Healing After Betrayal (with Rala)

[@dawnjohnson8714]

As a lesbian over 60, I 'm not a typical demographic for this show. That being said, I can tell you that you will find that woman for you once you have developed your feeling of self worth and except nothing less. 34 years ago I met a woman who had been out most of her life and taught me it was OK to be me and I deserved the best back, not just giving. We u-hauled it and I have never regretted that choice. Was everyday perfect, no. But I had the opportunity to raise three boys, and now have six grandchildren. Unfortunately Patty became ill and I lost her three years ago. Trouble with finding your soul mate is learning to live without her in your life, but I still have the support of the family we raised and hope to someday find someone to spend time with however that may come. The point is, don't settle for second best. You deserve the best, and when you accept/expect that for yourself you will find that person who is your equal. As and addendum: Without mutual trust . . . You have nothing worth saving.

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

wow. how beautiful that you built such an amazing life with someone you loved so much. i’m so sorry for your loss. thank you for sharing your story i know many just need to hear that it’s out there and possible❤️

[@iamgabriel5823]

So very sorry for the loss of your soul mate. Hope you're taking good care of yourself.

[@dawnjohnson8714]

@@iamgabriel5823 Thanks. And I'm working on it everyday.

[@DeoCross16]

❤

[@dawnjohnson8714]

@@MadeItOutPodcast Thank you for the kind response. Truly enjoy watching your content on KZbin.

[@brendmar.]

I recently came out as a lesbian and I've been binge watching all of your videos and I just wanna say THANK YOU ❤ Listening to all of the different stories and backgrounds has really help me. I'm so thankful that I found this podcast 🌈

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

so happy we can be part of your journey!! thank you for watching 🫶🏼

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

also congrats on coming out!!!!!!

[@LesBiNews]

❤❤❤

[@LaLaLaLaLa8237]

Awww... Rala's amazing, i hope she finds her person when she's ready, she deserves a safe space, and to be seen, heard, valued, desired, wanted, worshipped, and looked at like shes treasure because she is!

[@Bels]

13:59. 😔 “I surrender to not knowing the full story. And I’m at peace with not knowing the full story. I know that once I overcome this, im able to be in a happy and healthy relationship. You are a coward, and that is your karma.” Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. My ex cheated on me and she always lied about what really happened and to this day I still hadn’t gotten over it, but I know I’ll be strong enough to let it go. 😩

[@alexandrafainaru8136]

😊

[@TPark-rf3lt]

28:15 - 29:13 this part... I had to listen to over and over. this podcast is really the best ❤

[@taylorshai]

Rala is so smart, creative & brave. I really loved this episode. Rala went through so much but I’m glad she came to these relaxations, I’m happy for her & I love this podcast 🩵

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

yes!! she’s definitely done the work!!! thank you for listening 🥹

[@junevertucci3420]

This episode will forever be known as "Don't Steal Packages"

[@SandraH-qs5nk]

Having gone through a “shallow” or surfaced-based marriage to end in divorce…: through therapy, journaling and venting….I experienced an epiphany while watching this episode. When the word betrayed was used….it lifted the weight I was carrying. Final piece of the puzzle! Thank you for this show and all of the candid guests that have been on this podcast.

[@zanaduify]

I loved listening to this episode soo much. Rala is absolutely stunning and I'm proud of the work she has done on herself. This episode was soo cathartic for me and it has taken me a while to move past what I went through and learn to trust again. I'm sending love and peace to everyone who has gone through this/ still finding healing.

[@Pr0bablyVic]

This has been perhaps the 7th episode of your podcast that I just finished watching, almost on a binge, which, I ought to admit, has left me baffled, given I can't recall ever managing to conjure the requisite attention span to sit through even the most curated content. The idea and the themes that you explore though such sincere, comforting and empathetic engagement with your invited subject, manoeuvring the conversation with such honest attention and complete presence throughout, along with how you connect so warmly, chiming in at just the perfect moments, truly brings out the best in guests. Your underlying focus on mental health, and the effortless way you present it's connection to one's struggles or major life events, makes what you're doing very noble. As someone with a personal, prolonged experience of severe depression and anxiety in the past, your podcast offers with such grace, a warm comfortable space to introspect and look back with newer perspectives on times/things you leave behind. Thanks ever so much for sharing this content, my heartfelt wishes to you for continued success.

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

this comment makes me so happy. thank you for taking the time to comment and share your experience. i really appreciate you and am so happy you’re party of the made it out community🫶🏼🥹

[@Pr0bablyVic]

@@MadeItOutPodcastWow, thank you so much for your kind words! I'm truly honored to be part of the made it out the community, it's become one of my most favorite things to watch and learn from. Keep up the amazing work! ❤️🙏

[@someonesomehow379]

mal!! omg the way you've met most of the guests is SO LESBIAN it's hilarious!!! love itt😭

[@timtam39tw]

Another great episode 👏🏿🎉😊👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🎉👏🏿👏🏿😊

[@MP24685]

Currently watching this whilst working (UK based), 'The one thing that could make me feel better could also cause me so much pain'... I felt this so much 😢

[@wildestdreams_]

Rala!!! I needed all of these reminders so badly today. Thank you ❤

[@samantha.rayner]

I've just found this podcast after having gone through this myself with my wife! What an amazing person Rala is! your advice is so valuable, You will find the happiness you deserve! Such a purely decent human!

[@ritamadeirarodrigues]

This episode is so good. It’s so real all that was said here,I mean it’s really difficult when you are in it and you know something is not right. Loved the solid advices ❤️

[@knstew75]

This was such a good conversation. Thank you. 👏🏽

[@whodis2792]

Don't steal packages 🤣 Rala was an absolute delight to listen to.

[@emeliemetcalfe4576]

What a beautiful soul. So emotionally intelligent. Great podcast.

[@mimicolapietro2086]

Excellent podcast!!! If someone can cheat on her then I think we all feel better about ourselves!!! Totally enjoyed it!!!!

[@dilaurentis8744]

love this podcast. helps me self-reflect

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

🥹🥹 thank you for being part of our community!

[@Reed5016]

This sounds just like my first lesbian situationship. But the funniest part was that there were a lot of red flags at the beginning, and I ignored them all and told my intuition to be quiet. All I can say is that I’m glad I learned before I got into a real relationship.

[@Iris-sk1fc]

This episode is so gooooood. I've learned a lot from Ralaaaaa. I seriously love this podcast.

[@sharonjacob4469]

How is it most of the lesbians on your show are so attractive?100% morning person here.

[@flora1407]

Why not There are so many hotties 😅

[@sharonjacob4469]

@@flora1407 that is what I’m saying…

[@zeesangs_SA]

lol facts 😂 I crush on almost all of them

[@Happy-your1]

I was thinking the same thing .. including Mal

[@someonesomehow379]

from the teaser ALONE I love this guest!!! 😭

[@emdianax]

imagine cheating on this woman

[@mathildegoncalvespereira2422]

😆

[@alissaj8641]

The story about her ex is crazy but Mal your reactions are priceless I'm laughing so hard 😂

[@FelinesMom]

I enjoyed this so much. Thank you

[@aldebear7]

Yup, still my favorite podcast

[@elissajo3671]

Such important stuff to talk about!! Rala is so well spoken. Amazing episode.

[@JoyNova]

Why has every guest on this podcast been hot, i can't focus on the convo 😂😂

[@nnajimiller2506]

Too real 😂

[@godkosk78]

I love this show❤Many stories are heartbreaking but also inspiring. The way girls move on from bad experiences and build them self up again is amazing 👏Thank you for sharing your thoughts and stories ❤

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

women are so resilient!!

[@godkosk78]

I guess we have to be if we value our time spent on other people and things in our lives. Every min counts, especially as we get older and more responsible. Thank you again for everything you are doing, I love watching every episode❤ I am sending love from UK❤

[@brinabridget]

Detective Rala 😂😂😂😂🤭🤭 from spy network dude here I am your fellow am good at finding out it's good but sometimes hurting 🥺🥺 I hate drama 🙌🙌 that's why am still single Anyways thank you #madeitout something new learnt ✍️✍️ peace and love wuhu wuhu 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@KayBassie]

"Business stood on me" Rala😄 It's amazing the lies we tell ourselves when we are in the thick of it with sum1. Listen to that intuition, baby! Listening to your body is soo important. I've recently adapted that. I'm such a workaholic that I'm always on go go go, even to the detriment of my health. And just this year I've listened to my body on that. If I'm tired I stop everything and just rest. Then pick it back up the next day. And when it comes to relationships (we'll I'm single). But something to think about for a future rel. How to decipher the feelings you have around your 'person' whether that feeling is coming from a good/bad place. Yeah, something to keep in mind.👍🏾

[@TheWitchAlexis]

This is the episode I needed, thanks for sharing, and thanks for the advice! I take home the re-frame “what if she ends up happy” to “what if I end up happy”

[@someonesomehow379]

omg rala is HILARIOUS!! I'm obsessed 😭

[@geimaruiz4691]

That “familiar” thing she felt is some deep karmic bond with that person. Now we know!!! Too “familiar” is going down the rabbit’s hole

[@beawakening7323]

Feeling's is crazy I broke up with an ex because my body keeps telling me that my ex is cheating. I could feel it and see it in my dreams. Listen to your intuition people it's very important

[@someonesomehow379]

14:57 omg I had the OPPOSITE growing up like my parents got divorced when I was 4 but my parents were civil.. yet I RELATE SO MUCH to entertaining relationships for too long.. omg so REAL!!

[@Sclafani_alyssarose]

Incredibly beautiful ladies. Nice pod

[@brookedelizia8546]

I can’t believe someone would cheat on such an intelligent, motivated, compassionate, beautiful soul like this woman. Damn fool 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@LesBiNews]

Physical change is really interesting. It makes a lot of sense to be honest.

[@someonesomehow379]

the keeping busy right after a breakup is really important.. but yes u DO NEED to process the emotions eventually.. u have to

[@alyf.6698]

oh i totallly can relate and the body rejection is soooo true!!!! hugging you you're not alone.

[@katechirk5209]

i've been lied to and cheated on in my first relationship that lasted for 3 years. eventually she left me for a guy she lied to me about all the time, and by that time i was so exhausted with her cheap behavior that the only feeling/thought i had was being sorry for that guy and that he didn't realise yet what he got himself into ✋

[@katelynstanford5210]

Rala and I dated two best friends and broke up with them around the same time. I wanna know if it was that ex so bad. Love the podcast!

[@paramountsight7307]

Stealing packages bro what 😂😂

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

‼️

[@pura1]

I didn't know i needed this!!

[@Official-EuniceUg]

Thanks for this episode, its so emotional, being in a relationship thats a lie

[@sette900]

Interesting learning alot😅

[@PNWTheresa]

Someone write up a sitcom/soap based on today’s podcast!😅

[@carlotamagdalenoruiz1735]

Crazy story 😮

[@parmisvazifeh140]

Is everyone in LA gorgeus?? How tf??😂

[@nicoles.2588]

Yeah, I don’t get it. 😂

[@Happy-your1]

Yeah .. everyone is just Damm good looking

[@rais.3817]

Well, they've all had some work done😅

[@AngelaEtter-v4p]

I really like her. Wish she would come to Nashville, tn and style my hair! Straight,healthy ,and fine too soft. Several who have cut it say that they wish that they had it. I go to sleep also no later than 9pm.have to shower like 7get hair dry before bed. Enjoyed her story very similar but different that I went through we all receive blessings and lessons from people, places, and things to help grow.😊

[@AngelaEtter-v4p]

Thank you pod cast. I work for the American redcross am gay and wish I had GAY-----DAR.! I am amazed the women that have been on your pod cast that are lesbian 🙄, I'm so shy that When I get the courage to ask some one out they are STRAIGHT! Because of first things first , buying a home fix repair,replace and dying parents, I've not been with anyone in some years. Not easy. Love your pod! Thanks again Angela. A BIG P.S TO RALA (😌) Dark brown hair dark eyes just older, too bad.

[@Happy-your1]

How could she be so Damm fine and can’t find the right relationship .. she could have anyone .. keep your head up girl

[@paracaywar]

Loved this story of hers! Please can y’all have more POC guests on here 🤎🤎 need some more representation and maybe lesbians actually born and raised in LA? Also when is Mathilde going to be a guest on the couch? 🫶🏼

[@someonesomehow379]

don't steal packages aaaaa I'm obsessed RALA!!

[@Official-EuniceUg]

I low-key asked on tiktok if thos was here coz daammmm she is so attractive

[@bobbistgelais6404]

Wow. The story about the ex was exactly what my ex did. Minus the packages, that I know about anyway.

[@ashleymarshall6792]

I fuhking loved this.

[@justthelpodcast]

She’s so funny! 😂 Best guest

[@insainbassist]

Hahahah, I get up at 4am to lift before work and usually go to bed between 8:30-9:30. My wife was a nightowl, she used to stay up till like 4am but now she's normally in bed by 10 and up by 7 at the latest. I converted her.

[@sirid2987]

Ladies, watch out for red flags because you definitely don’t want to go into a relationship too fast (love bombed) with a toxic person and end up trauma bonded and PTSD.

[@zowiephoebe]

When my last serious relationship ended right before Xmas 2010, I moved to another country on new year’s eve to begin a new me 😎

[@mathildegoncalvespereira2422]

"PICK A DAMN STRUGGLE" hahahaha

[@LesBiNews]

Hahahahahah 😂

[@jacee877]

Damn what people survive through their life time is fucking crazy, her beginning story was so much twisted and complicated 😔 am looking at her like, girl are you okay?❤ Damn

[@pura1]

Love her!!

[@brinabridget]

Stealing packages for me 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

like WHUT.

[@Official-EuniceUg]

I had an ex who came to my area and didn't tell me for 3 days yet hanging out a studs place and never came home when i talked to her, thn started hanging out with people she said i avoid....and i knew .

[@someonesomehow379]

22:19 SO TRUE OMG like she was the one CHASING ME how did we end up here girl 💀

[@someonesomehow379]

NOT THE "SEE DON'T BE CRAZY" and all the gaslighting early on?!!?!! ughh the way we really can't see clearly when we're IN IT fml

[@yeba6635]

Can we have Soph Mosca if its possible, really enjoying every uest and love your videos.❤

[@flora1407]

You deserve better

[@nicola6890]

Here we see a lot of red flags. Maybe we need another episode about “ Dating red flags” LOL

[@SisiphoAmelieLeeZinja]

Someone needs to prove their worth to you first if you’re a lover girl. You gotta wait before unlocking those levels. Sucks but it’s important.

[@mybrainismagiccity]

So pretty 😍

[@someonesomehow379]

23:08 it's almost feeling like you're not enough yet too much..

[@evarenteria7617]

❤❤❤

[@ingridhempel9556]

Damn

[@maraannelouise5222]

she is so cute!

[@stephmartinez701]

I had a very similar relationship. It was bananas! There were things I couldn't believe it was insanity. This woman said she had MS! She did not. She was cheating, her money stuff was questionable, the whole nine yards. But the worst part of it was that I stayed with her a little past figuring out her bananas shit. A friend told me if I have to lie to my friends about seeing her it was addiction and a really bad sign. It was then that I got out of it. I'm so pissed this era ruined the vibe of one of my favorite fragrances haha.

[@stacy1025]

That ex was full of surprises 😮😢

[@natashamw]

Mal, what is your story? I'd love to know your background one day 😊

[@adriisheree]

She has shared it quite often on the rest of the podcast. 💛

[@pinkycookson]

I have SpongeBob on my socks 🧦,and cat 🐈 etc.💀

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

love a fun sock

[@goaliesoccer1]

💯 identify with her story. 🥴

[@angellombness4371]

Summer 2024 .. Hinge or work [comment engagement 💜]

[@erincano527]

why was my ex also a klepto, fr pick a damn struggle 🤣😭

[@mirzadanish656]

nice where are you from I'm from Dubai how are you

[@angelwin1243]

Good

[@jazzluvsgh]

Sophia Bush next!

[@oshea03]

Rala is gorgeous! Damn i wish ya'll dropped the ex's name. How you do that to a goddess

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖🌹

[@danaj.4609]

no because being around a pathological liar like that is a full time job girl I hate that I understand what you went through on a personal level but I do, I'm glad you're out

[@Happy-your1]

What

[@Official-EuniceUg]

Wooow a thief too?

[@AylinYousefi]

🤣🤣🤣