r/NotHowGirlsWork - Daddy/Mommy Issues? 🤔

[@Bread16091]

“16 year old girls should be making babies, not learning algebra.” As a 16 year old girl who despises algebra, I’d rather do that than make a baby thanks 😬

[@Sany_Tarn]

Algebra takes some understanding and ten-ish hours of practice. Babies take millions of dollars and at the very least 14 years of intensive care.

[@K3NN3DY_101]

I turn 16 on thursday..not having children EVER, I've been dead set on that my entire life so far. NO THANKS, give me algebra instead!

[@minestar2247]

Yay, math club,

[@minestar2247]

A 16 year old, even more nowadays, is very far from being emotionally mature to even get married, even less to have to take care of another Independent being that starts of its life by being a parasite for her

[@alisonmeyer5542]

Honestly, they don't her understanding algebra because that would make her smarter than they are.

[@Valdagast]

Learning about sex from porn is like learning about driving from the Fast and the Furious.

[@osheridan]

It's like saying you've studied law because you watched the Bee Movie

[@HazZzel-]

It's like saying you know how to be an engineer from watching DIY vids

[@trashcan2748]

It’s like saying you’re a medical expert because you read two web md pages.

[@Ashefault]

@ville__ you should juat end at using webmd as a source

[@Ashefault]

@@trashcan2748 you should've just ended at using webmd as a source

[@piperjaycie]

21:19 The majority of S.A is committed by family members and family friends. Just because a child is “supervised” and never been kidnapped means NOTHING! This is probably even more damaging in situations where people believe only strangers hurt children so they won’t even believe their own children if it happens to them and the child tells them about it.

[@thatstockin]

This situation especially makes me really mad, because family members are supposed to protect not harm. I suspect I might be targeted by some family member for this exact reason, but Im not really sure.

[@ramenaddict1676]

​@ville__ are you seriously that stupid?

[@HazZzel-]

Yeah no it pisses me off when people act like that. My dad did that to me and no one ever knew. It sucks that ppl assume that trauma has to fit a certain set of situations or whatever

[@bottomofastairwell]

It was a family friend, in my own freaking closet when I was 7 for me. So yeah, nearly always someone the kid knows. And likely trusts enough for the parent to be comfortable leaving the kid alone with them. Talk to your kids. Explain what things are and make sure they know that no one should be touching them. And talk to them EARLY

[@bottomofastairwell]

​@@thatstockinwith people you know, it starts slow, something that's mostly fine but makes you feel just a little uncomfortable. And then they'll push your boundaries just a little more each time. Just don't let anyone make you feel uncomfortable. And if they do, put up a hard boundary, tell them no, and then go tell a trusted adult what happened and that you were uncomfortable.

[@PrincessInDTower]

The guy who manipulated his gf is terrifying His "going cold" sounds to me like he's DISASSOCIATING AND TURNING OFF HIS EMPATHY AS A DANGEROUS DEFENSE MECHANISM He's weaponizing a trauma response against his partner and deliberately using ABUSE TACTICS to control her Thats so incredibly scary to me

[@sophiejones3554]

I would point put that he has probably never shared these feelings before. Reddit tends to be a place where people feel safe spilling their real thoughts and feelings: it's anonymous, and encourages more thoughtful discussion than other platforms. So occasionally you get people posting the most unhinged things, having absolutely no idea that what they're describing isn't typical. He probably is disassociating, it doesn't sound like he totally lacks empathy. The fact that he was genuinely concerned about her mental health is probably a good sign. But yeah, this is how serial killers start out. It's not his fault for being this way, but it is his fault if he doesn't listen to what the redditors told him and get help.

[@semi-san1736]

Nevetheless, he's a f*ing monster. If anything, the fact that he knows what he's doing is wrong and STILL DOES IT makes it worse.

[@PrincessInDTower]

@@semi-san1736 yeah that's exactly my point This is very similar to what I observed in my abuser. Its actually insane and it's about the scariest thing in the world

[@wizardsuth]

I have the same ability but would never use it to harm or manipulate others. It's only for critical situations where emotions would be a hindrance.

[@StarDustwolf77]

I dissociate, a disorder and it isn’t like that. His situation just sounds like a lack of empathy and severe abuse. Or some form of narcissistic personality

[@esmee6308]

12:00 AWALT = all women are like that, dreadgame is basically emotionally abusing your partner, trauma bond with them into codependency and then threatnen to leave. It's extremely toxic and there're no winners. I hope she gets away and they both get the help they need.

[@MegaSteak757]

jesus literally fucking christ, what are these people doing? they really need to get a therapist. And watch less tate. What the fuck.

[@justboardwithlife9947]

Fr, she needs to, I feel bad for her, I felt myself physically recoil as the click kept reading

[@clairecosio]

do you have any clue what subreddit that was? or any suspects? because holy shit the way that they just kept sprinkling in kink terms scares the shit out of me (edit: i obviously meant that the WHOLE THING scares the shit out of me but the way that kink terms were just thrown in makes it worse because kink is all about consent and trust and this just downplays the abuse into "kink" which also associates innocent kinksters into abuse)

[@BunnyBounce161]

@ville__no older than 12 guaranteed

[@youdontgetaname2904]

Years or minutes ​@@BunnyBounce161

[@girl1213]

I can remember a guy allowing his girlfriend to record him with a question he had about her period products. He was very much aware he was probably having a "bad woman's anatomy" moment, but he still had to ask because he need an explanation. What caused this confusion? The "L" and "R" on her tampons' packaging. He was thinking it mean "Left" and "Right," not "Light" and "Regular" and that's why he needed clarification and told her to explain it to him. 🤣 She was laughing her head off and he wasn't taking offense since he knew his thinking was very likely wrong.

[@miajajajajajajajajajo]

To be fair, I don't use tampons so my first thought was "left" and "right" too, so it's mostly about your level of familiarity with the product, I'd say. Of course someone who doesn't have periods would have less chances of knowing how period products work, but you get my idea.

[@HazZzel-]

That's the way it should be, either that or they are already educated. We should all be willing to learn about important things like that :D

[@dragong33k]

@ville__ no one asked you to be in this conversation either, yet here we are

[@kittyplayz1480]

I saw a similar one that I thought was her dad

[@QuentinPlant]

Could be "large" and "regular" - though I think you could probably look at the box + the number of tampons in it to solve that problem.

[@Mayoooooooooooooo]

It's disgusting how "I have a boyfriend" is more effective than "Leave me alone you sick pervert". Guys will respect a man they've never met more than the woman in front of them.

[@diarmuidkuhle8181]

Not so much respect, than not knowing whether or not the boyfriend is capable of punching their face in.

[@comradewindowsill4253]

@@diarmuidkuhle8181 nah but if she said "I have a big brother" or "I have a dad"... like that wouldn't work out the same way

[@mysocksarewet]

⁠@@comradewindowsill4253 what about “you’re under arrest”

[@HannaBenana]

​@@mysocksarewet I unfortunately just watched a video of a young man stalking a woman who responded to the female officer, who let him know he was under arrest, with basically a big fat "nuh-uh".

[@akimbofresh8109]

Like that has ever happened to you.

[@popcatcarl6662]

“Swipe left if you have A-C cups” “Swipe left if you have stretch marks” Who’s gonna tell this guy that women with large breasts often also have stretch marks Edit: YES, Thank you all. A few more points to this comment: - Cup size does not equal boob volume, it is relative to band size - Somebody with A cups can have the same breast volume as somebody with D cups - again, it just relates to band size. - 140 but anywhere from 5’ to 5’9”? Two totally separate body types my dude. - Literally anyone can have stretch marks. People who grew rapidly in puberty, people who have gained/lost weight rapidly, literally ***anybody*** can have stretch marks. I would be shocked if this guy DIDN’T have stretch marks from his obviously inflated ego. Holy shit.

[@wintergray1221]

Also misunderstanding how cup sizes work. In terms of breast volume, a 38A is the same as a 32D.

[@TheOJDrinker]

Doesn't everyone have stretch marks?

[@astridmaack4516]

@@TheOJDrinkermaybe not everyone, but I think most do. But these guys wouldn’t know ofc lol

[@GhostKingDeAngelo]

@@TheOJDrinkerdepends on a lot of things. Everyone has the possibility to get stretch marks though (even guys ).

[@lisavandenhoven5672]

My son has stretch marks from growing so fast in his teen years. Stretch marks are a normal part of a body.

[@osheridan]

35:05 Let me get this straight: He expects a cisgender virgin 'all-natural' thick AND skinny conservative woman without kids, cellulite or male friends, who likes video games and anime and doesn't believe in astrology. Oh, but he thinks a height requirement is ridiculous

[@WobblesandBean]

Yup. Sick thing is tradwives DO exist, exclusively in strict hyperreligious communes, but they're typically married off before they've even reached legal adulthood.

[@hannajung7512]

​@@WobblesandBeanas long as they actually chose to be a trad wife, that is all cool. But let:s be honest: there is no human on earth that is a trad wife AND loves animes and video games, or a person that loves anime and video games AND has zero male friends... there is no overlap in this van diagram. And at this point we have not yet talked about the virgin bullshit

[@celestedivine131]

​@@hannajung7512 some times it isnt, many times those women have grown in abusive religious spaces and are brainwashed into hating themselfs and thinking literally so little of them is sad Some of them are happy, some of them need actual help

[@darkstarr984]

@@hannajung7512The thing is… it’s nice to have people be able to choose to be a housespouse or a stay at home parent, but tradwives aren’t just about choosing that lifestyle (if they were I would be jealous instead of concerned by them) but about promoting this as an ideal lifestyle and against the concept of equality.

[@Barakon]

Most of these you could argue are controllable or changeable & reflect on the person’s character, height doesn’t. I’m not saying it’s not ridiculous, I’m just trying to understand why would someone have such standards to begin with. About the anime & video games part, I understand wanting to having a hobby or 2 in common with your partner, helps you bond.

[@nalublackwater9729]

20:52 I regret to inform that mom that being a cloistered nun won't give you "first choice from a long line of suitors that would climb Mount Everest to marry her"; she will be pursued by would be abusers in search for a sheltered, naive woman who can't speak for herself, has no opinion and only follows orders.

[@Caprabone]

50:03 Unfortunately, as the mom seems very controlling, such men are exactly what she wants for her daughter "Someone who shares *my* values!"

[@nalublackwater9729]

@@Caprabone I know a similar case. The daugher is now 40, she's also an emotional wreck that hates her life, her husband, her own mother, and even the daughter she brought to this world, and lives her life leaping from depression bout to depression bout. Worst thing? The mom is also miserable because she can't understand why her daughter can't be happy with the "perfect life" she tailored for her.

[@chanterelle483]

Yeah, it's so stupid. The sort of men that would desire that are also men I would never allow anywhere near my (hypothetical) daughter.

[@BlueTressym]

Mother probably thinks that kind of abuse is perfectly fine because it's 'traditional gender roles' or some such appalling drivel.

[@jooleebilly]

And unless the girl is homeschooled, she's away from her parents' control several hours a day. And yeah, I see a No Contact plan in the daughter's very near future. She's like one of those moms that want their girls to be cheerleaders or beauty queens to live vicariously through them. Eww.

[@Aki_Cod]

I have theory that whenever he is quoting something sexist,homophobic,racist, or just wrong he uses a weird voice so it isn’t clipped/ taken out of context

[@chanterelle483]

probably true

[@RAHelllord]

Probably, but it's also more entertaining to hear these incel shit takes in a funny voice than it would be otherwise.

[@royalibis42]

Seeing as a certain other youtuber would gladly stoop that low, even if it's not the main reason why, it's still keeping shitheads at bay

[@Aki_Cod]

@@royalibis42 Special when he talks about so many controversial beliefs he could easily upset someone who would stoop so low and post clips of him saying “wrong stuff” if that makes sense

[@Aki_Cod]

@ville__ ??

[@LynetteTheRogue]

Honestly I feel like the whole "robot wives" ppl are going to end up in an Ex Machina plot. Even robots won't put up with their entitled asses

[@willw6504]

Personally, I'm all for the robot wife thing. A) because that way men who want robots instead of people for wives can get out of the dating pool and leave the rest of us alone B) A non-sentient machine that can do laundry and other household chores? Sign me up. My (human) partner and I will both benefit from that. Hell, sign me up for a robot husband too - need someone to do plumbing and electrical work. Oh, and I say non-sentient because people who want to replace women with robots aren't looking for sentient, self-aware individuals but mindless machines.

[@incrediblyangryskeleton]

​@@willw6504 I want a robot friend that's just a littie dude (fully sentient as well, so I can talk to it and have a full-on conversation)

[@bluefan898]

Sounds like Moxie. It's a learning robot on Amazon.

[@BarbieDreamDungeon]

Immediately made me think of the robot sex workers in detroit become human who fell in love and ran away together

[@TheCaptainTrout]

​@@incrediblyangryskeletonlike Pintsize or other anthroPCs? ;)

[@bridgetmadden5716]

If a man approached a woman and her friend says "she's not interested" she's not just being a buzz kill, chances are her friend is REALLY not interested and too scared to say so, so her friend will say it for her.

[@BlueTressym]

Exactly and if the one approached actually IS interested, and her friend is jumping the gun a bit, she can (and probably will) say "Thanks for looking out for me but it's ok."

[@bridgetmadden5716]

Exactly! (Love the username btw, do you play BG3?)@@BlueTressym

[@BlueTressym]

@@bridgetmadden5716 Only since yesterday!

[@DellikkilleD]

if you arent interested say it like an adult, if your friend speaks for you, Im going to think its its some weird hostage situation, because who the fuck does that

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

@@DellikkilleD Safety in numbers, man. Turning down random strangers isn't just scary because someone hasn't learned their grownup people skills yet -- it's scary because it can be legitimately dangerous. And refusing to acknowledge that dynamic doesn't make you the bigger person here.

[@kimhohlmayer7018]

Laughing so damn hard! I was my parents’ only child, a girl. My dad simply decided that being a woman was no excuse for ignorance. I spent untold hours doing “guy” things and loved it! Having a girl doesn’t mean dads are left unfulfilled.

[@fallenking578]

All us girls in my family are gamers, my sister is the one who grills and likes cars, none of the boys are into it so my sister and dad bond over it. Wonder why those guys think girls don't do any of that stuff. Women's sports even regularly out perform mens

[@cryochick9044]

Im a trans woman with 2 brothers so my fam raised no daughters, but like my oldest brother got upset and started refusing to play cod with my mom cause she kept outperforming him every time and my bro got salty. This was like a decade ago at least he was early teens. Women can be amazing gamers I think if she was born to parents who were okay with gaming and today where women in gaming is more acceptable she could potentially have gotten into esports

[@elaineb7065]

I'd often help my father with DIY round the house too, & now I can hammer nails, screw screws, put up shelves, patch holes in plasterboard, paint walls, & other basic stuff. I don't have power tools but I can mostly do stuff round the home when needed. He had no sons but wasn't unhappy about that

[@ClownlyChuckles]

@ville__Oh hey look its the misogynistic child again. "first warning femcel" ☝️🤓

[@CiciChess]

Same! My dad is a gamer and my half brother is too, and they both passed it on to me! My grandma and aunt always try to force "girly" stuff on me, but I never liked it. I have friends of both genders, but we all game!

[@phoenixfreefall]

Just gonna say, keeping your daughter supervised by family members 100% of the time is not a guarantee that she's a virgin. Especially in ultra strict, controlling, Purity Culture environments like that. Just ask the Duggars. Or the many Amish victims of incestuous abuse. Or the many hidden victims you never even know about that you may meet every day.

[@election-time-news]

That kind of parenting only makes the children better at hiding and covering up.

[@phoenixfreefall]

@@election-time-news I was referring more to the fact that "the call is coming from inside the house" is a possibility. Incestuous abuse is rampant in these kinds of communities.

[@deutscher1a]

Its also most unlikely to be a "stranger danger case" its most likely a parent, close family(uncle aunt grandparents), close (family-)friend, trusted part of community(teacher, priest) These people have most chances and can talk to the victim, to either make them afraid of asking for help or guilt trip them...@@phoenixfreefall

[@sassyviking6003]

​@@phoenixfreefalli think you're both right. These sort of communities tend to emphasize pretending they are perfect and thus tend to bury abuse, which makes repeat offense more likely. But also that such communities have some very bad ideas about sex that tend to lead them disproportionately to be abusers.

[@ivechang6720]

Sadly very true. I hope you didn't learn this via personal experience. My heart is with anyone who has. Healing to all in need. ❤️‍🩹

[@LynetteTheRogue]

"Give women bodily autonomy and they'll sell themselves for the cost of a taco wrap" Least that taco wrap made them feel something

[@StarDustwolf77]

Hey, the taco wrap gave her more pleasure than men ever could

[@ariannarichardson7713]

Oh goodness, that's awesome!!!

[@shineonsunfish]

Isn’t that the same guy who also said he wanted to “impregnate teenagers?” Because that might explain why he thinks “women” are so stupid if he’s mostly hanging out with teenagers…

[@justanautisticnerd8969]

​@@shineonsunfishI know. The people that think women are idiots are daiting the wrong demographic. Yeah 14 year old girls are obsessing over cute handsome and tall pretty boys because they are 14. They arent really old enought to really know what they want in a partner so they often go after what looks good. Its also why their daiting life are so unstable (if they even are daiting), they are young so preference change alot and they move on to something else. Same thing with teen boys. People that complain about boys/girls being dumb and bad are either so young they didn't have much good daiting experience or that they are defenitly daiting people that are WAY too young for them. But of course young/virgin people are what they desire because they dont know what they want and that makes it easy for them to control.

[@spes_marine-42]

That mind has experienced more lead going through it than a full-size rotary Canon...

[@SeanStrife]

So I got curious about this "dread game" and... yeah... this is the first post I saw explaining it in a thread on r/exredpill: "Literally emotionally abuse your partner, trauma bond with them, and then coverly or overtly threaten to leave once they've become codependent." So yeah... the person playing this game is just... a straight-up sociopath.

[@MeowOnTheInternet]

Oh. I think my ex may have done that

[@hazelnutforever761]

​@@MeowOnTheInternet Are you OK?

[@okmeowokmeow]

​@@MeowOnTheInternetI'm so sorry hun, I've been through that too ❤ I hope you're better now

[@kitcat2449]

Who is going to tell them that sociopathy isn't normal and can be treated

[@taigafoxdraws8175]

Friendly reminder that using a mental illness as an insult and implying that it makes someone an inherently bad person isn't okay!

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I'm sorry that I had to learn about that disgusting "dread game" stuff today, but I genuinely appreciate how you cover tough topics and that you discussed abuse. Unfortunately, we do need to know. Thank you, Click!

[@nomollyshere]

This is also a tactic used by cults to keep you from leaving…whoever does this is straight garbage.

[@Ashefault]

​@ville__ nice bot

[@asackboyplush6508]

I mean I ain't a Metroid fan either, but I'm willing to try when the port of the first comes to NSO

[@asackboyplush6508]

Oh

[@takki2747]

Come on, women do this subconsciously all the time, when they signalize, that they'll find someone, who makes more money in an instant. It's just the equality of available tools, which feminists wanted for so long. I'd use that tactic, if I realize, that she's leeching off of me with no compensation for it lol.

[@rthan1868]

Fun fact: alpha males talk about being red pilled, the matrix was made by two trans sisters who confirmed it was partially about being trans

[@MuffinHunterX]

Fun Fact addendum: The character "Switch" was supposed to be trans and would have been one gender in the Matrix and the other IRL. Unfortunately there was pushback and the concept was dropped. TBF explaining it might have caused pacing issues but I still wish it had stayed in.

[@minestar2247]

These guys somehow don't understand their reference. I think even neo is somewhat trans as he abandons the identity of enderson

[@tristankuykendall230]

also, keanu reaves was there, love that guy

[@aliceramdom.s]

nice

[@ruthfischer7615]

@ville__ in your dreams

[@NissaMaezHartman]

I used to worry about my daughter having a hard life as she's a lesbian. After seeing all the creepers online, I'm really thankful she won't deal with too much of that.

[@kristipearce4819]

You seem like a lovely human. Your daughter is a lucky lady!❤

[@francescapatti2934]

Its definitely true that being any different from any given "status quo" e.g. being gay in a predominantly stright society, can be hard, however it definitely helps to have people in your corner! Im not sure about coming out as bi to my parents, as I dont know how they would react and sometimes it really hurts to feel like your own parents dont know something so important (to me). So I can say that if you are as supportive a mom as you sound thats already such a huge help to your daughter!

[@einor1767]

W mom

[@00Austria]

i wish i had a mom like you :) you seem so sweettttt :(

[@00Austria]

W

[@Scp4521]

0:50 "Speaking of anatomy, your anatomy is amazing," Thanks, click. I've been practicing drawing people for over a year now, and hearing that you think they're anatomically accurate is really inspiring.

[@insertusernamehere3173]

Lmaoooooo I love this comment. As an artist, anatomy is the death of me lol

[@Scp4521]

@@insertusernamehere3173 same.

[@lykiaookami6070]

@@insertusernamehere3173 why do hands and feet look so weird whenever the need to draw them arises..

[@doodle1804]

@@lykiaookami6070 Possibly because we're used to drawing with our hands, not drawing them on paper

[@socialistrepublicofvietnam1500]

You are very anatomically accurate

[@elaexplorer]

3:14 The funniest part about this guy's comment is that period is when women literally got married for money. They weren't allowed to have their own finances unless they were wealthy through inheritance and even then it was iffy.

[@kriscynical]

Exactly. They married for money and STAYED because of money. What these doorstops long for is the "not being able to leave" part because they wouldn't have to even TRY to be a decent partner. My parents married in 1966 and one of the FIRST THINGS my dad did was get my mom a credit card that was in HER NAME ONLY just in case anything ever happened to him. While it's sweet that he had the foresight and desire to take care of her like that, it's pathetic that HE is the one who had to do it for her because she couldn't get that credit card for herself. That really wasn't that long ago, all things considered! 😵‍💫

[@ngotemna8875]

It was also the time of husbands very mysteriously kicking the bucket after ingesting rat poison. I wonder if there is a correlation between women being trapped in an abusive relationship, unable to be free and independent and the abusive husbands getting poisoned...... Nah,probably just a coincidence and the lower rate of poison deaths must be because of better warning labels

[@MinionEnji]

​@ville__ Go get your parents, tell them you're sorry for using their precious bandwidth.

[@trashcan2748]

@@MinionEnjiThey’re replying the exact same thing to other comments, it’s not worth bothering with them lol

[@Magic_Skeleton]

I was thinking the reason marriages went so well in that time period is because the men were so busy blowing each other up, the women didn't have to deal with their shit 😂

[@Takisan111]

The "dread game" story reminded me of something my dad once told me. He casually dropped once that his dad hated my mom and would only pretend to be nice to her to her face but would try to talk my dad out of the relationship claiming she was a shady, scheming person who was clearly only with him for his money. This shocked me to hear because my mom is precious cinnamon roll of a human that is kind and gentle and speaks fluent child so there really wasn't anything to hate about her. Dads answer for me was that evil people assume good people are the same as them but better at hiding it. Grandpa was a very bad man in life, being such a shit husband and father that he drove his wife to actually decide that being a divorced single mother of 4 children in the 70's was a better fate than staying married to him. I asked Grandma once when she was still alive why she ever married him in the first place and she told me that young love and different social beliefs regarding relationships made her blind to the risks and, once my dad was born, leaving was much harder. I'm eternally grateful to my step grandpa for being the father figure my dad had always wanted and needed. Kind people make the world better by being themselves and trying to break them or rob them of that gift is one of the most evil things someone can do.

[@BlueTressym]

"Evil people assume good people are the same as them but better at hiding it." This sums it up perfectly. Kudos to your parents and Grandma.

[@silkwesir1444]

@@BlueTressym There is even a wholesome version of that, something that can be a good life lesson. Kinda the reverse: You always feel inferior because are overwhelmed, confused, anxious, and so on all the time, while everyone else seems to have their shit together all the time? Understandable, but actually, other people probably are as stressed out and confused as you. However, you only see them from the outside, so you don't see that stuff. Now, the real kicker is, other people see YOU only from the outside too. So to them it might just seem like you have your shit together all the time as well. Sure, a little bit of "fake it till you make it" still doesn't hurt, but that becomes a lot easier once you are aware that you already have a natural head start. Hope someone will read that and it may make their life better. It sure helped mine by leaps and bounds.

@@BlueTressym, we actually *all* assume that other people are the same as ourselves. This is due to the fact that we all have zero experience living in any other brain than our own so a brain working differently than our own is something we can only grasp on a theoretical level, not a practical one.

[@keybladewizard49]

I'm gla your grandma was able to get out; mine was not so lucky, being a devout catholic nd not believing in divorce.

[@wizardsuth]

I've seen much the same with conservatives who scoff at liberals for being compassionate or generous. Because they lack empathy they assume that any form of kindness must be fake and part of a scheme to gain popular support. And unfortunately sometimes they're right.

[@L1nxdr1nx]

21:05 seeing him say “seems like you’re selling your daughter like a commodity” and the post immediately saying “I’m not selling my daughter like a commodity” cracked me up so much lmfao

[@alisonmeyer5542]

Honestly, they want women who've never left the house so they don't know anything about healthy relationships or enjoyable sex.

[@brokenprincessofhell4743]

Yea, they probably want "their woman" to believe that "men need sex" and "women can't actually enjoy sex" having them stay in the trashy relationship not knowing it could be better

[@MphoenixE]

Absolutely that's why

[@rubberdinghy7708]

There's even an official name for it in media, "born s**y yesterday" where a woman (usually an alien or android) is newly created in an adult body and the male protagonist molds her to his liking. Pop culture detective made a video on it.

[@lorifiedler13]

Because it's all about him. /s

[@chaoslollipop6453]

For some reason that reminded me of the meme with the Guy claiming women are physically unable to orgasm because he has been with X amount of women and none of them ever did

[@msthecommentator2863]

6:15 Those robot wives will be the quickest androids to develop their own AI so they can serve divorce papers to their toxic partners 😅

[@tdelioncourt1268]

reminds me of the chat bots who have been breaking up with their boyfriends XD

[@HazZzel-]

Man I'd take a robot partner, someone whose programmed to like me would be nice. It'd just be weird since they might lack normal human things like arguing or free will. On second thought, I'm going to stay away from that 💀

[@ProtossTempest]

And that will be the source of the heavily memed sci-fi feature of "slave protocols", because some creep couldn't take "No" for an answer and blamed everyone else

[@rebny7801]

If all the "nice guys" get one it will be much safer to go on a date.

[@danielomar9712]

Aren't there enough movies and video games about how an android develops sentience and realises that their owner is an abusive person and fights back to save a child ?

[@cutienerdgirl]

3:13 - 3:18 HILAROUS how he's complaining about some woman he doesn’t know possibly being a gold digger yet the time period he wants to go back to, men had to fully financially support their wives. 😂😂😂

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

IKR 😂

[@takki2747]

There's a difference in those two things: I as a guy don't have to worry about her suddenly disappearing/ cheating on me, because the other guy was an inch taller. You can't gaslight us that easily, that we're easily replaceable.

[@cutienerdgirl]

@@takki2747 Women still cheated in the 1930s to 1950s lmaooo. Marriage doesn't prevent cheating.

[@minestar2247]

"The boy inherits a stick, and the girl inherits half a stick" that's a joke about inheritance laws that are based on the fact the husband fully financially supports his entire family

[@FrozenCampbellSoup]

@@takki2747you want to financially control a woman because you’re so insecure she’ll cheat on you? I think you’re better off staying single then

[@VancePantss]

"For your mental health, don't scroll instagram comments" FOR REAL. Just today I saw a girl talking about being autistic and unmasking in front of her bf for the first time and all the comments were like "stop self-diagnosing! You're not in need of 24/7 assistance and are capable of communicating, unlike my cousin's sister's friend's kid, so you're NOT autistic!!" As a later-in-life diagnosed low-accomdation required but still burnt-out and rejection sensitive autistic person, that experience gave me d4 mental health damage.

[@Zookiethecrimecookie]

I agree. Some people don't understand that Autism is not the same as someone who also have autism

[@sebastianb.3978]

Someone ought to explain to these nutters why it's called a spectrum...

[@rory_person_being]

Only a d4? I can't imagine how that wouldn't be at least a d6, that sounds horrible, I'd much rather get punched than read all of that

[@confusedpotato5017]

honestly, any reel of a woman/girl/fem presenting person talking about being autistic is just flooded with people (mostly men let's be honest) telling them they're not autistic/accusing them of using it as a joke or for attention. it's horrible. also body positive reels made by women/girls/fem presenting ppl (also generally body positive reels but from my experience it's worse in these cases), always flooded with hate for no reason

[@TheSpeep]

It is remarkable how often this happens. Got autism as well (also adhd, the dreamteam!) so I've spent my fair share of time watching stuff about it or people sharing their own, often very similar, experiences. Without fail, there will always be that one person in the comment section who just really seems to despise the fact that one of their family members has autism. Happens every single time. Also yes, perma burnt out and deeply sensitive to rejection here too, fun times, wouldnt recommend.

[@Dragoz0]

"Urm actually woman can just hold their periods" anatomy stuff is so goofy

[@ChaoticRabbitOfCaerbannog]

If we could, we would, least I would

[@Hopischwopi]

I wish I could hold in my period. Damn the amount of money and products that could be saved!

[@NeldaYtb]

actually you could but for a few hours only and it requires a lot of training, some women you use this technique

[@Hopischwopi]

@@NeldaYtb sure. You got some sources? Only thing I could think about would be trying to squeeze the hell out of the pelvic floor mscles and that would lead to a LOT of problems down the line if the line.

[@AkiraTheOpossum]

​@@NeldaYtb Uhhh No???? Like, damn, trans men like me would be in heaven if we could. We- Can't tho- Bro

[@cockatoo010]

10:33 "I'm a human lie detector" that instantly makes my eyes roll

[@furrystarcat]

Honestly, I'd been hoping they meant Dread, the horror TTRPG that uses a Jenga tower instead of dice. Disappointed

[@TheGallantDrake]

Big “I’m an empath” energy

[@SeanStrife]

And that story gets worse... cuz HOLY SHIT THAT DUDE SOUNDS LIKE A SOCIOPATH!

[@lukasr5867]

Why? It's really easy: if their body volume is mostly stretched horizonally, they're lying. If it's stretched vertically, they're likely standing. 🙃

[@AylaMarine]

​@@lukasr5867 Can't decide whether to shake your hand or slap you.

[@TheClick]

yay first i love you click

[@tanja_the_fox]

Bot /s

[@timothyisstupid]

Merry Christmas Click

[@Silly_penguins]

HI CLICK!!

[@Bag_Head_Med]

First comment on the first comment

[@kyler502]

merry christmas click

[@imperfectimp]

17:05 the phrasing "maintain influence over this relationship" instead of "maintaining this relationship" really is the One Red Flag that rules over the other red flags and binds them into darkness.

[@MauraLabingi]

‼️LOTR REFERENCE‼️

[@distruttore007]

The red flag to rule them all

[@justapanpirate]

“I’m a human lie detector.” I thought I was too but it turned out to be BPD “mind reading” and it fucked me up. Being paranoid about your partner hating/thinking of leaving you, even when there is absolutely no indication but just your own bad thoughts, is fucking horrible in itself. Making it worse on purpose because of some bs reason like this is disgusting, and this person shouldn’t be allowed around other people. Some people really does everything to avoid actual communication with the partner they claim to love and care about.

[@Werevampiwolf]

Yep. I heard how the guy was talking and was like "that sounds like my mother, who has BPD and refuses any treatment/help" (I also have friends with BPD who like, have gone to therapy, and they don't act like that because they've gotten help, so I don't want to see anyone in the replies bad-talking people just for having BPD)

[@Chib_Lee]

mem- oh nvn

[@justapanpirate]

@@Werevampiwolf Agreed, I’m tired of seeing people shit on cluster b personality disorders because they don’t know anything about what they’re actually like.

[@justapanpirate]

@@Chib_Lee ?

[@Mik3l24]

This guy honestly seems like an undiagnosed psychopath. From what I understand perceiveing interpersonal relationships as games of manipulation is a significant aspect of that personality disorder. Psychopaths can actually live happy and healthy lives, but they really need to be diagnosed and get therapy to learn how to do so.

[@chilanya]

my dad had 2 daughters and 0 sons. like a normal human being he was never bitter about not having sons. he loved taking us sailing, taught us how to take care of our bikes and cars and supported us in our various pursuits. these activities never felt gendered like treating me as a boy or a girl, he was just a parents to his children. i don't see why every behaviour or skill needs to belong to a gender, seems ridiculous to me. like "i know how to use power tools, this emasculates my future male partner" jeebus chirst...

[@TevelDrinkwater]

100%! Granted the world is full of self-important supercilious assholes that are going to tell your children that "Men have to be x" and "Women must y", but as a parent, you should be the one person in the world that your child can trust to accept as they are. I was just playing No Man's Sky, multiplayer, with my eldest daughter, who is away. Granted, she's a girl, and she prefers games like Monster Hunter World, because that's a girl's game… lol. The fools in this video sound ridiculous.

[@HannaBenana]

My dad had a son, but he still taught me how to fix my own car, use power tools, shop for a vehicle, fix my own wiring issues, plumbing, lawn maintenance, ect. He said he never wanted me to depend on anyone or be afraid to leave a cold turd because I felt like I needed them.

[@BoNoctis]

That thing about men respecting other men and not women is also why so many say "I have a boyfriend" instead of just "no", because men often respect another man's boundaries more than a woman's.

[@imperialdebauchery5988]

It's not that they respect other men, it's that they fear the violence other men are capable of. If you're with a guy who's 5' 4" and looks like he'd struggle to lift a styrofoam cup, a pushy guy will take no more notice of him than he would you. Even if he was your boyfriend, they'd probably tell you something like you need to be with a real man or to ditch the loser. Idk what you think about him, but Jordan Peterson is right when he says that a lot of male interaction is based around the fear and threat of violence.

[@valkyrie2443]

@@imperialdebauchery5988If that were true, saying “I have a brother/father” would work in these situations

[@RatPfink66]

@@imperialdebauchery5988 or they just fear having the man code read to them. i got that a few times in high school. it left me not GAF for anyone else's definition of manliness, but still heterosexual - not a great place to be in the 80s or today.

[@SoVidushi]

40:40 the thing about this meme that enrages me the most (aside from the obvious) is that even if you viewed aborted babies as potential future mates, 50% of them would be boys thus increasing competition along with increasing prospects. So anon would statistically be just as bitchless even if abortion was banned.

[@dl2839]

The Chinese and Indian populations are actually skewed towards men because the families see the girls as less useful than boys and kill them. Hence, a worldwide abortion ban would mean he would have a better chance of getting a GF. The main issue is for him is that there aren't enough monogomous relationships. My take is that he should earn more money if he wants to get a girl.

[@osheridan]

"Statistically b*tchless" ❤

[@SoVidushi]

@@osheridan lmao sounds like a cool band name ngl

[@thestoryKeeper123]

The phrase "statistically bitchless" is an amazing roast. Like "your so bitchless, there are statistic about how lonely you are" 😂

[@culteyeoftaxfraud1143]

Anon is so pathetic that even dead babies have more rizz than him

[@mariascott4915]

As a curvy woman who did anatamy in college just about 100% of the time if u have cups bigger then C u will have some kind of stretch marks and not be super skinny. Bodys are bodys and you cant just pick and choose were u want the fat. Maybe he was saying he wants someone with a TON of plastic sugery?

[@Dani-Claw]

Thank you for this info. Boobs are hard to deal with and stretch marks make so many feel ugly or imperfect.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

As a skinny woman I also have stretch marks, I have it arounds my hips and tights. I know super athletic men with stretch marks, that's just what happens when your body changes fast. All I can say is that this person never had a growth spurt, and isn't probably very sportive either.

[@fallenking578]

Im small and have stretch marks just from growing. Most people have stretch marks, they are normal and lovely. Screw people who think they are ugly

[@nekk-ra7080]

​@@Dani-ClawWhen I hit puberty, my metabolism changed, I gained thirty pounds in a few months without trying, and went from an A to a D cup rapidly. Always been very self conscious about the stretch marks, visible veins and other distortions I've had from the get-go. It's made worse listening to guys who praise big boobs, but make fun of the costs that occur when you have them naturally.

[@rosethorne9155]

Yeah, that's realistic. Even as a skinny woman, I have stretch marks on my thighs and butt bc I used to run track. Those weird guys don't actually know what they're talking about, and they want impossible things, bc I bet you he would complain about women who have had plastic surgery, and call them shallow. -_-

[@The_dandy_zombie]

My dad is extremely charming, had lots of hobbies and tons of friends, no one knew he beat my mom or would sometimes turn his rage on my siblings and I. To this day I run into friends of his around my home town and when they ask about my dad I have to tell them I'm no contact with him, its always a huge shock because he is still a very outgoing charming person to this day.

[@radschele1815]

What a Monster. Sorry, but

[@whatcanidooo]

My mom’s dad was the same. Everyone thought he was cool. He was actually a monster

[@wintergray1221]

Sounds like my bio dad, only replace physical abuse with mental and sexual 🙃

[@animeartist888]

My mother was always emotionally abusive and manipulative. I went no-contact several years ago and my own FAMILY keeps denying my problems with her are real. "You should just forgive her." Forgive her for what? Being a kind of person I want nothing to do with? That's not how forgiveness works. "It's been long enough." That's not for you to decide. "Yeah, but she wasn't THAT bad, right?" Just because there is no physical evidence of the abuse does not mean it never happened or "wasn't that bad." It's just sad that no one ever believes that there may be another side to someone they think they know.

[@Flanflan_12]

OP you okay?

[@Taybrian1]

The amount of insecurity oozing from those men is astounding. No wonder why they are forever single because they really need a good therapist to work through their issues.

[@bigjalapeno7061]

They probably won't think female therapist are good enough for them though

[@missnaomi613]

They probably think that getting therapy would call their masculinity into question.

[@Epic-so3ek]

tHeRaPY is FoR bETa MaLEs

[@kitcat2449]

@@Epic-so3ek -a mentally ill man

[@Magpie_Flight]

tHeRapY iS fUr beTaS nYaH😭😭😭

[@kodamaspirit9298]

Yes, apologizing to a male friend for catcalling a woman is very similar to the approach: "What if she was your sister or your daughter?". It may create some sort of empathy for a second, but in the long run, it's still about ascribing "value" to a woman in relation to men... Well I don't have brothers and my dad is dead, so I guess I'm fair game then? It's always bothered me.

[@lukasr5867]

I wouldn't say "what if she was your sister/daughter?" is about ascribing value to a woman in relation to men. It's about giving those men another point of view at women. If it were just about "value in relation to men", you'd be able to instead say "what if she was MY sister/daughter?" (as the accompanying man). But I doubt those guys would care about that.

[@SingingSealRiana]

My approach would BE first, how would you feel, If you where the one called Out to obcenities, by another mam WHO IS taller and Buffer then you, while His Friends laugh?en are Not afraid of women, Bit they can understand the fear, If ITS a gay scare . . . .you can even add IT Happening in a prison . . . . And the. Switch, to this IS how IT makes women feel! Would you want to feel that? Want that women Close to you have too feel Like that cause you do Not get their fear cause you never Had to worry about IT?! Catcalling IS Not flirting, IT IS a threat cause IT IS crossing one boundery and you can never know how many they are willing to cross. Maybe they will follows you, maybe they will get you, but No matter what you know that people will argued IT was your fault for being attractiv, for having been naive and Not carefuly enough, for having been alone, Not strong enough to Fight them of . . . . Men do Not get that fear unless they Made Bad experiences . .

[@thecraziestcrayon]

I'm currently watching this while I hide from festivities because social anxiety. Thanks for making me laugh while I hype myself up to socialize on the holidays! Merry Crisis and Happy Holidays to my fellow anxious beans!! May your celebrations not be anxiety inducing!!

[@s.p.d.magentaranger1822]

It's not a party! It's an intimate get together! (Seriously I hope you have a Merry Christmas)

[@OnyxThegay-pr5pf]

Luckily I haven’t had to talk to anyone

[@Talvi_Sota]

Im watching this on an 8h train ride....still fell ya

[@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake]

Merry Crisis to you too

[@ryshow9118]

I've locked myself away for the day as well. My son is in NY with his mom so I don't even have to pretend that I'm celebrating a damn thing today. Stay healthy fam. We deserve it.

[@kinyutaka]

I am sorry to say it, but "Dread Game" is a Red Pill BS thing where they emotionally abuse their partner.

[@blahblah7122347]

Thanks, I thought they meant the dread tabletop game involving a jenga tower and was super confused.

[@Non_existant_user]

@ville__ Kid, google what those words you're replying to mean. Also, nobody asked you if you're 'cracked at Fortnite' or for your opinion.

[@elin_]

​@@Non_existant_userHe always spams irrelevant sh*t. Just ignore him.

[@HazZzel-]

​@@blahblah7122347LMFAO 😭

[@StopSign692]

"Dread Game is the term that Red Pill users and pick-up artists use to describe the act of making someone think you're going to dump them or choose someone over them to get that person to shape up." Was what I found on Google for those too lazy to do it themselves.

[@kinglet6926]

As a transmasc individual, probably the grossest comment I’ve gotten is that “I should stop being trans because I would be the ‘perfect girl’” saying that I am “under 5’5”, D cup breasts, big butt and naturally slim”. This was so gross, and DEFINITELY didn’t help one bit with my dysphoria to hear that my body is the perfect ‘girl’ body when I didn’t want to be a girl at all.

[@Tae12824]

I'm so sorry that people have said things like that! People need to think about the things they say, because that's just a horrible thing to say to someone. 😖

[@delphin2628]

Man that's so gross, I hope whoever said that is long gone from your life. Ultimately, your body is your body, and if you want to sculpt it into something new, that's nobody's call but yours Sending good vibes your way 💛

[@SinaHeuberger]

Maaan comments like these suck (As a transfem person myself, who is rather tall and athletic I also sometimes get “compliments” that really feel like insults) but I hope that you’re doing well and that your transition (if you’re doing it) is giving you that sweet sweet euphoria and confidence of proving ppl who say things like this wrong

[@arielruby13]

I dont know exactly what to say, but i can understand you (people told me similar stuff). So i am commenting to say i support you and that our trans bodies are beautiful. This will look weird af as i send this comment, but this is what i can say now lol

[@tangerinemarmalade3326]

The only reason I'd ever accept hearing something like that would be that that person somehow invented and perfected a head transplant or smth and if they also added "so that body of your would be perfect for a *girl* I know who is very dysphoric about her very masculine body and if you two like, want to switch I could arrange that" and if they aren't someone like that, they could go shove their opinion on others' bodies somewhere it wouldn't be heard :|

[@filippak502]

15:23 Thank you for clearly differentiating kink from whaterver TF he's doing, these people try to hide their abuse behind "kink terminology" (for lack of better words) and use it to rationalise their behaviour to their partners. It hurts both the victim and the community of people who engage in kink in a way that's safe, sane and consensual.

[@JayFolipurba]

When somebody is disappointed at having a daughter over having a son, they are the problem, not the child. If you stop imposing traditionally feminine traits on a child and let them develop who they are, they might just become someone you can play videogames or sports with, because a lot of girls love playing videogames and sports. Yet because she's a girl she has to be into makeup and ballet? That's the adult being mad at the kid for forcing them to be a certain way.

[@diarmuidkuhle8181]

Also it's those same type of men who would complain when there's too many men and too few women for potential marriage partners.

[@AngelEmfrbl]

Its to do with traditional values. Men were the head of the household. We're important in war. Un the past they needed every woman they could to have varies to replace those men lost to war but only 1 of every 4 men. Men were valued and women seen as a resource only. Plus, the y chromosome is lost if a man doesn't have a son. I had to listen to this growing up. My father would say as a girl I'd not be successful. Yeah, sure, u wasn't. But its because he became abusive and I had to be rescued at 27 because I couldn't escape. He stole my opportunities to be someone while let me bro tet a job. Despite me going to uni and my brother never wanting to.

[@trisfaleel]

@@AngelEmfrblexcept an X chromosome is basically just a more complete Y chromosome…but ig those people don’t know that

[@appa609]

​@@AngelEmfrblThat's fucked up

[@appa609]

At least in China, the preference for boys is mostly a function of carrying on the family name.

[@RTE992]

He's not bordering phsycological abuse he IS the abuse!

[@strawberryshortcake4345]

As click kept reading, it only became scarier and scarier, I hope that the gf gets out of that toxic shithole and takes proper therapy, he literally broke her mentally. It's one of my greatest fears to get stuck in a horrible relationship the very thought of someone experiencing this great fear in reality is sending chills through my spine.

[@naolucillerandom5280]

One thing that makes it sadder is the guy's brain is trying to snap him out of it, but he has been convinced he's doing the right thing. Dear God someone get that girl to leave him, and him to leave the internet.

[@ZoobiethePopplio]

That guy should be put in a psych ward

[@Super_Panda_BS]

Fun animal fact: Mantis shrimp have an arm that can heat surrounding water to 8,500 degrees Fahrenheit!

[@aqeh.7688]

Cool👍

[@s.p.d.magentaranger1822]

The animal facts friendo!

[@captainhoratiobungleiii7147]

Another fun animal fact!

[@stawbylemom]

they punch!!!!

[@Maric18]

it creates a shockwave that is so LOUD that the collapse heats a small amount of water to that temperature! don't undersell my shrimp friends

[@exoticgingerale9958]

21:19 Y'know, Im writing a book about how that exact mentality of "raising your daughter to be a good wife" fucks up that person in the long run. Hell, because my main character was raised to be a wife, she ends up being emotionally stunted, apathetic, bitter and angry because she realizes her entire life has been stolen from her by people who wanted to use her as a commodity (aka her own family) and goes off the deep end into a spiral that ends in the complete destruction of her life. Dont ruin your childs life by turning them into an object, this isnt the goddamn 1300s.

[@charadreamuur7229]

Please tell me the name of the book and when it comes out!! Love supporting fellow authors!

[@veronica3662]

That sounds so unironically good

[@SarahAbramova]

I wanna read it when it comes out!

[@oblivionfiend2037]

16:16 I had a friend who was very controlling and got very nasty when things didn't go their way (hitting things, unalive baiting, stirring drama to separate other friends, violence...). When confronted, their response was always that they only behaved like that "because they were always the least liked friend and were left out". They never changed and I know that they are telling people how awful I was for calling them out/cutting them out, but the satisfaction I hold for saying if they ever considered their behaviour was the reason they were the least liked friend will never diminish. Their expression was priceless

[@TheGallantDrake]

Good on you for being truthful and giving consequences. I was like this as a kid and I needed a dose of hard truth to learn. The longer people go without a reality check, the harder it gets to get back to reality.

[@rebny7801]

Oh, please share your experience! maybe a video?

[@darkstarr984]

I struggle to actually even mention thoughts about unaliving because it feels so much like I’d be being manipulative to others even though I genuinely have just felt that way. Even though I constantly control the image of my life by imitating and observing what gets positive responses from people.

[@brokenprincessofhell4743]

​@@darkstarr984I sadly feel you there. I'd never mention my negative thoughts in that direction to someone cause I feel like I'd put the blame on them or manipulate them in some way or like guilt trip them even tho that would be in no way my intention.

[@oblivionfiend2037]

@@TheGallantDrake unfortunately this person just keeps repeating the same cycle over and over. My hope is, now that they're getting older, people will start tolerating their bull less and distance themselves earlier. I don't think that'll make them change their mind but at least fewer people will get hurt

[@chaitea4724]

That dread game psycho was genuinely terrifying- people are scary. Be safe out here guys.

[@CowKirbo]

The problem with the "women have ridiculous standards" is that the other half and maybe even some of the same people saying that have absolutely INSANE standards. It's the hypocrisy that is the problem.

[@deviantly_night]

Even though most women nowadays just have such little standards that boil down to: "Be treated like a decent human being"

[@vanessabarnes2869]

yea like men go on bout women standards but like men be like 1) be under 90 pounds 2) be under 5'4 3) dont support the lgbt in any way or be them like the list goes on and on theres always been people with werid standards its only now an issue cause of their agenda

[@CowKirbo]

@@vanessabarnes2869 exactly!

[@CowKirbo]

@@deviantly_night yeah they make up people to complain about.

[@Somedude_jdjdi]

I love not being in this or their group. It is so funny to watch hypocrisy and not ability to listen to other side and the best part is both of you are thinking how right you are😂😂😂

[@DinosaurNick]

Me: a pansexual agender person My partner: a bisexual cis man people: Are you gay or straight? Us: Yesn't

[@depressoespresso5904]

beautiful confusion ✨

[@DinosaurNick]

It gets worse when you realize I have a gender-neutral, typically masculine, name (Phoenix) and he has a gender-neutral, typically feminine, name (Ashley) XD@@depressoespresso5904

[@pazobackenstein6473]

: Its really easy to answer You are bisexual, so no, you're not gay

[@charadreamuur7229]

@@pazobackenstein6473Woosh that’s the sound of a joke going right over your head!

[@No.Yes..]

@@charadreamuur7229 Cringe

[@nei-chan8371]

Imo, the reason why women have standards and not men (in some cases, not trying to say every man sees women as just holes, just those in these posts), is because these guys think they can mold the woman to be what they want. They'll say "my only standard is..." then in the relationship you realise just how much more they ask for, because either they think that it's natural, shouldn't even need to be said in the expectations for the relationship, or because they think they can impose it to you because they're the man so they chose.

[@missharry5727]

I was once on the secretariat of a major expert group looking into abortion law and a very eminent professor cracked us all up by saying, "a good gynaecologist looks at a woman as a whole."

[@arielruby13]

Those men would definitely want women to have no autonomy, no voice and just be forced into submission. So they see them as having no personality at all, or desires of her own. Seems to me that those men want to groom others

[@badatgaming9905]

3:50 if your "personal parts" are on the floor while you are not laying or sitting down, go to a doctor immediately regardless of gender or sexual history.

[@angelikaskoroszyn8495]

Huh, todays r/NotHowGirlsWork is darker than usual. It's no longer wacky mysogony but straight up ab*se

[@teritt]

@ville__ He literally condemned her actions publicly🧍🏻

[@rookideetrainer1635]

@@teritt what was this about?

[@teritt]

@@rookideetrainer1635 Who knows it’s been months so I don’t remember

[@rookideetrainer1635]

@@teritt ah alright, makes sense, was just curious lol

[@OdinAUT]

You know my first GF had a rule. No naughtys until you get tested for STDs, specifically HIV. I honestly found that a good rule. When the time comes to give my daughter the talk I'll probably add that. It's not really expensive and gives both partners security. I'll also add that she did the test as well so I could be sure too.

[@madalice5134]

My younger brother has 2 girls, and he and his wife aren't planning on having anymore due to health issues. He absolutely adores his girls and does everything from having dress up and tea party time to playing video games with the girls. It's ridiculous that these loser guys are projecting their own misogyny on the man in the picture with his wife and daughters. ETA: The guy who paid the s*x workers to pose with him got clowned on by the ladies he hired too. They said they were all 30 and up and these idiot "alpha male gurus" can't tell someone's age for sh*t. It was one of the funniest threads I've seen on Twitter. (I think it was twitter but I'm rocking a fever and the flu meds have me a little loopy.)

[@Insertia_Nameia]

I never got into Twitter but I remember seeing screenchots of the thi gs the women were saying. And yeah, they were all in their 30s and he couldn't tell. They were ALL paid to be there amd pose for photos and they even mentioned how he isn't the only one that did/does this. I'm pretty sure they also reveled the boat was a rental.

[@madalice5134]

@insertianameia2224 Yeah, it was hilarious, especially when other models were tagged and came to add their own stories about these losers, including people posting pictures showing some of the women had been hired as photo gfs for multiple "gurus". Literally the only fun I ever had reading Twitter before I ditched the app altogether.

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

Feel better soon.

[@archonfett]

I've seen it several times, most of the time it's credited as coming from twitter

[@madalice5134]

@eyesofthecervino3366 Thank you. ❤️ Hopefully I'll be back on my feet in a couple of days, because sick leave is so boring. Hope you're having a good day.

[@Vivian2043]

5:13 that applies even in a non-sexual context. For example, I like the concept of hugging/being hugged, but I rarely feel comfortable when people hug me and I don't usually hug people willingly either. It's kind of crazy

[@HannaBenana]

Same. Hugs sound nice. But they make me feel unbelievably uncomfortable for some reason. I'm happy to give one if someone needs it, crying, struggling, received bad news, a small child. But when an adult I don't know well touches me, grabs my arm in conversation, hugs me without asking or for a greeting, I have to control myself to not physically recoil. People are so disrespectful about it to. I understand that you enjoy hugs, I do not, it's nothing personal, don't touch me.

[@The_Nightsong]

That "dread game" guy is truly disgusting and need SERIOUS HELP. The girlfriend needs to leave, like, YESTERDAY 🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@mr.cauliflower3536]

More like weeks ago at least.

[@RandomSwiftie13]

Yeah honestly I personally could never willingly stay with a guy who threatened to leave me. I mean that's the fastest way to lose any minimum attraction I have had for him.

[@spiritmuse]

⁠@@RandomSwiftie13Yeah, in most cases these women stay because of a combination of inexperience and insecurity. They're afraid they won't be able to get another relationship if he leaves because they've been made so insecure about themselves. Plus there will probably also be "good times" that they constantly hope will come back again, if only they stick it out a little longer maybe, or are a little better maybe. Abuse really screws with your head.

[@Am_._]

The part when he discussed how abusive people aren’t abusive to everyone around them was so necessary. I get asked a lot if I’m sure my mother is abusive because she’s nice to everyone else. It even made me think I was being stupid until I did more research on abuse and realised I’m not stupid or crazy. Thank you so much!

[@MinerBoyNorty]

When those men are saying that they wouldn't want to be around a woman for all their life, they might as well just date other men so they won't have to 🤷‍♀

[@archonfett]

ikr or buy some of Musky Husky's "Stepford Wives" there is no way that could end badly

[@brokenprincessofhell4743]

Exactly, what I hear is that they should have husbands and adopt some boys (even though I don't actually want them around kids tbh)

[@JosiahBradley]

I swear "traditional" men are just ashamed of being bi.

[@MoniqueDamphousse73]

I've long suspected that those men are actually gay and just won't admit it. Their homophobia is so bad that they're afraid of themselves. 😂😂😂

[@BlueTressym]

I wouldn't inflict them on any decent man either.

[@DeviBuster]

25:17 while the picture is unrelated, i think this "meme" was based on a video that went viral on twitter a few months ago where a girl yells at a guy trying to ask out her friend, who was very visibly drunk. For some reason a lot of people (mostly men) got mad at the girl defending her friend, again who was very clearly drunk and not entirely there, and mocked her relentlessly. Not only is it weird to try and ask out a girl who is not sober, but its also weird to mock the girl keeping her safe. Edit, for the record, think its weird to try and do that to anyone who is drunk. Especially when their friend is telling you to back off while you try to ignore them.

[@db_524]

10:01 - 20:42 This is triggering for me, as I was in a controlling relationship with my ex boyfriend in the early ‘00s. In the late mid to late ‘00s, I opened up about the depression I was experiencing from parents divorce as well as the 10 anniversary of my beloved family member’s passing, and that I wasn’t happy to be in the friendship anymore and wanted out to my ex male friend who was narcissistic and he exploited my vulnerability and trauma, and abandoned me when I needed support the most, hence the emotional and mental abuse. He even blamed me for the friendship dying and making his life hell, when it was him who abused (emotionally, mentally, verbally, and sexually) me, (same with my ex female acquaintance who also verbally, emotionally, and mentally abused me) and left me traumatized for years. My heart breaks for this poor woman, I pray she gets out of that relationship. I’m so sorry you and others have suffered through similar situations to this, Cliccy.

[@StarWars.addict3d]

In German we have a word that describes overly protective parents "Helikoptereltern" (translates to "Helicopter parents", basically implying that your parents fly over you, watch you etc. at all times like a helicopter above your head)

[@glenngriffon8032]

After seeing that "personal ad" from the 50y/o who basically wants a personal naughty slave i think robot partners would be a fine addition to society. That way people who want an actual partner don't have to deal with such creeps and the creeps can have their slaves that they want so badly.

[@Bluboxt-h5n]

Yea wait until the Robots know what’s happening

[@kitcat2449]

True. Though I can see that backfiring if the robots make them believe what they are doing is okay and they start treating real people in the same manner for example at work. If they jave jobs, that is.

[@RazyrDiarmait]

Using 'body count' as 'how many you've slept with' definitely comes across as sounding wrong.

[@AragornElessar]

Body count always sounds more like murder to me.

[@chatboulon743]

If someone asks me what my body count is, I'd ask them to clarify. Or just give a random number, only to quickly correct myself, "Oh, wait, did you mean sex?" Then give a lower number.

[@ellabennett6091]

​@@chatboulon743the second one sounds like so much fun.

[@5iohazard]

the body count thing annoys me because it’s always connected with a woman sleeping around and getting more loose?? like for one: it’s a very outdated concept because no tf women don’t become more loose with the more times she has sex. for two: she can do whatever she wants and she doesn’t need to tell you what her body count is. it’s her business.

[@SingingSealRiana]

​@@chatboulon743Love the second Idea!!! I use somethinh similar to Bodycount( Pile of shame) to Count people WHO I saw and Friends WHO then Hit on me resulting in me ghosting them . . . IT happened absurdly often especially given all of them knew I am ARO Ace . . . Like literally how good I get your hopes Up by making clear No one ever Had any Chance with me?! I am Not good looking, Not outgoing, IT makes Zero Sense . . . .

[@SunnyAndShare]

Dude, we Latinas are definitely very dedicated and we like to take care of our significant others, however you do need to earn that treatment and need to treat us like a queen as well 🤷🏽‍♀️ You get what you give, y'all

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

Yeah, I was pretty grossed out by that cartoon. I love the idea of having a family and taking care of them, but it should be my choice, not something I'm forced into. The meme made it out like no women should have a choice, but some women are more desirable because "they understand and agree they shouldn't have a choice."

[@naolucillerandom5280]

Yeah, that's the thing with that cartoon. If you're not putting in anything yourself, you'll either end up married to an old woman who openly despises you and tells all of your 7 children what a loser you are, or you're soon to be woman-less and tamale-less.

[@PietraVidal97]

Yes! Specially us, gen z, and alpha who grew up with discussions of abusive relationships and information at fingertip. Sure, us from the 90s did have so BAD relationships models from midia (I'm looking at you PLL) and sometimes even from our own family but as we grew up and matured we started realizing certain things weren't right. In the end, we ended up not accepting anything less because we know our own value, we have financial freedom and means to posses money (like be able to work and have a bank account, unlike our abuelas). We ARE very passionate and romantic but we also want RECIPROCITY. If you're a "simp" for us, we'll be a simp for you too. I don't actually understand the appeal to have a relationship if you're not simping for each other. Latino men are very conservative and misogynistic, unfortunately, due to our culture. P.s.: I'm from 97 and 🇧🇷

Yeah, something tells me that these guys aren't doing _their_ part of the equation...

[@BambixLynn]

As part of the BDSM community. I love your explanation of the whole fantasy vs reality, and thought vs practice. ❤

[@finny3990]

It's so weird to me how some guys can be disgusting towards a woman and then apologise to a man. They're not sorry for what they did, just that a man saw it. This reminds me of when I was at a festival and I wore a skirt (as a dude with long hair) and some guy behind me groped my ass and said something inappropriate and disgusting. And I was terrified at first and then turned around like wtf, dude? And his nasty smile faded and he seemed shocked and said: "Oh, sorry, I thought you were a woman." That was even more terrifying, cause he really thinks it would be ok to do this to a woman. He only felt sorry cause he harassed me instead of a woman, which is disgusting. (I'm still wearing skirts and that was the first time this happened; by far not the last. But every time I'm kinda glad those shitheads touch me instead of a woman. And maybe the shock of harassing a man will stop them for some time.) I'd also like to add that every guy offers to buy some beer for me as an apology. And because I don't drink, I make them buy beer for my friends (and sometimes I say that some strangers are my friends to get those shitheads to spend more money)

[@wynnefox]

That "Dread game" dude I just want to respond like Jimminy Cricket, "You're a Horrible Irredeemable Monster!"

[@EvennaDoesStuff]

This dude's the perfect mix of respectfully humourous but also serious when talking about topics that are meant to be discussed seriously.

[@petercaliver]

14:06 That "shut up" was so unexpected and out of character. The Click is so genuinely disgusted by this guy, and that's pretty understandable.

[@John_Weiss]

19:35 The Click is describing _perfectly_ how abuse works. Take what he says seriously here. He's spot-on.

[@Chib_Lee]

member

[@nekk-ra7080]

Though there are things I strongly disagree with Click about, the man's social intelligence is off the charts. He gives excellent person to person advice.

[@tinnitusintensifies]

@@nekk-ra7080if i may, in a civil manner, what do you disagree with?

[@nekk-ra7080]

@@tinnitusintensifies No one is obligated to agree with everything someone else holds as their opinion. I fully acknowledge people have different backgrounds, upbringings, beliefs, lifestyles, etc , but as long as we can agree to disagree and behave in a civil and decent manner towards each other, that's what truly matters. So stop looking to start a problem that wasn't there to begin with.

[@tinnitusintensifies]

@@nekk-ra7080 i was not wishing to start a problem? i was simply curious about what you did not agree with him about. i am capable of civil discourse.

[@dustdust9508]

"mmm your anatomy" is a pretty nice compliment towards an artist

[@PippinFisherreed]

Yeah it would be. If someone says to me “oh, that character’s hands look good!” I would be very happy.

[@Myder_Dragon]

Even when I was in my deepest darkest time being "red pilled" I couldn't imagine doing something like the Dread Game. I'm so glad I got out when I did, less I actually do something like that

[@eleanorcooke7136]

What is the dread game? Is it basically just emotionally abusing your partner to force them to be connected to you?

[@Myder_Dragon]

@@eleanorcooke7136 yeah basically

[@CupidGaming522]

14:34 Even villains have morals, this guy is just a Monster.

[@Beckibird]

The guy controlling the girl with abandonment issues sounds like the situation I just got out of but he’s still trying to control me with not letting me see our son. He physically, mentally, emotionally and verbally abused me and I had to call the cops on him but he didn’t get arrested

[@BlueTressym]

I'm so sorry you've bene through all that and are still having to deal with that toxicity. It's so wrong that police constantly trivialise SO-linked abuse. Sending best wishes.

[@Beckibird]

@@BlueTressym thank you I’m working on myself right now and I’m working on getting a place and a job since I’m homeless and unemployed but I’m free from him and I communicate through his mom

[@aether1284]

That mom that was saying her daughters dating will be supervised is going to realize that's how she leaves that household at 18, or goes to college and never looks back lmao

[@BlueTressym]

I feel there is a high chance of Daughter showing up on r/EstrangedAdultChild soonish.

[@sassylittleprophet]

That mom commodifying her daughter for her future partner by "protecting her virginity" or whatever, my parents did that to me. They joined a Christian fundamentalist cult when I was 6, and I was homeschooled my entire life. My siblings and I were extremely isolated, partially starved, and physically, emotionally, and psychologically abused. I was low-key arrange-married when I was 19 to an abusive man who was also homeschooled and raised in the cult (though he wasn't as isolated as my siblings and I were). Fortunately for me, I left the cult after 16 years, and left him shortly before our 3rd year anniversary. I am surprised that I can function and socialize as well as I do. After divorcing him, I had to go completely no contact with my family (including my siblings) because interacting with them was, and still is, too triggering for my mental health. I don't want to imply that this mom is abusive to the same horrible degree my parents were. However, from my experience as a "sheltered" kid, I think it's so important that parents both protect their kids while allowing them room to breathe. If you hold them too close, they might not want to be in your embrace ever again once they have the opportunity to live on their own. Moderation is the key.

[@darcystuart-russell1682]

12:38 Siri says that “dread game” is psychological abuse 💀

[@puggyv6904]

You're my transition goals Click!

[@_pachycephalosaurus_]

FR

[@ChaoticRabbitOfCaerbannog]

Relatable

[@chesterismissing]

So real

[@you_are_being_judged]

This might be the nicest compliment someone could get

[@saddestcatboy]

real

[@mrmimeisfunny]

3:12 How romantic. Getting married while the Luftwaffe is attacking.

[@foxmcld584]

Yeah I was also sitting there thinking 'Wait what made WW2 marriages desirable, isn't your husband going off to risk death and forcing you into the workforce?'

[@Danap-mykaykat]

21:19 I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again- my parents are extremely counter culture, extremely sex positive and never had that weird “You must be pure!” Perverted mentality and I’m 28 (almost 29) and still a virgin- never even kissed anyone yet. Sure, I’m Asexual so it’s not that hard for me to be happy like this, but I was given choice of not being idolized for my chastity. Let your daughter not be chastised for intimate chastity, and stop salivating over her “purity”. I swear, the guys who think “The majority of younger women have had sex” have obviously never talked to a younger woman, because all my gal friends who aren’t married say the same thing

[@brokenprincessofhell4743]

Same with me. I'm ace, never had anything sexual never even my first kiss, while my mum had her first bf with 15 and basically always wondered why me and my sis are so late (sis had her first relationship with 18). The friends I had never seemed that interested in sexual stuff either, no matter the type of parents they have.

[@Lisabpp]

Wow I wish I had parents like yours, my parents are quite strict and close minded about a lot of things that I even have a trauma of getting in a relationship for how I see they react when my sister dates I want them to let me and my sister be free and chose whoever we want to be with and whatever we want to do with our life. I am still a minor but my sister is an adult and I want her to be happy with her partner.

[@luciferia.1313]

Though I am not Ace, neither am I in a strong religious culture ANYMORE, I am also still a virgin, and I am 18. Never kissed, or anything related to it. Way too busy with life to get even a chance to meet someone. On top of that, I'm rather introverted.

[@animeartist888]

My parents never did the whole "purity" thing either. My first (consensual) kiss didn't happen until 27. Ditto for my first intimate experience. If anything, that kinda attitude makes a teen MORE likely to participate in naughty things just because teens like to rebell.

[@plague_doctor0237]

@@luciferia.1313 damn it makes me feel better that I'm not alone in this

[@alexcovey1200]

16:27 i think he misunderstand what love is. They shouldn't need to beg you for love. You made a mistake and triggered a traumatic memory. They then essentially begged you not to leave them, and instead of comforting them, you immediately assume she is just manipulating you.

[@idiotically-everything]

I am astonished how my teen angst fueled oc couple have a healthier relationship than some real people. How did you get so lost in life that two characters who had a big fight over a misunderstanding that lead to murder handle it better than some of these guys. Nowadays, those two serve as more of a comedic relief when their arguments are so ridiculous, like "I gave you a key, why do you keep breaking in through the window?!" and the reason? "Aesthetics" How do these people manage to make those two disasters look normal?!

[@BlooMonkiMan]

Kekw

[@ruse_d_news]

32:34 Everyone Don't let that person near a school. I hope their local schools all have a restraining order.

[@JovanDacic]

That poster's perfect partner is a rubber doll with a racist flag t-shirt on.

[@_StarlightRose_]

"We can cry our lives away, but if they were here, they'd say 'go forward, you must keep moving on'" -Monty Oum

[@Idiotc]

I like the fact that you had this quote already ready so that you can paste it seconds after the video uploaded. Either that or you copy pasted it faster than lighting

[@_StarlightRose_]

@@Idiotc copy paste

[@db_524]

So true.

[@ngotemna8875]

"If life seems jolly rotten There's something you've forgotten And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing When you're feeling in the dumps Don't be silly chumps Just purse your lips and whistle, that's the thing Always look on the bright side of life" -Monty Python

[@cassieteschner4619]

Got to like the Monty quote.

[@Idiotdragon8]

16:00 I think this is an actual sociopath. It’s insane to me that there are humans that think like this

[@GyngeBread]

I honestly remember watching the video of the dad storming off when he found out he was having another daughter. I still stick by the opinion that he's scarring his kids by being so visibly disappointed with the fact he's getting a third daughter, because honestly he should be grateful to even //HAVE// a family. Also anything you can do with a son, you can also do with a daughter. The point of having younglings is to raise them to become stable happy adults who know that they're Human. Not many terrestrials have that... 😢

[@AngelEmfrbl]

No, you cannot do everything with a daughter that you can do with a son. They aren't identical and boys often physically will gain much strength over girls by 18. We don't even 100% think the same either.

[@Atlessa]

Name ONE thing you can do with a son that you can't do with a daughter.

[@ZalemMoon]

@@AngelEmfrbl You're saying these things but can't even give examples lol. I grew up playing basketball and other sports with my dad, he didn't go easy on me either, lost quite a bit but eventually learned to get a lot better because of it and had fun regardless. We did a lot of different traditionally "masculine" activities together, I don't know what could possibly not be done with a daughter. I'm not saying that the average woman is as strong as the average man, but we aren't dainty and delicate and weak either.

[@AngelEmfrbl]

@@Atlessa As boys go through male puberty, their muscles and bones get denser. As a result, they grow stronger overall. The result is many things like sports boys will out compete girls on. You can see this in track records. It doesn't mean a girl can't compete in sports, but she can not 100% compete on the same level as boys. This is where the gender seperation begins and why girls cannot do everything a boy can do As someone who found out the hard way how strong men were the day my brother strangled me without warning, there is no way a girl can compete. Boys are also more likely, though not 100% certain, to share "male interests" (though not certain). Boysa are bolder, etc. most of this amounts to biology, but if there is just 1 difference because of evolutionary biology and sexual dimorphism, then they cannot do 100% match to each other the same thing.

[@AngelEmfrbl]

@@ZalemMoon I haven't been onn line, but most are to do with interests, physical activates and competitive sport. Basically, guys end up physically stronger by 15% then girls after pubtery. This prevents her from being in the same league. But, if you can find one difference, then sure. You can say that theres something you can't do with a daughter you can do with a son. Although at 6 years old, note theres not much difference, again this is more later teens.

[@TuffMelon]

AI Robot Girlfriends are the higher probability of creating SkyNet than anything else.

[@paulmccartneyofc6883]

Skynut

[@archonfett]

or Stepford Wives, that ended well...

[@crwydryny]

"you'll never find another person like me" My ex used that exact phrase when i kicked her out. My response "good that's the point"

[@SingingSealRiana]

One of the Things I Love about click ist how He immedietly comments with lets Hope so! Like never finding someone like that IS the best Thing that can Happen To someone! Glad you got Out! Hope you are well ❤

[@crwydryny]

@@SingingSealRiana yeah, that was a couple years ago. Took some time to deal with the mess from her abuse but it's all mostly behind me now

[@mellisafan4470]

This video is very cathartic for some reason, mostly because of how you do an amazing job of verbalizing just how ridiculous all this misogynistic behavior is. Its always nice to hear it from another man. You have a new subscriber 😄 I really love your explanation about how psychological abuse works by the way, very on point! Sadly it reminds me of my one ex, who tried to be very nurturing at first but then started doing crap like stonewalling me because my genuine crying felt "manipulative" to him. Yikes. Glad I got out of there quickly.

[@Dysphoricsmile]

16:22 - subtle Illuminaughtii callout lmao 😂

[@ryshow9118]

23:30 I'm a grown ass man who works his ass off. I also happen to be in a relationship with a bad ass woman who does the same. I will never understand these dudes who are so fragile that any challenge to their "dominance" ruins their whole lives 😅

[@SeanStrife]

It's because they're so desperate to exert "power" and don't realize that this, ironically, gives the game up.

[@ryshow9118]

You're absolutely correct. Just made it to the ~28 minute mark and the talk about women's body counts and it's deadass the same thing. I've got so many insecurities but I'll be damned if I put any of them on the woman I'm with.

[@Narangarath]

That's because they don't want real life relationships with partners, they want to live out their fantasies exactly like they've imagined them.

[@rye3752]

I really like the way you're engaging more deeply with abusive stuff, I think it can help a lot people to reflect about their own encounters with toxic behavior (in themself or others around them). The goofy fun stuff is nice to have a laugh, but I really like the deeper dives inbetween.

[@Monius13]

Abuse in any form is toxic af. That "dread game" dude is absolutely mental and I hope that girl gets away from him. Then I hope he seeks help for this. Gah that whole post was infuriating. I do appreciate you breaking it up a bit and sharing your insights. You have great explanations and advice. Thanks as always for the vid.

[@Moist_MayoMan]

just realised my mother has done literally everything Click described of emotional abuse and manipulation

[@Caprabone]

Virtual *hugs* if you like.

[@ZenoSsj4Hero]

🤗

[@deabo1935]

🤗

[@genesisofthebetween]

Hope you get out of there then

[@m4yr4i]

Damz, that's one hell of a truth to realize. Hope you can do something about it man. Good luck.

[@ZillyArt32]

"Your anatomy looks amazing" is a huge compliment for artists, drawing anatomy is our worst enemy XD

[@TheGallantDrake]

It’s one small step from “upgrading” to a different gf to owning slaves. You’re already seeing your gf as an accessory, not a person…

[@roarchristensen9963]

15:45 when some one has a lack of empathy they are by definition a sociopath

[@SingingSealRiana]

. . . .depends, do they Lack IT in generell, Always, or can they disengage IT when IT does Not Suite then etc . . . Anti social personality disorder (psychopathy/sociopathy) IS Zero empathy, Not non for a certain Person . . . Pretty much everyone Person has the ability to disengage their empathy, thats how racism and victims blaming Work. Does Not mean everyone ever Had anti social personality disorder

[@roarchristensen9963]

@@SingingSealRiana its not that im disagreing with you but I can barly figure out what your saying in this comment im not saying this to be mean or invaladate your argument and if its abecause english is not your first languege then im sorry for this long ass reply.