Can You REPAIR a Relationship After CHEATING? - TWR Podcast #85

[@vincentkentgorski2]

If you’re young and don’t have any commitments between each other like children, just leave! End of story

[@user-yi6li8yg2w]

I love the humor and banter involved. It makes these topics so much more digestible!

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

I never thought I’d do it. But I did. And I hurt the only person that’s ever genuinely cared about me. Although it was meaningless in hindsight, it wasn’t to her and that’s all that matters. So now I guess she’ll take her chances with someone new who either won’t do it, or won’t get caught. My words didn’t matter. My tears didn’t either. My apology was meaningless. And I can’t blame her. It made me happy to see this video though, you confirmed what I thought was necessary to keep it together. And I did all of the right things. I was transparent. Honest. Truly and sincerely remorseful. But I’m only one half of the equation. She couldn’t get past it.

[@gratefulheart5454]

Work on your character. Because cheating is a deep character flaw within yourself. Expecting the victim to get over it because you regret it is another character flaw on your part. I cheated once in my twenties and never did it again because it was such a a huge loss and realized I never wanted to be a piece of trash that could victimize someone else again.

[@Sayansv]

The videos are very helpful, more and more people need to be educated on the topic.

[@Mw3SwagZone]

After 2 years of being with a women of my dreams, slowly started to put her on a pedestal. She decides to end the relationship, I let it be and one week later she says she wants to work on things but isn’t ready to commit back yet, we make great progress over a month. Just last night I confronted her as she was walking into her apartment with another man at 1am

[@synx7874]

She belongs to the streets

[@khoakdoan]

I emotionally cheated and I truly regret it. I don't know why I did it. I loved my girlfriend and I was truly committed to her. For some reason, my insecurity and my lack of confidence got the best of me. My ex texted me and I responded with white lies about my relationship. I didn't even mean it but I did it. I made a choice at the end of the day and i take accountability and responsibility of my actions. I hurt her and her family.

[@bittehiereinfugen7723]

If you cheated on her, you definitely didn't feel committed to her. At least not in a healthy or appropriate way. And when you're in a relationship and you tell lies about your relationship or your partner to outsiders, those lies are never white. This is a malicious act.

[@JamieHirschfield-r9g]

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[@JamieHirschfield-r9g]

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[@ariannarp6866]

This ticks ALL the boxes I am going through. I found out a month ago, my husband carried out a 1 1/2 year affair. I am devastated. How does one navigate a long term scenario? Not just a one night stand. He actually travelled to see her and paid to have her travel to our city. Cost our family over 20k and I was blamed for needing to pay bills and mortgage payments bouncing.

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Men are different from you. Your husband does not love you any less. As hard as that is to understand. That’s why he’s still your husband. The human animal, has never, and will never be an innately monogamous one like geese. Men specifically, aren’t wired to be only with one woman at a time. And women themselves aren’t wired to be with just one man long term (which is why women always end up unhappy). Now that doesn’t mean self restraint isn’t a thing. It is, and should definitely be exercised. But just know that your husband does not love you any less. If he is truly remorseful, he is so because of the way it affected you. Not because of the act itself. In his mind subconsciously, he doesn’t see it the way you do. If he is truly remorseful, and he’s embarrassed and ashamed, and says it won’t happen again, believe him this once.

[@ariannarp6866]

@@albertodeulofeu5277 I can’t agree on ‘how he’s wired’. I’ve uncovered so much more. He was always so jealous of anyone who talked to me, even. The affairs started 6 years ago and he had zero intention of telling me. He’s sorry he got caught and he had an amazing, FAITHFUL woman. 😞

[@Koshiemobo]

​@@albertodeulofeu5277 I don't want to seem like I'm attacking you but please don't push your ideology on people.

[@Guidancewithgrace777]

Please account for narcissistic and sociopathic people. Don’t give hope to those who are in a pathological relationship. I decided to work it out… a year later I found out he was secretly doing it again. All the while lying to me. I walked away knowing I worked on myself, on my marriage, forgave, marriage therapy, take the blame - that’s the hard part… he made me believe I was the problem. I am currently going through a divorce and I couldn’t be happier. He lost a good one and I now I get to love myself and move on!!

[@amandabutler4070]

😊 very nice and great effort to not editing out the hard to deal with stuff 🤭

[@fernandadeonna]

I love dr. glens laugh 🤣

[@12weekrelationships]

Me too, haha

[@touhamoumi6512]

He cheated and lie about it for 6 months and also lied to other person. His reason was he can get women with a way more less the effort he was putting in our relationship . We were together for 3 years engaged for 1.5 years.

[@rikij05]

This made me feel so good 😢

[@andrerodriguez966]

Well my partner took full ownership and responsibility and apologized and asked if we can work it out !! She’s accountable but I seen what I did wrong myself including alcohol abuse where she said that wasn’t the issue it was her fault she should have gone a different path.. That’s after the fact o was in no contact and left the house for about 2 months.. I’m back it is completely hard but I gave up alcohol, and other stuff that came w it .. We do more traveling and have more things to do .. Alcohol ruined me during infidelity so I did a 360 and joined a gym. it’s difficult we have our moments we’re we argue but look for a solution now .. If anyone decides to stay it’s Hard but it takes two and it can be done and will make you stronger

[@pokeybear3904]

How's is your relationship doing now?

[@motswadiwamonna3880]

In my opinion if there was cheating it will happen again,people don’t change only the environment changes then we think it people.....good way is to end the relationship without fights thanks.

[@sittikasou7659]

People don’t change?? That is your opinion. From my experience everything change even people change. Someone might fall in love with you today and fall out of love next month or next year. The only thing that don’t change is change. It is consistently changing. And if you want to say once a cheater always a cheater. It is not true.

[@manuelmezaR34]

The recovery of a broken relationship is much higher if a man cheats than a women cuz the female has a emotional investment.

[@snailart9214]

Men can emotionally cheat too though, and typically emotional cheating hurts the woman more because we tend to value emotions more. Not always but if it's just a one off fling while drink vs. months of emotionally cheating it's pretty bad

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

@@snailart9214the exception doesn’t make the rule. Men cheat. Women betray. Men cheat to cheat. Women cheat to leave. Men don’t leave.

[@flor1662]

I was dating a guy, 1 month in I decide to have a FWB bc I had personal baggage & didn’t want to work through it so I solved it with a bad decision, guy I’m dating finds out in month 3, gets upset & asks if it’s worth it to stay. I say yes bc I truly love being with him. I also think I used my FWB as a distraction of my feelings for the guy I’m dating bc I was really falling for him. We are now entering month 5 of dating & ever since him finding out, I’ve cut all ties, blocked FWB, changed my number & have been trying hard to win back my guy’s trust. Any advice?

[@IAmJeka]

How is it going? I'm a female that got cheated on by my female fiancé. She cheated on me with a guy. super blind sided. She swears she has no idea why she allowed it to happen and pretty much has acted the way you have. We're taking a break right now cause I need some space to get over it cause I've become so jealous and obsessing over the cheating. I've never been like that. My main advice would be patience, understanding, WORK ON YOUR SELF, becoming a better version of you and to check in on his feelings occasionally. Like for me the night she cheated she had gone to the movies with this guy that was supposed to be only a good friend of her. I was out of town and she was feeling sad that weekend so I was like "yea go to the movies with him its ok" they went back to our house to smoke which I knew and then they slept together. As soon as I got back I suspected it and look through her phone WHICH I NEVER DID and found messages from him mainly telling her he had wanted that so bad etc.... so now certain things trigger me like when we go to the movies (i obsess about is this the theater they went to? did he try to cuddle with her? did she allow it and still allowed hin to come home?". The area of the house they were in were it happened is a huge trigger for me. We are waiting for our lease to end cause I want to move. So just know you have to be willing to PUT A LOT OF WORK into it. To allow him to feel. To also communicate when you need to feel. To heal yourself. To allow him to heal. To provide information without him needing to ask (as long as neither of you are acting toxic) in my case they work together and she's been trying her best not to have similar shifts but she is a manager so he texted her the other day about work and she didnt tell me and i shouldnt have but grabbed her phone for some reason that day and saw the text... I just wish she would have told me... anyway this happened in June so I asked for some space to heal for a bit but I DO NOT want to break up.. I do want to work on it

[@synx7874]

I wouldnt touch you with a 20 ft pole if you cheated in me. Its over. Ur guy that is dating u is a full simp

[@harunkhan9307]

good idea

[@12weekrelationships]

Thank you! Which part are you referring to?

[@zineb2610200]

@@12weekrelationshipsI just discovered this channel and it is amazing. I have been listening to many podcasts but this channel is really different from the others. The jokes from time to time during the discussion makes it so authentic and funny. I hope we will be able to get more content from you guys

[@khoakdoan]

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[@williamdacosta9026]

NO SORRY YOU CAN'T

[@isoroelevield7138]

Can you do a talk about betrayal, but not just about cheating. Betrayal in general. For example, a husband saying bad things about his wife to another person, or a wife going against her husband when it comes to major decision making (having children, buying a house, etc.), Or a husband coming out as gay. Stuff that's also betrayal, but not infidelity.

[@bobbygrice140]

Annoying these kid acting!