Cleaning my way out of Depression and Anxiety - The Kitchen Reset - Clean with Me

[@MySemiSortedLife]

In true "Mel Style" I get real, raw and vulnerable in this video. I hope that it inspires hope and positivity. I'm working my way through this latest bout and I truly couldn't do it without your support and encouragement. If you're in a slump - take my hand - you're not alone. x Mel

[@lesleyharris525]

Hi Mel, I've struggled with depression for about 30years, it's a pain triggered form of depression and it's just a way of life now, I do have medication to help but bad days are still real,like yesterday I was 5hours late taking my painkillers and it was so bad I didn't even get dressed. 💖

[@sheilafelix113]

I am having such a "Lazy" day. I apologized to my husband. He said " You are allowed to take a day off! Mandi (our daughter) and I want you to know you are not LAZY! You deserve a break from all you do!" I started to cry and thanked them. They really do help around the house and I just realized that I am harder on myself that anyone else. My house is actually neat and tidy. I still feel lazy if I am not cleaning something and showing my work. OH! I also work 36 hours per week night shift as a nurse! I must tell myself I do enough!

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh 100% delete that “L” word from your vocabulary. Aside from all you do - if you respond to the needs of your body to rest when you need to then you are way more productive long term. I’m sure as a nurse you see people who have run themselves ragged and caused or prolonged illness for lack of rest. I’m so glad your husband and daughter are supportive of that.

[@GoingGreenMom]

So true! My mental state and house definitely reflect.... I sort of caccoon when I'm low.

[@pkrrkp7491]

Mel, what a beautiful, generous soul you have to share so honestly and openly what so many of us feel. Thank you dear heart for this gift.

[@carlavanooik]

I want to give you a huge compliment for doing this series about depression and anxiety. You tell it very good and from your own life, that is sooo great and very interesting, thank you for sharing xx

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank-you for watching and supporting. It means the world to me.

[@michelleholt2007]

Can I just say how awesome you are! I can relate to everything you’ve said! It’s definitely a struggle! But knowing we’re not alone and to hear others are experiencing similar and/or same things, can be a huge help and relief. Keep going! Much love!!

[@krissy2321]

Well said Michelle, you said everything I was thinking. Thanks for a great video Mel💛

[@barbarap6851]

I am always impressed how you just get at everything despite your challenges. Your really are inspiring, Mel. xo

[@maggytrafford3969]

One of your best videos Mel. You are such a good hearted lady❤️🥰

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank you so much!

[@annecoyle7208]

Mel you just described the way you feel with depression like I told you to say it that way. I find the worst part being panic attacks which then trigger the anxiety and depression.I just don't want to get out of bed when I'm like that . I want to be asleep as it's only time I'm relaxed but it's the getting to sleep that's the problem. I've been referred for counseling for first time! Hopefully that will help me . Been on tablets for more years than I can remember. I'm glad it's a more open topic to be mentioned nowadays. Loved the video. X🌞

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yea. Too many years it was taboo. Depression and anxiety thrive on that too. Keeping us feeling alone and isolated so it has a greater hold on us. But I finding naming it tamed it.

[@mandypratley9723]

Can I like this comment 10 times please 🤔 It sounded like me talking a few times during this video. And the idea of staying asleep all day, sometimes this would be bliss. Oops this should be a reply to Anne above

[@heatherredmon5550]

I wish there was a love button! This video was so well done Mel.

[@julieanne7223]

Thank you so much for sharing this Mel, no one has told me I matter for I long time, so I"ll take that. sometimes I think it helps to hear you are not alone.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh you matter. You matter to me for one. Your support and encouragement is so consistent and I value you more than you know. I know it’s a disconnected kind of weird friendship. But do not underestimate how much I value you. And because you’re so kind and compassionate to a stranger on the internet I know that’s how you are with those in your real world - they may take it for granted - but I’m certain they appreciate it. Not to tell you what to do - but may I suggest you apply the kindness you give others to yourself first. Treat yourself like your own best friend. I think you’ll move mountains with ease for others after you look after you. Also. If you do that - I will too. 🥰😘

[@debblackburn1]

You put into words everything I’m feeling. I’m so grateful that you are courageous enough to share this because it’s what I need to hear. People judge because they don’t understand. Thank you!

[@margaretsofocleous8137]

Mel you show such a sweet generous and brave spirit. You are helping so many people. You don't give up easily and you have great insight. Thanks for sharing you courageous lovely lady. Sending my heartfelt love all the way to you in Toowoomba from sunny Cyprus xxxxx Margaret

[@dorothyelizabeth1559]

My eldest son is going through depression right now. It’s frustrating for me as a mum being powerless to help, frustrating to know there’s our GP, counsellors and people who care that are ready to step in and help but can’t because he refuses to get help. To think of you going through depression, anxiety AND being a mum running your home is something I’ve a lot of respect for. You’re doing the best as you can and it’s lovely to see you work your way through it all trying to help others. Much love.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Hugest of hugest hugs Dorothy. I can’t imagine how painful it is to watch your child struggle so. Depression is evil too and will attempt to block your love. I hope he can find the light soon. Something I heard the other day “I can’t guarantee things will get better soon - but I do know you will never know if you don’t keep moving.” The thing is - I do know things can get better too. Literally nothing lasts forever - and anything is better than depression.

[@grogers511]

I like Mel videos any way Mel provides them! You - my friend - are doing a great job. I’ve been feeling a bit overwhelmed with things I’ve procrastinated far too long. This weekend - I remembered a time when I told myself “Just Do it”. I would say “I don’t wanna, but I’m gonna… clean that turntable”. So, I’m trying that approach again. When I’m feeling unsettled - I’ll have recurring thoughts to talk with my sister. That happened today. I FaceTimed with her while I refilled weekly meds dispensers for myself and our mother (94) who lives with my husband and me. It really boosted my mood. I ran thru my list of daily routines and took care of the basics. Hubby fell in behind me and pitched in. Tomorrow - I want to finally tackle my “Monica” closet. A “Just Do It” project. I am monitored by my doctor and I’ve been on medication for years. There are many good and even great days. The bad days threaten to suck me under - but I seem to be aware of it happening and take counter measures. Retreating to my bed to watch videos is another thing that helps shift my thinking. I gain inspiration from others. Sometimes I watch music videos. This week I’m loving the music of Brooks & Dunn. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your experience. It truly is different for each of us. 👍🏼❤️👍🏼

[@zerozilchnada5373]

You are a light in my dark. Mainly because you have always reminded me I am good enough, my best is good enough. Ty Sweetheart x🌺 🫂❤

[@moniquef4737]

Thank you so much for sharing Mel. Today my goal is to tidy my room, step by step ❤️

[@Patricia-wd9qj]

Hi Mel. I really, enjoy your videos. There very encouraging. Thanks

[@jillianguilford5191]

good info. I was impressed that you knew how to handle the non draining thing in the sink.

[@marshabrubaker185]

Mel, I'm right there with you. I had a bit of a mental breakdown yesterday and the only thing that finally brought me out of it was tackling the piles & piles of paper clutter. I have more to go, but have made a start. Feeling a bit more optimistic today.

[@vanessaortega1988]

Thank you for the video Mel! By the way cute pants!

[@angid3953]

Thank you for this! I like the sound of your voice. (not in a weird way) It’s comforting. Take care. You’re doing great! ✨ad

[@crystalkersey7821]

I'm Not Alone.😭❤----- I've been struggling with Depression and Anxiety since I was an child, Currently on medication and talking to psychologist as well an therapist. Everyday is the same where I go into work come home to a messy house which I'm use to. It's everyday cycle to where my depression gets in the way. I want to get better for myself and my children.❤❤❤❤ Miss Mel, Seeing your video, it made me cry.... Makes me not want to put my children in a dirty messy house. I need to get myself motivated, but need to work on coping skills but not sure what the coping skills are. Anyways.... I will continue to watch your videos to motivated myself to do clean something everyday. Thank you.❤❤❤❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Hugs Crystal. You most certainly not alone. It sounds like you’re being super proactive in managing your health. How inspirational! Hang in there. You’re doing great. First you - then the rest.

[@ghg8634]

Sooo satisfying to see the floor cleaning!

[@annicane1409]

Oh Mel, I just want to give you a hug. Thank you for this video. I think this will be helpful for so many people. Wish you all the best 💛

[@saharirfan1344]

Hi mel I.loved ur openness of ur mental health .and alway love ur cleaning videos love from uk

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks Sahar. I was going to add in some laundry in this one just for you - even said “this is for you Sahar” but it will probabaly be in the next one. 😂

[@saharirfan1344]

@@MySemiSortedLife thank you ive been very behide in my housework( feeling very low) so I think ur video will help alot thanks again

[@ANelligante]

Thank you ♥️

[@marciapickens7444]

You're right. There's many things that can bring on depression or anxiety. I've learned that mine comes at a certain time every year. I'm not thinking about it, but it still hits me. A traumatic experience. I also find if I eat mini meals & get all my fruit & vegetables in, it greatly improves my mood! I've also stopped exercising. I was decluttering & not taking care of myself. We just have to get up and get back on track. It's ok, everything works out. Take care!

[@rachalnocchi5600]

#teamsorted I really appreciate what you had to say about your journey with dealing with anxiety and depression. I struggle with depression at times as well. It's an awful place to be. Thank you so much for shedding light on what has typically been such a dark subject for many of us.❤😘 Your kitchen looked so nice!!

[@caramoonlynn]

Wow! I didn't realize this was going to trigger me. I'm ok.it was just really interesting how I started to feel low as you talked about feeling low. Ugh. I'm glad we are in this together.

[@caramoonlynn]

Yeah. That was a lot if m and m's. Ok.drink water and start over.

[@martinafranciscus1281]

Hugs, dear Mel. I'm one of those, who clean constantly, as a way to deal with panic attacs. House still gets chaotic...😉

[@kathya4160]

thankyou it means alot

[@sarahconner8287]

Mel you matter !! You're good at explaining the ups and downs of depression and anxiety 🙃 and things that may help 🙂 💜💜💜

[@shelleymeldrum2448]

Thank you so much for sharing this! Your dialogue was so well done, you shared from your experiences, from your heart and from your healing journey and let me tell you, it was very powerful. It has taken me years to realize that I actually struggle with anxiety and depression that I'm not just terrible at doing life, I'm getting help now and giving grace to myself and although it is still a struggle I'm not my enemy anymore. I can love me and help me. Everything you shared was so helpful. Thanks again for sharing your successes over your struggle. Grace to you and peace. May God bless your beautiful heart! Love from Canada!

[@dianawaddoups8937]

great job mel. i know how u feel mel. i lost my mother inlaw on the 1st oct and i just have not been able to cope with anything. my house turned into a tip as grief took over. im finally starting to feel a little better so just started to clean the house today. it feels so good to finally have a clean home

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh Diana. I was devastated for you to see that. She was soooo young. Please be kind and compassionate with yourself. Grief has no timeline nor rhyme or reason in how and when it hits. Hugest hugs.

[@rebeccabanks9767]

Another very open and honest video Mel. You are a wonderful person with a very beautiful soul. Thank you for being you. Take care lovely lady. XXX

[@FrugalFunMum]

Well Done for sharing being open and honest you will inspire so many and your such a blessing to many!

[@SammieOranges]

"my persistence at good times and their support at all times" this is me and my family of 6.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Of course - I don’t realise how much I actually do until I’m not doing it. Lol.

[@madhatter909]

I haven't checked in with you for a long time. Sorry you have been going thru some rough times. Be good to yourself.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Naw. Thanks for checking in now though!! I appreciate you coming back. X

[@alisonrice5863]

As you know I have Major Depression Anxiety and CPTSD. I find I go round in circles but especially during winter. I have high anxiety most days which is exhausting and dealing with an ASD teen who also has high anxiety is a struggle in itself. I try and potter around daily to keep up on things but my house and yard needs major TLC.

[@heczone]

Hi Mel, as you know, I had HUGE anxiety and felt sooo sick before my Lake District holiday, I was having to drink ginger tea, where my seasickness bands for accupressure points, once I was there I felt soo much better...in fact I wasn't anxious driving home!!...apart from getting fuel... Then the fuel crisis was much worse here than where I was.. thankfully although expensive I was able to top up at Motorway service station 😁 so my anxiety was less...once I knew I didn't need to continue driving 60mph on a motorway trying to save fuel to make sure I made It home... However I spent the next week on a low ebb, a funk, a can't be arsed mode... Was it holiday Blues? Was it the hormones? Fuel shortage..that had me stuck in many blocked roads that's to all the panic buyers, getting whatever fuel they could get? Then Friday evening (my birthday).. I got the answer...monthly decided to show 🙄.. THAT'S WHY, I have felt like I have... But the tiredness and low energy is still with me... I did take a soak in the bath last night, and that was helpful... But today I didn't wanna get up..but Blue helped by batting my face! Another week.. and another week of fuel crisis.. I DID manage to get £35 fuel in my tank after trying 3 petrol stations! I was watching the fuel get lower and lower thinking I won't get anymore cleans done this week! And the dread of phoning clients... thankfully I was able to refuel...but the army have been bought in now!!! My house is still a mess from not getting stuff done...but my energy is sooo low...I'm sure it's hormones... I've not had blood tests done for a while...so I really need to speak with a Dr... however...we have vial tube shortage too!!! I am also aware this month started with my birthday...but will be 2 years on 29th without Tiger 🐈‍⬛ 😢and all the emotional trauma comes flooding back with I hit certain dates this month 😫😔 CBT didn't really work for me!

[@tomr4129]

Good morning mel hope you have a good day x

[@kirstyhyatt7132]

Today's a me day, I needed it, but so glad my partner hasn't jumped at swapping our bedroom with the kids bedroom, not feeling a 100% today but that's okay 🤣 it's partly for my mental health so I can get a better night's sleep. But I enjoy watching your videos 😊 one thing a day, your doing a great thing showing your story, remember your an inspiration.

[@karenturner7983]

❤️❤️Thanks Mel. ❤️❤️

[@bigiturk9671]

Thank you

[@MySemiSortedLife]

You’re very welcome. And thank-YOU!

[@asc3998]

I can totally relate to the way you feel. I too feel better when my house is in order & at times I'm able to get it really clean. I can't seem to keep it that way though. I've tried a lot of different systems & none seem to click with me. I follow an organization idea that makes sense, but then forget how I've organized, so can't find things. That leaves me feeling like a failure. Thoughts like other women can handle all of this & in a lot of cases even hold down a job while doing it. I feel hopeless. Some new research is finding that a lot of mental health issues stem from trauma. I fall in to that category. I have PTSD & treatment resistant depression which also leaves me feeling hopeless. Multiple doctors have tried multiple different drugs, combination of drugs... At best, some help for a short time, but most don't do anything. I'm so tired. I'm considering MAiD at this point. It's not what I want, but I can't keep on like this.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh that’s so tough. I agree about trauma being a huge factor that people don’t consider. If you look at ADHD symptoms and trauma symptoms you will see they overlap A LOT. And I think untreatable and ongoing anxiety and depression can cause trauma (just an opinion - but makes sense to me). Hang in there. Be kind to yourself. X

[@asc3998]

@@MySemiSortedLife thank you. Dr thought I had ADHD. Tried 2 medications. 1st one caused all kinds of issues, second didn't work, so I don't know if he was right or not. Tried counselling, but 2 different ones said that I was too depressed for them to be able to help. New dr has a couple of ideas. I'm just so tired.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

I can only imagine. Hang in there - it takes a lot to figure out our brains and bodies..

[@juliejackson496]

Hi am new to your chanel I came across it tonight my name is Julie I've got anxiety and depression am exactly the same I get this over powering feeling of why should I bother but then can't get the motivation to get up and do any thing some times I feel like going into a corner and just crying I've got an appointment on Wednesday with my doctor I felt like this for a very long time but only got diagnosed a month ago by my doctor I worry about the things that are going to happen the next day or think the worst is going to happen it's not a nice place to be but hopefully I can sort it with my doctor

[@MySemiSortedLife]

I hope things are improving for you Julie. X

[@Nanatracie]

Thanks for video Mel, I can definitely relate to your anxiety and depression, anxiety is here fully atm, my youngest has recently got a kitten and has fleas which have hitched a ride here to my house cat and home so that's me spraying my whole home, washing everything and anything that will go in washer, ocd has kicked in and I could literally throw everything away and start again, not good dealing with stuff like this x

[@rosearthur983]

My computer has a mind of it's own tonight. It keeps playing your video on it's own. It just happens.Lol!

[@karenturner7983]

Mel, did you get some new pots and pans? What's the little "thingamajig" hanging on the cabinet handle by the stove?

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh. I bought a new saucepan from Aldi on the weekend and the I think the “thingmajig” you’re talking about is a ring that holds tea towels? Or hand towels?

[@sonyahubbard3226]

In the states we’ll soon be entering what I think of as The Long Dark. Cold, dreary, not as much time with sunlight. I automatically start a kind of hibernation- energy and motivation v low, desire to just curl up with a book for frequent cycling of reading/napping v high.

[@judenebaer9997]

Beautiful job !!

[@fionabenson2148]

Thank you 😊 - 🤗😘💞xx

[@pppetra]

Winterlows.. could it be connected to lees going outside? Low vitamine d? Just not maling serotonine for a lack of fun? (Living in the Netherlands here we had autumn, winter,autumn 1, autumn 2 and autumn before winter. Yeah it was a wet and cold year, to me spring and Sumner have not been around in 2021.. took my highdose medication since August 2020.

[@nataliesmith8827]

Relaxing and watching this one Mel as been cleaning all day although looks like I haven't achieved anything 🙄

[@GoingGreenMom]

Confused, did you start filling the dishwasher before unloading it about half way through?

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Lol - it hadn't washed most of it properly - so I just put back in most of it...good spotting. lol

[@margie7113]

What are the two appliances on your counter?

[@MySemiSortedLife]

They’re a cooking machine called “Thermomix”. One is 5+ years old and the other is new.

[@steifenhornchen2341]

What is the titel of the song you played at around 5 minutes. It was so beautyful... ☺️

[@MySemiSortedLife]

I will have to check my editing software - but - it might have been “love and abiding”?

[@steifenhornchen2341]

@@MySemiSortedLife I actually can't find it...

[@MySemiSortedLife]

@@steifenhornchen2341 it was “deep and abiding” and from epidemic sound.

[@steifenhornchen2341]

Thank you so much!!

[@SectionSixteen]

I'm in the midst of a bad bout of apathy. My apartment's messy. I hate my surroundings being like this. Maybe I can draw inspiration here. We seem to have a lot in common.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Much love

[@GoingGreenMom]

Whoa! You can take the sink plugs apart?!?!🤯

[@GoingGreenMom]

Is it always possible to differentiate depression and anxiety? I have had post partum depression, but otherwise it has typically been anxiety, but some of the things you said about depression I deal with at times too?

[@dianeb9435]

Good question!

[@MySemiSortedLife]

No. I think they can go hand in hand sometimes. And what really matters is not what it is - but how you go forward. Sometimes going forward simply means staying still. Anxiety doesn't like still. Depression does... but mostly it like to keep you in a feeling of "can't" - if you can get to a feeling of "I am" - that's different. Tricky. But...true.

[@SammieOranges]

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[@MySemiSortedLife]

🥰😘

[@minimalzebra]

❤️

[@MySemiSortedLife]

🥰😘

[@caramoonlynn]

I scrubbed to the beat of the music! Haha

[@estherross1]

I also think to myself what's the point of cleaning up. We might be getting kicked out next week. But then I remember that we still have to live here in the meantime.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Hugs Esther. You deserve all the good things. X

[@estherross1]

@@MySemiSortedLife thanks

[@veronicolas5811]

merci pour ces paroles quand ont est dans le trou noir ont a l,impression que l,ont ne verra plus la lumiere encore merci

[@marshabrubaker185]

🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@lailanielsen2427]

❤️🌹

[@jessicamcmenamin4511]

New subscriber! Thank you. Bless your heart for this. I suffer bad with both and was literally laying in bed needing gumption to clean. Thank you for posting , being so brave and strong and keeping life real. 💪

[@The_Beach_Lady]

New subscriber here… hello 👋 😀

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh I’m thrilled to “meet” you. I hope you found this content helpful. Are you comfortable sharing a little about yourself over time? I try to recall names beyond handles. Do you have a channel?

[@The_Beach_Lady]

@@MySemiSortedLife Good morning ☕️…. I do have a channel and need to do another life update video. I really enjoyed your video and shared it out to someone I know. I hope you have a great day!! 😀

[@carlavanooik]

Mel, do you know why you experience the trauma you had in your youth, every year im the same period? And why I for example can go on, leave it behind me, as to you must take extra care in that period. How is that possible those things. Like the weather too, I am an all seasons person. How can I live and you get maybe depressed. That sooo interests me.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh that’s just it - it’s soooo different for EVERYONE. Like I said in the video though - it’s not about the why - but what you can do to start on the road to recovery or better coping. Be super kind to yourself. Just know you’re not alone.

[@karenturner7983]

Miss Rosey, you can slow that growing down a little bit. ❤️

[@MySemiSortedLife]

I know right. Sigh.

[@shirleenpocaigue8839]

You should get all your dishes around the house first before you put them in the dishwasher. Instead of starting the dishwasher and then opening it up to add more dishes. Make sure you have everything to put in the dishwasher. You can break your dishwasher every time you open and close it when it's on.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank-you - for taking the time to watch and comment

[@lotus8656]

I love your leggings

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks. They’re not at all flattering and took all the courage in the world to upload the video looking the way I did. But. I am trying to overcome my bad self image and accept myself the way I am.

[@steefendeesveldhuijsen2290]

♥️

[@samanthawinkels9511]

❤️

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Hey there Samantha!!! I think if you often. I hope you and yours are well. X