Coming Out & Coming Into Your Style (with Kej)

[@lucy-wx2tv]

just turned twenty and im so grateful to have found Made it Out. its not easy to find people who make you feel understood and hear people discuss topics that you resonate with as a lesbian, but you somehow manage to hit the mark every episode. Thank you from the bottom of my heart

[@hiportugal]

💞

[@indomitusjane]

Happy Birthday 🎉 🎂 🌈✨️🧡 As much as I wish Made it Out and so many other valuable resources were available when I was 20, I'm so happy you & other young lesbians/queers have this 💖

[@alexispraudins3388]

I love how much this episode was about just being your own self in your fashion, the queer commuinty where I live has such a specific way to "dress and be gay" and I find it so annoying because I don't fit into a style box, I never have. Its nice to know there is no "right" way to dress or no "right" way to be gay

[@Reed5016]

30:46 I feel like if you don’t want to be too butch, but also don’t want to be too femme, a jumpsuit is a good option. But finding a good one that is formal enough is the hard part.

[@cerda8112]

I love this topic n to hear she uses Jacob as a jumping point for clothes instead of all the time using another woman. Love it.

[@Alex31sb]

I'm trying to figure out my style and feelings about it, finding yourself through clothes. This ep helped a lot! Thanks for the release! This ep is exactly what I needed right now 🥰

[@neanight222]

That was sooo much excellent advice! Like, Kej said she doesn't have it all figured out, yet she had such a competent, detailed and informative answer to every single one of Mal's questions. I'm hella impressed. 🙌❤️🙏

[@mariegilgsoitilg]

I needed this video so much! I’m a 29 years old, freshly out bi/lesbian French woman, in between two chapters of my life with all of my clothes in three suitcases and an urging feeling to figure out my style and buy new clothes! I legit booked a 5 days trip to Paris with my cousin two days ago just to shop new clothes! AND I’m invited to a wedding in July and was nervous about what to wear 😂 I related so much to this conversation and I feel so much more inspired now, to enter this new chapter of my life ☺️

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

yes!!! please keep us updated on your closet journey

[@JulesLern]

Kaj’s take on finding your own style is sooo good!! Practical advice is my love language ♥️♥️

[@whatnot6647]

Every podcast just feels like it came right on time! So interesting! Love the analysis and point of you here!

[@kileybatchelor]

Being 4’11 and having a preppy 12 year old boy aesthetic is my life challenge ✌️

[@zanellenokuphila4640]

Hey Mal and Kaj,thank you Mal for another lovely episode this show makes my Tuesday, I've been waiting for a notification so i watch this lovely episode ❤

[@Happy-your1]

Creating your own style is important to who you are as a person . it gives you value and confidence to grow into your look.

[@julieee4540]

Thank you for all your podcast. it feels good and safe. Love it

[@deboravolpini3341]

I have the same problem with the suit, I am 5'3 as well. You have to find a jacket that is not that classic fit, like long sleeves and cropped top/ long top and shorter sleeves. And also, get them tailored to you body, with you find something that's good on the sleeves but not good on the torso you can take to the tailor to make the hole piece come together... Also, thrift shops are very good for making you get over numbers, if you like something and it's cheap you can make anything work. ❤

[@Sakyosa]

Not the Google sheet, lol! That was so intense but I’m that person tbh. Now I wonder if Kej is a planner by profession because that Google sheet was hella impressive. 😂

[@junevertucci3420]

Fabulous episode. Kej was delightful. Was a much needed lesson in fashion and style for me. Great job Mal.

[@KristieHenricksen]

Love the show. A friend asked why I felt the patriarchy more acutely than straight women. This is one of the reasons.

[@pura1]

This is super interesting. I believe it’s really where you’re shopping and how open minded people are to style. Gay or not. I was shopping for a suit and I was in the men’s section asking for assistance and the workers were like you’re not supposed to be here you’re a woman. I’ve constantly been shut down for how I present myself and referred somewhere else or just not accepted. Which presents itself as a barrier. Which I realized not many people around me face. I love the way I dress. I find going out in public and searching for the style particularly asking associates to help never really aided me. This is in reference to 22:37. I hope a mass amount of acceptance of expression is considered and safer spaces can be provided all around. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@KayBassie]

This ep was overwhelming...in a good way. I learnt a lot about style/fashion as I'm still figuring that out as sum1 who leans more tomboyish. On the topic of weddings, I love the middle ground option Kej was talking about. So many gems to take away from this ep. Wait Mal, the musical episode is where Greys Anatomy lost you?🤣 Come on you gotta give allowance for that one musical ep (said by someone that doesn't like musicals)😂

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

LOL it may have been that plus 2 plane crashes…

[@personone8415]

I wore a lot of skirts and tshirts in my 20s . Now I like to wear whatever is comfy. Polos and oxford shirts are nice. I enjoy wearing T shirts with dogs on it most from colombia sportsware.

[@koficat11]

Love you gals!! Such great content!!! Thank you ❤

[@Raddiebaddie]

“Pixar mom @ss” 😂

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

the incredibles mom comes to mind

[@JoyNova]

Almost at 30k🎉 love this podcast!

[@hiportugal]

let's goooooo!!!

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

📈

[@someonesomehow379]

oh my god those overalls mal!!!! love ur style

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

💘🥹

[@roadrider_2771]

Thank you for this one. The episode I didn’t know I needed 😄❤️

[@coffeechillninja442]

I needed this episode years ago. It's the episode I liked the most so far. Thank you so much, Mal ❤❤❤

[@amberarmstrong4902]

This is the podcast I needed in college

[@MelHyde]

Wow this was so relatable, love this

[@brinabridget]

Wawooo!!! Today's podcast was incredible 🥰🥰 thank you made out management and host mall I like your interactions 🥰🥰 peace and love wuhu wuhu

[@writteng1rl]

I would loveee an episode with just u Mal, or with Mathilde too, speaking in depth about your journey, especially about how we are so indoctrinated to like men that our own desires often escape ourselves

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

bonus content coming SOON

[@ashleyn1988]

Callie Torres. Callie is why I would STILL rewatch half of Grey's 😅 Bae forever

[@thedailystoic8617]

OK but we need access to the google sheet yall

[@MirejaGreenald]

Thankfully! You are amazing ❤️‍🔥

[@FlyMeToWonderland]

A topic I didn‘t know I needed 👍🏻

[@SaloYD]

LMFAOO “they want some of swag bear”

[@Baybreigne10]

Love this Podcast ☻

[@AP-mr5mr]

Where can I get that sideboard/credenza in the background?

[@winec00ler]

Love your podcast girly! Can you set up a match making event for some of us locals?😉 These apps are pissing me off

[@harkseg]

Shout out to the Queers who live in towns where if they dressed authetically, they would get harrassed because there's such a strong societal need for everyone to conform. ❤

[@missy_mutlylaf1]

I would “u ghost” anyone who didn’t like Grey’s Anatomy! Lol

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

Thanknyou for this. I'm 39 and an ex Muslim who wore hijab and Niqab. I never got to wear expressive clothing.

[@verakace]

Please bring Hallie torrid to the podcast I would love to listen you two talk about all the sapphic world and art!

[@farleyandrews7269]

Ha ! Wow ! I pictured/imagined you very tall ! You project "Tall !" - Farley Andrews

[@darcieleah]

I loved this episode!

[@parya9036]

Can u feel how u are in a state of no gender during podcasts? Pure consciousness This is ur true identity

[@KaliyahKayoni]

Apparently I don’t get sleep 💀 because why am I always so early ?

[@LlamaLlamaRedPajamas]

Kej drop that google sheet template!

[@Reunion4ever]

Interesting topic - I think you have to be careful about wearing colors that wash you out, even if you love the colors…Is it common in the US to wear hats indoors?

[@ArtichokeHunter]

i'm curious why it would matter if you look "washed out" if the colors make you happy and you like how you look.

[@ArtichokeHunter]

i don't know if it's all on this podcast or other lesbian spaces but i finally had to google jacob elordi today (of course i spelled it wrong first), kinda curious why he comes up so much among queer women

[@hiportugal]

You have to watch Saltburn!!

[@sekinathurman5710]

Mal don't be a hater give that Grey's Anatomy critique some context. It was the musical episode they were supposed to be singing lol U haul for sure!

[@hiportugal]

Like this if you had a hot english teacher!!!

[@personone8415]

History teacher ??

[@cerda8112]

Or a phys ed teach

[@IAMAJNAMUSIC]

And go to your local clothing swap or start one! Free clothes and get rid of all that old stuff

[@zoedelta]

“Maybe you have the wrong ‘swagbear’” 😅

[@sulagreen5792]

You should try to get Amandla Stenberg.

[@chack4845]

Hi #madeitoutpodcast can I come on the next show if #Mathilde is not? 🤣 I kinda have to change the tactics now because Mathilde is further and further away 😅

[@hiportugal]

CHACK!! What a pleasure it would be to have you on!! We could go on together!

[@chack4845]

@@hiportugal together? yay! I'm coming.

[@mollyharrison6841]

As much as I love conversations about fashion, I don't understand how they have to do with sexuality.

[@AnnaGastelum-lm6hf]

Maybe cause fashion has to do with expressing yourself and sexuality is part of identity

[@amseli91]

I love your Podcast and this is one of my favourite episodes!! Do you plan a patreon membership? I immediatly would become a member, because I‘d like to support you and I would do it either way (if you have bonus content there or not)!! So if you haven‘t thought about it maybe you do now? I really wanna support you!! Much love to you and thank you so much!! ❤

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

this is a work in progress!!! thank you so much for the support - we will let you know as soon as we set up bonus content!

[@brendhalarys4597]

Please get chappel roan here!! ❤❤❤

[@miggycaido]

i'm so early 😐

[@InternationalStrategyII]

Ladies, Please come to Harajuku in Tokyo. You'll find gender fluidity, genderless, x gender, nonbinary fashion all over.

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖🌹

[@merlin5476]

Do people need to know about your sexuality?