Confessions.... - S3 Ep4

[@annabellem15]

Absolutely no hate to Rachel or what she said but I just wanted to leave a little comment for anyone watching this video who is sick or struggling with mental health, if you can’t shower everyday, that is ok and valid. I personally struggle with a lot of health issues and sometimes showering feels as hard running a marathon or climbing a mountain. If it’s too hard sometimes, that is ok. We all just do the best we can and if your best is literally just getting out of bed or changing clothes, that’s amazing and I’m so proud of you. We’re all just trying to get through the day and sometimes showering is just not that important when your fighting for your life. Again, this is not hate towards Rachel, people who have never experienced this just don’t know about it but I felt the need to say something to make sure no one was feeling bad about themselves. ❤❤❤

[@Ms.Opinionated]

Amen

[@feliciagrande128]

She did say people with financial difficulties or medical conditions, she isn’t talking to them at 36:57

[@DebbieSp19]

I’m in the same boat with physical health.

[@laurawithnou]

Basic self care, which includes bathing, brushing hair, brushing teeth, changing clothes, etc are very often the things we neglect when suffering with severe depression. For those who can relate to this, know that you are not less of a person or lazy or gross. You are in survival mode and simply existing is the hardest thing you can do that day. You have your tribe out here who knows and suffers this way just as you do. You are still a good person and always were, worthy of love, and worthy of the grace you need to get through this difficult time. For those who try to shame you or make you feel ashamed, i hope they never themselves get to a point in their life that they suffer the same. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. However if they ever do, there will be those of us out here that understands and will support you.

[@DebbieSp19]

@@laurawithnou I’m a fall risk and have fallen out of the bathtub three or four times. I’ve broken cabinet doors etc. thankfully no shower glass doors. But there is not shame. The are bird baths I do. Wipes to use. Etc. body sprays to help. I’m always keeping up appearances.

[@kriddle179]

"stop it" got me everytime 😂😂😂

[@tiffanitomlin159]

This podcast made me realize 1 thing.. Rachel doesn't have depression

[@elsie26]

i was just thinking this

[@jenloves4260]

Another thing….it’s not always good for a person to shower every single day. I’m with you on clean, brush your teeth and so forth. But even if you’re not affected by current mental health struggles or other things that make showering daily a necessity….it’s ok to not shower every single day. It is not in the best interest of some skin types and conditions. It depends on where you live and what you do…..so many variables. AND, if you are struggling with mental health, life just being exhausting….it’s also ok. Hygiene is not one size fits all, it’s not a you must….just be and that’s enough.

[@heidijanssen4552]

Dear Rachel, I struggled with anorexia and bulimia for over 12 years, due to this my teeth have been so damaged rotted and or Fallen out etc, no matter how much you brush if your diet is not up to scratch your teeth suffer. I have lost so much self confidence due to this , what's heart breaking is dentist are so exspensive and i simply cant afford to do it all at once its going to take years to fix all the damage. I know I will certainly need dentures no jokes and I am only 30 years old. When covid broke out I remember thinking in my unwell brain " thank God because now I have a mask to hide behind and nobody could see my mouth" when I talk about this It brings me to tears that illness lowered my self confidence this much even covid and madk wearing had a bright side. I'm %100 gay and my biggest fear about dating other girls is them saying gross do you not look after your self? do you not have self hygiene? how can I possibly explain that my illness completely ruined my body, my teeth, my hair my skin and so much more its permnent and I just want to cry 😢. I feel I have worked so hard to recover and yet I feel so scared of judgement about the permanent damage my illness caused as girls are very very much body focused even if they are not conscious of it and often a very bluntly honest.

[@LM-mr3fd]

First off, I'm so very sorry that you are struggling with these physical effects and lowered self confidence. That said, I am SO THANKFUL that you are still here with us after battling two extremely serious eating disorders for so long. That is a MAJOR ACCOMPLISHMENT! I know that the physical effects of the EDs are daunting but please know that you have NOTHING to be ashamed about. Kick any shame that might be lingering to the curb where it belongs! You are a fighter. My suggestion as you move forward would be to try to view these effects as battle scars while you continue to work on becoming healthier, both mentally and physically. Part of getting healthier is realizing that you are SO much more than these things that are currently rattling your self confidence. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WORTHY AT THIS VERY MOMENT. Please work on accepting those facts before you delve into the dating world. Right now, your self-esteem needs boosting. I am confident that you are likely critiquing yourself way more harshly than most people out in the world ever would. I know that this is incredibly difficult to do but try to not put so much pressure on yourself to 'fix' everything in order to feel good about yourself. You are worthy of love right now, exactly as you are. Work on loving yourself....and forgiving yourself if need be (I don't want to make assumptions but I know from my own experience with EDs that it is possible to carry around guilt, shame and self-blame for having engaged in unhealthy behaviours). While you certainly don't owe anyone any explanations, if you want to share your story with others, I strongly encourage that you do so when you are ready. OWN YOUR JOURNEY, the good and the not-so-good. Don't let any residual shame hold you back. You are strong, resilient and brave. You are a fighter. Anyone that would judge you for having battled serious illness is not likely someone you'd want to be around anyway. Maybe start out sharing more about your journey with those that you already know & trust before moving on to less familiar peeps. Anyone that would judge you for having effects from illnesses is not someone that you'd likely want to be around anyway, so no real loss there. Just know that there are plenty of people in this world that will not judge you and will love you unconditionally, myself included 😁. So please don't give up hope and don't write peeps off just yet. Even if you are not able to see it quite just yet, your future is BRIGHT... and that brightness is not dependent on any physical attributes PERIOD. You are a TRUE BLESSING in this world & YOU ARE LOVED. Never forget it. Take extra good care friend & God bless ❤.

[@Wade-wq7zd]

Gay guy here - Girl, same, my teeth are awful. However, if someone loves you for you and you're open to explaining (not that you have to) people understand. My teeth tell my story and my story is shared by so many people, not necessarily teeth-wise - but the struggle and pain. I'm healing on the inside and i accept i can't heal the outside (I live pay cheque to pay cheque, so i legit cannot afford it, maybe one day.... one faaaaar away day XD). I'm not ashamed, i'm strong. I'm like a rock that fell from a cliff-face; I've fell, i've rolled, i've been chipped and reduced.... but honey - we're still here and the little chips and cracks have shaped me. I'm being sculpted accidently by the impact of my fall and slowly, but surely, i'm losing the dirt i picked up on my roll down the cliff. When we're finished we're going to be beautiful shiny little pebbles, we just gotta keep going :) (FYI - covid masks were/are a godsend haha) x

[@heidijanssen4552]

I really struggled with this podcast I think maybe because Rachel had no one physically there to bounce off, her tangent did not get interrupted, slightly filtered or redirected to come across in a more understanding and empathetic way ? Often when its a two way coversation these descrepancies are more likely to be picked up on by the other person . I'm not mad or upset about it, I'm sure her intention was to be kind but context is really important when we talk about topics such as these because there's a massive difference between a slob and someone who is struggling mentally and physically .I do like Rachel and her channel I think this just wasn't well thought through ...

[@LM-mr3fd]

@@heidijanssen4552 Great points. I agree...another person being involved in the discussion often helps to keep things on from going off in not-so-great directions. They can sort of check and 'correct' each other as the conversations unfold. I, too, don't think that Rachel would want to be unkind or come off as disrespectful towards others. I'm hoping that if she isn't already aware that she will become aware of how she came across in this particular podcast so that she can do better moving forward if she ever does a solo podcast. That is all any of us can really do after all...just try to learn from our mistakes and try to be better. Rachel seems like someone who genuinely cares enough to want to be made aware so that she can do better and be better. Take good care Heidi ❤.

[@abby-1218]

If you do a Rachel uncensored live I would suggest: having people dm you confessions and you react on live and ask questions and they dm you the answers to the questions. This will allow everyone to stay anonymous and you receive answers in real time.

[@emitheegemini]

"I hate 90% of people in the world" Only 90%? Good for you for having restraint.

[@anyamcintyre9223]

Commenting to spread awareness about late bloomers. For a lot of us it truly isn’t a hygiene or “getting out there” thing. Most late bloomers have good hygiene, wonderful personalities, and are on lots of dating apps and actively trying to date. Despite our best efforts, it just hasn’t happened for us like it has for most everyone else in the world. Personally, I’ve been on several dating apps for years and have only had a handful of matches and none have led to dates. Most were either dry or unmatched as soon as we matched. I think I have a good personality, good hygiene, and I’m involved in enough where you’d think I should be able to find someone, but despite my best efforts only 2(?) people have ever had a crush on me (I’m in my 20s btw). So I can’t tell you why I and other late bloomers have not been pursued but I can tell you that it messes with our heads and we’ve gone through everything about us trying to figure out if there’s something everyone else sees that we don’t which makes us so undesirable.

[@hannahavidon9991]

This is incredibly relatable. Really appreciated reading this comment. Also in my 20s and have had the exact same experience. :)

[@cadinhawkins9203]

This is genuinely the funniest episode of a Rachel podcast I have listened to - or honestly any podcast for that matter. I could not stop laughing throughout this. Thank you for making my day, Rachel.

[@adeline9738]

AHHH THE ONE DIRECTION OME!! MY WORLDS COLLIDE

[@snigglesnurf2250]

It's 911 in Canada too🥰 PSA, there is a difference between bonding over trauma and trauma bonding. Trauma bonding is very very abusive.

[@margaretshannon36]

You should have pulled an eric and called your sister to be on a podcast put her on speaker phone

[@aliandher]

I had that same bagel realization a few weeks ago when my 4 year old wanted one, but I knew she wouldn't eat it all. Life changing.

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

Rachel, I love you, I also love Abbie, and I also love your love for each other. You seem to be soul mates. I also love Emily. You all are the most loveable people ever. Thank you for all you do to make our lives better.

[@jenloves4260]

Rachel, I think it’s important to realize that “having a crush” on your therapist is common. It’s not likely it’s actually a crush on the therapist as much as it is transference. Just tell your therapist how you feel. They are trained to handle that.

[@187942]

Thank you

[@lyssablaine3135]

Yup as a mental health therapist yes many times clients choose someone they feel safe with. Best thing is to tell them and process that with them.

[@Papi69420]

I love how the beginning is just a bojack horseman style monologue about bagal perspective

[@dawnlowe9524]

Rachel is being so real on this one fr

[@delaneykeller1389]

You should get a phone for Rachel Uncensored like Colleen and Eric did for Relax!. We call in and leave voice mails and you could call us back or we can call in on the spot

[@alyssalitwiller7885]

Rachel your personality is what I perceive myself to be in my mind at all times. But my outward personality is an introverted version of Colleen 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 always doing a lil tug of war inside

[@rachellombardi4735]

The fact that I Used to that breakup message thank you Rachel balancher It worked

[@vernss3092]

Loved the hygiene talk. Yes, what you eat matters. My partner had an extreme love of garlic. Some days, it was hard to be within three feet of them. Yes, makes for a crappy set life. LOL

[@Its.tessa.mackenzie]

I love Rachel’s break up statements also love Abby she seems really nice and hopefully she’s good to you

[@samanthamitchell269]

You're awesome!! Have a great week!!❤❤

[@nicolerae7231]

Always grow as a person. Preach Rachel 🙏👏

[@littleshadow7706]

OH MY GOD THIS BAGLE THING HAS BLOWN MY MIND

[@weesh4645]

The bagel thing: Christina Pazsitzky (comedian & Tom Seguaras wife) has a whole segment on her Podcast on this! Calls it the Pazsitzky effect. Silly things you've always done one way, until you realize there's an easier way. It's really funny ☺️

[@elsie26]

bro my school bathrooms are disgusting and i feel so bad for the janitors. literally shit stains all over the walls, pieces of poop or blood on the toilet seats, toilet paper draped everywhere, used pads and tampons all over the stall, toilets unflushed with like diarrhea in them, everything. its traumatizing 😭

[@elizabetholney7742]

IM PUMPED FOR THIS

[@randomyoutubersmama786]

911 is def the same in Canada 😂

[@marissaouellet2585]

It’s also 911 in Canada 😂

[@meeble1332]

I LOVED THIS EPISODE LMAO! Love u Rachel!!❤️❤️

[@TeresaBenson]

About these crushes, they aren't that easy to get over. As with most things in life it's easier said than done. I fall in love with straight women all the time (but I do live in a conservative state with majority of straight people) and I too have had crushes on people who who take care of my health either physical or mental. It's completely normal especially for lesbians. I know many people will say "just tell them you have a crush on them." But if you have a crush on someone who is taking care of your physical or mental health and you genuinely have a good professional relationship with them, I wouldn't tell them how you feel. Specifically I wouldn't say anything if it isn't hindering your ability to speak openly with them. I wouldn't want to ruin that relationship with them nor would I want to start the process again of finding a good therapist or whoever to take care of me. Just know the crush will fade, it might take a few months or even a few years, but with time it will fade. Just let it be.

[@maggies7520]

If you have a good therapist, they will be ready and willing to say “hey, I can’t help you with this issue, but this other therapist would be better for you.”

[@thelwhite3867]

Am I the only one that tried to clean the spot on Rachels couch off of my screen?

[@AndrewOeste]

Literally me every podcast episode.

[@delaneykeller1389]

Only every episode

[@joannad7384]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 every single time! So funny.

[@sarahmotley9919]

actually you shouldn’t use soap everyday on your skin. it’s not good for your skin lol especially if you buy whats at your local walmart and target 😅

[@chelled.4622]

"PSA: Hygiene is for everyone" LOL - New Merch? 🤣

[@embro2.0]

This could be good for telling people passively…

[@Hello2006_]

the gay fanfiction was me- I stumbled across gender swap Harry x Louis fan fictions.. was like.. right! I like this a bit TOO much😍… also found out my friend read the same Larry ff.. she’s also lesbian..

[@RainaMcGump]

There can be a happy ending with best friend love stories ❤️ I was on love with my best friend for a year and then found out she felt the same about me! We have been together for almost 4 years now and are getting married in 4 months ❤️❤️

[@vickilaughs]

I think showering every day is a waste of water.

[@thatpiscesgal]

There are already several wonderfully written comments on here of people sharing their personal stories in response to Rachel's ignorant comment about hygiene, so all I want to say is this should be a learning moment to stop and think about how your opinions might impact others. All I ask is for people to be considerate and have empathy. If you are hurt by Rachel's comments like I am, I just want you to know that you're not alone. Being a human is HARD - be patient with yourself.

[@pastbehind25]

I've had to clean bathrooms the had poop handprints on walls . Used pads and tampons all over the ground. Pee puddles in front of urinals. Just gross

[@mathildeb2710]

I really am enjoying this episode.

[@Kathryn.md08]

I often cry into my blanket or soft toy it will have so many tears / snot on it, they get washed bug not often

[@katiehanson6253]

I work managing a restaurant, I have cleaned up Hooman poo off the ground..... like 8 times in 6 years. Don't do it, please just don't

[@UpNorth3390]

LMAO!!! "How is there DOOKIE on your sheets! Yes preach Rachel cuz that is just a NOOO! 💕

[@SandySanders81]

You could do the Rachel unsensored "live" but it's not really live .. so if anything goes off the rails you can edit it, just zoom chat with the people you choose.

[@olasite]

I hate being this early because I can't scroll through the comments while listening and see peoples perspectives 😪 (Edit:) Also would love to see that tiktok series I think it would be hilarious lmfao

[@bethannverlander2896]

Lol "Send them this Video"

[@logan.saige5910]

the way i related to so many of these is concerning 💀

[@margaretshannon36]

Your amazing

[@SkyGirl5]

Hygiene is for everyone - PREACH

[@TylerRoss614]

As a Canadian it’s still 911

[@ashleighcleaver9009]

21:01-51:08 I agree 100% I had this happen to me and my fiance in college which was 10 years ago. It's not cool and we had multiple try to get with me whilst I was happy relationship. 100% not cool i think its extremely wrong even if you think it's okay and whatever it's not because I can tell you from someone who has been through that? I disrespected each person and wanted nothing to do with them for the rest of my life all cause they acted on their crushes. They lost their friend to it. So I would highly suggest to not stuff with it. Like rach said

[@angelpinkaholic6824]

Hey Rachel I really think your hygiene talk went a little too far, you have an audience that may suffer with depression or other mental health issues that make hygiene harder. Parts of this video made me feel really ashamed about myself when I’m absolutely not doing anything wrong

[@East0n.W]

Agreed.

[@jazzabelleftk]

I was feeling the same 😣 like I don't already feel awful about not keeping on top of everything I should be able to. I wish you spoke with more understanding on extenuating circumstances on this one🙏

[@playwithmeinsecondlife6129]

Gorgeous Rachel, a good mood is good news. I was in love with Gorgeous Rachel until I saw Beautiful Abbie. But Adorable Emily's girlfriend is also drop dead gorgeous.

[@PrincessPeyten]

Oh shoot Rachel I just looked it up to see if it was true and urine is not sterile but it is sterile for a short time to drink because I read it’s 95% water but it’s only for a short time😁😁😁

[@Smosunsent]

I always wanted to do one of these but I can’t think of them in the moment…

[@jordynbelle1881]

A while ago I dm'd Rachel for advice on something and now I'm just waiting for it to pop up in a video 😂

[@lauratheexplorer3347]

i have liked and watched Rachel and her whole family for years and years but i will say this is the first time i’ve gotten the feeling of pure entitlement from her. like i know it’s humorous but not everything one size fits all and not everything is so easy to “just stop”. like the hygiene thing was a fine psa for a second but then it went WAY too far and you can see in the comments offended and or really bothered other people as well as me. as well as the stop being in love with straight women when you’re a lesbian and just “get over” crushes etc. as if it’s that easy like mmm mmm not into this episode…

[@ashleyburwash1105]

In Canada it's 911 as well love you and I'm from Vancouver bc Canada love y9ur podcast

[@melrox8809]

I put my kids stuff animals in pillow cases then put it in the washer bc went they are sick u want to get rid of the germs.

[@christendiel5847]

Urine is normally sterile in healthy people, but lots of people have a UTI and don't know it!

[@martinaraee]

Canada is 911 too lol

[@brooke225]

You’re hilarious!

[@mathildeb2710]

HALLLLOOOOOOOOOO Ok I need to start writing in Confessions i have some that would be Funnyyy 🤗😆

[@dawnlowe9524]

Depression is a factor for hygiene, believe me I've been there

[@abugprobably]

My therapist sees me for free, so idk if it's money motivated for all of them.

[@187942]

I also can only eat half a bagel

[@tweedybird21]

I’m in a two-year, romantic, sexual relationship with a girl and I’m a girl and my partner and I have been friends for 11 years or should I say known each other for 11 years because two of those years we were dating and we’re planning to propose to each other next year when we get our third year anniversary their second anniversary of February 20

[@jD_22210]

YEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS im excited

[@atlastheghost7012]

GUYS...Rachel said a few minutes later that she wasn't addressing physically or mentally unable people when it came to hygiene.

[@alondralopez5172]

I still squat to pee in the shower so it doesn’t get all over me😂

[@makenzieholte6369]

Did anyone notice in the beginning she was texting someone on her Apple Watch and did not notice lol

[@mathildeb2710]

OMG WHEN IS THE LIVE

[@sampoh9182]

My confession 😳

[@thedragontamer45]

What if you are just to depressed that it's hard to get up in the morning, every task is so so hard

[@gabbyminer9396]

she said she wasnt talking about pepole who have depression and other stuff

[@thedragontamer45]

@@gabbyminer9396 ohhh sorry I didn't hear that part

[@gabbyminer9396]

@@thedragontamer45 no you’re ok! ❤️🤍

[@mathildeb2710]

I do wash my stuffie thing

[@heatherastbury4339]

Love you

[@InnerSerckle]

The one who dropped out of college. My question is who was paying for it? You or your parents??????

[@jordynoliver9405]

Did anyone else notice that from 0:54 to 1:52, (I'm assuming) Siri on her apple watch went off and was listening to what she was saying?

[@heatherbillpotter1266]

💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@Coco12769]

Yay

[@Ness1995]

Anyone else annoyed at the stain on the cough. I keep wiping my phone to "clean it". Its been there a while...

[@clearlyseverely3155]

I think it's a hole from one of the dogs!

[@ninaferrante6189]

Hiiii

[@thegman33]

I am your big fan of you podcast KZbin channel and you really good at this did Emily's not there hope you good at it by yourself you doing great my is rashelle prickett and my birthday is on September 17th 1987 I'm 36 years old upcoming September 17th 1987 37

[@emitheegemini]

Helloowww

[@thegman33]

I used to have a ex girlfriend we dated 3 half years bad breakup I'd most want to I almost got arrested not put charges on me it's girlfriend is married to a man

[@ennismaggie7]

i’m so earlyyyyyy

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖🌹

[@6888Diana]

😁👋😊

[@SarahELynchDesigns]

The gay One Direction fanfic was probably a male...

[@StarryStarzz]

they said it made them realize they were lesbian

[@Hello2006_]

.. lol it was me, I’m a girl 😋

[@LittleMissSisters]

Who else turns off her podcast as soon as she burps into the microphone? It makes me cringe and I can’t listen anymore.