It's Time to Let That Sh*t Go

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks for all the love y'all ❤ For exclusive content/1 on 1 sessions: patreon.com/colehastings

[@TheSwedishCarGuy]

Another great video Cole :)

[@BD-1-And-Only]

Your videos always make me feel better. Thank you.

[@sanjaypal2258]

Your videos are so much useful 👌love from India🇮🇳

[@BeeLayzTv]

Man your writing is shit hahaha just like mine. Just started journalling a few weeks ago and improving my writing is a must lol

[@gurudra]

Do not let your past ruin your life🙏

[@ColeHastings]

Yessir

[@rolon-ew5kl]

I am guilty of doing that and let people bring it up and use it against me. It hard to move on when people keep bringing bs from the past and mistakes. People disrespect my physical and mental health issues an discrimination I get over those explaining why I feel worthless and hate and distrust others. I swear this is giving me anger issues. Can’t work out to release it neither.

[@jpeanuts8195]

Amen brother.

[@nishanisha-ee9ml]

@@rolon-ew5kl totally can relate t o somethings

[@usrr444]

Thanos said it

[@arturomelendez7262]

I'm 23 and I feel like I'm in one of my lowest points. I have a lot to learn. Thank you for sharing this

[@sapnewapne]

Same

[@PiercedSpicyNoodle]

I believe in you stranger! Just want to tell you that you are amazing

[@Ian-wi8je]

same

[@viktorijalaucyte5269]

21, glad im not alone in this

[@rogerpope9948]

I wish you the best in your journey out of that low point, man!

[@PeliculasClub7]

“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself”

[@vickie2044]

and make new ones for yourself, your not dead! live on and love what was and still is good in life..being happy you..is the best ever..

[@KyleGood]

“Attachment is the root of all evil & unnecessary suffering.”

[@racheliacob4425]

agreed.

[@pouyan_m]

Attachment to the past*

[@namegoesfirstthenlastname1785]

@@pouyan_m I think attachment in general.

[@Peanuts76]

all attachments, including social expectations, family expectations, people opinions, negative future outcomes.... let it go all of them, oh and perfectionism

[@kevgh3869]

Is one attached to their child?

[@MrSandManBringMeADream]

Letting go of the grudges are easier than.. letting go of a guilt.. forgiving yourself and letting go of the mistakes you have made. regrets..

[@ambulophilia]

This is so true.

[@raniah7890]

Haven’t read a more truer comment yet

[@sirg-had8821]

You ain't kidding.

[@wilfredcarin4691]

yeah

[@usernameisunavailable8270]

Yeah but at what point after this person did you wrong is it okay to finally let it go? 1 hour? 1 day? 1 month? 1 year? We are allowed to feel the pain that comes with betrayal or anything else someone does to hurt us. But how long are we allowed to feel this pain for? And depending on the degree on which this person hurt you, (especially in extreme cases like abuse, assault, etc), does it become okay to feel these thoughts. Especially when that hurt has caused you extreme mental battles like depression, anxiety, ptsd, trauma, etc? How can you just throw all hate in your heart out for a person that has caused you a lifetime of suffering? Especially depending on the importance of the role this person played in your life.

[@990mustang]

Lost a friend who stopped caring about me that I truly cared about and it's been hard but I'm accepting it and moving on with my life.

[@ChaplainJoshua]

I'm here now.. Good luck to you

[@nachocrazy1448]

Same

[@himmlerlovesbeer8867]

Let go of friends. People are extremely emotional. Had a friend who had a toxic girlfriend. Ever since she left, he became enraged and started becoming toxic himself. He threw all that toxicity on me and then abandoned me and would in 2 week intervals, call me for things that he needed whether it be money or a place to sleep or food. I stopped talking to him completely. Turned out he had a new group of friends, dude's spending too much time looking for a replacement girlfriend. I was emotional and depressed and he would come over and tell me stories about how he met this girl who he thinks is the one. Every few weeks there's a new girl. He never asked me how I was, just where I was. I stopped talking to him and it made him more bitter. Called me stupid, fat, and a bad friend. I gave up on him and just let go. Started finding self happiness. Positive? I'm happier. Negative? I'm home a lot. I feel like a homebody.

[@vanazleb8751]

Same :(

[@sexyjulian9945]

We are forever changing. The universe doesn't stop for anyone sadly. You may not feel change but even from a year ago you have somewhat changed. It's just a pebble in the road of your dream. You got this!

[@KyleGood]

Key point of the video from Cole: "IN ORDER TO LET GO AND MOVE ON FROM PAST EXPERIENCES AND PEOPLE, YOU MUST OUTGROW THE VERSION OF YOURSELF THAT WAS PRESENT WHEN THESE PAST EXPERIENCES OR PEOPLE WERE PRESENT IN YOUR LIFE!" much love Cole!💜 Keep walking the path of God :)

[@ColeHastings]

That's what it's all about 👍

[@jonatanrodriguez3508]

thanks bro i wanted to be inspired but not watch a 12 minute video cheers for the quote

[@leandrofernandes285]

@@ColeHastings That is really, really hard

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Not helpful at all

[@benamitchell]

This man is growing like crazy and deserves every single bit of it.

[@ColeHastings]

Love you dude ❤ thanks for being here

[@Droopy95mkDS]

God dammit yes. Hints at what life can be like depending on mindset and mental constructions, facts on human psychology, I guess this is what the world needs right now, we all need to learn how to be with ourselves in order to be with each other and not against each other

[@KyleGood]

"It's pretty black & white, you either let go or don't, let go and you will grow internally, don't and you will fall into the distractions of lower vibrations"

[@Tubeytime]

I love that society is starting to focus more on mental health and it's not coming from the top-down but rather the bottom-up.

[@adamsnotebook850]

“Don’t allow your past or present condition to control you. It’s just a process that you’re going through to get you to the next level.”

[@ColeHastings]

Nice

[@alankellman271]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@lorenzocarter1459]

I’m only 25 and I never felt this much pain from a girl literally we planned a future together we did a lot and when it ended badly I was deeply hurt and depressed this video helped a lot I’m still on this journey but this helped thank you man

[@ColeHastings]

Keep going brother! Time will heal

[@lilywhitejimmy5907]

My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back.

[@mthorne_]

Hey man, how’s it feel these days? I’m going through the same right now

[@DJmag01]

You’ve become a pillar of the male empowerment and improvement community. You’re serving a lot of needed information to boys looking for direction. Thanks Cole.

[@ColeHastings]

Sometimes I forget the type of impact I'm making on these teenagers. Very happy to help. Love y'all

[@KSHITIJA_SAMANT]

@Angry Pengu I second that, I have watched a few of Cole's videos and none of them reek of sexism or misogyny while other so called male empowerment channels are built on the very foundation of putting women down, objectifying them and controlling them. I found this channel kind of wholesome.

[@nandocame620]

no one will be with you longer than yourself, everyone and thing will come and go, accept that. Do get to know yourself. Do get to love yourself. Do take care of yourself. Do learn to love yourself. No one will be with you longer than yourself, others may let you down, lie to you, cheat you, use you, disrespect you, attack you. Don't do that to yourself. l love me and want the best for everyone and that starts with yourself loving yourself, best of luck!

[@David_Hammond]

Great video again Cole!

[@ColeHastings]

Real recognize real. You're the GOAT bro

[@leelo270]

Yes 😊

[@hansonel]

There is a lot of "old soul" wisdom to be gained from your videos. I really struggle with letting go of negative experiences or something a toxic person did or said to me, even if it was years ago. Watching several of your videos has been as helpful as a few sessions of good therapy- and for free too. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the the person you're holding a grudge against to die.

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you so much, happy to help. Indeed grudges are completely unnecessary negative energy

[@peachteatina]

Yup i agree. Definitely got old soul energy.

[@Nassit-Gnuoy]

I’m still learning to do this. A lot of my anxiety and insecurities come from holding on to my past failures and grudges. The hardest part is realizing that no matter how mad you may be at someone else, they’re not the ones responsible for you staying bitter afterward. Getting over yourself is hard. Great video!

[@bunbebop]

Noting is at a constant, there are things that change, and things that prosper

[@ColeHastings]

Indeed

[@MERADDD1]

Every single video of this guy is a blessing wtf

[@ColeHastings]

Much love

[@davidbarreras3094]

Said it once, I’ll say it again. This man is gonna be great and widely recognized one day.

[@ColeHastings]

Love you bro, thank you so much

[@TheSoundofTanay]

My man. I have so much trouble letting go of a relationship right now. I have to heal from a shit ton of baggage but don’t have it in me to let go of a relationship. I’m too afraid to lose something precious.

[@j-efaw]

Same boat man its been 2 weeks now

[@Nick199607]

i was there 5 months ago. Litteraly the 6 of november 2020. The amount of time u need to recover differs from person to person. Let yourself suffer for a moment, and then rebuild yourself. Im not fully there yet, not gonna lie, but i have practiced to love myself more. Start good habits, and get rid of bad ones. Focus on your dreams and goals, and take one step at a time. If u cant sprint, jog, if u cant jog, walk, if u cant walk, crawl, but dont stop! it will get better.

[@sokka44]

My feelings exactly. It's been almost a month now, but I still can't let go 😢

[@Arealchillbro]

Use it as an opportunity to grow personally and love yourself even more.

[@chinm0y_169]

Same boat, it's been 3 months .

[@HasnainKhan-tv5mm]

Pray for me i'm trying to move on from a breakup guys and it has caused me immense suffering i have gone thru alot in the past year or so.

[@am0diaa]

good luck man🙏🏽

[@GiovanniDeluxxe]

goodluck g. stay strong. keep walking tall king ❤️

[@activelifeg5237]

Look at it like this , it was for a moment and relationship was there . people change g.

[@unnamed9293]

You got this brother

[@cristopeloso9435]

you are a king❤️

[@chrisjamesmusicofficial4257]

you're a good man Cole, everyone can learn from this!! much love x

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks brother

[@corytaylor4454]

Needed this today cole. the last 6 months has been a roller coaster but i’m finally shaping my life how i want it to be!

[@LosAngelesLaura]

Same!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep shining! 💎

[@RealAliAbbas]

@@oshilh38 We don't know. We just have to accept the fact and spend all our energy on ourselves...Wishing you peace and luck

[@Moonii_YT]

I had a bad day waking up but I’m watching you’re videos to get a better mindset and move on and be more positive and so far it’s working thanks so much

[@ColeHastings]

Very glad I could help

[@alexanderhari3000]

You're officially my favorite KZbinr. I find your videos so relatable and I love that you don't try to be or act like someone you aren't. Your editing gets better every single time. Thanks for all your hard work and stay humble!

[@ColeHastings]

Wow, means a lot Alexander! Much love to you brother

[@angelicaescoo]

I literally started crying. Thank you for this. The other day, I went for a hike and I started crying uncontrollably. felt utterly and completely worthless. As if I was sinking. It was the most I've ever felt. It stood out a lot. This video gave me that extra push to heal. Also more solutions. Thank you so much.

[@user-ti3si8ru1u]

I'm there too. You're not alone. But let's keep pushing :(

[@paulpeter329]

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

[@paulpeter329]

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯

[@paulpeter329]

Whtsaap him**

[@paulpeter329]

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[@GerbsInDaBuilding]

I called up my ex today, it went really well. We both don’t want a relationship atm (I need to find myself for a bit) but I told her that I want to start building a connection with her again & she agreed. I also told her that at the end of all of this I want to begin to build back up to a new relationship and she again agreed, she said we gotta take slow steps but she does want to end up with me down the line🤙🏼 no matter what hardships happen during your life time just know that you can learn from those experiences and grow into a newer & better person. Stay active and stay motivated, I love you all. Have a great day and Thankyou for reading this far

[@cdiessner711]

I had a bad experience getting bullied at the workplace. Even though it's been a few years, I feel my hair raising every time I recall it. It definitely takes a lot of work and self acceptance to overcome those "samskaras" but it is a challenge worth overcoming.

[@Chizuru94]

Sory to hear you made that experience as well. My brother is in the same spot and he never got over it so far (and is really impulsive, angry, aggressive and hateful just when recalling any of hte events). Maybe he can someday find a good therapist etc. to get into a better spot (and get over his possbile CPTSD). I'm in a similar boat, btw, but mostly due to my ADHD (my brother seem to deal with other struggles than ADHD, btw).

[@寇犀犀]

Like you said, people are constantly changing their mind. So even though he doesnt love me any more, it doesnt mean that the fact will last forever. He might change his mind and come back to me some day in the future. I have been thinking in this way all the time, that's why I always be not able to let him go. But instead i always keep the hope that he will come back some day. I know this kind of thought helps nothing for me but put me into more unhealthy life to wait for him. But the uncertain hope is technically true :(

[@KIAS1]

You just helped me more in 11 minutes, than my therapists has in 3.5 years of frequently discussing this topic.

[@ColeHastings]

Love to hear that my friend!

[@namegoesfirstthenlastname1785]

From my experience, therapists are bs.

[@Chizuru94]

@@namegoesfirstthenlastname1785 Not necessarily and not all. But a lot of therapists seem to approach stuff the same for most and not individualize therapy :/

[@purpleplays69420]

@@Chizuru94 I agree, I don’t think there’s many therapists who are competent enough to approach a topic of improving your life on an individual level

[@MamaSwole]

Always a great message

[@delightchakanyuka96]

Been in a series of unfortunate events from a big breakup to life problems and yes thank you so much for such a helpful video. It means a lot..

[@alecstephens9074]

You telling me shit I don't want to hear, it's what I need though. Appreciate it bro...

[@bishamon9994]

the pain i'm carrying is too much, i'm so desperate to let it go

[@noahjp7090]

My best wishes to you, hope you’re able to let go!

[@lywill6832]

Me too 😵🤕

[@grimmjowjerjegenz1739]

*Be Strong For You* 😁i love u man

[@quontonnoodles]

I love the journaling suggestion. I started getting back into it, but I’ve never thought to throw the negative entries away. I think I keep them to reflect on later when I’m further down along my own personal growth and see how far I’ve come. I’ve mostly been venting about work 😂

[@Resignate]

This dropped at a time when I really needed it

[@ddmarcos924]

Wow, very well said! Yes, learn to forgive, move on, and let go all the negative energy in life. Learn to love yourself first. Life is so beautiful, so live happily and in a positive way.

[@demmytrus]

@3:36 I realized this truth. Coupled with people being inconsistent constantly, the person/people that betrayed you were not that person at some point. That does not mean you need to 'save them' and find that person that fits your imagine. It means that you accept reality and you use the pain as the reason why you wont inflict that pain on yourself.

[@cgonzalezani]

It’s easier, in my opinion, to move on when other people do you wrong, but what about when you’ve done someone else or yourself wrong and not being able to fully forgive or move on with the emotional damage and the result of the damage..?

[@AiRbaL2000]

two former friends left me cuz I was "too negative" to this day in trying to figure out if I really did harm them or not but I still can't figure out what. I moved on but it still there somehow...

[@somedoomermetalhead7377]

I struggle with that as well. Mostly because I have a hard time forgiving myself for past actions. It's important to remember that you are not you're past, and you are under no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday

[@mystry3562]

@@somedoomermetalhead7377 same here. I still have a long way to go in forgiving myself to what I did to that person, he still haunts my mind sometimes, but I do agree. We can change for the better!

[@usernameisunavailable8270]

Depending on the damage done. One IS obligated to take responsibility for their mistake. To own up to it and realize the hurt they've caused. After that, I think we are allowed to heal and forgive ourselves. But we can't just do SOMEONE bad one day and move on the very next day. Self forgiveness doesn't happen overnight and it takes time. It also varies depending on how bad we were or what we did.

[@joelnunez6592]

You just forgive yourself .

[@bricksimposter796]

Thanks Cole for making this video My dog just died 3 ago and I got the yesterday. I told all the positive thoughts and tried to be happy but I knew I internally I was suffering from so much pain. I couldn't sleep at night, constant thoughts coming to my mind so much pressure it's unbelievable. It was legit like fighting a battle inside me with myself for no reason. If only it wasn't you I wouldn't have learned to let go.

[@simply_sophia]

Ooops, pierced my soul with this video. It’s exactly what I needed to hear , thank you! 🙏🏾

[@kizu-v2j]

Thanks man, been holding that brown stuff for a while, feel much more relieved now 🙏

[@camwad1238]

The other day I messaged the person who had hurt me and told them that I’m burying the hatchet and that I forgive them and I’ve felt better ever since

[@ColeHastings]

Love to hear that

[@roguesquadron521]

Weird how this popped up in my feed while I am still struggling to move past my divorce. It's not anger but regret (though we both made mistakes) and sadness over the good times. I'm doing my best and I know Ill be fine, but it is still a struggle. I dont hold a grudge but it is tough to let go and be back on my own.

[@dgd865]

I'm 15 and was looking for girlfriend last year. I got rejected blocked and neglected by all if them. I wasn't a simp but I've not that let that stop me from moving onto creating a better me for the future. I sure learned some lessons and have acknowledged it to make sure that I I do not repeat it again.

[@anthonyhall4170]

9:30 this is what bothers me the most about traumatic events and people doing you dirty. You will ALWAYS remember it, it sucks when this person has any power over your emotions even years and years later. It’s something you’ll always have buried at the back of your mind and will come up time to time. Thats why im so much more careful now who i let into my life.

[@Strife72]

One of the best skills you can ever learn is forgiveness and letting go of what happens to you in life. Suffering is inevitable, how you react to this suffering makes all the difference. Let it go, today’s a new day. Great video dude, I can see you’ve learned lots. Take care. 👍

[@anitalucy6220]

Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him...

[@anitalucy6220]

Text him on WhatsApp...

[@anitalucy6220]

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[@jaimelyn2384]

I know this is an older video of yours but I just wanted to comment because this is the first video I’ve seen that doesn’t say you need to get over or release all your pain but it acknowledges that some kinds of pain do in fact stay with you for a long time and that it’s ok if it does. And just accepting that it will can give you the peace you need to move on really struck a cord with me and has helped me see things in a different perspective so thank you so much!

[@DailyViralVids33]

Cole, thank you so much for the content. I'm 24 also and I can relate to all your videos. I'm not going to lie it's like we live a similar life with similar problems at the same ages. Thank you for helping me through tough times. You've answered a lot of questions I've had for awhile. Keep it up. You're truly inspiring!

[@AhmetKaan]

*The most important two days of your life is first when you were born and second when you find out why.* Have an amazing day ladies and gentlemen.

[@aldrindetablan4358]

Man this was a relief. Thank you so much man. God bless you brother!

[@ColeHastings]

Much love to ya

[@mathalphabet5645]

I hold grudges for everything. From elementary school to now. In late 20s. Against peers, teachers anyone. I thought i will get my revenge somehow. That karma will strike them and i will be able to watch. Only recently i figured it is not how people should act. That i should let go. Maybe not forgive. Definitely not forget. But let go. I dont need it anymore.

[@BeeLayzTv]

Holdiny onto resentment will only make your life negative. Forgive but not forget and dont let those emotions hinder you from being happy

[@KiroKeneki]

The best way to truly forgive someone, in my opinion, is to focus your energy on improving yourself! In that way, you would have no energy to hold grudges!

[@keatonl.4991]

It’s so cool how poetry can have multiple meanings. A year ago, this poem referred to my girlfriend breaking up with me, I interpreted it more literally. Now, when I hear every line, all I think about is my opioid addiction and the things that come with it, the line that really got me was “Temptations masquerade themselves as feelings”, felt my heart ache for a second or two. Please never stop uploading

[@rjs7742]

I’m trying to learn to be a better person. I needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏🏽

[@grandmasboy3544]

Bro!. You Just Described the Last 5 to 10 Years!!.. Glad to Say I'm in the Moving On Stage!!.. From the Bottom of my Heart, Thank You!!.. Angry Drunk because of All the Grudges I've Held over the Years!!.. Forgiveness is a Must to Move on & Be at Peace Within Yourself!!.. Love Your Videos. ✌️

[@nishonthebeat]

What a beautiful video.

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@DivyanshuLohani]

Your videos make me feel great in this world

[@ColeHastings]

You are great

[@YKLEdits]

Sometimes i wonder is cole hasting reading my mind🤔

[@ColeHastings]

I am 🤫

[@marex1157]

i have watched this video along with other similar to this of yours , it helped to not feel alone , i started going to poetry nights once a month and this video was part om my inspiration for this poem, Thx Cole The Chains of Memory I clung to the memories we shared, As though they were a lifeboat in a storm, I tried to keep them from slipping away, Forgetting that love must be reborn. But the more I held onto the past, The more I lost myself in its chains, My heart grew heavy with the weight of memory, And my soul felt trapped in its refrains. I longed for the person I used to be, The one who saw the world with hope, But the memories of you held me down, And made it hard to find the strength to cope. I loved you once, with all my heart, And perhaps a part of me always will, But I can't hold onto a love that's gone, And I can't pretend that time stood still. It's time to let go of the chains of memory, And to find the courage to move on, To embrace the present with open arms, And to greet each new day with a fresh dawn. I'll always cherish the moments we shared, And the love that once bloomed between us, But I won't let it hold me back any longer, For my heart deserves to be free and joyous. So I'll bid farewell to what once was, And turn my eyes to the horizon, For there are new memories waiting to be made, And a life to be lived with passion.

[@callidus5586]

Thanks for content. It was calming to listen to this while constantly on the move.

[@estherjoes5903]

Hi get help from The relationship restorer Dr Steve who helped me to reunite back with my ex... He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me get to back with my ex I have been enjoying a happy, peaceful relationship.

[@estherjoes5903]

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[@estherjoes5903]

[phone].

[@TheNdh00]

I can’t. I love this person.

[@Janeiro_mango]

Perfect timing

[@28gold28]

Dam this really hit home for me today. Needed to hear this. Thanks dude!!!

[@aaronkzed11]

Been going thru this since start of this year. Friends, family, love, etc. Ok I’m gonna start letting go

[@eXit-ubermensch]

You make such great deep and meaningful videos man! You have gotten a loyal subscriber! Keep making videos true to yourself as well those that will help others in this journey of life.

[@sabersroommate8293]

It took me years just to get over my initial friends in college betrayal. Whenever I see them happy on social media, I still feel a slight pain. Also I got an Ad from my college when I watched your video ahahaha.

[@toddjal]

Powerful stuff Cole. Thank you so much for this. It's made a real impact on me. Keep helping the world because you're making a difference.

[@degenjmartin9368]

Cole Hastings back at it w another vid. 🙏🙏

[@jonathane2710]

"i want them to see it ruin me, the grudge they unknowingly instilled raising me" is a thought i've had before and quite often. quite destructive ik and i have grown since. atm the moment im just improving what i need to improve but this is more than just something i let go. it is a barbed wire interwoven with my cardic muscles. At least that's what i feels like, because at times i'm okay, and at others i could strangle a puppy. Whoever is responsible will not be around me at a time to come. That is what will keep me growing. wonderful video

[@JamFlexx]

A lot of these 'self-help' videos can come across to me as conceited in delivery, or just not hit home for me effectively. You seem very wise for your age, thank you for sharing your knowledge of the world friend .

[@ColeHastings]

Much love

[@happeeboy9581]

Cole is making a difference for many people. 😊

[@awood9214]

Staying off social media helps with this too

[@willthewisp2446]

I heard that maturity is letting things go; the ability to make sacrifices. Do I believe it? Yes, I do.

[@shobajayaram]

Needed to hear this. Thank you.

[@ColeHastings]

You're very welcome

[@jonathandemelo3075]

Thank you man for this I gotta get to work on myself all this anger inside me is holding me back need to outgrow this and move on

[@gnomali53]

your editing is so good bro :)

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you ❤

[@oli-g]

Narcissists in particular can be very hard to forgive, because it's basically impossible for you as a person to make them understand how they have disrespected/manipulated or treated you poorly. But I still think that what you're saying is right, if you can forgive them in your mind (not by accepting and giving in to the idea of what they did to you was right of course), but to just treat them as any other person. And moving on. Then you will be happier in life, knowing that whatever they have done or will do to you, they don't have the right to take away your positivity or self-confidence. Just kill 'em with kindness and never let them hurt you again. If they're just there to hurt you, then don't let them, instead learn from them and become a better person than they'll ever be. The reason why I bring narcissists into this, is because my dad (to this day) is still a narcissist. And this video made me think about how many times, (the fact that my dad is how he is) is something that has made me think very negatively and I've found it very hard to forgive him. But at a certain point, if you have narcissistic parent/friend, you will learn that they don't got shit on you. If you can just learn to be yourself, and have a positive mindset, it can do so much for you, and when you also learn to not take more shit from them, they will eventually give up. And they will most likely go into a big tantrum, when they know they can't control you. But know that, that's both good for you and for them. You will feel much better, and they will eventually understand (maybe just a tiny bit better) that they can't keep living the way they do, which eventually will lead to them finding better ways to achieve happiness, by no longer thriving in doing evil deeds to other people.

[@aidan7646]

Attachment is the root of all suffering

[@pieceofwood7064]

the problem is its really not easy to let go.....it will take months or even years and within that days you're just there just either suffering, empty or just broken hoping you can change your past mistakes to fix everything although if you continue to endure and reached the point where you can completely let go, its just liberating

[@WhoIsJonHarris]

Some of this stuff is so damn hard to let go. I don't know why I get so freakin obsessive about it.

[@yashmjj]

Similar situation here, what I've learned is that our brains are moldable like plastic, we've condition our brain to repeat an action whether it's a good or a bad one, when you're trying to move on from the past your brain is bound to repeat the action you fed it for a long time In order to break this cycle you have to replace bad habits / thoughts with positive ones and reject the negativity, it may take time but your brain will adapt to it for a betterment of your life

[@AbdulNawab]

I feel like I can relate to this. I get obsessive about it as well. One thing that is sort of helping me is recognizing that the way YOU feel is a choice. Say it out loud to yourself if you need to and put yourself in a position where you can understand where the emotions are coming come, and fix it. Takes a damn long time but you can do it

[@michaeldavis-riley6290]

I’ve been recently checking out your videos, and I have to say that you’ve got a good, real perspective on self-worth. You’ve been through it, and rather than becoming jaded and bitter, you’ve turned it into a positive and consistently share your journey with the world. Thank you.

[@rickm6232]

My mom committed suicide 2 years ago and unless you went through it, you don't just let it go but just cope.

[@markin_mask5592]

i immediately knew the names and journaled it all and threw it away and trust me that breath of relief feels peaceful thank you Cole i started journaling and it's been my biggest change in a very positive way

[@kuuly3334]

Because of this video, I am going to finally finish my apology letter to my best friend even though she hates me

[@michaelmiller8455]

Then burn it brother.

[@themantrawomankey8514]

Easier said than done but communicating with the universe makes it a lot easier to heal through time.

[@イタチうちは-b7m]

forgiving yourself for things youve done? doable. forgiving yourself for things you haven’t done? impossible

[@osan5240]

Treu Story... After I watched this video, I messaged the girl after 4 Years and we met. I deleted all negativ thoughts and I felt really powerfull! There is no hate anymore in me... Time to grow up! Thank you so much

[@yaphet8574]

I'm still hurting while it seems she moved on so fast.

[@estherjoes5903]

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[@digestivebiscuit7677]

It is only now that I have experienced a proper break up that I realise how complex our emotions are and how people can change suddenly. The hardest part is outgrowing that person and leaving behind things you held so dearly. Thanks for helping me with that.

[@paulpeter329]

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[@paulpeter329]

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[@LosAngelesLaura]

How can I like this 1,000,000,000,000 times!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????? Everyone suffering over a broken or lost relationship of ANY type needs this video PERIOD! Thanks Cole! You’re a real one! 💯

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks for watching Laura!

[@radiansandu9504]

Keep it going, you improve my life day by day

[@SGUAPOTV]

TYSM COLE!!💚

[@koushik095]

Thank you collie , my girlfriend cheated on me and by far I was so much disturbed, I was trying to get over from it getting advises from my friends etc but finally after 2 month , watching this video again ,& I just wanna thank you, forgiving her , letting her go and accepting that every ting in our lifee is gonna change , everything is temporary, and we need to gout grow ourself from our past helped me a lot, thank you Cole, I hope for a better future ,love from India

[@haleematuabubakar1948]

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[@koushik095]

❤it will be worth it my past self 😌you gonna get some one wo is just like you and will love you the most ,thanks for surviving that hard time

[@ruben-sp2vr]

This guy always pops up at the perfect time…

[@XcaliburZeRo]

Thanks!

[@XcaliburZeRo]

I just wanted to add that you've truly helped me avoid ruining my future. Thank you so much for what you do, Cole.

[@ColeHastings]

Much love! Thank you so much for the support

[@kikikiki-ub3nh]

Your channel is the best. Ive been learning to let go of alot for the past 2 years

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@tempesnyder6243]

Wow! And I mean really wow. Your statement that you need to change the type of person you were when you were hurt by them, that is truly important and I think it will make it so that I can forgive the person who hurt me. Also, your statement that they may have changed their attitude about me, that makes wonderful sense and it makes it very easy for me to let go of this problem for now. I think that it will make it so I can let go for good. I’ve tried the journaling lesson on the two biggest problems I have, and I really feel good; I’ll see if it stays that way. Cole, all of your videos so far have been wonderful! I am really impressed.