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Cara's Way

Cara's Way

Күн бұрын

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@mariam.4009
@mariam.4009 11 ай бұрын
“I’ve been selectively loving only the parts of myself that I was proud of” 😮 that’s such a good way to put it
@sasha_nivar
@sasha_nivar 10 ай бұрын
100% agree I loved that !
@prabda
@prabda 9 ай бұрын
yess i felt so called out😭
@haisay8674
@haisay8674 7 ай бұрын
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
@lynn_xatt
@lynn_xatt Ай бұрын
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@colorchangingsoup
@colorchangingsoup 25 күн бұрын
Whats the point of loving something im not proud of?
@debbyvergoossen7610
@debbyvergoossen7610 10 ай бұрын
"If only I could give myself the same love and kindness and compassion I have for others" made me cry. I put so much love in the people around me and they hurt me in the longrun and then I'm destabalised all over again... I need to put that love into myself
@carasway_
@carasway_ 10 ай бұрын
You got this girl!! Lots of love xx
@debbyvergoossen7610
@debbyvergoossen7610 10 ай бұрын
@@carasway_ You really made a wonderful video!! Thank you for sharing your journey and creativity with the world
@nemar6508
@nemar6508 10 ай бұрын
how someone can hurt you. You looks gorgeous ​@@debbyvergoossen7610
@mrcojocaru
@mrcojocaru 10 ай бұрын
There are two invaluable things I've taught myself.. one is the quote in your first sentence. The second one is that when people hurt you in the infinite ways they find to do that, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. People don't hurt you because you deserve to be hurt, they hurt you because they are hurt in some way from their past. If you can convince yourself of that, it will hurt less. It will also help you understand why people do what they do.
@tomeryoutube1068
@tomeryoutube1068 9 ай бұрын
Hey, you’re beautiful, and whatever you so on YT if it’s brings you joy keep killing it 🙏🤙
@dolymsc
@dolymsc 10 ай бұрын
"felt like a betrayal of the progress I've made over the years"
@jrtg1990
@jrtg1990 10 ай бұрын
Felt this to the core after the second heartbreak in two consecutive years I thought the first one was the lesson. Didn't know the second one was even harder 😢
@theprehistoricbeaver4069
@theprehistoricbeaver4069 8 ай бұрын
that sentence is too real
@Lucsy3012
@Lucsy3012 10 ай бұрын
"true self-love isn’t about self-reliance or self-sufficiency, it’s about our interconnectedness with others and allowing to be vulnerable in their presence" is hitting
@Acorn905
@Acorn905 15 күн бұрын
Same! Ive had a difficult time with accepting that the peoples i know really do care about me and even if i find self love important i alsow need to fnd a balance between self love and other's love without depending to much on one or the other
@magomogu282
@magomogu282 8 ай бұрын
"we don't learn to fully love ourself in isolation because we don't exist in isolation" damn this hit. i always feel that im a better person when im alone and i like myself more when being isolated not realizing that it is actually because im not allowing myself to be vulnerable even with my own family
@carasway_
@carasway_ 8 ай бұрын
it is the hardest sometimes to be authentically yourself with family, but it is definitely a process we can learn to embrace more x
@yoelbacteria
@yoelbacteria 5 ай бұрын
@@carasway_ I don't know why some parts of us feels extremely shameful, regarding our sexuality or neurodivergencies for example. I don't know, sometimes I feel like a complete stranger in a room of full-loving life people.
@andrei-qx4tc
@andrei-qx4tc 3 ай бұрын
holy shit, that sure hit me hard🥲
@Gowrishankar9999
@Gowrishankar9999 2 ай бұрын
​@@carasway_ I got a doubt why do we need to be vulnerable in their presence and how come it's self love please explain
@suhaanijain4667
@suhaanijain4667 10 ай бұрын
I cried. Searching answers for months on Google didn't help me, reading self-help books didn't help me, talking to other people about it didn't help me, but this video brought my anxious mind to peace, knowing that I am not alone, feeling this way, that I have not gone mad. Thank you so so so so so much for creating something like this. I'll watch this periodically to remember who I really am and wish to be❤️
@mikey002
@mikey002 10 ай бұрын
♥️♥️♥️
@carasway_
@carasway_ 10 ай бұрын
Wow thank you for your kind words! It makes me so happy that it helped you in some way. Sending you lots of love ❤️
@haisay8674
@haisay8674 7 ай бұрын
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
@ArkyMassey
@ArkyMassey 6 ай бұрын
I've only been focusing on this girl who has recently ghosted me. This brings me peace. Writing all these words of wisdom down 😢❤
@defnotjia9586
@defnotjia9586 9 ай бұрын
"It hurts to love someone who couldn't love themselves. It's like watching a work of art setting itself on fire." - someone
@moulee7448
@moulee7448 8 ай бұрын
Wow this !!
@gurkicomaximo5914
@gurkicomaximo5914 10 ай бұрын
fuck me I just want to be held dearly and find someone that I am comfortable with, I cant believe im so starved for love that I would start getting attached to someone in a relationship. They made it clear that they arent looking to leave that relationship and yet I still held on to hope that it happens. What a sick twisted thought. Im grateful for this video because it shows how someone that is as reflected and beautiful as you also struggles with these things and makes me feel less alone. thanks to all the other comments for sharing parts of your life as well. I hope to find someone like you one day that I could love and this community gives me hope that it may happen, even if its unlikely
@Foi_Wanyeki
@Foi_Wanyeki 10 ай бұрын
Sometimes I feel like having hope is like a bandaid on that desire,... And that desire only keeps on festering.. I have moments where I take the bandaid off, go through the pain of believing that it will never happen for me,... And temporarily, I experience seasons of being okay with being alone. Until probably someone starts pursuing me, and for a minute I feel wanted and those desires come flooding in. I get desperately attached very first, and usually I am the one who turns them down because mostly the values I want are usually lacking. But then again.. I have to go through the painful experience of being okay by myself again😢. Atp, I feel like I'll not even give anyone space to pursue me anymore. I am more at peace alone and without having all those desires aroused only to hurt me again😢
@jayvishnuvenkatesh870
@jayvishnuvenkatesh870 10 ай бұрын
​@@Foi_WanyekiIt'll be okay. Remember to love and listen to yourself. Remember that you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be you. Your true self. And embracing it will help you find inner peace. The same way, the people around you, they try their best. Acknowledge their efforts and accept them whole heartedly. They're just like you, trying to be perfect and looking for meaning. Embracing them for who they truly are, instead of looking for perfection will put an end to the wild goose chase you're on. I sincerely hope everything gets better. Sending lots of love and hugs
@Foi_Wanyeki
@Foi_Wanyeki 10 ай бұрын
@@jayvishnuvenkatesh870 I appreciate your message. But you have assumed that I am looking for perfection.To clarify the reason as to why I do end things... Considering that we live in a hook up culture, most people want sex very first. There is no patiece to know each other well.I am not looking for perfection but it's important for one to have values, and not compromise themselves just to be with someone. Because in my opinion and from my experience, it takes time to really know someone for who they are. Having sex with them very early no matter how appealing they might appear to be, is not wise but a potential recipe for undesirable outcomes. For example you might learn that it's all they were after when you are already attached. Or they aren't who they portrayed themselves to be. Or find out things about them that are absolute deal breakers for you. So, I am better of alone than risking any of these. Just see how f'd up society is as a consequence of casual sex.
@jayvishnuvenkatesh870
@jayvishnuvenkatesh870 10 ай бұрын
@@Foi_Wanyeki It comforts me that we have the same values. My bad for assuming stuff, as you said, it's very hard to find someone today that knows sex is nothing about a relationship, especially ones that are really young. With your values, all you have to do is wait. Your person isn't going to be born after this, they're already waiting for you. Looking for you, and awaiting the moment you guys run into each other. That's going to be one of the best moments in both of your lives. Until that person arrives, why don't you take care of yourself good, because I know that they won't like it if you've been harsh on you, and neglecting yourself. So, do them (and you) a favor and appreciate yourself, and embrace. As the video says, embracing yourself - good and bad, is the only true way to be self loved. It takes time, a hell lotta time. But it does happen. And it's one of the best things ever. Happy that you replied, have a wonderful day friend!
@ArkyMassey
@ArkyMassey 6 ай бұрын
​@studylamp3512 I can so relate! I get attached really fast as well and just want validation 😢. When she ghosts me I cope, then eventually let go 🚶‍♂️ 😔
@brycemyles2010
@brycemyles2010 10 ай бұрын
I love the part about how we don’t learn to fully self love in isolation. When I feel the most down on myself I feel the need to isolate myself from others because I’m not worthy of them in that space… but ultimately it’s about accepting that no matter how we feel we are deserving of the presence of others
@annaelisabeth3028
@annaelisabeth3028 3 ай бұрын
" But no amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer the unconditional love that I crave." I am going to cherish this quote❤
@Bbuyiesun
@Bbuyiesun 3 ай бұрын
unconditional *
@konstantinlevin8651
@konstantinlevin8651 10 ай бұрын
hell yeah these days are the peak of content creation i guess. it's beautifully recorded and edited and feels like home. great job!
@joelstazFTW
@joelstazFTW 10 ай бұрын
That monologue during “shame” was something else, as if it were resonating from within me. I felt it truly, and I’ve always struggled with self love. Especially in these intimate moments when all I want is for someone to acknowledge my existence in the world and that I’m not alone in this journey. Thank you for making this
@carasway_
@carasway_ 10 ай бұрын
You are not alone. So glad you resonated🤍
@Gumiweunoia
@Gumiweunoia 3 ай бұрын
"we don't fully love ourselves in isolation, because we don't exist in isolation." thanks for this reminder
@san2011
@san2011 10 ай бұрын
I needed to hear "We don't learn to fully love ourselves in isolation", it resonates with my daily habits. Cheers to you for making such an inspiring monologue.
@lucasdesouza9674
@lucasdesouza9674 2 ай бұрын
The opening part “ the part of me that I’ve been desperately running away from has finally made its way back…but this time it’s here to stay” was so terrifying and beautiful
@Frozley
@Frozley 10 ай бұрын
At first I thought this video was going to be about relationships and was afraid that it would open up the wounds of my recent break up. The title and thumbnail just made it too hard not to open and I'm so happy I did because the message was something I really needed to hear. Beautiful video!
@avayoungblood2479
@avayoungblood2479 10 ай бұрын
“i don’t have to keep a perfect record, as long as i keep showing up, that’s all that matters.” that line spoke to my soul. thank you for being here + making the magic you do 🕉️
@takeinomiyas
@takeinomiyas 10 ай бұрын
i’m actually crying my eyes out typing this, everything about this was so beautiful, and hit home so hard. i’m so glad this video came onto my algorithm and while scrolling through the comments i’m sure most people who clicked on this feel the same way. self-love really is a process and even though it’s difficult to put a finger on the details of the processes, you brought it to life with this video, well done!!
@ComingInChimichangaHot
@ComingInChimichangaHot 9 ай бұрын
I know right, me too :”) I relate to this so much and I feel like this video is the reassurance and comfort that I’ve been needing after all that self doubt about the way I am
@mckamy4711
@mckamy4711 11 ай бұрын
I’ve been searching for a video like this for a while that would truly resonate with me and how I have been feeling. It is nice to know someone has been through a similar process. Thank you.
@carasway_
@carasway_ 11 ай бұрын
aww thank you so much!!
@sandrasplayplace
@sandrasplayplace 11 ай бұрын
This video is edited so beautifully just like a miniature movie it’s as if your not even talking about your self it’s like your painting a mural image with your words that slowly unfolds into real life from fantasy …keep going don’t force your self to be what everyone wants you to be life is difficult because we want to be accepted by any and all but the real acceptance comes from self 😊 I remember having a secret crush on a woman who was in a professional field but I could never express it directly so I felt as though I couldn’t truly face her life can make you feel all kinds of ways but never be ashamed of your natural feelings
@carasway_
@carasway_ 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for your beautiful message x lots of love ❤️
@rajashrees508
@rajashrees508 10 ай бұрын
I'm a psychology student and this video helped me so much to realize things. You put exactly those words that were scattered in my mind, l was wishing someone would make me understand what I was going through. I think this video in itself is therapy. If I become a therapist I'll play this to my clients for sure 😭
@carasway_
@carasway_ 10 ай бұрын
Aww thank you so much that means a lot xx
@nicksthink
@nicksthink 9 ай бұрын
the way you express yourself is very thoughtful and introspective and you still allow yourself to be confident in the words you say despite them making you vulnerable, its refreshing and not easy to do
@lisaaa7102
@lisaaa7102 10 ай бұрын
I have been struggling for a long time to love myself and have slowly been falling apart while trying to pretend that I was okay. Self-love is a journey. Growth is a lifetime of baby steps. Today, I am taking the first step towards healing and learning to appreciate myself just the way I am. I am not perfect and that is okay. Thank you for sharing your words and feelings and experience.
@pomegrannie
@pomegrannie 10 ай бұрын
‘we don’t learn to fully love ourselves in isolation, because we don’t exist in isolation’ 🤍
@sarakl8393
@sarakl8393 10 ай бұрын
Bell Hooks also shares this in her book ‘All About Love’, a beautiful quote
@eclecticd9953
@eclecticd9953 10 ай бұрын
@@sarakl8393gonna have to read that again
@Whasupmain
@Whasupmain 9 ай бұрын
Nice word's
@haisay8674
@haisay8674 7 ай бұрын
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you to give you his Holy Spirit and he died on the cross so that you can be saved from your sins if you accept
@Jessica-li9wj
@Jessica-li9wj 6 ай бұрын
I think it's so important that often times the things we see as weaknesses or flaws are also our biggest powers and our most important traits. You cannot have light without darkness
@jajsanir
@jajsanir 11 ай бұрын
This actually brought tears to my eyes. Your words felt so sincere and you articulated so well things that I have also felt, but could not express. Thank you for sharing this video! I feel encouraged and seen. I’m cheering for you!
@carasway_
@carasway_ 11 ай бұрын
Lots of love to you❤️
@mckamy4711
@mckamy4711 11 ай бұрын
You’re not alone.
@niellatabugoc7542
@niellatabugoc7542 Ай бұрын
I felt empty these past few days, and I thought seeking for just random guys could swiftly change my current situation. In fact, I’m only making things worst and worst. Thank you for this video. It helps me to realize that you don’t have to depend on your happiness for someone else, a true happiness starts within you.
@yabkakundi9065
@yabkakundi9065 10 ай бұрын
As I played the video , I could relate to each and every word that you were saying. Then I suddenly said to myself , "I honor you and love you for coming this far and gaining stability". Thanks for uploading this!
@atiny245
@atiny245 Ай бұрын
Its hard to comprehend for me how someone could be so similar yet so different from me? Its been a year since i have missed the self i created for me, the one i was really proud of and its been two years since i last saw her. And you made me realise, especially the part where you spoke that i didnt realise what i made for myself was so delicate, that perhaps that delicate self was due to partial acceptance of me, because i was shy of my shameful parts. Obviously life is a process and i might reach there or higher or lower someday but I'd always crave that feeling of being happy with myself. Its a meek feeling for me these days, but still its the best i have ever felt.
@runahem
@runahem 2 ай бұрын
Thankyou for these beautiful 9:12 minutes 🎉❤
@ritupegu710
@ritupegu710 3 ай бұрын
No amount of external validation could ever fill the void, unless I start to offer my unconditional love I crave
@monssevelazquezangon3134
@monssevelazquezangon3134 2 ай бұрын
Been struggling with my self-worth for a few weeks. Like in the video, it crept up and came as a shock because of all the effort and work I've done over the years to accept myself, or so I thought. I'm in constant anxiety and self- pìty seeking for validation and the desperate need for someone to love me. I felt my life falling apart, I'm without a steady income, haven't found a job, I'm a mom to a beautiful 3 y.o. and feel less productive as before, my marriage is at such a vulnerable point, and I just saw myself as a common factor, so I decided I'm the problem. And all that "work" I had done just crumbled. I've been seaking for something to explain to me what is going on, something that would help me and found nothing to comfort me. Then I came upon this video and it felt like sunshine, like something warm and kind, it all resonated with me deeply. I'm not alone, we are not alone and maybe that's the comfort that I needed, a little push to "keep showing up" for myself, and be compassionate with all of me. Thank you.
@davidoinsteinchristianson
@davidoinsteinchristianson 7 күн бұрын
Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@Sharon-b1s9g
@Sharon-b1s9g 7 күн бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
@davidoinsteinchristianson
@davidoinsteinchristianson 7 күн бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@Sharon-b1s9g
@Sharon-b1s9g 7 күн бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@davidoinsteinchristianson
@davidoinsteinchristianson 7 күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@valerianavarro8995
@valerianavarro8995 4 ай бұрын
i’ve NEVER felt something so personal like this, i really really really needed this. thank you.
@evaromanowski52
@evaromanowski52 10 ай бұрын
This is the most beautiful video I’ve ever seen, thank you for speaking so well about these complex emotions.
@Edwin58902
@Edwin58902 2 ай бұрын
Literally cried after watching your video, glad to know that I'm not the only one, It's a great video, Love It !
@chrissysymone
@chrissysymone 6 ай бұрын
I’m now crying at 3 am bc I’m constantly insecure about the relationships I have with people and it’s 100% that I’m not being vulnerable enough with them. Thank you so much for this. Your gift is beautiful ❤️ please keep sharing
@waftsofpetrichor
@waftsofpetrichor 5 ай бұрын
this answered a lot of questions for me. i shed some tears, reconnected with parts of myself that i had been neglecting, accepted truths about myself that i had been denying... nowadays i had been struggling to translate these intricate feelings of mine into words. your words really helped me. they felt like a big warm hug. thank you, i love you for this ❤🫂
@DF7GameFan32
@DF7GameFan32 2 ай бұрын
Thank you❤ As a man, I sometimes beat myself up for these weaknesses. This video made me tear up. Every bit of it is almost an exact reflection of what I have gone through or feel. I am currently in the beginning of chapter 4. After feeling the shame of a rejection that was with, "you're not healed enough," " you still got a lot of healing to do." Thank you for sharing, its nice to hear from others with similar situations if not the exact. I will now continue on my chapters with a smile knowing there is something working towards keeping it a smile 😊
@zibanildo
@zibanildo 10 ай бұрын
Just like you I started devouring self-help content, books, yt channels etc in an attempt to improve as fast as I could. At the same time I started to doubt that I would not repeat the same mistakes again. Your video is beautiful and made me once again realize that there will be challenges on the way and above all, made me remember this: "self-improvement is not a sprint, its a marathon". Thank you!
@luciatoralmenendez621
@luciatoralmenendez621 5 күн бұрын
I felt this video like if I had filmed it myself. Thank you so much for your sensitivity ❤
@searchingforaname
@searchingforaname Күн бұрын
I cried. This is what I needed. Thank you
@maharanirani54
@maharanirani54 9 ай бұрын
"If there's anything I am good at, it would be my ability to be extremely honest with my self". That's me, that's absolutely me.
@jesstorius9743
@jesstorius9743 10 ай бұрын
This video helps me feel like I'm not the only one going through this. It hurts seeing other people that seem more so much more secure. Thank you for this video
@Acorn905
@Acorn905 15 күн бұрын
A couple of weeks agow ive been really feeling alive, here in the moment and loved but these past few days have been rough and that last message about how growth takes time and how its okay to want love from others really helped. This video is very calming and well edited btw :) ❤
@ilovetheexosphere2978
@ilovetheexosphere2978 Ай бұрын
you and i are completely alike. thank you for sharing this, you have helped so many people just like you, and we all wish for peace, so thank you for helping us accept things and see ways for change
@Daomakesmusic
@Daomakesmusic 3 ай бұрын
This videos beautiful. It’s helping me in an area I’m in currently… thank you
@CyberDorkus
@CyberDorkus 4 ай бұрын
This hit different, but thank you for putting your experience into words. It resonated with my experience so much. I start therapy next Wednesday to hopefully come out of it a stronger believer in myself and hopefully as the grander plan of things takes its course, I'll find someone that'll understand I just wanted to love and be loved in return.
@DeadPool-ok9iq
@DeadPool-ok9iq 2 ай бұрын
I am so glad youtube recommended me this video.I literally felt like I was seeing a reflection of myself.
@utube_snakeu553
@utube_snakeu553 10 ай бұрын
I wasn't feeling very good today, and I saw your video and it would be an understatement to say that I LOVED it. Made me feel seen and everything good. I feel so much lighter now, it's such a heartwarming video. 🥺💌
@carasway_
@carasway_ 10 ай бұрын
So glad that it made you feel better x
@samcolvin8294
@samcolvin8294 Ай бұрын
This video means a lot to me. 6 months ago every stilt that I propped up my self-confidence on was swept out from under me in the course of an hour. I've spent the past months in this period, the one of self-reflection, isolation, learning to love myself in ways that I now see may be somewhat shallow. I still harbour resentment, still feel venomous comments that'll never be spoken bubble up inside me though I tell myself it was for the best, that they did me a favour. I haven't broken the hermetic seal on my self--improvement journey yet and this video makes me realise breaking that seal will bring on a whole new set of trials but, screw it. I might not love all of myself, but I love a lot more of myself than I did before. Who can ask for anything more?
@Mystic_Paths
@Mystic_Paths 2 ай бұрын
Love can be a double edged sword, it’s not always simple or easy to give or receive. And when people feel unworthy or struggle with their own self esteem, their craving for love might turn into a sense of desperation or dissatisfaction.
@333Kandis
@333Kandis 11 ай бұрын
This video speaks so dearly to me, and gets at the core of my soul. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. You should be a therapist if that isn’t your current position ❤
@charliedavies6731
@charliedavies6731 9 ай бұрын
When you mentioned that you only loved the parts of you that you're proud is such a great insight that many of us can relate to. A lot of self help information revolves around taking the steps necessary to reach your goals so you can ultimately feel happy. As much as I feel this advice helps a lot of people, you have rightly pointed out that just focusing on and praising your achievements/highs leaves little room for loving the other, less desirable, parts of you. Loving yourself unconditionally puts you on a path to anti-fragility, where one cannot just withstand a shock, but actually improve from it. Great video, love from Scotland
@auheralig
@auheralig 10 ай бұрын
hi dear, just wanted to say this video helped me a lot. it also break me to the pieces, i had to pause the video go to bathroom and cry for half an hour. i watched it once then i watched it again. i think the good part about it is, how seen i felt. your words felt like a hug, like gentle wind on my shoulder. knowing that i know my problems, i know where my scars are, knowing everything because i am too self aware feels like punishment sometimes. but being loved is being known right. everyday i am trying to love myself better, the same love that i am willingly give to everything around me. i am trying to reach out more instead of isolating myself, i am trying to hold my own hands in the days everything feels wrong. i cried a lot in this video but at the same time it helped. so thank you, i hope you know how many people feel seen and understood thanks to you. sending you lots of love
@carasway_
@carasway_ 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so so much!! It means the world that you resonate with it. Don't be so harsh on yourself and take it slow:) sending you lots of love back🩷
@staraell
@staraell 6 ай бұрын
this video perfectly encapsulates how I've been feeling for years. i am young, in fact, not even close to 18 yet but at my ripe age i am overwhelmed by the feeling of perfectionism which led to being overly critical of myself. for months ive been trying to heal on my own. neglecting my authentic self, burying it and replacing with a complete identity that fits the standard. this video serves as a warm hug and soft voice for me. thank you for this 😢❤
@r.s.fletcher7066
@r.s.fletcher7066 10 ай бұрын
Wise words Cara, I can tell a lot of diligent nurturing was compressed into this brief reminder. Sometimes I unearth these quieter corners of the internet that flabbergrasps my perception and slaps me into a completely different direction😌
@estebanguardia9539
@estebanguardia9539 8 ай бұрын
My god, the way you put your feelings into words is simply outstanding! I've been feeling the exact same way but never been able to express it. This video has made reflect deeply and gave me a whole new perspective. Thank you for sharing this!
@carasway_
@carasway_ 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for liking it x
@zullsardar4799
@zullsardar4799 5 ай бұрын
Not lying, this is my comfort video. I keep coming back to it. I am here for the 3rd time. Such a beautiful video.
@IDyani261
@IDyani261 11 ай бұрын
The visuals, the sound, the overall delivery of this beautiful message was just so amazing 🥲. Thanks for sharing ❤️
@irajvirsingh
@irajvirsingh 18 күн бұрын
I don't know what to say. I have been going through the exact same thing. Except to give time to repair, I have tried forcefully speed up by distracting myself from pain. But It's just temporary and the moment I try to do something deeply within myself, I feel that pain! What you said is so true!
@diyakawafaeq
@diyakawafaeq 9 ай бұрын
This video felt like a hug. Thank you for making it.
@braylondaniels9412
@braylondaniels9412 10 ай бұрын
i wrote something very similar to this a little over an hour ago, this cleared up a lot of things i couldn’t see from the emotional state i’m in, thank you for the honesty you brought to this video
@Thinker814
@Thinker814 8 ай бұрын
Wow, you’re a great writer! I expected to hear cliche from seeing the thumbnail (never watched any of your work before) but this was so honest and so thoughtful! Loved it.
@carasway_
@carasway_ 8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for the kind words!
@-x_lucy_x-
@-x_lucy_x- 7 ай бұрын
Watched this video and instantly subscribed. Your videos are something truly special, they feel like such a comforting safe space. Thank you for all of your hard work, you are such an inspiration girl xx Also your singing at the end was beautiful!xx
@angelolopez8720
@angelolopez8720 Ай бұрын
I am very proud of you and I admire your abilities to be honest with yourself, to go through these things with courage, and to fully embrace the bittersweet. I also want to thank you for the time, love, and dedication for making this video for others to see. The script, film, and editing was impeccable. The subject matter was something very much of philosophical importance and substance, I really enjoyed it. It was particularly appealing to me and relatable because I assimilate it with my own situation at the moment. I came to a lot of realizations about life that I couldn’t possibly put it all here and I had to write it in a personal paper. Even when I am majoring in psychology and I am very introspective like you, you still managed to come to these powerful realizations yourself and that is very much inspiring. I wanted to take my time to write you this and to express my feelings, and if you ever need someone to talk to, I am always here genuinely. It’s hard for me to find people like you nowadays! Thank you! :)
@carasway_
@carasway_ Ай бұрын
Thank you for the comment! I made this piece purely to release the energy into the universe and hope to feel better by laying out all my thoughts in front of me. I'm genuinely in awe how something so personal is actually experienced by so many people out there. Despite we're all so different, the fact that we are bonded over shared emotions and circumstances is absolutely beautiful. And I'm so glad you found this video and decided to leave a comment:) I'd love to connect and chat so please reach out to my Instagram! Thanks!
@Dragonaiis
@Dragonaiis 4 ай бұрын
I've realized this too. I think "I could love myself if I simply had control over my life and how I act, if I never let myself falter in front of people" but then I have to remind myself. I don't exist in a vacuum, I can't pretend like this world won't change or shift me, because it will. Instead, I can accept myself as a person, with flaws and insecurities that may never go away, and I think within the capacity to love flaws itself is what helps you to truly see that in other people too. I think that's what I have been missing honestly. So thank you. This helped me.
@remedy8809
@remedy8809 5 ай бұрын
I have played this video on loop for I don't know how long. I fell back into my old feelings just last night and couldn't stop shaking and frantically searching for a way out until I found this video. This video encompassed everything I had felt and saw inside of myself. Three days ago I lost someone who I put so much of my love into. I had been in relationships before, but this one I enjoyed so much I began to lose my confidence and small out of fear. Thank you for making me not feel alone
@carasway_
@carasway_ 4 ай бұрын
I hope you're feeling better x big hugs to you🩷
@nellie5607
@nellie5607 10 ай бұрын
wow found this video randomly and subscribed! What an honest and beautiful video, also loved seeing the city i lived in before documented like this, made me miss it a lot
@remo.neilwe
@remo.neilwe 10 ай бұрын
this is so powerful. i needed to hear this. thank you so much for this, your words, vulnerability and art.
@yvanboxtel33
@yvanboxtel33 10 ай бұрын
It was like hearing myself talk, thankyou for this video and making others feel like they are not alone ❤
@reginehunter
@reginehunter 3 ай бұрын
this is the best video i’ve seen on youtube. i am sobbing right now because this is exactly what i’m going through. for some reason i can give grace and compassion to everyone else but can’t seem to do it for myself. i was told inner child healing will help me so i’ll see. definitely saving this video to watch again and again
@soharaaaaaaaaaaaa
@soharaaaaaaaaaaaa 11 ай бұрын
This was really comforting and honestly shocking that someone else is feeling the same exact way I am. It makes me happy to know that I'm not alone. I love what you put out to the world, keep it up ❤❤❤
@taylorrobb13
@taylorrobb13 10 ай бұрын
thank you. i really needed to hear this- it’s quite literally exactly what i needed to hear in this moment so thank you. so much ❤
@lostinadmiration
@lostinadmiration 4 ай бұрын
What a beautiful journey of self-reflection, growth and vulnerability! Sending you a big hug!
@abbeyraynes
@abbeyraynes 10 ай бұрын
love love LOVE this! these are probably my favorite types of youtube videos because i always find them when i most need them, and knowing that every person has these thoughts and feelings makes me feel less alone in this process. thank you for making this video
@vhopseok
@vhopseok 10 ай бұрын
i was in the turmoils of a short relationship when you posted this and now after the breakup what you have created showed me how much i lock my emotions inside just like the little girl in me did. he told me i was too clingy physically i felt unloved now this video made me realize how much love i needed to give to my inner child especially in a relationship. how i need to ground myself in having a separate identity that’s different from my partner and it’s perfectly okay. how it’s perfectly ok to feel deeply about everything and in the long run how beautiful pain can be. he may not have loved me but i would have loved that clingy girl who just wanted to be held everyday and be listened to with an open heart
@eazyjosh
@eazyjosh 10 ай бұрын
is it just me or female asian KZbinrs are really good at storytelling
@HM87520
@HM87520 8 ай бұрын
*Asian Women, not "female asian". 😊
@reshelove2005
@reshelove2005 6 ай бұрын
yess
@itssacmac
@itssacmac 6 күн бұрын
😂😂😂❤
@hamzajunaid8128
@hamzajunaid8128 4 ай бұрын
this was such beautifully done, i am in awe. this is my fav video on KZbin
@puca3569
@puca3569 3 ай бұрын
Hey you probably won't see this. I am so thankful to stumble upon this video. It probably wasn't easy to share these vulnerable stories and feelings. I feel less alone thanks to this video. Thank you.
@arnabsaha949
@arnabsaha949 3 ай бұрын
I am missing the warmth of love and her being my side, I know future holds beautiful things but the guilt and remorse of losing such a pure beautiful soul is eating me day by day. I know no one will ever match that level of comfort and love that I had and hope to have with her in future. Looking for answers and reading all those similar stories in the internet, talking to friends and having a nice time with your go to gang is all temporary comfort and honestly I am getting a sick of it too now. I fucked up big time and its killing me every second. I don't why I am writing this and at this point I don't even wanna delete it.
@eeevan7939
@eeevan7939 10 ай бұрын
Glad youtube brought me here, your insights are wonderful. It's crazy how well you can put my thoughts into words. I'm not quite through chapter 3 in my own life, but this gives me hope things will get better
@Cherrycreamsoda1
@Cherrycreamsoda1 3 ай бұрын
It’s so cool to see someone who lives in England too (though you make it look much more glamorous with your amazing videography :)) I’m 24 and I feel like a nobody. I’m just starting again. I’m battling depression after loss and trying to restart my education (though it’s not easy), and self love is so hard at this point is so difficult I’d rather not think about myself at all. But what you said about self compassion is definitely true - even if I can’t love myself yet, I can still set boundaries and allow myself the space to heal without feeling guilty about it. I always fantasise about being in a relationship even though I’ve never been able to find one but I know that’ll be impossible until I can find inner peace. Great video ❤
@LauraRicardo06
@LauraRicardo06 12 күн бұрын
At chapter 3, you said everything i am out of this damaged heart. A perfectionist. I think now that i never was a perfectionist. Maybe that was the "old me" trying to say to stop refusing my pain. Well, i think i'm not the only one who was trying to refusing this and just believed beeing this person that i actually never was. That was just my pain talking, not me. Sorry if my english is a little bit confused, i'm still learning. By the way, great video! Hello from Brazil!
@batuhan6180
@batuhan6180 3 ай бұрын
This video makes you feel like you've finally put all the pieces of the puzzle together... It is obvious that you prepared this video with incredible effort. Thanks.
@polina3871
@polina3871 11 ай бұрын
I'm so glad you're back! When I was sad, I watched all your videos. I really love your videos! and I always wait for them!!!!🥺🥺🥺❤️
@carasway_
@carasway_ 11 ай бұрын
Aww thank you for sticking around 🩷
@Garyy.8
@Garyy.8 7 ай бұрын
My heart feels warm while reading all this comments , people coming here and sharing their personal experiences with others so that they don't repeat the mistakes , it just feels like I am reunited with a family that had been lost for years
@thisismarlonanthony
@thisismarlonanthony 10 ай бұрын
This is one of the most well thought out, most beautiful video I have ever watched. Thank you so much. Thank you for not only growing for yourself but growing for us and sharing it with the world. ❤️
@carasway_
@carasway_ 10 ай бұрын
Thank you! That means a lot ❤️
@rosieisrighteou
@rosieisrighteou 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for making this video. I’m going through a tough time right now and some heartbreak, but this offered me hope ❤
@maijakosunen8140
@maijakosunen8140 10 ай бұрын
This was exactly what I needed right now.
@Jamal-mi7pb
@Jamal-mi7pb 2 ай бұрын
Oh girllll! You truly capture the feelings of every girl out there who dreams of being chosen and embracing herself just as she is! Your words beautifully express what’s been on my mind! Sending you lots of hugs 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 and you’re doing a greatttttttt job!
@hiena8630
@hiena8630 10 ай бұрын
Chapter 3 hit hard, amazing video, it felt so personal and intimate but so familiar
@chitritahazra622
@chitritahazra622 3 ай бұрын
Cried the whole 9mins...your words soothes my soul... It is really it is what I have been looking for years🖤
@AnubhutiMishra-g8z
@AnubhutiMishra-g8z 4 ай бұрын
Our worlds couldn't be more different, and yet the things you've said describe me like nothing ever has done before. I thought i was alone in thinking this way, and i didn't even know how much overwhelming joy there is to be felt when you find someone like yourself. I'm so so thankful that i decided to click on this random video. Thank you Cara! And yes, i cried.
@AJ12796
@AJ12796 6 ай бұрын
This is the first time to see your video and profile, and what to say? I REALLY LOVE THIS VIDEO. It made me reflect more about myself. NEW FAN HERE!!! proud to watch this video Cara!
@carasway_
@carasway_ 6 ай бұрын
Thank you!!!
@34fzbiovn
@34fzbiovn 7 ай бұрын
one of my favourite videos ever. it gives me so much comfort & happiness seeing people being vulnerable enough to show their struggles and not making everyone believe that they should be perfect or be independent all the time
@jeffreyou19
@jeffreyou19 7 ай бұрын
this is a beautiful work of art, it makes me happy how articulate and in touch with your emotions you are. Your work has undoubtedly made a significant impact to myself and others who resonate with your words and are moved by your cinematography. Thank you so much for creating this video and creating an environment to be vulnerable, you have a beautiful soul ❤
@Eddy030-v8m
@Eddy030-v8m 3 ай бұрын
You can't imagine how I relate to this video. Your words litterally translated my feelings and Your jouney to try to heal urself made me really emotional and inspired. I feel like this video is going to live in my mind for years and I will come back and rewatch it when I need. so thank you for sharing ur experience and thank you for this great video, I hope all of us can give the love we need to ourself.
@humnaytuizuihnaobuonthayte3716
@humnaytuizuihnaobuonthayte3716 5 ай бұрын
This’s definitely what i need rn 😭😭😭 The feeling of betrayal to all the process i made before hit me so hard that I barely can not understand anything. Tysm for being here, in an exactly time that i need this the most. So happy and grateful for you to overcome all of this and then spreading the messages for people out here ❤
@leilies
@leilies 5 ай бұрын
idk what to say. i’ve been struggling since college started bc the self-doubt was so strong and i’ve felt so out of control due to my thoughts yet i think i’m going to be okay now. this vid was comforting to watch. tysm bc you explained it so well
@Lalalalala98872
@Lalalalala98872 5 ай бұрын
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