Boyfriends Sister-In-Law Gave Him A Hand Crafted Plushie As A Gift But No One Else r/Relationships

[@nationalsocialism3504]

S1- OP posted her insanity & promptly ignored everyone calling her insane... then proceeds to quadruple down on the insanity until the relationship is ruined.

[@Swnsasy]

Right?? That is the dumbest shit I've ever heard in my life.. The damn husband was SOO EXCITED TOO that his wife made this for his brother!! She could care less about reading, taking a moment and thinking... It's so weird that she's intimidated that she's only been with him for 6mths and everyone else 5 years or more.. That girl is off her rocker... Her mother really screwed her up and gave her a warped sense of reality...

[@Dan_Hazard]

​@@Swnsasybut don't you know that all his sister in laws can possibly get divorced and then proceed to sleep with him since they've known him longer? 🤣🤣🤣 Yeah if she was as brilliant as she was insecure she'd solve all the world's problems 😅

[@Swnsasy]

@@Dan_Hazard ROFLOL you are so silly but absolutely awesome! 🤣🤗

[@JK-sh8rc]

OP needs to stop taking advice from her mother & sister. And get some counseling to figure out why she's so insecure and jealous. She sounds really immature and CRAZY!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@JK-sh8rc My thoughts exactly! The longer she stays with them, the crazier she's going to get. She might very well die alone if she doesn't learn from this NOW!

[@candicewaits9271]

OP needs to go to therapy. TBH this story annoyed the hell out of me. She needs to relax.

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

Yes! She was so annoying. I can see why SIL and BF got tired of her so quickly. Since she sees there's a problem, though, I hope she deals with it.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

I knew someone who was this level of insecure-listening to her talk about all the giant ass red flags she was flying in her relationship was tiring. Examples include: snooping her bf’s phone, forbidding him from going to a college friend group reunion because someone in the group happened to be a girl, dragging on his female coworkers and throwing an emotional fit anytime his office had a happy hour. Funny enough, she met a guy who treated her the exact same way, telling her to cut out some very old best friends because one was a guy and another was a lesbian, lmao, like a month into them dating. People like that are a mess and need to work on themselves.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: She's that insecure that ANY woman is a threat to her. She blew up her relationship over a plushie. He dodged a Final destination death. Mom and sister are just as bitter. Hope they can keep OP happy going forward. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♀️🤦

[@GiordanDiodato]

with how many stories of SOs cheating with in-laws, I'm not surprised she's sus, I'd be sus too, though I wouldn't have taken it that far.

[@Russman67]

@@GiordanDiodato You watch. You don't torch it gasoline on the spot.

[@Splatoon_Kirby]

@@GiordanDiodato And yet there are so so so so many more stories of In laws not getting together at all.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

@@GiordanDiodatoIf she gave the plushie to him privately and in secret from her husband, then yeah, maybe that would be a bit of a yellow flag. But in front of her husband who was just as excited and happy about the boyfriend getting it? Nah.

[@Swnsasy]

Right?? That is the dumbest shit I've ever heard in my life.. The damn husband was SOO EXCITED TOO that his wife made this for his brother!! She could care less about reading, taking a moment and thinking... It's so weird that she's intimidated that she's only been with him for 6mths and everyone else 5 years or more.. That girl is off her rocker... Her mother really screwed her up and gave her a warped sense of reality...

[@shadewolfe1231]

Story 1-Just screams insecurity. Comparing the length of her 6 month relationship to the other members of bfs family? What?

[@eniolaadeoye6144]

She's insane

[@KCohere33]

She is being super ridiculous. She is that jealous after only six months in? Over a plushie? I might expect that of a teenager but she is 26.

[@pikachu7572]

She may be insecure but I still think it's strange that he went to the sil with all this. It's not like she confronted or attacked the sil. Why not just have the conversation with her yourself and break up with her? It was already the last straw anyway ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Just very odd considering how she only brought up her insecurity only to him If I felt the same thing as op I would have let the plushie thing go but I would definitely make a note of it in my head. Yes, the sil is family but we know people have emotional affairs with family all the time

[@KCohere33]

@@pikachu7572I didn’t find it odd. The SIL is very much a part of this mess. Maybe he thought SIL would talk some sense into her but she is too far gone.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

@@KCohere33 Yeah, it is entirely plausible that she asked him "how are you?" And since she is his family and has emotional maturity she decided to tell her and she offered to talk to her and try and help.

[@angelaa7388]

I feel bad for OP because her mom and sister obviously feed into her insecurities, and are probably the reason OP thinks this way in the first place.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Yeah she's going to need some serious therapy.

[@IReadTooMuchCrap]

I also feel bad for her too. I hope she’s able to grow and use this breakup as valuable experience.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Yeah as a person with a paranoid, low self-esteem mother I could see EXACTLY what was going on here. It took a lot for me to learn how to be in a relationship but I finally succeeded. SIL at least understands what’s going on and tried to talk sense into her. Too little, too late unfortunately.

[@pippo17173]

The perfect example of what happens when your family screwed your life. Hope she realizes this and cut them off.

[@DomSte128]

No wonder why OP didn't mention her father in that story. That guy probably left her mother because she's crazy and toxic

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

First story: OP's mom and sister are the WORST!!! I can't imagine growing up with that level of possessiveness and insecurity. No wonder she's screwed up. OP's poor dad.

[@Swnsasy]

Right?? That is the dumbest shit I've ever heard in my life.. The damn husband was SOO EXCITED TOO that his wife made this for his brother!! She could care less about reading, taking a moment and thinking... It's so weird that she's intimidated that she's only been with him for 6mths and everyone else 5 years or more.. That girl is off her rocker... Her mother really screwed her up and gave her a warped sense of reality... She didn't even take heed of what ALL the comments told her and then what the SIL said to her before leaving her after the coffee and just batshit crazy!!

[@heatheraucoin5832]

I laughed when OP said, “Why does she get to be there?” Me- BECAUSE SHE LIVES THERE, dummy The SIL was very nice and considerate and I liked that she didn’t keep the conversation to just them. Her loyalty is to her BIL not someone who can be easily broken up with from knowing each other for a short time. She (SIL) gave her so many chances to be understanding but when OP mentioned divorce, that’s when she knew, she’s too insecure to understand reasoning. If it’s the plushie, next is her counting down the seconds from them separating from a hug. And future interaction with family would be uncomfortable, so it’s best they part ways.

[@jennyanswer42]

That bugged me so much too. My husband has so many friends that he can't hang out with without spouses interrupting wherever they are. It seems like (my own projection from personal experiences) that if the brothers hung out at OP and BF's house she'd be inserting herself in what they were trying to do. While if they're at Bro-in-law's house SIL will leave them alone. And it seems like BF knows it.

[@chaudx]

Story 1: A perfect exemple of an "echo chamber", OP is practically having a meltdown and going bananas with her own insecurities and toxic behaviours and what she does? Yeah that's right she gets validation and advice fromher toxic crazy family...

[@shainasawyer4649]

Ooof! Felt bad for SIL in the first story. She extended an olive branch and OP kept doubling down on her non-existent scenario. For real, kudos to the SIL once OP mentioned her boyfriend spending time with the brother but SIL would be there, I would of snapped. Like , “Well, yeah! I live there! Of course there would be a good chance that when my BIL shows up to hang out with his brother, I would be in the house as well. Are you for real?!”

[@mimikiryuu]

Yeah...not their finest moment. That wasn't an olive branch, it was a talking to. An olive branch would have been inviting her over while the boys had their fun so she could have a glimpse at what really goes on during the visits. She basically had her insecurities staring her in the face, telling her not to be insecure. But I do think OP needs therapy. Lots of it. You can't expect people to want to deal with those insecurities.

[@randomusername3873]

Damn, is refreshing to see a partner that sees the insanity and dump the crazy person

[@novawilde2096]

Op in story one isn't ready for an adult relationship. They need to leave adult relationships to adults.

[@shadowkissed2370]

it seems her family is NOT helping the matter either.

[@novawilde2096]

@@shadowkissed2370 yeah that's true. The mother is creating future therapy bills for there kid from there own insecurity.

[@hannahbanana0466]

I can feel some sympathy for OP in the first story tho. Her moms insecurity was probably pushed onto OP her whole life, and then feeds off more of her insecurity for the drama and adds fuel to the fire. Its sad.

[@AndyyWithAY]

She intended to make all the brothers plushies, but ran out of time 😒 Basically this is OP's insecurities making her completely and totally irrational. SIL was way nicer than OP deserved and way nicer than I would have been. I would've had to drag her for filth. She's completely out of control. A lot of people view their BIL/SIL the same as a sister or brother. There's nothing vulgar or uncouth BF needs to dump her. He did, yes!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@cyndib511]

Exactly. My baby sis was 9 when I married. My husband was so excited to have a little sister (he's the baby in his family). He has always kind of spoiled her as his little sister, to this day (she now has adult children). Does that mean he has ever slighted myself or our child? Absolutely not, she will always be his little sister that he dotes on. There has never been any jealousy over this.

[@GiordanDiodato]

Maybe it's me reading too many stories of SOs cheating on in-laws before, but I'd be a bit sus as well. but not to her insanity.

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

​@@GiordanDiodato Then you may want to lay off the Reddit stories for a bit. MOST people don't cheat with their in-laws. When all you do is hear from a tiny percentage of the population from a source that tends to attract those types of relationships/stories, it's easy to believe it's way more common than it actually is. Eg, if all you did was visit White Supremacist websites and forums, it'd be easy to believe everyone is like that.

[@sonialinsey8083]

@GiordanDiodato Touch grass it’s a plushie, not a pic of her naked.

[@GiordanDiodato]

@@sonialinsey8083 sure it's a plushie now, but what if it's a call to "hang out" next time?

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Story 2. He picked up the poop, for goodness sakes. If you pick up the dog or move the dog that is how you are going to get dog shit everywhere. Edit: I'm an apologetic person, but an apology was NOT warranted here because of the attitude given. That owner was rude af and you should not apologise to people who don't make an effort to approach you like a complex person.

[@Schwiegermutter]

We don't live in 1550. There is no need for shitstains where we walk. Yta for having a dog in a big city.

[@dtester]

I feel nobody is really wrong on this one. The owner was frustrated but could have been nicer. The OP is responsible for the dog so it is on him whether he likes it or not.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

Yeah, I was expecting that he didn't pick it up or some shit. That business owner is nuts.

[@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603]

​@@dtesterowner is in the wrong for yelling at a random, shame on them.

[@dtester]

@@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603 But it wasn't at random. His dog did poop.

[@reasonpeason847]

Story 1: “I just feel like a woman doesn’t make such a personal gift for a guy unless they see them as something more” Gosh OP, perhaps she does see him as more than a friend like, idk, A BROTHER?

[@zorinb3403]

IN-LAW???

[@robertx8020]

@@zorinb3403 Is that not possible?

[@zorinb3403]

@@robertx8020 sorry... I don't understand what you're asking

[@paigehansen8944]

@@zorinb3403unnecessary distinction in this case. A brother is a brother, blood or no, in many families.

[@robertx8020]

@@zorinb3403 It sounded like you didn;t believe it was innocent because it was not her brother but a BIL!

[@TheRaven_200]

Story 1: Jeez, OP reminds me of an ex of one of my best friends. Flexing those insecurities and toxicity like that is going to drive your significant other away. (And it did in this case.) I wish OP the best of luck going forward. Because based on their behavior in this story, they're gonna need it.

[@InevitableSecrets]

Story 1: OP is insecure. How old are the BF and SIL, how long have they known each other? In many families a BIL or SIL can feel very much like an actual sibling. Especially if they have been around since teen years or even before. I am a crafter and I make things for people who I think will really like it. There isn’t anything deeper than that.

[@terramarini6880]

I too am a crafter, sometimes I will see an amigurumi pattern that immediately makes me think of a particular person and I want to try the pattern... lucky for that person. Next time it might be you, or the crochet muse leaves me and I'm playing with water colors next. Just because I crochet a likeness of the tooth decay bacteria for my dentist doesn't mean I want to knock boots with him, I just appreciated my good dental health. Lol, poor thing is in for a rough ride till she shakes off the barnacles of her mom and sis.

[@hollyberry0602]

I'm not a great crafter but I love making little trinkets and such. When I give a project to a friend it's just that, I like the excitement of giving a surprise and seeing them open some of my custom work! SIL seems lovely in this story, she just wanted to give her BIL a surprise gift, I totally see where she's coming from. It seems to me that OP was almost raised to be insecure about her partner's other female friends, which is a real shame.

[@akemiflameborg]

I feel sorry for OP in the 1st story. It seems to me like she was raised by her toxic mother to be equally toxic and insecure. I hope she learns from this and gets help she clearly needs.

[@pippo17173]

Hearing no dad in the picture should tell you how screwed op is with this women.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

OP really needs to learn how real relationships should be. To believe that married-for-10-years people will just divorce to marry OP's BF. Or the other BIL who wasn't married. "they could just break up and take OP's bf next day." Yikes. If there's no trust in a relationship or the people around that person, being in a relationship makes no sense. SIL was right. She's not ready for a serious commitment.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@pippo17173 While I won't speak against facts about having no father is going to hurt a child's chances, I will say this, I don't think the lack of a father figure is the ONLY reason why OP isn't right in the head. And I'm pretty sure it's not the main reason either. That goes to having a toxic mother who is clearly good at brainwashing her children.

[@subicsky2844]

Story 1 - This first OP is so insecure, jealous, and controlling! I would nope out of there too, and I’m glad the bf did bc that was a sinking ship from the start. The SIL gave her some amazing advice. I hope OP takes it to heart and really reflects on it.

[@ondank]

Story 1 : You could hear the point in the update that the SIL realised there is no real point continuing this conversation because OP isn't gonna be causing drama in her life for much longer. SIL sounds classy AF quite frankly. I am really glad though that OP does face up to the fact that this is on her. I actually think alot of women get really let down in these kinds of situations. If men do rubbish things in a relationship, they get told to work on themselves. Alot of women effectively get told "well if it didn't work out he wasn't the one" ... even when they are toxic AF. So its a good thing the SIL gave her a dose of reality and that she is choosing to hear it.

[@chamab.6800]

Story 1: She’s lucky that SIL is so kind. And she’s right, OP ain’t ready for no kind of intimate relationship. I feel bad that she was raised in insecurity and jealousy but it’s on her to recognize what it is and work to fix it.

[@Its2l84Lalu]

Story 1. I give my brother and sister in laws more thoughtful gifts than my husband (though they’re technically addressed from both of us). They’re all kids, so it’s easier for me, but still. I’m just the gift giver of the couple, it’s not weird. When I married him, I happily accepted all of his 7 (half and step) siblings as my own.

[@beccaf262]

Only on reddit could a dog taking a shit get treated like the moral quandary of the century the whole post is so unserious I was laughing the whole way through especially at Mark getting his kicks having gotten the “shit happens” out before the comments could 😂

[@ZoeAlleyne]

My partner's best friends wife made him (my partner) a plushy of a League Of Legend character, and on another occasion, a wooden box that had his name in Gallifreyan. She didn't make other people gifts on these occasions because making gifts is kind of a big project. But I wasn't jealous, other than I didn't have a box with my name in a fictional alien language on it. Eventually, she made me a gift, too. Also, some people are more fun to make gifts for if they really geek out over it.

[@ndawn90]

^THIS!!! Some people's reactions to the gift makes creating and giving the gift more fun!

[@Ivy94F]

A LOL character in plushie form?? Lol. That sounds so cute.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

@@Ivy94F haha, it was one of those...what are they called? Poro? Something like that. Like a fluffy white creature.

[@Ivy94F]

@@ZoeAlleyne AAAAAH!!! Lol! I just looked it up!! That little white tazmanian devil makes a great plushie!! 😂😂

[@steph0711]

Story 1: I'm glad that she at least now knows how messed up her mom made her and her sister and is planning on working on herself. She has massive insecurities and it's not healthy in any way. I hope she seeks help and in her next relationship will be more confident

[@xydis.06.03]

**WARNING! LONG POST** Story 1 (which I believe he may have covered on this channel before...) made me think of another story from a different channel (Jay Mick, I believe?) about an OP accusing her BF of cheating and then he dumps her. It was later revealed that she used his Reddit account to make a post about him, but the comments kept pointing out how she was leaving out a lot of details and telling her that if he wanted to break up, let him but she says "no." Then, BF himself comes in and reveals a few things: 1. He and "Becca" dated in high school, but broke up due to her wanting to sleep around in college (which Becca covered up by saying "for some reasons"). 2. Becca essentially stalked the dude to his college and badgered him relentlessly to get him to take her back, which he did after a few months (big mistake there...). 3. Becca was extremely paranoid about BF possibly cheating on her, but revelled in getting attention from guys, but always says that "she won't do anything." 4. The girl Becca saw him with was a coworker who was dealing with an abusive ex-boyfriend and he was with her to help calm her down. 5. Becca stormed into the restaurant that the two were at and started screaming at/insulting the coworker so much that she (coworker) ran out of fear. At this point, BF had enough and after driving her home, he dumped Becca on the spot and drove away.

[@randomusername3873]

Damn, that's unhinged

[@justine8387]

I remember that one it was awful. Everyone kept pointing out even from the original, very redacted story that if he was having an affair why would he take the woman to lunch in a spot across the road from his workplace where his other coworkers were also eating.

[@ellorasg4525]

Story 1: The insecurity is ☠️

[@potatoempress5731]

Story 1 : OP is veering close to isolating her bf from his family. I'm glad the BF dumped her, even her mom & sis see through her BS lol. SIL is such a class act.

[@mracula1667]

Story 2 comments: How was the store owner inconvenienced by a dog pooping outside of his business? Seems like the inconvenience started when the business owner felt compelled to yell at someone just living their life. It would be like me yelling at my neighbors because they didn’t say “bless you” when they sneezed in there own house.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Yeah I'm kind of laughing at the idea that this "inconvenienced" the store owner... on a NYC sidewalk. Come on, those are NOT CLEAN. And OP did pick up the poop. Geez.

[@mracula1667]

@@errantwinds-up8uu Also, there are far more unappetizing things you see on a NYC sidewalk on a daily basis. Anyone who’s lived in the city for longer than a week has to develop blindness to unsavory sights and smells in order to survive, especially in summer.

[@jaymevosburgh3660]

​@@mracula1667It being in NYC doesn't even honestly matter, you go to any major US city and you will find worse things on sidewalks 😂 You commonly see junkies and fentanyl addicts shooting up/smoking on sidewalks and then just passing out right where they got high! I've watched a crazy guy walk into a street train and just drop his pants and poop right in the middle ov an aisle. Watched some guy cutting himself all over his arms and bleed all over a public bus, so the driver just called the police and asked everyone to get off until they showed up. Seen some tweakers having sex on a sidewalk in the middle of the day, on top ov their blankets. Watched rats running out of a popular bar and back into the streets. My point is: All big cities are gross. Very gross 😅

[@mracula1667]

@@jaymevosburgh3660 Dude, I live in the country and people are up to the same depraved shit here too. There’s just enough room so people can pretend that stuff doesn’t happen everywhere.

[@sashwing7726]

The title answers your questions. Surprised, no one considering that the place the dog pooped in front of is a cafe. Cafés usually sells drinks, food, or both. In terms of a business concept, would you want to watch or even witness a dog taking a poop while your eating.

[@sardonically-inclined7645]

S2: Literally cleaned up his own mess, and is conscientious enough to even ask the question, so I can definitely say NTA.

[@jacearmor5274]

Story 3: NTA. Hannah dropped out of being a bridesmaid, therefore no bridesmaid gift.

[@quilaviper]

Much appreciate the warning about poop stories, those things gross me out way too much 😂 And yeah, OP in the first story has a LOT of growing up to do lmfao, good on the SIL for being so incredibly mature about the entire thing and good on the boyfriend for putting his foot down about such ridiculous behaviour (And tbh, good on the OP too for realizing she needs to change rather than continuing to live in denial, that's a good step for her, too)

[@sonialinsey8083]

She went and tried to have a big sister moment and actually probably saved OP a lot of trouble going forward even though this relationship ended. SIL like…snapped her out of her toxic mindset and it’s honestly awesome of her.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@sonialinsey8083I agree with you. Sister in law is a saint. Hopefully, this saintliness will get OP to want to change and be a better person. But that's up to her.

[@kidfrid5498]

Story 1: A really cool homemade plushie -even if SIL only intended to make one for your bf (which also wasn't the case), is in no way shape or form an "inappropriate gift" in the first place. OP clearly needs some therapy, and glad that she realized this too. She is not ready for a relationship. Too bad she had to learn her lesson the hard way.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 NTA. You immediately cleaned it up. It's a sidewalk and there was no outdoor seating even. Is their business failing? How do they have time to view this minor incident and walk outside to confront. There was nothing to apologize for. I don't have a dog, but Mark and commenters said you can't really control where or when they 💩

[@BraveryWing26]

This is one of those cases where I REALLY dont root for the OP. I am so glad first OP's boyfriend left her. She was made out of red flags.

[@kelseybordeaux9206]

Imagine being SO insecure that you ruin your relationship over you're BF's SIL giving him a sweet handmade gift. OP's mom ruined any chance she had to function as a normal adult by passing her crazy insecurity to her daughter. OP needs serious therapy,not a relationship.

[@_akua_5395]

Well that was an self fulfilling prophecy. But OP caught it too so i hope with some well deserved therapy, she'll work through her problems and get better at relationships.

[@oliviaspring9690]

Hopefully it has helped her realize how toxic her family is, so she can distance herself from them and get some therapy.

[@kristinmartin2899]

Poor OP 1. The amount of work thats going to have to happen to undo all the years of toxic thinking passed down to her by her mother is ridiculous! It’s sad because that type of thinking is her normal 😳

[@ReyK_47]

Story 1 reeks of insecurity and if she doesn't fix that about herself soon, she's going to push more partners away with it. Also her saying she thought it was unfair that the SIL got to be at the brother's house when her bf was there; it's SIL's house too! Of course she gets to be there, how would that be unfair?? It's her HOME. Also her family did her no favors raising her with this mindset that basically all women who aren't related by blood are the enemy. I really hope she breaks that cycle of thinking and behavior for her own sake, because she sounds miserable.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

Wait until she listens to the stories of women stealing their own sisters’ husbands. Lmao There was also that one where the OP found out her mom and husband had been having like a 20 year affair and her husband fathered the mom’s two youngest kids. Just because you’re blood don’t mean you act right. Lmao.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Me too. She might very well die alone if she doesn't learn from this NOW!

[@AryonaSamoto]

Story 1: OP should just be greatful that she learned so much about herself and has the opportunity to grow and change. Her desperation for him to take her back is just another chance for her to reflect and grow. I hope she takes it. Story 2: Store owner sounds like a wiener, I would have made a mental note not to go there too. I agree with you Mark, Sh*t happens😂 Story 3: Bride sounded bitter that her bridesmaid dropped out and instead of talking it out, decided to be spiteful. I'm glad she apologized after. Though, this all might have been avoided had the friend communicated from the beginning. There may have been a solution that they could have come up with together.

[@alg94]

idk it sounds entitled to assume you would still get a bridesmaid gift when you drop out from being a bridesmaid

[@owl7072]

Story 1: Gift giving is one of my love languages, I do that for pretty much anyone that I've been around for a while, and I would be so upset if I found out this was a reaction that someone had in response to giving someone a gift, especially if it was something that took a long time to do like what she made. There comes a point where "that's just how I was raised" isn't enough, and you really need to take a look at yourself in the mirror.

[@FirstNameLastName-mg1px]

The OP in story 1 gives me the ick real, real bad! My little brother (in law) will be dating when he's older (he's 10) and this just unlocked a new worry. I met him when he was 2 and he's the baby, my little peanut love bug, the kissing bandit, our little snuggle bug ❤. I don't want somebody making him feel uncomfortable about any familial or platonic relationship as that's how abuse starts. Ughh girl seek therapy, this was toxic and ridiculous and I'm glad he was able to see through her claws.

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 3: NTA. Hannah dropped out the wedding with no notice or explanation at the last minute. I would not have given her a bridesmaid gift either. Hannah literally just messed up the wedding procession. It is weird that Hannah even called asking about the gift....for bridesmaids...for which Hannah dropped out.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Woah, OP1 has a real toxic family, too. Yikes.

[@littleraeofsunshine]

That was my thought. She was 100% wrong but it sounds like she needs new people in her life to help model healthy relationships.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 1. 6 months and OP thinks she can control her boyfriends relationships. Hell, I've been married 30 years, and my husband and I do not dictate or control outside relationships!

[@KupKate215]

As a crafter myself I just cringed my entire way through that first story and felt so bad for the SIL. Nearly everyone in my life (including my boyfriend's family members and friends) have received handmade gifts from me at some point or another, but there's just not enough time to make something for everyone every single holiday. The SIL was more than accommodating in explaining the situation and honestly way nicer than I probably would have been. If someone pulled that shit on me I'd be pretty upset with them. I hope OP does seek help after this and is genuine in her desire to change.

[@HonorWillow]

Story 1: I feel so bad for OP. They need a lot of help. I do get where they were coming from though; it was a weird scenario to only give OP's boyfriend a gift, but I mean it was iN FRONT of the brother/husband so that would reassure me. Poor OP. I really respect the SIL; they handled it beautifully and even was still respectful when OP said the divorce comment

[@sunnimoberly4845]

"not a happy update" i think its a brilliant update, couldn't be any better! You got exactly what you deserved, and leave the poor man alone for fucks sake, im so glad he broke up with you.

[@EluneAnzu]

Mark's comments about poppy after the second story reminded me about a pair of cats I had years ago that used to love going on walks (yes, I walked my cats, harness and all) one of which did it for attention from strangers since she loved getting pets and would pull me over to people to try and get attention and plop down and start rolling around to ask for belly rubs, was really hard to get her to leave if she was getting attention. She's since passed, I miss that cat. On the plus side a bunch of my neighbors ended up getting Calico cats due to how friendly she was, and how much their kids loved her.

[@TheRockinDonkey]

Sorry for your loss. She sounds like an awesome cat

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

S1: the fact that the husband was just as excited is telling. This wasn’t a way to push OP out, this was a kind gesture that they both seemed excited to give. I started to see OPs point for a quick second, but I listened and heard how excited the brother was. OP is insecure af. It’s a plushie, not jewelry or something like that. OPs mom set her up for failure, and now I feel bad. Fitting in takes time, and it hasn’t even been a year. The SIL was so sweet! And everything she said was 100% correct! OP definitely needs to work on herself - and maybe get away from her family.

[@ronhall5395]

Story 1, Omg he gets along with his SIL. How horrible. Yes, she has a ton of work to do. Imagine if it was a coworker.

[@gngrblls2thwall]

SIL tried so hard to throw her a lifeline but she was determined to drown

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: Girl.... No.

[@shadowkissed2370]

Story 1 - your insecurity and toxicity is showing. I am the one who buys/makes gifts for my husband's family which is from both of us. She even said that the brother was excited to give it to him as well and had no issues with it. She needs to take her cues from him if she cant figure it out on her own.

[@music_horror]

Random Story Time; my sister fed my insecurities even when I was lc(low contact) with her up until I was 15 or 16, which was when I decided to work on myself. Now Im extremely low contact with her. The point of this is OP is absolutely insane in Story 1, but I have hope with the update that she can change her ways and work on her insecurities before even thinking about another relationship.

[@Nihlus16]

Thank you Mark for your input in Story 2, I ended up trying my hardest not to burst out laughing in the middle of a coffee shop while I was listening to you talk about Poppy. 🤣 Also it's my day off today! My sister and I are working on some portfolio stuff at a cafe while I'm catching up on your videos, much love💜

[@stephanbutler7988]

Story 1 During the period of being single as well as being married, I have from to to time received gifts, plush hand made toy to expensive whiskey,books ,home made scarves.Nothing inappropriate was thought of them by myself or my wife.I think OP needs to drop her relationship with her family completely,and get herself professionally help. Then one day she’ll be able to have a healthy relationship,wishing her all the best.

[@leaflet1686]

Story 1: I feel realy bad for OP! All of this is because of her moms toxic raising. I am glad she realised this and can now work to change and probably get some therapy. At this point she is a victim.

[@jamaicangirl8933]

Story one that entire family is crazy

[@theconfusedvampire]

Yeah, story 1 is ridiculous. It took me 2 months to design and sew a baby quilt and that's with spending all my free time on it. Just thinking of what it took to create the pattern for the plush alone makes me anxious. It's very likely that there was no time. And I barely knew this person on my end, I just enjoy my craft.

[@evangeline8193]

S1- Whoa she's 26?! My 17-year-old self was cringing at the immaturity and insecurity throughout the entire post. "It's like the rest of the family are on some pedestal", no??? They are treated differently and with more closeness as they are spouses of YEARS and you are a gf of a few months, you would have gotten there too if you just waited and treated them with respect.

[@k.a.4522]

Henry David Thoreau said (paraphrase) that a gift from yourself is the best gift of all. I have taken this to heart and think others should too.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: Wow, What makes you think she didn't make one for her husband? Maybe he got his at their home, and he was excited to see his brother get his as well. They are literally family and it is perfectly normal to buy or make family (even In-Laws) gifts. Your mom and sister are also AH, for stoking your insecurities. Story 1 (update): Sad that it took all this for you to see yourself as the problem. It would be a good idea to seek therapy, and get over your issues before you try to date again. Seeing as you have started to realize your family is toxic, it shouldn't take long,

[@laucorn123]

Story 1 - Someone should form a rescue team to go save OP's father from her mother.

[@alexnightray3204]

Soft YTA. I was also raised in a traditional household for context Asian and Christian) where there are clearly defined 'rules' on how girls should behave, think, speak, etc, so I get how hard it is when 'how you were raised' and your beliefs are being challenged. Life lessons are always tough to swallow. I do feel bad for OP, and while I can see why you'd be judged the AH, she's operating within her worldview which is being challenged in this situation which triggered her insecurities stemming from that worldview. I am glad that she had an "AHA!" moment after she blurted out the last thing she had said to the SIL, apologized for it, and then realized how toxic her worldview was after being broken up with. Unfortunately, OP has to learn this hard lesson that life had to throw at her and being in this relationship and being around the Boyfriend's family reflected her insecurities and exposed her family's toxic worldview and perceptions on how each gender should act in a relationship that she had been conditioned to accept growing up. It would be a different story if this was a repeated behavior and a lifestyle without any self-awareness on how acting on insecurities will almost always lead to a break up. I wish OP all the best and much detoxing.

[@LadyRavenEyes]

story1: girl you are going full green eyed monster over a gift given by this SIL

[@luvondarox]

S1 Chronically Insecure OP sounds genuinely exhausting to be around. Everyone went out of their way to comfort her, but... Holy geez. What a being.

[@NotWorthBeans16]

Story 2- NTA. Shop owner here. Op did exactly what they were supposed to do in cleaning up after their dog. The owner had no need to interject other than to just be an unnecessary aggressor. Had OP not cleaned up it would be a different story. My business is in a resort town meaning we get a lot of people from all over the place. We absolutely love dogs and always keep treats as well as extra poop bags at the ready in case someone forgot or ran out. You can always tell who intentionally doesn't want to pick up and who honestly just forgot when you hand them a bag.

[@Geallach83]

I'm so happy for OP's ex. He can now go back to normal things like family caring for each other without having psychotic girlfriends to worry about. She did him a solid by exposing her crazy in this way.

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 2: Since OP picked it up, I think the only issue would be the "Sorry They usually look around before going, this was just too sudden to reposition.". But even then it's more of a ESH slightly.

[@chaos_bringer24]

Story 1: bro doged a nuclear bomb

[@opensesame659]

Bruh story 1 I didn’t pay attention to ages in the beginning and thought she was like 18/19 or something from her immaturity BUT SHES 26. She needs to grow up asap she’s too old for that kind of behavior.

[@katwitanruna]

Oh jealousy. My grandfather used to say that True Love is not jealous.

[@poohbear4515]

S1: From what I got from OP, she got all this from her mother cause of her insecurities and passed it onto her daughters. It’s up to OP to get the help she needs, or she will be kissing other relationships goodbye like this one. It’s still on her for what had happened and she really needs to get therapy for it.

[@katerussell4904]

Mark, saying "a trail of turds" cracked me up😂😂😂

[@BeardyBaldyBob]

Wow. Just WOW. That was some S-tier insecurity and insanity there! Blew up her relationship over a plushie!!?! At least she realised that she was getting it from her own family and can do something about it now. But seriously. Wow.

[@actuallynotsteve]

I've heard the first before, was trying to remember how delusional it gets, but was still impressed.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 1) I can sorta see where the others are coming from. It's just the boyfriend being the only one and the pulling off to the side that gets me.

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

Story 1: Agree with Mark, the SIL handled that incredibly well.

[@ApocalypticEmu]

Story 1: making things takes a long time, especially if it’s a hobby and not a job. Only one of my friends has ever gotten a plushy from me. Only one of my friends has ever gotten hand painted minis from me. Siblings in law can have a sibling relationship or friendship. You can get along better with certain family members over others without anything sketch. OP needs to chill.

[@fangchick93]

I just finished hand sewing a sandseal plushy from Zelda. It took about three days including breaks and sleep. I used natural fibre felt. It's not that much work. Though mine is standard teddy bear size, not too big or small.

[@maxinemyers9215]

Love your comments Mark,so real💐

[@FlopportunityKnocks]

S1: The cruel irony of this story is that if only OP had seen bf's SIL as a family member, she could have learned so much from this woman (and maybe even saved her relationship). The thing that she failed to see is that SIL was trying to save OP's relationship. This is the only reason she could have to reach out to OP, since she knew that OP's bf was frustrated with her and on the brink of breaking up. And if that was about to happen, SIL and OP would probably never see each other again. She was actually doing the opposite of "pushing her out". S2: TDITA (The Dog Is The Asshole). Not really, but since OP asked...

[@mickjackson6596]

Story 1 she wants to be in a relationship with him, not his family. Plus she's NUTS

[@jacearmor5274]

Story 1: OP is just insane!

[@moonlightwolf]

Been having a bad day today, but Mark's videos always make me feel better

[@stevenfrost3469]

Story 1: I think OP's mom needs a reality check. The reason OP's dad probably isn't mentioned much is that the mom is exactly like OP, and the dad just stays out of the way so her mother can be overly possessive. OP really needs to talk to her dad about how to deal with boys, although if he stayed with the mom, he may not have great advice.

[@evaidem]

aww, I wish i could see the plushy of baby Aurene. She is just so precious

[@angeloliver7613]

S1 actually is a happy update in the long run. Sister in law is surprisingly mature, boyfriend has valid reasons, but I'm allergic to people who break up the minute a conflict arises, but still, he has valid reasons. And OP learned she needed to work on herself and acknowledged her problems.

[@Mia-dt3gl]

OP’s mom and sister didn’t actually believe her ex and his SIL were having an affair. They wanted to ruin her relationship. But the relationship failed because of OP.

[@coreymartin6486]

Op needs to understand that misery loves company and that often holds hands with headiness and a confrontational attitude....which her mother and sister have.

[@0Mayweed0]

I made my husbands brother a crocheted doll one year. I didn't make anything else for anyone else. I just found this pattern and really wanted to make it for him. There was no alternate reason other than I wanted him to have it. Was just a fun gift.

[@katsthename989]

"Sister in law is like on some pedestal or something because she gets to be there and I don't." It's her house... Lmao

[@shebakoby]

story 1: It's just so sad that OP's mom and sister are so toxic that they taught her toxic things that she never questioned and just accepted as normal. It's not really possible to tell if OP has any mild anxiety disorders or lowkey disorders of the Clusters of Bees, as opposed to an ingrained taught habit, I mean both things might be true at the same time, but BF was right to break up with her, as OP still really hadn't learned her lesson by the time she'd finished the convo with SiL. She does need to work on herself, therapy STAT, to undo the damage done by Mommy Dearest who probably IS a cluster of bees and possibly sister too (or just ingrained habit like OP). At least at the end OP realized the garbage her mom instilled in her was toxic nonsense.

[@Zminator1986]

Story 1: I remember this story! Although in truth i thought there would be some timelapse update of how that lady is doing. Something that I didn't catch the first time I heard this story, the SIL only told the ex-boyfriend to talk to OP. So he never heard of how crazy the she is, but "go talk to her" was just enough to convince him to leave OP if SIL had nothing (nice) to say about her. Hopefully, OP does get the help she needs and cut contact with her family.

[@bluexwings]

Story 1: I've witnessed this kind of love between my best friend's family and her SIL. She is essentially a sister to my best friend and her twin, which is wonderful because it actually brought all three siblings closer together. Her parents treat SIL like their own child, and vice-versa. It's such a joy to see. I don't understand OP's jealousy at all. ETA: I really hope OP can cling to that moment of clarity and get some space from her family. Their toxicity is a bad influence. I hope she gets a therapist and can break the cycle.

[@mayurakshimukherjee7948]

Story 1, op is a jealous monster. Thank God he broke up with op & didn't bring that drama to his family anymore.

[@GIChiyo]

Story 1: Wooooooooooow she needs to see someone to deal with her insane level of insecurity

[@moonyollie6977]

S1: Bruh. BRUH. "I realise I might be insecure" GEE, YA THINK? "It just felt off to me." No, it's not. "I told her I thought it was inappropriate." Oh f*ck off.

[@awdrifter3394]

Story 1, the BF's SIL is probably a very beautiful woman, and OP is very insecure about herself.