Most Women Don't Realize That THIS Is Why They're Single

[@CourtneyRyan]

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[@theokay1]

Factor is pretty awesome actually been using it for like a month it definitely can seem pricey but you add in time and convenience it's actually not that bad

[@CourtneyRyan]

@@theokay1 I’m so glad you like it!

[@aaronburdon221]

@@CourtneyRyan I'd like to perform a social experiment with that first chick you showed. I want to see how she feels about women "Not needing men" when No fault divorce is repealed. Alongside that, the wealth of governmental programs to take care of women with documentation for where child support is being spent. I agree that child support should be given to the person who has the child the bulk of the time, but I want to know where that money is going. See how much they don't need a man with those back stops taken away and then we can talk.

[@Warriordan44]

This day in age dating is like a dating show in Texas Chainsaw Massacres house.. An the women are like who's going to save me.. and when you work out to heighten your chances of survival against Texas Chainsaw Massacre but you get on his radar more..

[@ninjapirate123]

ok

[@almosthelpless9374]

There's nothing that makes me lose interest faster than a woman who says or shows me through her actions that she doesn't want me. If I'm just an "option" I'm walking away.

[@WeaponryFitness22]

That's the thing. Her options decrease as much as her smv. We're all considered options.

[@LewpyDrewpy714]

Yeppers. Been rejected so many times. Doesn't hurt anymore, it's easy as breathing. For me, I'll talk to any Woman. Easiest way to tell if I'm just a option, their questions they ask.

[@Shady_br]

Yeah i don't get the ''we don't need men'' mentality.

[@waltermyers8891]

#FYPtiktok

[@kevin9218]

If she's keeping her options open, that means she didn't choose you, and never will. You're just a free sample to her. She'll enjoy you for a moment then forget all about you.

[@zurielsss]

Her whining on TikTok is the biggest red flag for any guy with a brain

[@CourtneyRyan]

Accurate

[@IamjustBruh]

Me: *opens book* Book page: facts

[@MrXiphix]

personally its the eye makeup filter thats getting me. hilarious.

[@BigGamingBossMan]

*holds up sign* Y E S

[@Reza19691348]

Her big tattoss too

[@mattsmith3126]

There's not one man who is looking at this as a loss by "missing out" on this woman and others like her.

[@rockyduck5716]

MEN ARE JUST TIRED OF ALL Y'ALL!!! IT'S OVA WIFF.

[@josephsandoval9825]

Exactly!! Lol. Summed up In two words….”GOOD RIDDANCE “

[@MrLoudthought]

Dating a woman, inherently, is taking a loss. Typically an "acceptable loss" but a loss none the less. They date up, which means they will inevitably consume more value than they generate

[@madhatter9001]

100

[@Grizzy98639]

You said it so well. I think a large part of the dating problem these days is also due to a fear of commitment because nobody wants to "choose wrong" and as a result, fewer people are choosing to commit. Instead, they seem to date people non-exclusively for as long as possible and end up with less than ideal results. There are definitely other problems but it really seems like everyone these days is dating defensively, "i'll hurt you first so i dont get hurt".

[@Justanothercog24]

Finally a comment with some sense! Online dating seriously broke the dating world altogether. Ppl are relying far too much on screens to build connections & make decisions, but it's too shallow & removes the human element of real feelings. We're all just reduced to pictures & a few lines of text, NOT being seen as actual people. Everyone is trying to move far too fast now which royally screws up the vetting process. Then you have the serial cheaters/ daters & fakers who just poke at & create way more trust issues which turns to resentment for others. The ignoring games of "make them chase me" are screwing things up because ppl have become far too concerned with creating power struggles, getting their ego stroked & manipulation, all of which set the stage for unhealthy dynamics & ultimately failure. When both sides are doing it, it only looks like total non-interest & emotional neglect which leads everyone nowhere. I really believe online dating needs to be abandoned. Let the hookup seekers, crazies cheaters have the apps & the rest of us who want something real can go back to the old ways which worked just fine since... well forever.

[@emilymenjivar6138]

This 😮

[@dontcallthemliberals3316]

There's a measurable anxiety epidemic. People are literally to anxious to date seriously. You can't ask for number now you have to ask for socials. can't ask her on a date you have to ask her to 'hang out'. Its also why men aren't approaching anymore.

[@chrisschultz6129]

She actually said "We're struggling" and "We don't need you" in the same sentence. Most women are self-aware enough to at least use those terms in separate sentences; but she said them in the same sentence . . . you can't make this ish up.

[@nenawright8157]

I believe she is saying, she did need them but because she can not depend on them she's now depending on her self. which I totally get. However I AM very blessed to still have men in my life that I can depend on consistanly. it's just the romantic end that I have been let down on and yes I'm aware of my part in it. which is why My focus is on my own self awareness sand spiritual growth so I can be a more healthier, balanced and compassionate well`being. And I also feel it's Wonderful she is expressing her self and sometimes that's healing too...

[@stewpitt8388]

@nenawright I believe she is talking out of her ass and so are you. There's like 1 woman on the planet probably who mines her own coal with homemade pickaxes and then uses it to produce her own electricity,the other 99.999% is produced by MEN who mine the coal and smelt the metal and make the generators and then operate the generators to produce the electricity for EVERY SINGLE THING YOU DO IN YOUR LIFE. If women "don't need no man" and "just want to travel" then try doing it on ANY VEHICLE invented and manufactured by a woman. And while you're traveling around in your imaginary tamponmobile, you can eat and drink air instead of food and water because guess what? Men grow the plants and raise the animals you eat and source,treat, and deliver every drop of water you drink as well. But women don't have any men they can depend on,right? Except the hundreds of thousands of dependable men LITERALLY KEEPING YOUR STUPID UNGRATEFUL ASSES ALIVE RIGHT NOW for seemingly no reason. We all know if the shoe were on the other foot,you aren't getting up at 6 o clock in the morning to mine any damned coal.

[@BenjaminPitkin]

That is because on some subconscious level she recognises that she does need men, she wouldn't be be hurting otherwise. On a basic level, that statement is simply a coping mechanism for dealing with with the problem in the first part of her sentence. There is a second, and far more damaging reason why she would say this - and that is an attempt to cause harm. Firstly, is a cry for help to get the attention that she wants, and secondly it retribution for harm she feels done to her - albeit, confected and misdirected as it is; and completely naive too. Because men don't take these kinds of attacks kindly - and wont give her the response she's looking for.

[@ShaunHensley]

She’s hammered

[@rockyduck5716]

RENT'S DUE MUTHAVUKKAH!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Guigley]

She is right about some of the things she said. But she just guaranteed herself a lifetime of singleness with the words, "Women don't need men for anything." No one apparently told her that there is nothing that brings a man lower than being told he is useless.

[@ellisdee2013]

Forget the fact that if every man disappeared one day, the entire infrastructure would collapse. No food at the grocery stores, no running water, no power, no cell phones, no one to come put out a fire, no one to come save you when you're in an emergency. Have fun foraging, hunting/fishing and fending for yourself. Also, could you imagine a world of matriarchies? They act like it would be peaceful. And unless there's some huge scientific breakthrough, good luck on reproduction. They can create eggs in a lab, but they've yet to find a way to create viable sperm.

[@fjockey1]

She's also living in feminist blindness, forgetting that everything that makes her life what it is was designed, created, and maintained by men.

[@buckjones4901]

She is a future cat lady in the making.

[@jamesjonnes]

She's talking about the chads that pumped and dumped her. She repeatedly chose men who treat her badly, that is when she guaranteed her lifetime of singleness. The TikTok videos are just the cherry on the top. Normally, a woman her age would lower her standards and ask for a simp to pick up the pieces, but she's still too arrogant to do even that. Now she will forever be angry at men for her own choices.

[@Macheako]

What the HELLLLLLLL is women’s obsession with “not needing no man” 😂😂 It’s amazing how nice men are to these douche bags

[@BornToBeUai]

3:30 "We don't actually NEED you for NOT ONE THING." 3:39 "It's important that you're giving us that physical connection that we NEED"

[@QuartuvLarry]

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[@blackadder194]

Oh, the nerve on this one, eh? Funny, information technology infrastructure and devices this woman uses to beam her messages to thousands/millions of viewers were invented by men. Actually, women need men for almost everything. Men concurred, civilized, and built the world women live in. Men invented the pill and the tampon, for fucks sake!

[@Christina-kt6gc]

Lol

[@blackadder194]

@@Christina-kt6gc a comment dumber than a coat of paint

[@corrioliseffect]

I caught that during the first viewing, and I’m half asleep. Was this young lady drunk when she recorded this TikTok?

[@LeonTheaker]

Exactly ! 💯 I've been saying for years, perhaps decades, that male and female should *complete* each other, not *compete* with each other !

[@HELLO-iq5rb]

My problem as a man is that every single woman that I've met in the last 9 years since my divorce ( she cheated. ) want to be in a relationship but at the same time, be in touch with their ex's, go on sun sea and sex type holidays, go clubbing, have a phone full of 'reserves' and act like a single woman. Maybe i got unlucky? Im 50+ and i have yet to meet an honest moral, loyal, caring woman. I guess that at my age theyre all taken? I've now resigned myself to being single and living drama free and in peace.

[@revanmoto6261]

The fact that we men are constantly being told that we’re not needed is one of the reasons why I checked out of the dating game.

[@m.b.6974]

It's so sad! Seriously! I absolutely NEED my boyfriend/partner. I appreciate him so much! I let him know how valued he is in my life. I wish women like this would just SHUT THEIR MOUTHS!!! It's very inappropriate to speak about your bad experience as facts, because NOT facts!

[@urgadurga]

@@m.b.6974 It's honestly nice to see something like this. My last girlfriend was so nasty to me and would constantly remind me how disgusting she thought I was because I was a man so I was just inherently rotten. That anything positive about me was IN SPITE of being male. It sounds like your boyfriend is a lucky guy to know he's so appreciated, I hope things continue to go well for you two.

[@m.b.6974]

@@urgadurga I'm sorry this was your experience. I understand how undervalued men are in our society, and then women complain there are no good men!! Wha?!? SMH, no 😕

[@protorhinocerator142]

@@m.b.6974 I'm glad you found a guy when you did. Don't let him go. Guys are really giving up on women. There's no reason anymore for guys to try. I keep hearing, "Not all women are like that" but the odds are super against you. Sure I could go to the roulette wheel at a casino and bet it all on 00. There is a chance I could win. Or I could lose it all and everyone I know would ask, What were you thinking? Don't be the casino. Be a good gf. Respect and peace. Give him those two things and he's yours.

[@studleyjb3172]

​@@urgadurgadon't put up with their crap.

[@mattorama]

Single woman: "Men are all terrible and we don't need you anyway." Also single woman: "I'm having a hell of a time finding a guy, what gives?"

[@groth1m]

Exactly. They don’t need us until they need something fixed or when the check comes.

[@protorhinocerator142]

Men: Women are all terrible and we don't need you anyway. Also men: We're fine with that.

[@Pcbdude82]

You don't need the internet. You don't need vidrogame consoles. Hell, you don't need a car. But you still want that shit. There's a million things you don't need. Doesn't mean you don't them.

[@elmateo77]

It's funny how she bounces back and forth between "we're struggling" and "we don't need you" within the same sentence like a bipolar goldfish...

[@yoshi314]

like someone said - a woman can hold two opposing views at the same time and it makes sense to her. Based on how she feels in that moment she says it.

[@Essetheartist]

Her mind is having an internal conflict. Because she doesn't understand why she feels the way she feels truly.

[@rockyduck5716]

MEN ARE JUST DONE WIFF ALL Y'ALL!!!!! IT'S OVA WIFF

[@lindilla]

Absolutely true. If you don't need a man, why are you struggling?

[@QuartuvLarry]

Bipolar! Borderline! BIPOLAR! BORDERLINE! You KNOW those red flags, even if I didn’t name them!

[@pnketia]

Emotional Damage! Red Flag alert! You do you girl, go on Queen! Anytime a woman says "all men" followed by a negative comment means she has either dated all men and is a 304 or she chased after a Chad and he ghosted her after getting what he wanted.

[@asterixdogmatix1073]

'Dumpster fire' is an apt description of that woman's video you reviewed. Never heard such a lot of contradictions in one spiel. Great to hear your views on it Courtney.

[@canihave1dab724]

Be nice, but not too nice. Be masculine, but not too masculine. Be available, but not too available. Be independent, but need me in your life. Be wealthy, but not so wealthy you have options. Provide for me, but with no strings attached. Western women, in general, don’t have a darn clue what they want from men. Not to say men don’t struggle with commitment, but at least we rarely air our dirty laundry on the internet while begging for attention. Cheers Courtney!

[@MustbeTheBassest]

Unfortunately, I think you hit it on the nail. They want the perfect man. But it's not like there's anything wrong with wanting the best, the problem is they demand it. They expect a ten when they are 5s

[@Danishmastery]

@@MustbeTheBassestthat’s the thing. I like to say that the problem occurs when someone equals their wishful thinking and their ideal man to what they can actually expect, what they can reasonably hope to find. A disconnect happened somewhere along the way and they no longer live in reality. If they don’t get exactly what they want, they find it disrespectful to them. Their sense of entitlement is through the roof.

[@Swearengen1980]

Liberal women, in general. Conservative, or rather country women in particular, are infinitely less likely to be as oblivious as that woman.

[@Essetheartist]

Well said

[@Essetheartist]

​@@gnamcI see, now that it's really not that easy. Because every body is getting brainwashed if they are female.. These men basically have to weed their way through to find their match. That's WHY many of them are giving up and going overseas.

[@shadowwolf1022]

"We don't need you." Then why should I bother with someone that doesn't need me? Your commentary is very much on point, Courtney.

[@bittersweetindustryexecutive]

@Shadowwolf102 Fun Fact: This woman: "We don't actually need you for one thing." "Not ONE thing." Also this woman: "So it's important that you're gonna give us that physical connection that we NEED" Imagine this woman going on a date. (For the sake of picturing what it is she's actually doing here) Her: "I don't need you." Him: "I haven't even said hi to you yet." Her: "Just in case." Him: "in case of what?" Her: "That you might think I need you." "I DON'T." Him: "So, how are you doing?" Her: "I don't need your fake empathy.: Him: "But, I just wanted to know." Her: "So disappointing." "AAAAALL men are sooooo disppointing." Him: "I was about to ask you, if you want to have children somewhere in the near future, but you're probably not gonna appreciate that question." Her: "A well mannered man." "What a surprise they still make 'em like that." Him: "Thanks for the compliment." Her: "It's NOT a compliment!" Him: "Oh, I thought..." Her: "You should STOP thinking too much and instead start being more genuine and caring and loving." Him: "Okay." "I'm willing to take a second job, if that helps in making life easier for us and the kids were gonna have." Her: "I don't need your cash, I don't need your crypto, I don't need your anything." "I can provide for myself without any hassle." "I simply don't need you at all." "And if you think I need you to make babies, then think again, I DON'T!!!." "As a matter of fact, I don't need you AT ALL!" " Him: "🤯" Her: "So!" " Your place or my place?" Him: "Uhm, sorry, come again?" Her: "Pleeease!??" "I reeeally NEED you for that physical connection." Him: "I reeeally NEED to go now." Cheers !✌

[@christoph3187]

@@bittersweetindustryexecutiveAwesome comment! 😂👍🏻

[@lewisb85]

I remember a life coach once telling me "On a plane they tell you to fix your mask before helping others, choosing your welfare is no different". She's blaming men for choosing themselves but demanding they do otherwise is toxic.

[@pepecz]

She says women dont need men for anything and right after that she asks for "that physical conncetion".... I guess cats and vibrators dont provide as much of that huh? 😂

[@lewisb85]

@@iamme25yago no the company I worked for did, thought I'd skim some free sessions off them.

[@Macheako]

Bro, let’s just be honest…. Us men have ENABLED THESE WOMEN 😂❤ Time to disable em 😂

[@waltermyers8891]

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[@richardw3347]

@@jth_printed_designs exactly she is def over 30+ and expects royal treatment. I wonder how she treated men in her twenties?? karma , maybe..

[@robertholtz769]

I can say that dating this year is certainly more difficult than I expected. I haven't dated much since 2019, but I recently determined what I actually want from a relationship and what I want to provide. I thought going to church and other religious Christian gatherings would yield the results I was looking for. While I am finding what I think are higher quality girls, most of them are not interested or I am not initially attracted to make a move. The one date I have been on this year didn't go anywhere because even this Christian girl wanted to have her 9-5 career, a bunch of kids, and not put those kids in public school. I agree with 2/3 of those, but something has to give there. There wasn't a second date. Perhaps it is a small sample size, but it feels like if you really want traditional; you need to get the girl before she goes to college. I'm still moving forward with a positive attitude. However, it is crazy how much harder it is than I expected it to be.

[@misspomerol]

@robertholtz769 WHOOOOOAAAAA there buddy boy , you do not need to get a girl while she is still in high school because that is fucking grooming and that’s gross, that screams creeper and weird right there. Are you OK? Please don’t do that. Please let a woman know exactly who she is before marrying them. Please don’t be a gross weird groomer. My husband didn’t do that, it’s entirely possible to not do that.

[@robertholtz769]

@@misspomerol I do see what you are saying and how that could be seen as creepy. However, you wouldn't find it creepy if two 18 to 20 year olds were dating and the girl decided to not go to college. So because I'm older than that, I just need to accept that a woman is highly likely to waste 4 years of her life and thousands of dollars being talked at? That doesn't sound reasonable at all. No one, let alone women, needs to go to college to be educated, smart, or to "find themselves." We just associate college with those things because we value college far more than it is worth nowadays. Reading that comment back after months have passed, it is obvious that I was frustrated. I was making a comment on how unreasonable the expectations of women who have sunk that money and time seem to be. They want it all, but they can't. Something has to give. That is either going to be one of hers or my time and effort or it will be how well our children are raised. Clearly me giving up working is not an option because no self respecting woman would go for that, as God intended. So a reasonable and clear strategy is finding a woman who hasn't convinced herself that she must be working at the widget factory. That way she doesn't have to wrestle with her pride.

[@ThatWasherNerd]

Not going to lie, I've just become extremely jaded in terms of trying to date. I've been friendzoned, "brotherzoned", ghosted, slow-ghosted, you name it. I'm 21 and have never been in a relationship. It's almost tempting to just give up entirely tbh.

[@Essetheartist]

There's nothing wrong with you. It has everything to deal with the culture of women. First thing is that you are young and a lot of women are naturally attracted to men that are older because share ability to provide. But if you actually ended up becoming a higher earner at a younger age, that does make you more attractive. Then there's physical appearance if you don't look like Brad or Tyrone a lot of Women are going to categorize You as average. And average is not enough to the average woman.. Maybe you know this by now. Giving up is an option or waiting until you have the ability to find a Different 🎉Culture 🎉of Women.

[@readingrainbow6746]

Quite a few countries on this earth consider 21 to be the age of adulthood, so don't sweat it. If you're still there at 25 then you should be worried but right now you're still in the statistical zone where you may not have spinned the wheel often enough.

[@lagsalot640]

Im 18 and feel the same way been led on went on one date just recently with a childhood friend I reconnected with and it went great and then she told me "In theory your perfect effortlessly funny and genuinely good but I cant be with someone who doesn't drink or smoke because I feel shame when I do it" and I was fine with her doing both it was only my preference of no drinking or smoking. She only did it every once in a while and yet here I am just completely broken but in the meantime I have been figuring out things I could have done better and trying to make sure that I am everything I would want from my future partner if that makes any sense. Sorry for the rant just kinda like feeling hopeless because I am done school and just wondering like how im supposed to find women now and in the future

[@borislibaque1558]

As a dating coach I've gotten more and more potential clients with the 'I don't need no man attitude' over the last few years and boy oh boy are they tough to work with. When I ask them basic basic questions like where do they go to meet guys, what do you think guys want, or don't want, how do interact with guys you like to let them know you like them...its just all a mess. I try so hard not to generalize that whole philosophy as problematic, to find any version of it that produces a happy couple to use as a model, but I just haven't seen one. I've decided for myself to just not take those clients anymore. I can't imagine the impact of that energy on any young boys they may have in the future. Thanks for sharing Courtney

[@Essetheartist]

I wonder who would take them because they get to a point where they are just impossible to rationalize with. If you just look at this statistics around mail, loneliness, and depravity of any gratitude to men in our culture, you would understand why there are so many women that have this narrative. Femenism had more than one wave. This is the extremity of it.. And you have so many of these clients because they're all have the same type in preference men. It's not working because they are too hypergamus

[@dirtyace1668]

The whole idea is very straightforward. Men control access to relationships. Hence, if women want to be in a relationship with a man they actually want, then the rest is relatively self explanatory. Trying to do mental gymnastics about how it's somehow different will only complicate everything and really make it much much more difficult to be in a relationship with a man that you actually want.

[@iamLI3]

indeed , simply tell them feminism is a lie and their choice to believe in it is the reason they are miserable and then move on....

[@studleyjb3172]

There's always a future in computer maintenance.

[@plod985]

@@iamLI3hmm feminism is a broad umbrella including the right of women to vote. I think you mean misandry.

[@maatonne]

"We don't need you to provide but you should." "We are struggling but we can take care of ourselves in every aspect." When you are too busy feeling so you can't think however, you don't need to think to experience a Freudian slip.

[@Vortex_ICEcold]

LMFAOOOO. This is how all women act. No realization that they are contradicting themselves.

[@ajtaylor8750]

We could easily say the same about some of these women, but the reality is that this mindset is extremely biased based on one's experience. There's always gonna be selfish, narcissistic, and self-centered men and women out here but complaining about it to social media while also showing that you're not a good choice either by crapping on men is showing a huge lack of self-awareness. She's screaming "we don't need men" while at the same time saying men need to be nice, accommodating, and available. You can't make this stuff up....AT ALL.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😅

[@xerxestheimmortal1]

!!! 👏

[@tommygunn6901]

She doubled down on stupidity

[@fabian7463]

She's complaining about the guys that she would date, not marry. Big difference in the quality there.

[@dobermanownerforlife3902]

Narcissism is apart of female biology. Their lack of controlling and even knowing their own biology is the issue. Men are not narcissistic by nature. Providing and protecting is the opposite. The narcissism in men is a psychological compensation from the ignorance of feminism that runs our society. Women replaced men with government. This freed the man to do as he pleases instead of protecting and providing.

[@lspivey1207]

"We don't need you to provide, but you should " No matter how independent women say they are, they still want your money.

[@benliftin4awhile]

Ya you like how she immediately threw that second part in there, like a knee jerk reaction, we are just tools to women, always have been, that’s why they struggle to see any value in us when we don’t “do” something for them, the same way you’d look at a hammer that couldn’t hit a nail.

[@tahbit]

The word you're looking for is "parasite".😂

[@gregharn1]

Always did

[@jamesjonnes]

That's why they want Communism. They want all of the men's money to be taken through taxes and given to women, even if men refuse to marry them.

[@DesScorp]

She needs to just go on to Lesbian Island and get it over with.

[@CRINGLEBURT]

I haven't dated in a while, decided to look up online dating. In the space of less than 6 months, I have gone from adoring women to, well, quite frankly, having nothing nice to say. I'm sure women feel the same way, so many examples of awful men and women online. Luckily the real life dating scene hasn't been quite that toxic, but I have started noticing red flags now where tbh previously I never really looked for them. The biggest problem for me though is that I would love to go out of my way to do nice things for a woman, to really take care of her but now I'm worried that if I do that I'm a simp and that I'll be used, I've never felt like dating was a job interview until 2023. Honestly I've become so cynical about dating in such a short period of time its impressive how much damage the internet can do to ones perspective.

[@paulhsv1121]

Your balanced perspective is very refreshing and much needed! Kudos!

[@yusikillah6175]

"We dont need you to make babies" had me rolling

[@CourtneyRyan]

Yeah I was a little confused there lol

[@ReubenZeigler]

Someone didn’t have the talk about the birds and the bees. 😂

[@Jennthegreen]

Well..sperm banks are available. So she would only need some cash.

[@dg271]

maybe she is a research scientist developing artificial sperm??? for some reason, I doubt it...

[@gotinogaden]

@@dg271 "This stork is quite tasty, isn't he?"

[@hhale]

Why do I get the feeling is that no matter how hard I try, no matter how much I actually contribute, she'll always be the one who puts in more effort, and always be the one who contributes more, in her opinion? A "you're lucky to even be here" vibe. She carries more red flags than a Beijing May Day parade, but seems blissfully unaware of them.

[@impudentdomain]

100%

[@zerpblerd5966]

you don't actually have to date this woman...

[@jamesg1974a]

That’s how it goes. You could do 75% to their 25% but they put in more. So you go to 85% to 15% and now she’s carrying even more of the load. It’s a relatively new phenomenon but 100% real. You cannot please someone who views the world in such a skewed way

[@jimjohnson530]

Its definitely NOT new. Havent you heard “a woman’s work never ends”? Men dont say these things. My mom always “did everything around here!”, while my dad could always “at least help out a little”. In reality my dad worked 12hrs 6-7 days a week was a millionaire cooked, did laundry shopping etc. My mom chose to work full time. When women say these things it stems from their unhappiness living in male and female roles feminists assigned them rather than looking at the actual distribution of work load. Theres a often a difference between how they feel and whats actually unfolding.

[@jamesjonnes]

She made herself into a ghetto woman. This kind of woman is always unhappy, thinks 99% of men who aren't at the very top are invisible, and enjoys being mistreated even though she says otherwise (she wouldn't like a top 1% who treated her well). It's the reality she created for herself.

[@quasidoc7726]

Expectations are way out of bounds. Being born in the 70's I cannot recall a single time when a man had the same expectations on them as women do on us today. I tire of it.

[@user-pm8uc5dc3e]

Born in the 80s, can confirm this is true!

[@paulcolin-fj9ns]

It's crazy

[@Lonstermash]

Born in 1970 and agree 100%

[@JiMMY-my1ds]

Great point

[@Blizofoz45]

The butterface in the video seems typical of this. She has an overblown ego from posting carefully staged/shopped selfies on social media but her real life stock value is much lower because she's cheap-looking and men can see she's aging out of the game.

[@will-wf6sb]

I've noticed on dating apps that many women lay down rule's, requirements and so on but the one thing that can be or is the the biggest put off is the " i don't NEED a man. I just want one" that kind of thing, for me that's instantly confrontational and a big turn off ...in fact men apparently put the same at time's, well all i can is i need want a woman, i need her warmth, her gentleness, her feminine ways. To hold her hand and so on...but i don't need is a feminist.

[@robdyck1187]

Thank you. Your calm statement that a woman who claims she "don't need no man" has offended all men who hear that. If that really is her attitude, all men should run away from her as fast as possible. She is trouble. You were more patient than I would have been. But one thing she said really bugged me. Another video I saw today claimed there's a way for women to conceive without the need for a man. Using bone marrow. That is a cloning technique, and any use of any form of cloning technology for the purpose of reproduction is illegal in both the United States and Canada. I'm Canadian, it's a criminal offence here. So yes, if she ever hopes to have a baby she will need a man. I could get technical and talk about how sexual reproduction evolved on our planet as a means to increase genetic diversity, and that was foremost to defend against disease. Considering how COVID swept the planet, I would think people would understand the need for resistance to disease. Sexual reproduction became a means for evolution to improve the species; positive traits result in more babies, negative traits result in fewer or no babies. So over generations, sex is a key factor in evolution. However, sex first developed as a means to fight disease. But that's technical, these are major factors why human cloning is illegal. On a personal level, it just is. So yes, if a woman ever hopes to have a baby, she will need a man.

[@kc270352]

she's complaining about men putting themselves first, but then says we don't need men and we can do by ourselves, seriously 🙄

[@michajastrzebski4383]

just another woman, thinking she's a new ubermensch.

[@Boston_420]

Women are allergic to logic

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

right? ridiculous mindset

[@Cee_Eff]

She's complaining that not enough men are simping for her and/or not "chasing enough"

[@Tony-lk6sn]

What I see is someone who has made bad choices in her life and now blames it on all men.

[@dubplatenate]

I don't want to feel needed. I want to be wanted. If someone needs me, I will feel like I am around because my character is not enough, but my skills are. If someone wants me, then I will feel like my person is needed. Now keep in mind, being wanted means that I have something other men don't have that she wants. We want to feel special, not needed.

[@protorhinocerator142]

Outstanding perspective.

[@studleyjb3172]

Good luck.

[@TahbitX]

I didn't realize that I was going to learn something so meaningful at 3:18 AM. Thank you.

[@emilymenjivar6138]

Same thoughts 💭 I’ve had the same thoughts.

[@awsambdaman]

Idk I mean when my wife says she needs me it’s pretty damn validating. I don’t think she means she would pass away instantly if I died or something but the word “want” isn’t really sufficient. It’s something along the lines of “my life would be so much worse without you”.

[@wojtekzurawski5410]

I got rejected by my best friend when I was 17, I took it extremely personally. Soon I left to a different country without money and any language skills. Now at the age of 31 I live a pretty decent life here, but no matter what I achieved, I never stopped thinking about her, never dated anyone and most of my time was filled with negative self talk and how useless I was. I found your channel few months ago and watched 100s of videos and came up to conclusion, that maybe my mindset is a problem. I started working hard to learn new skills and become a better person in general. I don't know if I will ever put myself out for dating but will hopefully stop hating myself one day and move on with my life. Thanks for being my Angel!

[@craterous]

1 My attitude: God thinks you are wonderful, you just need a bit of alignment with what is important. 2 Obsession with rejection in my opinion is basically a ... bad habit. There are ways to break bad habits once you understand. (Obv I don't know everything about you; these are just some "best wishes" thoughts based on my experience.)

[@jordanpatasaw6052]

Kudos to you for your growth! Keep up the good work. Way to build yourself up in a foreign country and become successful. It sounds like you are careful with the content you consume online to protect your mental health which is amazing. I hope one day you are able to take that leap of faith and try to date in the future. The work you're doing and the growth you're experiencing could also have the benefit of making you a great partner. Never sacrifice your progress for anyone EVER. You earned it and you deserve someone who will help you on you journey not someone who will take take take. All the best.

[@jamesjonnes]

Become a passport bro. There are good wives out there.

[@oldscratch3535]

Damn. You really took oneitis to heart. This is why its important to not get overly focused on one woman. Especially one who doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

[@canihave1dab724]

Go on a date, face your fears.

[@westernmike365]

Before pandemic already made quite a few mistakes and don’t want to upset anyone anymore so naturally am struggling with accepting their kindness, but when everything calms down may be more open to something this serious. Can understand folk not wanting to take things seriously anymore. It’s the era. Thx

[@ronallan]

Modern women should just date each other. ✂️ ✂️

[@ReubenZeigler]

I’ve tried dating recently. In general, the women have put forth very little effort. They usually don’t message first… as in ever. They often only respond to things as opposed to a mutual give and take in a conversation. Those that actually say good morning first at times are a breath of fresh air. I’ve grown very tired of putting out effort. Paying for meals. Even texting a good morning. I deleted my dating profile. Hoping to find someone someday. But it will have to be organically and she will have to also be very interested. My loneliness drove me to try. Exhaustion made me quit

[@ReubenZeigler]

Also I have to add. I’ve put a lot of work into me in the recent years. So far, it seems like the women want to do nothing and expect to be loved anyway.

[@prussiansocietyofamerica]

Exactly. Women are very cheap, so you should only be cheap with them in return. In fact, I find that Women who often try to approach me and ask me how I am, when returning the question don't answer anything. Because they are not asking the question sincerely or with a vested interest in getting to know me further in a real manner, nor do they want to put in the effort to actually answer it. They are lazy.

[@ohhiguy]

//But it will have to be organically and she will have to also be very interested.// Good plan. My advice to all my sons was to work with a girl for a couple of years, and if you get along marry her. Consider volunteering at a non-profit and working regularly and see what happens. If two people can work together long term, heck everything else is easy. Marriage is a lot of WORK.

[@A78cts23]

As a married woman I find it ridiculous to have the mentality of not needing men at all, meeting your own needs is important but if you have no room for anyone else to contribute and you don't want to contribute then you don't want a relationship because it involves two people contributing

[@Macheako]

We need each other 🙃 what the HELLLLLLL is so awful about that 😂😂😂 lmao

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

Bravo 👏👏 I thought it is so simple to understand

[@oldscratch3535]

What I find hilarious is women do need men. You need us for everything. You may not need a MAN, but you damn sure need MEN. We do everything of value that makes society function. You exist by our work alone. You are protected by us. You reap the benefits of that which you didn't build and don't maintain. If every woman stopped working for a month what would happen? It would be difficult at first, but easily survivable. If men stopped working for a month? Civilization ceases to exist. Billions dead and starving, in the cold, in the dark, unprotected. So all of this is actually the other way around. Men don't need women for anything except birthing more men. That's how society continues to grow and function. You need us way more than we need you.

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

@@oldscratch3535 Exactly!

[@A78cts23]

@@oldscratch3535 I don't disagree that men are important but to say exactly what this woman said in reverse is exacting the same problem, both men and women want to be needed and if desiring a relationship with the opposite sex it's extremely unhelpful to reduce either male or female roles into just birthing children or keeping civilization going, there's a compromise and mutual understanding where the strengths of both are utilized that is what a relationship is about, if a relationship is not the goal then it's just preaching to your choir of either men or women who continue to believe the same about the other

[@impudentdomain]

If the dating world has gotten more difficult get used to it because it will only get worse. Let me tell you what is happening, there is now a critical mass of men who are just tired of it all. They are hanging around for a random hook up but not putting ANY effort into any thing more because they feel that it's just not worth it.

[@Essetheartist]

Exactly, and I'm so glad I got out of that black hole. Because I knew what they were doing and I feel bad for their struggle but I couldn't struggle with it. I legit had listened to them vent about their misery with their x spouses

[@jasonmeade955]

It's not worth it any longer. Women no longer think they have to bring a d*mn thing to the relationship, and all their terminally online gal pals continue to encourage and praise this toddler mentality.

[@ruthbromberg9068]

My therapist likes to say my picker is off 😂 She's right! I am drawn to people that fit into my narrative of how I see myself.

[@embracepaininc]

Thought you said pecker hahaha Fact: Birth control throws off women's subconscious scent receptors. Which allows them to pick partners better. Society is fucked. Be strong

[@ruthbromberg9068]

@@embracepaininc Hahaha, nope, not my pecker. I'm not taking BC right now, so my broken picker is all me 😞 lol

[@JonathonPearson-z5d]

Courtney you're completely right I'm a 36 year old man I've been single for about five years and these days it's hard to find women that can work I live in Washington state and a lot of women out there don't want to work or if you say one wrong thing to them they have a hissy fit report you for sexual harassment whatever happened to being yourself I grew up in the 90s women those days knew how to relax to know how to had a good time anybody said a weird joke you didn't take offense up to it now these days women are just crazy about a lot of stuff

[@northernlights5481]

Thank God they don't hide it. Things would be exponentially worse if they started hiding their real selves.

[@alexvelasquez7047]

I think the biggest issues in 2023 are partially due to the pandemic and partially due to social media and unrealistic expectations. Many single people got really comfortable being alone. Both women and men. That coupled with unrealistic expectations means that many women aren't giving men a chance and many men just don't care for the drama and disappointment of modern dating practice. In a world where most commonly used dating methods are 60/40 male to female at best why go through 50 plus rejections or the discomfort of not getting matches or interest when you just spent the last two years alone and survived? The answer for most men is there isn't a reason to, especially the ones who have gone through the introspection and done the work to put themselves in a good headspace. So part of it I feel is that men are in a healthier headspace and women, like the one in this clip, have expectations that are far beyond realistic. The likelihood that you will find your 10 physically, who has put in all the work mentally and emotionally, and has a fantastic career is ridiculous all of those thing take a ton of time and effort. If we are expected to put in all that effort and the woman believes that she needs to just maintain her physical appearance at an 8 to 10 and do nothing else? Yeah I will pass.

[@brandondegraaf]

Agreed. Dating app stats are far worse than 60/40 male/female ratio. Research shows the majority of those women match with the top 5 to 10% of men. Those men get more cat thrown at them than they know what to do with, and women wonder why these men don't put in the same effort. Meanwhile, most men, the ones who would actually commit, don't find a partner. Personally, I found peace with the fact that I may never find a partner. I genuinely tried. I'm tapping out of the dating game, for now.

[@tubesurf17]

Interne.texting. .not for attraction,

[@tubesurf17]

She strikes me as a dishonest. L Ike finds a guy attractive. Online. And a naughty picture gets shared... she is the one who sees a really nice d. And says yuck..when it's yummy..let me send a turn on pic bk . Fair s fair. that's this lady..

[@tiffanylubeck3505]

Is that true would explain why all I seen was a row of sexy models who didn't even seem real 🤔 I quit tho after a day and got asked out by a state trooper a few weeks later as he changed my tire on the side of the road such an amazing man who loved hiking as much as me! ❤ Casual chats still work it seems 😅

[@rockyduck5716]

SELFISHNESS INCONSIDERATE AND UNGRATEFUL SKANKS

[@steelfanther328]

I'm happy being single ... But sometimes I'll be walking down the street and see a happy couple coming towards me, holding hands and wearing matching outfits ... And I just can't help but think to myself, *Wouldn't it be nice to have someone to hate them with?" ... - Moscow, Russia

[@wololo4761]

🤣👏

[@chazzmccloud36]

I like what you did there😅

[@MrDonkDonkerson]

"We're struggling out here" "We don't need you for anything. We can take care of ourselves in every aspect. And when I say 'every' I mean EVERY."

[@Swearengen1980]

And yet one of her requirements for a man will be one who can protect her, which is admission that she does, in fact, need a man to feel safe. She's the same type who will complain she can't go jogging at night without fear of being raped. She doesn't want a man, she wants a slave to do as she commands.

[@stewpitt8388]

"We're struggling out here" "We don't need you for anything. We can take care of ourselves in every aspect. And when I say 'every' I mean EVERY." My response: "Oh,ok, I guess you won't be needing these water treatment facilities,water carrying pipes,taps,toilets, and showers are invented and installed everywhere in the city then,we'll just re-route them to the 80% of the homeless who are men so you can set up your own water treatment facilities and city water system just for women."

[@guyvert49]

Psychology needs to be a mandatory subject in schools. For my part I did not understand human beings in general before my MBA, where I discovered the MBTI. This is based on Jung's personality work. Try reading & understanding the Myers-Briggs book "Gifts Differing". It may help to stop your pain & help you understand the complementary necessity of differing personalities. By understanding yourself you will understand others & their differences. This applies to both genders.

[@mengsk90]

“We’re struggling!”, also “we don’t need you”. She’s contradicting herself.

[@willmatix]

She does have some valid points. From a single 38 year old guy, it's tough on our end too. Everyone is trying their best to be happy being alone, its a survival mode, so we aren't miserable because we are lonely. It's true you have to be okay on your own before you share a life with someone, but truthfully, life is better with a partner to share it with... Reason I am single? Wrong people at the wrong time. I was immature and jealous with the first long term relationship. Worked on that, no longer jealous. Meet someone else and had trust issues, things ended. Worked on trust and self esteem, got back out there. Met a wonderful woman, but we weren't progressing and just couldn't merge lives, hardest decision of my life. So now I'm single. Emotionally available, aware and communicative. Much strong than I ever have been before, but the pool has thinned. Still hopeful, because it will happen, just a matter of when.

[@studleyjb3172]

Spend a day in divorce court before you commit.

[@Lardfast_Racing]

I dont see any woman with behavior like this desirable. 2 years ago I dated my best friend, a woman who I had been friends with for 22 years. 2 weeks into dating she threw me the line "I dont need you here. You're here only because I want you to be." 4 weeks later we were done. The last week we hardly spoke and I was already looking elsewhere.

[@anandagopalpardue270]

This is a highly underrated comment. Are you still “friends” (not simply ‘friendly’) or did this experience kill that connection also?

[@TC-cd5sm]

Be happy she told you this early on and you made the right decision to leave. Saves you future headaches.

[@Lardfast_Racing]

@@anandagopalpardue270 still friends but it took a while to get back to where we were.

[@soob9178]

would have dumped her right on the spot.

[@davidbarr49]

Why did it take 4 weeks?

[@deanthroop8054]

Sounds like she is picking Chads and then complaining about Chad behavior. I stopped dating because of the lack of reciprocation and stupid games. I have found so much peace and saved so much money. I am starting to think the good women might be like the good guys, either already with someone or just not dating. Makes it hard to wade back in. Appreciate your insights Courtney and the positivity you bring to the space. I second the idea of a Courtney Ryan matchmaking service. :) There are a couple creators that have the female audience with similar ideals that could be a good alignment.

[@driftracerr34]

Good women are either 1. Staying single. 2. Getting stuck in situationships because they're dating above their tier. 3. Got lucky and actually paired up with a Good guy.

[@tiffanylubeck3505]

Nope, we're doing the same as you , going hiking, hitting the gym, learning to enjoy life and avoid trash. I met alot of great guys in the most casual of places and avoid clubs and hook up apps. Just get back to life and be thankful you're alive. ❤

[@MegaSilverscorpion]

It kind of makes me mad when people make a generalizations about people, because I get particularly upset when people say that me, and a friend of mine, look like we’re related, and he calls me twin. Oh, I do believe there is such a thing as average individuals who are very average, but I do not like to be roped in not being my own individual. And as such when I am told, all men are trash, and that women don’t need men, I know they may not be talking to me personally, but I take it personally. And Courtney hit the nail on the head and saying that men want to feel needed, but I will go a step further and say that we need to be needed. Because I know personally love doing stuff for others, I’ve been referred to as a big brother before. But I absolutely adore helping people and doing things with people, because it just makes me feel good. And of all the girls I’ve dated, the ones that have lasted longer in terms of relationships, were the ones where she let me take on any more provider role. Oh, because I just want someone soft and gentle to whom I can come home to And hang out with, and complement me, and just in general being my better half. Because I don’t believe your soulmate is found, I believe your soulmate is made. However, your soulmate, and you must work before together.

[@misspomerol]

Every time I even remotely think about the grass being greener I watch videos on this channel and then I’m happy that I’m married, so thank you for this channel.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

You've come to the wise conclusions. It's not worth it to stray. Marriages take some work, but a healthy marriage is worth it. Glad for you that you're one of the lucky ones.

[@joesillamanrs7189]

Anyone who says they don’t need ya, believe them! I get it, she’s hurt and it’s easy to become jaded, but the truth is we do need each other and both deserve respect and words of affirmation (especially men). I hope she resets her perspective and comes at dating with a more warm, open and loving heart.

[@Mac_Kymera]

Weak people blame others, strong people blame themselves.

[@clanghampton7158]

Too broad of a statement. If I tidy up a job site and leave it better than I left it then somebody comes and messes it up after I leave and I blame them for the mess they made, that doesn't make me not strong, it makes me not a useful idiot. I'm not going to take responsibility for things I'm not responsible for because I actually value myself and my reputation.

[@Mac_Kymera]

@@clanghampton7158 you’ve contextualised it completely wrong. No one (in this case yourself) should be blaming anyone for the mess as it was out of your hands. You done your bit so there’s no blame anywhere.

[@coolbreeze5683]

I see what you mean although I don't think there's always someone or something to blame. I agree that there is weakness in blaming others and it's good for everyone to look at themselves and their own reactions and emotions. There's also strength in letting go of control and leaving things up to fate sometimes. We can't force others to be how we want them to be. Some people get angry because of this, which is pretty messed up.

[@viiiRA_]

I've been doubling down on my mental health work lately and came across a groundbreaking concept within the attachment styles spectrum called "The Drama Triangle" vs. "Empowerment Dynamic" and it speak volumes of people these days. She's right. We really were not loved enough and it goes the same for a majority of society. Both men and women. Hence, why this is even a common topic. In discovering this concept, I found some extra security (in myself) that I really have developed a secure attachment despite my upbringing. I'm actually ecstatically proud of, but I digress. Many people these days, even I slip into it, loop themselves in the drama triangle roles of victim and persecutor. The third being the "saviour" which I have problem with. The solution isn't simply "choosing yourself" but to choose to heal yourself and give yourself the love you want to give in a relationship. I'm tired and annoyed at hearing both sides saying "I'm done with this" without the accountability that you also keep putting yourself in those situations, allowing your boundaries to be crossed as well as crossing them yourselves. Enough of this "I don't need anyone" bullocks. Stop being cowards and dig deep. face your feelings, your fears, and fix that shit. P.S. I couldn't help but burst out laughing because I kept making the same exact facial expressions in reaction to what she was saying.

[@chef-magoo]

Love what you had to say! Can absolutely concur here, I have a very deep problem with anxious attachment is my mother was quite distant, and not affectionate, a good mother, but nowhere near affectionate. It’s caused problems for me in seeking, and needing, unhealthily, that affection elsewhere. Be interested to hear more of what you were discovered.

[@A1F00M]

I don't know, man, I got problems. Sure, I could fix some of them and take time from my life, but then I'd missed on other more important things to me I've been the victim, the presecutor/judge, and the savior. But now it feels everyone's against me, I follow God, but it's hard to stay on His path.and be nice to others against there actions. I think about it too. Back in middle school and high school, there were girls ready for me, but there I was sifting through more bushels. Chef Magoo, my dad was like your mom. Sure, he showed me to be a man, was one too but he never was really there. I help and try to befriend my aggressors but it's futile. I now I need someone but I feat that person passed me by years ago. If anything I'd have dug through tons of coal to my find my diamond, and I only have a shovel and wheelbarrow

[@07wrxtr1]

It all goes back to the breakup of the family - dudes have MOMMY issues; women have DADDY issues - wait til you read about the "Great society" under LBJ/Nixon/Kissenger

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Literally when men are on camera talking shit about women or women talking shit about men (especially this girl) I just imagine there's a mirror in front of her because everything she's saying is how she feels about herself. Being selfish, not enough, etc. It's actually sad because you can even see in her eyes, she's not angry or anything, deep sown she knows she sucks.

[@lifestoryguy]

Of course, the thing about "giving" in relationships is that if you consider that people have different love languages and different personality styles, it can often mean some people are actually giving someone love that the other person can't see or value. For example, a man who has acts of service as his love language and who is quite a practical person may change the oil in his girlfriend's car, take out the trash and do small repairs around her home, but his girlfriend might have a need for quality time that involves deep conversations about their feelings and goals in life which just bores him. You can easily see how these two people with different personalities and different love languages could be "giving" each other love that their partner can not value because they have different ideas of what love is due to the nature of their love language and the structure of their personality. The woman could come to think the man is being distant and cold because he doesn't talk about his feelings with her, while he can come to think she doesn't value the things he does for her.

[@lobstermooch5365]

Last year was horrible. I was scammed and cheated on by one girl. Another girl i had a personal talk with, screenshotted our convo and showed it to her friends and them harrassed, and the last girl emotionally manipulated me, stressed me out, and made me cry multiple times based on a lie she was telling me. Then she blocked me and sent her dad after me.

[@theguynextdoor4978]

It's easier to blame external factors and men than to take a look in the mirror. If everyone and everything else is the problem, then it clearly signals that the common denominator is her. We need to have a healthy primary relationship with ourselves and our inner world, before inviting someone else into our lives.

[@prussiansocietyofamerica]

It's awfully funny how the featured girl in the video says how We Men "need to be this, need to be that, etc" while at the same time she says right after about how Women don't need us. ::rolls eyes::

[@Danishmastery]

She’s full of it and she knows it. You can tell by her defensive attitude. If you sat her down and went through her points one by one, she would slowly see her logic falling apart and that would terrify her.

[@prussiansocietyofamerica]

@@Danishmastery The way that they have the levels of cognitive dissonance that they do, just points to how for out of reality they live and their true levels of psychopathy. The thing is they are pretty much allergic to logic and do not like to get involved in it, because that would also mean confessing guilt and responsibility on her part. That's why they always resort to manipulation tactics and trying to paint themselves as being victimized at any chance they get.

[@maladyofdeath]

I have completely given up hope for a relationship. What ever I have to offer, no woman wants it. Ive tried for so long and rejection after rejection, I'm just not meant to be with a woman. I've excepted that and have decided to just move on in my life. Solitude is my life now.

[@PutTheCookieDown]

Did you try using your passport to find options elsewhere? Worked for me. Sweetest woman without this narcissistic entitled attitude of western women.

[@ss_whole]

Do you realize how lucky you are Maladyofdeath?

[@MrContentment3013]

Summary of the attitudes of those who constantly say men and/or women are trash: the problem is you. Take responsibility for your actions. Sadly, it’s more than you can say for someone who says, “Women don’t need men”. Otherwise, your comments and reactions are exceptionally accurate as always, Courtney, and I agree with you 100% on every point you made. As a man, although - like you - I’m not dating at present, almost every time I look at women’s profiles, they often tend to look for tall, liberal men, e.g., “Please be 6ft”, or (if in the UK), “No Tories, please”. It sometimes sickens me to know those of us who don’t meet those standards we can’t control such as height, yet in many cases we men aren’t allowed to enforce our own standards, such as, “Please be reasonably fit, not fat”, lest we be branded “oppressive” or “controlling”, which makes me think women are brought up liberal/feminist and men traditional/conservative. As for video ideas, perhaps as well as dating struggles for both sexes you could do some on what men and women are taught to be in childhood, say men being brought up to be traditional vs women to be liberal would suffice for a future topic, hence my earlier mention of my dating experience and how I think the respective sexes are brought up. This is one of the many factors that makes dating for both sexes so difficult these days.

[@jesseforce9933]

Veteran dater and player here, and the time I spent pursuing love would have been better spent watching tv. In my mid-20's, I got jacked, dressed nice, owned a home, worked multiple jobs or did overtime, and nearly all of the girls I met had ugly tattoos/piercings, were single moms, smoked/vape, had no ambition, went drinking for fun, OR HAD TO THROW FEMINISM INTO EVERYTHING (BECAUSE WE CAN'T JUST CHILL WITHOUT POLLITICS) and this is back when most jobs around the country paid bellow $14 an hour. (Like 10 years ago.) That was my mid-20's and I went MGTOW for six years because I was just done with games and only being viewed long term by my wallet when I was told my whole life women were equal. ( HENCE, MAYBE THEY SHOULD BRING LIFESKILLS AND BEING A GOOD WIFE TO THE TABLE INSTEAD OF BEING FAILURES IN REAL LIFE???!!) After about six years of near celibacy, and a few more girls who were liars and a*holes (remember women are equal...) I got a smart phone and decided to be a douche bag. I mowed down a lot of women. Now it's been 10 years since I originally said I was done. I now make like $28 an hour, have my home ALMOST paid off, have multiple vehicles paid off, no debt, nice savings, no more baby face and I get a lot of attention, am 6ft, big shoulders, booming voice, blah, blah, blah, and I am pretty much done with dating unless a woman is young, still beautiful, and we are compatible. I may just get my 7/10 wife /good mother material who looks great in jeans and a hoodie after all....The rest of the women I have encountered over the years, I hope you end up bored, divorcing, nasty looking, and being alone. They were all horrible people.

[@Noemihairr]

I find it interesting that these type of girls think dating is so ‘hard now days’ it really is not that hard, the only reason they feel is hard is because they’re constantly dating and talking to multiple people at the same time. You get what you put out.

[@protorhinocerator142]

As a man I just recently found out what a "rotation" is. These women are dating 5 or more guys at the same time. It breaks women psychologically. They lose the ability to pair bond. They can't actually love a man exclusively. They can only remain 304 material. Guys have noticed how rare it is for a woman to be able to love a man.

[@idnotapplicable]

Most recent girl I dated broke things off with a text. I had put a lot of effort into the relationship because I really liked her. Her reasoning switched a few times, but originally she told me that it didn't seem like I was genuine and was only dating her out of convenience. She also felt that we didn't have enough chemistry, but I felt the complete opposite. We only dated a month, but I guess she figured she should have been attached to me by then. I honestly had made made up my mind by that point. That one really hurt.

[@driftracerr34]

She was just projecting and tried gaslighting you in the process. She's the one and only problem

[@idnotapplicable]

@@driftracerr34 yeah I figured out pretty early on that anyone who thinks dumping someone with a text is okay, is in the wrong. I get it if the relationship is abusive, but this relationship didn't have any issues like that.

[@Essetheartist]

My best friend basically did the same thing to a guy or 2. She dated for a shorter period. Likely what's her problem is that she expects to have some type of supernatural feelings in her stomach of butterflies, and if It doesn't feel like a Disney fairy tale where she gets hyper excited and worried about losing you, then she's on to the next guy. She may have even seen someone she was more attracted to an interested in meeting. Women rarely ever dedicate themselves to their best friend. Most of the time they know if they are attracted to a man when they see him the first time. She also value you less than you thought. Since she did break up via text. She didn't have the integrity to see you in person because she did not want to deal with your true feelings. She knew you really liked her, but she just was probably more interested in a different physical type. It's true that a lot of women are very superficial about physical appearance on a man. I don't think I need to go into too much detail on that

[@idnotapplicable]

@@Essetheartist all that could be true. On top of the fact that she was moving away within a few months. Maybe she didn't want to get attached to anything because of that. Still a immature thing to do to someone imo.

[@billhinshillwood2670]

I love how she said "We don't need you for anything" and then right afterwards talked about how disappointed she was in men. So which one is it? I've come across many women in social situations and some co workers over the years who take a "no winning approach" towards me and others. By this I mean that they complain about you and are disappointed in you no matter what you do. Even if you change your behavior to try to make them happy and prove you can change, it is still isn't good enough. If your date or significant other acts like this run far far away!!

[@howardg2435]

I actually can relate to the "we don't need anyone" alpha attitude. Men do try to provide, but cannot do everything all the time. Sometimes our upbringing, or influences, mold us to who we are as men. I am 53, and have always been single. Growing up I was always told by my parents that I have no common sense, and totally irresponsible, so I will not amount to anything. One of my co workers, who is a lady, told me that when people hear negativity so often, like what I did, they believe it, and will not try anything. They will have a defeatist attitude, because they were led to believe that nothing they do will be good enough. They will never measure up. I later realized my family wanted me to by an idealized person to suit them, rather than accepting me for the individual I am, and allow me to grow that way. I do get therapy, and actively engage in online life coaching to enhance who I am as a person. We are all individual people, and we cannot please everyone all the time. We do not need to, because we just need to be ourselves.

[@kp2l988]

👍 Absolutely. When I was young(er), my sister taught me that relationships must be two ways; if you choose your partner, s/he will also choose you. From long experience, she was absolutely right and still is.

[@Raymond7779]

Big tattoos keep women single, too.

[@memoism457]

I vote yes on differences in struggle for male and female. Thanks for what you do. There's other girls that do these types of videos, but you can tell off the bat they are emotionally stunted. You're a breathe of fresh air in this space

[@jakerutherford9204]

Love is multi-faceted. Bedroom/attraction, familial/friend; its not just a feeling, it's an action, that puts the other before themselves, while also protecting itself. I'm not advocating being abused for thw sake of love, thats not love. But if both people don't have the attitude of putting the other first, you don't have love. You can a counterfeit. Love the content lady!

[@kittystanby4686]

I love my fiancé so much. I don’t think I’d ever be okay if anything happened to us.

[@MWB_FoolsParadisePictures]

It bums me out how many people kick themselves for not holding to mindsets of literal antisocial personality disorder. Just in case you missed when Courtney said it: Needing close personal relationships is okay, normal, healthy, and good 🙂 And so is being sad when we don't have them!

[@iscream2232]

The biggest thing I've noticed over the past couple years since COVID lockdowns is women generally seem less approachable in public (say at the gym or even striking up a conversation in a restaurant or club type environment) and aren't willing to open up or escalate things in the dating apps nearly as much. It usually is just a bit of small talk that gets boring and quickly fizzles out. 6 or 7 years ago I had zero issues getting a date and had some decent relationships. Oddly enough back then I was broke, in debt and struggling with alcoholism. Nowadays im sober, in good shape, got my finances in order, stopped watching p*rn, started investing and focusing on bettering myself and all of a sudden its difficult to get any progress with any potential dates and its difficult to meet people where I live. Im still going to work on bettering myself and putting myself in different social situations where I can meet new people but it's way harder out there nowadays. PS I love your content Courtney. You consistently put out great videos and seem pretty rad. Keep up the great work 🤙

[@Cee_Eff]

I couldn't agree more. I'm in the same position as you. It seems that many women only meet men online and treat it the same way they shop for shoes on Amazon

[@DanLetts97]

I agree. I have found the same thing, especially on dating apps, which I no longer use by the way, but they don’t seem very driven to make conversation. Maybe they’ve gotten jaded and bored, who knows? They seem to be looking and completely disinterested at the exact same time.

[@iscream2232]

@@DanLetts97 Exactly. 10 years ago I was getting dates left and right. Even had multiple women invite me out that same day we started talking, it was just a whole different ballpark but it's like everyones been conditioned to not trust each other anymore, it's pretty weird out there nowadays. I'm tempted to delete Hinge/OKCupid but I still keep it as an option and only spend maybe 5-10 minutes a week on there. I still think it's best to try to meet someone in person through mutual friends, a party type situation, if you're taking a class or if someone is into the same type of hobbies you are.

[@506thparatrooper]

Agreed most modern dating expectations are unrealistic and the speed of the loss of common courtesy and civility in most interactions let alone dating is increasing. Agree with much of what you said now and in previous podcasts. You and more than a few female dating coaches are stating much more often lately the unpleasant reality is the overwhelming majority of available women, more than a few married women considering divorce, want a 6', washboard, six or seven figure salaried, well endowed man. This is why 80% of the women are willing to share a top 10% men or "Porsche polygamists". Many of these women know this but like any "addict" are unwilling to change. They often aren't broken enough to admit there absurd demands until they are in their late 30's or 40's, still single or divorced at an age when most men won't consider dating them. As you conclude, a healthy expectation is a desirable man is only responsible for achieving or at least making consistent progress towards healthy expectations. A recommended future topic from this lady's clip demonstrates, the critical need for men to understand "women speak". I say this respectfully. Women often move quickly between raw emotion to rational back to raw emotion in charged conversations. When an average man tells another man in word or action, "I don't need you!" the average masculine man will say in word and deed, "Ok!" and walk away. Most women know what they are doing when they answer a man who asks, "What's wrong?" by saying, "Nothing!" and going silent sometimes for weeks. Even the women who know it is crazy to say nothing instead of I need some time alone or I am not sure if you will understand if I told you. Most women, even good, mature women, will then watch to see if the man walks away or compassionately pursues especially when she communicates pure, raw emotions like weeping, anger, bitterness. Some women even admit its unfair to judge the man as uncaring or indifferent if he walks away when she is saying things like nothing or I am done with you men. Healthy men can do more to compassionately respond to a women venting raw emotions but even then, a healthy man must expect a mature woman to take responsibility for her emotions, consequences and responses. More than a few women become physically or verbally abusive even when a man is trying to engage, empathize and understand.

[@paulkramer9666]

The current figure is now something like 53% of American men ages 18 to 30 years old, haven't had or even pursued any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman in over three years. Those numbers aren't likely to decrease any time soon. They'll more likely increase. And that type of situation, inevitably leads to societal violence. If men aren't invested in society, society fails.

[@huberfloover]

I like what Ty X says about this. Whenever a woman tells you what her "deal breakers" are, and what "she has had enough of", that's EXACTLY the type of guy she's hooked up with before, and will hook up with again

[@naturalLin]

Respect is earned. So many women don’t know that. Courtesy is given.

[@karuns9500]

If men aren't needed for anything, why did she say we [women] are struggling? 😂😂😂. Contradict much??

[@ethicalhacker9720]

That’s what I thought ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@dg271]

female logic or lack thereoff

[@JohnM...]

She obviously (mistakenly) sees herself as an Alpha female…🙄

[@michajastrzebski4383]

she is struggling because bad men have so much money she cannot get her hands on XD

[@anthonyw5261]

Very on point observations. Would really like to see a video on the struggles of dating for men and women 🤔

[@EAAL1988]

“ We don’t need you for anything that’s why you must give us the attention and the love we NEED “ . . . 😂

[@rockyduck5716]

IM DONE WITH ALL Y'ALL!!!! VUKK THESE UNGRATEFUL SKANKS

[@russellhobbs1356]

Spot on Courtney - if you are constantly being told that 'as a man, you are not needed' then any woman can't be too surprised when some of us say 'fine'. This maybe part of the modern dating scene but actually what it really is, is just plain rude. And, as you so eloquently say, why would any man go out with a woman like that? However, I do work on the premise that not all women are rude and neither are all men.

[@thepreacher5912]

Courtney your content is amazing, this video was a bullseye 🎯 I’ve been told I’m not needed or wanted enough that I’ve stepped out of the dating game. I don’t approach women anymore, essentially I’m a product that is not needed by the opposite sex. But I love watching your videos. Keep up the great work

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

Don't buy into the lie that you're a product that is not needed by the opposite sex. You are needed, whether some of them want to acknowledge it or not. I see the same attitude by the red pill guys, constantly lobbed at women. Men like that are not the best that men have to offer, and women like this are not the best that women have to offer. This is dating fatigue and jadedness. The truth is, men and women do need each other. Like Courtney said, none of us would be here if it wasn't for a man and a women getting together. You have intrinsic value and worth. You will be just right for that woman that will recognize your assets and your strengths as a man.

[@tomasfarish7959]

Thanks, Courtney, another good reaction video. I see and occasionally interact with women like the one here. I am sure that she has been choosing men WAY above herself in looks, money, and status. When that top-tier man inevitably pumps her and dumps her, she blames ALL men because: 1) she doesn't even see "lesser" men who might actually treat her well, and 2) it is much easier to blame men than to look in the mirror and do a serious self-evaluation. I'm seeing too many women these days with seriously awful attitudes towards men. Sometimes they are are girlfriends of the women I go out with. Sadly those women will end up angry, bitter, old, and alone. They have no one to blame but themselves.

[@petermendelsohn4944]

Agreed. Many times, her second and third string guys (aka the friend zone) are where she should be looking.

[@coolbreeze5683]

I think some of the issues come from the generalizations of "men want this and women want that". The more people go down that route, the more divisive thinking and self-fulfilling prophecies there will be. Genuinely treat everyone you interact with as an individual. If you make assumptions on first meeting and think "oh, I know what this type of person is about", that energy will be cycled through the whole interaction. Human intuition is very sensitive to that.

[@Essetheartist]

That's another level of personal accountability that most people will not take.. I had to practice that very difficult mindset. I had bad experience after bad experience even with lowering my expectations or standards. I finally found someone compatible and I don't ever want to go back in the dating market. I've become an unvoluntary therapist on there to listen to these men vent about feminism and how horrible women are nowadays.

[@Allaces305]

Men want to feel needed.. We want validation and we want to be loved and we want to give a thousand percent back but when women start saying things like "we don't need you but we want you" that's a major turn off....I want you to need me the same way I need you. This whole independent movement is a major turn off. Yes I want a woman that's strong but I want a partner and an equal. I don't want to love someone that says "I don't really need you."

[@Essetheartist]

The reason why they're saying that is because they're able to get high-earning degrees and cover all of their bills and expenses. And I don't think that inherently is bad that they are able to. But it's the fact that they use that as leverage in the dating market. They don't realize that they're shooting themselves in the foot. I don't think there's anything wrong with having your own safety net, but if it makes it harder to have a relationship and start a family, it is worth women putting the career down. Most of them were not willing to do that because they left the access to the money that they have. Ironically, there are plenty of women yelling on Tech talk about how they hate paying their own bills and how they want somebody to just do that so that they can guilt free shop.

[@Cultivatingjoy07]

The woman said she was ''dissapointed'' yet also said that she does'nt need any man for anything and therein lies her contradiction. She does have a need or a want for a man in her life, hence the self-proclaimed disapointment. Disapointment originates in unmet needs and desires.

[@davidfernandes8094]

This year (2023) vs last year (2022) is a night and day difference. Went donwhill this year. I have no idea what the hell happened. Perhaps times are tough....

[@KevC1111]

The sleeve tattoo is an automatic red flag fellas. If a chick has one. Run..

[@inquisitor4635]

Yep. Instant disqualifier.

[@joaquin67]

We need each other. "Digital love" is getting in the way

[@talideon]

Nah, it's a great Daft Punk song. I can't fathom how anyone would think that.

[@joaquin67]

@@talideon Lol

[@Memofonseca]

There’s no satisfying someone that only values what they are given and not what they have.

[@Mike-ur3sn]

You are so right. How can I improve my self? I am a guy married for 44 years and we both lost it. How can I improve???

[@Sgb-oq3oy]

You hit the problem on the nail. Men need to be needed as providers. It is the only value they can bring to the table. Women not needing men for what men can give, which is financial support, is what kills relationships now and in the future. Women have said that they do not need men. That is a deal breaker. My wife and I will celebrate 60 years this year. We were interdependent. I was the breadwinner while she raised our three children as a SAHM. Sixty years ago, women had a different opinion in a different culture. How is this culture working out for marriage and well adjusted adult children? My wife had a career after being a mother first. If I was dating today, I would look for a woman who wants children and wants to raise them. That means I would probably remain a bachelor. I don't need a devout career woman.

[@mikeingeorgia1]

I currently participate in the dating world and most of the women I’ve encountered that act like this Tik Tokker are train wrecks. It’s even worse if they have children. They will swear up and down how much their children are their first concern, but then they end up at the bars all the time while their “first concerns” are being watched by anyone and everyone and sometimes even nobody at all. This is very detrimental to the children as well.

[@Fraden7]

Courtney congrats on the wedding I recently thought of you in two instances on family feud the question was on average how much does a woman need a man the #1 answer was 5 & on a dating site I saw a profile that read please don't ask me for a coffee or hike first date boss men only I was like nope my big sis told me this is a hard pass lol !!

[@kevinc1593]

I agree with her about taking more than you give, but then she is ranting that she doesn’t need us and that were all disappointing; so, forgive us if we listen to her request that we leave her alone.

[@sci-fi.tsunami]

2:17 I wholeheartedly agree with her! *MY* money is *MY* money & I spend *MY* money on *ME!* That doesn't work for women. Women want to be STRONG, INDEPENDENT & MODERN but when it comes to dating & the man's money, they want to be old-fashioned & traditional. It doesn't work that way. If you want to break all the rules then break *ALL* the rules. Don't be picking & choosing whatever works to your advantage. Men are dumb but we're not that dumb. Listen to what she says "If you're not giving *(MONEY, ALL YOUR MONEY!)* as much as your taking."

[@M0b1us_118]

Going to comment about Courtney’s point at roughly 11:25. Part of the reason why there are huge broad sweeping generalizations about men and women, IMO, is because of “the human experience.” In this context, “the human experience” refers to the fact that people don’t have the time, money, energy, etc. to interact with a large number of people whom they are attracted to (for example, if you’re a straight guy looking for a woman). So, people have to settle for being able to date a realistically small number of people (again, if you’re a straight guy looking for a woman, you *MIGHT* only be able to be with say 6 woman in your life.) And, if you had negative experiences with all 6 of those women, in your mind you might develop a negative view towards women from only interacting with a minuscule number of women.

[@trentbateman]

Courtney should just start her own matchmaking process to link her male followers who aren’t too far gone and became misogynistic with “normal” women. Courtney vets everyone before they join the pool!

[@JohnM...]

Even for ‘normal’ women, that sneaky bast*** called ‘biology’ (🤢🤮) comes into it. Jordan Peterson said the best thing about women friend zoning men that I’ve ever heard: “…while I don’t mind your physical presence, your genes should definitely NOT survive another generation.” Biologically, if a woman rejects you or zones you, she’s telling the entire human race that you’re not suitable for reproduction- ever.

[@AlexanderSkinnerVids]

The people she got for those interview videos were just her friends. Too many of them were models. It went as badly as you’d expect it to. More dunks than LeBron James on a middle school court.

[@tahbit]

Normal? "Normal" is the problem.

[@dr.michaelr.foreman2170]

Simp

[@trentbateman]

@@tahbit I think you fail the misogyny test bud!

[@MotoHeadKyle]

This year definitely has been a different experience dating LOL I just feel like most people are so brain washed from the amount of “crap” they consume either from the junk food/alcohol consumption, or the amount of false information on social media. just can’t wrap my head around it

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

exactly. it was obvious that after waves of fake news and active propaganda that would happen

[@Essetheartist]

The Barbie movie

[@rusty2811]

I absolutely love your content Courtney. It is so bang on. If we both don't need each other it will never work. I would want to believe that a woman needs me as bad as I need her in order to have a great relationship. And yes this woman will stay single with her attitude. You can hear the tone so loud and clear and the words when she says that she doesn't need anybody but her tone is screaming for someone. She really would do herself good if she would look for some help.

[@Youaretheactionsofgod]

Courtney is one of the only ones other than better bachelor that actually offer kindness and empathy and not tell us we aren't enough. Keneough is a joke when you look at women's standards.

[@tiffanylubeck3505]

Finally a nice male compliment I can agree with on here. Thanks for being nice about it and not blaming everyone of us. ❤ Hope a guy like you meets a girl like me out there. Goodluck 🎉

[@rusty2811]

It sounds like I need to meet you☺️❤️

[@tiffanylubeck3505]

@rusty2811 you will one day just stay positive, work on your own projects until the right one comes along and be sure to laugh together. Laughter always works 💗

[@stevethomas9320]

With what I've experienced is that if you want someone who is "perfect" then you need to make sure you can be "perfect" for them. So, if you have a bad attitude and find that "perfect" someone, you got to deal with they don't want anything to do with you or your bad attitude. It is a 2-way street 100% FYI personal development is a must for both men and women

[@hornetguy9063]

Yeah, this woman is bringing up this feminist cringe and then blames the men for her singleness. She only wants the perfect guy, but I doubt she’s the perfect woman for him. I’m sure many of those men that she’s complaining about came in with good intentions, but changed their mind once she began to talk

[@Batzarn82]

Generalizations about either gender are usually unhelpful. Saying all of a gender is anything takes away people’s individuality and it robs you of the chance to know them. They may be nice or they may be a jerk, they may be intelligent or dumb, they may be closed minded or open minded. You never know unless you talk to them and preconceived notions based off their genetalia isn’t helpful. I have no desire to date a woman who starts out saying “I don’t need a man”. If you don’t that’s cool but generally if you’re dating you are wanting to find a partner. I will take someone at their word if they don’t need me and I will move on.