Caught My Daughter Messing Around With Her Boyfriend!

Caught My Daughter Messing Around With Her Boyfriend!
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[@lovelife7343]

From a former 16 year old girl. We all feel serious and in love. Protect your kids for their future and from themselves they are not mature enough for intamacy .

[@LizzieD8503]

Amen. 💯 We don’t even realize until hindsight kicks in how incredibly childish, and naive, and immature we still were at that age - it’s a dangerous immaturity, because mentally and physically we’re so much more independent as teens, but common sense and safety and foresight has nothing to do with decision-making at that age: desire and emotions are running the ship, which is why firm parental boundaries and lots of communication and teaching is so so important.

[@pm71241]

Nonsense... It's of course individual, but there's nothing saying that no-one can be ready for intimacy at 16. (except religious dogma) Your job as a parent is not to be morality police, but to help (if possible without being intrusive) them to get as positive and safe a start with intimacy as possible. If they have a boy/girl-friend who is respectful, patient and loving don't make them feel guilty for taking the opportunity to not get a bad start by trying it out now.

[@TstormVA2012]

This a conversation to be had before the daughter started dating.

[@midnitespecialist4872]

exactly! should’ve set boundaries before they even started dating

[@DCARA06]

Yeah true BUT guess what, they’d probably still be here in the same situation

[@cjwsk12]

You're right but most teens aren't able to control their raging hormones and things will still get out of hand

[@candiwarner3544]

Uh. Yeah! Lol

[@Matt-cr4vv]

And what do you think that changes? Having the sex talk with my parents didn’t prevent choosing to have sex. The talk doesn’t suddenly prevent couples having sex and guaranteeing abstinence. If parents really wanted to have a proper discussion on the topic they’d focus on the total picture and especially focus on safe sex and understanding contraception. The long game is expressing your concern that they’re too young to have sex and encouraging them to wait but understanding that sex happens and making sure that if they do choose to have sex they have the proper knowledge to be safe. Because counting on abstinence is the riskiest game you can play because the reality is if teens want to have sex they’ll find ways ti have sex. My parents were not supportive of that at all but as a high schooler my mind was made up and I found ways to make it happen. And that doesn’t mean endorse them to have sex but it does mean prepare so that if they do make that decision it’s the safest it can be.

[@lks6248]

40 odd years ago my mother’s approach was to keep reminding me that if I ever got pregnant she would absolutely strangle me. That kind of worked!

[@ReddingRed]

My mom told girls I dated, "I don't know what I'd do if Martin ever came home and told me he got someone pregnant". She was the original c-blocker!

[@eclipse.5295]

@@ReddingRed 😂

[@Mrs.Buttercup_]

My dad threatened to kill all my older sister's bfs with a shot gun. 😂 He was not playing. I just got better at hiding it. I never introduced anyone until I already dated them for a year.

[@johniii8147]

My mother always said I'm not raising a grandchild. She's was practical about these things and the first to buy me condoms. She wasn't encouraging it, but smart enough to know what was going to happen so made sure i had the tools.

[@johniii8147]

@@Mrs.Buttercup_ See that didn't really stop anything the threats. Just made you lie more.

[@vanessathomason1793]

I'm a parent of a girl, & with her current (new) relationship, the boy's mama requested I confirm with her that we would be at home while they were at our house (apparently there's been some kind of issue in his past). I appreciated that the mama was wanting to know our values & protect both our kids.

[@betsyr4724]

Been there Walked in on my daughter and her boyfriend when I came home for lunch. And Immediately heard him ask ‘What’s your mom doing home? Went yo work and cried all afternoon. When I got home she wanted permission to do it in my house. No way ever until she’s married

[@a33m3a]

@@betsyr4724 they’re gonna do it anyway. Better teach them safely and provide them with a safe space under your roof than in a rando’s house during a party when drinking and drugs are involved.

[@Bertuzz84]

Value and protect ? You mean control more likely. If they are 16 years old it should be their free choice.

[@maryann7619]

@@a33m3a BS. Raise kids with respect for themselves. DO NOT fall for the trash values of today's society.

[@maryann7619]

@@Bertuzz84 Grow up. At 16, if you can house, clothe, feed, and, most importantly, raise a baby then fine. If you cannot, keep your legs crossed. Want success? Follow these 3 steps *in order*: high school diploma, get married, have kids. Proven *FACT*

[@murraybeachtel8585]

These parents are playing chess while most are playing checkers. Kudos for having your hearts in the right place, being measured in your response, and wanting to make the best choices to guide your kids into being adults with the right values.

[@rkadri82]

To the people who dont like his interrupting, he is leading the conversation. His primary job is a doctor helping a patient. It is not to allow us to hear an entertaining story.

[@brookesmith1550]

Interrupting is immature and all selfish.. It’s not leading a conversation. It’s making the conversation about themselves.

[@lisaharris1492]

It's annoying

[@gusplaer]

If that was the case they wouldn't have filmed and aired the conversation. It is entertainment and yes they money off of it.

[@ryankelly8077]

He’s not an actual “doctor”… so level of expectations on how much he can help should be minimal

[@mattmcgovern6448]

@@ryankelly8077 he has two PH.d degrees.

[@phil3924]

The number of parents who would be totally cool with this is scary. I have wanted to literally knock some sense into my foster son’s girlfriend’s parents.

[@brightpage1020]

Also the other way. Few years back we told our teen daughter’s boyfriend’s parents about their secret meetings we’d found out about because she asked me to get her the morning after pill, and they beat their boy.

[@firefly9838]

Cry harder, Phil

[@Matt-cr4vv]

I’m not saying you need to sign off on it but you do need to be realistic that if they want to do it they’re going to find a way to do it whether you want to believe that or not. So teach them your values, encourage them to wait, open lines of communication but also make sure they understand safe sex so that if they make that choice it isn’t catastrophic. But beating up your kid for having sex isn’t going to suddenly make them not want to have sex anymore as much as the archaic past may make you want to believe that.

[@phil3924]

@@Matt-cr4vv The parents are the ones who need some sense, I wouldn’t expect kids to. Parents at the very least need to make it a challenge to fool around. The number of parents who are cool with sleepovers is astounding.

[@pm71241]

No it's not ... what's scary is the religious dogma which makes it a priority to prevent teenage intimacy at all cost instead of supporting them in getting the best start possible under safe conditions. FYI... the legal age of consent in a lot of European countries is 15yo ... In Germany it's even 14yo. Don't make a big fuzz about 16yo making out in your home. It's about the safest conditions for them imaginable. ... would you rather it happened at some frat-party she'd sneaked away to?

[@Lizestechreviews]

Remember, the more controlling you are with kids the more they want to do what they arnt supposed to. Talking to his parents will not work, worry about your own kid.

[@johniii8147]

Yes and have that serious talk about birth control. The cat's out of the bag so you're not going to stop it. Teach how to be smart about it.

[@SarahR2D2]

So you let your kids put their hands on a stove or a light socket? Thank God my kids will be homeschooled

[@whitneyw.7919]

not true. If you're not "controlling" which i'm assuming you mean having rules, especially unpopular rules, then they just grow up thinking that those things are okay and will still do them. They just won't feel shame or guilt for doing them. For example, most pple experiment w/ drugs and alcohol at some point, some parents aren't "controlling" and allow their kids to drink or try other drugs in their basement. Those pple still drink a lot, people w/ "controlling" parents often drink too (though usually later). Most kids whose parents weren't "controlling" that I knew in high school now have mild alcohol problems. This is just one example.A lot of it has to do w/ the child's temperament as well.

[@suen5006]

@@SarahR2D2 you can only keep them locked in the house for so long. You are dreaming if you think you can really control them.

[@kolenadeau1345]

Controlling parents ruin children more than abuse ever could

[@kimlisowski1670]

I disagree. I’ve raised two sons. You cannot call other parents. Her daughter will be mad. Do not allow her to go to his home. Let him visit her with boundaries in your own home. She needs to have open communication with her daughter. Are you going to call every boyfriend she has or what she does hanging around other girls. You can’t call every parent. Raise your daughter with good values and open communication. I was raised by loving parents and my dad was a police officer. Kids will experiment but they need a strong family relationship to return to. The daughter won’t tell her parents anything if they call all her friends parents

[@jones2277]

why does it matter if the daughter is mad? what about the parents being mad?

[@patriciavasara1051]

As a 50 yr old woman I fully agree with every word you wrote. The most important tools that girl needs is a strong self-esteem, a loving relationship with her family and a talk on contraceptives. If mom calls his parents daughter will loose trust on her and cut comms or hide stuff from her. It will cause the opposite reaction. This is a helicopter mother on steroids.

[@brendahartstern4565]

If your kid is not mad at you at some point in their adolescents you are not doing your job

[@algirdasltu1389]

​@@jones2277 why the fck would she trust her parents if they do all this? She will just lie more and eventually get better at it.

[@joshuahealy2228]

Geez Dr. John this was a rough call to listen too. Just let her talk for a sec without interrupting

[@ReddingRed]

Remember...he doesn't take cold calls. He already knew what to expect and he's embarrassed and embarrassing. I tune in from time to time just to hear how awful he is at counseling.

[@carstuff4u942]

He does that all the time.

[@brookesmith1550]

He likes to hear himself talk useless jibber jabber

[@natef1504]

He interrupts every call. Super annoying

[@turo9992000]

He thinks all calls need to be funny.

[@linhaton4957]

At sixteen, his parents should be told. His parents are responsible for his well being. If they were over 18 I'd let it be. I'd rather my daughter be mad at me.

[@richthepup]

Fair enough

[@jones2277]

exactly. they're minors.

[@mamadurk8935]

He is so annoying, he won’t let any of his guests talk. It totally takes away from the show

[@karenadams2512]

I know I can't it.

[@agoogleabuser1233]

My exact same thought!

[@Sunset1705]

Right, he talks about her beating around the bush but his constantly interrupting her makes it worse. Keep having to double click forward to get to the point.

[@johnbollea]

He was very annoying during this call

[@rithvikmuthyalapati9754]

He isn't interrupting. It is his job to direct the conversation to a solution, not to be a form of entertainment for us.

[@markekins4769]

Hey doctor D is way smarter than me but I'm just curious if anybody else feels like he interrupts a lot? I mean I know he is building report and making people feel comfortable in some difficult situations but at some point shouldn't you just allow someone to tell their story uninterrupted so you aren't influencing it along the way? Just hear their heart. And then take it apart and unravel it from there.

[@brookesmith1550]

He interrupts all the time! He loves to hear himself talk. It’s awful! He needs to get a clue!

[@markekins4769]

@@brookesmith1550 Yeah he is a tough watch for me sometimes, but really he is quite smart and a lot of the advice that he gives is pretty sound and at least worth considering so I still watch him but his flow is choppy. He is trying to make radio Psychiatry entertaining and so people will watch/listen , but the personalities and issues are interesting enough. ... let them be

[@karenadams2512]

He never shuts up. He needs to let the people who call in talk. Everything doesn't need to be a big laughy joke. He tries too hard to come across as cool

[@sarahwaters8262]

He's building *rapport*

[@markekins4769]

@@sarahwaters8262 right. That's what we originally said. We get that part. I guess the people who agree feels its a touch over the top and dominating/ forcing the tone of a caller as opposed to reading what the caller is giving them and playing off that. -- its not really a criticism of him either, I am just expressing I would like to hear the caller share what is on there heart without him operating the emotional/ delivery side of it with so many early interruptions.

[@Houndsunite]

This mom is awesome 👏🏼 no, the parents are both awesome they are a unit on this one :) so refreshing to hear about

[@deniseneuendorf3577]

John probably wouldn’t find this nearly as hilarious if same mom calls him back saying she needs help raising grandchild while unmarried 17 yr. old finishes school. Or daughter confessed she had an abortion. I couldn’t believe there was no mention of birth control.

[@asacor9435]

I JUST COMMENTED THAT THE #1 THING IS TO GET HER ON BIRTH CONTROL !

[@whitneyw.7919]

birth control doesn't really stop it. look at how many "whoops" babies there are when there are literally 15 different kinds of birth control available. Also, it screws up your hormones and body

[@asacor9435]

@@whitneyw.7919 So an unwanted pregnancy somehow doesn't mess with your hormones and destroys your body? 😂 On top of that. Destroys your finances plus your free time ?

[@maryann7619]

@@asacor9435 No justification for killing your baby for lack of free time.

[@channtastic]

@@asacor9435 Yes, but birth control unnaturally affects hormones in women, not to mention other horrible side effects. It is pushed on women by doctors and big pharma using propaganda without actually explain to women what it is or what it does.

[@greasyboy349]

Stop with all the shenanigans and listen

[@gainesdominique]

Teen pregnancy is a joke! Laugh along.

[@positvelyexpectant1383]

Honest feedback: I listen because of the great topics and John's approach. However I agree with the comments that his constant interruptions sometimes sways the conversation before the full story is out. Would appreciate if in the beginning the call is allowed to explain uninterrupted and then he inputs if it's not coming out clearly. But there's no way seconds into a call you're joking, asking random stuff or constantly mentioning your life/kids/parents/friends or you're not smart/good looking. Just chill dude, we like you and we're listening let it flow.

[@ravenestrella2310]

Hahaha!!! This has to be the most self-centered thing I've heard in a long time! Let me get this straight...there's people calling in with major life issues, and you and everyone else whining about his style us sitting here complaining because he's not being entertaining enough for you? Did it ever occur to you that this isn't about entertaining you, it's about helping the caller, who's infinitely more important in all of this than you are? The funny thing here is that he:even is bring chill! He's laughing and having a good time! The ones being uptight are you and everyone else trying to tell him how to do his job! Did it ever occur to you for even a minute that when he's talking to a caller, it's not about entertaining you, it's about helping them? It's pretty self-centered to think that when there's a person going through a major life crisis what matters most is entertaining you, not helping them! Seriously?! How selfish can you and everyone else whining about him not being entertaining enough be?! Haha! Quit being so uptight that you're sitting here trying to micromanage him! He's the one with the PhD in Psychology from Harvard! He knows full well how to manage these calls--better than you do! And these calls aren't about entertaining you, they're about helping the caller! LOL! Quit being so uptight yourself that you can't just relax, and let him do his job! Realize these calls aren't about you, they're about helping the caller, who, considering they're going through a major life issue, is infinitely more important than you are--and that, as the one with a PhD in psychology from Harvard, John knows how to help infinitely better than you do!

[@et9093]

Um yea that's why you don't have any boyfriends in the room and allow them to have their door closed. If they ain't paying bills, they have no say!

[@samu-chan]

what if they offer to pay bills

[@sopranosd]

@@samu-chan you are my hero

[@JoelWende]

And that’s how you end up with a pregnant 16 year old after they’ve shagged behind the school shed. Education rather than restriction is the key!

[@Hamyhamster24]

As someone who was raised in a controlling home growing up, please do not try to control your kids!! It’ll mess them up way into adulthood more than you know. I’m still trying to unlearn a lot of my upbringings and it’s been a hard journey

[@deus_vult8111]

we need more control in society

[@johnkeane320]

Maybe stop interrupting every 5 seconds and she'll explain what happened.

[@teetawn9454]

yes, please

[@jayg4468]

Teen pregnancy here we come

[@paulaaquino]

I did miss the birth control talk here...

[@gailcole9913]

Right. Where is the birth control conversation??

[@dianedistefano9802]

I think that this was handled with too much joking and laughter on both sides that the good advice he gave her was almost missed. (I know mom couldn’t help it as it was her defense mechanism).I had to listen a couple of times to figure out what the final conclusion he came up with since it was scattered through the conversation. I am glad that the parents are addressing it and not shrugging it off as “teenagers will be teenagers.”

[@sonja9032]

Yeah, this is serious and many teenagers abstain. These choices have serious ramifications.

[@rippfkmarlo647]

I do not see what is wrong with them being 16 and doing that

[@RealGalaxyGamers]

@@rippfkmarlo647 1. Illegal 2. Immoral

[@rippfkmarlo647]

@@RealGalaxyGamers I disagree, you forget that there is a world outside of the United States

[@aubreyalbanese4440]

@@RealGalaxyGamers in Kentucky the age of consent is 16. 🤷‍♀️

[@jaemibean6682]

She is way too giggly I wouldn’t find this humorous at all.

[@random-nz7dy]

She's nervous calling in to a radio show and he kept making jokes. She kept probably feeling like she had to laugh because he kept making a joke out of everything

[@racheltarentino3314]

Its not really funny but it is very awkward

[@camryyyn.s]

She’s most likely white …

[@mamasotherdaughter4982]

​@@racheltarentino3314 I do get giggly and stutterish when I'm feeling awkward or nervous 😓 It's definitely a problem, hopefully I grow out of it soon

[@sopranosd]

Dude, lighten up. She's nervous, both on the call and discussing an uncomfortable subject. I think she's awesome.

[@dr.aasiyahghazi9168]

This lady’s laugh is concerning because I know it’s a defense mechanism. I hope she’s able to work it out cause boundaries definitely need to be set for the kids…especially if they try to fool around in the house. But she needs to be okay - her laughter was just too much to listen to cause it felt so awkward.

[@heathploski1819]

Yeah much better to fool around in a church Parking lot and get an indecent exposure charge.

[@tompickering]

Yeah - fooling around in the house is bad. She should get pregnant in a parking lot like all the other kids. Sheeeesh....

[@gainesdominique]

Where are the fathers? General question.

[@cloudedcolour5329]

the father was discussed in this but this conversation should have been had from the beginning

[@kimberlysmith7625]

@@cloudedcolour5329 ......agree. These kind of conversations need to take place long before your teen starts dating.

[@FloydofOz]

Deloney needs to shut the heck up and let the callers ask the question. He interrupts so much.

[@aislcsales]

He is a fake beta male. He is so fake I cant stand the "Ramsey personalities". I want the old school papa Dave hard truth

[@RealGalaxyGamers]

@@aislcsales I don’t think you understand the purpose of the personalities

[@RealGalaxyGamers]

@@aislcsales They’re there to bring a different viewpoint than being so brash like Dave

[@MG-px1ch]

Wow. I guess morals are a thing of the past. No wonder kids are so promiscuous. If parents don't teach kids what is right and what is wrong, then kids are bound to do whatever they please. Values are one thing, but morals are something totally different.

[@cashisqueen3825]

Yeah, I would not be laughing about any of this. And I would not be NOT saying anything right then.

[@laurao8099]

I don't think it's funny and I'd like to think I will not be laughing but if I was calling on the phone talking about this on social media then I would probably be doing a lot of nervous laughing..uhg

[@richthepup]

John interrupts guest every 2 seconds in the first 5 mins of the call 🙄🙄🙄

[@brookesmith1550]

He does that every call!! Ridiculous!

[@benb7727]

Well it is his show. Guess you don’t have to watch.

[@emilysilvers6044]

They handled that way better than I would have or did

[@tjj6362]

No respect to do that in the house while your mom was still there. Smdh

[@88keys_mic66]

Sorry but my 16 year old is not allowed a boyfriend in her room under my roof, this will not happen. I have a 20 year old daughter and she dare not do it unless they are married. Outside of my house that can happen but not under my roof

[@xavm3176]

Makes no logical sense you're just controlling

[@88keys_mic66]

@@xavm3176 yes but it's probably due to my upbringing and religious values because I would not have been allowed to do that at 16 myself

[@rockyayyy5505]

Agreed! I have three kids. None will be allowed to be with their boyfriend or girlfriend in their room especially at 16. Hang out in the kitchen, the living room, the back yard whatever. But come on, we are the adults and should protect are children.

[@brendahartstern4565]

If they are going to try and do it, at least you know you didn't make it super easy for them to do it! Good on you!

[@angelv5170]

@@rockyayyy5505 lolol believe me, they’re gonna do it somewhere else

[@suetucker9264]

Just teach your daughter/son MORALS. Remember those?

[@tonypro3007]

That's what I am thinking. Sounds like she is talking about a play date.

[@suetucker9264]

@@tonypro3007 Right!

[@evangeliamintzai6302]

Or just give them condoms because their hormones are going to ignore morals!

[@melindawhite347]

@@evangeliamintzai6302 that kinda sounds like enabling though :/

[@evangeliamintzai6302]

@@melindawhite347 teenagers will do it anyway. In the park,in the school toilet. Teaching them anticonception and how to protect themselves from STDs is more important. But I get it. Dave's followers are strict religious and believe that abstinence is the way to go. In my experience I know how it is to be a teenager. I remember a girl at school who got pregnant in the school toilets and didn't know she was until 4months into it because her hysterical mother never taught her about periods and babies

[@Kitchfox]

I just worry about the couple because this is something you only have one chance to get right. 16 is just too young.

[@adm0nd_]

It really isn’t too young.. if it would be to young, the age of consent in many European countries wouldn’t be 15 years

[@asacor9435]

ALSO, CAN WE TALK ABOUT THE BRAIN SCIENCE ??? THEIR 16 YEAR OLD BRAIN IS MISSING THE PART THAT MANAGES CONSEQUENCES !!! THAT DOESNT GROW IN UNTIL THEY ARE 18 -21 .. ! SO LITTERALLY THEY CANT THINK OF HOW THEY ARE FING UP THEIR LIFE. HELP THEM OUT.

[@Ivana9910]

*25

[@Da_dctr78]

I have a 9 month old daughter and this just gave me a panic attack

[@iw5207]

4 year old here and I guarantee I would have been interrupting ! Also a one year old son - same thing - there would have been some interrupting

[@klopcodez]

Usually the things you don’t expect usually happens.

[@macylampkin4573]

Reading these comments makes me question my faith in parents...

[@tacooflove6175]

I was never afraid to talk to my dad about this stuff we talked about everything else. I had no fear of him and when k messed up and needed help hes where I woukd go because he may kill me later but he would help me and keep me safe first.

[@bryannorris3976]

The daughter doesn’t respect her parents by doing whatever in her parents home.

[@soulistic87]

Haha sneaking while moms home, this isnt the daughters first rodeo thats for sure. What do you think will happen if you let a 16 yr old have a boyfriend.

[@tompickering]

The EXACT same thing that will happen if you dont "let your 16 year old have a boyfriend" - only she wont be doing it behind your back.

[@darrengeorgetown6758]

Why is he hysterically laughing? I cant stand him in this call

[@SHURIKENRCN]

Trying to lighten up the situation... They were both trying to do so

[@rachelburt5512]

My daughter is only 1 and I’m not looking forward to this. I don’t even know what would be the best course of action would be.

[@stephanzondiros]

Simply talk to her about it before she begins dating would be my best course of action

[@hurshrd654]

This guy has a great radio voice. This video makes me laugh.

[@bryngarrity5548]

gotta be honest, i would NOT appreciate if my SO's parents told my parents about this stuff without talking to me. Put boundaries in your own home. The bf probably comes over to your home more for a reason. He may (like me) have super controlling or overreactive parents. 16 is definitely old enough to have a mature discussion with them about safety, house rules, etc. But the boy shouldn't be punished because they did something physical (maybe his parents aren't like that but I'm speaking from my own perspective). Edit: i'm 29 and my parents would go nuclear over completely innocent, normal teenage development stuff. For whatever reason, they did NOT trust their own parenting and assumed the worst of me at every turn. Looking back on my teenage behavior, I laugh at my own innocence.

[@alexlewis8143]

I'm sure these parents don't appreciate him defiling their daughter in their home. It's disrespectful.

[@bryngarrity5548]

@@alexlewis8143 okay wow. first of all, we don't know exactly what they did together. second, would you give the daughter some autonomy in this situation? she certainly wasn't defiled. my god. how archaic. Third, this is why i said to have a discussion with them about house rules, which is reasonable considering these parents seem to have a very good relationship with their daughter.

[@robertperry814]

@@alexlewis8143 defiled! For soothe what an evil knave be this young rapscallion!

[@Kitchfox]

Yeah but if they break up this is the kind of thing that can drive off someone who was looking for long term potential

[@alexlewis8143]

@@Kitchfox men worth marrying don't disrespect you, your family, his family or himself

[@asacor9435]

THE #1 Thing is : GET HER ON BIRTH CONTROL !!! THE GIRL IS THE ONE STUCK WITH RAISING THE UNWANTED KID.

[@johnmartin4641]

1. What kind of a$$hole wouldn’t want their own kid? 2. Not true. Any decent person would be there for their own child, but even if he isn’t, she could just take him to court and make him help.

[@cloudedcolour5329]

@@johnmartin4641 actually taking them to court before 18, the parents would be stuck paying the child support but that does NOT mean it will continue when he's 18, all he needs to do is get a job with cash in hand and goverment can't take the payments

[@GalaxyFluke]

I’m glad my mother never forced birth control on me. Do research, it is not good for women.

[@bronsonisaboss]

This is a hard line to walk.. Im 25 and dont have kids. this was good for me to listen to.. Im not sure what i would do. You cant go haywire.. Cause her reputation at school will be ruined.. But you cant make it one big joke and have the kids thinking theyre cool to bang whenever. Just rememeber- boys dont keep secrets. We tell everybody when we're 13-18yrs old. So all the dudes at her school now know that shes putting out. Im not sure what all the parents said to her.. But sex is not a light topic. Pregnancy is real. Reputation and possibly being recorded is real. Boys do weird things to prove to other boys that theyre telling the truth. Then those recordings and pictures are all over the place. I dread the day i become a parent.. I dont ever want to have to deal with this.

[@deus_vult8111]

don’t send them to the state schools

[@bronsonisaboss]

@@deus_vult8111 im heavy considering home school

[@lynnew6536]

Lots of different opinions on this one which is why we all parent so differently. I think most people wouldn't call the boyfriend's parents. Not sure what I would do in her shoes. Parenting is tough stuff.

[@brandiphillips5775]

Birth control birth control birth control

[@arianamansouri9275]

He’s not worth the side effects

[@perezismaray]

There's many different kinds of birth control to try if you experience side effects. The alternative is pregnancy and THAT truly has the most serious side effects.

[@nohomo4774]

Abstinence is more effective

[@nohomo4774]

@@perezismaray Yoi'd rather kids take drugs than not partaking in adult activities?

[@perezismaray]

@@nohomo4774 Absolutely! If you think you can convince all teenagers to be abstinent I have an ocean front property in Arizona I'd like to sell you.

[@shannonbenavidez7961]

By messing around, are we talking about intercourses? All this laughter and NO discussion of risks. Please tell me we’re not talking about intercourse so flippantly.

[@matkiley17]

I don't think they are but it's scripted so don't take this all too seriously anyhow

[@gmarie3053]

16 😭 Too young. I’m so glad I was an awkward child and didn’t have my first kiss until 19. Parents PLEASE protect your children and do no partners until 18. I’m 22 now so the same generation as this child.

[@petejunebug]

You might look like a 3 eyed goose :/

[@topcomment3816]

@@petejunebug Wow. Wow. Wow. I wish I could give you a thousand likes for that. Hilarious 😂 You deserve my username, sir.

[@topcomment3816]

I think he is saying that the reason no one kissed you for 18 years is that you looked like this: () () () \ / V Hahahahaha

[@kakefisk]

You cannot shelter teenagers and then expect them to become fully autonomous and responsible adults the day they turn 18. Learning to own your sexuality and how you handle intimacy is one of the biggest components of becoming adult. Sheltering kids like you are suggesting is controlling and detrimental in the long run.

[@themusicman669]

@@kakefisk 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@letaravas9643]

Absolutely embrace the teens your teens decide to date and yes call the parents. It is good that mother and father are on the same page and the girl was open to discuss things. But her and her boyfriend were out of line trying anything with a parent and other siblings in the house or even if everyone else was out in the back yard.

[@Matt-cr4vv]

Stupid and ballsy to make that attempt. I was never that bold back in those days.

[@evitaevita98]

When my friend was 16 she started dating and her boyfriend's mother took her to get birth control. That opened up the door to a decade of promiscuity for her that she regrets to this day and we're now 41.

[@GameTime-yj6qv]

Yeah at 16 no one is ready to have sex.

[@user-un6wf4cd9i]

I had several relatives and friend who ended up getting pregnant as teenagers. My parents sat my butt down and let me know if I decide to make adult decisions I will be put out the house. Before that they’d have conversations with me that I needed to respect myself and not having sex because I’m too young and not an adult. I was allowed to date up until I was 17 but it was all supervised and I was not allowed to bring any boy into the house. Thank God my parents were as strict as they were because I honestly do not agree with knowing your teens are having sex and facilitating that

[@Grigsy]

This caller is a good mom. But she better put her daughter on birth control just as a precaution.

[@sincitytitan7118]

Why doesn't this guy let the callers speak?

[@tymom9313]

It is fun & games for the teenager's! "You need to take her out to breakfast" Dr. John

[@LuisVargas-tp7bg]

Bahah this guy dropped the ball on this

[@martell8560]

Really? While her mom was still in the house? Awake? Got to be more careful 😆🤣😂

[@martell8560]

@9INE PLANETS you fearless legend! 🏆🏅

[@electricbeing993]

@@martell8560 🤣🤣👌🏾

[@aislcsales]

I was 14 when I popped my cherry with another 14 year old girl. Looking back at it now it makes me sick. Why are we so dumb when we are young. Im glad I never got anyone pregnant with all the dumb decision I made. But we cant shelter our kids from this, there needs to be a happy medium

[@TheaterAtReference]

worst host .... let her talk

[@waflletoast11]

Dad: what are your intentions with my daughter? Boyfriend:(Fill in the blank)

[@NickRaeff]

I wish this mom was my mom lol

[@Shadowwind4]

John “I’d rather see it than hear it” Delony

[@richthepup]

🤣🤣🤣

[@random-nz7dy]

"your son's and daughters are beyond your command" - Dylan. It can feel defeating as a parent because you can only do so much to try to direct the behavior of your child. But they're a child. I think the best thing you can try to do is let them know you're not here to make enemies. You're here to be a parent. And that means protecting them with your values. And be clear that you don't agree with what they are doing. And be clear that there will be boundaries of the house and that you may make the decision not to let her go to his. And as much as she may disagree with it she's going to have to deal with it because she's under your roof and she's your child. Because if you do nothing and just give in out of fear of your child hating you, that just means you're basically ceding your entire moral value system as a parent. At the end of the day all you can do is a parent is decide what rules exist under your roof, and what penalties exist for breaking those rules. Tough moments basically majority parents of a teen child has to go through.

[@ominous450]

I've seen teenage girls with their moms at Planned Parenthood. If they're gonna be doing it at least have protection

[@brendahartstern4565]

Don't you ever feel like that is sending a mixed message? After all teenage pregnancies were incredibly rare at one time strictly through parental intervention and social shunning

[@paulaaquino]

I did miss the birth control talk here...

[@lilarose9348]

When my daughter was 14 I spoke to her boyfriends mom to see what her thoughts were on kids being alone in a bedroom or any room unsupervised. Her boyfriend would come to our house and she went to his so I wanted to touch base with her. Her answer was “ I put condoms in the bathrm cabinet and in the bedrooms so they’ll be safe and take one if they need to.” We weren’t on the same page at all. I said they’re very young, she said oh I was younger. Oh boy, I was 17 which was young but 14 seems like a baby to me. Either way I explained to my daughter that she couldn’t go there anymore because they were too young to be left alone but he was welcome to come to our house. It didn’t go over well. She hated me for a long time and felt I was “being dramatic.” Turned out they had had sex and didn’t use protection so thank god I did the best I knew at that time. The one thing I wish I handled better was finding out that situation because I got upset and said we are going to the doctor for birth control tomorrow. I should have thought about it before talking to her. Unfortunately, I had her go on the depo shot and she gained a lot of weight. Now she older and her weight has been a struggle since then which I hold a lot of guilt about. I did the best I could and with my younger daughter I’ll do better. Thanks to this show I’ll have more skills than I did back then ❤

[@firefly9838]

You cracked down, she did what she wanted anyways (because duh). Then you overreacted again and caused to have weight issues from a rushed decision. What a shitshow.

[@deus_vult8111]

why does she need a boyfriend at 14? She needs to be doing her homework for class and working towards scholarships. You are a failed parent.

[@randomusername3873]

​@@deus_vult8111yes because people can't do multiple things at once

[@algirdasltu1389]

God theyre stupid. They had the condoms and still....

[@evitaevita98]

Honestly, teens shouldn't even be dating. What do you think they'd end up doing?

[@sopranosd]

Everyone should have a mother like this. She sounds fabulous. You go, girl!

[@truckingwithtobee]

Went through the same thing with our daughter. But she was 17. I knew we couldn’t keep it from happening but I did have a long conversation about safe sex etc. and about respect in our home and his. Then got her ass on birth control!!!!!! Because I was 17 we we had her brother!!!!😂

[@samu-chan]

ass

[@fredjr26]

My baby girl is 8 months old and I really really dont want to have to experience this.... Im not and will never be ready for this... Lawwddd JESUS HELP ME!!!!!

[@whitneyw.7919]

You won't have to if you don't treat your teenager like they're an adult, like some parents do.

[@dakotasikes6690]

Am i the only one who this john jokes way to much and tries to sell to many books

[@jacosisaba]

I think it’s really funny. Being able to laugh about uncomfortable situations makes it easier to talk about. Y’all need to chill out, every 16 yo is fooling around and the more strict the parents are the more they probably do it.

[@geaninagog9619]

Really? Let’s ask the children who end up in foster care or worse…aborted. See if they will say that we need to relax! I mean not that I can do anything to stop them…cause of course they will do whatever they want if they decide they want to do it…but what if the adults in these kids life decide to act as adults…and be very upfront about their boundaries? I don’t know you, nothing personal, obviously! Lives are messed up because parents stop parenting way to early!

[@hikerhobby1204]

Amen! The Doc is who he is! Don’t like him, find another show, pretty simple!

[@marktheshark2569]

1st not all 16 yo do. 2nd this handled much better than most would. But 3rd and most important, I feel as though in this specific situation that’s disrespectful. They were having family time outside while both parents r home and the daughter instead of going to family time decides to get clapped. If I’m the parents the rule should be not when either parent is home that will not happen

[@saribrown7156]

I wasn’t fooling around at 16 and my parents were pretty strict. 16 year olds are kids and parents are resposible for them, no matter how the kids feel about it.

[@whitneyw.7919]

That is not true at all. Every 16 year old is not fooling around

[@easypeezie4494]

If won’t be quite as funny in 10 years. Trust me😂😭

[@LuisVargas-tp7bg]

Where is the talk on purity for this mom and daughter

[@cloudedcolour5329]

puritys gone out the window now and more than likely not the first time

[@Ayesha______]

Maybe they’re not strong Christian’s.

[@derekvillarreal5207]

This daughter is way to comfortable with boys at her parents house. But hey good job mom dfor being cool and open

[@scottiejohnson4826]

These are deep conversations that take 6 minutes in to get passed the jokes. No way in hell I would tell the other parents. Take care of yours and let them take care of theirs. Not in a million

[@Candace-M-]

If you're gonna sneak off like that while your family is at home... Why make noises? 😩 you're asking to get caught. But anyway this is a discussion you have way before 16! Unfortunately... It needs to happen before teenage years.

[@GameTime-yj6qv]

I understand some people laugh out of nervousness, but in this case it really seemed like that wasnt that big of a deal to her and her husband. Its completely unacceptable to have sex at 16.

[@Mila808g]

CAN WE GO BACK TO THE FACT THAT THE DAUGHTER WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE TALKING WITH THE PARENTS??? GOOD JOB MOM&DAD!!!!

[@skincareceo]

So glad I don't have kids.

[@lyzziez]

Dr. Delony, STOP INTERRUPTING and STOP LAUGHING at this situation. It’s incredibly rude. Listen and stop interrupting.

[@markvb5592]

I don’t know how this guy got the job

[@andreapalma7570]

My mom’s exact words, “if you get pregnant, you don’t have to worry about getting an abortion, because I’ll kill you. But if you do decide you’re going to have sex, tell me so we can get you on the pill or something”. Best believe I never told her anything until I was like 21 and working full time. I just had no idea how that conversation would go. I did tell her when I was 18, that I was on the Pill, “just in case”, so don’t worry. Lol.

[@joycejudd5109]

I think I would have a private conversation with the young man...as adult to adult. Approach him with expectations for your child, for the man she will meet, the beginnings of learning how to have friendship with men, with the man someday she will marry. If the young man enjoys your family, I would treat him as the adult he wants to be...not the child he still might be. And also with the daughter. She needs to be as protective of the men she meets and dates, as well as you want him to protect her. Trustability needs to be talked about...influence over the younger children in the family and such. I'm not sure I'd bring his parents into this at all, because you don't know how they're going to react, and it's a mistake the first time. If there's a second time, it's a bit different. Just an old mama's thoughts. But why are they "dating", if his mother is having to drop him off. If they aren't driving...is it really a date?

[@LuisVargas-tp7bg]

Like he is teller her that’s it’s ok for her daughter to be a total hoochie

[@pmbarro]

Question... why does it say Ramsay in the beginning of the video? I thought he started his own thing on the side.

[@kaylacombs6254]

Good luck having a grandkid soon!

[@theraddadinvestor1000]

John show some dang respect and stop joking around about this. Act like a christian bro!

[@valerietromble581]

My neighbor was strict but the kids said they were going to the library they were going to the boys house when the parents were gone long story short there was a baby

[@residentevil2928]

Why is every parent so obsessed with controlling every aspect of their child's life even into adulthood

[@deus_vult8111]

Only the aspects that are the most important

[@DrDoerk]

When is 16 adulthood?

[@ralegade7710]

@@DrDoerkTraditionally, 16 is adulthood. And traditionally, we were still controlling their lives because we had sense.

[@chrisbollow6135]

Not only can you listen to Dr. D, but you can hear from the thousands of other doctors in the comments!

[@Yabetcha84]

A certain Rodney Atkins song comes to mind.

[@DRIVING_ME_CRAZY]

2:59 Of course it was!

[@racheltarentino3314]

Teens are dumb and the whole situation is very awkward, thats why he keeps laughing. chill yall

[@matticus6339]

Why did the mom ever go outside or seem to go outside while the girl and boy were left inside. It don';t take but a min for something to start happening.

[@yogaqueen1527]

He kept cutting her off. Jeez

[@christinebutler7630]

Chaperone the daughter. She simply is not alone with her boyfriend. At all. Unless, of course, they want to take the kids in front of the preacher now and have them say their I do's.

[@cloudedcolour5329]

and when shes at school and sneaks off? when he sneaks in?

[@christinebutler7630]

@Clouded Colour, if possible they need to homeschool her. She's shown herself to be a lying, sneaky little tramp. If she were my kid she'd be grounded till she's of age. If homeschooling isnt possible, maybe they have relatives who live in the boondocks where she can be sent. Or a maximum security girls boarding school in the middle of the Moab Desert.

[@cloudedcolour5329]

@@christinebutler7630 shes shown herself to be a hormonal teenager, thats it, and by the sounds of it this isn't the first time its happened.

[@sanfranciscodamn]

Too much laughter going on this is serious. At least a sexually transmitted disease at most pregnancy. It’s not funny or cute.

[@tequisaholloway1738]

What is so damn funny about this situation

[@mullic]

Most people giggle or laugh when they are nervous. It’s a natural thing. Cut it people lol

[@dabd8175]

John doing awesome as usual

[@Spiritbomb88]

He’s annoying here if I’m being honest

[@LuisVargas-tp7bg]

Had some respect for this man....downhill....