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Hello friends, let’s catch up! :D In today’s chatty video, I answer your questions from Instagram about mental health, what I’ve been doing in quarantine, moving to NYC with royally bad timing, screenwriting, questioning my sexuality, whether I have girl/boyfriend, sustainability, and more importantly, who is my favorite Avatar character. Sorry I haven't sat down and really talked to the camera in a while - it's been hard to film when I'm in the sad vibes zone which has been increasingly often of late, but it felt nice to catch up with you guys, and hopefully as quarantine restrictions lift, I'll start feelin a little better :)
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✰ FAQ ✰
what’s your name? ashley
what’s your instagram? @best.dressed
how old are you? 22 (born in 1998)
how tall are you? 5'5"
what’s your ethnicity? half british and half burmese
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➭ editing: final cut pro
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[@2omb1ez86]

"I wanna hype girls up in the bathroom, that I don't even know about they're outfits and give them tampons and therapy and part ways knowing that we're going to make mistakes and pine over guys that will never like us" *MY SENIOR QUOTE*

[@heidithornburg4049]

the tampons i just packed in my bag that i don’t even use them because i want this to happen staring at me like: 👁👄👁

[@johannaw4829]

when she said “starting a clothing line” i looked at my wallet, my wallet looked at me, and we both knew she was about to be empty when that line is released...

[@dianaweng5667]

*my wallet looked at me* LMAOOOOO

[@Meecheer]

i found my wallet twin... hi 💛

[@johannaw4829]

Meecheer yayy hi

[@Meecheer]

@@johannaw4829 this year really turned our wallets, huh. 😂 one way or the other

[@johannaw4829]

Meecheer im broke but hey - ill spend everything i have on ashleys clothing line because we damn well know it’ll be good

[@mtess444]

constantly stuck between 'am i actually a lesbian with daddy issues and compulsory heterosexuality' and 'am i bisexual with lots of internal biphobia' and 'am i actually straight and cannot differentiate platonic, sexual and romantic attraction' and 'am i actually straight and think being bi or struggling with my sexuality creates a good personal narrative in the coming of age movie of my life' lmao

[@pinkfrogi9061]

you didn't call me out. you pulled me out from my house and threw me on to the street ;-;

[@beeeggos2491]

THIS

[@ninavadnere1422]

you have literally stolen the thoughts from my mind

[@hreeditaa]

THIS

[@user-jn4el8gf5j]

This is probably THE MOST relatable thing ive seen in weeks

[@waldzrf9875]

"I miss humans being stupid, messy and _attractive_ " YES

[@LewisBrain]

She needs to get a job in healthy care the is plenty of this going on.

[@maddie3638]

This is literally me

[@tanzanitebluefly]

Tell me about it!!!!

[@nemesisdeimos92]

"I hooked up with a girl" *me living on the opposite side of the world acting like my chances increased*

[@jship5119]

Felt that bro

[@marinabr1374]

i’m in this comment and i don’t like it

[@rachelkindred4169]

@Trump omg hi trump what are you doing on ashley's channel?? hate your work btw!!

[@444fawn]

@Trump of course trump would say this, gotta love him 😍

[@rakhmer9640]

，啊@Trump

[@katfromdenver]

Re: your move to New York, you didn't make a bad decision, you found yourself in a bad situation. There's a difference!

[@HUDSONVINTAGE]

Agreed, well said :)

[@kendallgiilck9488]

I love this distinction, thank you

[@alexlee325]

Nyc is getting better...albiet you still can't/shouldn't go clubbing

[@randomandfunny4285]

PLEASE HELP ME REACH 15 SUBSCRIBERS. GOD BLESS YOU.

[@cecilia927]

Mike Smith lmfao why is it always dudes who comment these shitty "sheep" comments

[@aurares]

when ashley talked about soulmates: there's a quote from the good place that perfectly fits what she's talking about: "if soulmates do exist, they're not found, they're made. people meet, they get a good feeling, and they get to work building a relationship."

[@lizardwizard99]

YES

[@zeenaomer5183]

gotta love the good place

[@isabelkayser4437]

The good place is The best show ever

[@Andyatl2002]

Here is a relevant quote “Love at first sight doesn't exist. Love takes time, and love takes work. At the very least you have to know the other person.”

[@timvxnh]

everyone's talking about Ashley's sexuality meanwhile I'm laughing about her vibrator joke...😂

[@not_yur_business4618]

I laughed like a dumbass and right after I looked for a comment like this 😭

[@mintfudgecupcakes]

I didn't get it until I saw your comment lollll

[@original-fortress-6666]

Same LMAO 😂😂

[@thehunter5740]

Time stamp?

[@Ruuma11]

The Hunter 5:42

[@idasoderlund1030]

The way that she looked so happy and a lil’ shy when she said “i hooked up with a woman, and that was cool” OMG my heart 🥺

[@cherrycoke3665]

her smile though🥺

[@zoeyb.4491]

But the long glitch 😂😂😂

[@dannyhustle2599]

She just attention. If you want people to love just said you lesbian and bisexual

[@theneverendingstory2002]

@@dannyhustle2599??

[@gen5216]

Danny Hustle she’s prob just exploring... don’t be an asshole :/

[@fidanicekhan6456]

Ashley really has to make a podcast. I would listen to that everyday no matter what topic she would decide to talk about Edit: WOAH I DIDN'T EXPECT TO GET THESE MANY LIKES- THE POWER OF ASHLEY'S VOICE!!!

[@AirlineFud]

I just listened to this audio while doing dishes as if it was a podcast

[@lauren30128]

ASHLEY PLEASE SEE THIS COMMENT AND CONSIDER

[@itsuhhndrea]

AHH PLEAAASEEE

[@itsuhhndrea]

Ashley I would listen to you wash ur dishes hi pls

[@mi_kou1]

YESSSSSSS PLEASEEEEE

[@hiwelcometochillis6720]

she should legit do a podcast, ashley is the best story teller XD.

[@donalynmanalili5801]

yes pls

[@graciew4828]

An unedited podcast w Ashley just ranting and story telling 🥺🥺💖💖💖💖💖

[@SakuraKate]

And her voice is so nice to listen to!!

[@MsJalo2012]

I like the way you talk because it doesn't sound like other youtubers, you sound real

[@michellet204]

Totally she’s just herself!

[@ekremcerimi197]

THATS SOOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE

[@moodypeacock]

Yes this is what I was saying

[@neha-js1qj]

its because she isnt a dropout and has graduated college

[@emmasollers7300]

That's my favorite thing about her! Her unfiltered tone and her video editing skills make her videos so enjoyable and relatable

[@alessandraelisapoletti9034]

Every bi person, every single day: Am I really bi tho?

[@TeaTea777]

Honestly I can’t stop questioning myself like what

[@maaryas]

it's called the bicycle😂

[@leahannajohn504]

@@maaryas 😂😂😂

[@abigailrae1592]

Literally me

[@sourlilacs]

meee

[@hcarlt]

“I miss humans being stupid and messy and attractive” sums it up pretty well

[@avaharker3554]

right?

[@amyshen5413]

Hahaha I thought humans being stupid and messy and attractive is why we aren't out of our first wave of COVID-19!

[@nataliatrevinoo]

dude im literally a FULL lesbian and im still so homophobic like i know it doesn’t make sense but my guts tell me i shouldn’t like girls and i feel shame but like seriously thank you internal homophobia

[@crookedfingers945]

same :/

[@vanivanilli]

Natalia is a loser I‘m bi, and this is so relatable... I reaaaally looove girls but somehow every time I hooked up/ made out with a girl it felt kinda shameful :(

[@mayf4iriez]

samee.... sometimes I feel so great that I'm gay and then I feel all weird and feel like I'm wrong for liking girls....

[@peiithos]

Im aro ace and I feel kinda wrong about it. Im just not comfortable with calling myself anything else though. I feel ashamed of it and like i have no reason to?? :(

[@mayf4iriez]

@@peiithos I see a lot of homophobic/transphobic/lgbtq phobic comments on twitter and stuff and sometimes the things people say sort of stick in my head, even though I know there's nothing wrong with being lgbtq....

[@narutohinata4432]

*Ashely upset she never became an earth bender* Me staring at the copious amount of plants in her house 👁👄👁

[@manitaojha855]

water benders control plants :)

[@madalynnwilson1220]

That awkward “questioning your sexuality shimmy” after she said she hooked up with a girl I felt that

[@accidentalfrenchfries]

THIS. And feeling shaky after being with a girl. Like qkfiowwjdowoapdhdjowk I cannot.

[@sorcellerie]

WAIT I DID NOT GET TO THAT MOMENT EXCUSE ME WHAT IS HAPPENING

[@raeosunshine24]

it truly hit different.

[@reneemuller1967]

@@accidentalfrenchfries why?I don't understand 🙈

[@accidentalfrenchfries]

@@reneemuller1967 It comes from a lifetime of hearing that being gay is wrong. Kind of a bad comparison, but imagine the adrenaline and fear you'd feel if you robbed a bank. It's this fear that you feel when you do something that has been in the Forbidden Category your whole life. I remember on my first date with a girl, I was so awkward and shaky because I kept feeling like I was breaking a rule. Of course, it's just the internalized homophobia from my mom always saying that being gay is "disgusting" and "shameful to god", but it definitely trips you up for a while.

[@MtheGate]

"Why aren't you quarantining with your family?" "I don't want to relive my childhood trauma" OOF. Big same.

[@remyharvey]

this is the biggest mood here

[@shusanovic3522]

I wonder what it is...

[@venthediagram]

Apparently, I'm stuck and don't have a choice.

[@jemimaauri8898]

odd how ive always had an off feeling towards her family lmao like im so sorry but u can kinda tell from her old college videos

[@ninadrangon]

I’m actually clueless that her family caused her trauma? Even though I’ve been watching her videos since before.

[@emilybornhoft4872]

As a bi girl let me tell you it’s so valid to not be 50/50 most people aren’t. It’s also valid to only be sexually attracted to women and not romantically attracted. You. Are. Valid.

[@javiera2634]

But wait can you still be bi if you are inly sexually attracted to women and less romantically attracted??

[@moonlightmoonchild1133]

@@javiera2634 of course.

[@moodylasagne8432]

thank you; that's exactly what I think I am and I felt like such a fraud

[@catindawall]

👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼

[@sharismad]

I didn’t know that was ‘allowed’. I have dreams about women but I’m interested in guys and it’s so confusing!

[@anniecross4234]

"I miss humans being stupid and messy and attractive." I felt that.

[@cf-tk4vg]

Love your profile pic

[@bailey9947]

Ashley: “I might be bisexual” All the sapphics who’ve been crushing on her the whole time: 👁👄👁

[@phibone424]

😪👊

[@anaysabelmagcal6276]

LMAO

[@lou-ann_b7350]

i'm under attack

[@lucygrace720]

OKAY BUT ME

[@adahoward7572]

Same here

[@racheldaniels9406]

“and wake up at 4PM the next morning” 4pm...morning yes

[@bestdressed]

time really do be like that in quarantine

[@shortstackofpancakes]

@@bestdressed time do

[@racheldaniels9406]

bestdressed Honestly every day feels like Tuesday now

[@ravyntaylor6982]

Listen-

[@kggroom]

bestdressed the truth

[@tomoesmistress4535]

god do i miss her it feels as though we took her for granted

[@KatE-yc6bn]

So true! I miss her perspective

[@nicollechiyoyoshimatsu8073]

missing her 😢

[@carli1856]

"She was a sad girl who derived her entire personality from (500) Days of Summer" if you come at me any harder you might as well just pUNCH me in the face

[@impostersyndrome18]

Omg my EXACT feelings hahahah

[@louxrdes]

girl, with all the love and support in the world I tell you this: go to therapy. I know its a controversial thing to say and it can sound bad but it's not!!! I've been going for years now and it's a great place to reflect and learn new perspectives. you'll probably stop blaming the apartments then haha

[@NaturesSong12]

A severely underrated comment! I need this to be megaphoned to the world

[@samb-i3675]

Yes! I started going a few months ago and it was short term but it was SO helpful and I'm so glad I did it

[@yumisy111]

yes yes :ooo investing in yourself is the best investment you could make aye

[@squidney6267]

my mother has always said that us humans could use therapy at some point in our lives. it helps a lot. i’ve been considering going back

[@BlueHydrangeaRedPeonie]

This thread is awesome, and I just want to add that even if you don’t think therapy is for you, or that your problems aren’t big enough, it’s not true! Therapy is beneficial for EVERYONE!

[@jordant686]

no one is born gay we all just get assigned sexualities by the tik tok algorithm

[@tiffy_loves]

DEADDDD 💀💀

[@eyedoll4062]

factz right hereeee

[@noori6982]

this comment is so underrated

[@angievanessacarigutierrez6741]

Jajajjahahaha

[@zwwrz]

Did you lie tho?

[@mariet.7942]

And then there‘s me: Sixteen years old, experiencing a global pandemic, living in a quite big city and I still haven‘t had my first date, kiss or boyfriend/girlfriend 🧚🏻‍♂️

[@bekind8590]

Same! Some how I've been through a pandemic, but not a single relationship lol

[@humanperson2775]

DW about it, you gotta wait for the right person. You don't wanna lose ur first kiss to someone you don't really like or get too emotionally attached to someone who doesn't care abt u

[@superedmundo1239]

It's gonna come very naturally dude, don't you worry. I didn't have my first kiss and relationship until I was 17, which was kinda weird, I felt kinda inexperienced but at the end was a great decision. Try to wait for someone who you're naturally drawn to, who really works well with you. The first kiss can suck tho, you should keep that in mind, tongues are awkward, but you'll learn to do it better with time.

[@aqolotl]

Look it really isn't that big of a thing. I had my first kiss with 19. you really do not need to worry about it. I get that you might feel pressured bc i certainly did at age 16.

[@ceecee867]

Aw that's still soooo young, it seems like it isn't but you'll be glaad it took awhile for you to be able to think properly before entering a relationship with someone else (being with yourself at that age is already too much to handle usually haha). I got my very first kiss, sex, relationship with my now husband at 20 and at the time I thought it would never ever happen and out of no damn where when I wasn't looking for it at all.. it did. I still wish I could go back and tell my past to chill the heck out ;}

[@emilyzena7070]

You have an intelligent way of expressing things, especially psychological states. You're also really witty. And there's a great energy to your videos and they're stimulating and I love your honesty and humility and courage.

[@karens170]

Perfectly said!

[@nadaaouine6899]

"I wanna hype girls in the bathroom about thier outfits and give them tampons" more of us should want this ;)

[@memorydocumentation5942]

I MISS IT

[@leanncab]

I have actually given someone a tampon in the bathroom during a night out. Good times.

[@Paffi85]

I always brings tampons, chewing gum and hair ties just in case I find a random girl in need :)

[@ellixadore9699]

Paula Nilsson we need more people like you in this world.

[@happytofu5]

@@Paffi85 you are a kind soul

[@mallorystarrett9918]

anybody else feel they’d be best friends with Ashley in real life

[@sashashin3629]

A beautiful yet immensely dangerous phenomenon; not only because of the fans showing up at their house and stuff, but because it might in a way become a substitute for forming "real" reciprocal relationships. But on a lonely night, I'll be dammed if I don't feel like I do have a friend behind a screen. It's odd.

[@madsaf]

yes, met her once but since she has moved to nyc I fully want to run into her one day and just become besties with her.

[@lilagrun5386]

Yessss, was a really heartbreaking moment realising, I’m not :(

[@MahnoorQadri3825]

Ahaha some of these conversations feel so deep and close, more than I've ever had in real life even, I feel

[@digitaldrea]

Yesss Ashley lets be friends!!! Me you and kelly stamps can all hang out ^__^ I wish lol

[@gw6905]

as a bi woman i struggled for many years with internalized biphobia, but i can finally say i now accept myself fully. peace and acceptance are possible

[@klb2803]

me: ashley is a taurus ashley: *has 40 million plants, a youtube dedicated to fashion and therapy, desperately wanted to be toph when she was a kid* me: ashley is Definitely a taurus

[@leisymat]

I'm a taurus and I wish I was as productive creatively as Ashey.

[@danyelswei]

Ashley : She's 21, a Taurus, into arts, bi..., etc.. lmao that was totally me but the difference is she almost perfect while Im just a freaking potato

[@nctiddy]

wait what...................why is this so accurate are we all just living the same life?????

[@erikaandreehh5200]

Leisy Matos OMG same !!! I aspire to be as great as her or at least a tad bit lol

[@bloom.3254]

walter.

[@lubrenda]

When she said she's still trying to figure out her sexuality, I wanted to tell her it's okay to not have it figured out, don't be frustrated or pressured if you don't know how to label your preferences.

[@hillerychan9483]

Brenda Lu so true!

[@yogirlisha3327]

exactly!! and sometimes you don't even need a label, just knowing what you like and your good

[@francesca5971]

I really just don't know I thought I was bi and asexual and now I'm just like a ball of a million different sexualities I could be

[@AshleyLoraAnderson]

that whole segment about America "selling the college experience" couldn't be closer to the truth. Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out by not having the best experience, but reality is it's only a small portion of my life, there are so many bigger things to come

[@a4229881019]

it gets back to the reason of why going to college in one life? just as there are so many ways to better yourself. still there are people who will love you, no matter what you choose to do in your life.

[@Studymkk1]

so true there is so much more in life!

[@yvonne1172]

Ngl this comment made me feel so much better about me just going away for college and non stop studying just to graduate and not going out cos I don’t like to, but somehow I feel guilty for not going out and feeling like I’m missing out on the experience and realizing that it’s such a just a small part of my life and better things are ahead. Onward. ❤️

[@catttyun]

This girl doesn't know how much she helped 17-year-old me, even I didn't realize it at the time. But she was an older-sister figure when I was living abroad with no friends and apart from my family. Watching her videos always felt like a cozy chat with an old friend, her perspective on things like sexuality(especially the shame that comes with being socialized as a woman), self-image, relationships, just anything, they really helped me connect with myself and my own thoughts and beginning to form a perception of who I am as a person. I'm very thankful for the time she spent on youtube, even if she decides that it isn't the medium for her anymore, because the footprint that she left is enough. Watching her old videos after a long time feels like a warm hug. Thank you, Ashley

[@junjun6075]

i'm just binging all old vids cause i miss her so much and life has been hard without her

[@sofia-pw2qm]

same :(

[@aditii1698]

Ikr 😭

[@og6920]

Same!

[@chenalindelossantos967]

same :'( i pray she's doing well

[@LexieLombard]

When you said, "I miss humans being stupid, and messy, and attractive" I felt that.

[@revisationsydney6150]

Dude!!!!😂😂😂

[@missgirl6685]

never felt that more -over a year into quarantine.

[@darwinellis3074]

i know im randomly asking but does any of you know a method to get back into an instagram account? I somehow forgot the account password. I love any assistance you can offer me.

[@raphaeljack8976]

@Darwin Ellis instablaster =)

[@flamingaish]

how cute 😭

[@olivia6530]

I came out to my parents as bi last weekend and they immediately ordered me pride month crocs :) Edit: They just came in and I'm currently wearing them as I type 😊😊. 10/10 recommend they are adorable and comfy lol

[@_rat_bones_dave2479]

O l i v i a congrats!

[@lourlopezsk]

Sweetest thing ever ❤

[@sarahluna5286]

Aww , my mom was just disappointed and told me that I can’t date girls

[@maeb2978]

Moon Slayer Aw I’m sorry

[@RandomPerson-yh1sc]

Moon Slayer i’m sorry man. that’s why i haven’t come out to my family...

[@sarahsiddiqui9950]

I miss Ashley so much but i understand that it became toxic for her but hopefully she returns back soon thriving!!🥺🥺❤️❤️

[@shaperka]

when you went on about what you wanna do once we're out of quarantine, I couldn't relate more

[@caspeepeepoopoo]

omfg I love ur video so much AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[@onewildwoman]

my favorite part of this videoo

[@jennetteperdomo6046]

The zoom in before the “I think we all know” made me literally CACKLE and I’m very grateful for that.

[@echo1766]

Sammeeee 😂😂😂

[@niyah2wavyy889]

What was she talking about? I really don’t kno, someone help 😭

[@softieesh_]

@@niyah2wavyy889 oh u innocent

[@echo1766]

nia2wavy ummm toys *if u know what I mean...*

[@niyah2wavyy889]

ChidzHustle ohhh..😂

[@esme3742]

ashley: sits on the floor her favorite arm chair: am i a joke to you?

[@Jenamellowmie]

HAHA

[@rileywooten1381]

Saira Iqbal when worlds collide

[@azuriebluette4637]

@Saira Iqbal I'm a floor.. Wait no.. I'm a pOtAtO! ._.

[@nicolelise6969]

Wondering if you're bi? Do you have the ability to sit in a chair correctly? No? There you have it, that's the only requirement.

[@jacquue]

floor gang aooh

[@ilTHfeaa]

bruh i hate when i find a new favourite youtuber and they haven’t posted in 3 years 😭😭

[@CosmicSpaceAdventure]

There’s this saying in the Bah’ai Faith that goes “wherever you go, there you are.” And what that means is that we live our entire lives inside our heads, and that wherever you go, you’re you. There you are. And this can be positive and negative and anything in between. Changing your environment can help. But the only way out is through sometimes. We have to face our issues head on, without fear or trepidation, and solve them within ourselves before we can find peace. And we do that with community, with understanding, with care for our fellow human beings and for something bigger and more important outside of ourselves. And ourselves as well. We deserve love. And to love anyone else, it starts there. You can’t give someone else a life saving breathing device on a plane until you can give yourself that. You’re lovely. You’re worthy of love. And once you understand that, you can help the most people.

[@vasiavery8682]

that's a wise comment thank you

[@aliciahidalgo8838]

Alia Wilkinson, this is so lovely and one of the things that draws me to Bahai. Thank you for sharing!

[@azucenaferrusca7235]

I felt like I had to read this, love you!!!

[@irismacaulay6195]

Ashley: clothing line? The economy: lol u thought

[@eva-ru6nj]

“i want to hype girls up in the bathroom about their outfits and give them tampons”

[@pennypenny1612]

Y is this me 😂

[@LekhaPReddy]

she's so precious

[@kggroom]

The type of energy we need

[@jaamesfn]

I get to do this with my girlfriend, she has the best fashion and makeup and I’m her side kick potato. 😅

[@vanillasundaei]

i miss u ashley. missing ur videos so much

[@itsmsfantasy1608]

11:12 her face was so serious but then the way she smiled while talking abt hooking up with a girl gakdhskdhsjshdjaaahhhhh

[@Chloeleeyoung]

My favorite quote on self care is this one: “I'm going to let you in on a little secret: every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it; don't wait for it; just let it happen. It could be a new shirt in a men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good, hot, black, coffee.” You don’t need to take the time to enjoy your time :) and it’s ok to not be ok

[@angelthomas8500]

thank you, this felt so good.

[@hotanubis3661]

that’s so sweet

[@sarahmajgaard3118]

TWIN PEAKS????

[@amberclaypool6145]

Yes twin peaks!

[@caitlynfitzsimmons6449]

I needed this, thanks :)

[@joanaviana7167]

when you said: “i hooked up with a girl” i was like: OMG do we girls HAVE A CHANCE with ashley??

[@ABIGANABIS]

i was like "yaaaaas you did it guuuurl !" while being 23 and incapable of dating a girl, yep

[@forgetmenot277]

me while living on a whole different continent

[@joanaviana7167]

Tannenbaum oh honey i’m from portugal, believe me i have ZERO chances

[@forgetmenot277]

@@joanaviana7167 hahaha german here, so I think we have equally little chances xD sad times

[@joanaviana7167]

Tannenbaum im rooting for you haha maybe she likes european girls ;)

[@skyemc572]

you are so brave to talk about your journey with questioning your sexuality while still questioning

[@foodngems]

It's ok dude. I quit my job just before the pandemic hit and lost all my freelance clients BUT HEY. We just VIBIN'. At least we aren't sick and have a roof above our heads 🙏😁🙏🙃

[@leannachester6661]

"what's your most used item during quarantine?" ashley: "i think we all know" MA'AM TELL ME WHY I KNEW IMMEDIATELY AHAHAH

[@ravyntaylor6982]

O h

[@harmony453]

O h

[@oliviahelp1968]

O h

[@pollypeng6852]

what is that

[@shoyuramenoff]

@@pollypeng6852 you have not been corrupted yet.

[@strangerdaysss]

“i miss human being stupid” oh don’t worry, plenty of ppl still stupid rn

[@lagirl4648]

Got that right!💗

[@aysenurbozkurt1071]

@@lagirl4648 jp

[@NuSanniang]

@Micheal Rows Yes stupid people, Yes you are.

[@fi9263]

I feel like labels are good for some people, but are so so so scary in most ways. There’s so much pressure that comes with them, and for some reason society really just hammers in that everyone has to have them? It’s all just labels on labels on labels. It’s ok the feel the way you feel and not be able to describe it! In fact, it’s beautiful! So stop putting so much pressure on yourself! Live the way you want and love the way you want, because at the end of it all, it will have been pointless waisting so much of your time trying to find out what other people would define you as instead of just finding yourself naturally

[@prachisenapati7359]

OMG. I immensely agree.

[@Tancazeletem]

🙌🏼 perfectly said!

[@javiera2634]

Yesss i always felt this pressure of having to label myself, otherwise i thought it was invalid. But you don’t owe anyone an explanation about how you feel, as long as you know who you are and you feel good in your skin, you can call yourself whatever you want to!

[@sophiagionis]

i needed to hear this! thank you :)

[@CoraleenWaddell]

"experience this Glorious First Year" oh you poor thing....i feel you but in my own special way. I wish we were actual contacts so we could bitch back n forth in feel better. hugs to u lovely

[@hannahshipp1311]

“even during an apocalypse i still need to be the center of attention”

[@pennypenny1612]

Who doesnt need attention rn tho, everybody is a f*cking mess

[@soybeanmilkandcats]

that was peak satire lmao

[@ravyntaylor6982]

Mood though

[@eyalshay496]

I need Ashley to create a “sex and the city” coming of maturity & self-realization from the the view-point of a 22 y/o Asian-American women, kinda movie. I NEED this type of relatable dramatic-comedy in my life!

[@alittlefella985]

HECK YEAH

[@helenatube]

I APPROVE

[@ellietarver4714]

Sex and the city sis

[@marammaaroufi6093]

She is American but she is half Burmese and half British...no American is fully American except for natives

[@meghansullivan6812]

!!!!!!!!!!

[@freesuckerMCR]

ugh I can't thank you enough for honestly you talked about sustainability in fashion. As a working 20 something woman who lives in a third world country, I find it so incredibly patronizing when all of these white, rich lifestyle vloggers talk about how you shouldn't shop at h&m and how buying an 80 dollar t shirt from reformation is the only way to go. Sustainability IS important but at the same time it's become so blatantly privileged that I honestly can't take it seriously anymore. And I also think that shaming day to day consumers for "contributing to capitalism" is one of the biggest forms of actual late capitalism that exists right now.

[@AndYouWillBeWithMe]

I'm one step closer to becoming Ashley's girlfriend. Hopefully my fiancé is ok with it. (obvisouly joking)

[@karensmith1521]

💀💀💀

[@aubrey3946]

she’s like an older sister i’ve never had. love you girlie.

[@aubrey3946]

acaciaandroses i’m confused lol

[@sophiafrary3019]

i have an older sister but i talk to her as little as possible ❤️

[@aubrey3946]

sophia frary aww why?

[@clover7015]

oof. I felt that

[@broidk9907]

Locals using kibum as a meme is funny to me😹😹

[@sohfiles9079]

this video and comment section is a whole different level of therapy.

[@kirasnook]

i keep going back to ur videos aaaa miss u so bad bbb i hope ur living the best life noww 🤍🤍

[@annaymous]

this is a comfort video

[@quinn2836]

Ashley’s story about her sexuality is exactly what I’ve been feeling like lately. I like guys more than girls but I still like girls and because of that I feel like a fake bisexual person and like I’m just trying to get someone’s attention.

[@lauramorrison969]

Same here, I'm never gay enough, and then when I try to be I feel like I'm lying, so I try to be more honest with myself but it never feels right

[@katr1702]

you ARE VALID

[@Emma-fr9id]

I struggled with that exact thing for soooo long! You can prefer one more than the other and still be bi! Very few bi people are an exact 50/50 split! Worrying that you're just faking it is part of the bisexual struggle 😞

[@meilol1236]

I.....it's a bit different like when people ask what your sexualitie I just say that I am not sure cause I can totally imagine my self dating a girl but also a guy 😂 but then comes a tricky part the reason why don't call myself bi I am not romantically interested like I like anime guys ahm ahm(yes I do have high standards) and even girls but hey we never know what happens in the future 😂

[@lilyzeller1388]

You guys are all VALID!!! I rly hope you know that

[@nikkisecrest9160]

ashley: i go days and days without actually opening my mouth. me, talking to myself at every given opportunity: 👁️👄👁️

[@pennypenny1612]

Same tho, same

[@jormunganfan]

I don't have the option,I have a toddler ahaha

[@siiri8902]

Same ✋😭

[@kiriobii8958]

Felt that

[@poppy786]

Literally omg, I live with 3 people and yet as soon as I'm alone I start talking to myself

[@mimicaruso2676]

I am an old chick, you are such an enigma to someone from my generation, I am a huge fan and admire your fashion sense and your intelect . I don't understand the self-deprecation. Did your parents or is it the modern culture that has done a number on your self-esteem? Your awesome, creative pretty, smart, and successful just let yourself enjoy it. you need to love yourself and whatever childhood trauma you refer to, examine it, write about it, scream about it but let it go. Stop thinking about it and focus on all the good shit in your life, Take it from someone who knows, just love yourself. You are amazing!

[@l4uqu1]

i literally love ashleys channel so much cuz 1) shes a femenist (i think?) 2) her style is amazing 3) she's bi :D 4) shes amazing

[@ryleejane8373]

When I came out to my parents as bi, I KNEW they would be absolutely fine with it. I was certain I had nothing to be scared of, but when I finally decided to do it, and I gathered them into a room without anyone else, I couldn't even get out 4 words before I started crying. I was so lucky that their response was, "honey, that's awesome!" instead of literally anything else, but I was shaking. Internalized homophobia is so real.

[@wingsofescape]

So happy it went well for you! When I came out to my mum she made fun of me for falling for a Dutch girl than for falling for a woman 😂

[@ryleejane8373]

@@wingsofescape I'm really sorry that happened. I hope it helps to know that there are people who are very kind and accepting no matter what you throw at them, and I'm sure you will meet some in time. Also, Dutch girls sound real pretty and I'm a little jealous I cant fall for one, too.

[@sasx4706]

@@wingsofescape damn whats wrong with us dutch girls lmao

[@milliaboo765]

YES! It was only my mother at the time and I considered my sexuality in conversation with her (she had assumed I was a lesbian, I then identified as bi for a short time before finding out about pansexuality, which is a label I've used for years now), but for *years* (and even currently, if I'm honest) I would constantly think to myself that the only reason I thought I was bi or then pan was because I wanted to be trendy or quirky, despite the fact that my mother was supportive and I grew up in a (somewhat) inclusive household/area. I never had to come out to my father (he was in prison whilst I was questioning, and my mother had told him herself), and I avoid coming out to extended family members to this day, despite the fact that I have LGBT+ family friends that they are perfectly supportive of, because I feel sick to my stomach at the thought. I'm so glad internalised homophobia is getting talked about in more conversations, because the only reason I realised it wasn't so widely known was because one of my best friends (one of the only straight people in my friendship group) laughed when I mentioned it because she didn't think it existed.

[@ryleejane8373]

@@sasx4706 I mean aside from that one person's mother, I think you're safe. I'll vouch for you, at least.

[@helenjlee1]

the fact that she's so genuine and open to sharing her life with her viewers makes me love her videos even more

[@sophsinga9920]

yes! she's so wonderful and inspiring to be authentic

[@kggroom]

Exactlyy

[@breadncheeseplz8713]

Helen Lee Agreedddddddd

[@beatrizprata4601]

I’m younger than Ashley but when she started talking about her “sexuality discover” I just went straight into cool auntie mode and “oh, sweetie, it’s ok not to know what you feel, it’s ok.”

[@melisacaceres8740]

As a bi girl, i started tearing up when she quoted the Christian woman tiktok. It hit too close to home.

[@springlady8337]

Having a kink doesn’t mean you aren’t a feminist. Feminism is not about all women living and thinking one way. It’s the freedom of choice. To choose for yourself how you want to be and live. Traditional or modern, stay at home mom or career gal, vanilla or kinky. It’s for you to decide. Not men, not society, and not other women. One way of thinking is not superior to another.

[@indielover4life]

Thank you for the clarification!! 💯💯💯 agree

[@inbarschwartz]

Preach 🙌🙌🙌

[@angelamichelle3178]

This is really well said

[@ak65432]

YES

[@briana8153]

YES

[@nia2134]

to all the bi girls with a preference for guys, you are loved and valid!

[@kara431]

I really appreciate this :)

[@marieceline6969]

Okay, just make me cry while scrolling through KZbin comments why don’t you ♥️

[@ayakaimpacts]

💛💛💛

[@carlie4964]

Thank youu 💓💓

[@reginaalajar]

It's so nice to feel validated for once instead of being accused of being "fake bi" or straight or just confused ;-;

[@bethanymarble2049]

I literally said “nooo don’t leave” when you were ending the video because I love just listening to you talk 😭

[@rstremcha]

She needs to do what's best for her.

[@dogsdrawings6622]

this girl literally deserves the world I'm so glad that I am getting to see her before she blows up big as the next big screenwriter or fashion designer. Cannot wait to see what this amazing woman does!

[@az-fq6lv]

i’d kill for an ashley podcast. your opinions are so well voiced and i love hearing them

[@Pauline-kc5xp]

Oh my God, yesssss! That would be the best thing ever

[@catlin3949]

Ahh samee

[@aleshaazzahraa1923]

YES PLEASE. i would literally listen to it religiously

[@Beaut_Beau]

"Have you ever questioned your sexuality?" - Hopeful Lesbian, 2020.

[@toastlover555]

Beau H. AHAHHAHAHAAH

[@sirennumber5248]

Hopeful Sapphics, 2020

[@weirdpumpkin7414]

Beau H. I fucking laughed out loud

[@ihavenoidea7691]

I've always had a feeling i wasnt straight but listening to you coming out as bi made me accept myself a little more for being bi. I also have that same internalized biphobia where i think im just doing it for attention. But hearing you and what that christian lady said really helped me love you Ashley :)

[@cels6642]

Ashley's fave yters have lesser subscribers than she has. But her amazement on these youtubers are so humbling

[@sarcasticsquareflake1466]

“I feel like I'm an imposter” girl if that ain’t the biggest sexuality mOoD Edit: wow didn't expect this many likes. Thank you for sharing in the replies, glad we all have each other to lean on. If you read this and are struggling, take this moment to relax for a few minutes. You don't have everything figured out right now and thats ok 🏳️‍🌈💕

[@RachelMaysonet]

Sarcastic Squareflake LEGIT! honestly Ashley and all the comments here are making me feel less lonely with this sexuality crisis were That voice in my head says “You’re not gay enough”

[@carolina6214]

bi culture is having sexuality imposter syndrome 70% of the time :/

[@mikaylal8636]

Same. Like I’ve liked girls before but at the same time when I look at women I can’t tell if I like or wanna be them so I feel so fake sometimes

[@lilymiller7237]

i thought it was just me man-

[@chloerowing1]

bhahahah ME, I thought I was like 15% girls and 85% men and now I'm like 70% girls and 30% boys 😃

[@sofie8204]

I love how ashley goes in depth with all her answers. She doesn’t give a simple response and makes every question so interesting 💕

[@suzy_han]

And that is making her so much better from those many money-oriented youtubers that just do it for the sake of getting a coin

[@caramelmustachio5120]

am I the only one who constantly rewatch ashley's videos until she uploads a new vid?

[@caramelmustachio5120]

@Margherita Pomponio mine were her day in the life vlogs!

[@maryoary3195]

I soooooo appreciate how clearly thought-out your responses are. It shows how much you care about each topic. I admire you so much.

[@leannerae]

I love how real Ashley's q&a's are, she answers uncomfortable questions honestly and thoughtfully.

[@MatthewMilton]

Ashley should I quit youtube my friends keep making fun of me for it

[@lizzydreise860]

Matt Milton i don’t know you but never give up, if it’s something you like to do don’t care about what your “friends” think

[@petcharatjentaworn]

If it’s something that you really want to do i would say go for it! There may be some uncomfortable moments but just hang in there 💪🏻

[@oliviastelmach1750]

its true she doesnt circle the question. its refreshing

[@lynnly2406]

Matt Milton nah you should quit your friends and continue KZbin

[@60ksubswithvideoschallenge44]

Nobody: Bestdressed: *Making everyone’s quarantines better*

[@martyspandex]

So you have over 26k subs without producing any content? huh... that's interesting. Have you paid for some and used a sub farm?

[@nicolehernandezg.6354]

1000000%

[@GabbyDelCorso]

bruh imagine working hard to have a successful channel and this dude has 30k with no videos😭😭😭 we all have been played

[@user-iz5ij6xd5y]

martyspandex bro the name says “30k subs without any vids challenge”

[@itskylierae]

I wish we could make hers better🥺

[@carolinapeixoto3859]

i discovered your channel like yesterday and since then, i just can’t stop watching your videos. you’ve got such a good vibe, you’re so open about stuff that it’s almost impossible not to love you. I believe people like you will make the world a better place

[@xJuliaGrimesx]

Clubbing is one of the things I miss the most atm; social life is almost back to normal here in Germany, but Clubs have not opened yet. Just letting everything out, becoming a part of the mass that’s moving to the beat in a dimly lit room, losing all sense of self, yet expressing everything so personal trapped inside to the sound of the beat is so relieving while realizing that all you worried about isn’t that important. Dancing to me is a very important part of self expression and I just miss it so much.

[@ExtraordinaryJassy]

I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like this about their sexuality . Also tik tok did the same thing to me that’s crazy

[@theresa.z]

literally same and also tiktok made me question everything

[@CocoaHerBeansness]

SAME! her whole story felt like listening to myself trying to explain myself to myself.

[@marenajohansen]

Im glad someone Else relates to this to:)

[@mandydirksen]

sameee!

[@kaia2723]

Theresa same?? and i like it?? i’m confused??

[@leiannalutes6420]

Bisexuals can like men more than women and are still bisexual (hope this tip helps.)

[@rosek1282]

Leianna Lutes exactly even if someone likes men 90% and woman 10% they are still bi and if they like woman 90% and men 10% they are still bi

[@EvaAkaishi]

Rose k yess !!!!! exactly

[@saturnsmoothie]

Yes!! Having a preference is totally valid and a very common thing with bisexual people, you're still bi either way!!

[@caveofmine9889]

I've been trying to discover my sexuality if I'm bi or not. It's cos I like the idea of going on a date with a woman and all that cute shit but I cannot imagine myself getting turn on by woman like I'm more turn on by men than women. idkkk plss help

[@ohmiasi2538]

@@caveofmine9889 there's no pressure to figure it out! I went from 'if my soulmate was a woman I guess I wouldn't hate that' to 'i think I'd like to hold this girl's hand' to 'YES WOMEN ARE PRETTY MEN ARE PRETTY GIVE ME EVERYONE' over like three or four years. It might go in the same direction for you, or in the opposite one, but just relax and see what happens!

[@essentiallymichellegriffit6288]

I just discovered your channel this month and am appreciating your creativity and candor. I hope you are well and finding a spark of good in each day. You’re terrific

[@irenethomas5931]

I was feeling depressed so the only thing I could think of to shift my mind was watching your videos ❤️ thank-you for being so relatable

[@myazmin4115]

This might sound weird but I'm 17 and becoming an adult literally terrifies me but watching you handle being an adult makes it a little bit less terrifying so thank you so much for that

[@chollysa7777]

As a 19 yo, the fear is real. And watching Ahsley has helped me feel more comfortable when I moved away from home.

[@graceohlsen2930]

i’m your age and i feel the same way

[@ellismartiskainen7729]

Me too

[@aestherielle1524]

I'm 18 and trying to get into college and all that being _independent_ terrifies me but -im sorry but its true- seeing ppl actually feel that too kinda ease me :)

[@alainakeenan304]

im 17:) and lit rally same sis

[@dupaincheng]

i _totally_ get you about the bi thing, like am i ACTUALLY attracted to girls or do i just wanna be them? or is it just because of men??

[@kalhachadoorian622]

I feel this!!! like i'll be like oo damn she's hot aND has a cool personality but i can't tell if i'm in love or im just super jealous ?????

[@39fish77]

easy. can you imagine yourself dating them? can you imagine yourself having sex with them? if no then it’s just envy and idolisation

[@kattensilverregn340]

I get this, I'm so confused

[@alicecullenator22]

yes THIS!!!!

[@taliab.7329]

look into comphet!!! it’ll change ur life

[@blacksheep806]

8:30 omg that's so true! I feel like having that extra time is often your worst enemy, you end up focusing on all the tiny little details that in the end doesn't really even matter.

[@Mia-tj6me]

I love the little edits and B-roll in this video! They make a sit down video more entertaining than it already is. I just want to say that detail and hard work doesn't go unnoticed!!

[@MicarahTewers]

Your quick take on sustainability was so perfect, and really helped me sort out an inner argument I've been having for about a week. THANK YOU.

[@miae4462]

queens supporting queens

[@evahicks5733]

I have seen your comments on two of my fav KZbinr’s videos now what is going on?????? Are you everywhere? I can’t imagine my three favorite KZbinrs actually have the time to watch the other’s videos????

[@micah4460]

Imagine Micarah and Ashley doing a collaboration.

[@sarahnewton136]

ilyyy

[@astro6537]

my two favourite legends

[@birdyposting]

the bi conversation is so valid omg that’s literally many bi girl vibes

[@hahn5339]

Birdy Ki YESSSSS

[@LozzyLou3]

The honestly in your videos is always so comforting. It's like chatting with a friend.

[@nahoconnell]

This video warms my heartttt thanks for being so human. I feel like it's so easy to connect with you in your videos.