getting my sh*t together *adult mode activate*

[@lucymadalyn8284]

"Suffering from a condition called I'm 21and I have no idea what I'm doing" amen sis omfg

[@emilyatkinson12]

lucymadalyn I’m suffering from a similar condition called ‘I’m 25 and still have no idea what I’m doing, meanwhile my friends are parents’

[@fannycelaya]

I busted out laughing 😂😂😂

[@kggroom]

Literally AMEN😭

[@maggiecheyenne]

@@emilyatkinson12 omggggg me af. I'm 24 and living at home and feeling lost af 😂😩

[@maggiecheyenne]

@Kaitlin Pages you got this!!! I just graduated with my Master's and couldn't afford to live in my own so I'm back home with my parents. It's hard to see everyone around me feeling confident and knowing what they're doing with their life while I'm just like 🥺😭 but that's okay! We'll figure it out!!!

[@laylaabdul4027]

I love that her comment section is so thoughtful and intuitive instead of the usual: tUrN tHIs BLuE IF yOu loVE AsHLeY

[@itssmariaaaa]

i didnt realise this until you pointed it out but you're so right! That's awesome

[@gargiharkare]

I didn't realize this till now but that is so true

[@la-xw6ov]

Only intellectuals watch ashley🙃

[@suides4810]

I hate idol-cults.

[@jeanettek7442]

ashley: has her hand RIGHT THERE also ashley: “here’s a potato for scale”

[@oyster636]

Hahaha! I was thinking the same :P

[@kggroom]

Love her😂😂

[@ifc1628]

At first I thought they had sent a potato in pr along with those candy

[@tanzeelala]

@@ifc1628 me too lmao 😂😂

[@jordancarneal9459]

“And one of the pockets is on the inside for hiding snacks and secrets” now if that isn’t the most adorable wholesome sentence I’ve ever heard-

[@jl9212]

Ashley: “barely got through college” Also Ashley: *graduated 2 years early*

[@olasaeed9002]

I really want her to make a vidoe about her major and how did she graduate in two years .

[@jl9212]

Ola Saeed she did. It’s somewhere on her channel. I don’t remember what it’s called tho

[@nubbyrose87]

Ola Saeed My 3 girls graduated in 3 years, one of them summa. One year of college credit was earned while in high school - dual credit (Texas high schools). Basically some of your high school classes count for both high school and college credit. This greatly helps with reducing the cost of college because dual credit classes are free. They could have easily have picked up another college semester in high school by taking other dual credit classes and testing out of others. If they did that and took summer classes while in college they could have graduated in 2 years. I don’t know how Ashley did it but dual credit, testing out of college courses and summer classes may have been part of it. It’s doable but requires advanced planning beginning in high school. Edit: All three of my kids graduated debt free due to free college credit from dual credit high school classes, testing out of courses, scholarships and savings. If more people knew about dual credit in high school the debt burden from student loans would be greatly reduced.

[@11kindpunk11]

@@nubbyrose87 wow. Very informative. Thanks. I'll look into it.

[@nubbyrose87]

Pantho Chowdhury A few other tips to graduate in 3 years - my kids didn’t change majors nor did they change colleges, they didn’t do a study abroad and to save money they didn’t have a car in college. My daughter who graduated summa did a summer internship. Also, research the limits on transferred credit including dual credit and credit from testing out. To get a head start on graduating timely, take classes at a community college before you start your first fall semester. Edit: They also didn’t drop classes and only took the classes required for their major and to graduate. I told them once they graduated and got a job they could save their money if they wanted to study for another career or for a graduate degree. But I wanted them to graduate without debt and without me going broke or taking on debt.

[@alisonlee9123]

the fact that ashley can keep all those plants alive,,, someone give this girl an award asap

[@tinaunfiltered]

my mum left me to take care of her plants while she was away and i killed them all

[@000AnnA000D]

no thats literally normal. i dont get why pretty much no americans are able to just understand plants needs🤦‍♀️

[@raine3716]

different plants need different amts of sunlight and water etc. so her plants might fall in the category where it does not need much sunlight or water

[@Sandwichscoot]

The key is research! Knowing your plant's needs will make it much harder to kill them!

[@Sarah-sb1kh]

AnnaDaA wtf

[@charlottejacobi2743]

No one: Ashley: pulls out a potato for scale

[@ari-tz2xu]

This is why we love her

[@indrabolin7893]

Fun fact, using a spoon to peel ginger is way better than a knife for some reason. Weird, but true.

[@Seabellswish]

Can confirm, spoons are better than knives for ginger

[@alanalittle3649]

I grate ginger with a cheese grater!

[@ancab4855]

I honestly miss her videos so much. I remember watching this when I was a teenager and now I'm 21 and she still inspires me just as much as she did back then

[@erika.434]

same here i go back to her vids for my sanity

[@MRHMLK1000]

It’s actually so nice to see a youtuber showing themselves cleaning ACTUAL dirty stuff in their house. There’s something so weird about watching people clean their already spotless bathtubs and sinks

[@kggroom]

Yeaa😂

[@Maria-hg2if]

Honestly I never thought twice about youtubers cleaning already clean stuff cause SAME. My house is never dirty tbh.

[@brianda5793]

Lol maybe they are on top of their cleaning that they don’t let it get that dirty

[@MRHMLK1000]

nah see you all misunderstand. i mean that it’s boring as shit to watch youtubers clean their already clean houses because what’s the point of it. where’s the satisfaction. the before and after. the intrigue. like razor commercials where they’re shaving a hairless leg. but congratulations on all your very clean houses

[@sofiabattaglia351]

honestly i dont even know how it got that dirty, i love ashley but that shower and sink are disgusting! like water runs in it every day how is it so crusty and gunky? it gives me the creeps ahaha

[@muskaangrewal821]

being a feminist is not only being equal to men, but also being able to do what you want as a woman, which means the housewife thing is totally valid so dw

[@0Rachizzle0]

Absolutely!

[@louetke]

Feminism has never been about choice but about liberation from male domination though. Till we achieve that there’s no way to know that women who choose to be housewives are doing it out of their own informed and free will. Also just because they’re choices mades by women doesn’t mean they’re free from criticism. Feminism is about being able to think critically about every aspect of society, not just saying “*~everything a woman does is valid uwu!! ~~

[@user-ee8cq9jt3y]

@@louetke so your saying, that a woman cannot possibly be capable of making decisions that best suits her in a "male dominated" world, because she is too weak and stupid? She is not capable and needs outside help? She needs to be told what societies views are on certain topics in order to make a "more informed" decision, because she is not capable of actively weighing pros and cons from information she actively sought out? She is not capable of informing herself in the first place and needs a whole movement behind her back to push her forward?! I believe women are more than capable doing all those things on their own, with their own abilities. And yes, feminism and equality IS about choice! What kind of misogynist are you, perluding to women not knowing what they want, so they must be told, and that the ability to have a choice is second place. Smh.

[@alondracarreno1376]

Yea. Also, men should take part in the housekeeping thing as well, especially if they live alone

[@Luukyana]

And also being ok with a guy wanting the same :) Like staying at home with children when a wife is working etc. It's not just about women rights now. All people should be equal and have the same opportunities without being shamed in my opinion :)

[@riri.online]

HOW CAN PEOPLE’S BRAINS WORK FAST ENOUGH TO COME UP WITH COOL COMMENTS WITHIN 10 SECONDS

[@wunderpuffel7364]

Bobbita it’s called editing

[@helloidkwhatimdoing653]

@@wunderpuffel7364 they probably mean actual comments on the video and those update the time to when they were edited

[@hughjass5034]

Well… now you‘re one of these people

[@ChillWithLinh]

haha

[@SC-yr8tw]

You're one of em now ☻

[@melaniequai1504]

Everyone: Ashley is so pretty and smart how is she single?! Ashley: I will literally frame my husband for murder.

[@dianemohammed7294]

😅🤣

[@namintal790]

Hahhaha

[@kldottie6524]

If you're reading this, it's a sign that your youtube channel will be successful, never give up. Let’s help one another

[@tabestart165]

@@kldottie6524 aw thanks I’ve been thinking about trying to be a actual art KZbinr

[@gildanonofyabiznez6430]

What a queen

[@wehiwachjyblgnuiaet4783klawct7]

Ashley honey. You DO NOT NEED to motivate yourself to work more. I beg you, please take a holiday. Periods every two weeks and pulling all nighters is the opposite of healthy. We will forgive you for no videos in 2 or three weeks. Please take care of yourself.

[@leylarustamova]

preach this comment

[@doroteaivankovic3134]

Agreed

[@bestofFay]

TMI But like.....My period came every fifteen days is it bad?

[@emmadickson05]

Pannaporn Puttaraksa depends. Some people just have periods really often but majority of the time it is unhealthy. It may just be stress or your diet tbo

[@pulsarnov4491]

@@bestofFay might be your stress or diet, or because youre young. if youre a teen, its completely normal to have your period twice a month and then no periods for 2 months, for example. if youre worried, you can always go see a doctor to ask if anything is wrong and your doctor might say you could try birth control pills. Birth control pills do not only prevent pregnancy, but they also regulate your period so you get it once every four weeks :)

[@annikamandrekar9785]

when she said she was working on a big project coming out soon and was tapping next to her ears... clever

[@clarastevens8683]

I dont get it...

[@sarahy870]

¿ she came out with a jewelry collection with en route jewelry but i don’t think it was released when this video came out

[@clarastevens8683]

@@sarahy870 oh ok thanks

[@eggtart52]

and the earrings she was wearing were from en route!

[@jypsimp1915]

*when you just realize that’s what she’s talking about rn*

[@flowersport36]

tbh being an adult is just accepting that you'll always be tired

[@palakjain406]

Nope that's not true I am a teen and I am always tired. But again as I say this to everyone that I've a heart of a 8 year old and a soul of a 80 year old who is stuck in a 15 year old body.

[@lyte3339]

@@palakjain406 it really be like that sometimes 😂

[@hillary_day_]

I’m 14 but I guess I’m an adult then

[@AC-ri2ph]

Cursed Vibes with why are you tired? are you doing more responsibilities than school?

[@uwrongmerightjalbwaddaeng]

Most people: the inner pocket is for hiding and protecting your phone, wallet or passport from pickpockets Ashley: iTs fOr HiDiNg sNaCkS aNd sEcReTs

[@lunalewandowski1623]

She's so wholesome!❤

[@aestheticallycold247]

It’s for hiding mysterious majestic looking old keys 🗝

[@isabellaholloway4653]

Nah, I had the exact same thought as her 😅

[@evapace43]

wheres the lie tho 😂

[@uwrongmerightjalbwaddaeng]

@cbubble07 really? why?

[@CocoDay]

*EVERY jacket should have a secret snack pocket !!* very important.

[@MagentaLooks]

You could put the starbursts in it!

[@sahralenny]

Adulthood is a myth. But what is comforting is that all us 20-something year olds are stumbling around equally clueless. It never gets easier, your coping mechanisms just get better imo.

[@Brie85V]

sahralenny totally agree speaking as a 30ish adult. You will keep figuring stuff out. We just do what we can and can’t put pressure on ourselves.

[@ไอเลิฟไคลี่เจนเนอร]

i've come around to the idea that adulthood is basically "adults" still as children with a big ass facade to cover up the fact that everything is under control when it isn't like u said

[@samfuel]

A person becomes an adult at the point they realise that adulthood isn’t a grand change on the horizon but... more of the same, until death... with every passing day granting more understanding of ourselves and others and the world around us which allows us to make better decisions (or worse, I’m not discriminating, some of us make progressively worse decisions...).

[@abcfefghijklmnop3947]

well that's encouraging

[@Andrea-ib9xd]

Im living for this comment and the replies

[@angelac3875]

“Here’s a potato for scale” -Ashley Love this so much

[@gummieturtle8166]

“And one of the pockets is on the inside for hiding snacks and secrets” now if that isn’t the most adorable wholesome sentence I’ve ever heard-

[@Haveyallseenthedamntoaster]

For one second I was like: Did I comment already??😂 hey army

[@yourdadsof1325]

Biggest crossover in the history of crossovers-

[@the_socialphobic_girl]

@@yourdadsof1325 fr 😂

[@aris7554]

Ohh hayy hayyy Army 😂💜

[@kldottie6524]

If you're reading this, it's a sign that your youtube channel will be successful, never give up. Let’s help one another

[@codename-pi]

Thank you Ashley for always being my inspiration to romanticize my life, but also stays critical and open to ideas. You're one of the very few I'd say, internet public figure that actually shows they're in search of that certain feeling of contentment in life, which is exactly what I'm into too. You also always subliminally remind me to appreciate little happiness in life and that it's totally okay to be just okay in life. And the cherry on top is that we're the same age, so I feel like there's a figure with a similar goal in life with me and we're in this life journey together. Thanks for everything, Ashley!

[@tatumhalligan9177]

same, you put this so well. i’ll be 21 in january & ashley is just ??? wow love her.

[@bibibibibi]

the whole "i would like a rich husband but that kinda makes me a bad feminist" thing is a dilemma that i have in my mind the w h o l e time. It's nice that someone else also thinks about it, hehe

[@tonyhawksmovingcastle]

feminism is about being free to choose, either you want to work, run a business or stay at home and take care of children is all your choice!! you are not inferior if you decide to do any of that stuff!! :)

[@hvislysettaross.]

Yeah, my two moods are independent woman and a baby that needs a husband to pay for her stuff

[@hastinae.8166]

@@hvislysettaross. sammeee😩

[@emma4501]

Im in high school and idk what to do when I graduate, like idk what to do with my life so honestly this isn’t such a bad option

[@stanningexotosavemysanity5638]

An exo-l who thinks along the same lines XD

[@kritikaaagaur]

Petition for Ashley to do *MORE* of these videos!

[@io2255]

Krystalline yes!!

[@Laineypaints]

Its been 3 years, im 20 now and im feeling shitty and yet this video still makes me feel safe :)

[@Laineypaints]

still second that statement im recovering from horrible wisdom teeth surgery and Ashley's still gold

[@sarahsimke]

I’m here every 2 months. Same.

[@kkdrox]

ur not alone

[@lavenderriro1010]

me rn im currently 20 :)

[@evawu3603]

My comfort video

[@oliviarichardson6776]

why is no one talking about how good she looks in this video!!

[@Amber-co1th]

Ikr she looks so good

[@atlmcd]

Because she always looks good. Nothing new.

[@FortheBudgies]

Because it's unimportant to the topic

[@elizabethl3685]

skinny LEGEND

[@ameliafox2444]

army forever ppp pop

[@MsMarmima]

Period every two weeks? That happened to me once! Turns out it was just STRESS AND ANXIETY! please take care of yourself and your health! Also watch out for iron deficiency, since it can also cause depression and fatigue!

[@ci3xx]

I was so stressed out when she said she got it every two weeks. take care of yourself girl! what that fuck!!

[@myja100]

Same for me just recently, and then I would overwork myself from that! Meditation, yoga, exercise and trying to keep organised always helps me. Best wishes xxx

[@ngairespoon]

that happened to me but I'm in my last semester of uni so I just went on birth control and nuked it

[@awesomepawsomesocks]

This happened to me too!

[@ryeofoatmeal]

it's opposite for me, when I'm stressed I don't have periods lol

[@abi_rose]

"i'm 21 and overwhelmed" is the new "i'm 19 and i'm on fire"

[@bruisecruise4621]

LORDE

[@lianroyvaiphei359]

@@bruisecruise4621 perfect places ahhhhh

[@springlady8337]

Not working and enjoying soap operas does not make anyone a bad feminist. The whole point of feminism to the power of choice. To be able to make our own decisions instead of letting society as a whole (yes both men and women) make our decisions for us. You can be a stay at home mother or like being in a relationship and still be a feminist. You can be traditional or modern and be a feminist. As long as you support women and support the idea of women being free of control then you are a feminist.

[@beste9020]

loved your explanation ❤❤

[@fr33yamusic]

I think she was saying that viewing being a housewife as 'retirement' and an easy life..makes her a bad feminist. She was calling herself out lol

[@emme2538]

No, this whole choice feminism is extremely reductionist and does not take into consideration white supremacy, capitalism, colonialism or basically any opressive structure... It really works only for cishet middle class white women.

[@springlady8337]

@@emme2538 So women shouldn’t have a choice? Um…

[@emme2538]

@@springlady8337 No, I'm saying that while white upper middle class women is making choice whether to become a ceo or a housewife, black trans women doesn't have accesible medical care and is at high risk of homelesness.

[@IzzyParadis]

you’re actually the only youtuber that i don’t get bored of when they make talking videos lol. and this my friends is why i don’t make talking videos.

[@tormennnnta]

just watched 3 minutes of ads for you, you are welcome

[@dawnforlife]

I FEEL THE SAME! hahaha! To be honest, sometimes I even get bored watching own! LMAO!

[@IzzyParadis]

dawn for life in Switzerland literally me too

[@jnlyzg]

Yes

[@ChillWithLinh]

she is just the bestttttt and so relatable too

[@elise1640]

Ashley, you are like a big sister that I've never had and I hate seeing you so stressed out. please take a break bc you deserve one. You don't have to put a video out every week fo us. We care more about your physical and mental health than having a video every week. Please take a holiday or just a few months to live your life and savour it. Don't let us (your fans) determine how you dictate your life. We love you and we want you to take care of yourself.

[@sophiethefairy]

Couldn't agree more! Loovve you and you're content Ashley! But no one is gonna scream at you if you just take a lil time to switch off and relax :) I know someone who's veerryy much a workaholic and honestly the thing I'd say most to anyone with that kinda mindset is like enjoy your youth and take time off to be at peace with your mind, and get to know yourself, don't succumb to the pressure of being ' The Perfect Women™ '. (I know we all do sometimes). We're all just young and figuring life out, and you don't have to have all the answers yet

[@fatimagutierrez888]

16:00 The video about beauty standards was amazing, you’re incredibly well spoken and I feel like everything you said in that video was really true, it literally made me cry because I wasn’t feeling that good about myself that day and you truly put things into perspective. Even if it got fewer views than you usually get, I’m sure everyone who watched it really appreciated it. (Or at least i did) Ly Ashley :)

[@Wra8h]

Truly. I loved it, too. It's a better quality to me than those generic videos even though I believe Ashley is really talented in what she's doing (not a lot of people I can say that about). It was refreshing and felt... real.

[@chez1553]

Yeah, I agree 100%. Like when she showed us her shower before she cleaned it. It is something so small, but makes her seem more humane rather than other influencers who shield every 'real' aspect of life and put up this facade of sorts.

[@dela_ruthh]

This girl is so endearing! The way she shares herself with us is just so refreshing and it’s nice to see someone online expressing themselves with such a rich medley of vulnerability and grace

[@chloely196]

when will she hit us with that beef and broccoli recipe though

[@estheryang1247]

i just want to know how she makes the beef yummy :(

[@alexaanne]

sameeee

[@daniellesablan3741]

Yes pleaseee, I need that recipe

[@mrsjtalia]

Chloe Ly for fucking real

[@Jessica-wt2sm]

Yes!! Please put the recipe in the description box Ashley :)

[@Anonymous62034]

This makes me so happy- honestly, I feel like you’re one of the most “real” youtubers. You don’t lie about having perfect mental health or a perfect life, but it seems like you’re really trying your hardest and working your hardest to live a really full and fulfilling life. I aspire to live like you- not necessarily the same career and all that, but with your mentality and drive to work. Thanks for making great videos!

[@julialinney8961]

Save your starbursts for Halloween and hand them out to kids since you’re an adult now !!

[@DJoy222]

And she can send the rest to me!

[@teeheetaetae4689]

Such a good idea to support both Ash and the kidz!

[@LPSRed]

mmm, but a lot of kids would probably just throw them out, since they aren’t in a “wrapper” (like the 2 pack ones, as the singles can be tampered with easily)

[@gladyswong6622]

I was gonna say the sameee ayeee

[@lilian8803]

Lps Red does that seriously happen? People tampering with halloween candy? Never heard of that in Germany lol

[@alanam.7911]

you graduated two years early, and maintained a highly demanding digital career whilst being pretty transparent about a lot of your personal life and emotional health. give yourself MORE CREDIT! I LOV U!

[@cherrychan66]

I give her credit for showing her dirty bathtub, I'd be too embarrassed lol

[@lovyka1117]

Daphne R she said she went to the beach and that’s just lots of sand on the bathtub 😂

[@stellat9083]

@@erinsantosa the brand is method

[@Melisaandnalu]

When Ashley is only one year older than you are, but you see her as a mother

[@Plshtoru]

When ashley is the same age as you but you still see her as an older sister

[@joyshripathak97]

When Ashley is one year younger than you, but you see her as the cool aunt you never had.

[@michellebailey6216]

when ashley is only 20 years younger than you are, but you see her as a grandson

[@rinadinari]

same! ashley is my older sister I've never had

[@tarabesque3328]

this is too real

[@lennyaviles6707]

I’ve been loving your “real talk” videos recently. You have no idea of how much they help some of us. Plus you’re hilarious.

[@carlotadiaaz]

This feels like the last week of school when you've already taken your finals and know that you've passed everything and you just spend the afternoon in your little summer outfit bc the weather is good again after the whole winter. I have found such a sense of confort in this video that I watch it every time that im stressed.

[@daniesaur]

I need a bestdressed podcast so that I can just listen to ashley talk about anything and everything under the sun. Because damn Ashley is such a mood. (edit) But yes I know you are too busy and I just simply wanted you to know you are doing great and that my heart is just happy and contented with the videos that you post. Don't exhaust yourself, you deserve some rest. Don't worry we're not going anywhere, we're always here to support you 💖

[@succulentbey]

Yep waiting for her podcast! I can listen to her voice all day!

[@kamishah8623]

agreed

[@leletaylor7647]

Danielle Mae Tolibao yesss

[@carlarubybang6859]

YES!

[@daneyyp3328]

YAS PLS ASHLEY

[@BrittanySingerGirl]

You should think about WHY you’re making the videos. Quality over quantity. Your video on body image might not have got a lot of views, but I’m sure it hit way deeper with the people who did watch it. (I know this because it really hit me!) I almost never share videos, but the things you were saying was almost the exact feeling and conversation I had with my girlfriend a few weeks ago and I was able to share it with her to continue that conversation. Having those types of ‘deep’ chats makes our relationship stronger and I know your audience connects with you more during those type of videos - regardless of how ‘the numbers’ compare with everything else. Think about value in more ways that numbers. It doesn’t matter how many millions you get if you’re not making a significant and positive impact on the people who are watching. 💖 Ps. I’m 28 and still have no idea wtf I’m doing so, look forward to basically always feeling lost 😅🤣

[@annarose932]

Could you do a outfit ideas video for job interviews or jobs with strict rules; like only wearing black, white, grey and browns and dressing smart. Would love to see your ideas, maybe 50 outfits x

[@grumpyteeth9614]

jenny mustard and also dearly bethany on youtube would be good inspo 💓

[@amandamakesstuff1383]

Lindsey rem and Eve Cornwell have also just uploaded videos like this and they both have great style! Might help xx

[@hannahmartin1344]

50 outfits? You're not looking for much sis lol

[@dv4346]

this is asking too much.... ashley doesn't even work an office job so she has hardly any clothes of this sort... check out some other youtubers mentioned in the thread

[@gracewildman6832]

and no jeans ughhh

[@khgraywolf]

"Get in my depression hole." should be your tinder bio.

[@genevievemccalla3632]

I-

[@the_socialphobic_girl]

My god 😂💀

[@avaniwanjari7296]

lmao

[@empty912]

Please talk more about film! Put that film degree to use girl!

[@minjadeye663]

what course are u taking?

[@bobsagetghost]

follow her other channel bestmess :)

[@empty912]

@@minjadeye663 I'm actually studying film rn! But in college in England (which is 16-18).

[@io2255]

I hope ashley gives us more content like this regardless of the views!! Fashion videos will always do better because there’s a bigger audience for it but discussion type videos also show just how many people are interested in Ashley as a person!❤️

[@mhmd8710]

runchranda xo yessssss

[@giveupndie4559]

not gonna lie I'm really scared of becoming a "real adult" but these videos gives me a sense of comfort, like everything is gonna be okay and I don't have to have a perfect life or emotions

[@ZeraDee]

Don't worry, we're all making it up as we go. You figure things out when you need to.

[@malinagrove8558]

This is the type of life i aspire to lead. - dancing around all the time -have like 50 frickin plants scattered around -cooking my own food.

[@Emma-dh7by]

- 4 hours of sleep?

[@kldottie6524]

If you're reading this, it's a sign that your youtube channel will be successful, never give up. Let’s help one another

[@Ahsderk]

That sounds amazing honestly

[@theoffkeydiva]

Ashley, I also just graduated university but I’m feeling so good about my life right now because I took time off to focus on my future and mourn my past. We both went through huge life changes and it seems like you aren’t doing so good because you have allowed yourself no time to readjust. Take a vacation. If you don’t take a break soon you will get sucked into the business of every day and you start to lose months to head down, nose to the grind stone mentality. Also, you just went from an imposed schedule to being completely self-scheduled and that isn’t necessarily what is best for you. Consider making yourself a daily cleaning schedule, a set dinner time or signing up for a sport rec league. Anything so that rushing to meet work deadlines isn’t the only thing that dictates your day. If work is the only “important” thing that you have to do every day than any minute not doing it will seem wasted. We are both still sooo young , with probably 70 years of living left to do. Please don’t rush headlong into constant busyness and forget to savour your life.

[@sheeatsfish]

I really appreciated the time you took to write this out. I'm in the same boat of being a bit aimless as a post-grad. As young people we are going through a lot of important stressful life phases very quickly. It's hard to stop rushing to meet deadlines/"working hard" (at the expense of your health/wellness) in order to gauge success. The phrase "focus on my future and mourn my past" was very beautiful to me. I hope we can all take a pause for a moment and take it easier on our selves as we shift into new phases of our lives.

[@krisanthemum5898]

Ashley needs to read this comment. Very thoughtful and helpful

[@caseyshail]

I didn’t even know Starburst Sent PR packages out... wild

[@aanyaarora2261]

you can tell ashley's a true adult now bc no more cinnamon toast crunch:(

[@user-zb4yv5rp2y]

aanya arora true lol 🥺

[@frejaandersen3739]

nononono she properly hides it in every corner of her apartment

[@evelyn-bz7hv]

What’s that? I’m from england

[@greenybeeny7139]

It's just cereal squares covered in cinnamon and sugar

[@indigocancer5394]

bubbletea-yt it’s called curiously cinnamon here!

[@sofiazohn1615]

Ashley, you haven’t posted for over a year, but your videos are still my ” comfort food “

[@oliviastilley2838]

idk if it’s the lighting or your shirt or if you’ve been working out, but your arms looked so toned and you look amazing (as always but like...more)

[@aysimaberil]

I was thinking the same thing the whole video and I wanna be strong as she is!

[@Slyyvie]

"mushing around in the space time continuum not sure what I wanna do at any given time" I relate so bad

[@bestium7958]

"You are the only one who can make failure feel like failure." That hit me. Thanks for sharing your journal! 💕

[@alegomez9715]

I'm just rewatching all Ashley's videos cuz I really miss her :c

[@nelliex643]

Your 21? I thought you were American

[@nelliex643]

@@praptigiriH wow uncultured.. It's from a vine

[@nelliex643]

@@praptigiriH 😎😎

[@huh795]

prapti giri American is a nationality not a race

[@leom04]

@@praptigiriH god can't you understand it was a joke? It was a meme

[@tinyk1466]

ealo r/woooosh

[@layoverbear]

i looove physically doing things too! a planner, post its, calendars, they're so much better than on my phone!

[@ibadangirl.]

yeah, me too!!

[@bethstie]

YES YES YES

[@jessr249]

RIGHTT to a point they motivate me to make it look nice and all too

[@oxyjen9363]

Can’t. relate.

[@myonlybeauty]

seeing your “gross” tub makes me feel better about the fact that life happens and sometimes showers get gross

[@jazmyn7117]

"all I have are these 3 shaky iPhone clips of bell peppers" why is this sending me lmaoo

[@mollybrady2388]

*inside pocket that is blatantly made for phone and money* Ashley: “pocket which is made for snacks and secrets”

[@annatsipouras5120]

Somehow I was really satisfied about how your shower was really dirty and gross so you're not just pretending to clean your already perfect bathroom

[@ColleenPark]

I just love the hand motions she makes when she talks

[@TamTam-rq4nc]

Colleen Park I do that a lot too lmao. A perk of being awkward 🙃

[@riyochan05]

i always come back to this video whenever i feel overwhelmed with the reality that i am growing up and everytime i do, i feel somewhat relaxed that i can relate to someone

[@violaf9153]

SAVE THE STARBURST FOR HALLOWEEN!! Place the bowl outside and let the kids do the rest 🖤🖤

[@aryanaofficial6083]

Viola Fernezlian that’s a really good idea actually!

[@frenchiehorn4339]

Yasssss

[@gemmybunny]

bold to assume a teen wont dump the entire thing into their bag

[@woohooo7813]

@@gemmybunny It's me, _I'm the teen._

[@meltedthing2338]

Yesssss!

[@DinamitaLife]

is anyone else like... in love with her??

[@raventrunite6459]

lmao yes

[@jesmaryaraquerivera721]

meeeee i'm all just *heart eyes* throughout all of her videos

[@erylcrll]

ME! both in love with her and wanna be her.

[@jessicabarcenas8465]

If she's lesbian

[@jessicabarcenas8465]

I would freaking marry herr

[@jacqueline904]

I love how universal the excitement that women feel over pockets is. I'm watching this in the background while working on a report and the moment I heard Ashley mention a hidden pocket for snacks my eyes immediately snapped back to the screen. 😂

[@Gladzet]

Oh hell yes! I just bought men's pants for work the other day and the amount of pocket is breathtaking :o cannot keep my paws out

[@larabarbatowolf1335]

when the climate change apocalypse hits everybody’s gonna want to live with ashley and her shelter of oxygen makers (🌱)

[@mckenzieshoaf3959]

so basically youre a chronic procrastinator but like...a productive one

[@suides4810]

Mckenzie Shoaf i wish i was productive

[@gracemc2293]

if this ain’t me

[@evrnight]

So I’ve been vegetarian for 4 years, but I also consider myself a feminist, and somehow I’ve never noticed that!! Now that I think about it though, you’re absolutely right about comments & women vs women. (I’ve never put pressure on anyone to go vegan bc I don’t believe it’s actually gonna convince them-but that’s another story lmao) ALSO SIDE NOTE: Everlane isn’t actually all that sustainable/eco friendly… check out the app Good On You if you want more info, they explain how sustainable each brand is in terms of labour, environment, and animal cruelty.

[@kathrynvinson]

I've been vegan for a while and i've definitely thoughts about it before. but i think there's something very activistic and femist about being vegan. for me at least it's a lifestyle and no a diet, but i do see the ways it could be seen as a diet geared and pressured women

[@chrissihoneybunny]

Love that you mentioned the app Good on You! I use it a lot, but just wish they had more brands on it.

[@Gabriela-bl5py]

I’m also vegan and I keep a low waste lifestyle and it has always been interesting for me that zero wasters are most of the time women. I don’t see this trend with veganism, it’s usually 50/50, but I just follow ethical vegans not plant based dieters (and in that case, I have noticed most of them are women but also they tend to “leave veganism” pretty quickly and I guess it is because they just see it as a way to lose weight while eating a lot). There’s a lot of discussion on this in the zero waste community and most of the hypothesis state that, women tend to be seen as more caring and men feel like losing their masculinity if they do the things you need to do to reduce your waste just as eating meat is seen as manly (because cavemen and stuff haha). It would be interesting to study this phenomenon statistically, but I also believe it has a lot to do with the gender roles that have been imposed to us

[@jacinth.e5662]

thank you for the app recommendation!

[@kendylchurchman9639]

That part of the video reminded me of this gender vs zero waste article- might be of interest to this thread. Many things are expected of women especially, and a lot of them are things that are ultimately good for everyone (the responsibility or pressure to be perfect/save the planet shouldn’t fall on any one group/groups). www.google.com/amp/s/www.vox.com/platform/amp/the-goods/2019/5/9/18535943/zero-waste-movement-gender-sustainability-women-instagram I’ve been eating vegetarian meals 95%+ of the time for 3 years- what’s made it work for me is to try out meal alternatives, and to eat meat if I crave it! There’s tons of ways to reduce impact, and tons of reasons why vegan might not be for you, do what you can (if you intrinsically want to!) and also try other ways that work with your personal strengths.

[@fishtailglue]

I am LIVING for the amount of honesty and how you don't sugarcoat anything!! It feels like hanging out with a close friend🌸

[@aakritibagchi2663]

Aw missing this Ashley, currently on a rewatch binge

[@CassidyGuerrero1201]

The pure chaos when you were cooking, biggest thing i related to

[@BaileyDir]

can we take a min to appreciate Ashley’s editing and overall aesthetic bc it is GOALS🤩🤩🙌🏻

[@alaraaydin98]

Every time I watch one of Ashley's videos, I always feel like I'm just hanging out with her, having a girls' day :')

[@LaurenLiz]

"no one warned be about how much entropy there is in real adult life" is the most relatable sentence I've ever heard in my life.

[@LOVE-SANA]

you look happier in each video, so glad your heart is healing. cooking scene had me choking

[@Alex-qs9jf]

@hello is it me youre looking for probably her breakup

[@doreenmarie4938]

Hannah Curtis when did she break up with david i am confused

[@Alex-qs9jf]

@@doreenmarie4938 I don't know when exactly, a few weeks ago I guess. I'm not sure if she announced it officially but it was clear from her videos, she said that she was single and stuff like that

[@JustieDusty]

Doreen Marie she talked about it in the “Real talk break ups, boyfriends, and blowjobs” video

[@iloveselenagomezyeah6486]

Doreen Marie she posted it in her story in Instagram a while back, it was straight after their New York trip

[@abbeyangevine1773]

My favourite brand of LA girls is self-aware half hipsters.

[@mhmd8710]

HAHAHAHA sameeee

[@ShivangiP1]

Just 4 hours of sleep and still has the motivation to get out of bed, get nicely dressed with pretty makeup. Dear Ashley, being a bit anxious is okay, as long as you're determined to get something done. And look you did it! Lots of love💕

[@GetReady4Bed]

I watch this video whenever I get a depressive episode and I swear it lifts up my mood. Thanks Ashley 💕

[@GetReady4Bed]

@@harmonizing8627 we are perfectly imperfect and doing the best we can. One step at a time. Sending you lots of love 💗

[@saimeaysu8217]

Is it only me but isn't she glowing and so beautiful 🌟

[@inesengler7580]

Yes!! I feel like she got tanned!

[@nazx2941]

çok güzel kız ağ 🖤

[@2legit2Kwit]

California sun

[@rupinlamistoufle8375]

PRO TIP: use a teaspoon to peel ginger !! Trust me it’s a game changer 😎 Like so Ashley sees this comment !!

[@rrosaajohnsonn]

Rupin Lamistoufle yes!! The back of the spoon trick is a lifesaver! Also you can use a fine cheese grater to mince too so you don’t have to use a knife ☺️

[@missmatch9058]

Omg thanks for this tip!!

[@rupinlamistoufle8375]

@@missmatch9058 You're welcome !

[@unciaaa]

For the ginger, use a spoon to scrape off the outer skin

[@ellen1001]

Betty Chen as a ginger my skin is fine where it is. please do not skin any gingers, wE’Re rEaL pEoPlE tOo!!1!1!!

[@hipeople9856]

@@ellen1001 😂

[@froggie1241]

ellen gingers have no soul

[@sophiaR132]

2024, and I'm here rewatching your vlogs. I was a teenager when I first started watching you. My sis introduced your yt channel, and I have loved it up until now.❤ Hope to see you again here on youtube.

[@britneygarcia9959]

The potato “for scale” absolutely KILLED ME I was laughing so hard

[@eringrow2701]

"take it easy on me i'm like halfway through a mental breakdown" is me talking to my professors

[@ForeverMelanie]

You should hand out the starbursts for Halloween! And take off ginger skin with a spoon!

[@97ann73]

That's a great idea!

[@kayla6917]

using a spoon is the best!! we do that at the Japanese restaurant i work at too.

[@ForeverMelanie]

@@kayla6917 it's so much easier!

[@alg1316]

@@ForeverMelanie MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!

[@Destiny-uf5fv]

Also, instead of chopping the ginger just grate it with a fine grater or zester.

[@nushixox]

i'm kinda that silent lurker type who just loves to appreciate content, so i don't really know how these comment things work and if i'm doing it right... but, incase you do read all your comments, i really do love your girl talk videos more than your fashion videos. i just discovered your channel during quarantine through some of your room makeover videos and now i'm going through all your videos just to hear what you have to say and your tangents. Honestly, i think your feminist takes on sexuality, work life balance, and honestly anything are super insightful and very relevant, especially as we start to come out of this current COVID climate. please keep doing what you're amazing at!

[@inkmink8957]

I definitely agree with this! I know my favorite stuff from bestdressed is when... well, when she’s Ashley, not bestdressed. I think it’s so adorable when she talks and mentions actual life versus just clothing and makeup. It’s refreshing! And don’t worry, you’re doing the comment thing right! Even if not everyone notices your comment, it helped me relate, which is equally important, right?

[@skyraven89]

Journaling is so therapeutic, it feel like once I have my thoughts on paper I don’t have to bother thinking about them anymore

[@alexandra926]

This is so true

[@user-pj4rg5ol8w]

Same here, I've been journaling for 3 years

[@713-v8y]

I also do freewriting. It's like you just write whatever you're thinking about in a certain amount of time and you can write as much as you want. I learnt it in school but it's so therapeutic

[@bellacorreia6614]

ashley: im an adult now also ashley: scales her giant bin of starbursts with a potato

[@lisasowa1195]

Isn't that how Americans scale everything bc they don't have the metric system?

[@laila7506]

Lisa Sowa nah you’re just thinking of how the Irish measure everything

[@sawpanbera2966]

Nicevdp

[@bryanbryanbryanbryanbryan]

That's the best way to scale stuff

[@joanamoniz471]

Hhhaàaaaaàaaaaaaaaaaaaaraaaaaaaaaaaaà

[@Caroline-dt6sn]

Ashley is the kind of youtuber, KZbin was meant to be having. I wish more people were like you

[@chaotic_tired5066]

I so agree

[@pauline1389]

Gals remember that being a housewife is just harshly judged because patriarchy has made it crap in the past , but it is our mission to make it our kind of empowering experience if we choose to !

[@selinacurti1238]

Ashley: I'm 21 and a real adult Also Ashley: ThIs iS liKe 50 pOTatOeS wOrtH OF StaRBurSts

[@lechatnoir9365]

What do you think your secret little pocket was made for? Obviously to put Starbursts in it

[@Jelloteen96]

Béatrice Holmes not if they melt :(

[@sierra.lynette]

Reading the comments before watching the full video has me confused af at this comment 😂

[@lippy_jean]

Oml

[@softmongreal]

when Ashley makes talking videos i just make a fort in my bed and cocoon myself in there because i know these vids are intense, one moment you're so sad with her and then the next second she already inserted a dirty joke. it's a rollercoaster feeling with these talking videos with her, and i think we all can agree to that.

[@jeloujelou3002]

I swear I play this video everytime I need motivation to get out of a slump and clean up my room and do stuff and it always works

[@astridwaller2797]

TIP: listen to Spotify’s playlist "Lo-Fi Beats" while doing pretty much anything and you’ll feel like you’re in some cool montage in one of Ashley’s videos :)

[@alaiamoore5071]

THIS

[@hi-nj8ov]

IS

[@lj5714]

AMAZING

[@philominapalathingal2284]

Beyond words.

[@soph1097]

• Astrid • that's literally my favourite playlist. Used to listen to it while studying for exams it's so goooood

[@Sarah-sb1kh]

Ashley being excited about the snack pocket was the cutest thing I’ve seen all day

[@snowflake1925]

So a professor I once had made it a point to use most of one class to talk about realistic goal setting. Before she was 31 she had gotten her PhD, gotten married, had a kid, and bought a house - and she said she felt like she did too much too young and prove herself. She could have waited on some of those things. I know you are just out of college but also, as much as you're an adult, you're still a kid. Give yourself time to adjust. At 29 I have a lot of "how do I adult" moments and that is life! Also... I know you mentioned that you may move to NYC and honestly, I look forward to watching whatever you post but think it would be cool to see you grow through that process (also um CA bucket list before your maybe-move???)

[@excuseme1543]

I think she's half Asian and I'm fully Asian so that's why I'm saying this (but could be totally wrong). Your professor is right; I lost a lot of my "childhood" attaining these crazy social/academic standards, which didn't seem crazy at the time because of the Asian community and the other Asian-American kids being driven to do that stuff. So maybe it's some of that internalized anxiety/pressure? I agree though. I've recently started to "slow down" and it made all the difference Edit: I also live in NYC where workaholic culture is normal af. I hope she'll be okay here and think she will.

[@AC-ri2ph]

EXCUSE ME Yes, but at the sametime she has bills to pay. If her business suffers she has to get a 9-5 like the rest of us and then she’ll really be unhappy. She can slow down and relax, but if you don’t want to work a regular job you must hustle

[@ariela3230]

When you started dancing to the sirens I felt that so much.