How I Knew I was Bisexual

Hi Boys and Girls today im talking about how i knew i was bisexual one of the hardest things when your is coming out and discovering your sexuality, some of are hetrosexual, some are homosexual and some are bisexual it all depends on the person. I thought to id talk about the journey that i took on my coming out path and how my twists and turns brought me to identifying as bisexual.

[@Acapella_guykev1]

You were the first male Bisexual on KZbin that I watched that made me feel like I wasn't a lone in being bisexual. Thank you

[@Courtney-Jai]

Kevonte White no problem I wanted to make a video which I wish I had as a kid

[@Acapella_guykev1]

I also agree I don't do not like to label myself. I get weirded because it makes me feel like I'm in a box. Also whenever you come to America would love to meet you pal

[@Courtney-Jai]

Kevonte White that would be awesome need to be a lot bigger before I can travel and stuff which kinda sucks

[@sgtsloth5766]

Same

[@sgtsloth5766]

I am 13 and i realized during the school year :)(

[@Courtney-Jai]

Hey guys I hope you like the video

[@thomasdonovan406]

We do! Very Genuine!

[@joliemac8036]

Courtney-Jai I did

[@Courtney-Jai]

TheFabulousTodd well that pretty I think I function better with coffee lol

[@branden7357]

Stumbled on your KZbin channel and saw this. Definitely have been in denial about my bi-sexuality. You have know idea how you’ve positively affected this Colorado man.

[@seanwidner113]

Courtney-Jai yo I’m actually tryna talk to someone about this

[@GlitchComputer]

You're one of the few Bi sexual guys speaking out on KZbin! Love you!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Glitch Computer thanks man wait till you see the next video

[@RobynZatara]

I have this thing of my bisexuality going in "phases": for a few months I am mostly interested in women, and then for another few months I'm more into men, without any particular "triggering event" or other change in my life. Has this ever happened to you? (or anyone else?)

[@tommyturbo321]

Robyn Zatara well I've never had this, I'm very 50/50. But I've heard of plenty of people having this

[@Courtney-Jai]

Robyn Zatara I think it might just be the people you see at the time that you find attractive I used to be like that when I was younger but now not so much

[@RobynZatara]

I see. Thank you :)

[@yosoybalta]

bisexuality is fluidity, it happens to you, me and tons of people.

[@RobynZatara]

thank you for sharing :)

[@Eriaslouis]

You are honestly the most beautiful and inspiriational guy ever.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Louis King much more inspirational people Arnie is one of my idols and my dad

[@thinkreal93]

It's difficult to get my eyes off you

[@Courtney-Jai]

thinkreal93 I know the mole can be really distracting

[@Courtney-Jai]

@Thomas Randall not many people do

[@frankpaya690]

Moles and birthmarks really turn me on. If someone has a lot of them, it makes me think of a chocolate chip cookie, Or like pepper on meat I'm about to eat or Kind of like olives on a combination Pizza.

[@ricojose187]

my bisexual idol is oberyn martel .....

[@emilyrad1634]

I was very closed off about my sexuality not a lot of people talk about the Bi people out there and it hurts cause bisexuality is always a questioning for some people who are. I always was thinking maybe I’m gay, maybe I’m straight but I’m always having trouble and i liked hearing your testimony thank you

[@Courtney-Jai]

I think the acting on those feelings is when you can really know if you like both or not

[@krstphrlx]

So, I just told one of my best friends that I was bi. I actually didn't know I was bi until I was in High School, but at around 15 I discovered I like both genders. At the time I cared more about women than men, but as I got older and accepted the feelings I had, I learned that I didn't have to like either one more or less than the other. Now, I'm not quite pansexual, but I don't really care about a person's gender. I'm more interested in the kind of person they're becoming, and I like different people for different reasons. I'm still pretty sure that my mom and dad wouldn't approve, and seeing as I am living with them, I think I'll wait til I move out to tell them. If I tell them at all.

[@benrichardjohnson1429]

I am also Bi-Sexual. This video is so relaxing and refreshing, thank you. Found myself a bi-sexual idol. Thank you.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Ben Johnson that's cool hope it's not me cuz I don't really do anything

[@joshuagumtang]

Same feeling 😘

[@shafieshaf2951]

U r so handsome

[@shafieshaf2951]

ig- ben.j.ohnson i bet tht profile is really u 💅🏼

[@ramkkmusiclover7971]

What does bisexual mean?

[@ShineWithin2020]

Well your a very attractive and loving guy. I thought you only liked girls but I was wrong about that. Thank you for opening up ❤️😘

[@Courtney-Jai]

YouKnowWeirdMoments no problem I've made a few other videos on my sexuality before even did a coming out story that's what I mentioned in this video

[@gjmonica0416]

Every time you talk about that, I feel more proud of being bi. The confidence you show is the best way to broadcast us the best feeling you can have in your heart and that's happiness. Happiness of being who you really are.

[@themindbenderr]

I love bi men so much!!!

[@jamesuk5784]

Courtney-Jai , you're the only Bisexual guy (very attractive) I know on KZbin and it makes me happy to know that I'm not alone and I'm not the only one to have struggled in my mind in the past with labels such as gay or straight when actually there is bisexuality and it exists. Keep making these great videos!

[@Courtney-Jai]

JamesUK5 if you keep watching them I'll keep making them

[@joshuagumtang]

Bisexual person are inborn we didn't dreamed it , it is nature and its not a sin of being bisexual we should be proud of it!.. Watching this video was so amazing! And feel like not alone in this world 😂 thank bro for uploading this video!😘😘

[@fronk16]

Wow you're a really good looking guy. Love your honesty

[@remarc69]

Nice vid J, human sexuality is very fluid and personal, sometimes the hardest thing is to admit it and accept it yourself , thx for sharing your perspective 😀

[@callumhopkinson1927]

Always love watching your videos Courtney, I have had similar experiences when questioning the fact that I was gay. I would repress these thoughts as I was in a straight relationship for two years, one of these I spent questioning my sexuality. I didn't like repressing these thoughts as it nearly drew me insane. As I started college in 2014 I decided to come out as gay. A couple of months back I decided to come out on Facebook/social media. I couldn't believe the amount of positive messages that I got from that, as I thought that I was going to get negative comments. This was not the case. My life has changed so much since. I often do think that I could have came out when I first knew. But now that I have done it I have never looked back.

[@sanjoth90]

A big fan here from the Philippines! I’m a bit of a late bloomer. Only realized when I reached 27 and that’s with the help of your videos and other KZbinrs. Finally I’ve come to confidently declare that I am bisexual. For years I’ve felt so out of place from society (specially from our area) and had been hesitant in going thru any kind of relationships to either gender as I felt that I’m not straight or gay enough! My early years would have been way extra amazing if I had the same realization I had recently. So I do hope you continue with what you do. You have no idea what big difference your video made me and hopefully with a lot of other young people subscribed to your channel or just happened to drop by your video and got curious. Your content is always of high quality (plus you’re really good looking) so I always watch for new uploads. Wish you all success!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thank you and better late the never and all I hope is they can help as many people as possible

[@DylanForbush]

I just want to thank you for being the role model to others that you wish you had. I have known I was bisexual since like 2nd grade but i didnt accept it fully and not be ashamed that I was bi until just recently. You are a bisexual role model and you have taught me that I'm not alone. So once again thank you.

[@MrRetri8]

it feels good to say it out loud... it's good to write it down... i am bisexual, and i am grateful for Sally Green, author of Half Bad books, and all the people on youtube who are openly talk about being bi like you, or BisexualRealTalk, etc. thank you, bc i didn't have to go through the part when i don't know who i am, and all this struggle, thank you so much💞

[@benjaminerickson7561]

I just wanted to thank you for this video. I just came out as bisexual to my parents. I just started watching your videos(well just this one and another) but this really helped.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well thank you feel free to comment on any of my videos and give me feedback

[@paulmanzan4357]

I'm so happy to know that there's another bisexual KZbinr I can relate to do much. I'm still pretty young and I'm bisexual too. I used to deny it all the time and even till now I still kind of too. I'm still in that denial stage (complicated stage) because there are times when i don't know if Im gay, straight, or bi. It's weird, annoying, and frustrating. But I can definitely say, for now, that I am bi.

[@Courtney-Jai]

That's great man and don't worry I will always try my best to help other people struggling

[@_echointhevoid_]

I think that labels arent that great but I feel like they help lgbtq+ people find other people like them and know they are not alone, not wrong.

[@shadowpan-da5285]

Hi Thank you so much, I've been struggling with this myself for quite a few years and only just accepted it very recently so I'm still settling into it, and you made me realize that Bisexuality is a valid choice (I'm not really into labels either, though at this stage it feels like a life raft to know I'm not alone) You may not have had someone to relate to but you've given me and I'm sure loads of others someone to. Thank you again

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm glad I could help with that and don't worry don't feel as though u have to slap a label on yourself

[@jamiefordx]

I'm 20 years old & openly bisexual. I'm blessed to have loving friends & family that accept me for who I am. To come on youtube & stumble upon your channel at this time in my life is very magical even though I'm a little late. I always read the bisexual forums online because I'm always trying to see that someone else gets it. I have probably watched every lgbtq video on youtube. I subscribed because I see that you understand. I know there are people who simply can't understand due to how they were brought up but it is so reassuring and magical to see you & hear you. I feel like that will be much appreciated from more younger viewers. Love is undefined, it's universal & it exist in all of us. Courtney-Jai you are beautiful. Peace.

[@jamiefordx]

You are now my bisexual idol

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well that's awesome but I'm defiantly no idol I just shared my story so maybe it would help someone

[@valentine93]

I guess I kind of knew when I was a little boy. I would have feelings towards my male classmates, but I also loved a girl and loved her until I 14. Till then I denied my atraction towards guys and it was confusing until one time I was watching porn I ventured into the gay category and I got off of watching it. Then I was more confused. I didn't want to be gay, but I also knew that I wasn't gay. I never dated anyone so it was really confusing until I was 17 I figured out I was bi. In freshmen year of college I dated a women for the first time, had sex with her and enjoyed the whole experience a year latter I sex a man for the first time I also enjoyed it. That even more confirmed my bisexuality. I'm still learning things about my sexuality.

[@hyakintos]

Are you gay now? ;) A lot of gay people can't see difference between sexual attraction and romantic feelings. The second - every gay man is able to perform sexual act with woman and achive orgasm. But it doesn't mean that it's bisexuality. Men can achive orgasm with hand or own bed.

[@frankpaya690]

I'm bisexual, however there always has been more of an excitement for males. I have had crushes on other guys since before I was 10 years old. There would be other guys that I Wanted to be friends with, and couldn't get him off my mind. Or looking for an opportunity to see another males naked.

[@jasonlewis811]

Courtney, your a great public speaker, clear and covering a lot of areas dealing with sexual feelings and life in general. You put it in just the right words. The story of Joey, be your self, full forward. and integrity.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well thank you I try my best

[@sophiestephensonreade9046]

Your so cute! I’m also bi and I just found your channel and I love it ❤️

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm really happy you do sophie

[@thelonewanderer4084]

Thank you. I’ve been in denial awhile and did not know that bisexuality was real either until a year ago. I am glad I found your channel. If I didn’t I don’t think I would’ve found it in myself to admit that I am bi and I can’t change that.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well now you have just be happy being you

[@brandon-dalebuchanan3453]

Video's like this make me so happy watching 💙

[@Courtney-Jai]

Brandon-Dale Buchanan well I'm glad they do

[@felipenunesbarbosa]

I completely understand you, and I am bisexual too. I had two successful relationships with girls when I was younger, and later I had two relationships with guys, So I was thinking I was gay, and I dated girls before because of social conditioning. But a few weeks ago, I meet a girl and yesterday we did sex 5 or 6 times and I dated her exclusively for pleasure. Now I am 100% sure that I am bisexual too.

[@janmichaels8550]

Awesome video I think you’re helping a lot of guys and girls , enjoy this memorial day weekend I think you’re great take care Jan😘👍

[@TheMrb0908]

Love this video, wish there was more bi guys to talk too

[@vjlva]

Same...at first I identified as bisexual but at the end I identify as biromantic asexual. And now I have more confidence if someone asks me about it. 😄 What I find very funny when people ask me "are you gay?" And I'm like "no" cause I am not but they never asked me "are you bisexual?" So, the answer still remains "hidden" Btw, I love your outro song; so many memories from the original track :')

Your video is so empowering. A lot of men should be as intellect as you and self confident. Respect you man! All the amazing women and men I meet in my life were bisexuals, and no problem on that. So my conclusion: NO LABELS! Sexuality is so complicated, sometimes. :))))))

[@luciemakesthings]

Having somebody to talk to is very helpful, so is taking the time you need to discover who you are. If you have to take 1,2 or even 5 years to accept that your are bisexual/pan/gay or anything (took me probably 8 years to understand + accept that I was somewhere on the ace spectrum), then that's perfectly fine. You probably need this time to become stronger and more confident, and when you are ready, everything will fall in place and the relief you'll get will be worth it.

[@connorjamieson5036]

Came out to my friends last year in october and i found out one of them was also bisexual but my parents are homophobic. I was 13 almost 14 when i came out and i had a girlfriend at the time and she was completely cool with it and i found it really hard to say it in person to one of my friends and she was fine with it. Most people were so supportive but there was some assholes but i rly tried to ignore them 💜

[@Courtney-Jai]

That's the best way to be my dad was homophobic but the thing about love is it can change the way people think, I also found out that one of my best friend's was bisexual but he held off telling anyone because he didn't want to steal the moment from me which I felt was one of the nicest things anyone could do I also have another best friend whos gay that I look up to alot

[@Paulhilvert]

Awesome vid bud same at you Bi man right here 👍👍 just keep doing what your doing

[@Laura-hr7ze]

I hate that society don't let people be themselves... Yes there is more freedom nowadays but a single homophobic comment could make someone be in the closet for years... Let alone when we hear those comments all of the time(even if the people who address them they don't realize they are being homophobic.) I feel sad for all those people that have to hide their identities and their true selves because of that. But in my opinion women have it better these days when it comes to sexuality. There are hard times for us too yes but I feel like men get so discouraged that is much harder for them to try to find their sexuality, or their sensitivity or basically feel free to be more human. It's like no matter the case everyone expects from a male to be the strong and the tough one... This is so dismissive for women but also leaves with so much responsibility for the man who lets face it: he's only a human. I am annoyed by all this situation yes... I wish things were better for both genders... I wish men would be more free to show their true feelings and didn't feel so ashamed of them because of the society they leave in... And I wish everyone would just mind their on business and let the people be themselves! We only live once... and we come in this world with other people next to us. If only we used our energy to support them, love them and respect them other that dismiss them, hate them, label them... But I am optimistic. Things are already getting BETTER.

[@najeebirfani]

Hi buddy Courtney 👋💜 lots of love

[@abhishekdalal3731]

Your videos are great--authentic and vulnerable!

[@Lee_Juyeon]

What should I do if I have a huge crush on my male classmate what should I do?I keep them thinking of him everywhere I go and whatever I do.When we are in class I find myself obsessively staring at him non-stop.

[@marcusocampo5384]

AHHAHAHAHAHAHHA

[@oliverh7054]

Great video! I’m glad I found your channel :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

Glad u like it

[@DylanForbush]

You are deffinantly a person that we can look up to. Glad you make these videos.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well I'm just happy there helping people

[@DylanForbush]

They defiantly are. People like you who make videos like this defiantly have made it for me at least to notice I wasn't the only one like this and through watch your videos as well as others have grown to except my bisexuality and own it.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well bro you own that shit as much as you can

[@DylanForbush]

Courtney-Jai i will and thank you

[@cyberwebcom4537]

When I was younger. I always question my sexuality cuz one time I'll feel attracted to a guy or another where I feel attracted to a girl but as I've gotten older. I've finally figured out I am bisexual 😁 and I'm happy to be bisexual and idc who doesn't like me for being me. I'm just happy to have a support family and friends to accept me for being me :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

That all you could ever ask for and is the right way to think to many others care about everyone else opinion rather then their own

[@ellenrichardson8701]

All I have to say is you're a very good looking guy who seems to have a very sweet personality.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thank you if I'm honest I'm a bit of pain in the ass haha

[@nuke97]

Being bisexual can be so complex personally speaking. It is a real go with the flow kind of thing. For many years I really didn't understand it I thought I was gay not that I was active but then I still liked girls and then I thought maybe it's a phase of a mental sort but then it's just something that's always been there my whole life. I've closed the door on pursuing guys just to make my life a little simpler and as I've had girlfriends the repressed feeling is always there. Oh well.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Have u been honest with your girlfriend about those feelings

[@funkyshade]

I know I’m into men to some degree in my fantasies, however I don’t fall in love with men. So I guess on a sexual level I’m bi, but I solely bond on a loving level with women. Of course maybe some day I’ll meet a guy who I’ll fall in love with. I’m struggling to accept the part of me that likes men sexually, and I often just don’t understand myself.

[@funkyshade]

referral madness I’m sure I will. :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

It takes time I was in the same position for a long time the moment you let go and just be yourself you will be alot happier

[@funkyshade]

Courtney-Jai thanks CJ, I’ve been working on it. Gradually I’m gaining to courage to just be me, unfiltered.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thats what you should always aim for look after yourself

[@leahisa6710]

HOLY HELL YOURE JUST LIKE ME...? i’m confused as well for this reason but i find certain irl girls attractive...

[@carmelliabadolato8869]

For me it's just really confusing because I have been attracted to more guys than girls but it doesn't mean that my feelings to the girls I have had a crush on weren't valid and didn't mean anything. I also know that bisexuality is not always 50/50. When I'm attracted to guys, I only think of guys. When I'm attracted to girls on the occasion, I only think of women. It's a confusing journey and thank you for being a role model and guidance for me and many others out there :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

Check out a video called Why, You're bisexual it's a video I did that covers this in a bit more detail, which might be really helpful with the whole percentages thing and how you can still be bisexual but only want certain things.

[@The94zach94]

I knew I was bisexual at a rather young age, but at the time I just thought I wanted to be friends with them, but looking back on it now my 9 year old self had no idea what was going on and it wasn't til I was 13 that I heard the word bisexual, and I struggled to accept that I was, mostly because of my religious upbringing and because I kept thinking I was gay while having a crush on a friend that is a girl so my brain was beyond confused for 10 years after that til September last year when I finally completely accepted it!! ❤💜💙

[@frankpaya690]

Psychiatry is where these beliefs around sexuality stem from. Psychiatry is not a science, it's a pseudoscience. It's Subjective, open to opinions, that cannot be proven through true physical scientific processes.

[@a.l.e.x4326]

Im bisexaul and 13! i just feel happy:)

[@Courtney-Jai]

That's really good

[@apocalypseplague67]

So I’m not really sure if I’m bisexual or not. I remember being attracted to men and women all the way through high school and lately I’ve been attracted more to guys...is that normal or...?

[@Courtney-Jai]

I think experimentation will help identify who u are

[@user-ge1ys3ct3w]

Sexuality is fluid and very subjective so when you ask if it's"normal"(no such thing as normal) then I would be inclined to say for you at this moment it is normal. It's a journey and you have to find your own way for yourself just don't violate your own ethics your own morals try not to worry about society or judgements go out do your thing do what feels right for you have fun find love enjoy life I try not to stress too much

[@jaymariner8967]

I needed this. I can say I'm still finding myself out. And I'm starting to have thoughts like maybe I know myself already. I've came far from being confused to maybe knowing if I'm bi. I've got the support since I've came out to some friends about questioning myself. It's just confusing.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Jay Mariner it will be I think acting on those feelings is when you become confident of what you defiantly like

[@emelpuck5437]

Always great to watch people speaking of this on KZbin. All the "minorities" need more visibility.

[@Franktek12]

Thank you. All so real. Wish you 1M Subscribers!

[@Courtney-Jai]

That would be nice but it great just having people watching my video

[@90skid97]

Another great video! Thanks Courtney, what Are your edvice for People beyond there teen years coming out, not that its late but do you feel like its better just to Come out as early as possible in life, or try and let i happen when you perhaps feel more comfortable about it? 😊☺

[@Jonathan-kz8mr]

whats the song at the end? i love your videos and fairly new to the game , please and ty !

[@carmenv6928]

Hey, so I've been hearing all these stories about people knowing they were bisexual basically all their life. I only just realised on the age of 18 I might actually be bi. Does it matter on which age you realise tour sexuality and does this make me any less of a bisexual?

[@DarkVeghetta]

For me it was Antonio Banderas in Interview with the Vampire, specifically the scene when he passes his fingers through a flame. That scene instantly turned me on and it took me about 2 hours of talking to myself to explore what that meant and come to grips with the situation as it clearly stood and... that was that, I was bisexual. It took me a few more years to find the exact details of what I'm attracted to and what not, since femboys (at least as they exist today) were not even a thing 20+ years ago, when this happened, otherwise it would have been a much faster process (thankfully, twinks and what was referred to as 'traps', back then, _did_ exist).

[@ayajab9290]

You're a beautiful man

[@DGSpartan92]

I am bisexual and all my friends and family except my brother knows. Two reasons my brother doesn't know is cause 1) he's homophobic 2) he is in jail a lot of time he finds it home so yeah...

[@Idrick-fu7sz]

I realize I was gay at 12 I been fighting it a long time I have did some things with guys and I love it but I am 48 now I am out the closet it’s a great feeling

[@danielgreen3965]

You know, I wish us Bisexual guys had an idol too, I remember being so confused in high school too. The denial and guilt weighed so heavily on me that I often felt like I was putting on an act for the world, and I hated it. I recall wanting to cry and scream, but I felt dramatically better once I finally admitted and accepted it. I now love who I am. God, how I would love to just sit down with another bisexual guy and talk all this over. LOVED YOUR VIDEO You are gorgeous by the way.

[@lifechoices6643]

How much does a person's sexuality really matter? There is much more to each one of us apart from our sexual labels.

[@Viajero-1980]

It's exactly the same as I think

[@justincase9638]

I never thought that being bi-experienced the same stress and pressures as being gay. Coming out allowed me to live as a gay guy, to be accepted in a relationship with another man. But I assumed that being Bi-you had the better of 2 worlds. I didn't know. Secondly, how do you deal with your opposite side when you are in a monogamous relationship with a girl, I mean if you are Bi don't you have strong desire to be with a guy. And same if you are currently dating a guy - then you get the desire for a woman. That must be a real conflict. Btw, Mr Beautiful I love your accent..

[@Courtney-Jai]

I don't really have a desire to be with anyone with April , in still attracted to people but no one makes me smile like she does I love all her little quirks I think it just takes the right person man or women and you almost just drift away together

[@justincase9638]

@@Courtney-Jai Nice - thanks!

[@kvakkvak]

Maby coming out would be easier not knowing, it can be hard.

[@km12670]

Yes, finding a bi-sexual male to look up to now a days is difficult so I just look up to Rita Ora, she’s amazing and open about it. Her and her music has helped me through this time of starting to accept things.

[@Lord_Void_Raven]

It was weird for me to. From birth up until the second last year of high school I didn't like anyone in any capacity, romantic or not, And then I basically fell into "sexuality" one day. I wasn't too bothered by it l, but I noticed that I had a preference for guys. So for a few months I thought I was gay. And then I did some 'introspection' and the more I thought about it, the more I realised that I like girls ...and guys. So yeah

[@thomasbleming678]

Bi and proud!

[@Courtney-Jai]

That's great

[@Funkymonkeycollectables]

its a terrible feeling denial the fact you can come out i dont know if i am or not

[@techno-boy-toy]

I’m so confused because I want to date my bf and I’ve been with him for the past few months and I really love him but I’m just now realizing I seem wayy more attracted to girls than guys (physically that is, I’m unsure about in a romantic way) that it’s really fucking with me. And I’ve had sex with one guy before and it always felt like something was missing, and tmi, I never came with him. Haven’t had sex with my current bf yet we’re young ahaha and long distance. But ya and when I kiss a guy, very few times has it felt like something wasn’t “missing”, and one of those times I was drunk so 🤷‍♀️ I’m super confused and if anyone could give me advice that would be great because I don’t want this to affect my relationship with my bf, I would be devastated if it did

[@paulbielen9233]

As someone who as been out a while, the standard , as least from many friends, for firguring out you might be bi is , if oral sex on the opposite sex is enjoyable then good chance that you are bi. Agree?

[@Courtney-Jai]

Paul Bielen not really sure I think it's more down to intimate interaction and then wanting to do it again

[@emilyrad1634]

This really helped me thank you

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm glad I could help

[@nathanhousley5785]

I wanna see more of these videos please ❤

[@LovinOrigin]

you are like the perfect cute and hot kindna guy mixed together in one person

[@justolivia444]

In all honesty... I am so confused about my sexual orientation.

[@Courtney-Jai]

We all feel this way at some point it's perfectly natural

[@morganconn4863]

I'm straight but I'm trying to figure out why people think I'm bi or gay. My guess is eye contact somehow

[@tobit7]

You are such a beautiful man you made me smile

[@Courtney-Jai]

That's very sweet

[@pineappledude5397]

In my world you either like pine cones or an apples I'm bi so I'm a pineapple

[@phoenixember2179]

It sounds like we had similar experiences. Growing up, I only knew about straight and gay people. I assumed that I was straight, because I knew that I liked boys. When I was twelve, there was a pretty girl in my class at school. One time when she was talking to me, she paused and asked if I was checking her out. My automatic response was "no." I thought about it and realised that I was. It was very confusing. I time myself I wasn't attracted to her, because I didn't know bisexuality was a thing. On top of that, my father is a homophobe and my relationship with him was already not so good. A few years ago, I found out about bisexuality, but I still didn't fully accept it until March of last year. I was afraid to tell anyone. After spending some time with my aunt and her wife, I decided to tell them. They were very understanding. I told my mom next. That was really hard. It didn't phase het at all. When I told my father, he didn't believe me. I'm out on Facebook, but not everyone in my family knows. People like you who share their stories really help. You're awesome. 😊

[@handogg1]

what a beautiful soul

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well thank you u have a lovely smile

[@handogg1]

Courtney-Jai thank you :)

[@Michael0301L]

I am gay. I will be honest and say I don’t understand bisexual. But that’s just me. I have known I was gay at a very young age while in elementary school. I tried hard to fight it, thought it was a phase. Well, the phase never passed. I know being gay was very difficult and I can’t imagine the difficulty being attracted to both sex. Seems it might be unfair to the other sex if you cannot commit to one or the other. But that’s just me. 🙂 Wish you the very best and hope you find that special person one day, who ever it might be. Love the accent. ❤️

[@Courtney-Jai]

Already found her and it's not like I can make a choice it just means I'm open to being in a relationship with either gender but it's down to them not their gender if that makes sense

[@ilse2932]

I don't think the commitment part is about either sex, it's about the person you might be in a relationship with. There's no need to commit to anything anyway until you are getting into a relationship and need to come to an agreement of what you both expect from that. So when I chose to be in a monogamous relationship at one point it happened to be with a man. But had things gone differently, had I met a woman instead at that time I could now be writing the same bit of text but with the words man and woman reversed.

[@MoneyMagicAU]

Wow u are beautiful!

[@jimmieroberts4430]

I've wondered if there's a line between being bisexual and being straight with occasional gay experiences I don't know. It's a bit confusing to me sometimes.

[@antwanwilson7228]

I think so, because all the guys I meet say their bisexual. From my experience it's like their first preference is women and then men. Sometimes I wonder are they "bisexual" or "straight and experimenting". 😒

[@jimmieroberts4430]

@@antwanwilson7228 yeah you could be right. I've suppressed my behavior for years but it's like a rubber band around your waist keeps pulling me back. Those that " experiment" I think are or have always been bi or gay but don't act on it until the desire comes calling.....I can relate. For me, I'm somewhere in the middle. I'd date either really.

[@jimmieroberts4430]

@@antwanwilson7228 and another thing I've heard it said that there's no such thing as bi. It's gay or straight I do not agree with that.

[@antwanwilson7228]

@@jimmieroberts4430 so are you attracted to both women or men? Do you like both sexes the same? For the guys I date, they act on their feelings when nobody is around 😒

[@antwanwilson7228]

@@jimmieroberts4430 for a long time I didn't understand bisexuality, I thought it was just a "cover" for gay people. I use to wonder how can someone like both sexes, is it confusing? I've recently came to the conclusion that bisexuality is real.

[@AarmOZ84]

I didn't start calling myself bisexual till recently and I am 35.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Age is but a number

[@CarlosNavarro-w4f]

Hey... I'm 15 years old. I want to be anonymous so I won’t say my name. I’m always confuse but now I just want to be 100% honest to every words that I’ll say here. Ever since I was a kid, people thought that I’m gay. The way I walk, my actions and words, they always tease me about being a gay. Then when my father comes home from work, I think I was or vacation after I graduated in 6th Grade. My mom confronted me, she asked if I’m gay, or do I have feelings for men. To be honest, I was terrified. But I said that I have a crush on my female best friend which I don’t know if I really had feelings for her. We’re still close until now, I mean we’ve been best friends since 5th Grade. No, after typing those words, I suddenly realized that I don’t have any feelings from my best friend, it’s just that I cherish her a lot and I love her as a friend. Then when I reached high school, my family noticed that my friends were all girls. Which makes them conclude that I’m really gay. But then at the end of the school year, my classmate asks me if I have a crush on one of our female classmate. My heart flutter, and I thought that I really do. Minutes after my heart flutter, I told my best friend that I think that I have a crush on our female classmate. As expected, she supported me. Then days passed and my dad asks me if I have a crush on someone, I told him that I do. Then in a blink of an eye, he told me to give a gift for that girl. Then I do, I gave her a huge teddy bear on the recognition day (until now they are teasing us about that huge bear). But then my feelings fade and I suddenly lost interest in her. Now I just realized that my father just put on a show to make me more manly. After the recognition day is our vacation. They there is this girl that I saw on Facebook, and I just thought that “Wow! She’s pretty.” Then I had a crush on that girl (she’s my schoolmate btw.) Then my feelings started to grow. It was too late when I realized that I like that girl already. Ah, I was separated with my best friend (the one I’m closed with since grade 5). So I open up to my friend in our room, she’s a good listener and a good speaker, she is also the smartest person in our room. She gave me advices and told me to confess my feelings to the girl I like (my schoolmate). So I did what I was told, but unfortunately, I was rejected. I was heartbroken of course. This all happened when I was Grade 8. On the same Grade, I had a crush on the new girl in our school. She’s tall, white, and pretty. Just like my ideal type to a girl. I also open this up to my friend (the smartest girl in our room), as expected, she supported me and told me to confession my feelings for her. At first I was scared to show my feelings. But then that friend told me that nothing will happen if I don’t do anything, so I have to take the risks, I should always take the risks so I won’t have any regret in the future. So I did what she told me. For the second time in my life, I was rejected. That time it was so hard forgetting her. And then I was given an advice that I should have lots of crushes so my attention won’t just be to her. I even had a crush on the smartest girl in our room which she eventually found out but acted as if she didn’t know. I then I realized that my crush list is a mix of girls and boys. I tried to open up to one of my friend in my new circle friends at that time. Then out of the blue, she told me that she is bisexual. She is my bisexual female friend (until now). I also told her that I think that I am bisexual but I don’t really know what does it really mean. But since then I kept having the feeling of being attracted to both guys and girls. My Grade 8 life was really a hassle. Then me and my bisexual female friend had a game with a bottle; we will say something and then flip the bottle, if the bottle stands then it will come true, but if not, then the dream won’t happen. I said that I will be in a relationship and will date whoever confessed that she likes me. Moving on to my life in grade 9, I there is this girl that I know, we’ve been classmates for 2 then but we aren’t really close to each other. But then we ended up being friends since we became seatmates. Months passed then she told me that she likes me, she didn’t know when it started but she just knew that she has feelings for me. I was so excited and then I told her that I think I also like her. But I realized now that II only like her as a friend. We became MU for months then suddenly, I realized that I don’t really have feelings for her. I didn’t even picture us together in the future, not even once. One time, we had a fight then we didn’t talk to each other, then it continued until we became stranger. We haven’t had our closure until now, and I can say that we are still not in good terms. This year, I think I was on January, I was able to make up with the smartest girl in our room (because we fought about the girl I have MU with. They are actually best friends but turned to be enemies). While we are talking, my heart was beating like crazy. And it doubled when she hugged me. Then I realized that my feelings for her started to awaken. Since January we had our ups and downs. We stopped. We became together again. We stopped. We became together again. Again and again. During our ups and downs, I started to ask myself because I am having feelings for guys more than in girls. I am also skin conscious, and cares a lot about myself. They say that a little feminine, no, maybe “too feminine”. Then suddenly, the she 9he smartest girl in our room) asked my bisexual female friend if I’m gay. She denied it. The smartest girl in our room doesn’t know that my friend is bisexual. So that happened. Then when my friend told me about that, I was offended. Which made me more confused about my sexuality. I told the smartest girl in our room that I was offended, and she should have asked me about it. Then it was August 24, I asked her to date me, she hesitated but then she eventually said yes. I was still confused about my gender but I still manage to ask her out. All I know at that time is I love her. We lasted for almost 2 months. Our relationship became toxic that made me want to end it. Then there is this pretty girl (who is almost 2 years younger than me) that told me she likes me. I started to like her, I can see my future with her. They told me that she’s a play girl, but I didn’t listen to them. All I know is that I like her. We had our fling for almost 2 weeks, I guess? Then I decided to end it because I can see that it will never work out, I’m leaving the country to study abroad. At first she didn’t accept it. Then when she told me to leave, I left. I wanted to focus on myself. Weeks passed them I realized that I’m starting to like this guy. I mean, really like him so much that I even went to his school and wait until he comes out. I found out that he’s gay and I’m actively reacting to he’s posts. The first time we met was so memorable. I don’t know him at that time and I have totally no idea that I’ll have feelings for him. I think he also knows me, though I’m not sure but he’s like sending signals on me. Now I’m totally confused about my gender. The whole purpose of me sharing this story is to remind me that I’m not gay. I don’t want to be gay. I don’t want to be frustrated about my gender anymore… please help me… I’m bisexual right?

[@CarlosNavarro-w4f]

This past few days, I am able to say that I’m bisexual to the persons I’m comfortable with. I have this friend that I came out few months ago and now I feel like a brand new person around that person. I feel so comfortable and I can say and do whatever I want.

[@CarlosNavarro-w4f]

Please say something, I really want to know how you feel about me. I wish I have someone to assure me… that it’s okay… Thank you in advance and sorry for my poor English...

[@ellenrichardson8701]

Yes honey, you are bi. Stop fighting it an you will be more happy and well adjusted. Google luck.

[@johnjohnnatics9778]

Your so handsome bisexual😘😘😘 Im a bisexual also greetings from the Philippines

[@Courtney-Jai]

Greetings from England

[@johnjohnnatics9778]

@@Courtney-Jai thank you....🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@jor4n767]

Every guy will become bi or gay after seeing him. Dang

[@Courtney-Jai]

After seeing who dang 😂😂😂

[@nessiecz2006]

Well you said you wanted us to comment if we're bisexual, well, here I am 😂😂

[@Courtney-Jai]

Pleased to see your comment 😋

[@nessiecz2006]

Courtney-Jai Sorry for the late response pleased to see your answer xD

[@derrickkaweesi5920]

i know i am bisexual but am just fighting it ... isit posible for me to be straight again .. am i born this way or something.. i fear coiming out..

[@kopakiara2450]

Who do you find more physically attractive? Guys or girls? Just wondering.

[@thomasdonovan406]

So, when you're out with your girlfriend, is she concerned or jealous that you might be looking at the other attractive girls AND guys?

[@tommyturbo321]

Thomas Donovan well if you're out with a guy/girl are you worried that they find other people more attractive?

[@courtneyroberson5230]

My name is courtney too😀 and im also bi

[@bradleybraafhart]

❤

[@KateIsCool1216]

Me too.

[@ilovetotri23]

Labels are the only things have we humans have to go on.

[@Courtney-Jai]

True but would there be so much discrimination if such labels never existed in the first place

[@JINXXPH]

Im Bi also

[@okimlistening2u]

Courtney-Jai, I have watched you and others trying to 'come out' to whatever sexual orientation that they are aware of at that point in time. Personally as a counselor and teacher of your age group, I think we have the focus on the wrong thing. Let's not worry about what label we are, and let's focus on the PERSON we are. In my opinion, what truly matters is WHO we are........Ray