DATING IN LONDON | AFRICANS, OH!

[@Crixus5927]

Not putting lipstick on at the table isn't inherently an African thing, it's also a British thing. You got to the bathroom to sort your face out.

[@ItsKells]

Oh please

[@bebesheke1061]

@Gbenga Alabi , correct. It's called etiquette. I was born and raised in West Africa and have been living in the UK for over a decade. A woman does NOT apply makeup at the dinner table. It would throw our men off. Hi to the bathroom and fix yourself. But then, the concept of etiquette is lost on some people.

[@xyz2121]

The presenter has not learned the basics of etiquette. It's a foreign concept to most Americans.

[@xyz2121]

The presenter has not learned the basics of etiquette. It's a foreign concept to most Americans.

[@YellowSynth]

Black women you do know it's okay to not love us black men right, we wish you the best and whatever makes you happy all the best, just leave us out of your talks thank you

[@Gtdmilon514]

Honestly these American women act like we don't have a whole continent and the Caribbean filled with beautiful black woman who will respect us

[@brightestmoments101]

You know the problem with this video? The use of African. I'm pretty sure the person, or guys you meet were from a particular country not just wanted he continent. I think people accuse you, because you didn't say what country he was from.

[@ItsKells]

+Andreia Neto I did mention a specific country in Africa in this video :) several actually

[@yamulambapretorius753]

It is necessary to say from exactly what country, a man hails from. Remember Africa is a continent not a single country.

[@livelife5947]

Yamulamba Pretorius And there are tribal differences too.

[@littleblacklawyergermanbla2008]

waouh you have a lot of experience girl with AFRICAN

[@inspectornova1871]

BrightestMoments : sorry but you really are just “rumbling” what exactly are you trying to say madam?

[@redhot663]

I think the UK in general promotes individuality a lot more than America does. In America everyone belongs to a certain box, race and stereotypes are really prominent in American society, being black means you fit into a particular category or lifestyle. Not in London my dear, people are very independent with their views, unique and separate, no matter your race. There is more unity in things like what part of London you grew up or what school you went to or what music you listen to and other things, and people group themselves without involving race. Within the each race there are so many different languages, cultures, religions, morals and behaviour. Even within the white race, British people often direct more racism at other Europeans such as the Polish or Germans, than Africans or Asians. And a Nigerian Hausa might have more in common with an Asian Pakistani than a Nigerian Igbo, for example, due to religious similarities. There is not any strong unified British culture that people attach to so everyone just does their own thing. But the individuality in a way brings unity, different races are brought together because you don't feel the need to always stick with your own kind.

[@makehumanitygreatagain8128]

You're right. Only unintelligent buffoons love dealing with other people on the basis of the boxes they can convienently put them in. Americans in their braggadocious arrogance just tend to do it more unabashedly.

[@jasminepearls1047]

redhot663 We also identify by culture

[@scarba]

I have to say as a British person I’m shocked at how you thought skin colour is the same as identity. I’m white British and I would never think I would be a good match with a Russian guy because he’s white. American and African cultures are extremely different as are Europeans and European Americans. Your identity is where you come from not skin colour. I live in Germany now and black Germans are GERMANS and that’s it. I understand why Americans are obsessed with race because of your history and it’s really sad how it’s kept the people divided. I think America is living in a bubble and doesn’t know what the rest of the world is like at all. It’s not so diverse in America because it’s American culture over there. I hope you can travel and live abroad again, especially if you learn another language you learn another way of seeing the world too. It’s truly amazing. I watched your latest video and it was pretty good but stereotypes British. Americans think we are posh and intelligent but you haven’t travelled round the cities and countywide to see how unbelievably diverse the UK is from city to city and the four countries within the UK. You are thinking of rich people and of movies. It’s nothing like real life. British and Americans assume we are going to be similar because we both speak English but we are just as different or even more so than British and Dutch for example. Anyway, your videos are very interesting to see an American perspective.Btw I have a black German friend here and she says the racism here is like she’s asked more often if she’s paid for her bus ticket and a black German guy I know, he’s only 21 said the police ask him what he’s doing at the train station because they think he’s selling drugs so it’s stereotyping him because of what some African immigrants do here at the train station. He never has to fear of police violence though. There’s lots of interesting American KZbinrs living in Germany comparing the cultures, so interesting, check them out. Lots of love from Germany 🇩🇪

[@ItsKells]

Thanks for the comment! Two things I just want to clarify one being somebody whose family is actually from Jamaica I always knew the difference between being Afro Caribbean and African-American so I’m clear that same skin color does not equal same culture. I thought I made that clear in this video. Also in my Harry and Meghan video I did make it clear that I was referring to the British tabloids press and not every day British people so I do understand the difference between the posh pseudo intellectual British persona and the regular every day British bloke. Anyway thanks for watching and love to Germany!

[@yamulambapretorius753]

Hey Kells! Africa is a continent with more than 50 different countries, with thousands of different ethhnic groups. So please to compare African-Americans who are no more than 45 million to a continent of more than 1 billion people is being unreasonable, don't you think? By the very few African men, you've dated, doesn't at all represent a much larger of Africans. If I dated you, we'll get along just fine.

[@Victoria-bo9xk]

She's too simple minded to care. Let her alone.

[@Plumduff3303]

My ex African girl friend said she would only date outside African men because they dont treat women that well...I'm sure there's good in every one..

[@akimmwendapole87]

young lady dont be ignorant ..the african men you dated which countries did they caome from? An African man from Zambia is different from an african man from Ghana, Cameroon, South Africa, kenya, Nigeria. Each country has their own culture. Generally southern african men are more calm than west african men.

[@ItsKells]

Akim mwendapole By starting your comment with "young lady don't be ignorant" I thought let me calm down, may he/she is going to contribute a valid point to the conversation. You have not. You have said nothing that wasn't mentioned in the video, so what exactly was the point of this comment? To get attention?

[@SweetSpeaks]

+Akim mwendapole Stop being so dramatic. You just said that south African men are more calm than west African men. Above, another African man said that second generation Africans are more sought after by women of all races and that west African men are in the top three groups for academic achievement. Even more "African" men are placing themselves on a separate level than the "African" men who are "fresh off the boat". You men are making all of these distinctions between "this type of African man" vs. "that type of African man", but you don't want to EVEN CONSIDER the fact that the African men who SHE MET while in London were exactly the way that she described. Africa is a CONTINENT and just like it would be ignorant for someone to say something negative about ALL Africans, it is just as ignorant to not concede that there are SOME men on/from the continent of Africa who may have behaved in the manner that she described.

[@ItsKells]

+Sweet Speaks perfect point!

[@keishagyei]

Do yourself a favor and don't date African men!!!!

[@preciousisiguzo2052]

South Africans are the BEST i am dating one

[@Asaph-n9j]

Being Americanized is not necessarily synonymous with being Westernised.... couldn't that be a factor?

[@makehumanitygreatagain8128]

Americans don't know how much they just don't know about the world. When you don't know that you don't know. You think what you think you know is all there is to be known about an issue. I've learned to just smile and keep it moving. Human beings are generally that way. It's just that American culture facilitates the worst parts of human nature.

[@jasminepearls1047]

Make Humanity Great Again This woman has been to Britain but ok

[@faboge]

lol

[@akino.3192]

People from different parts of Europe have different cultures too. What's new?

[@ceiliaeben7311]

Did you date 54 African men from all 54 countries? Interesting! It is a huge continent. We owe it to the public to educate them appropriately. I am from Africa. Married to a Dutch man. Dated several Cameroonians, I cannot draw such a conclusion. They were all so so different. Well, like you Said, it is your opinion.

[@gregoryglass9040]

Like the french too we have a list so do you but understand we black people over here is very different

[@gregoryglass9040]

This is with love sista

[@MsDesiree39]

@@gregoryglass9040 ah yes, the slavery crap u pple can't stop talking about. smdh. AFRICANS sold their pple inti slavery fir shit they needed and they are still doing it, this time in Libya. foh. And u can say whatever u want, africans can't do shit with independence and are dying to get into Europe. Get real. i understand where she is coming from, it;s easier to date someone who is easier to relate to rather than someone u can't.

[@missebene2007]

Cameroonian men are bosses and they shout very loud you can hear them from distance

[@JaeVoris]

One big issue found with the yanks is, they date foreigners without understanding their backgrounds. Because they meet in common places in the yanks, partake in maintstram activities, they forget there is a cultural difference. Outsiders adapt but insiders struggle to adapt. Example, African man can eat corn break and collard greens without issue, but reverse its a challenge.

[@henshawosong5469]

I am going to agree with everyone that disagree with with ur use of Africa. We are the most culturally diverse continent. I am from Cameroon and we only 24million population with 200+ ethnic groups speaking different languages. Generally Nigerians which also has about 250 ethnic groups in about 170 million population are different from Cameroonians. Like people don't understand the true diversity of Africans. Fr Fr. Maybe knowing his tribe might be to much of a stretch, but u could atleast mension their nationality

[@deborahflorence2332]

I support you. Nigerian African men are bossy and outspoken for the most part. I was engaged to one and he and his friends were UGH with respect to "respecting" women!

[@missebene2007]

African men are BOSSY

[@mcrglobecast1703]

Does she know that Africa is a continent with different countries and different cultures

[@ItsKells]

No shit, Sherlock.

[@theonly6359]

Mcr Globecast Nope!

[@happynappyable]

African is a continent with very diverse cultures . Which African societies have you interacted with ?

[@shirwajama2066]

First of all how did I get here from African Jazz? So you think african women are docile? I am terribly disappointed young lady!

[@ItsKells]

Aww, that's unfortunate for you

[@ItsKells]

+AON2013 not sure of your point here but yes I am for men bringing masculine energy and women, of any culture, bringing feminine.. Not to "catch" but as a general rule

[@JonathanB258]

Blackest knight I could not have out it better myself !

[@livelife5947]

Well everybody's of African decent but everybody's culture is different depending on country, tribe, class & sometimes religion.

[@ParadoxReport]

We are not all African

[@kunleadebiyi3390]

#Katice Harris You mentioned Africans you've dated aren't smart and lack social or communication skills???? Pls elaborate. you also mentioned others wanted to Africanise you please in what way?? Kindly she'd light! But mind you any African who tries that hard to diffuse his culture with you really liked or loves you period!! And mainly saw you as a wife material but you didn't get it sista!!. For a multicultural relationship to work, you must understand where the man is coming from culturally to understand certain values and behavioral responses he holds by virtue of his Africanness. You only wanted to show him your independence and assertiveness without compromising via cultural education. African Society and culture is "Collective " in cultural relativity if you cite Geet Hofsteed's scale while much of the west(Usa, Uk, etc) is "Individualist " and African marriages are close knit once you marry, you marry the whole family period! This helps for mutual benefit of all either morally, financially, morally or socially. Instead of sponsoring divorce in disputes, family steps in each time to chastise erring party irrespective of if it's their child or not. How would you behave to parents of your husband if he was African if you don't understand their norms, values etc??? Cause the American media has demonized Afro-American women as sluts, heady, morally loose!! Most African parents want their kids cause of these negative stereotypes to run away from Afro-American women! You can date them, but don't marry them they can't stay in marriage etc???? !!! Imagine

[@jasminepearls1047]

Most African men want you to cook clean and don't talk back they treat women like children and archaic. I think she is Jamaican-American not AA but still American so they can't be macho and aggressive. I've dated a Ghanian he was a sociopath. It's West African men who need to learn they need to get out of the stone ages. They come off abusive and crazy.

[@ItsKells]

+Nnenna Amadi no one said that lmao. Exaggerate much? Oh the drama.

[@angelaparker3477]

thank you

[@makehumanitygreatagain8128]

She's American. Therefore, she's used to smashing her culture on you and not even realizing she is doing so. She accuses the person of not being "smart and terrible at social communication outside of their culture" but then goes on to say "They put on a different attitude based on the people they're around". What you are in fact dealing with in her is a narcissistic unaware idiot whose only way of interpreting her experiences with other people is in a manner that absolves her of any responsibility for her role in her interactions. What an utterly idiotic chick. Refering to Katrice Harris that is.

[@jasminepearls1047]

Make Humanity Great Again African men impose their culture on American women which makes no sense because you cant come to another country imosing your mentality

[@aqeelmorgan8873]

Can you talk about if possible the British black women? In my experience there were so many intelligent attractive black women in London. It was awesome! I can't wait to go back. I am from Atlanta btw, and there are a ton of beautiful black women there but I didn't bond with a lot of them on an intellectual level

[@maxmillianflinstone8655]

so you are saying your standards are too high for an African man

[@mzfeisty1554]

She didn't say that...

[@captainmilondzo2390]

@@mzfeisty1554 that's pretty much what she said in a degrading way actually

[@mzfeisty1554]

@@captainmilondzo2390 I may have to listen again. But can you tell me what in patrticular stood out to make you feel so???

[@toboreyalaju9660]

She didn't say that. Some African men do have issues

[@edwardromain6587]

I'm a african born in the uk and I'm proud to be from African heritage

[@ItsKells]

Yess be proud! So much to be proud of!

[@theTENISHAcampaign]

+Kells , Im just gonna leave this here: Please continue to make the videos of your experiences exactly how you see fit. There are people that are commenting that you make generalizations and etc... Trying to "regulate" how you communicate. They are just wearing their ass on their shoulders. Truth: when you say "African", I do not know which country or culture you're speaking of, but if I wanted clarity, I would simply ask you in the comments. But instead of requesting clarity, they would rather judge and shame you for (very politely) sharing your experiences. And side note, these are the same people that would be offended if it were done to them. Or they simply would not make a post about their experiences out of fear of being judged.

[@ItsKells]

Hahaha thank you! My channel will continue on, no shame in my life experiences that I choose to share here on KZbin. Strangers with their strange unwarranted opinions don't phase me! Thanks for your support however, so lovely!

[@kristofb5013]

Wtf Africans are different. That's like talking about Europeans and not distinguishing between English and French, even then it depends on where they're from (north, south, city or countryside).

[@martiwaterman1437]

Putting on lip gloss at the table would be a no-no in some Caribbean cultures, too.

[@martiwaterman1437]

It would be viewed as impolite (poor table manners) and subtly sexually suggestive.

[@ItsKells]

+Marti Waterman by prudes

[@OneHappyChappie2]

Just because someone thinks something is rude doesnt mean they are a "prude". Its called difference in culture. As a "classy" person you should understand that the things that people consider rude or impolite are different and you should expect culture shock and it shouldnt make you go out and make a video with shady nuances against "African" men. Your video is mischievously trying to make African men seem unreasonable because they are not used to women putting on lipstick at the table. They were probably also experiencing culture shock at your actions, as innocently oblivious of the possible connotations as you were. I am sure some men in the US would also find it rude depending on the household they grew up in.

[@Glad2BGolden]

Marti Waterman It’s basic universal table etiquette. Same in America, accept its taught among the educated upper class.

[@Glad2BGolden]

It's Kells It may be out of touch and prudish but such small things reveal certain things about your education and character. I know in America we have become a culture of “chill.” But anywhere else and even in certain American societies; table etiquette is watched very closely to ascertain who you are and if you really belong there. As Black Americans we are not very discriminating people. We don’t break people down in terms of who they are and what they bring to the table. Much of the world including Europe is very classist. I’m sure you have run into the class issues in England.

[@POINT_OF-CORRECTION]

actually, dating an African comes with certain considerations. As a matter of fact, most Africans don't talk too much and they have hard time getting along with extroverts. meanwhile most culturally westernized (regardless of color or race) ladies are extroverts and so there is this sort of conflict in communication between ladies of western culture and African men in relationship wise. sometimes, just a request from an African man may be mistaken to be a Demand to a typical westernized lady. and also most culturally Africanized men mistakenly take a sincere expression of thought or action and reaction from a culturally westernized lady to be nagging or disrespectful. if there is a breakthrough in communication, best believe everything else can work out.

[@ItsKells]

+obytrys good points here

[@philipking1970]

Me being an Afrikan born and raised her in America I have no problem with being with an African American woman. As a matter of fact I prefer them first over Afrikan women. But my issue is people tend to rush into relationships without understanding what they’re getting into. An African and African American union apropos to relationship will be a clash of cultures. Compromising is comprehensively pertinent to find that solid common ground. Teach your African man your African American culture while you learn his.

[@benjaminbaiden8411]

Girl from the way you set the standards. Looks like you will be in the market for a long time.

[@jemimahshekinah-shalom9758]

Benjamin Baiden: Just my thought.

[@jmc1771]

my wife from kenya and her friends have expressed many times that they avoid Kenyan men because their views of gender roles

[@ItsKells]

+J Mc i find that true for African men in general

[@jaymt1982]

It's Kells see in your video you say you don't want to make generalisations but you continue to say things like African men ...in general are like this or like that. That's prejudice. You don't know all of us or all our cultures. My culture is matriarchal not patriarchal so basically that means the women rule. So the gender roles you speak of here don't apply. You want to make it seem like because you are western you are more urbane and worldly while Africans from African are somehow uncouth. That's really disappointing.

[@ItsKells]

Lol 😂

[@jaymt1982]

rdokoye African cultures are diverse and not the same. So when you say men and women have assumed roles which roles are those? They may be vastly different depending on what tribe you speak of. My culture is matriarchal not a patriarchal. So women assume a more leadership role within the society and culture. So your assertions are borne out of ignorance just as hers are. Ignorance and prejudice. Another thing yall do is act like African culture is set in stone and is unchanging and unaffected by what happens in the rest of the world which is also a misconception. My mother was a Surgeon and a feminist and my little sister is a surgeon and a feminist now and even in tribes in which tradition is more patriarchal women attaining education and demanding equal rights is altering the way societies in Africa function and the roles of sexes in those societies just as it has everywhere else. Will it produce the exact same results maybe not but has it changed hell yeah!

[@jaymt1982]

rdokoye Lol hahaha you are clearly an ignorant idiot. Just coz you are African doesn't mean you haven't internalised silly stereotypes about Africans which you clearly have. Read up on Lala and Bemba culture stupid. You ask if I know what the definition of matriarchal means but don't define it yourself further exposing your idiocy here I will define it in short form for your inept ass. A Matriarchy or Matriarchal society is one in which women hold primary positions or roles of power and rights over property at the specific exclusion of males in Lala and Bemba culture inheritance of political position and property is passed down from the mother. Women hold prominent leadership roles and have been and currently are queens and or paramount chieftainess. So the roles of women in relationships and in the social hierarchy is different. So sit your dumb ass down.

[@steveladore]

Hello, i find it somehow funny that you said in the video that you don't want to make any sort of generalisation, but i find it hard to believe just by reading the title of your video i:e "AFRICANS, OH"...you've met what..like two or three Africans and you feel comfortable to give that title...it's a pitty, i mean, i am a Cameroonian ( central Africa ) born and raised, my mom always said to my sisters that a woman's first husband is her job, and that is how i was raised, in our household we were required to do the same chores regardless wether you were a boy or a girl, and never in a billion trillion years i would marry a lazy woman that is not independant.Africa i so much diverse, do you even know that there are some places in Africa where women are the head of the household? they are the one marrying the men and the kids belong to them and their families Now what i also get in your video is something that i found in let's say some modern day so called independant woman, where some of them say they are the equals to men but in their actions they don't really act like it, i mean they will speak or should i say shout louder than you, and they often tend to think they are always right, never wrong, they expect the man to open the door for them, pay the bill during the first date, to propose to them,they will tell you that that's a man's role, but as soon as you tell them if it is my role to do that then your role is to cook for me, boy oh boy, they will scream, shout, call you all sorts of names. They want to be the bosses in their relationships....but guess what the same way you are an independant woman, so i am an independant man, i make my own money, i know how to cook my own food, iron my own clothes, i know how to dress and look hot, sweet and nice, i know how to clean my house and keep it neat, so if for you this is machism, so be it but for me it's called EQUALITY!!!

[@SweetSpeaks]

+lonely me But she was talking about the Africans that SHE met while in London. She wasn't talking about ALL African men in Africa.

[@steveladore]

what does the title says to you???

[@SweetSpeaks]

lonely me What does the CONTENT of the video say to you???

[@steveladore]

ok...i see....answering a question with another one...have a nice day!!!

[@SweetSpeaks]

lonely me You too!!!

[@Elle9228000]

In some circles it is considered rude or lack of proper social etiquette to dress at a dining table whether it's fixing your hair or face especially if you don't know the person(s) you are with very well.So I don't think these men are strange. I can understand if it's not something that bothers you or you are just unaware that some may consider it unlady like. However you mentioned that you handle yourself with class and maturity, so I guess they expected a higher standard from you. With that said its not a big deal so I can see why you would not have a problem putting on lipstick at a table on a first date, as our culture in the USA isn't as "stuffy" with these minor things. Life is just too short to play pretend. I have reapplied with friends and family so please know I am not Judging, just giving the prospective they maybe coming from.www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-mirza-grotts/lipstick-etiquette_b_1540157.html

[@ItsKells]

+Elle Elle thanks for the comment and link

[@huh8974]

great video. Africans are "pushy". my parents are from Madagascar but I'm an Americanized African black man. I noticed u touched on colorism and intra-cultural differences a little between Africans

[@jemimahshekinah-shalom9758]

@@ItsKells there is independence and there is independence. With your outlook in life, I am not sure why you"ll be with any type of African man, be them African-African or African born and raised in the Western hemisphere. No African man irrespective of his background diaspora or not, would appreciate independence in their face. The relationship wouldn't last even if it leads to marriage. There are ways to be independent stylishly. Life is about compromise. It depends on what your want and what your end game is. About touching up lip on the table, most people will rather excuse themselves to do that. Maybe, that is the modern way to carrying oneself. We are in an age that anything goes, but some people still believe in standard. Each to its own. From what you have narrated in this video, if I were, I'll stay aware from African men, probably indeed black men. Most black men don't appreciate in-your -face feminism or independence. True, African men could be old school. There's nothing wrong with old school, it a choice. This world is so confused these days with all sort of social issues.

[@johntuns6882]

Absolute rubbish!!

[@Gtdmilon514]

These are the same people who cry racism but turn around to discriminate and stereotype us Africans for just having a different culture.

[@johnconnersnr9046]

A Bo is a Bo Homie

[@streetsofgold378]

🇨🇲 and 🇳🇪...i am African American...there is a language and cultural barrier...african men are nice but can't handle if you are not respectful to their headship and your attitude has to exhibit good energy but they also want a harem of women.. One is not enough for the African Man or African American Man. Real talk.

[@arcsys]

Am glad you gave a disclaimer on generalizations. I can assure you within a Single Country in Africa, inter-tribal dating itself is a challenge. A quick search on the population of Blacks in the US yields something close to 50 million people. That is the population of a single African Country, like Kenya. Forget the fact that we have 54 countries. Now imagine the character diversities you find in Blacks from the East Coast to the West Coast, Southerners, Those from different economic classes and any more divisions that exist. Within Kenya itself (Am Kenyan by the way), the inter-Tribal diversity is so high you would meet two people with completely different temperament but they are all Kenyans. Humans, even from the same family naturally come in different shapes and forms therefore the samples you dated can never represent Africans, let alone the countries from which they come. Some say West Africans, especially Nigerians, are mostly abrasive and bossy. I know two who are the exact opposite of that. If you dated them and based your deductions on them, those who believe otherwise would be on your neck.

[@jacksugden8190]

Been out with two African ladies, this was some years ago, they were full of baggage and created barriers. Never again, no matter how attractive they are, and dated an America lady, although the video poster here looked live, I can only be a friends person, as opposed to relationships.

[@gabrieladava9900]

Interesting video! I appreciate the disclaimer where you said you do not want to generalise, because that would be giving an inaccurate account. Africa is a vast continent and cultures differ, therefore men from different countries have different characteristics, even within the country, men from different regions have different views. I'm a 20 year old Mozambican and moved to England in the beginning of 2015. I must say that it is a whole different world, with regards to men. I have mostly been around Nigerian men, who are very different from what I'm used to. I have also lived in South Africa, which is next door to Mozambique, and there also dating is quite different from the Mozambican way. So it all boils down to who you find, we can't really clump them together and say African men are this and that.

[@ItsKells]

+That girl Gabi Agreed! That's why I made sure to add the disclaimer very clearly. Here I speak to only my experiences. Clearly I could never speak to the experiences of everyone in the world :) thanks for watching and commenting! Are you finding England?

[@secunatutoriais2537]

+That girl Gabi Great comments.

[@aquagal8645]

That girl Gabi, True, well said Sis...;) Love your comment...!

[@sanyuable]

what Kells said is true. We can't avoid generalizing. if over 50% of the pipo behave a certain way then its true to say so. It doesnt mean that everybody is like that , but majority. The truth is that most African men like dominating their women. Its not only africans but also pipo from asia and middle east. It was the same in Europe long time ago. So no offense.

[@missebene2007]

Mozambicans speak Portuguese but by your writings you speak English well

[@01blksheep]

I know you mean well, but you have a lot to learn dear.

[@ajendo]

Fela sang it: "I no be gentleman at all O, I be African man original" ...keep on searching

[@ItsKells]

Lol ok

[@alhadifarjalla]

Lmao, that's what we call it cultural differences, what's normal to you may be not necessarily be normal to other people. And no culture is superior than other be it western, african or Asian. Economics superiority might give one culture a temporary advantage but as sure as day and night another will take it.

[@ToniToussaint]

I may have scared away an African men. I guess as an American I was to forward. The guy was Nigerian( hope I spelled that right)

[@TanakaZoe]

when the term African is used it confuses me... I was born in the uk and live here yet still Identify as African(due to my parents)... So are u talking about Africans that have immigrated directly from Africa??? Cause many people who identify as African grow up in the uk and in my opinion have different personality traits to the ones you discussed.... but anyways great vid always interesting to hear different opinions on culture

[@jahmehkanhorn1063]

If you grew up in China or Japan. Wouldn't you be still aftican if your parents and you are Africans.

[@erinmccarthy4567]

love your insight thanks iam from Miami as well thanks again for your experience.

[@ItsKells]

Erin McCarthy Thank you for tuning in! Any topics you'd like me to cover in my next video? What would you like to hear about? Dating related or otherwise? Miami 305, baby! :)

[@erinmccarthy4567]

It's Kells wow thank you for responding. Yes how do the Brits think about Afro American women verses Afro Brit women

[@erinmccarthy4567]

It's Kells iam living and from Miami lakes.

[@lisanelson7937]

Very informative enjoy the video. Thanks!!!

[@ItsKells]

+Lisa Nelson i got you, sis 👍🏾

[@sherrisolomon8673]

Dang girl! Why did you disable your other video!

[@Glad2BGolden]

I enjoyed this video. It makes me realize that certain things are not being taught or passed down through the generations. Putting lipstick on at the dinner table is a sign of poor etiquette and unladylike. Not cultural. No offense intended. In the same category as blowing your nose, picking your teeth and licking your fingers during supper time. If I need to refresh my makeup I go to the, “power room.” I am Generation X. Raised middle class. These simple etiquette rules were taught in school, church and within the family. From what I hear it’s no longer taught in schools or anywhere else. Depending on class and education. Upper middle class to generational wealthy families still teach proper etiquette. I recommend attending etiquette classes it can be very helpful in creating a classy persona.

[@Gtdmilon514]

Exactly she doesn't realise that and not only that she forgets Africans are welcoming people that expect manners and respect i think this lady was raised in a family where they didn't teach her how to be a classy lady so she takes out her frustration on african man because they expected her to be a respectable lady.

[@kunleadebiyi3390]

Kells, please visit African churches in Uk, to at least get a broader spectrum of people to interact with prior to conclusion. How many African friends do you have in London ? Male and female?? I mean just good friends not dating that you enjoy their company?? If you like we could meet up

[@melindasummers7591]

oh girl..lol...preach. I got one straight from Africa and the learning curve is steep but I love him and its worth it. You do need to respect the culture though, that is very important.

[@littleblacklawyergermanbla2008]

You have to tell tell who you are in the first place. African guys who grew up there are very very different to others in America however love will still win if it's the one....

[@BestofafricaBestofafrica]

you absolutely right, I recently started dating an African man from west africa. Senegal. totally different is very aggressive, pushing, and totally different. plus his muslim so that another factor.

[@ItsKells]

+islandstyleafrica islandstyleafrica totally different culture, regardless of the exterior

[@BestofafricaBestofafrica]

True

[@secunatutoriais2537]

+islandstyleafrica islandstyleafrica you were just unlucky to date him. That's a particular case, wich cant be an element to prove the behavior of other men. Each case is a case.

[@ItsKells]

+Secuna Baio Cassama agreed

[@TinaE2957]

So here I am, late to the party, but this is what I can say, the African men I have known are providers and they see the value of having a wife, but they can be loud and aggressive with women and then quiet and polite with men. I don't get that??? I wouldn't go all negative with my assessment of them, career oriented - yes, present tense fathers - yes. But (just in my experience), emotionally supportive - No. And just to be completely honest, only 2 one from Gambia and 1 from Senegal, didn't fit this definition. And no I didn't date all these guys, mainly for the above stated reasons. Some will just be friends. And it's still good, we are all still finding our way.

[@ItsKells]

You shared some really good insight here Deltina, thank you! I can agree with you on the aggressive with women but warmer with men… That’s always been confusing. The emotionally supportive part can be missing which is a bit sad as well. But the provider and protector and the good father I’ve seen as well.

[@nejolo9563]

If you were in Atlanta some of your dates might have put on lip gloss themselves.

[@ItsKells]

+nejolo matrilo facts 💯😂

[@chimakalu41]

Lol hahaha

[@nicholasgreen4010]

Lol

[@Msa-di6ll]

Kells i am an African woman and your comment "Im not an African woman im American" is offensive.The fact that im an African woman does not define me as Primitive.There are African men and women who are very refined and westernized.

[@ItsKells]

+Val Msango i made no distinction abt class in words, nor in tone of voice. You're projecting your insecurities.

[@Msa-di6ll]

It's Kells I enjoy your videos but i have no insecurities dear!Understand im African....i just can't stand it when we are quickly told we are not westernized. The fact that i point out a statement you made i consider offensive does not class me as insecure.Not all Black Americans are dead beat Mums or criminals.There are educated Black Americans.I am a strong beautiful African woman so dont insult my intelligence talking to me about insecurities.

[@ItsKells]

+Val Msango I'll asked you to do the same. Don't insinuate that me stating a fact is actually me insulting Africans. I'm in no position to describe how Western you feel personally, but in reality Africans are not considered Western.

[@Msa-di6ll]

It's Kells Im not intrested in you being in a position to describe how Western i feel either.

[@ItsKells]

+Val Msango perfect! We're on the same page then because I could care less 👏🏾 take care!

[@foliwe]

In Africa the man comes first then the women second place no matter their economic status. that is defined by culture .If you don't get it. them you should never have a serious relation with an African man.

[@ItsKells]

+Kante Musima By most of their attitudes you can tell that is the mindset, but what African men need to understand is that in Western society men and women are generally equal, so they should never have a serious relationship with an American women if they feel "they come first". They seem to conveniently forget that abt westerners when beauty is around.

[@foliwe]

It's Kells your are very correct about the issue of equality in the western society. We Africa men are very aware of that. We even joke about it. So the question is who needs the order. I am very sure that about 90% of African men will only prefer African women. The order 10% are westernised Africans who are not different to African American. I want you to understand that African women with westernised mindset have issues finding a good relationship as well. Am not trying to say that western(black) women can't have a good relationship but looking on facts that 80% of black American women are single,that is problem. So maybe western black women look into this issue of equality in the society. Maybe it can't work for black people. maybe it's just a white man's thing. Hope you are not offended. u have no intention for that peace .one love

[@ItsKells]

+Kante Musima you statistics are incorrect.. where did you read 80%?

[@foliwe]

Hormones Hormones Hormones. Western Women have retarded hormones. and we African men are very aware of that. Sorry to break the news

[@ItsKells]

+Kante Musima lmao 😂 show me the Carfax 😂

[@dexdrameh4136]

I love your video, you are right there would be a lil bit difference but as you said you both could work and close that gap , i am a west African living in Finland i really love ❤ African American girl and i will look forward to meet my soul mate LOL. Thank for video i will subscribe.

[@Katice634]

Hi, I have dated a variety of African men here in the states. Some were strait from Africa new to America, some were Nigerian from London, and some were Nigerian but American born and raised. The Americanized ones liked that I was independent. The "strait off the boat" ones tried to make me an African woman. Lol. That didn't last long. In my experience a lot of them are educated but not smart. Meaning they are great at school and work but terrible at social communication outside of their culture. They put on a different attitude based on the people they're around. To me it's fake. They tried to impress me by acting like the stereotypical black males in the media. Lol They also have no problem comparing me to African women. I stay away from them now. I thought they would be better behaved than black American men but they are just as bad. This is not all black and African men but a majority.

[@chiefmagistrate]

Katice Harris Girl! I understand where you're coming from, and i'm African. lol. The general consensus with African men, some not all, most is that the role of the woman is subservient to their whims and caprices. its sad and we have a long way to go here, but not splitting hairs or pointing fingers, I've noticed the same attitude in African American men. What is common in our black men is the sheer lack of respect for their female counterparts. There's always this idea of what a black woman should be for her man, mother, wife, cook, cleaner, care-taker, etc...all these attributes, but they forget we are human beings. Relationships are not about compromise but synergy! having read and researched i believe the black/African woman was once treated like a queen, and with the influence of European through invasion and colonization of the African continent, came this idea of the subjugation of women. There's always a long list of what a black woman ought to be, and it ignores the fact of what she is. But i have to say, some sisters don't make it easy for us, acting in ways that are contrary to our femininity that allows and excuses bad behaviour from our men/ For example, when did cheating and infidelity become the norm in countries like Nigeria or Ghana (this is from personal experience), granted we are all entitled to our opinions and beliefs, but no one should be shocked when such opinion draws negative attention or reactions, opinions are free, consequences cost. Majority of these men, African and African Americans are looking for doormats, and they will continue looking for them because some sisters pretend to be doormats just to get a man, that is the height of their existence.

[@serlomcole2958]

stop generalizing Africans,you have just dated Nigerians only but not Africans

[@gabrieladava9900]

+Katice Harris I am saddened by these comments. Maybe I am biased because I was actually born and raised in Africa, but I feel as though you are generalising. Africa is not just one country or one culture. You will find different type of men, from the most loving to the most aggressive. Maybe that is just the type of men you attracted? I just ask not to put Africans in a box, it is really hurtful. I am sorry that you have had bad experiences dating African men. I myself have had a less than pleasant experience dating someone from my own country, but I have also had the most wonderful experience, so it all depends on your partner. I must say, now living in England, I really hope to marry someone from my own country (Mozambique). PS: I don't blame you because even within Africa there are stereotypes, in Mozambique, Nigerian and South African men are viewed as the worst men you could choose, and even my family which is well educated, I believe would frown upon me ever dating these men. But since moving to England and being exposed to different people, I have come to realise that it all depends on the person you find, nothing to do with where they're from.

[@serlomcole2958]

That girl Gabi well said gal love frm kenya

[@secunatutoriais2537]

+Latoya Locks Afica is a continent not one country. Please stop generalising. Even if you've dated all nigerians you cannot base your conclusion on that.

[@abdulmueedm7018]

Im black American and I agree with u making very good since most of us black Americans know this already but you are the first african women i heard admit to this thumps up to you

[@littleblacklawyergermanbla2008]

Stop dating too much around...pray God for the ONE....

[@nicholasgreen4010]

Women in general Will not put on make up of any type at the dinner table Its considerd bad table manners

[@Okwash1]

Putting lipstick on a dinner table.....Is that modern?

I MARRIED MY WIFE FROM THE VILLAGE IN THE EAST.. THEN SETTLED IN LAGOS - 5 YEARS, THEN SETTLED IN NEW YORK CITY 5 YEARS.. SISTAS FROM THE CONTINENT ARE ON ANOTHER LEVEL THAN THE NIGERIAN GIRLS IN THE USA. PERIOD. THIS IS FROM A BLACK AMERICAN.. AFRICANS ON THE CONTINENT ARE WAY DIFFERENT THAN THE USA. PERIOD

[@Red7RTX800]

Who cares about who you’re dating and who are you trying to impress

[@nextbillspencer]

I wish i could hear more of your experience. See if i fit into african stereotypes lol. Born in Nigeria live in the UK. My Texas cousins dont play when it comes to their lip gloss and edges lol.

[@ItsKells]

Haha we don’t

[@nicholasgreen4010]

Lol

[@youngin985]

This is true. I had a gf in early 2013 who told me she was working at the YMCA near her house and would have a few African men from Nigeria and Zambia working out there who were some macho. The Nigerian man slap her ass and look at her odd when she got mad at him. Lol Africans and African Americans being called the same would be like Latino-Americans and Latin Americans from Latin America are the same. Not really. Lol

[@ItsKells]

+youngin985 good point!

[@johnu.9732]

We are very different. Even Africans from different parts of Africa have different cultures and behaviors. We tend to think that since we have the same skin pigmentation we are the same. Wrong. One should keep that in mind when dating.

[@erigavonews6689]

Why do.u put African as one harmanigie group they different in all aspects

[@sassyladay4262]

As a dark skin woman your videos give me life. We are looked at as less attractive in the states.

[@marcuspope6995]

She looks good 💯 and if you look similar your beautiful as well

[@izuo76]

African population they also huge diversity between tribe in one country and received to Dna North America and South America

[@SobayoSowemimoCoker]

Which country were these men from? what tribe were they a part of? It would be helpful if you were more specific in your critique of the men you dated or socialised with. Africa is a continent, very large and diverse. Each African country is incredibly diverse with it different tribes, customs,languages and cultures. Most African men are individualistic, they tend not to say and do the same thing.

[@carenogwayo1918]

A white woman met a masai man from kenya. They got married and moved to UK. When he go to the bathtub, he thought it was for his cows to drink from.

[@chimakalu41]

Kells what is your ancestry. You are American but what is your ancestry ? Haitian, yoruba, igbo, Dominican? Do tell? Cool you like Africans.

[@elizabethmunson2129]

Finally someone who tells it like it is!

[@zingimazongs274]

i dont know how i got to this but its not African thing it is a national thing luv

[@k.alvarado6237]

Your voice is so feminine and polished. You have that Jill Scott quality to your voice, almost siren like, I forget to listen to your words and get lost in the tone of your voice.

[@jak4403]

Imagine someone ranting the negatives of African men and not saying one single positive, that American supremacy or western idea makes you forget Africa has the low divorce rates compared to US..I am not saying you need a man to complete you which is okay because Men love this idea of not committing to relationships....What am saying is if you haven’t found something positive to say about an African man then you need to visit the continent itself, African men living in the western world might have adopted other ways of life

[@ylightning1]

Great video.

[@michellechamberlain5318]

I married an African man from Malawi. The worst decision I made

[@Gtdmilon514]

So how's that african man's problem you just made a wrong choice in choosing a partner not every african is Mr perfect .

[@macnificentproductions5488]

yeah i had to learn the hard way i wish i would of seen this video before but thanks ill just import my next african queen to america lol

[@ItsKells]

David ford lol, I feel you :)

[@roberteshun1376]

It's Kells I have to say there is an element of truth in yr observation with some african men, but for the mojority that is not the case. I am african myself with african American woman and we had a lot of misunderstanding from the beginning of our relationship, but thank God we stuck it out and today we are as happy as we could be. The problem isn't the african being bossy and demanding, there is a Standard to which women are held to in african society and culture. And unfortunately some sisters through no fault of theirs , but the flexibility of the western culture are allowed to express themselves freely without good etiquette being at the fore front of their actions. For example there is nothing wrong with having yr lip gross on at a dinner, however understanding of the african mindset would have done u a lot of good. First and foremost that is not a good etiquette , second is a lack of respect for the man u dating in the african perspective by not being conscious and '' ladylike"" enough to excuse yrself. So when such situations occur and african man will point it out to you and in an attempt to explain urself and not see it his perspective it can come off as being rude and no african man will back down from that allowing u to have yr way. But the truth is with time u will see things from his way of thinking and he will come to terms with the way u do things and whiles u reach that point u will begin to relate to each other the way u r both use to and that is where yr relationship will blosom. So my advise is we can both have great relationship lack but lack of understanding of the expectations of how things needs to be done from each individuals perspective may come of us being bossy or demanding. But trust me that is the initial stages n once u move pass that n u get to know each other more things will be great. Top tips for good relationship with african, don't go with expectations for him to be yr typical african American male, he is not being bossy but telling u abt himself and culture and what he prefers to see in his woman. don't be burdened by them, just find a compromise n be patient but not loose urself n communicate better don't assume he gets u, u could both be speaking English but means nothing, is all abt how these words are interpreted differently by each individual. N most importantly be lady like it trumps a lot of things whiles u have establish yr relationship u can ease on that , first impression is always important. Also date very educated african more likely to be open minded . also men from some african countries are very ethnocentric and dose one are all abt the culture.

[@jasminepearls1047]

That's controlling. If she is in London or somewhere in America an African man can't go around imposing his thoughts on women there. I can see if she was doing a full face of makeup but that's what you call petty".

[@makehumanitygreatagain8128]

lololol

[@malcolmnicholls2893]

Full circle?

[@Miss.valSaba]

Sweet heart if you ended bad with an African guy it's on you and if you dated more then one and you have the same results you have options and some times you have to look within your self and ask yourself what are you doing wrong to get the same results. Some times we expect too much from others.when you say African prince, us African woman don't go on a date with an African man and expect a prince to pop up, we date the person and if it works out he'll see you as a queen just like you'll see him as king , but it sounds kind of fantasy to even expect that from a guy because of his nationality or dream of a prince and it's not like that people don't show up perfect, I've dated out of my culture and race and in some it worked out and some didn't end well but I don't think all is the same I have 4 brothersand each of them are different and I find it very hurtful when you say that about an African men because my brothers also dated American , Armenian, Chilean and if something went wrong they talked about the person not the cultural background just like I defended a French mix guy that said he would only date black African girls and not black American because they have no family values ... You say your not generalizing but if you see the video yourself you will see that you are. I was born in the states I also dated black American and i can say their are good just like bad. Maybe their are cultural differences but if their are proof if Africans married to people that are none African or black American ... It's obvious it can work out. I just think you ran into the wrong one.

[@Miss.valSaba]

@@Gtdmilon514 thank you beautiful, I wish you luck and lots of pacience just know that everything that what is meant for you will always be yours and nothing can stop it from coming your way. 🙏❤️

[@Gtdmilon514]

@@Miss.valSaba thank you darling btw where are you from you have a unique look

[@Gtdmilon514]

@@Miss.valSaba yes I've heard of Fulani people I'm friends with a Fulani girl from Burkina Faso i love the culture .

[@Gassama-lh3rc]

I am from Africa I totally understand what you said you are correct in your remarks.

[@nadineverane879]

I don’t know how I landed here. Now that I’m here I feel like I need to comment on this video. It is interesting the level of cultural illiteracy that is displayed in this video. Stereotyping a group of people based on their geographic location rather than understanding their individual differences and personal culture is so close minded.

[@ItsKells]

Thanks for enlightening us, professor Nadine 🙄

[@nicholas-rochester.77]

Interesting video, Thankyou

[@djdangerorlando5297]

I am the Best guy out there for you 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲😂🤣

[@jmichelleb9556]

Everybody kno ther is a difference

[@lisukhuzwayo]

No tf...im frm africa (south africa) girl what ur saying about africans is not cool LEGIT, its all based on the person and their personality cuz first of all ur judging african men by your experience, fucking hell not all african men are not like this at all Perhaps your just in the undeveloped parts of africa where men are taught in agressive and respectful ways

[@isa-yq1rn]

In Africa men are the first , the lions , the protected the helper the king the defender before women, but if any women want to try to over power them and make them become the lower then believe me the man will divorce the woman ,

[@fathymusa1653]

U are not african thats true but u only black american

[@litaboyd5299]

I am not really attracted to African Men,maybe its the Stereotype I don't know😒😒😒

[@DandBchannel-learn]

Lita BOYD it's not a crime. It's your preference. There are so many African men who wouldn't have anything to do with an American woman. So you don't have to explain to anybody about who you're attracted to.

[@assaa5069]

EJ Ifeanyi 😂😂😂

[@sassyladay4262]

I met an african from ghana and he is stingy as hell just stay away from the ghana men.

[@assaa5069]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@crestorize1631]

Sassy Laday ...lol

[@iwrotethis4712]

A Kenyan man would not mind the lip gloss

[@droxpictures]

you are beautiful! lovely smile too

[@jmbo72]

Stop simping dude!

[@2007jiffydog]

Is putting on your lipstick on the dining not bad manners? 🥺 hmm

[@hbaqqari1629]

I love your eyes

[@ferdinandvanzyl1500]

White men from South Africa is lot different than those in USA and England 😃😃

[@ItsKells]

Really?

[@ferdinandvanzyl1500]

@@ItsKells We are in Africa 😀 Close to nature real tough men 😀 See who's Rugby world champions Beside that Our cultures is different even if we are from Eiropean forefathers ( dutch german and British We can all speak English yes but most of us also speak Afrikaans Myself speak 4 other languages I'm born in Africa and I'm proud of all my people 😃 I always joke to my friends that I'm a black man trapped in a white skin 😃

[@jonnybravo3055]

If you want to get married im free tomorrow lol 😍

[@faboge]

an element of ignorance here, if you want a woman who speaks her mind go to Nairobi! Yes, they speak their minds to their men like you wont believe!

[@sylviaistheone1]

I had a lot of bad experience with African men in the states

[@starman9921]

I don't care if you're from outer space you're hot and I'll date you tomorrow

[@HelenKN]

🤦🏽‍♀️

[@patience2747]

I have just lost the respect I had for shem. Born and raised in Africa and yet I know much about etiquette. You make applying lipstick or lipgloss as if you need a degree to apply it. Just because u are black from America u feel ur self that much?? Anyway in Africa we are raised well. We are strong opinionated but respectful people and maybe if you could try that there would not be any need to throw shade on Africa. Chaaai shameless girl🤗 ngwana o tlhogo tona o sira rragwe.

[@grinddard]

you dated the wrong guy thats all were not all like thatttt

[@ItsKells]

+justice mattia i didnt say all were

[@grinddard]

my bad hun will love to show u the better side and keep ur preety face smiling ps love ur smile

[@ItsKells]

+justice mattia 😊 so sweet

[@geoffreykasozi8728]

U shd start seeing people and addressing them as human beings not by race or background. It doesn't make u special or better calling yourself American and the other person African or any other classification that u want.

[@ItsKells]

+Dan Tumusiime when in this video did I say I was better?