Before Vs. After: Coming Out

[@daffodilclouds2443]

I came out to my boy friend so he knew why we were breaking up, and he came out to me... we are bffs now

[@idliketospeaktothemanager8836]

Luna 5381 😊

[@tyton4437]

Luna 5381 that’s wild and amazing at the same time

[@vetrri5570]

You're very lucky, man. Happy For You

[@olgagottfried5541]

Probably the best possible way a relationship could end.

[@thomasg7323]

OMG GOALSSSS

[@bengriffin4164]

I'm out to my closest friends but the thought of coming out to my parents absolutely petrifies me... I'll get there one day though...

[@Ryan-to9iw]

Same!

[@Rougetheidealistic]

Same...

[@zypizypizypitanotanotano9758]

It shouldn't be that hard, or at least dont thinnk/keep telling yourself it's gonna be hard, after all they are your parents, and they've spent the most time of their life and your life with you. I'm sure they'll be supporting, after all it doesn't change who you are.

[@LeilaLamb]

Do it when it’s right for you, but don’t leave it till you have regrets.

[@ibefree6212]

yes you'll get there. when I told my mom, she says , let me tell your father. I was fully prepared to do it myself , but she says she wanted too, she would tell him at the right time. when she did finally ,his response was, " sweetheart , I figured that out a decade ago, catch up with the times, are ya blind ". I frickin lost it when I heard about it . lol

[@spiritedrenee9895]

I Came out 4 days ago. I'm have so much more confidence now.

[@lily-hazy8823]

isn't it so fuckin freeing? I remember the day after I came out. I lost friends but I still felt so damn free

[@sergiofridschtein2493]

Description Untitled I haven’t come out yet the only person that knows is my twin sister. I am bi by the way

[@oldiemaddyyy1132]

Description Untitled lucky..

[@smockhunt3346]

I wish I felt ready to come out now but I think I'm going to wait until I graduate high school because most of my friends are homophobic. -Bi 15 y/o male

[@yosr5090]

Good for you!👏👏

[@aimy4862]

i just came out as bisexual yesterday! 💓 edit: it went great, but my crush is really homophobic so

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

No cares thought

[@cloudyclayella1846]

I'm questioning my sexuality. I believe I'm bi.

[@maddiewierda]

Awh congrats! I hope it went well

[@sugaryshadows]

How did it go? I hope it went great!

[@ap0llogetic427]

Steve N ... Not even gonna take the time to explain the difference.

[@magentalilies8012]

Open the closet, and open hearts and minds. Open the door and others will follow behind.

[@shekleyslandhia]

Chivas Aurora yfkflgkrjrjri4voe

[@sarahlizette6124]

💖

[@DaddyNatron]

Chivas Aurora I’m a alpha so I’ll go I front.

[@irecluse1077]

Hoo Lee Fuk ……

[@jillgutierrez16]

Chivas Aurora this made me cry tears of joy

[@chipthegaygoose4046]

I am a closeted 14 year old bisexual female. I have a girlfriend and no one knows. These kind of videos really help me to realize that there are people out there like me.

[@TABAssassin]

Don’t listen to people like that, I’m the same, don’t let people pressurise u into coming out, u make your own decision, best to do it if u r gonna move out soon or in a safe environment. Good luck

[@brandon3740]

Same. It just sucks that I can't share my happiness with my family and closest friends

[@livelaughForte]

do your hw

[@cerinashippey]

Eva Owens we’re here for you 💖

[@RachelBastow]

I’m a closeted 19 year old bisexual girl and I know how you feel. Sending you all the love and support 💗💗💗

[@andreaenemegio6002]

I really cried. I came out 4 or 5 years ago to my mom... She is the only person I trust and she told me that it was just a phase. I don't have the guts to tell her again, years later, that I'm still bisexual, I still like girls, I love one girl. My uncle is really homophobic... He's the kind of person who talks horrible things about queer comunity... I don't have the guts to tell him. I really need them to know, not because I wanna show.my gayness or something... Just because I need them to accept me just for who I am. I feel so lost and sad about this... I think I would never be able to talk.

[@TallyWyte]

Andrea Enemegio you’re a walking revolution in society yourself. Embrace it. :)

[@tshiatshipo1264]

Already told my mom, and she said the same thing, "it's a phase", I'm not gonna tell her again so she shouldn't be surprised if I want to bring my girl home...I just hate being ignored

[@danorose9746]

I’m sorry I pray for you

[@lanehuntley5075]

I'm so sorry, I hope things turn out in the best possible way ❤

[@kwamiotoo4509]

Andrea Enemegio You got this girl!! Just wait until the time is right.

[@celine2688]

I told my mom im bi and she took it as it as phase, i also think shes embarrassed about me, and she wants me to keep it closeted but I don't want to I'm slowly telling more of my family

[@novas2905]

You should never hide who you truly are. If you think that's the right thing to do (which it is) you do what you need to do.

[@HedwigXD]

Same here, keep your head up and don't hide away

[@amirrahman782]

If you are younger than 21 IT IS A PHASE DEAL WITH IT.

[@celine2688]

Amir Rahman did I ask for your opinion?

[@ctylshi595]

How is sexuality “just a phase”?

[@madaline5156]

... I just came out to my parents. Edit: It went quite well.

[@yousseferrafai4718]

Luna 1235410 how did it go ?

[@kheymaurasweat2840]

How did it go? Are you okay?

[@emma_burke]

Go you👍🏻❤️❤️

[@radmadz7093]

Hope it went well❤️💕

[@sarahverweij4436]

all the love

[@leahsmo928]

*talking about gay marriage with my conservative dad* Dad: it's not marriage marriage is between a man and a woman yada yada Leah: dad, but I'm bi, what if I came home with a girl? *pause* Dad: as long as she's not a liberal!

[@lorelei7754]

Leah Smo Sounds like your father is an idiot. Heh.

[@Dhi_Bee]

Do yourself a favor & move out after you graduate high school and/or turn 18. If he doesn’t get over it it’s his problem not yours. Surround yourself with people who like & love you

[@CodyWhitlock]

This has helped me up things into perspective, I think a lot of people will benefit from this. Thanks buzzfeed 🙌

[@mojammelhossainrahad7622]

Cody Whitlock

[@sarahlizette6124]

Cody Whitlock hey i like ur channel im glad i saw this comment and ignore the negativity its often from people with bigger issues than most of us.

[@gabbyspeaks2616]

Cody Whitlock Subscribe to my channel !💕 NEW VIDEOS WEEKLY✅

[@cheecannugget6872]

Cody Whitlock I always see your name and comments Cody lol. Wanna be friends?

[@anukm3702]

I see your comments everywhere.

[@owlright7524]

The biggest thing that changed for me after coming out is that now I don’t have to hide my phone or laptop if I’m watching or reading anything lgbtq+ related

[@maybehere_]

Except it it's.. Um. Nvm.. 😅

[@ilovelifeAS]

“No, here is why.. I know what the F is going on in my head” 🙌🏼♥️

[@Ryan-to9iw]

*I just came out to a friend on Monday.* It feels great, I don’t have to hide anything from her anymore and I now have someone to talk to about it. *Edit: I’m out to 3 people now.*

[@gdeaa5017]

[@dg44562]

Good for you! Wish you all the happiness :)

[@annayeh7437]

I just came out to my mom I know what you mean it’s like a weight was just lifted

[@aartistanimation4186]

My now gf (I'm a girl too) told ALL of my friends she liked me before she told me... so I mean I didn't even need to come out to them 😂

[@ashvinete9043]

ik im a stranger but im proud of you, know that you have support and are valid. Good luck in your journey !

[@oliveg817]

How I came out to my mom: Me: Hey mom why am I like my hair? Mom: um... idk Me: cause I’m NOT STRAIGHT At this point, I dabbed. I hate dabs, I only did this so I wouldn’t have to look at her. It was great tho and she didn’t really care.

[@jencaso]

Nerd is The Word i don't know why I laughed so hard at this, I hope she took it in a good way

[@TABAssassin]

I think this is the best coming out story ever

[@agatkagrzyb653]

lmao

[@artsyesther6395]

Tea n' Me I want to come out like this but I have naturally straight hair

[@rianleih9308]

Lol Imma try this too

[@wildredrazor1481]

Who else needed this?

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Nobody

[@kcmn0089]

I did

[@agatkagrzyb653]

me

[@kung-fukennyfamily]

It doesn't matter what you are at the end of the day we all are humans.

[@miranda3622]

Amen

[@sarahlizette6124]

True 💖

[@Zhyst]

Nah im a cat

[@baylorbrouwer7848]

Not true

[@sarahlizette6124]

Myrica l jajaja cheeto!!!!

[@PB_and_Jenny]

“You are no less of a queer person for it.” Say it louder for the kids in the back!

[@Xilotl]

I’m still in the closet ✌🏽

[@AllenTax]

Is the light on? Not to dark? Found your clothes to wear?😅

[@Xilotl]

I think I’m in some place called “Narnia”

[@maybehere_]

I'm past Narnia

[@tshiatshipo1264]

What is Narnia?

[@chiaraa-l3608]

@@tshiatshipo1264 look it up 😊

[@cici6496]

i came out yesterday

[@anuradhapandit9824]

lonelysunflowers How did it go? I'm proud of you!

[@nicolethomas647]

cici Yay Congrats!

[@rianleih9308]

Congrats!I'm so proud of you!

[@chestnutfamily3614]

I am bisexual so I plan on coming out to my parents soon but this helped me like a million times more with my friends and all my relationships with friends and others.

[@Chris-fe1kx]

I hate hate hate being in the closet. I’m 17, most of my friends already know I’m gay, everyone knows except my family. I wish I could tell them but I just physically can’t.

[@toby7308]

I'm 13 and I'm trans female to male and I'm so lucky to have a supportive, well mainly supportive, family. You are beautiful no matter who or what you are :-)

[@faithb.3254]

Shmem That’s great to hear :)

[@muyeongkim7146]

Shmem 💙

[@hdbb126gaming5]

Same. I haven’t even told my parents.. Also, heya sans the skeleton

[@mmx123]

Shmem a "girl" in my year is transistioning and he prefers male pronouns and a male name and it is adorable seeing how the teachers are so accepting, always calling him preferred pronouns and name during name-call.... and I am now also proud of your family equally

[@kingk6142]

Ur a man now

[@Rabiose123]

This is really nice. But remember that coming out is 100% optional, you don't own anyone an explanation. And if you think someone could make you have a hard time after you tell them (friends, parents, anyone really) don't feel obligated to tell them, you deserve to feel safe. And in the case you suspect someone won't accept you, that's not the people you should be around of, you also deserve people that are going to understand and support you if you tell them !

[@rookshanaasaram3962]

Bp BDM

[@banana_bread1012]

Why are so many peoples parents angry that their kids are gay, it doesn’t matter what the gender of their kids partners are♥️

[@alinanistor2913]

They just want grandchildren and one that actually is their blood mostly they don't care what gender is their partner it's just the fact that they won't have children .or they're supper religious

[@alinanistor2913]

Well not supper but religious

[@JWildberry]

Exactly! It's such a small thing when you think about it. Okay, that sounded dismissive of the pain and hardship that a lot of gay people have to go through, but that's not what I mean. What I mean is that it changes nothing. If someone tells you they're gay, they've always been gay. Their personality traits are exactly the same as before, it just means they are attracted to the opposite gender.

[@jessehall5569]

Banana_Bread 101 because it's unnatural

[@bambino9235]

Gypsy Paver yeah tell that to the thousands of natural species of animals that engage in homosexual behaviour and all the scientific professionals that agree that it is a natural phenomenon

[@sleepdeprived785]

I came out at 14 and now I'm 18 and my family accepts me. I used to think that I was trans but I realized I wasn't a boy, then I thought maybe I'm non binary, now I'm not really sure what my gender is and that's okay. I'm not sure what my sexuality is either, and it's okay to not be sure or to change your mind on what label you use. Don't be worried you're a fraud if you decide a label doesn't quite fit as well as you thought it did. I went through many different labels before I found some that fit me. It's okay to experiment, no one knows who they are at that young of a age and it's alright if you change your mind on what label fits you (if any label does).

[@Kevinhillcrest]

No one will notice this but I feel like there should be a disclaimer: Find a gay community before you come out because you will need support especially if you arn't in California.

[@cerinashippey]

Kevinhillcrest /// NYC

[@teaaddict813]

Alright, i can come out (i live in Poland. Very homophobic there 😭) but i will come out in Christmass

[@fezrayoos]

I live in indonesia where being gay is a crime by law now. I can't come out because not only that my family will for sure disowned me in the name of religion, it also possible that i will serve jail time. The hardest part, i just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years that been with me this whole time and can't talk to anyone. I turned into a ball of mess and tears every night without able to talk to literally anyone about it.

[@yiumyoumsan6997]

OMG sama. Emangnya sekarang jadi gay jadi dikriminalisasikan ya? That's sad if you broke up with your boyfriend. Dunia orang dewasa kok keknya kejam banget ya :(

[@reveranttangent1771]

I'm sorry

[@aryanam953]

Sometimes I think, and I really wish that I was able to come out when I was ready, and not to have been forced to come out when I wasn't. I started to question myself when I was 14, and I tried everything in my power to shove that away. In turn, I lost an opportunity with a girl that I had really liked at the time. When I was 15, I fell in love with this girl who was my best friend. I shoved that all away as well for fear of what my family would have thought, and fear that she wouldn't like me back. I remember when she got into a relationship, she told me that she had really loved me, and I had broken her heart because I would sometimes tell her that I could not date her because she was my best friend and that felt wrong to me and whatnot. I remember going through such a hard heartbreak, and feeling like I was so alone and that nobody was there for me or would understand. In those years, 14 onward, I was closed off from my family. I didn't tell them anything, which really hurt them because I grew up really close to my family. A week after my 16th birthday, my parents found out that I was gay and they did not take it well. I had hinted before, but they pushed that away as well. I got grounded for several months, and my parents didn't trust me as much anymore. They thought that I was ruined by the people I had been around, and that I was lying to myself. It's been almost a year since they found out, and I feel so much happier that I'm able to be free and not hide from my close family anymore. I realize that it's going to take a while for them to accept it, and that coming out to the extremely homophobic side of the family is going to be hard, but truthfully, I'm glad that I've had the experiences I've had, and I wouldn't change myself for the world. So to all of you out there who feel hopeless, things will get better. Not immediately, but eventually. Stay strong

[@morgandawson5734]

Aryana M God bless you :) I hope things get better for you in the long run and I'm happy you're free 💛

[@aryanam953]

Morgan Dawson Thank you so much :). I wish you the best in everything that you do and send much love ❤️

[@emilia111111]

It's like my own story. Thank you :)

[@aryanam953]

No problem, I hope things are okay for you right now and they continue to get better!

[@aryanam953]

Doololly2001 I’m so glad that you’re much happier now that you’re out. Sometimes the process itself is painful, but the outcome can be really great. Love yourself and spread love 😊

[@IshanAli]

Amazing video Buzzfeed! Love is love

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Didn't know mental illness is love, but whatewer

[@magical_wolf158]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski Didn’t know having a squirrel on your face was okay, but whatever.

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

The Confuzzled Potato Pardon me?

[@willgrider6531]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski being who you want to be with who you want to be with isn’t a mental illness, being ignorant to the fact that people live different then you do is, it’s called narcissism.

[@amirrahman782]

Chelsea Lynn Jones yeah it’s a lack of self control

[@kung-fukennyfamily]

I actually love this video it feels like a movie ❤ .

[@aircactus9168]

Yea it makes me want to be gay now.

[@aartistanimation4186]

AirCactus lol

[@katiebohren6654]

I’m 11 and I came out 5 months ago and I’m much more comfortable with my self

[@Demonfoxgirl2459]

This video was what I needed right now, I was thinking about this today right before this video. Helped me calm myself, thank you

[@bradleyshipley3145]

Captain Aryes same for me

[@joojoochen]

I'm so glad everyone I came out to was accepting - my family, my friends. I'm truly grateful for that.

[@thegoatworld4572]

I came out in January my mom said as long as I’m happy❤️ it took me a year to come out just take ur time. I have a girlfriend and I feel so happy❤️❤️

[@JetFuueled]

Congrats!! It's always great to hear this@

[@katlinoneill2497]

Good for you and congrats!

[@Gayredheadbitch94]

welcome to the rainbow club, we have cake

[@thegoatworld4572]

Katlin O'Neill Thank u

[@odetteviolett5890]

Aaliyah S I came out to my mum in january too :-) finally!

[@Martinplayssocfer12355CHI]

Nikki. You have no idea how much I needed to hear what you had to say in this video. Thank you. ❤️

[@nessan029]

I came out at 14 to my family, and to my school this year, or like my classmates (I'm 15) I feel so much better now, earlier I felt like I was lying to people... I don't know, it's hard to explain, but the people who gets it, just gets it, ok?

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Ha gayyyyyyy

[@nessan029]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski so what? What about it?

[@nessan029]

pellet ziemniaczany so what? Is there a problem? I'm gay, wow, not

[@tanginataiyeba6219]

Nessan 02 hey just ignore the trolls, they dont mean it. im really glad your coming out went well and that its made youre life easier :)

[@AllenTax]

Yes as you feel it isn't the truth that your straight. As others assume so. Feel you have to correct them.

[@doaabutt1330]

Its hard.... But they are brave❤, wish I was like that

[@trinayo1434]

this is very moving I'm so proud of all of you

[@quaidyba]

I came out today!! And it went well!!

[@ainsleigh351]

this is the most useful info i’ve gotten since i’ve come out: don’t hide your rainbows. if you want to find someone else with rainbows, but you’re not showing yours, it’ll be much harder. the best people come into your life when you’re being yourself, not someone else.

[@katrinaj.7348]

ainsfoxy There's this poem by Shel Silverstein that remonds me of your comment. It goes: "She had blue skin, And so did he. He kept it hid And so did she. They searched for blue Their whole life through, Then passed right by- And never knew."

[@ainsleigh351]

Katrina J. yeah, that’s where i got it from. the poem means a lot to me

[@dollysolon1236]

I feel sad for those people who still feel the need to "come out", when it shouldn't even be that way. I never came out to my parents, relatives, and friends literally, or through words, this feel the need to announce that I'm gay, never even happened to me. Throughout that moment where I feel that I was "different", I just gone with it. It just grew to those people who surround me, and automatically understand that I'M DIFFERENT, that I'M GAY. No question asked, I didn't even have to say a single word. I was lucky enough that people actually understood from the beginning about who I really was, and I don't even need to say it. It seriously made me feel normal than ever, just because of that. To those who are still struggling, just keep your head up. Right time will come, and things will get better.

[@anissamarie89]

Im 28 and just came out and this has helped me so very much. Its been hard for me trying to be someone i wasnt and now im slowly getting to where i want to be

[@darrahh8885]

Im so happy for you

[@ArtVaB]

I absolutely love this

[@peyton4895]

My principal outed my close friend to his parents even though when my principal asked him if he wanted him to talk to his parents my friend said no. I was so mad when I heard this. Our school is very small (our class has 50 people which is how my principal found out) I and I knew our school was extremely homophobic however how could a person with authority do that. And because my friend is only out to his parents and his friends he know he can’t do anything without risking getting outed completely which he is not ready for. I don’t care what you believe people should get to decide who they are and tell other people on their own terms

[@melissam7]

Thank you so much for including Jen's point about people not coming out. I didnt realise until now that it was something I wanted and needed to hear.

[@aberkadaber8963]

It makes me so happy to see this, I am in an extremely religious family and the religion is extremely homophobic. I always have wanted to come out and get it off my chest but I know I would be in danger if I did. I would just disappoint everyone around me and that would crush me. I don’t think I will ever come out to anyone of my family but seeing things like this really makes me happy to see that they are all happy in their lives!!!

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Return to Jesus and give up those lies!!!!!

[@matthewleech7901]

Wish you the best! ❤️

[@OnCamWithCami]

If your family is Christian/any religion, they should still love you for who you are! Relationships with God shouldn’t be about rules and strictness! I pray for your success and happiness!!❤️

[@Youwuvebere]

Me too and that’s fine... just try as much to be you and tell them intolerance is not in the picture of what you believe in. I love you ❤️

[@amdoggod7551]

10 minutes lmao, my heart is still racing and it’s been ten minutes since I came out 😂

[@Tumtetums]

I wish I had as much courage as these people. I struggle to even think about coming out without anxiety to the point where I feel like I'm either going to throw up or cry. This was a great video though and it helped me have a little more of a level head.

[@Zhyst]

Omg i feel so emotional

[@sarahlizette6124]

💖💖💖

[@sylvesterotte9740]

Mina Bae lol wtf

[@unexpected_girl]

It is so sad the one in the red shirts mother would be awful to her!

[@ajdean5121]

I just came out to my step-mom and she is so supportive and it makes me so happy

[@flowerfloc]

Nikki is just so nice

[@fizzyuwu1348]

Tonight I'm going to come out as transgender to my mom. Edit: I'm FTM so He/Him pronouns please :) also, update in comments

[@laurencampbell5893]

TØP Trash please let me know how it goes it went great for me I hope the same goes for you. What are your pronouns (so I know how to refer to you)

[@SangosEvilTwin]

Good luck! I hope it goes well for you.

[@isabellajohnson4608]

Good luck :)

[@matthewleech7901]

Good luck!! ❤️❤️

[@ivette4108]

Good luck, friend.

[@ilikemusic2726]

I'm still in the closet, but I'm dating my best friend of four years and I think I might marry her one day. Both of our families are accepting, my family pretty much already knows and has almost forced me out actually. Her younger sister is pan (though her younger sister came out as pan the day after my girlfriend told her that she might like girls and then dated one girl as to prove her point, but has been dating guys ever since so my girlfriend thinks she did it as a way to overshadow her because she has a history of doing such things, this was years and years ago by the way) so her family is already accepting, her dad even told her it was ok if she was gay or "half gay". I'm just personally not ready yet, plus we just kind of want to enjoy our relationship on our own for as long as we can.

[@_.sock75._72]

Ok but the piano in the background reminds me of my alarm for school and I kept getting nervous, lol.

[@ashleypeach960]

I just started dating this awesome girl and now that I'm out I can share it with the people I care about. I had to hide my last girlfriend from everyone.

[@darrahh8885]

Im so happy for you

[@jacaron_]

I’m about to cry. This video is so beautiful ;)

[@TheBaldingFish]

I'm pansexual and I feel that I don't need to come out so I don't think I will.

[@madisontwede7957]

Andrew Little I feel exactly the same!

[@cerinashippey]

Andrew Little I’m pansexual too. It’s the best. Everyone is hot. But I came out to my mom/fam/friends

[@TheBaldingFish]

Cerina Shippey im so proud of you for doing this, your so brave.

[@TheBaldingFish]

madison twede its good to not feel alone.

[@lakhsmiwulandari8326]

What is pansexual?

[@danielmiller8355]

These are the reason why I'm subscribed to buzz feed. Thx u so much

[@aimee-uq9mr]

I just came out as asexual today.

[@dannysanz3705]

aimee 21 good for you 👏👏👏

[@lizaalexeeva7009]

I m still in the closet.

[@myroeganilees6230]

@liza alexeeva Just come out When you feel safe enough💕

[@wiltonya87]

This made me cry. For years it was a struggle to be out of the closet and proud. But I’ve been out now for 3 years and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I’m 100% me at this point. #biandproud

[@eduardbrodka7028]

"DO NOT GIVE UP"... Thank u buzzfeed

[@keliahc5854]

I’ve always felt very lucky to live In the time I do and with my family being accepting of it because I was never really scared to come out to my parents (the rest of my family is a different story and I’m still not out to them) but from a young age my parents told me that if I was gay it was okay and they would still love me the same and I think that hearing that from such a young age really helped to shape me into the person I am today. I’m so proud of everyone that comes out or doesn’t for safety reasons as long as you’re content with who you are that’s all that is important, it is okay to be gay

[@sadiet3342]

seeing all the dislikes makes me sad. the lesson in this video also warms my heart

[@SillyWittleGoose]

Wow a video that actually informs and helps in a way from buzzfeed. The only one in existence here

[@retrogamergirl9x]

I came out to my Dad as Bisexual. He didn't like it and told me go to see a doctor. It teared my heart and my whole family didn't support my relationship with a girl. Then now I break up with her and I felt like I don't wanna love anyone else. Cause I'm afraid of hurting.

[@yiumyoumsan6997]

Don't worry. You can just live independently without your parents restriction if you're already 18. :D (I'm assuming you're still under 18)

[@cassidyfranklin7064]

I'm 16 and out to everybody sexuality-wise, have been since I was 13 or 14. It was very hard for me to work up the nerve to come out to my family but I knew it'd be better to do sooner rather than later because I was and still am very certain about my sexuality. Overall it went pretty well except with my dad. I think it's very inspiring to hear other people's stories because it helps me connect deeper with my community as a whole, and gives me strength knowing that there are others who understand and have been through similar experiences out there

[@techblogger8323]

Anyone remember when KZbin was basically coming out videos every week Uh the good old days

[@tr3xgaming807]

This hit right in the feels. I spent years pretending to be someone I’m not and I felt like I had this huge weight on my shoulders. As soon as I came out and started taking T my life completely changed and I feel so happy and free now.

[@jimmywilson420]

I'm not gay but that was powerful.

[@altuzarraok]

I came out to my brother like a week ago, months after I did so with my parents. He surprised me by fully supporting and understanding me.

[@maxcontinue8732]

I love you guys

[@trybalwolf]

*gays

[@heytherejun]

+ gals, and nonbinary pals

[@santinajuma]

This is the content I’m here for! Thank you Buzzfeed ❤️

[@MyTurtleApril]

I'm bi and I'm scared to come out but I'm going to!

[@amandacogger3075]

Hope it goes well

[@MyTurtleApril]

Me too, Amanda

[@katiewalter1813]

Stories like this make me feel so proud of my community, and also very grateful that I was able to come out at 14 or 15. It’s the best feeling in the world 💜💜

[@yourfavouritegayshit1964]

I'm gonna make it big when I come out.

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Aaaaand no one cares

[@bryangaytan8373]

• Emmai Nightcore • don’t worry be brave! Even tho I’m not lol

[@kimsujinbts17]

This was the best video I have ever seen in my life .....🥺 I'm not yet adult but I have came out to my close friend and that feeling was so satisfying 😌

[@thelooker5476]

I'll do it someday 😃

[@reveranttangent1771]

Good luck

[@juul3837]

I was a really violet, angry and restless teenager at age 12-14. I never struggled that much with being gay but I did struggle with coming out, afraid of what people would say especially in school and my parents. After I came out the violet, angry and restless side of me almost disappeared. I’m still like that sometimes but I’m in a good place right now and socialising with other people is going great. A few people have pointed out that Im more calm and able to hold “normal” conversations now. I really believe that coming out made me a better person.

[@aliendeamor]

Juul ❤

[@skylersmistake7584]

Im going into the wave of comments Pray for me 😥

[@yourfavouritegayshit1964]

Why is it bad?

[@Kraken_Dawn]

I enjoy Buzzfeed's new approach to these topics.

[@danielmiller8355]

I came out as gay but afraid to come out as asexual because I don't want to give people false hope

[@dannysanz3705]

Doctor Quinzel well, I'm asexual also but my whole teenage I was out as gay cuz I am quite the stereotype of gay (campy, flamboyant and very fem guy) but that was just my personality and the idea of sex it was never important until today it doesn't , I came to terms at 18 that I knew that I was asexual, sex-neutral so I'm happy about, I feel part of the community cuz we're in this together, don't be afraid, you can be gay and asexual

[@danielmiller8355]

Danny Sanz yes I agree completely hard thing is parents are Christians and I'm afraid if I tell them they will be hopeful ill marry a girl but I won't

[@dannysanz3705]

Doctor Quinzel well, that's what you have to tell them, you're asexual and you can have sentimental relationships but not sexual, just don't be afraid, hopefully my parents never been that religious but they accepted me as I am, just be strong and don't let people tear you down, you can do it, sending you hugs and kisses 💖💖💖🙌🙌🙌

[@SangosEvilTwin]

It can be hard, but if nothing else, anyone you date should know. I was on the other side of that - I was very close to an ex, I was about to move across the country with him . . . only to find out that we are wholly incompatible that way. I express my feelings through a lot of touch and intimacy, including sex, and he was touch-averse asexual . . . it wouldn't have worked out between us, and I really wish he'd told me before I got so attached. I don't like the resentment I went through when I found out.

[@chungj5]

Instant favourited. Thank you for the video, this is truly a good one.

[@abbyrobertson6234]

This is such a cute video

[@AspieAnswers]

Thanks for sharing some sensitive topics buzzfeed. Keep them coming.

[@laura_2145]

Oh gosh

[@vaughnnordman4158]

Out of all the crap buzz feed makes, this one was actually really good! I can relate and I just wanted to say thank you! This video made me just feel really good.

[@shabalabadingdong1761]

Why do most lesbians take the role of the typical image of a heterosexual couple? Why do they feel like there has to be a masculine and feminine partner in the relationship? Why don’t they both usually either dress in wedding gowns or tuxedos? This is what I think needs to change in how we present ourselves, we deny hetero-centrism but at the same time we develop these unnecessary habits. For gay men as well by labeling themselves in a hetero centric role. Like why? There doesn’t have to be a dominant and submissive role, there could be both of each. Idk just a thought.

[@rike2040]

Shaba Laba Ding Dong because they like dressing like that? Clothes don’t have a Gender. There are so many straight women who wear androgynous clothes and tuxedos and no one says a thing. There are many femme lesbian couples but people always think they’re sisters or best friends.

[@AllenTax]

rike Yeah. I was gonna say.😅 All the straight couple roles don't apply to anyone. I know plenty of gays who don't do straight roles & some hate it. They be just themselves.As there are plenty of gay online to KZbin couples who be themselves and don't do sex roles. Just a limitation to weaken, control the sexes.

[@wtfmartha2265]

Thank you for the insider :) also I'm loving the Demogorgon pin!

[@gmz1925]

Who is the guy he's so cute

[@xskullsonmyshoes]

I will forever support and think so highly of everyone who faces these struggles that come with being yourself. I’m proud of everyone who endures

[@NaveedShah]

like >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

[@lexxybas9839]

So empowering to hear others stories I hope this helps everyone that has been struggling with this 👏🏼💚

[@doseofsweetness603]

Being gay was hella fine back then before christ. Everyone was gay before Christianity came in.

[@OnCamWithCami]

Dose_Of_ Cringe Your comment doesn’t really make sense, but God doesn’t hate gay people. And if a church or person made you believe that, they weren’t sharing God’s love, but rather they wanted to play God, by using judgment.

[@jessehall5569]

Dose_Of_ Cringe WRONG....it was looked down on back then just like today. Sodom & Gomorrah was destroyed over 2000 years before Jesus walked the Earth. Get your facts straight bro.

[@palomacardozo-willigs2314]

you’re right.

[@plantyartist]

This video is so reassuring and comforting! I’ve been in this mindset this fine pride month of being me and presenting myself as myself is the best thing possible. And honestly, it is. And to be able to see that there are other people out there just like me is so so comforting I can’t even describe it

[@coupleonthefairway]

I'm sorry for not understanding but why is there so much pressure to come out?! Why does it have to be such a huge secret? Nobody has ever come out to me so I just don't get it that's all

[@maddiewierda]

EmmaPolly it’s because a lot of people still think that it’s a terrible thing to be LGBTQ+. Some people can lose friends, family, homes, etc. People also get bullied in school because of it

[@katrinaj.7348]

I think that in a lot of areas today, there is no need to come out and/or it is widely accepted and no one bats an eye. But where I live, for instance , it's a very conservative area and many people treat LGBT+ people poorly. When I came out , I had to decide if I wanted to sacrifice my reputation for this "stigma" of being gay. I knew people wouldn't see me as ME, but rather they'd see I was gay and treat me worse because of it. I didn't want to lose opportunities or friends or be treated differently for my sexuality. But in the end I decided it was better to be out; meaning , when people asked I don't deny being gay or when asked who I'm going to prom with I'm not afraid to say "my girlfriend". I hope that eventually it will make no difference what sexuality or gender someone is and coming out won't be necessary , but for now it depends where you live. Friends of mine are struggling with accepting me because their religion has taught them to hate homosexuals, and I have a strained relationship with my parents. Coming out isn't always good, but like this video's message says, it feels better to not be hiding.

[@agatkagrzyb653]

because society might not accept you the way you are

[@a1r9a9shi99]

I believe that what makes someone loveable are their actions and hearts. It never mattered to me what “box” they fit into or don’t fit into. I think everyone is free to have their opinions and beliefs, but everyone also has to be respectful enough and civil with each other whither you agree or disagree. Just because you don’t understand something or disagree, it does not make that opinion wrong! It makes it a different choice. Look up the word “wrong” and “different” in the dictionary-those words do not mean the same. I always say that people are allowed to disagree but no one is allowed to be rude, put others down, make fun of someone or be verbally abusive disagreeing. Besides, if you are so bothered by it, just respectfully walk away, look away..etc if you have to. You have the freedom, rights and a choice to do so!

[@virginiarogers7206]

Hi omg hi

[@laura_2145]

Virginia Rogers 😂

[@tanu2175]

Hi Virginia rogers😘

[@sarahlizette6124]

Jaja hi!

[@condeuiosandilixtos7858]

I'm nearly 27. I've never done anything with anyone, not even holding hands or kissing, because I didn't know what I wanted and, when I realised that I'm gay, I couldn't be open about and was too scared/traumatised to actually look for someone. I've recently moved out of my parents' house to a very far away town, and I finally decided to try a dating app. I've ended up meeting a guy who actually thinks highly of me, but I just can't do anything with him without feeling weird. I like his personality and feel attracted to him, but I fear that I've forbidden myself from emotion for so many years that I can't actually feel anything anymore. I don't even know if it's just my depression doing its thing.