Secrets From Psychology That Make People Respect You

[@altonology1134]

Practice keeping your word everyday you’ll really gain confidence. Every time you say you’re gonna do something and don’t do it, your self-esteem diminishes no matter how meaningless the task may seem. Take your word very serious.

[@GaZonk100]

love it

[@yoshibald8958]

thx

[@climbbmilc93]

I go by this! Especially just for doing life admin: - Telling yourself you’ll make your bed in the morning before showering. And doing it! - telling yourself you’ll have breakfast before 10:00. And doing it!

[@altonology1134]

@@climbbmilc93 Exactly! Little routine tasks like that are extremely important for keeping your confidence in check. There was one point in my life where I followed through with literally everything that I said I would do religiously and after a while, it felt like I owned the world. “Idk” and “maybe” were no longer in my vocabulary. You start to subconsciously trust in yourself more and more by KNOWING you’ll accomplish whatever you say you’re going to do (AKA confidence).

[@anwarshariq3411]

Preach 100

[@SeanLunny]

Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

[@mohammedbedewy9102]

Exactly!! You made my day sir !!

[@YodaSama0]

Sean Lunny that’s could be true but could also be really bad

[@lorenzejay3296]

I tell myself this everyday and I genuinely believe everything will workout

[@clubstep8244]

To help yourself feel fine even in heated situations: "zoom out" a bit and imagine all the life that happens around you and realize how little you mean in all that, there is nothing that's going to hurt you

[@alcatraz2627]

Alan watts explained that quite well, " you must understand we come out of this World, not into it. Therefore we are part of the natural World like the animals, the trees and the waves of the ocean and the clouds. Now have have you ever seen a cloud that was too big or too small? Have you ever seen a cloud move in the wrong direction? The same goes for humans, in zen practice you are thought to regard yourself as a cloud moveing along in the skies..."

[@maxxmaximum3467]

* Be relaxed - Spread out (standing, sitting being spread) - Move freely around - People have to work for attention - Selective eye contact ( give attention when making a point ; if the other person is doing it, then stare) * Be Non-reactive - Stay silent under pressure ( give pauses to think) - Don’t fidget under pressure * Dont try to convince people - Frame yourself as a equal partner ( in a negotiation; You are screening them as much as they are screening you) - Be willing to walk away ( not emotionally; if its clear that it signifies your confidence; Looks we’re not a match, wish you all the best) * Believe that you’ll be okay - Even if you do something that will prove a loss, be confident and know that you wont ever lose your own trust.

[@kandle2507]

Thanks man

[@GM-dg6mj]

Thanks man

[@dfghxdfghsdsxdhdftx803]

Thank you.

[@CyberMew]

Saved me ten minutes thanks!!

[@Ruzal]

Thanks

[@danfordchodokufa838]

"Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be ok" is an incredibly liberating idea. I love this

[@gabriellepundsack3308]

I always tell myself, "No one is going to kill you if (I fail/can't pay a bill/etc.).

[@keremdemircan4203]

it is basically stoicism bro

[@josephrutchik5777]

"You'll stop worrying that someone will reject you because you'll never reject yourself." That is brilliant! Well done!!!

[@Christian-tf6ol]

Indeed I agree💯. They said that "Don't be the first person to say no to yourself"

[@g.a.d6988]

"Who do you believe in? I believe in me.. I love me"- SGP

[@kevinflanagan4711]

Love this

[@Sergiuss555]

your IQ must be negative

[@Faye-el1bz]

Who cares about rejection Its way more important to become youre best authentic self

[@pinkyster9384]

How to nail your interview: 1. Avoid eye contact at all costs 2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance 3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question 4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job

[@maxx4944]

dont forgot to cry

[@fsb4561]

I laughed so hard 😂😂😂 im dying here man

[@DocPegLegRed]

Hahahaha

[@MrRiveting]

5. Light up a cigarette indoors and smoke.

[@redmondandkrista9475]

@@MrRiveting hahahahahaha

[@addisonjones3795]

I have always struggled with social anxiety and self esteem. I used these on my family at a party with my aunts and cousins. For the first time I felt confident. I was talking and making everyone laugh with my stories and comments. As soon as I got home I started crying with relief. I hope that I can keep applying this tricks in the future. Thank you will never be enough, But thank you.

[@jonathanregan5682]

Wish you the best man.

[@theMadZakuPilot]

Good luck man

[@ollie2244]

I feel you, it's really tough.

[@dannymontaino700]

That's so awesome. I don't know you but I'm proud of you. Sending you lots of love

[@keshavdawra12]

Good job!

[@harshsunitapancholi15]

1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you. 2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure. 3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly. 4. You will be okay no matter what.

[@TyroneMonte-v8k]

She broke up with me. I told her I was grateful for the good times we shared. No begging, no pleading, go and be well. Moved on. Did us both a BIG favor. 😂

[@prodmarquese]

getting detached from reality made me the most confident person ive ever known lol, the key is not caring guys, your fears controlling you, if you overcome them then your anxiety is gone.. everyone is too invested in their own life, they dont care if your hair's not that good

[@Anthony-dw3jb]

I can vouch for this. In my younger days I used to not give 2 shits what somebody would think about me if I said this or did that, I just didn't care and every conversation/interaction I had with anyone just felt good and satisfying. These days I'm clouded by social anxiety and it's hard to enjoy being out and around people because I constantly think about how the other person is going to view me but coming across this video is reconnecting me with my past philosophy of not giving 2 shits and I have to say it feels good and thats how I know not caring really works lol. Care about what matters to you, not to them, that is the key.

[@prodmarquese]

@@Anthony-dw3jb Exactly, once you have control over your fears, you'll have no limits

[@dante93nero]

@@prodmarquese Yes and no. Because even if you have no fears there is a difference in appearing confident and being arrogant. Whilist I do understand your point what someone like Don does is project confidence while not needing to be confident himself if that makes sense. There are subtle moviments you can do that swing a conversation in your favor and for someone with Don's knowledge he knows what clients want and needs.

[@sarthaknagar6349]

How do you detach from reality? Imagine you are to give a presentation in front of 100 people and you are nervous and anxious as hell, your heart is beating fast, at that situation how would you do that?

[@dante93nero]

@@sarthaknagar6349 the second you greet the audience. Right than and there you focus on what your are presenting and not on the audience itself

[@ldb6382]

Confidence is literally a mindset that you can force.

[@Poop-sr9sn]

Explain

[@jonnycpardoe]

Agree on it being mindset 100%

[@arkarmiller70]

Dude you are so right. I was a shy guy but today my crush offered me a snack and I used to decline the offer and today I said to her" Yeah sure why not" in front of everyone.

[@jogolord8122]

1 million subscribers with no videos That’s a good start. Keep the mindset you’ll do good.

[@ellorco991]

You can cultivate a mindset though, being good at things or doing things until You’re good at them is a way to cultivate confidence, the fact is you have to have experiences, good and bad and learn from them, true confidence IMO is having certainty in everything you do

[@randomappalachian4635]

Expectations: Don Draper Reality: Michael Scott

[@captainswan3079]

😂😂

[@portman3950]

a

[@redduckto]

fkn underrated..

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

100% accurate

[@cribbie6327]

Michael Scarn! Threat level midnight

[@AA-qb7ni]

I get anxiety going to college every single day. I'm not happy with how i feel on the inside and out. But this helped and I'm working on myself now. My goal is to leave the house feeling confident and good about myself.

[@sil_spatafora3886]

how’s it going?

[@oscoe]

Hang in there…..be kind to yourself for each small thing you achieve where you overcome anxiety. Hope things are getting better.

[@bobbye4731]

Start working out. It’ll do wonders

[@EliteSoldier1220]

One thing that really helped me was making eye contact with every person I encountered on my way to the classroom!

[@ZacharyLaid]

Confidence is built by doing something over and over until you prove to yourself that you’re actually good at it.

[@MrMacBig273]

it's the skill you trained is - lying to yourself - does it would make you confident at anything ? cause you're sure you can do it ?

[@ASLUHLUHC3]

Do you know the definition of confidence?

[@MrMacBig273]

@@ASLUHLUHC3 Do you know how the human mind works ?

[@amaracea]

Zachary is 100% right. Don’t be putting words in his comment that aren’t there.

[@ASLUHLUHC3]

​@@MrMacBig273 You also don't know what confidence means. You get s feeling of confidence/self-assurance by appreciating your own abilities or qualities, and not necessarily being a master of any particular skill. For instance, one could be confident at public speaking, but not necessarily be good at it.

[@michalpiskorski9731]

Two rules which I have applied a long time ago and have improved my life completely. - Pause and think about what you're about to say, and then say it, always. - Sometimes it is better to not say anything.

[@aljack1979]

What I learnt from my military career, 'only fools rush in'

[@Wayne--O]

.

[@mikeymorrison272]

Definitely agree

[@praesidium4278]

I need to do this but to,do such great things,I need to destroy my schizophrenic version of myself and then I can be free and in touch with reality

[@db-7531]

True confidence can only be achieved via lightning McQueen crocs

[@richardjohnson7379]

Notice: no other clothing can be worn or it won’t work

[@dorian_tihi5869]

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[@mrmark8603]

A, er...friend was looking for some. Where would I, er he, get those?

[@jay0071]

Crispyyy

[@isaacwebb20]

Epic gamer moment

[@briandtnguyen]

As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury. It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings. Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said. I would add that confidence is a two-way street. I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another. Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.

[@mosesrichard394]

i m in Law school.. i will start practicing your way

[@AmyKwon-q2y]

Amazing advice

[@roman8197]

you're an attorney shut up

[@Kerrviii]

I’m an accountant and I do this when I need to process information. It’s not an act. I need to pause to think about how to consult and problem solve. Confidence comes from faith that things will work out fine. Every problem can be solved. I love the idea of slowing down to think.

[@mglynn4450]

I once saw Cesar Milan live and he said "Calm is power" and that was the strongest piece of advice I've ever heard.

[@amaracea]

A friend told me that once when we were kids. We aren’t friends anymore because first I forgot about that, and then he forgot about that, and now we’re probably never going to talk to each other again. I forgive him now, it’s been a while, but knowing him I doubt he’s forgiven me. I don’t know if he’s capable of forgiveness. Or any real feelings, for that matter.

[@Julian-bq9qv]

@@amaracea so very sad. Words spoken in haste or in anger can never be taken back. If both parties are willing and committed, then a friendship can recover and endure; but anything less is like trying to build half a bridge.

[@jamietodd2560]

Calm means the other person cannot affect you. They might try because if they can make you react then it shows that _they_ have the power to make you react. But if you remain cool and collected no matter what happens, then you retain all of that power, and actually steal some of theirs, because now you've both seen their failure.

[@Julian-bq9qv]

@@jamietodd2560 well said!!!

[@ryanw8510]

Be like Don Draper if you want to pick up beautiful women...be like Cesar Milan if you want to pick up dogs!

[@Andy-lj9pr]

1)Relaxed Body language 2)Selective eye contact 3)Non-Reactiveness/Silence/Patient response 4)Framing the situation 5)No matter what... you will be okay.

[@DrJonTam]

0:16 Two types of confidence: External and Internal 0:43 1: Relaxed body language 3:03 2: Be non-reactive 5:24 3: Don’t try to convince people 7:04 4: Believe that you will always be ok

[@itsjayjaehere864]

Thankss

[@bobbybarnes6888]

Appreciate it

[@urielgladney1746]

Huh h B b 😅😊b 0:53 b

[@clairebaujard4519]

That last point about true, unshakeable confidence in yourself is absolutely golden. That's what it all boils down to. Brilliantly put, thank you!

[@poozizzle]

Audrey Hepburn was asked how she seemed so poised all the time, she said she slows down. I started talking that to heart in stressful situations, and it's worked. I feel myself getting panicky in a social situation and then just walk slower, talk slower, allows your thoughts to slow down and become less reactive.

[@ErikaK]

Yes ! Love that! It gives you the time to think and analyse the situation. Also taking deep breaths can help to manage our emotions ♡

[@gabyperez1123]

Wow, I should try that.

[@ErikaK]

@@gabyperez1123 :) yes, before reacting to a certain situation, before responding, taking a deep breath can help you channel your emotions and think the things through. Taking deep breaths can help you release anxiety, stress and even anger.

[@tripslikstar]

I worked in security. I always told my guards that when it gets crazy, slow down. Simply your list, take a deep breathe and control what you can. Seem to work as me and my team were very successful.

[@ErikaK]

@@tripslikstarthat's great! it really really helps Have a wonderful week !

[@arioux]

“Would you like your receipt?” *20 second pause “no.-I-I mean yes”

[@motivatoraligator6]

😂😂

[@undefeated3257]

Omfg 🤣😂🤣

[@moto-physique9270]

😂😂😂

[@gusd8659]

LOL

[@dendaungnualkhae5144]

😂

[@GamerDwarfTR]

Watched this with my dog Now he’s giving speeches about confidence.

[@SebAnders]

You could say he's now... Top Dog.

[@brodemfamalam7178]

Guess you could call him a dawg now

[@3zooz17]

@@brodemfamalam7178 guess you can call him snoop dog😂😂😂😂

[@anasubia4346]

😬

[@BlackDiamond2718]

Second in command to snowball

[@intzeproduction99]

I tried this in real life - now I'm unemployed, my girlfriend left me, my friends call me arrogant, but I'm still confident

[@deidrenorth8745]

😂

[@WalkerBrown-t6z]

I tried this and then the Cowboys started losing

[@CelineCatalina98]

"do you want fries with that?" *20 second pause* "yes"

[@aptonymic3014]

(i had to think fast)

[@qambi1]

hehehe

[@cheerfulcrumb4540]

that would be a fckn alpha move i reckon

[@SageVaughn]

LMAO

[@LetsTacoBoutWine]

LMAO

[@lord_voldemort44]

Stop worrying about always needing to say the right thing because you think the other person or the group might reject you, because you know that you will never reject yourself --- this really hit man, ty for this video

[@synaesthesia4183]

Same here!

[@Je.rone_]

4:30 *Slowing things down and thinking before reacting Is something I find extremely effective*

[@amaracea]

Yeah. It’s really difficult when you’re trained growing up and your whole life that you’re dirt and everyone else is better than you - meaning, hey, respond promptly to people and don’t waste their time. It’s more valuable than yours. When you realize you’re making them wait, you feel like your face is on fire and your hands get all greasy and your chest starts trying to kill you and you can tell they’re hearing how unbelievably loud and shallow your breathing suddenly is and that sweat on your forehead is “this close” to getting in your eye and you forget what you were trying to figure out to say

[@Angeck]

@@amaracea Do this 3 times. First 2 times it feels terrible and difficult, and at the 3rd time it starts getting more comfortable. Also some people would be surprised at how first and second impressions don't matter and people forget how you've been in the past. The point being, go and make some mistakes, It's good for you.

[@capo328]

@@amaracea I know that feeling

[@rickjohnson1719]

I find it annoying because i dont think when i speak so i flow. I think by talking so its aweful waiting for other people to answer.

[@Je.rone_]

@@rickjohnson1719 Depending on the complexity of the situation/conversation I think one can choose to just flow, a stream of consciousness so to speak, in lieu of well-thoughtout speech.

[@zig8925]

It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding. Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.

[@OMGSHEENA]

Realizing that no matter what happens, I'll be okay, is exactly how I survived my childhood. I used to stress so much then after so many dramatic plot twists, I realized if I survived all that, I will survive whatever else comes my way and that's when I stopped stressing as much. I hadn't really connected it with confidence before but I can see the connection now. Interesting. 🤔

[@bbx7739]

Same here. I am the only one who is not afraid to speak up, regardless of their position. After you collect your guts to stand up to your parents, you have no fear standing up to anyone :)

[@pastelteaaniiii]

Truth.

[@bernhardsonn7758]

Uf

[@fredricmontana5420]

In the end, most people wont survive. 🙂

[@lyrebird9749]

So sorry to hear what happened to you. But have faith in yourself, you are strong and capable. You have survived. You will survive. Peace.

[@philiphaycock3845]

All I got from this is that the narrator has a crush on this actor.

[@RageAZA]

hey we all have our man crushes. a one sided bromance..

[@_BhagavadGita]

Or perhaps you're just projecting your feelings onto the narrator?

[@32alltheway]

Pretty much. nothing like basing your own confidence on a drunken, philandering, identity stealing, morally bankrupt pretty boy. moral of the story, be pretty!

[@zoulzopan]

You don't?

[@hannahmadden3573]

What a Hamm.

[@EllaRingrose]

With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x

[@fibonaccisrazor]

That was everything in a nutshell - spot on, I think.

[@dorian_tihi5869]

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[@iloveas999too4]

1.Have a relax body language and more freely in every environment. Have selective eye contact and make eye contact when your doing a main point. Do not over react and stay non reactive. Remain in silence to think or when confused. SLOW DOWN 2.Make yourself seem as equals with others. Do not get angry and stay calm 3.believe that you will be okay in every situation no matter what

[@mihaiioantabacaru7758]

"My name is Don" what a great pickup line, I'll definitely use it!

[@dogguyful]

My name is Bond, James Bond

[@petezah4597]

@@dogguyful my name is Don, Don Don

[@dogguyful]

@@petezah4597 Hahaha 😂

[@tinockovietea2470]

Don Dada on the down low

[@MundoGamesDo]

@@petezah4597 Tava aqui no baile escutando aquele som

[@MotiveVideoBook]

"you will be okay no matter what" yes this is powerful

[@ryshlovanoodo7591]

Not to me lol.

[@vutrung6874]

@@ryshlovanoodo7591 :))

[@sentvero2025]

Looks > Confidence

[@ryshlovanoodo7591]

I should have died in my thirty's.

[@TakeBackYourMind997]

If you spend time getting to know yourself, and learn to love and accept that person then you strengthen the most important relationship of your life, the one you have with yourself. If that relationship is solid then you always have an inner safe haven no matter what is going on around you. That self love and understanding allows you to stay true to yourself in every situation, that is the deepest form of confidence.

[@percyvalle921]

True

[@JoseSantos-el8nj]

Yes but also improving that old self version of you is necessary sometimes, not only accepting it, doing something about if you feel unhappy about certain aspects of yourself

[@marcschox4769]

@@JoseSantos-el8nj exactly bro i gotta hit the gym im not gonna accept myself being skinny

[@JoseSantos-el8nj]

@@marcschox4769 That's what I've been doing bro, keep it up you're gonna make it

[@AbeNXC]

I’ve lived my life so far by the adage “this too shall pass”… idk why it stuck with me so hard the first time I heard it but it’s literally how I operate my life on the daily now. This saying has gotten me through countless excruciating physical AND emotional pain over the years and I really believe it’s changed me for the better

[@lewiskori9426]

I agree with you. The day I learned about the hedonic treadmill was the day my life changed for the better. Deep down I always know that everything is temporary.

[@jannazepp8939]

I totally and finally fell in love with the Don Draper character when he embraced the other guy in genuine empathy and in a gesture of comfort. That was his defining moment as a human. Also, Jon Hamm. Wow. What an amazing actor.

[@raydencreed1524]

@Janna Zepp When the dude was describing his dream, I felt like I wanted to give him a hug. And then Don goes and actually does it, holy crap.

[@jannazepp5161]

Greg Walker yes. It is totally conditional. We don’t like whiny wimps who tell us who they think we are. We like men who don’t blame us for everything that is wrong. We like men who like women. We hate men who hate women. So yeah. You are right. It IS conditional. Those are the conditions. I have my own money. My husband has his own money. Get a job, a clue, snd stop being a weakling.

[@alexd0103]

How to be confident Step 1: steal someone else’s personality and life

[@reyjoson7895]

Alex Step1: migrate Step 2: steal someone else’s personality and life

[@matttheamerican3766]

Not funny. Dudes actually do this crap

[@CaliburovX4]

Rey Joson Step three: Profit.

[@bobbye7353]

He isn't talking about his personality at all. This is all about behavior. How mature successful men behave.

[@tcnotrvlr]

stealing someone else's personality and life? Wack! You'll end up like Edward Norton's character at the end of The Italian Job movie from 2003- A no originality, unconfident, LOSER that can't decide who they Actually are.

[@iampaulwadsworth]

Building self-confidence will change your life. Have an amazing day.

[@stevenorfolk7008]

100% truth

[@wgaule]

You can't change your life, it only happens once.

[@TheAbrahamHD]

No, YOU have an amazing day.

[@wgaule]

@@TheAbrahamHD Shut up dummy!

[@Elias___]

No

[@slothman6696]

I recently finished a brutal apprenticeship program where I learned everything I needed to learn about my chosen profession in 6 months...to the day of hire. I already had been around and done many things that had built my confidence over the years, and had many failings.... but this time I did not fail, as a matter of fact I triumphed in a way that I had not before, and it was because of my past experiences. I've won awards, I've been in newspapers, I've made films. I've been a machinist, a truck driver, a cook and a kitchen manager. My new profession I would not have been able to obtain without the confidence of my past failings. Do not be afraid to fail. Do not be afraid to be yourself. All you need to show everyone is that you can do it. Show them. Stand tall. Believe in yourself because if you don't then no one else will. Most importantly, Be genuine...that's what people respect the most. Do not hide your intentions, say what you want and how you're going to make it happen, and then do it. .

[@Pipsboy_]

Great view ❤

[@bimwapshimmiesham8068]

This is what I’ve been saying for years. Once you fall into that mindset of everything is NOT going to be ok, you literally become this. Thank you... finally someone understands what I’ve been saying.

[@ns3938]

Being brought up in a loving and supportive environment and being physically attractive are the most important contributors to confidence.

[@njhd9923]

What if I told u that even with those 2 things u could still not be confident 🤔

[@dhiadridi4062]

Definitely wrong answer

[@dorian_tihi5869]

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[@SCRKT007]

So basically accepting oneself is the very key factor on being confident, kinda mind blowing that it also goes around by the famous saying "once you start believing in yourself, anything is possible".

[@jns08d]

This is SO TRUE, 5 years ago I was a super insecure college student, got some therapy and now I'm more in love with myself than ever.

[@Dr.HouseMD]

You gotta watch the show. Don is terrified or nervous in 1/4 of these situations. Not to mention his character is literally about an insecure person who imitates a persona to fit in.

[@TyroneMonte-v8k]

Don is akin to a Deep Cover Espionage Agent with a totally crafted false persona.

[@thefutureisnow7300]

Don is good at disguising his fears

[@Arthanlis-Orthodox]

Hey, I would like to watch, what is the name of the show please ?

[@Dr.HouseMD]

@@Arthanlis-Orthodox Mad Men

[@Arthanlis-Orthodox]

@@Dr.HouseMD Thank you sir

[@mistermister2291]

Confidence isn't about getting other peoplr to agree with you or accept you, it's about living your life without worry. I think that a lot of the reasons people watch this channel come from wanting social acceptance. Ironically, that means that for many of us (myself included), the biggest obstical to overcome in being charismatic, is what drove us to try to be in the first place.

[@billthebax5578]

Vael Ryker well put. When my son was about 4th grade I was listening to him and his buddy's sitting around talking. (My son was born with bi-lateral club feet) one of the boys told him, so and so is faster than you. His answer, big deal everyone is faster than me. Too cool, that ended right there. That kid tried to step on him, but found nothing to step on.

[@cameronbajt4]

"Keeping emotional expression in check actually inspires resolves in others" - this is actual gold.

[@shawarmageddonit]

Well, not "ACTUAL".

[@davidharler9149]

also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"

[@IsraelGarciaRivera]

You made me remember one of my favorite episodes of Mad Men... That hug Don gives to the other man, it is just emotional 100%. Deep.

[@freelcf]

Be true and authentic, and we'll always be ok.

[@jonnycpardoe]

Thank you. A great and sensible comment.

[@anavalenz9716]

I agree with that. I always feel confident being myself and since I am an honest person people generally like me, if not at the beginning, because I am not good-looking, they will end up liking my personality.

[@SkippyBrown]

I feel like a big part of Don's character is that even HE has his own issues with self-confidence, but he never let's people see that. When he does, that's when we start to see the layers peel back and Don's true self starts to show. It's really all about how you project yourself to the world and those around you.

[@berkguler5339]

blessed words

[@dominickdean2873]

Not necessarily the point. The point is to have true enough confidence in yourself to be able to be vulnerable in front of others, and not in a poor me way.

[@1023kdawg]

And then you realize that real confidence and real freedom is not having to "project" yourself to anyone .

[@kayleighc1681]

An even bigger part of Don's character is that he's a manipulative gaslighting narcissist, definitely not someone to look up to at all

[@thefutureisnow7300]

@@kayleighc1681but he’s fully aware of it and uses it to his advantage

[@rk5kuenzler351]

How accurate this is is actually kind of crazy. I've followed most of these in the past and have deviated recently while going through some things and allowing myself to be off balance. I used to spend so much time on my own thinking and pondering what the ideal way to be happy and so on and so forth is. At the end of my day I'd reassess: What happened today, what was the goal here, why did it go the way it did, why did someone react the way they did, what could I have done different.... ANYWAY. Being honest and therefore speaking from a place where you feel grounded and stable and therefore confident while being open to being wrong and realizing you will be ok no matter what. the world is up to your interpretation. is all there is to it.

[@TrupimOkiemTV]

wow that was good

[@Metallicuz]

Thank you for taking the time to write this.

[@Kerrviii]

The biggest confidence and flex is your character , self control and how you carry yourself just adds to it.

[@Pipsboy_]

Exactly my dear

[@high_fly_bird]

The great idea of this video is that we will be OK, no matter what other people will think of us, if we embrace ourselves. It is such an insight. Thank you for this fascinating video!

[@jondury9450]

How To Be Confident In Any Situation. 1: Look like Don Draper 2: Look like Don Draper 3: Look like Don Draper

[@hwdareu5848]

Don't forget to have money, I mean alot of money 😁

[@karolbednarczyk3107]

You create your own reality by choosing what you believe in. 99% of your reactions are coming from subconscious, reactions become habits, and habits become your reality.

[@Dwight_]

Sorry but comments like yours are always the most pethatic. Is that only thing you got from this video?

[@mnbvmnbv7934]

@@Dwight_ joke bro

[@Dwight_]

@@mnbvmnbv7934 i think some of the guys who write stuff like that mean it.

[@BuioPestato]

Don is drunk most of the time, that's what it is

[@kentuckyfriedchildren5385]

It's not a package, you can get his positive aspects without his problems

[@dylangarcia5803]

no he just gets a sip but never drunk

[@olog222]

lmfao yep

[@flobbertop4278]

I’m aiming for that...

[@ShushaSofia]

My temporary solution until I get it right

[@qualityquotes229]

“It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.” ― Lou Holtz

[@TyroneMonte-v8k]

❤😊

[@VinnySmiles01]

Let’s be real here, most of Don’s confidence comes from the fact that he drinks so much. Drunk people are just more confident no matter what.

[@seconds-js7pf]

Because they arent constantly worrying about consequences and living in the moment

[@robertbelyea5767]

Yep. No matter what there's always a drink to cure what ails ya.

[@Yjkishke]

If only it were that easy

[@bighands69]

Don is not confident because he drinks. That is just pure nonsense. He is confident because he does not actually care about most of the things that shape other people. He does not care about money in the way other people does, he does not care what others think and above all he is willing to just try. Everybody knows a Don Draper. That does not mean he is a good person morality is something different.

[@lf2208]

Don Draper's confidence comes from the fact that he is a character in a TV show, and he is only written into scenes where he is, and can be, confident.

[@fbmw98]

This channel went from how to act charismatically to how to fix your life principles and improve your life drastically in less then 3 years

[@thedogofchucknorris]

Ferrel Brendan than*

[@AutumnOnFire]

Is that not one in the same?

[@fbmw98]

@@thedogofchucknorris corrected, thanks mate

[@fbmw98]

@@AutumnOnFire Having a principle will result in consistency and makes people automatically charismatic.

[@paatrick90]

@@fbmw98 The biggest thing that happened this week was when someone said "thanks" to a grammar correction in a KZbin, instead of getting triggered. The tiniest thing ever, but I felt inspired by this. Good mindset.

[@osse1n]

Internal confidence can also be called *SELF-ESTEEM* - Ultimately, it boils down to mastering your own psychology and understanding that you have unlimited powers

[@Bennevisie]

Don Draper had self esteem? You sure?

[@Infinite_exhilaration]

VariableVision Absolutely! confidence isn’t something someone always radiates, it fluctuates, not everyone always feel amazing every second of every day, Don Draper definitely has had confidence at some point in his life, and may be feeling that exact way right now, it’s something you cultivate that takes time, so your answer is a bit obvious, sometimes you feel confident, sometimes not, everyone has had confidence at one point in their life

[@lukaseckart8583]

If ones self-esteem is based on the believe that one has unlimited powers, one will at some point fail and then be forced to question it. This is far from mastering ones psychology I guess... Knowing ones limits, being confident about the potentual one has and honest about all of it seems like self-esteem that is way more natural. Just my thougt on it tho..

[@Bennevisie]

@@Infinite_exhilaration Don Draper definitely had confidence. But I would argue his self destructive behaviour (alcoholism, serial cheating on his wife, constant lying) is rather a sign of lack of self esteem. One should not confuse self esteem with confidence. One runs much deeper and the other is more superficial and ego-centric.

[@Infinite_exhilaration]

VariableVision I’m a contradiction because I agree and disagree with you. You should never mix self esteem with confidence, however... people’s behavior, it changes over time, take Robert Downey Jr by example, his life was going essentially nowhere, and he made a decision to completely change the course of his life, and arguably kick started the MCU. Now... I’m not talking that big of a change, but he could of been known for binge drinking 4 months ago, and has that stigma, but 3 weeks ago, without us knowing, he made the decision to stop drinking, or drink less and less, so... it’s very difficult in my opinion to judge someone on their past behavior when change is just one decision away, and your argument may be people don’t change, and it’s a possibility like most people they are basing that statement from their own personal experience. Today he could of made a decision to change everything around. The truth is we don’t know. It’s the same as having a best friend always hung out in Highschool, you graduated, moved to a different state, visited him 3 years later, you can be a completely different person, so much so he doesn’t even recognize you

[@nerdalert6578]

We need this curriculum in today's schools & make it mandatory for all students unfortunately this is something schools never teach us & as a 25 Yr old I can vouch for all adults when I say your degrees, grades & education doesn't matter if you're not able to express yourself. Until you're confident in you own skin you can never be successful.Period..!

[@zticket3021]

Such a great series too. It's all about finding a path to happiness and how we're all sold a false idea of what that is. The show asks if we can change enough to be a better person, love ourselves, and find authentic joy. Don is living the idea of the American Dream, which makes him extremely confident, but inside he's a mess. He goes on on journey from realizing how shallow his "perfect life" is to accepting his truly self. And every episode it like a short story, hitting upon a different theme that explores this idea. Highly recommended if you haven't seen it.

[@PhialSubstance]

After watching this video I’m actually considering watching Madmen even though it’s not my kind of thing at all.

[@camj256]

If only real people were scripted to react perfectly to everything I say.

[@VoidVerses]

Stfu punk

[@CoolDrifty]

@@VoidVerses nah he's right. you can do everything right in a conversation and the other person will still be awkward and antisocial.

[@VoidVerses]

@@CoolDrifty you didn't get the joke... oh well 🤣

[@CoolDrifty]

Jesus Eduardo well I’ve heard better jokes

[@VoidVerses]

@@CoolDrifty no, you heard easier jokes..

[@endlessdrive8421]

This is the only self-improvement channel which I genuinely feel like I'm being provided real value...not just some fake advice to start buying into a cult following like so many other self-help channels. Been following this channel since way before 1 mil subs and I'm really happy to see how much this channel has grown.

[@felixkemp3719]

Watch some of Alex Becker's videos trust

[@HawksNestYT]

Have you ever done a video on charisma and confidence demonstrated by non attractive people? That would be intriguing. As for example on this video, around 1:30, he’s leaned back and looks comfortable, but a larger person would be getting a double chin and can come across “different” because of that. That’s obviously a small thing, but it got me thinking of how every video I’ve seen relates to those that already have a natural physical attractiveness that makes “mental” attractiveness maybe not “easier” but at least amplified

[@erikig]

Good point, maybe watching videos of guys that weren’t traditionally attractive like Churchill, Idi Amin etc (and the actors that have played them in movies). Notice what they are doing when they seem their most confident and charismatic. 😊

[@TexasJack78]

Confidence is a feeling, it's an emotion, it's thought. It's always internal. "External confidence" as you put it, that is by definition a facade.

[@vincentmutel7313]

Or maybe a projection of internal confidence ?

[@RL-fr4hf]

fake it till you make it applies. If you act confident then eventually you will become confident, as long as it's for the right reasons.

[@EL1T3xFaTe]

DO a tommy shelby from Peaky blinders confidence/dominating a situation breakdown! most intimidating without trying character in any show (sorry tywin)

[@OuchenBxlCLIPS]

BY ORDER OF THE FOOKIN PEAKY BLINDERS

[@tylerdurden8640]

FOOK YES

[@redweather6315]

YES. I get intimidated through the screen even tho hes a good guy.

[@CarDrifter007]

"I am Thomas Fookin Shelby."

[@Stophurtingmelol]

Bump

[@imranmeco3393]

You know, I've always had this mindset almost without realising it, but I never connected that to my internal confidence. Recently I got into a rather large personal crysis and I've abandoned that belief. This video really helped me remember it and put that gear back into place so that I may function again. Thank you. Love your work. Keep going.

[@Sumtik_77]

trust me guy on this, read the best psychology ebook called 'the manipulation enigma'

[@michaelblag]

never thought a book could help me this much. highly recommend

[@Mysterr77]

great book, thanks

[@senaami23]

"You'll stop worrying that other people will reject you because you know you'll never reject yourself." I was taken aback by how hard that line hit me.

[@DanTrustsTheFathersPlan]

Top Notch commentary on Don's traits, his not give a *F* what others think factor is a huge confidence trait

[@richsackett3423]

Watch it again.

[@samyakjain3989]

after watching this video i have learned the art of confidence, now wherever i go everyone treats me like a boss. the ower of charisma best

[@Abhi-tp6dk]

really

[@willy4129]

Today, in hopes of attracting attention from my crush, I made several jokes in class and everyone laughed including the teacher! Thanks for giving me confidence. I'm still getting there...

[@nathanthenewbie8325]

Proud of you bro and dont be afraid to get rejected

[@PieSniper]

I seriously hope no one watched this whole video without watching all of Mad Men first, because that clip from the final season is one of the most impactful I've ever seen. I cry just re-watching the clip because when seen in the original context it's unbelievably powerful.

[@bluepearl_22]

Harvey Specter would've been a much better example for this video.

[@pdrgallo]

I didn't even seen Mad Men and I almost cried at the guy's dream and Don's hug, wtf. Massive spoiler i guess

[@raraavis7782]

PieSniper Thanks for the warning...I actually haven’t yet. Wasn’t yet out, back when I watched the series. And now, I‘ll probably have to rewatch everything m because it has been so long 😄

[@Melvin7727]

Totally agree dude. It hits me hard the same way. And I don't really appreciate just blowing it in a video with no warning. This is a masterpiece and it deserves a little respect.

[@Revex08]

Perfect video man. I am always amazed by the understanding you have of how people work and how to improve their lives. Your contribution is invaluable.

[@mpg9074]

1. Be relaxed and move freely Being in a relaxed posture or in a confident stance will make you comfortable with your surroundings, making you not stressed in situations. Moving freely and making yourself "at home" will display a sense of ownership and make you seem like "the boss" wherever you are. 2. Be non-reactive and give yourself time to pause Being nonreactive will make you seem impenetrable and untouched by anything that comes your way. When you pause you give yourself more time to come up with a better response to any given situation. This includes not fidgeting and controlling you emotional behavior 3. Be willing to walk away If you feel that something is not working out the way you want it to, be willing to walk away from that situation. It is better to walk away then waste your time 4. Tell yourself that everything will be okay A form of internal confidence, having the ability to tell yourself that everything will be okay even in the worst situations will build your mental toughness and the mindset will help you overcome the bad situations you face. *I apologize for the bad wording

[@a-lexanderluthor1334]

NEVER apologize for such great expression ❤

[@hymansahak181]

Besides what is going on under your own roof and that of your loved ones, treat life as a game and everything will be all right. That includes the position that everything will be okay no matter what. If you implement this concept, you will never get nervous, anxious, fidgety. You will be in control of yourself and the situation you are in and you won’t be afraid to put people in their place (nicely or not sometimes) when they get out of line. The world will be your oyster and the world will get out of your way of making things happen.

[@Valpskott]

I have a hard time pausing when speaking, because in 99% of times, someone will just take the floor with something completely different even if most people are listening. There is always someone in a crowd that just want to turn the attention to themselves.

[@klang7591]

Valpskott :D

[@FridayXO]

shush that person stealing the spotlight then

[@Dark_Voice]

@@FridayXO Well, I wouldnt let you. Unless you physically attack me which wouldnt end well for your public image.

[@bighands69]

+Valpskott That means you are not in control of your situation.

[@abrahammontiel6419]

Dark Voice wtf u talking bout?

[@LunchtimeHoopers]

I can show vulnerability and strength... i will be fine in any and all situations... Im a confident man, i watched this video and simply smiled internally...

[@bighands69]

Vulnerability is not a good thing to have on display.

[@afonsolucas2219]

How to be like Don Draper: Step 1: When in doubt, remain absolutely silent Step 2: When asked about your past give vague and open ended answers Step 3: Have a great name Step 4: Look fantastic in a suit, look fantastic in casual wear, look fantastic in anything. Sound good. Smell good. Kiss good. Strutt around with supreme confidence. Take 6 hour lunches. Disappear for weeks at a time! Lie to everyone about everything and most importantly... Drink and smoke constantly. Basically... Be Don Draper

[@bohdanrohachenko7650]

And die from a liver failure due to constantly smoking and drinking.

[@afonsolucas2219]

Guys, this is a sketch from SNL with Jon Hamm. It's perfect go watch it.

[@evindrews]

step 5: crumble as a human being

[@binal-flecki2387]

*Boss asks me something* *Stays absolutely silent*

[@afonsolucas2219]

@@binal-flecki2387 Boss: ... You're promoted.

[@misty_mouse987]

you will never reject yourself... love this

[@philnightjar1971]

How to be confident in any situation: Don’t be broke.

[@arfanzufar5148]

Good looking is number 1

[@hwdareu5848]

@@arfanzufar5148 Money is number one, I've seen ugly rich f*boys with things most attractive men couldn't have

[@mrdjr6544]

Haha not so.

[@janooniani5754]

იასნია

[@patious7779]

If a meeting goes badly...I walk away knowing that I'm going to be at my next opportunity soon enough. Putting too much importance on any sale is a mistake. The game is "Volume of Opportunity."

[@Randommmmm204]

I was struggling with social anxiety for a while. I went to therapy, got it fixed, and now I've been doing these things without even knowing the "theory" behind it. It just came naturally. Old friends of mine say I'm a completely different person. And I can see it. It's really strange.

[@nykhilsandhu]

what did u do to get over your anxiety, may i ask?

[@Randommmmm204]

@@nykhilsandhu Medication, therapy and someone who was very close to me. That last one was the most important part.

[@nykhilsandhu]

@@Randommmmm204 thanks mate, got any tips that I can implement now?

[@Randommmmm204]

@@nykhilsandhu Honestly, fake it till you make it. Act confident even though you aren't and eventually the confidence will come to you. Also, I think a good exercise for conversation is talking to strangers online. Just talk with them. Your anxiety will basically disappear because of the anonymity. That depends on the seed of your anxiety too though. Listen, I'm not an expert. I highly suggest going to a therapist. But you have to talk freely. Don't hold anything back. And the therapist isn't there to fix your problems, he/she's there to walk you through all of this. Make you realize what's wrong with you, where it started and give you tips on how to change yourself to be better.

[@nykhilsandhu]

@@Randommmmm204 thank you so much mate, really appreciate your help :)

[@jasmine2218]

This is the most incredible,understandable video on confidence I've came across by far , keep it up honestly .

[@jefffrodermann5348]

" You are okay, and you will be okay.". That's an outstanding line, and I appreciate the focus of this video. Intrinsic confidence is powerful, but perhaps it is more difficult to master. Thank you for this content and for all of your videos.

[@Farawayfromyou9]

What exactly is the purpose of them and this channel? I'm confused. Does it mean to make characters like Tommy Shelby and... as role models or just learn from them and add to our best version?!

[@tmanfit]

This video was so powerful, I'm going to save it and come back to it anytime I feel unconfident. There shouldn't be a reason not to feel confident.

[@tanishmishra9152]

The only reason he drapes his hand over the adjacent chair so often is because his name is Don Draper and I cannot be convinced otherwise

[@stevekemp7091]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 best comment ever on any video in the world

[@TheDoomer666]

ah man, English joke, I don't get it

[@stevekemp7091]

@@TheDoomer666 you speak very good England sir

[@darksunrise37]

nooo dons drapes his hand because hes confident broo he feels comfortable with himself and his environment brooo you gotta hear me out bro it’s nota cuz his last names draper brooooooo

[@mochalatte8878]

@@darksunrise37 it’s a joke-

[@edo2804]

Please analyze Thomas Shelby from Peaky Blinders. Easily the most charismatic character out there. Thumbs up of you agree!

[@ahamadali6963]

By order of the Peaky Blinders 👍

[@siddarth3955]

@@ahamadali6963 Peaky fooking blinders

[@jordantenenbaum8424]

I thought of him immediately!

[@marcelfernandezromero8905]

Jimmy Darmody

[@lucasprice2738]

Literally just watched season 3 e 2 tonight

[@TGGent92]

Reprograming your mind, body and soul is the toughest thing I've ever done. I continue to struggle with reacting to situations. It's bad when people get the best of you. All the time people are at you, making it much more difficult to obtain what you want. It can be corrected, it can be done. I work everyday to get closer to be the man I want to be.

[@juanitasingh6677]

The secret to having confidence is radiating Presence. To radiate presence is a knowing that you are enough. Knowing you are enough is knowing that you already have what you need.

[@MansaMusa-v5q]

Lions are good at this….they’re not the biggest or the fastest but their presence is everything

[@NFL1976]

I worked hard on myself after watching Don. I am now up to five packs a day, and my prospects look at me like I am from another time or something.

[@Salem-yy5wn]

Good one 😂

[@GustavoSilva-ny8jc]

The ending is AMAZING, throughout the whole video i was like "yeah, okay but that's just a persona, just an act - and when i was younger and starting self development i thought that THIS was what meant to be confident but it's far from true self belief and conviction, the place where true confidence comes from. So, cool tips but it's not what i need righ-" then lesson 4 started. And you nailed it. It's so fundamental to stress this, to know where confidence, self-belief, comes from. Great, great video.

[@elpanchitoruso]

"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence."

[@kr3642]

I love seeing platonic, meaningful, affection and support between men on screen and in person. It makes me emotional lol

[@jofranco]

Incredibly helpful! That no fidgetting is no joke though - when the hair gets in the eyes it's over

[@zakosist]

I think just quickly removing the hair from your eyes wouldn't mean too much, but Im not an expert

[@intrakitproductions]

True confidence it's just being yourself in any situation and speaking your mind when needed

[@Wsadef]

How to get confidence? -Get on your purpose. Learn a trade or a skill. Become master at it. Monetise it and that's it. IF you are good at something, you will be confident. Simple.

[@YourWingmam]

DFDX truth! Confidence in one area automatically spills over into other areas

[@broste2121]

"I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until I became that person" Cary Grant

[@alextellez8353]

I think self-confidence is built through practice, I'm a teacher and at first I had to pretend that I was confident and I had to move as if I was a confident guy (mainly because I had to be in front of a group so I wanted to convey credibility) and I think by doing it over and over and over again I've already made myself believe that I'm someone who is really confident, so I think if you want to improve your confidence you have to practice it, maybe it could be in your house, in the mirror or pretending that you're talking to someone and then trying to apply that when you're out there interacting with real people. I hope this would be helpful for someone. 😉

[@AmaraRay24]

Jorge Téllez great advice and practice does help. Visualization and preparation goes a long way. It takes time and repetition but when you do have a deep level of confidence, many doors will open.

[@bambooflute2589]

07:01 is everything. Very powerful stuff. I’ll meditate on this for as long as it takes, and get rejected and fail over and over for as many times as it takes to internalize that. Thank you so much.

[@rachelrasmussen1101]

I love how this ends as a lesson in honesty.