have done all I can ,I'm a awesome woman but I'm not giving my 75% and left empty anymore😔 thanks for the energy and truth put into your videos (I'm a newbie)you are a beautiful woman elevating woman. Keep changing women's lives.
@michellevickery22146 жыл бұрын
Im usually not a comment leaver but I had to let you know that you inspired me, woke up a part of me i forgot was there. Thank you.
@LadyofCleves656 жыл бұрын
He must be nuts cause you are truly beautiful woman. Ok I made that comment of your beauty before listening to what you had to say and Now I get it. It has nothing to do with just being beautiful because you surely are but how he feels with you. I like what you are telling woman. God Bless you.
@bubblebubblegum27326 жыл бұрын
I do that exactly.. and they always leave you fro the girl they practice with yes. Thank you I haven’t did it in years but I am changing this is the truth. Great movie it’s. Don’t abuse the relationship. Wow
@traciesplace6 жыл бұрын
Great information! It's so important to know how to talk to them, thank you for that!
@aaliyahbutler47736 жыл бұрын
U are so honest and wise thank you for sharing your experiences .
@oluchinnona7519 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this clip! I'm really really informed and inspired.
@JoannaCubana6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this with me and us. I did what you did years ago with my boyfriend just last night. He opened up himself to me, and instead of being loving and compassionate about what he shared, I criticized him. I feel horrible. I know it's because I probably am too broken or scared to give him what he REALLY needed at the time. I signed up for therapy today... I don't want to lose him, and I truly pray that I haven't. 😳😳😳🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@elocinyelsaeb6406 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. You appear to be beautiful both inside and out. I've only seen two or three of your videos so far. This one really hit home. I need to clean up my act. Thank you again.
@amykimball59536 жыл бұрын
I am so glad I came across your channel. I love how you speak about being feminine. How to do it, and why it’s so important. I’ve been married for 2 years now, and it helps! 💕
@rumbidzaimashangu58186 жыл бұрын
I wish I had watched this a month ago 😟. I’m empowered, thank you for sharing .
@procoatroofingsolutions1476 жыл бұрын
This is very helpful to me personally. Thank you for your investment of time and life into this video. God bless you
@jamiamason51732 жыл бұрын
This is a great video. You're so pretty too! Thank you for the advice.
@monicanadine6 жыл бұрын
I love this video and the message in it! Side note: I amso happy I found you again (I lost all of my old subscriptions when I started a new channel). I used to watch your videos back in the day when you would shimmy to house music while talking about femininity and doing your natural hair. I am admiring what your channel has grown in to 💕 Update- Confession: I just rewatched your “Naturals Have More Fun” video after I left the comment above lol. Thanks for keeping those videos up :)
@TruSpoken6 жыл бұрын
This is me all the way and i want to change but I also feel that I'm defending my heart.i do not want this to happen in my life or in a future relationship.
@muta_othernames4 жыл бұрын
Wow. Practising because he didn't feel he could make you happy. I have come to learn just how important it is to a man to feel he has it in him to make you happy
@manolyarowe37946 жыл бұрын
Love your Hair !
@BlessednHighlyfavored123 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much❤️💎 This is a gem
@FEMININEINFLUENCE3 жыл бұрын
You’re welcome. Appreciate the comment
@aliyarahman856 жыл бұрын
Hearing you come to your power is heartfelt and inspirational
@sandracarter30236 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your transparency. I need what you learned and quick.
@bridgetsbuttahs34126 жыл бұрын
Thanks Monique I am 48 year old widow woman now for 2 Years. I was married for 20 Years and Monique I am not good at dating please help. I am enjoying your videos.
@deenastylz4396 жыл бұрын
Im a new subscriber and your videos are really inspiring. This video in particular I can relate to a lot
@errandsunlimited12765 жыл бұрын
Words that empowers a man to desire us. Awesome communication skills
@AnyasHeart6 жыл бұрын
This is the 2nd video of yours I watch and I have to sign up to your emails because I NEED IT! I have an amazing man in my life and although I’ve done a lot of work on myself since my last relationship I have more work to do. So thank you!
@naturewalk54706 жыл бұрын
Continued..To " Become a Queen to a Man's Heart..( or Woman's Heart). I did Not mean to Accuse that Man. Maybe he was being Vulnerable. Glad he had You to be " Honest" about his feelings. I hope next time he tells you "1st".
@TumiMalete6 жыл бұрын
I'm really glad I came across your channel. Your insight is very refreshing. I'm taking in a great lot.
@nginaable6 жыл бұрын
First timer and am liking this.
@helenamills45636 жыл бұрын
I love all your videos sis👍👍 I just subscribed you😘 God bless you and your husband😇
@prettyhurts12376 жыл бұрын
Everything relationship teaches on both ends !!!
@imternizamccartney3739 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I was interested in the free course, but its not allowing me to go past email address to the site, its saying, its email protected. Kindly note.
@cee19706 жыл бұрын
This is so vulnerable and i can completely relate. Thanks for sharing.
@alishadasilva3496 жыл бұрын
Hello thank you so much, I am in that same situation and scared as hell but this video is such a motivation
@Seremonii6 жыл бұрын
"He was just practicing" ! In my opinion, he wasn't a good catch anyway. He was playing with both, you & her feelings. 😕 I wonder if she was aware that she was simply a practice run.
@rtp19686 жыл бұрын
Fyendi DarNesha :EXACTLY!!!!!
@rtp19686 жыл бұрын
She taking all the blame when in fact her boyfriend was funky anyway.
@Seremonii6 жыл бұрын
Right, rtp1968. I'm like😕 sistah need to talk to somebody like me cause she's looking at a couple things ALLLLL wrong.
@marliynball2146 жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. She’s putting the weight of the relationship on her shoulders. A cheater is a cheater.
@lyciakavumbi72946 жыл бұрын
Exactly! women always step low taking the blame when something goes wrong in a relationship!and this potrays men as angels,unless we change the idea men will always hurt us and get away with it!once a cheater always a cheater!where is this practising coming from in the first place?
@theh.r.m.oneracethehumanracecu Жыл бұрын
Great video, thank you Queen❣️🙏🏾🥰🌹
@rochellebailey83526 жыл бұрын
Just learning about your channel. I love what I have heard and I am subscribing! Thank you for sharing your truth.
@lilywoods15326 жыл бұрын
So many negative comments coming from negative people the woman is giving her experience and the outcome that she wants to share with us at least she admit she she snooped and realised we're she went wrong so stop bashing her for giving wised advice
@patriciawalker66776 жыл бұрын
Hello Monique, this info help me so much with my marriage...Thanks
@MoniqueJay507 жыл бұрын
Hi Monique you look beautiful.
@rhondabrown87076 жыл бұрын
Hello Monique, I have just found your video and really like what you have to say about awakening the femininity and open his heart to you. Thank you for your helpful thoughts and suggestions.
@treenaave47396 жыл бұрын
Way to go sister. One thing I disagree with though is you said that you don’t want to give and not get anything in return but that is not God‘s way. In fact a lot of relationships that I have known,n the women are really suffering because they feel that their husbands are not living up to their potential or they’re holding them back or they’re not doing this or that and they just feel totally at their wits end and so one of the things that I told them is you just need to do your part you just need to give expecting nothing n return. If we expect things in return and we don’t get it then that is disappointment and disappointment leads the frustration and frustration leads to divorce and just whole lot of health problems ,headaches and high blood pressure etc. etc.That is just what I have learned from counseling and seminars and a marriage workshop and it has helped me a lot not ever husbands are good or great and we can’t Taylor made everything for every relationship so what do you do when the man is just no good LOL?
@christyhall38172 жыл бұрын
I did the same. I want to make our relationship work though.
@OdetteCotterell4 ай бұрын
That is what I need but with God's help
@careyhope40256 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I found your Channel
@theeretha33036 жыл бұрын
New follower looking forward to seeing the materials you have. Blessings Aretha
@Margo_786 жыл бұрын
Monique, bless you and thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
@ReneelovesGod Жыл бұрын
Amen this is good!!! I’m new.. I like this
@jordangray18376 жыл бұрын
YESSSSS KELLY ROWLAND ! love the look
@jacquelinengwandu34676 жыл бұрын
that is me now at 24 and have been so With my relationships. I wish to make it better
@marilynrowe50416 жыл бұрын
Sadly I need to go to wife school if any exist. Going into relationship I've had great guys but I've always felt inadequate after sex etc sleeping over getting to know each other etc. I never know how to comfort him properly encourage him big him up. And now i met a great guy went on our first date and I want to be the woman for him (his queen) dnt want to be dull just want to get it right this time.
@taylorjohnson68986 жыл бұрын
a true queen, these videos are amazing
@cyd731196 жыл бұрын
I am so glad I came across your channel. You got a new subscriber looking forward to more
@shamilakhan666 жыл бұрын
I am so glad I found your channel xxxx
@ebonyblaze1006 жыл бұрын
Needed to hear this...
@stillwaters72336 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I'm a newlywed , learning much from you. You're gorgeous by the way.
@msbabycakes4uable6 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad that I found your channel.. This will help me a lot
@donnalofton79886 жыл бұрын
What powerful, useful, much-needed information. Thank you so much for sharing.
@kishaj16 жыл бұрын
I love everything about this video, I will be emailing you more in-depth.
@crystalclear93616 жыл бұрын
This made me cry, cause I did this so much in my last relationship thinking this would change or push him, because of the potential I saw, thinking it would spark change, and he would tell me all the time that I emasculated him alot, but I thought it would change him for the better, and a day before I left for work we had a serious & passionate conversation about it, and he was so angry yet emotional but I couldnt put my self in that emotional state at the point of time cause I was late for work but I had apologize and left not knowing that was the last time I would see my baby alive,
@FEMININEINFLUENCE6 жыл бұрын
Big hugs to you.
@azrael53104 жыл бұрын
Oh wow. Hugs to your heart. Talk to him.. still. His energy is definitely with you. Call on him.. have that conversation and let him know he is loved. Energy never dies..it transfers. He’s around.. and will show you. Look for signs. All my love
@sharonthompson84062 жыл бұрын
I loved this wisdom. I want to learn more! I don’t know where the link below is.where do I find your email
@florencemutetwa38106 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. Needed this
@victoryshalom39476 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I needed to hear that!
@naekita75396 жыл бұрын
Girl you are soooo gorgeous 😭💓💓
@lunatic10076 жыл бұрын
This is great advice!! I totally agree!
@AFROcentricFLO7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, I can relate. I'm learning this as well.
@ga91006 жыл бұрын
Marissa Jones hi how are u from ur pic u look beautiful wombman
@juliuskirimi58116 жыл бұрын
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@philiciaragsdale12966 жыл бұрын
Great content ! I can relate so much to this story in the video . New subbie!
@triciam82446 жыл бұрын
Hello Monique! Thanks for the tips! Am quite new on your channel. I definitely relate to your story & only difference is it is my husband. Please email me the 6 step process on how to become the queen to my hubby’s heart
@timiewarewah28276 жыл бұрын
Wow.... Just found you. Love your energy, love what you do. You're on point.
@nosiphomyeza12482 жыл бұрын
How do I contact you? 😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏
@lakieshatucker996 жыл бұрын
I REALLY ADMIRE YOUR TRANSPARENCY THANK YOU MY SISTER
@janellem.55826 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much My mom does this 'helping' a lot and I think that's y my dad doesn't have the vibe to do anything because she's really hard to plz...overtime I realize my dad has neglected his duties and doesn't do them to the best of his ability...I'm 18 and in a three yr relationship and we've been thru the whole infidelity thing and it has left me with doubts about myself and him...but we've had long conversations and I can see him trying and the problems are lessening and I want to reward him but I jus don't how...he's being really honest now and I tell him I appreciate it..but he has been thru some really deep stuff in his past and I jus want him to kno that he can trust me with his fears how do I do that? I genuinely want to help and share his burdens but he's never spoken abt the death of his mom to anyone and I can see the emptiness in him sometimes... plz help me miss Monique🤗🤗🤗
@Heyu7her32 жыл бұрын
I hour your no longer in that relationship. Being in a relationship with infidelity problems is already a "no" (esp of your not the one who stepped out)n but esp at 18, and in it for 3 yrs!!!
@michelleeaglin1572 Жыл бұрын
I tried to signed up but it said that this website is not active
@antoinitaviolette41406 жыл бұрын
That was still disrespectful of him because he could have said what he wanted. Would he have been so understanding if you would have practiced with another man. I appreciate your vulnerability, and as far as what he wanted he could have helped and told you earlier what he wanted, like, I would appreciate it if...We can’t give them a double standard. We may be immature, but there are still boundaries and morals to keep.