Dating Coach Helps Software Engineer Meet Women in New York City

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⬇ MY LETTER TO ALL SUBSCRIBERS ⬇
The best… and I mean THE BEST part of my job is watching how I can take a normal person and give them the power to starts relationships with who they really want.
Whether it's dating their crush, or getting that six-figure job, making the right friends, or simply just learning to be one charming mother trucker, the thing I'm proudest of is my ability to turn people's social lives around 180º.
Today was no different. Mark, my student for the weekend, has never ever ever told someone of the opposite sex that he's attracted to them, let alone ask her out. And I put the pressure on...
...The one thing you didn't see is while Mark was talking to the last girl with the red hat, I was sitting right there behind her giving Mark the death stare (as he called it). I wanted him to know that this was his moment-he had an actual social coach helping him, and he should not pass up the opportunity to GROW.
I hope you can get inspired by Mark's growth over the course of these last two episodes. Ask out that crush, ask for a raise, invite people to a party at your house. Because the only way to grow is to do things you've never done before.
And always remember: Relationships are everything. 😉
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If you have any questions, message me on Instagram or TikTok 👇🏻
-Anthony
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[@TuxedoMasc]

My mans just needs a pair of glasses that fit to be honest.

[@TeaJayOne]

@Michael Cueva I agree, but aren't aviator frames just suitable for sun glasses?

[@ariel8535]

In the end of the video, you see Mark did change his glasses n it looks way better.

[@mikedecarlo9602]

this guy seems like such a good dude, honestly someone I could easily be friends with

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Mark is the best srsly

[@senyum0]

@@AnthonyRecenello what happens next?

[@ericdiniz6776]

He looks like Keith from the Try guys and his voice is almost the same as Keith’s voice too

[@katrin6388]

hes better looking tho

[@declanjunior7958]

Big difference from the first girl he spoke to compared to the last, He was way better in the second interaction. He went from 0 to 100 real quick tho .

[@AnthonyRecenello]

I was giving him the death stare off camera. He works in finance so he’s used to pressure. Lot of guys aren’t like that Declan.

[@sthoughtsarchive2791]

@@AnthonyRecenello lol that finance observation was spot on lmao

[@kenziecarr6358]

I’m a woman and I love watching your videos because they’re interesting and analytical, and also I find out things from a guys perspective sometimes. I know you mainly make videos for men, but I’d love if you could make a video for women some time!

[@Cristinawithac]

Agreed!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hey Mackenzie! First off thank you so much for those thoughtful words. Second-my channel is about to overhaul into have MUCH more female focused content!

[@kenziecarr6358]

Anthony Recenello Awesome! Looking forward to it

[@SquatSimp]

The last girl was a catch! She was cute, receptive, and the most genuine/comfortable with him in the conversation. The largest thing that stood out to me was when he said “I just don’t know how to flirt *and have her like me”* what I think you did a wonderful job of explaining was that it’s not about having them like you as much as it is about showing your true intent. I could definitely be more vulnerable as well in conversations and pay more compliments to everyone I interact with. Good video man

[@winterprimrose]

So much respect for Mark! He seems like a genuinely nice guy.

[@sthoughtsarchive2791]

Yow is that you on the pic? You look mad hot with the hair and the duck lip lol

[@elizabethkierere5806]

@@sthoughtsarchive2791 tf

[@authorbhattacharjee4957]

@@sthoughtsarchive2791 Bruh

[@okazakifriedtofu7393]

8:45 "you're pretty" "Oh OK so is eyerybody here" what an answer!!

[@marconino6945]

Bro but the cameras make her act differently for sure

[@JoeDiGiovanniIV]

I definitely would recommend to never mention anything about "making sure someone's number is real" after they give it to you. It comes off as though someone has been through that often, and comes off as slightly desperate, and unattractive. He probably had a rush of emotion at the end, and let that nervousness slip. Overall he definitely has improved so much.

[@elizabethkierere5806]

I would take it as a joke. It depends on the delivery I would say. I wouldn't see it as unattractive. Maybe that depends on the person.

[@ileanameraz7650]

I agree with you!!! Definitely avoid that comment

[@kayligo]

Agree!

[@thevagabondsageinthewoods]

This guy seems like he is innately happy. He smiles a lot and chuckles a good deal. He just seems uplifting to be around. Like he would enjoy be a little adventurous and laugh off the nervousness. He would be a fun and enjoyable date. Some girl will be happier when they meet.

[@Ladysalvador]

I grew up in the 90s and I remember guys approaching me to flirt, talk and ask me for my number. What happened today where these young men are afraid that if they approach a girl it will be creepy or sexual harassment? I have a 19 year old son and he won’t approach girls because he believes it’s a form of sexual harassment to flirt! He meets girls online in different countries to talk to via text. Which, there isn’t anything wrong with that as long as it’s not a catfish, but I wish he could walk up to girls and just talk to them! Thank you for coaching this young man! This is what the world needs today!

[@mikelitorous5570]

Our generation has been raised differently. Lots of content I’ve seen and others as well probably have too, is girls saying approaching them in public wanting to speak is creepy. That’s what dating apps and social media are for. I think some women prefer this because it’s easy to filter people out plus there’s no worry of having to have a conversation with someone you don’t like. I do think the pendulum is swinging the other way. A lot of my friends who are girls or my friend’s girlfriends when I’ve spoke to them have said they prefer someone to speak to them irl

[@cheesebread9004]

I love your content bro. U teach guys to be more genuine in approaching girls instead of the game that other pickupline artists usually use. Thumbs up 👍

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Pickup artists are losers.

[@tropicalcandyland6266]

This is so real and down to earth! You deserve more recognition, dude. Also, can you make a video on Sam Clafin?

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Who’s that! Link!

[@samhenden]

@@AnthonyRecenello The guy who played Finnick in the hunger games series. I went to the same high school as him actually. He's a few years older did a meet and greet thing once, which was cool. All the girls went crazy.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Have you ever complimented someone on their looks and then asked them out?

[@elizabethkierere5806]

I think I've only ever complimented my friends and other girls but not boys. I'll work on that.

[@tgates99]

yes, it was scary but it went well =)

[@Proposal12]

It´s not that hard for me to compliment on looks , most females I would say get it a lot, however, I usually complement them more on a specific thing about them, if they are wearing a necklace for example that doesn´t look "generic" and follow up with a question about it i.e "does that necklace have a special meaning to you" or a small tattoo as well and give compliments more in that direction + conversation...Depends, if she has not so common eye color , I would make a statement +compliment about her eyes etc... Great clip enjoyed it!

[@gabrielguzman6018]

No because I feel like everyone does that and ahe might feel im like being every guy who comments on her looks

[@zchance]

literally have watched like 20 of your videos and already am dating this girl Ive been talking to for like 3 days lol you the man for real!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

That’s the purpose. Happy for you bud.

[@zchance]

Anthony Recenello you the man fr 😂

[@kore808]

I'm so happy he took the advice and changed his life. He seemed much more relaxed into himself in his update :)

[@katm7465]

this guy is exactly my type hahaha he can ask me out anytime. also his convo esp at the end was 10x better than most guys in my experience so hes really not doing too bad

[@thecabbageman2117]

Hey Anthony, I found you via your videos on David Dobrik and Thimotée Chalamet and I was particularly interested in your views about why embrasing your individuality, being passionate about the things you care about and not caring about people's opinion about you is so important in life and attractive to the people around you. When you talked about that, it really connected some dots inside my head and changed my views on who I should strive to be in my world. I was wondering if you could go a little deeper on these topics (mainly embrasing your individuality tho) and explain the ways and aspects in someone's life where you could improve this. (Maybe via some celebrity examples if you want) I really do appreciete the video's you've made so far and hope you'll get to reach more people!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hi Mattice, I suggest you get my free audiobook as it goes into detail on this topic. recenello.com/audiobook

[@kalamatajane]

This is so heartwarming. Love your whole show! How wonderful!

[@michaelcheng4985]

I can relate to a lot of what Mark is going through. I see a lot of similar mistakes I make and it's nice to see the interactions and followed by the analysis afterwards. Keep up the good work!

[@94deea]

I found your channel through a recommended video. I normally don't watch these kinds of videos because people make social relationships look like a game between people. I like that there is no manipulation. Instead you observe and talk about how to have a comfortable conversation with someone without a lot of the nonsense filler stuff many people use. As a lady, I can confirm that people who converse the way you're coaching this guy to are the kind of people I enjoy speaking to and getting to know.

[@andresu1234]

great series man and I’m glad it actually worked out really good for him

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks Andres. New guy next week!

[@eliyasara9786]

Thanks so much for this next episode Anthony!! Super interesting to see how you put your knowledge onto someone else, and how much more confident Mark became. And let just admire the NUMBER of subs you have gained in the last week or so. Dude, it's becoming exponential!!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks Eliya. Yes I wasn’t sure if having cameras follow us would make a difference. No difference. 🤘🏻

[@mc-ob7vp]

I fell in love with your videos! Binge watched some of them! I love how you srsly follow your clients around and actively try to push them to their limits and out of their comfort zone. You're so right about feeling fear because sth new is happening that one hasn't got used to yet. I really appreciate how you can apply those rules or tips to your normal life and not just for dating and therefore I as a young woman appreciated watching your videos too! Keep up the great work and may your channel get the attention it deserves!:) (ps: you are right about what we women look for in a man;) and I'm glad you educated your client on that and not just tell him how he has to act around women)

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Wow mocca that was so great to read. I can tell you're a thoughtful person and it shows. Hope to see more of ya around here. 🙏🏻

[@augustuscaesar9599]

Solid videos, man. Everything seems genuine.

[@Mars-ey8rm]

This was just so wholesome and feel good to watch! & Anthony you are so captivating - it is a pleasure to watch you be truly present in your coaching. ☺️❤️

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@toubeelo1979]

I think the thing that made his conversations end up being small talk is because he didn't expand enough upon his questions. Questions are fine, but it only starts the conversation, not carry it. He says "very cool" a lot after he gets an answer for one of his questions, and to me, the word "cool" is one of those words that brings down the level of the conversation. Just my opinion though.

[@ShubhamKumar-rb6ts]

Anthony you have a spectacular personality I learned many things through your videos thanks bruh for teaching us Great things.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Anytime. I'm trying to help people with relationships as much as I can.

[@savinorojas6836]

LETS GO MARK!!! You killed it man!

[@TheSarahmana]

Some of the advice would really work for any person, men or women. This is beyond dating. ❤️

[@eunami2070]

Loved this one!

[@brickchang1336]

I need more mark hes an absolute beast

[@giuseppesanna7240]

Amazing! The insights were really helpful, and it's also really cool to see Mark talking about a third date with a smile on his face. You really changed is life. I'm not going to comment on the subscribers anymore(so happy for you), it would be redundant 😅

[@giuseppesanna7240]

I guess that "not commenting on it" makes it a comment, but I couldn't resist ahahah

[@AverageLeoTv]

This video made me realize that I myself do a alot of small talks and not enough compliments. This was awesome!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

❤️

[@chiconapeacefulpath]

I'm totally loving their chemistry. Seems like it could grow into something long-term! 💜

[@hibyenow20]

Great tips!

[@onepiecebarca]

the first 2 girls were the problem, it was not his fault. They just didn't know how to interact in real life and they both said they like more "forward" guys who just ask them for the number. They apparently just know how to text and not how to handle a real conversation

[@AnthonyRecenello]

haha WHO KNOWS 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@anoldtimer]

Anthony Recenello that’s what was definitely happened.

[@katrin6388]

im not so sure about that? i feel like ppl who text well, talk well to. at least i do?

[@fabianbianan]

@@katrin6388 I can tell you that this is definitely not the case. How do you come to a conclusion like this? When texting your focus should be on framing and what kind of message you want to send. The social interaction takes part between the words. When talking to somebody in real life you need to also look at yourself and how you are acting. The soical interaction takes part in the physical world. I would even say that the message as a whole is less important than how you are acting including your body language when directly talking to others.

[@kkibela]

Seemed to me they were very upfront about what went wrong.. Small talk.. He was nervous and didnt relax enough to get beyond surface chat.. They were bored because they knew what was happening..

[@shannonbowling7215]

This is also one of your best

[@kayleighm5133]

I wish a guy would just come up to me and have a conversation with them, dating apps feel so unauthentic and I've stopped using them because of that reason.

[@NighthawkX02]

That's because they are even more superficial. You have nothing except good photos and hobbies, jobs, lifestyle. Which is something everyone pays attention to, but if that's the first thing people look when trying to date...then they're being superficial from the start. All those things are just a show off We all know why people use those apps, they want to date, but most of the time it feels forced for people. They have to put up an act, specially men. Women never do it. Really, I don't think they do, judging by the type of interactions men usually have with them... -Guy: hello, my name is "jack", how are you? -Girl: I'm good thanks -Guy: I see that you like pets, I have a dog! Its name is "cerberus" :) -Girl: Cool, I have a cat -Guy: ...I like cats too, what's its name? -Girl: Michi -Guy: ...so...

[@slavicgirlagency5290]

Smal and sincere compliments about the person it so good advice

[@sigma027]

Man, im late of 2 months. But your videos are gold. You deserve way more subscribers compared to the quality of your content!

[@ivankustic2457]

11:18, that little smile of hers is a giveaway. great job, mark :)

[@kevinrached4389]

Awesomeness video , you're really giving us the best advices . Btw , when is the next classic charm video dropping?

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Not for a while Kevin! Nobody watches them! 🤣

[@parabensamigojaeras9110]

Ok for real This was the channel that i needed I may not loose the fear to talk to girls but atleast i have legit content that i can rely on thx (by an introvert)😂😂😂

[@sanjaysingh77788]

Love the iconic bachelor Anthony

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hey Dev! I'm glad. It's the kind of audiobook to listen to many times.

[@georgeserrano1139]

Great video anthony

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks George :-)

[@marykatemeade8762]

You’re amazing for including an update to this video LMAO

[@AnthonyRecenello]

MARY KATE YOURE AMAZING :-) Would love to hear your thoughts about the episode. Getting female feedback is huge.

[@jenahiseli3897]

This made me want to be a more friendly person. Also Anthony you are still cute.❤️

[@connorkonen5770]

I’m curious, How does the camera work affect the interaction? Does it make people awkward or feel weird? It makes for a great show and I love how you do it and how you show the interaction, but I’m wondering about being filmed while watching the interactions happen and how that May affect an outcome. I’d be curious to see what you think on that

[@grsdjjggfss3373]

Yes

[@OutOfTheBoxThinker]

Today, the woman I have a crush on was wearing her hair untied for the first time since I met her. At some point she tied her hair again, after which I asked why she did that. "When my hair is loose, it hangs in front of my face too often, she said". I told her she looked better when her hair was untied. Then I was away for a while, and after that her hair was untied again. And it stayed untied for the rest of the day. This video is partially responsible for giving me the courage to speak up and mention her hair. Thank you for that!!!

[@AnthonyRecenello]

🙏🏻

[@anthonyr.1568]

An important advice for people who aren't used to flirting and getting positive reactions to it: a person can react well to your approach/compliment, but it doesn't mean that the magic is happening. Don't become needy or invasive. Each step at a time.

[@danny365gamz8]

Anthony u are a wise man

[@shaniadearmas9768]

I've watched so many of your videos today, i know want to see Hitch

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Which were ur fav?

[@shaniadearmas9768]

@@AnthonyRecenello i love the reaction videos, especially the uk show ones because your british accent is just too much 🤣 but they're actually so insightful. I'm not looking to date right now but thanks to you i will be prepared 👍🏻 I'm super awkward but you share a lot of tips in the reaction videos and I'm able to see what not to do 😅

[@afnopan6322]

Hey Anthony,can you make a classic charm video on Jared Leto? Great video as usual.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thanks Afno! Unfortunately I’ll have to pass on this one. Even though he seems to be loved by a ton of people, I just don’t like the guy for some reason.

[@afnopan6322]

Appreciate your honesty man

[@lukiso5734]

Flashbacks of when I said hi to a girl sitting in a seat in front of me with a very nervous voice 3 times while she didn't respond and then getting approached by 4 girls cus they thought I had a girlfriend cameback, auch, I should do so again tho, it felt amazing to just do it

[@joelmedina1874]

12:56 is that his stunt-double on the background? Hahahahahaha

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Omg

[@lilifitch1144]

Hi Anthony! I looove your videos. 😊😌 Are you thinking about doing the same kind of video but with women?

[@AnthonyRecenello]

100%

[@lilifitch1144]

Anthony Recenello yesssss🤩 can’t wait

[@castroirabradleys.4655]

In this episode his body language changed. It is much more still and purposeful

[@kevduck]

here before 100,000 subs

[@AnthonyRecenello]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 thanks Kevin I appreesh it

[@abbimorrell8831]

Hey Anthony, curious if u ever coach couples / relationships outside of the traditional man and women set up? And if so how you may find ur advice different ?

[@jenniegm3974]

He is so handsome but kinda shy. He is kinda cute 😜

[@erickarreola925]

One video I hope you do it the best way to dm a girl and how to keep the convo going the way technology is changing also human interaction is as well.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Thank Erick I’ll make that vid

[@icykindness]

Software engineers like to have everything planned out in detail tho. Don't think there's anything wrong with that, also don't think he's planning on telling any future girlfriend

[@ethananderson9156]

it’s 1:54 and i can’t sleep

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Lol

[@a.g.g9995]

I like the blond chick in the red hat. She was cool !

[@Abef]

I always heard complimenting a person's smile was shallow because it's something they were born with not something they control. But their outfit etc is better, but you said not to compliment their jacket etc?

[@leonardobarrios5497]

i felt that wanting something back from a compliment, now i'm noticing that i have give so much love that i need people to give me some back, specially when i trow cassual compliments, now i gotta try getting rid of that, any advice ?

[@emmanuelquintana9159]

I would really love if you react to cody strongs/angrypicnic videos

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Dude give me a link and I’ll look at it 👍🏻

[@emmanuelquintana9159]

@@AnthonyRecenello kzbin.info/www/bejne/qnLJaoh3i7eSbNk Thx, I'd really appreciate it

[@r.s.6736]

Please analyze Alton mason he has such a auta its crazy

[@AnthonyRecenello]

R. S. Can u link me a vid

[@r.s.6736]

Anthony Recenello kzbin.info/www/bejne/hWXMmKx4gLeef6M Check his ig @altonmason and Watch his shows like the LV, gucci and chanel one. He is a model and no actress but I really hope that there is enough information for you to make a video 🙏🏾

[@samia6528]

He's so cute

[@exxology1]

Women can feel obligated or indebted to a stranger if we say yes to drink right off the bat. Just ask her name & if there’s a good vibe/connection then offer to buy a drink..

[@RelationshipAdvocates]

I dont get it....the camera angle? isnt it obvious to the girl she's being filmed? is this truly candid or is it planned?

[@Boltrex100]

Cool

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Glad you liked iron man

[@bonychandlaishram8238]

Hello Zan perrion.

[@AnaS-of8ri]

Honestly the first two women he talked to were just not interested and you could already see that from the way they were not rlly focusing on him or asking him a question so I don't think it was rlly a matter of him doing smth wrong, it was more a matter of them not being interested

[@laurajoy1180]

Dude they don't know what their missing. Seriously you have a level of job security everyone needs, you have no clue how big that is. + you probably have that because of you listening to people when they give instruction, and you persevere. That shows emotional intelligence, and trust. It's freekin attractive, don't you ever doubt. Not trying to hit on you btw, I've got a family. It's just the truth.

[@maddidavis4705]

I mean, a loud nightclub isn't really a place where I'm wanting to make new friends - way too much stimulation. I'd rather dance and get closer to my own people in that environment.

[@Laura-pc7zk]

Can you review Diego Tinoco and Sierra Capri. They lowkey flirt all the time and tease their fans that their dating. There has to be something there

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Gimme a link!

[@jacobiskandermusic]

His voice and talking style reminds me so much of sped-up Elon Musk

[@sverreaarnes9164]

Iknew this guys voice was similar to someone! The way he laughs and sometimes talk is identical to Elon Musk :D

[@esradogan112]

This guy is attractive , why does he have such trouble ? I’m confused 🤷‍♀️. Maybe he just needs to get better fitted glasses ?

[@SIMEN480]

The fact that he dont turn his upper body, even in the sligthest towards the person he is talking to bothers me sooo much... and all this laughter

[@teresamichellestevens4836]

He's so cute! He should come and talk to me

[@flower656]

This girls seem rude and not trying to make a conversation.! Yeah , yeah , yeah ! Omg how many times yeah yeah

[@artsyswarley]

Dude the first two girls were so annoying. Like anytime he asked them a question they just answered it with yes/no or good/fine. How is someone supposed to ask you about the things that interest you if you're giving him literally nothing to work with.

[@mahdidi96]

Dudes like this guy are the backbone of society, yet 24 and cant get a fucking date.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

He’s in a relationship now so 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@mahdidi96]

@@AnthonyRecenello good for him man, hes a champ. But in america people like him are called nerds or dweebs, socially outcasted. You go to other countries and this guy would be a catch! I think this is an unhealthy thing to have in a culture.

[@tusharadhikary8785]

👍

[@sergii_real_estate]

1) He gotta man up. I understand he is software engineer, but he needs to come out more manly appearance wise and more self aware as a man. It feels like he is a tool in this world when he should be an individual living in his own universe. 2) Too much intent, he is hitting right way and it's noticeable and he got creepy look. Sometimes it's a good strategy, but not for his personality. He gotta approach with neutral talk and if it goes well to switch up to show his interest. 3) Small talk is a bitch. It's extremely hard to find the way how to switch it to more humorous or meaningful but you MUST do it. 15 interviewing type of questions will get any woman bored unless she's super into you, which is not his case.

[@karthiksubramaniam366]

This guy sounds exactly like Elon musk lol

[@pcyadrian]

Bothers me so much how he wears his glasses

[@MsVictoriaWolfe]

I hate all these questions

[@sarahdestree887]

How does this guy have trouble with woman he is hot

[@oIJustForFunIo]

The conversations are staged, right? That's pretty sad...

[@god-_-willz2904]

This Guy needs to learn about the blackpill

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Hey bud. I’ve been helping men recover from black red purple pills for the past fifteen years. So many get into it because of sadness, and the pills just make them angry and self righteous. But it never actually makes any of them happy with women and people in general. Pill Boiz spend more time on Internet forums hating people while charmers are spending all of their time dating women. You don’t have to make the jump right now. Just keep watching my vids peripherally and when you’re ready to come on over and leave the dark side, I’ll be here for ya. 👍🏻

[@Equitable_Street_Access_SF]

The first two women seemed kinda snobby. I did not get a good vibe from them.

[@xian7205]

Don’t compliment people with the expectation of gaining something for yourself. If youre complimenting someone with the hopes of communicating just how good of a person you are, it’s very insincere.

[@TheMoonRain]

This guy like the girl because "shes pretty", hence, the crappy love life.

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Boom

[@thenoblemute7669]

Okay but its true that initial attraction is mostly physical and when your walking into a situation where your don't know anybody, people who come off as attractive are the ones you will gravitate towards .

[@sukirtipokharel952]

It really bugs me the way that he wears specs. Is it only me?