BLACK WOMEN DON'T LOOK FEMININE WITH THEIR NATURAL HAIR? | AFRO NATURAL HAIR IS UGLY?

[@blackmagic6]

The way this woman feels is symptomatic of how a huge proportion of black people feel about themselves. In the famous "Doll Test" social experiment which has been carried out many times since the fifties, whereby children as young as kindergarten age were presented with two dolls, which were the same in every sense apart from one being white and the other black and then were asked a variety of closed questioned such as "Which doll is the bad doll? Which doll looks pretty? Which doll looks most like you?" demonstrated that children under the age of five of different ethnicities had already formed hard wired views about racial stereo types and beauty. This social experiment demonstrated that whilst Europeans had a positive image of themselves, black children had low self esteem issues which were formed at a very young age. European standards of beauty are so pervasive that they are world wide. They have affected the mentality of people world wide. The agency of European standards of beauty are very powerful. The media is possibly the biggest proponent of European Standards of beauty. However, even before the film industry got started the written and oral media in the form of fairy tales like Goldie locks, Beauty and the Beast, The Ugly Duckling etc were told amongst the European community which emphasised a certain type of beauty standard. Then came the visual media in the form of TV and Movie era to exacerbate these stereotypes. Romcoms where the female lead character had to be European and super heroes such as Batman, Spiderman etc were also European. Competitions such as Ms World where no person in history has ever won that had natural African descent hair and a dark complexion. All of these agencies and institutions have a profound effect on what it means for person of African descent to be beautiful especially when deep down they realise that they do not fit into European standards of beauty. Long story short, this is why there are serious self esteem issues in the black community. These psychological problems manifests themselves in different ways. In Africa and the West Indies there is a problem with people who bleach their skin. There is a problem with people who relax their hair, wear wigs that imitate the hair type of people of other nations. I would even argue that the use of makeup such as "blusher" is totally unnatural to deeply melanated African females. It is extremely rare to see positive reinforcement of the natural beauty on mainstream media. Black News anchors seem to be universally forbidden from repping their natural hair. It takes a very brave and confident black woman to go for a professional job interview repping the natural look. However, IMO, one of the saddest ways that people of African descent show their self hate is in the phenomenon that is really gathering pace atm and that is by actively seeking to be in interracial relationships ........ for no other reason than to birth mixed race babies who do not have typical African descent phenotypes. SMDH. The knock on effect of all of these things is that although it is not impossible but it is very difficult for parents to raise their children with positive reinforcement about natural beauty when the children from a young age yearn to look like their idols. It is customary in West African schools to ban African females from having long hair because of the distraction that their hair could potentially cause. However, by the time these females leave secondary school, they abuse their hair so much that by the time they are in their mid forties, many of them have bald spots. SMDH. As a black man, I accept your challenge of complimenting black females and letting them know that they are beautiful naturally. I love my black Kweens.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Sir! I do not know your name but I would like to address you by it. I have really enjoyed reading your comment. There is nothing that needs to be added or taken away. You said it best and have educated all of us who read it. Thank you for taking the time to write this well thought out and informative comment. Apologies for my delay in response. I read it while I was at work and did not have the time to respond appropriately but thank you. I hope the black women you compliment will accept with grace and it will make someone’s day. I hope to see you again in the comment section ❤

[@blackmagic6]

​@@ComeMekWiTalk: Thank you so much for your kind words. I loved the way you addressed the issues raised in the video. I agree with the points that you made and since you made them I wanted to draw the connection to how we as a people got into the position of being a traumatised. It's my firm belief that our trauma and poor self image started in slavery and colonisation. The impact of these atrocities are still reverberating in our community today. It was during this time that many of our ancestors were introduced to Jesus as being European looking and angels ..... who were also white and pure. Jesus represented all that was good and holy. Simultaneously we were introduced to the devil and all that was dark and evil. However, if the stories from the bible are to be taken on face value, we now know that it would have been impossible for Jesus to have been European looking. According to the scriptures Jesus lived between North East Africa and the Middle East and therefore it is logical that he would have had melanin in his complexion. However, Europeans took the bible and superimposed the popular European image Jesus that we know today. It is my opinion that the Europeans knew exactly what they were doing when they recreated and claimed the image of Jesus. On the one hand it gave them a sense of dominion over people of colour. On the other hand it would have been illogical for them as a people to pray and worship a God that didn't look like them. As a group, black people are the only people on the planet who pray to a god that doesn't look like ourselves. Today, in many West African countries, there are huge statues of white Jesus. If you go to African christian's homes, you will be inundated with images of white Jesus. A couple of years ago, a European actor went to Kenya and was asked to dress up and pose like the biblical Jesus. This guy was literally mobbed by the Africans there who thought he was the real thing. SMDH. The question is, how can people with that kind of mindset not only love themselves BUT protect themselves from unscrupulous Europeans who are out to take advantage of black people's insecurities? The reason why I go by the name "black magic" isn't because I believe in the occult. I do not. It's because I believe in black people and I believe that we are magical beautiful people. It is also to reclaim the word "black" and "magic" which in the English language have very negative connotations. The English language is full of words that have negative connotations that make black people feel negative about the colour black. E.g blackmail, blacklisting, blackhead, blackballing etc. I say all of this because when we see our people demonstrating behaviours of self hate, it is my belief that they have been traumatised through many agencies. i.e. religion, media, language etc. I stumbled across your channel last week and immediately subscribed because I you deal with issues that affect the black community. I look forward to watching more of your content. Keep it up sista.

[@abenimamafrimaroon95]

So true, Black magic. I raised the Doll experiment with Maxine for another vlog, definitely relevant here. We definitely need more conversations on this within our communities. Because it is still very relevant today, how we see ourselves. Bleaching in particular African and Caribbean communities also ties into these conversations. I noted your observations around colorism when it comes to the acceptable face of relationships, with significantly high numbers of Black males favouring outside of their own. And thank God Traore in Bakina Faso is bucking the Trend when it comes to young girls embracing and growing their hair. We need more revolutionary like him (and I am using it loosely) the overhaul the clearly entrenched, passed down colonial/Neo colonial strongholds that that have on our people’s, from every aspect of our lives. Particularly on the African Continent, in the Caribbean, but also in our own homes and specific communities. It’s a very big subject really. But we have to start with ourselves🙏🏾

[@samwedderburn5495]

Please stop saying we , its you and it's not just hair you are worried about, it's something else.

[@ZMS777]

Amen

[@dee1616]

Self hate is REAL😢

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

And very sad

[@marsallefrancisco4851]

Facts! Self hate is the single one thing that is holding Black people back.This woman's views are shared by 98% of the Black population on a sub conscience level.

[@claudettemcintosh9271]

I know I look feminine with my natural hair, no one would mistake me for a man. I adore my self, I do not have low self esteem. I accept that because I am black and not mixed with any other race, my hair may not grow to the length as some other race. I do not thrive off abuse and trauma. I am wondering if this lady had some trauma, Please lady, try to love yourself as a beautiful black person. Black women these days wear their hair short which looks so beautiful. I love my hair!

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

I am almost certain that she has had some trauma and rejection that she has not managed to work through but I hope she finds the love she needs to change the way she sees herself. I bet you are beautiful and feminine Claudette with equally beautiful hair. I love the positive vibes coming from you. That lady could do with a friend like you ❤️

[@cg6705]

Looking feminine by ‘who’s’ standards ? And that’s the problem the Eurocentric Mindset. With all due respect and in my opinion she doesn’t look better with wigs. Black hair ‘does’ grow and that’s the other problem some BW (and she’s probably one of them) don’t know ‘how’ to look after their hair. She really does need to speak for herself , less of the ‘we’ please, many, many BW embrace their natural hair and feel feminine as they are.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

She really needs some positive reinforcement

[@rrrj7816]

Too many men have called her ugly and probably women too! She’s been damaged!

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

100%

[@anitaburton5989]

She has been Traumatized and her view of Black women is Limited...Pray for her to find Love of Self.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

True

[@BlUESKIES1178]

Very deeply… she hates herself

[@sades_travels1749]

So this lady is beyond crazy, she needs mental help. As a black woman, I don't think I'm a unicorn. Hair is hair. It's all about understanding your hair. I have had my natural hair been to waist length multiple times. Every time I cut my hair it grows right back. I have never worn a wig in my life and I have been natural with a relaxer for 20 years. Feminity has nothing to do with the texture of your hair, just listening to her I hear zero feminity sorry.. I just installed microlocs because my loose hair took too much time to deal with. But this case comes down to self-acceptance.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

100% in agreement with you

[@charnettegriffin2553]

Why do women touch their weaves or wigs so much 😕 it's crazy I don't agree with her

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

I wonder if her constant touching of her hair was due to nerves. It’s sad that’s how she feels.

[@EmmaGraceHeffernan]

There is a girl on KZbin that looks natural, and she is absolutely stunning. She is such a pure soul. Angella Summer, i think her name is. She is just lovely.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Yes she is stunning. There are many beautiful natural women out there

[@ogi197]

I will not be complimenting any of my black sistas... with wigs, BBLS, Harpy Nails, bat wings etc etc.., ..I love yall as you are, naturally natural . ...Now, if you happen to lose your hair due to a health issue... then maybe..otherwise hell no.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

😊I get you

[@marvlynburke5405]

What is bat wings

[@ogi197]

@marvlynburke5405 those fake eye lashes...

[@MumaAfreeka]

From listening to her I hear pain, she has been bullied and lacks confidence and self esteem. She has no self awareness. What gives her the right to include (we) the masses. How annoying she keeps sweeping that hair away from her eyes.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Yes. She is really hurting and has no self love.. even with the wig she said she prefers. I don’t know if her messing with the wig is nervousness or habit

[@blockbuster5511]

That part! the sweeping of the hair. She wishes she was another race. So sad!

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

@@blockbuster5511 I really think she does wish she was another race

[@ericawatson3074]

This lady doesn't have any confidence in herself. I have been going with my natural hair for about 6 years now and no going back I do wear the odd extension every so often. And you are right black hair doesn't like messing around with. Both my friends and I come to that conclusion. Because two of my friends got their hair lock and I saw one last week I couldn't believe it was her real hair do long. And she has been trying to grow it for years.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

No she doesn’t have any confidence or self love and it’s very sad. I wonder when this all started for her. Yes our hair definitely doesn’t like being messed with all the time. If I leave my hair it grows out of control so when it gets to a certain length I cut is as it is hard to mange

[@franny5295]

I hated my hair until I stopped trying to make it be something it wasn't and embraced what my hair is designed to do. I put my hair in locs and for the first time, probably within the last 6 months and I'm 42 years old, what I saw in my mirror was absolutely gorgeous. I was messing around posing and I pulled my hair around my head playing with it, and oh, my goodness, I am beautiful. Me. All by myself, with nothing that's not naturally occurring attached to me. Don't get me wrong, sometimes, I look a hot mess but I clean up good. I bet you do to if you stop trying to force yourself to be a something you're not. Who you are is enough, you don't have to hide behind or cover you with other things to make you good enough. That's a lie they make a lot of money selling us. Embrace you. Embrace what your body's is designed for. We are made to walk in the light. Our hair is resistant to pests, we don't get infested. This is a good thing. Let the water stop running and power go out for a few months, who's scalp will be healthy? Let people get stuck in crowded living conditions, who won't have lice eating them alive at least on their heads? We have hair, not fur. And I'm not knocking anybody else, I'm just saying we have hair, not fur. There's nothing less than about our hair.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Thank you!

[@suzestlouis6915]

I feel sorry for this sister. 😞

[@melissasmith9756]

She’s miserable with herself

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Me too

[@Truefudge]

Sending love and light to her...she needs it.....I ❤my locs.......

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

She does

[@SophiasOasis]

My hair is natural & thick! Big up from Switzerland🧑🏾‍🍳🇯🇲

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Big up uself

[@abenimamafrimaroon95]

Wow!!! She has issues. It’s on a individual basis, in relation to hair growth. She doesn’t love herself to wear her hair naturally, probably programmed to feel, bad about her own identity. She should love who she is, not for any man. To think she only way she looks good is by wearing, a wig, is a sad situation to hear and see. It seems to me, she has some shame, internalised hatred, I suspect, she said it! So so sad that she hasn’t analysed it, to change her mindset and maybe she needs some therapy. My hair grows! And it’s natural, and so is my daughter’s. She has becomes accustomed to feeling/thinking negatively about herself and black people in general. We have definitely been encouraged to not have our own hair own, value, embrace and appreciate it. But I recognised that, and my daughter knows how to love herself, naturally, it starts with “self”. However, nutrition,health and how we treat our bodies, age etc, can also be contributory factors as well, to be considered. But long or short, she should definitely embrace who she is. So sad. I love my blackness, including my hair. She needs therapy, given she has recognised it. My mum used to wear wigs, again, she was brainwashed into thinking that it was the only way to feel accepted. However when I began to accept myself, got rid of wigs, weaves etc, she went on her own journey without. If she ever wanted to have it long as a extra mature woman, she might braid it or twist in natural styles. It was beautiful to see her growth🙏🏾

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

How she feels makes me so sad. Thanks for sharing your experience. Really wish I could speak with that lady although I suspect nothing I could tell her would make her change her perspective on her hair or self. So sad

[@abenimamafrimaroon95]

@@ComeMekWiTalk Maxine, you are probably right. There is a lot undoing required with this lady. Some would say she is too far gone. However, this will be dependent on her motivation, whether or not she wants to change. And we all have a responsibility towards our children/grandchildren/family and close friends to share our experiences and appreciate our natural hair and identities, so it is not passed down to the next generation. White, European features, is not the only “standard of beauty”, and we need to challenge this when we see/hear this, as this was enforced, if we go back in time, to make us feel bad about ourselves, and to cover our hair, including the wigs, and straightening of our hair, to be more “acceptable”, to be it is part of their cultural norms in many western societies, means to present in a particular way. In some ways, it is linked to racism/colourism. Thankfully, these outdated ways of thinking, and being is changing in some circles. But it is still an ongoing process to be aware of, and to address it whenever it shows it. Some people, are just blind to what is staring them into the face. We would do better to learn and research about, not only European history, the “accepted history” but to learn about our own histories p, to equip us with these knowledge, understanding and address/review where necessary. Just like in some African cultures, they cut the girls hair short, especially when they start formal schooling. Even this is starting to change. But that’s stories for another day.

[@Tamekabags45]

Some man like natural and some of them like weave, but most of them like natural hair

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

It shouldn’t matter what men like either. It is not their scalp it’s growing from. It is not their head going through trauma when we decide to perm, weave or whatever else. Just be happy with what we have and do what works for us

[@arichards2166]

I think wigs are ugly. I think they damage black women’s hair I have sister Locks and I’m happy and proud. I have not perm my hair in 25 years. I love my natural hair. That’s just me confident in myself. I’m not a beautiful queen, but I’m not ugly so to each his own.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

We are all beautiful in our own right. I think some wigs are nice and suit some people

[@blockbuster5511]

I bet you are a beautiful queen.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

@@blockbuster5511we are all beautiful queens

[@blockbuster5511]

@@ComeMekWiTalk Yes we are!

[@BlUESKIES1178]

You are beautiful my queen.. never think you’re not… much love ❤️

[@SS-bl2in]

My hair has been natural over 10 years. I receive compliments all the time. I take care of it and make sure its moisturised. Eat well and be healthy and hair and skin will look amazing 👏🏽 ❤❤ Eat well. Drink water. Self care. Maintainability is key. Hair care includes styling, moisture and patience....just like any other hair type or race. Take care of your hair, people. Natural hair is the most unique on this earth. God made us with beauty and many in awe of black people. Hair is powerful ✨ 🎖🎖🎖🏆🏆🏆🏆👑👑👑👑👑💚

[@Tamekabags45]

Something is serious wrong with this lady. She don’t love herself at all.

[@jeffcee9457]

We love you in your natural state.It's so embarrassing for me when me and my girl goes out and she put on all those fake ornaments so we go no where together

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Thanks hon ❤️ Have you had this discussion with her? Maybe she feels better about herself with all the additional stuff🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Seancarde]

Black people hair grow. Where she come from? She down herself. I shaved my head 3 times and I love myself. She needs to be around people who lift her up. Please say that about you not me or us. You are brown and beautiful lady

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Carol she sounds so broken and defeated. It’s so sad ❤️

[@geraldos9094]

Being a man that thinks linear, I have no problem with what she said. She has recognized her position in life, realizing her limitations of how she looks and what makes her feel comfortable. You can say she has a true knowledge of self and not trying to step outside of her lane. Where we may differ is on the definition of the standards of femininity and the psychological effects when you can’t look in the mirror and be comfortable with what you see, it would make it difficult to be in a relationship with a person like that.

[@happy2bnappy575]

I had 2 sets of loc’s 2:33 that grew down my back. Now I have a TWA. The texture is slightly curly. I love my short, natural hair. I never liked wigs or synthetic hair. The few times I’ve tried it, it broke my skin out.

[@876beauty10]

Wow! It's her opinion. She doesn't speak for everyone!!. However am very sure almost certain there may be a % of persons who believe her.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

That’s true but her whole story is so sad

[@newtings7063]

Clearly she does not like herself.Trauma that is deep rooted.Damage that was done a long time ago.Its not Just on her this belief system was engrained and embedded our own folks .Bingo.This is what she will teach her daughters.The cycle contines.Love yourself and exude confidence from within

[@mojob-s]

I feel sad. Natural hair is fantastic. I love my hair. I have had my out for the last year. I have choices. Some of us needs to stop pleasing others and love ourselves. Not everyone is brave. In my previous drive, I encourage all the black ladies to go natural. I am a rebel who adores and love myself and by them seeing me in my naturalness they were encouraged. This is sad that in these times we still self disstruction.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

It’s actually very sad

[@blockbuster5511]

Lady please stop fidgeting with that wig. Pretending that it is your hair. Very sorry that your hair doesn't grow, mine does! I am no unicorn, but black, 64 and a head full of natural hair, shoulder length . I am not looking for more inches, I am good. I do cut my hair twice a year. And yeah, last time I checked I was feminine. This year I will be married 41 years.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Thank you. Let’s send some love and positivity her way

[@nasirasheartofgold]

This was sad! I believe she probably has been around some people who have made her feel less than.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

I agree with you

[@Tamekabags45]

Yes, she need to stop saying we because we ain’t you your head don’t grow fast. Our hair grow fast sorry I don’t understand people when they say we know say you’re hair just can’t grow don’t put we in it 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

lol right

[@jamescarter8662]

You look better than with the Captain Picard hairline resulting from the weaves and wigs damaging your hair

[@mazcontrol3589]

go wid what you love, whats the problem with you all. love what yuh been blessed wid. some of us have a serious self esteem problem. oh stop it, stop it now.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Did I miss something? What are you responding to?

[@TanikaNakeyaLewis]

This Is the Problem About "Natural Hair": "Natural Hair" Is Hair, and of every Specific Individual, As Hair Grows from any Specific Individual's Scalp: "Natural Hair" Evolves By Density, Volume and Color, When Variations of DNA Exists of any Specific Individuals: the Biggest Problem Is Not Always Socio-Economics, By Factors Such As Money and Hair Tools, Etc.: the Biggest Problem Is Socio-Economics, Inclusive of the Amount of Hair In a Hair Tie, Where the Hair Bun Should Position, and any Abuse, that Other-Wise Veils Personal Perceptions of Aesthetics [Beauty Is In the Eyes of the Beholder = Self-Love Includes Tolerance of "Loathers", But, Tolerance of "Loathers" Includes Public Abuse, and Abuse Changes Personal Perceptions of Self, Inclusive As Aesthetic/Beautiful]: Abusers Are Self-Accomplished and Self-Achievers ["They"/They're Successful]. 😶. Respectively. Tanika Nakeya Lewis, 6127

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Thanks Tanika. I appreciate this

[@karlaschmid8757]

Black women’s hair grows at the same rate as other races.

[@myafreeton9431]

She's speaking what most blk ppl subconsciously think...Basically, she's saying the quiet part out loud. Blk (women's) hair takes way more effort (& time) to grow (long) than any other race's hair. I think she's also speaking mainly of 4c hair; without a lot of product & manipulation, time, & effort it's likely not going to look "feminine"... Blk women are the only women who spend hours, almost an entire day, in fact sometimes several days, to get our hair done... ... ...

[@Gary-vl7lp]

England looks well BORING and drab...all those houses and you don't see no one..no Vibe.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

It is actually boring and drab on most days. The time of the morning I’m that video was Sunday at 7am. No one would be out at that time

[@emanualcarr7408]

That's her story to tell. She does not speak for all, so why hold her to a higher standard? Black people care too much what the next person thinks of them.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

There is nothing wrong with wanting her to change the way she sees herself. She is beautiful. She just doesn’t know it

[@ZMS777]

Please stop comparing yourself to other races and embrace YOU.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Solid advice

[@SS-bl2in]

Black hair does grow. Stop saying untrue statements. Do the research. Please. Natural hair is beautiful and amazing and can flourishes when taken care . Black women look better with their natural hair and expose the beauty of the face. We as a people, are beautiful and needs to be embraced as much as possible. Black is beautiful..😍 ❤❤💯👑👑👑👑👸🏾🤴🏾💖

[@josephineajayi1403]

why does one person's problem got to be all our problem

[@blackmagic6]

The way this woman feels is symptomatic of how a huge proportion of black people feel about themselves. In the famous "Doll Test" social experiment which has been carried out many times since the fifties, whereby children as young as kindergarten age were presented with two dolls, which were the same in every sense apart from one being white and the other black and then were asked a variety of closed questioned such as "Which doll is the bad doll? Which doll looks pretty? Which doll looks most like you?" demonstrated that children under the age of five of different ethnicities had already formed hard wired views about racial stereo types and beauty. This social experiment demonstrated that whilst Europeans had a positive image of themselves, black children had low self esteem issues which were formed at a very young age. European standards of beauty are so pervasive that they are world wide. They have affected the mentality of people world wide. The agency of European standards of beauty are very powerful. The media is possibly the biggest proponent of European Standards of beauty. However, even before the film industry got started the written and oral media in the form of fairy tales like Goldie locks, Beauty and the Beast, The Ugly Duckling etc were told amongst the European community which emphasised a certain type of beauty standard. Then came the visual media in the form of TV and Movie era to exacerbate these stereotypes. Romcoms where the female lead character had to be European and super heroes such as Batman, Spiderman etc were also European. Competitions such as Ms World where no person in history has ever won that had natural African descent hair and a dark complexion. All of these agencies and institutions have a profound effect on what it means for person of African descent to be beautiful especially when deep down they realise that they do not fit into European standards of beauty. Long story short, this is why there are serious self esteem issues in the black community. These psychological problems manifests themselves in different ways. In Africa and the West Indies there is a problem with people who bleach their skin. There is a problem with people who relax their hair, wear wigs that imitate the hair type of people of other nations. I would even argue that the use of makeup such as "blusher" is totally unnatural to deeply melanated African females. It is extremely rare to see positive reinforcement of the natural beauty on mainstream media. Black News anchors seem to be universally forbidden from repping their natural hair. It takes a very brave and confident black woman to go for a professional job interview repping the natural look. However, IMO, one of the saddest ways that people of African descent show their self hate is in the phenomenon that is really gathering pace atm and that is by actively seeking to be in interracial relationships ........ for no other reason than to birth mixed race babies who do not have typical African descent phenotypes. SMDH. The knock on effect of all of these things is that although it is not impossible but it is very difficult for parents to raise their children with positive reinforcement about natural beauty when the children from a young age yearn to look like their idols. It is customary in West African schools to ban African females from having long hair because of the distraction that their hair could potentially cause. However, by the time these females leave secondary school, they abuse their hair so much that by the time they are in their mid forties, many of them have bald spots. SMDH.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Who said it has to be?

[@rrrj7816]

STOP SAYING WE MA’AM! Everyone doesn’t feel this way! STOP THE WE AND US NONSENSE!

[@BlUESKIES1178]

Speak for yourself about the self hate…her hate of self is cellular. I’m a man 😢, I love natural,low fro and ball.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Big up uself Roger

[@BlUESKIES1178]

@@ComeMekWiTalk Big up yah self my sis… one love Caribbean and Africa.. NYC/Barjan🇧🇧 represented.. just discover your channel and love it.

[@wendywatkins7366]

Where is video filmed looks like Birmingham ?

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Yes it is Birmingham. I love driving around

[@wendywatkins7366]

@@ComeMekWiTalk I Can hear a slight Brummie twang to your accent ❤️

[@melodymontague9924]

I tolataly understand where she coming from if you bless to have a bit of length to your hair then you have the chance of doing different style. You got very nice hair Maxine and the length to do any style with it. But not all women a beautiful with there natural hair.

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Thanks so much. The more I move around the more I realise that people see my hair as something special. I have women and men stopping me all the time asking me what I do to make my hair so healthy and long but the truth is I don’t do anything. It actually grows really quickly but I keep it at a certain length where I find it manageable. I just had a cut on Sunday. I do mainly protective styles. I really didn’t realise people feel this way about hair. I love this platform as I am learning a lot everyday. Thank you all so much

[@ryencollins3417]

...says not one single brotha that I know. you must be referring to the ones looking for becky.. stop it 😆

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Sounds like she has obviously met a brotha who imparted that on her. Feel free to share your views. I would love to hear it. I will get a phone for conversations like this so people like you could call and elaborate if you want to

[@angelapalmer3542]

After 3 minutes of listening to her, I've had enough.. I'm not wasting anymore time. Let me move on to the next video

[@CGstudy1]

You lasted an entire 3 minutes? I had to stop the video at 10 seconds. It was too much for me to listen to. She doesn't love herself yet. That's very hard to listen to and she thinks it has something to do with hair. 😢

[@kevinmcintosh5036]

I THINK SHE IS TELLING THE TRUTH

[@ComeMekWiTalk]

Tell me more about that. What truth is she telling?

[@myafreeton9431]

Glad to see this comment. Some1 honest on here. Like I said in the comment I just posted, most blk ppl (particularly those with 4c hair) subconsciously think everything that woman just said. That's why we love to talk about who have "good hair" & all dem tings deh!!!