Detransition: 1 year later

Hey. It's been a while.
Here's how things are going.
Twitter/X: / dyke_in_denial

[@AmiRa-wj9jt]

I`m a heterosexual woman from Poland and when I look into your eyes I see a woman, one of us. The eyes are the mirror of the soul, don't listen to people who want to hurt you, I see a woman in you. Be happy, despite adversities.

[@doeeyes2]

Im a polish canadian woman and yes you are right. I can easily tell this is one of our sisters.

[@LS-fe4ob]

Totally agree ❤

[@Momokitty121]

Fully agreed! Even in the streets I would say ‘Miss’

[@tankgirl3828]

I see a beautiful woman.

[@spalding1968]

I wish her well but it’s the lack of honesty that put this woman in the position she is in . She looks like a man . That’s the truth . Tell the truth and stop this madness at the root.

[@lancelotdufrane]

I have compassion for you. As a senior citizen, watching young people going through this kind of nightmare is heartbreaking. I hope and wish you the best you can accomplish. You are cared for. Brave to share. Hopefully you become a teacher.

[@steph678]

I no longer trust doctors or therapists anymore because of the fact that they have gone insane with this trans ideology. I'm a 33 year old woman and I used to trust my psychiatrist and my therapists but now I'm afraid to trust my doctors my doctor really wants me to get the covid booster but my fiance and I suffered severe Long Haul covid and I'm not sure if the vaccines helped our long haul covid or made it worse. It's pretty much impossible to know and very unfair that as a citizen I have to do so much research every single day just to make medical decisions on my own when I'm not even the professional."first do no harm" was what professionals made an oath to do and as you can see there are now thousands of detransition people with their bodies mutilated and their voices permanently changed.😢 how is someone supposed to trust anything the medical system tells us when they have failed us so horrendously?

[@sandylewis8897]

Perfect example of why you don't rush into hormones. Effects are serious and enduring. My heart breaks for these young people!

[@123lodge8]

Give me a break. Complaining that people see you as male while wearing men’s clothes, short hair, no makeup. SMH. It would be an easy fix but then you wouldn’t be able to be a victim.

[@musikgirl7]

@@123lodge8I don’t see a victim, but I do see someone with too much time on their hands, and that’s you. Women don’t need long hair, makeup or a particular style of clothing to be women. Now, isn’t there a kitten in a tree somewhere you could rescue?

[@123lodge8]

@@musikgirl7 true. They don’t need any of that. But when they look and sound exactly like a man, they don’t get to bitch that people think they’re a man. This is a problem of her own making.

[@michellekeith8955]

Please remember your body has been through drastic changes, not once, but twice. It will take time to correct your bodies response to its natural hormones. Your face has changed and there is definitely a softness in your skin and features. I am so glad to hear you are more comfortable with yourself. Please continue sharing your story. You do have a lot of support from many!

[@zzodysseuszz]

No. Bone and voice changes are permanent. Once the hormones change that it never reverts.

[@texvirgo9847]

you have a very calming voice and are incredibly articulate. I wish you healing in every way

[@Lulusnotreadyforthis]

I'm a straight woman, although I am fairly gender non-conforming. I rarely wear dresses or makeup but have always felt comfortable as I am. Yet even I get told things like ''don't worry, the dress code is gender neutral. You don't have to wear a dress.'' Society has taken a *huge* step back in terms of gender, womens rights and gay rights. Since when did womenhood become reduced to a dress and lipstick??? You can live your life how you want KC. I'm so pleased you're moving forward.

[@marcwright4790]

I don’t even own any dresses, make up or heels and have never had it mentioned to me by anyone other than my mother who was into fashion and extroverted. I am a conservative Christian. Most people I interact with these days are as well since I’m retired and an introvert, so don’t go out and meet new people just to “get out”. In all of my life I never had anyone mention the way I dressed other than to say I looked nice that day, etc. When I hear stories like yours I wonder who these people are that you are interacting with. What part of the country, what ideologies they support.

[@Lulusnotreadyforthis]

​@marcwright4790 I live in a major city and mostly these 'gender nonconforming' traits are commented on at work... surprise surprise...

[@christinecastro7212]

My mother used to call me the son she never had, because I acted like a boy. I am still told I have a male vibe to me. But I have always loved being a girl and a woman. If I grew up today I shudder to think how I would have to deal with the pressure to transition

[@steph744]

agree, gender identities really reduce the meaning of what a woman is, how he she should act what she should wear to stereotypes, it's dangerous

[@MrSilk13642]

Welcome to the man's world where pants have been the requirement since the beginning.

[@ql6588]

Hi KC, I am also a detrans butch woman with some very similar experiences to you. Just letting you know there are even more of us out here (and generally not visible on social media) living life, being perceived socially as male most of the time and still settled in that knowing that we are female, no one can take that away from you. Good luck with your nursing studies.

[@Eragarev]

Gay dude here. I don't yet know you, but I truly feel proud of you. Self-acceptance is so important, and it's probably one of the hardest things a person can do these days. I'm very proud of you.

[@mattdobbs-dr2rt]

Do you have AIDS?

[@zzodysseuszz]

I really hate that trans is marketed as self acceptance. Like, ITS NOT.

[@Quahogger]

I see you as female. You have a very womanly face. No harsh angles, no brow ridge, just beautiful eyes and lips and cheeks. You’re an inspiration. You can be genuinely a woman and not adhere to the misogynistic stereotypes of being a female. Being yourself with what makes you happy is very nice to see you growing. There are many great ways to live as a women! You are compassionate, kind, thoughtful and therefore will be a very good health care worker. Ever onward KC!

[@channel1_channel]

Women have many stereotypical preferences for men. Are woman who prefer any of the stereotypes sexist misandrist creeps?

[@josiekoch7589]

her face structurally speaking is androgynous and that’s ok.

[@katapinesxc6477]

Damn, as a mtf im doomed with harsh angles and a brow ridge.

[@xdani_thethinkingneko]

No you’re not, hrt does wonders@@katapinesxc6477

[@gracec7179]

Shes coming out on top!!!!! Healing, growing, living her life!!!! 👑

[@brucemah609]

❤100%%%%

[@jesuslovesyoucw]

Yes!

[@ThatGrrrl]

One butch lesbian to another, I'm really glad you're here and have made such amazing progress of reclaiming your life and living as you wish. Stay strong, sister. You got this. ❤

[@QueerdoLoc]

I turned lesbian by default because I couldn't get vaginal access without becoming a woman first

[@MikeTheD]

That's the spirit! She's a leader doing this.

[@dewilew2137]

Im glad you both are here. 🤗

[@brucemah609]

I love this comments!! Much Love❤❤❤

[@Luellavonstein]

😭❤️😭❤️😭❤️

[@whalium889]

I think having representation of masculine female detransitioners is really important because a lot of female detransitioners are super feminine and straight now and it just makes me feel like I should be like that when I’m just not naturally like that.

[@nullvoid9001]

Thisss I’ve been saying this forever!!!! Don’t ever change Kasey

[@whalium889]

I love that you’re strong enough now to not get rocked by what other people think

[@emilyevans6989]

For the record: 1)It is SO good to see you! 2) It’s great to hear that you’re making progress in your “life goals” and that you like yourself (we like you, too!) 3) You look FABULOUS (and that’s NOT a come on) 4)Damn, you’re smart (not just academically, but emotionally, as well. . . the straight A’s are impressive, but no surprise) 5)Might you consider becoming a medical doctor? Finally, you absolutely do not need my (or anyone else’s approval) but I want you to know that I (and I know many more people) have been holding good thoughts for you and sending good vibes your way! Until next time, be safe, hope to see you soon! 🌻♥️

[@roni1384]

Hello, 56 year old grandma here. 🙋🏻‍♀️ I hope you hear me out... As I was listening to you talking about your frustration with being misgendered, I wondered if a beauty consultant might be able to help. By that, I DON'T mean to suggest making you look feminine. That doesn't seem to be your goal. I myself, are very much a tomboy, always have been. I played baseball (with the boys) and rode dirt bikes as a kid and as an adult I sought out male-dominated fields of work and trained in muay thai and also competed in strongman. I almost never wear jewelry and when I wear makeup, it is natural and minimal. But I never get misgendered. This means there are little traits that people have in their brains that make them categorize a person into boy or girl. So, I understand the desire to live out a life that has masculine traits. If it's truly important for you to be acknowledged as a woman while maintaining a butch appearance, hiring someone to look at you, keeping your goals in mind and being very honest, they may be able to help you tweak little things that can help you achieve your goals. There might be solutions to fix your hairline, which would help tremendously. Also, a voice coach might be able to help you (someone who sings) to bring your register up a bit and soften it, with some breath work. You might have these resources at your school, but you'd have to make yourself vulnerable. These are things that a MTF transitioner might do, so why not you? ❤ Maybe think of it as transition, not detransition? Maybe your therapist can help you navigate this? I suggest these things with kindness and concern. People's brains are wired a certain way to see male and female and it's extremely hard to get past. If some people are getting mad when you correct them, some may just feel ashamed that they've let their instincts override their memory, and may just be projecting their frustration with themselves onto you. I guess I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt and for your sanity, maybe this is something for you to consider. I'm sorry you've been treated poorly - I'm honestly shocked. But know that also, a little patience and kindness on your part may go a long way for them and for you. Anyway, I hope you achieve your best life. You seem like a sweet and strong goal-oriented person. I hope you find a solution that helps you feel comfortable, even if that means accepting yourself as you are at this moment. I send you a big grandma hug. 💖

[@katemonroe7572]

❤

[@bastetowl3258]

you did not listen to what she said at all. you're still trying to change her to behave more "stereotypically female" whatever that means. butch includes mannerisms and behavior not just how you dress or your interests. she said that in the beginning it was distressing for her to be missexed but now she doesn't care anymore because she is confident in who she is. she said she doesn't need anyone's validation anymore because that would still be the same mindset she had when she was trans. when she was trans she was trying to appeal to everyone around her, and now she's going to live her life for herself no matter how other people perceive her but y'all keep giving her "passing" advice like she's trans or something. y'all are just as obsessed with gender as trans identifying ppl

[@roni1384]

@@bastetowl3258 My dear, I heard every word she said, and I also saw the look in her eyes when she spoke of her hair and her voice and how people treat her over it. Sometimes when a person feels defeated, they will often say, "I don't care". It's a coping mechanism. This is a good thing, to be a fighter. But I saw the pain on her face and it broke my heart. I'll add that you failed to comprehend everything I wrote. I never once suggested she behave stereotypically female. She is the one who mentioned liking being butch, so I made it clear that what I meant was that someone can help her maintain that but move the slider a bit so people don't misgender her, which she expressed anxiety over. I merely suggested that she talk to people who might be able to help her achieve her goals. I gave examples based on the concerns she expressed. I also mentioned she may just end up accepting herself as she is. That's it. I'll add, if she strives to look the way she wants to look, she will be more confident in herself and this will have a positive impact on many areas of her life. I would encourage her to not give up, so I stand by my advice.

[@uikmnhj4me]

This is great advice!

[@AmandaLeeRex]

Honestly I don’t know much about all of this but from just randomly clicking on the video I viewed her as a female. The only thing that sort of threw me off was her voice. This might be the case with others as well thinking well maybe this person is transitioning and wants to be a male. So they refer to her as a he because they think maybe that’s what she wants. I honestly don’t think she needs to do anything with her appearance or dress. She looks female to me, especially in the eyes. It may take time for the voice to return to a lighter tone but I don’t know anything about this stuff so I’m just guessing.

[@firstnamelastname1725]

I’m so proud of you. I feel like I had a parallel experience to you. I found your video in March /February when I was at my lowest of low. I had just started T and was very depressed. I mainly was super depressed about my body and how feminine it looked. I failed all my classes in college and never left my dorm and only did so to shower or get food. In April I almost attempted suicide. And am here by a slim thread. Going through this I didn’t get a haircut so by nature I was growing out my hair. I quickly stopped T (I had only like 4 tiny micro doses over a long time) my figure went back to how it was and I didn’t have a voice change or anything. I am so thankful that my body is not changed and natural. Yet I still suffered a lot with how I felt about my gender and body. Transition was an escape from my other body issues. I was a woman who was somewhat masculine in demeanor but I was a proud masculine woman. I just wanted an escape from my body and the fatphobic trauma my mom put onto me. Taking off the drug that was transitioning allowed me to work on myself, go to therapy and attempt to reclaim what I lost. I got a part time job and worked over the summer before fall term. I gradually got myself into a more functional place. I then felt ready after a week before classes were due to start. I retook my classes I had failed. And the ones I dropped out of turned out to not be of best interest to my major. I continued working this semester to my major and now I have just finished up my semester. I didn’t fail my classes again. I actually got 2 As, a C, and a D. Sure I was not perfect and will have to redo the D again, but then half my class has to retake it also(I’m going to do it over summer or next fall). I’m not getting kicked out of college and I am on track again. I smile again. I am going shopping and visiting my family again. I feel like I made it now just like you. It feel so parallel that just as I get my final passing grades and go on I see that you have made things better for yourself. Thanks for making this video.

[@ahuman8725]

You seem like a truly wonderful person, I'm very glad for you. Thank you for being alive, I'm glad you're here on this planet, and that you're living a more satisfying and positive life. I wish you all the best in your classes. Good luck! I believe you can do anything you set your mind to, as you've clearly shown us 😊🎉❤

[@camnkell]

Straight female mom of three here feeling inspired and deeply heartened by your message of hope after you’ve pushed through so much turmoil. I see you as a beautiful daughter of God with infinite worth. Thank you for sharing this vulnerable journey. You are no doubt saving lives.❤

[@varsitybug]

Seeing masculine and butch lesbians/bi women believe they are less than or unworthy of being a woman is so sad. I am also a detransitioner and a butch lesbian. I’m sending you support and hugs. Your hate was insanely unfair, completely disturbing. Good luck ♥️

[@firewheelfarm7095]

Just curious, we’re you molested as a child?

[@midragga]

Butch lesbians or tomboys gotta know that being "butch" doesn't make them any less a woman. Man... I just hope that these ladies find happiness in who they are. Sucks too because my own mom's a tomboy. Short hair and dresses like a dude would. Makes me wonder, would my mother have been duped into being trans.. makes me shudder.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

This is the problem with all these labels we like to attach to people. I am a Conservative Christian but I firmly believe in freedom and allowing people to live the lives that they believe will make them happy. All this societal pressure on people to "be" a certain way if they have certain mannerisms or whatever is a real problem. Let people be who they authentically are and don't "expect" certain things from people just because they look or act a certain way.

[@iamthatguytheonlyone]

​@@AngelaVEdwardsyou are bot Christian

[@sophierescigno5064]

I'm also a detransitioner lesbian, and lemme tell ya: the patriarchal society we live in is slowly trying to oppress more and more people by devaluing women and convincing us that female = boring, weak, unworthy, submissive, etc. I was blinded by misogyny, i thought that i would never be tough, strong and worthy as long as i kept identifying as a woman. Truth is, it's all a lie, it's a gender stereotyped world full of idiotic labels and gender norms we live in. you can be a tough woman, you can be a feminine straight man, you can be a butch or a twink or a drag queen. We should all stop this society from dictating who we are

[@sabrinagana]

As soon as you came on I thought “she’s back”. You def read she to me.

[@anoushka1979]

I am a pretty masculine straight religious black woman who wishes you the best. So glad to see you re growing, learning and enjoying life. So happy for you. Im glad to hear you accepted and embraced you. Despite of all ugly things people might say, you are ok, you are whole, you are beautiful and you are loved.

[@denni8884]

Brave woman. We’re with you ❤

[@halymachado]

I grew up a tomboy and have always been one of the guys when I was younger. It’s so frustrating that the trans community has pushed every girl who has ever liked opposite gender things like sports or gaming into a box. They are a erasing tomboys.

[@Micespaceart]

I think so too. People should not be encouraged to change and harm their healthy and perfectly working body just because of some things they like that are not stereotypically fitting for their gender. It's okay to break the cliches and not be trans or queer while doing it!

[@lobstermash]

@@Micespaceart Yes, absolutely, but also if they are trans or queer, it doesn't mean they need "fixing". A feminine gay man is just a man, a masculine gay woman is just a woman. Leave the gay children alone!

[@HM-hu4hu]

They haven't pushed anyone.

[@Micespaceart]

@lobstermash What? I never said anyone needs fixing. I myself am unsure of my sexuality, but to be honest, it doesn't matter. If I like men one day, and women the other, that's unimportant. My feelings are what matter most. I'm friends with many people(irl, not online) who grew up as "gay kids"(which i do not think they need to be labled as), and does it matter? No. Love is love.@@lobstermash

[@curious1053]

@@HM-hu4hu🧢

[@diademoflead]

You have incredible self awareness, I really admire that. You also seem relatively not-bitter despite the things that you've been through. I hope things continue to get better for you.

[@asadchoudhrya]

It’s inspiring, it shows a level of patience and maturity that’s remarkable.

[@bellj753]

You go girl! Thank you for sharing your story and being so authentic. You are an asset to the world. One real person can do more good than 100 fake people.

[@claireparson3111]

In such a genuine human way, I am so beyond happy for you. You are an inspiration to me. Never stop growing KC. 💛

[@gonegogone]

Around your eyes, your femininity is showing more. Keep loving who you are, KC.

[@kyclaus7157]

Yes, I agree. She's looking a lot more feminine.

[@kaylan154]

Yes her femininity is shining thru ❤

[@anastasis-cm5hw]

Even if "her femininity" weren't showing more and she were totally butch, she'd still be female.

[@kohaiame2691]

Her overall face shape is feminine imo, not just her eyes. She has nice bone structure.

[@asherahalchemy5101]

For many years in the lesbian community butch lesbians transitioning to male had a strong flavor of homophobia and lack of self acceptance, combined with irrational faith in doctors, endocrinologists, plastic surgeons. I kept it to myself as more women transitioned, until the increase has become so extreme that the bubble is bursting. Yes, homophobia is alive and happens. Do I need plastic surgery for it? No, of course not. Thanks for your honesty and self expression, you are a gift.

[@eerielamp]

"Do I need plastic surgery for it? No of course not" That's an awesome, strong-willed way to look at it all. 💪

[@derekb4977]

@@eerielamp we need this statement in books movies and TV. We need to reclaim homosexuality back.

[@cookingforme4711]

Homophobia is only perpetuated by insecure homosexuals, no one else cares. Why is it that people have to wear their sexuality on their sleeve like it's something to be proud of or shoved on others? Just do your thing and no one cares. It is basically a private affair you know. Not something we generally shout about in the streets. It's an aspect of ones life, not an identity. Give me a break with all this useless nonsense.

[@The.L.Is.Silent]

You're looking cute and healthy. Your skin is radiant. 😊. Your story really resonates with me, as a masc attracted lesbian seeing so many MOC lesbians get sucked into medicalization to their detriment. Your growth is so beautiful and I'm so glad you've come through 🙏🏾.

[@Carmen161595]

One of the most important things to learn in life is to not give a shit about what other people think. Be your own best friend. KC, I find is staggering what people of your generation are going through. I applaud your courage in sharing your story. If it brings you healing, please keep doing it.

[@Peacefulpreface6323]

I'm a masculine woman and it's so good to hear from you and that you're embracing yourself, as well you should! Sorry there's still so many vile people projecting their anger and confusion on you but people just suck, in my experience no matter how genuine we live our lives. All the best to you, you're awesome ❤💪

[@reapthewhirlwind4166]

What makes you masculine?

[@Peacefulpreface6323]

@@reapthewhirlwind4166 I prefer "men"s clothes to women's, I've never been one for girly hair (I have long hair but more like a mosher's) or other high maintenance things like false nails, eyelashes etc and don't wear feminine clothes in every day life. Most of my friends are men as I just connect with men easier. Most women I'm friends with are also tomboys with similar interests. I'm not very feminine in appearance either, I have a wide set jaw and am flat chested, which I'm happy with. I've always found overly feminine things uncomfortable and undesirable and feel much more myself when I present what society considers "masculine". I hope this answers your question.

[@norwalkspectator5275]

I just want to say that when people misgender trans folks, it doesn't always come from anger. A friend, Rochelle, transitioned from M2F. I struggled mightily for a long time (far too long, according to others) to adjust. It was probably because I didn't see the female version as often as I had her male version. She'd walk down the hall and I'd look and say, "Hey, Rick!" and there would be a chorus of "It's Rochelle!" from my co-workers. Then we went through a period when I wouldn't speak to her directly at all and confined myself to saying, "Hey! How are you?" I avoided using pronouns completely. Rochelle herself was fine with it. With enough time, I became more adept at thinking of "her", not "him" and could finally relax. When she died from a heart issue, people were surprised that I cried and several told me that they thought I didn't like her. That wasn't it at all. It just took me longer to make the shift. And it has nothing to do with the sexual orientation. A good friend of mine was over the other day and when my adult son came into the room, I said, "Would you please carry this out to the car for Mrs. S.?" Okay, fine. Except my friend has been divorced and using her maiden name for well over 10 years. We all laughed. I just have to adjust to having my adult son call my friend by her given name.

[@Peacefulpreface6323]

@@norwalkspectator5275 I know... I'm talking about the people who were bullying KC specifically... did you watch the video?

[@VeganBambi]

Good to see you and get an update. Sorry to hear about the abuse you've received since being detrans but I'm so glad to hear you're doing well considering. ps. your face looks so different already.

[@lidahall5928]

Yes, it really does.

[@asadchoudhrya]

Yes it definitely looks quite different much softer and feminine. I actually didn’t recognize you. I remember some of the older videos.

[@snuder9832]

From one RN to a student nurse, you will be a success in your career undoubtedly. Your current experience has prepped you to have the compassion you will need in your work and to not judge others. Good luck in whatever life you choose and thank you for sharing your experience! ❤

[@chilo8187]

When I was growing up in the 90s there was more representation of masculine and butch women than there seems to be these days… Shocking that as society becomes more “progressive” we are actually moving backward in time… You’re strong and admirable, keep your chin up!

[@ennuiblue4295]

That's true, it's like any deviation from a 'template' now is less tolerated than ever 😓 just in a different way, instead of forcing a tomboy to be girly, they're being convinced they're trans

[@taichihead42]

I agree. Blame the LGBT society, they have made things horrible for people.

[@theharshtruthoutthere]

@@ennuiblue4295 lets analyse the nonsense /lies many amongst you believe in: lie: schools are of use (fact. schools keep slavery alive and stands for dumbing down the population of mankind) lie: moon and mars landings, (fact: even masons know they cannot leave - earth is closed system, unless you want to drown, there is no other place created for us to live in.) lie: news channels share truth (fact: these are for politic propaganda) lie: money has a value of its own (fact: it is just a tool of this world, which value has been agreed upon world wide) lie: NASA lies (globe and all....) (fact: NASA stands for TO DECEIVE) - you havn´t searched - have you? lie: the lgbtq++++ propaganda (fact: it is a part of masonry depopulation agenda, 500 000 000 souls, thats their goal.) lie: Evolution and the dinosaurs. (fact: mankind is not hybrid kind) to keep stating that there was an evolution, then we ain´t humans, we aint then mankind, we are then hybrids. Are you a hybrid? Lie: holidays (xmas, Halloween, new year eve and so on) (fact: PAGAN HOLIDAYS, to praise BAAL, the god of this world) lie: U.F.Os (fact: they are demons/evil spirits in high places, against whom we fight daily = spiritual warfare) lie: rules and laws rule the world (fact: signs and symbols of masonry do) lie: believe in being educated (fact: found daily living with the lack of knowledge) lie: religions are ways to heaven (fact: JESUS CHRIST is only way to heaven. Religions, no matter its name = masonic garbage) lie: our dead loved ones stay around to “ghost” (fact: hunting and ghosting is job of demons, not of humans. We, humans, come from GOD and return back to HIM and all the stories of having been seen a ghost - terrifying, scary, dark, cold - again no job of analysing been done here by you- right?) Lie: Humans have no immune system and we need vaccines as these save lives (fact: humans HAVE IMMUNE SYSTEM and vaccines are created for one or two purpose: to kill or to cripple) 14 lies, should i go on?

[@singingway]

I've been a vocal coach, for singers, speakers and rehabilitation. The tiny muscles that control the vocal chords get into a habit of use. You might at some point consider some vocal coaching which would change the way you produce the sound of your voice, if you would like.

[@mfcmxtt6490]

yes. I think that is a good idea.❤

[@vanmamawannabe6360]

Or maybe a speech pathologist? Because that may be covered by insurance. It’s worth asking anyway.

[@lacha608]

Over time her voice may change naturally, maybe not back to its original quality, but to the point of just sounding like a deeper female voice.

[@dansorrap8713]

Great to see that you’re doing well. You have a lot of people rooting for you. God bless ❤

[@vanmamawannabe6360]

Or I may have meant a speech therapist? I get those mixed up. Sorry.

[@singingway]

I had a great aunt who was well known as a very masculine woman. She did the farm work in a dress and apron, she raised 7 adopted children, plus birthing two, she was known for her loud booming voice, boundless strength and energy, and raucous laughter. (Her husband was sweet quiet and gentle). Wearing feminine or more androgynous attire might help out those people who mis- read you, if it is, as you report , bothering you. But my example from the past is worth thinking about. A masculine woman wearing feminine-reading clothing, helps society to expand the conception of woman beyond fashion or clothing. It's just something to think about. I'm very glad for your progress towards well-being and self love.

[@electricfishfan7159]

I’m not sure it does broaden opinions very often. In my experience the majority of people (men) read strong women who continue choosing to present feminine as “tantalizingly feisty” yet still comfortably demonstrating her submission to men’s gaze and men’s interests and men’s standards. Strong women who ‘despite that’ are feminine are considered normal; strong women who are unfeminine are put down endlessly and boxed out of society like Casey is experiencing, which leads me to conclude that the latter is far more successfully challenging to people’s gender beliefs and homophobia. It’s unfortunately the path of highest reward and highest resistance since those factors are correlated.

[@apebass2215]

​@@electricfishfan7159 "submission to men's gaze and men's interests" ...what? This just seems like another bizarre and ludicrous belief system. Is masculinity submission to women's gaze and women's interests?

[@apebass2215]

@@milly7953 both men and women have eyesight, obviously. What makes you think the "female gaze" is somehow less harsh and superficial? Any woman who has attended or worked in a female-only school will know that it is women and girls who enforce standards of femininity, not men.

[@NinJaFREAK17]

She doesn’t seem like she wants to dress that way though.

[@psychodelicvelosity]

@@electricfishfan7159 Strongly agree.

[@tracybutler3858]

Im a woman not gay. Very concerned with the medical buchery that effects entire lives. It sometimes goes well but often long term complications. Horror stories. Im glad that you really thought about it. I am masculine in nature myself. Its just the difference in beings. I do see female eyes and features. Im glad youve chosen to just know who you are and let the world not dictate. It can be difficult to look at someone and figure it out. I just chose not to. Its not all that needed in a normal engagement. Im in retail also in a very diverse social setting. Eventually my customers will bring it up themselves and solve the mystery. I glad youve been vulnerable with your journey.

[@etherealobsidian871]

As a straight woman, I see you as a woman immediately I don’t see male features at all. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through all the bullying. You are very beautiful inside and out. Please stay strong and Jesus loves you🙏♥♡

[@FancyForestPerson]

It’s great to see you fully embracing who you are - it’s an act of self-love. You’re an inspiring woman.

[@bananaboat1808]

Thank you for sharing your powerful and inspirational story. I am a trans woman who is happy with my transition but I have friends who are detransitioners and were treated horribly by our community. Everyone has their own life path and people need to hear stories like this more often, especially trans people and people contemplating transition.

[@steph678]

It's so sad and I find it just so disgusting how the supposed trans Community treats detransitioners or even ignores the fact that so many of them exist these days. If I were trans I would actually be concerned about how many detransitioners are being created by the medical system because it just shows that the medical system is not taking any care whatsoever and it also does threaten transsexuals future ability to access hormones. I'm not even somebody who really supports transition but if I were I would be very angry at the Physicians who are just handing out hormones willy-nilly with no discovery into the patient's history. This isn't just about detransitioners either even people who want to live as the opposite sex socially and don't regret their transition often have severe regret with their surgical outcomes and it's like the doctors don't give a s*** at all. So many people who have gotten bottom surgery are very very deeply unhappy with how they are lied to by medical professionals about their results and many of the doctors blame the patients for the results of the surgery.

[@minoozolala]

Yeah but you’re a guy.

[@reapthewhirlwind4166]

There is no such thing as a trans woman these words are dead to us now

[@Squishy-ho7zd]

@@minoozolalayou could have just kept your mouth shut

[@sillyfilly5528]

@@minoozolalanobody asked for your opinion.

[@marilcoop]

I'm so happy to hear how you have grown and healed this past year! What a wonderful update! Good luck and the best of wishes in this new year!

[@reannastar1985]

As a mother I just want to hug you 💞 I can feel the pain you are experiencing so deeply and I hope that you learn a lesson that I have always have instilled in my children and that is A. Your body is a meat suit and you got what you got B. Love yourself always no matter what!! I am following your journey 🙏🏼 Love and Healing heading your way!!💗💖

[@sandramulthauf2159]

Wow, words of wisdom that apply to anyone “Hope and healing are possible in spite of the odds” AND “I am at a point where my self concept is strong enough that people saying things about me that aren’t true doesn’t impact how I view myself” Words to live by!

[@lolalaise4530]

Thank you for telling your story KC. Btw you look beautiful! You look like a strong tomboy woman. Power to you!

[@brbsnortingcatnip]

I really admire your strength. So glad you came back. Your voice is sorely needed!

[@lttlredvette]

So glad to see how far you've come! I saw your first video, and my heart broke for you. You go, girl! You are WORTHY of a wonderful life!!

[@ponny2948]

Hey! Glad to see you back. So weird people have a hard time as I immediately recognize you as female. I think as you get older it will help, since you have a very youthful face people may be reading you as a younger man, but as you age it will become more obvious that you are female. I’m so sorry you’ve been struggling with this, I wish you the best.

[@frostcube3845]

Agreed I think they’re seeing her as a feminine young man, probably mainly bc the voice bc there’s a lack of vocal range representation for women

[@Piperpie369]

Scrolling through and I stopped and said to myself “omg is that KC?” I’ve thought about you so many times over the last year. I’m so happy to see you with a sense of peace. Your eyes show wisdom. You are an inspiration for truth. Rooting for you all the way. Being a masculine woman is just fine.

[@brittanylevinson741]

I was so glad to see her pop across my feed today.

[@alyciajanelle]

This is such an encouraging update. I’m really happy for you. Thanks for sharing your journey.

[@michelegallagher7351]

Thank you so much for making this video. I am so sorry for everything you have been through. But also, so happy for you that you have been able to fully accept who you are, as you are. Please know how important your message is and that you are an inspiration.

[@superkickcity1610]

Ok so I’m just some straight man, not in this world/community but your strength has brought tears to my eyes…

[@steph678]

Yes, she is so powerful. When she made that first video I was so terrified she may commit suicide because of how everyone piled on to her and attacked her at such a vulnerable time in her life. I've been through some very hard things myself but I can't even imagine going through transition and then detransition😢

[@QHarbin]

I'm also a Gen X married lesbian- glad to see more of us speaking up on this topic. Like many from our gay generation, we are glad we had the freedom to express ourselves however we wanted without this pressure of what it "means" in terms of gender identity or our sex. Butch, femme, and everything in between and often changing over the years- it was all great fun and we were proud of being women no matter how we looked! We are deeply troubled with what is happening among gay youth- and autistic youth and traumatized youth etc.. They are not getting the acceptance, support, and treatment they need to be their authentic selves- ironic, isn't it. We want to tell young people like KC that we are your lesbian mothers and we are here for you.

[@joelwilliams8887]

No offense, but the message had more to do with accepting one's actual biological identity rather than their sexual preference. Did you even watch the video to the end, like I did? Heck, did you even care to remember the title? Also, your last sentence is unnecessary and just adds to the mental instability we see today. The lack of a stable mother and father in the home is one huge problem, out of many. The truth is, KC has had a fair share of things to deal with in life, things you and I will never fully know. Ultimately, it's up to KC to keep taking a positive step forward. And the only real way to do that is to have a relationship with God, by admitting one's sins and by accepting personal change with Him. Don't let fake Christians deter you from having a real relationship with your Father.

[@elizabethconnolly3260]

@@joelwilliams8887So not helpful.

[@joelwilliams8887]

@@elizabethconnolly3260, I honestly don't care what you think is or isn't helpful, because the truth is God is The Creator of Heaven and Earth and only He can save you. You only find my words offensive, because deep down you know satan is your father. You need to accept Christ in your life and stop bullying people who know the truth and the way. This is not a joke. People like KC have been deceived by the devil. I, for one, do not want to see KC or anyone else, for that matter, suffer anymore from lies like these. I rebuke your words, and I hope and pray that you denounce the devil.

[@vespertine2326]

Is KC Gen X? Holy cannoli! I had no idea, I'm an early Millennial and kinda felt like it was questionable to think she's cute.

[@Danielle-nz9tn]

@@joelwilliams8887Woah! Where in the world is this response of yours coming from!? So uncalled for. And if you in fact were listening, a major theme of this video is actually about accepting one’s sexual orientation (in KC’s case, as a lesbian who happens to have some masculine qualities) rather than internalizing homophobic attitudes, which largely contributed to her confusion and her decision to go down the road of gender transition. What is very much irrelevant to the discussion is your attempt to cram religion into this. If you are religious, good for you, but don’t try to cram it down others’ throats.

[@BloodSweatandFears]

As a relatively masculine bisexual woman(and my name is also KC!!!) I’m so happy to see you speaking out and sharing your story. It is SO important to hear ❤

[@katespellxx9529]

You're actually looking great. Thanks for letting people know how you're getting on. It is appreciated. Keep on keeping on and if ever you stumble, please know that there are so many people sending support to you from all around the world. Good on you KC.

[@nancyann290]

KC I am so glad you posted. I have wondered what became of you. Good luck with your schooling. Your road does not seem to be easy, but you are walking it admirably. You seem to be so in touch with who you are and accepting of that person. Good for you. We could all learn something from you.

[@Jules-77]

This.

[@The_Kiosk]

I wish you all the best.

[@emryldzt2762]

Right on!!! I hope everyone who is confused get to see your video. You are so well spoken & aware of yourself. As a hetero female (73), former tomboy with masculine traits (men don't find me feminine), I really understand you.

[@kellyhess3056]

I'm so glad you're doing well. Thank you for sharing your experience for the benefit and inspiration of others!

[@chickadeelodge8771]

KC thank you so much for sharing your story. You are beautiful and very brave. I think you look very feminine! Thank you for educating all of us. You are in my prayers.

[@impossibleagent3663]

It’s 2023 and butch lesbians and butch straight women are still going through this in the west. I’m sad. This should have been better by now.

[@compulsivehonesty]

I've been following you since you went viral. I am so proud of you, you are so brave, and I will continue to pray for you. Your voice is so, so needed and will only become more important in the coming years. You are an image of hope to the hopeless. Bless you KC!!

[@gehnzou1]

You will be just fine. You are a beautiful human. You will find someone who will make you feel comfortable in your skin and love you unconditionally. I would write a book. Your perspective is unique and I think there are a lot of lives out there that will see you as an inspiration. My best friend almost lost his sister to suicide over feeling exactly like you describe. Luckily it was before all of this started getting out of hand so she wasn't urged to do it. She thought she was a man. Luckily again she had a great doctor who through careful analysis figured out that she had severe depression and was a lesbian. He treated her for that and Kristina has been alive ever since. Dating women, happily ever. We are so much more than crude flesh.

[@marshmellowminion264]

Keep going KC. I'm so glad that you're moving forward in life. You've just begun healing, give it time. You've been through a lot.

[@karen5916]

As a desisted girl, I see you and appreciate you, your work is very needed. Thank you.

[@mattsfreshfish]

You are the sweetest person and I am glad you are going to work in an industry where you will get to help people because they will be in good safe hands and will feel better with your energy around them. Thanks for the update!

[@scaredsanty857]

You look so much better and healthier!! Can't believe a year has passed, i thought you wouldn't be posting anymore. You look great!! Cheering for you girl!❤

[@OldJoeBlows]

Thank you for checking-in with the KZbin family you brought together in support of you. We do support you. Thank you for being so brave. Your mission to healing through hope is possible. Thank you for being so brave and willing to put your story out there. ❤❤❤❤

[@ceciliajones7816]

It is so good to hear you are doing well! You are an incredible young woman! I wish I knew who this prof tried to humiliate you because they need to be reprimanded. Boss and co-workers need it, too. People are ridiculous but I think you’re getting backlash from this insane trans-radical movement. It’s really a societal mental breakdown. I hope other female detransitioners find you and get inspiration. We need all our women to come together! Btw, your skin looks amazing!

[@joi726]

Her skin does look amazing! ❤

[@galeocean4182]

You have accomplished a remarkable amount in just one year. I think your honest assessment of what you have been through and where you are headed will definitely help someone else. We really need smart, compassionate nurses in this country, so stay strong in your goals and ignore the trolls.

[@vickikesterson-mccormick7146]

I’m so sorry it has been so difficult! I am glad you are getting through it. May you continue to grow into you.

[@user-jp4sc7iy6p]

I never comment, but damn, you have really “done the work!” Fyi, I’m 59, and still growing, too. Embrace it all: that is the richness of life that welds each of us in fire. You are on the right path, keep going!

[@mjones8170]

You look healthier. Your skin has a nice glow and your eyes look brighter. Wish you the best.

[@XYtoTheDoubleG]

I respect you so much for posting this! It takes so much bravery for being open to your experience.

[@cardamon22]

Thank you so much for this video, KC! Your courage in choosing to not conform to societal norms and your confidence in knowing exactly who you are without needing external validation from others is truly inspiring. May we all aspire to have the same courage and confidence in developing and affirming our own individualities and identities in all aspects of our lives even beyond the identity politics discourse. Thank you for being such a great inspiration to all of us for being who you are.

[@driventoabstraction]

I often think of you and wonder how you’re getting on. So good to see you again.

[@ohhadivist]

Really brave of you to come back to twitter and youtube for the sake of other detransitioners, it would be so easy to just step away and ignore it.

[@ohhadivist]

Also I love the self confidence. I am desisted, not detrans, but I had my own time of finding that self-confidence lately in saying "I'm a gender non-conforming female, I like being that, and I don't care how anybody else sees it."

[@sarahharlow172]

I have such immense respect for you, your insights into yourself, your strength, your resilliance and all of your success in life after such adversity and immense challenges. You are an inspiring young woman ❤️ Your message is powerful. Thank you.

[@gwendolynne868]

You’re doing so well- congratulations on school and work and leadership roles!! Everyone is fighting personal battles and yours is so difficult but you’ve gone through the fire - and forged in fire is the strongest steel. Good luck and I hope you find a lovely woman to share your life.

[@personreanimation]

Straight conservative white male here. I am glad to see that you are still out here doing great things. Nothing but love and respect for you and the struggles you have fought through.

[@RockKnocker17]

Straight white conservative guy here also. I cant connect to or really understand any of this. I dont have a problem with any trans, one of my best friends married a trans and they stay at my place for a couple months each summer. Modern society is wildly ridiculous and bordering fantasy except each new day makes new ridiculous fantasies a fact. My thoughts, humble opinion, get out to nature and the real world, not fantasy land living by some twisted cross between candy land and monopolies game rules.

[@spggpang9479]

All the best from a Singapore fan. So glad to see a strong and empowered American woman.

[@kathynicholson103]

I'm glad you're back! I hope your message spreads. Glad youre doing well!

[@kafren89]

KC - I am in awe of your level of resilience, self awareness and peace with your whole experience. I saw your first video. The viral one. It is amazing to see the change in you. It’s there. In your eyes. You are so much more self assured now. And I know you will continue to keep moving forward. Despite everything you are facing from a social aspect, you are standing firm. I do not know you - but I feel compelled to express how proud I am of you. Keep going, KC. We see you 🫰

[@death2theworld]

It really looks like this was the best decision for you.

[@carlinlandis8837]

For one, I appreciate you coming back! Your voice is needed

[@TheNicMMc]

I’m starting to notice alot of cases of wanting to transition have either stem a very sextist toxic environment or a response to sexual assault. Overcoming or be willing to talk about personal experiences you had makes you strong.

[@WomanTakenBytheWind]

KC, first of all I am so proud of you for coming to all of this awareness and overcoming the obstacles that you have been faced with. it is sick that people are choosing to ignore your born sex and detransition, because they choose to view how they want to view you. To me that is proof of sexism and homophobia. You are doing amazing, despite all the obstacles that is in your way. I am glad that you mentioned BPD, I think it is very important that we talk about the comorbidities that people who are transitioning may have and how it may have affected their self perception. You are such a brave young woman. I am wondering, have you ever considered vocal training the way trans women train their voices to sound higher even though they have a low voice? I don't know if that would work with female anatomy, but perhaps that would help with some of the misconceptions about your appearance. I think the brain especially has a hard time reconciling gender when we are conditioned to put all the pieces of a puzzle together, voice, appearance, name, etc. In my opinion you look clearly female. The only thing that throws anyone off to me must be your voice. But there are women with naturally low voices. dressing slightly more feminine coded might also help. I don't think you should have to give up who you are and who you want to be, just something to think about. It is great to hear that you are making such progress with your mental health and your self perception. It's really important that we have a clear idea of who we are so that other people can't tell us who to be. I'm so proud of you girl, you've got this!

[@ClaudiaHelmkeMiller]

I’m so pleased to see you as the true masculine female that you are KC! You’re a beautiful soul and I think you’re doing a great thing for all girls and women. As a masculine woman myself now 56 I can tell you it’s not an easy road but being who you are takes courage. Brava! Keep up the great work ❤!

[@dianahensley8715]

I'm glad to see that you're doing better. I have wondered how you are doing, so thank you for sharing. It makes me sad that you have gone through so much in your young life. You are an amazing young woman, and I wish you the best in life! Sending hugs!

[@HorseSenseNM]

You are so strong ans vulnerable. This is beautiful. You can tell you are doing your internal work. All support and love your way

[@MariaBM1]

You actually sound like you are doing amazingly well. Bravo you!! 😊I've been very worried about how detransitioners are going to cope, but seeing this video gives me hope.

[@bettysanborn1991]

You're stronger than you think. Just think where you were a year ago (what A mess you were then, not meaning to pull you down) and how well you're doing now. You have plans for your future in a profession that gives you a place to use your compassionate heart, the lessons you've learned, and care and concern for yourself and others. In our world today that says a lot. Not intending to make you uncomfortable (I'm old enough to be your Gramma) I send you a big ole hug............be proud of yourself honey. I'm praying for you.

[@Didi-tn7ke]

Congratulations on how far you have come! All the blessings are coming your way. You deserve it. 🎉

[@PollyAlice2000]

Thank you for sharing your experience and strength. I can only imagine all the physical and mental ups and down your journey has caused. I’m a straight great grandmother trying to understand and wishing you a bright future!

[@sarahmercer8326]

I'm so relieved to be seeing this update from you...and so happy to see the light back in your eyes. I'm a 22 year old woman...and have friends that are transitioning due to the same struggles you've described in this video. The pain, hopelessness, and desperation they feel breaks my heart...but despite how hard I've tried I can't get through to them. Maybe it's because they doubt my sincerity...or feel as though due to my lived experience I couldn't possibly understand them. BUT seeing how far you've come in ONLY one year gives me SO much hope. You are so incredibly brave and strong and courageous. You are living proof that despite hardships... it is possible to heal, repair and reclaim yourself. I hope you continue to inspire and mentor others who are still lost and suffering. May your light shine onto the hearts of those who struggle (like my friends), and may your courage spark empathy, compassion, clarity and change in them. Despite not being trans or part of the LGBT community myself...I want you to know that you are seen and heard. Your bravery does not go unnoticed. I wish there was more support for the detrans community...because you and your brothers and sisters should be embraced and recognized for the tremendous amount of strength, perseverance and wisdom you all have.

[@mxt4907]

If “getting through to them” is discouraging their transition, you are not helping. Detransition is a result of someone realizing they are no longer the person they were, or I suppose in some cases making a maladaptive coping strategy. To assume the latter is to assume you know them better than you know yourself. I’m happily trans despite becoming homeless. This is me. Your friends are themselves. They know themselves better than you do. If you’re a real friend, you will support them no matter what journey they take

[@joi726]

​@@mxt4907 I understand your point however I dont believe her motivation to encourage her friends not to transition was because of her own beliefs but I could be wrong. We dont know her to judge her. I do know that transitioning is a MAJOR life changing choice and if I saw my friend struggling with their gender identity because of their inner homophobic dislike for themselves, then I would say something too as their friend who loves them. Saying "you're perfect just the way you are" is an act of love. A true friend would speak up AND still love and support you if you decide to transition anyway. I think we're losing our ability to listen to and empathize with one another without getting caught up in our own emotions/ideology which is causing a lot of people to stay silent, lie, and distance themselves just to keep the peace thus making us all less friendly.

[@lovejumanji5]

@@mxt4907. When your friends step into a demographic with 40% rate of UN-aliving themselves, it is helpful for a person to present the other side of the coin . It’s unhealthy to be surrounded by “ yes men”. There is positive and negative side in everything. People like to look at the positives and ignore or not think of the negatives and then they get blindsided. Helping someone to anticipate negative aspects of anything is a good friend. Imagine saying nothing about what you thought and tragedy happens ? Live with that would be awful . This is the type of friend that will stick by when things go south. The others will turn their backs if they change their mind later. Being in this position has become common. Check out who sticks around and who doesn’t in these scenarios. Vulnerable people need empathic friends.

[@lovejumanji5]

Sarah , you are not alone in this position. The person I know in your position told the person that no matter what they do they will be there and they told them to call especially if they feel like ( “checking out” ). 😢. This territory has many potholes, it’s crucial to have real friends, not just fair weather friends. Godspeed Sarah💥

[@sarahmercer8326]

​@joi726 thank you so much for your empathy and insight! You're spot on, my motivation has never been to encourage someone not to transition. Real friendship is based on honesty, integrity, compassion, and trust. In my own life, I have watched friends withdraw from their loved ones for fear that their family would disagree with them or that they may be asked to carefully weigh their options before medically transitioning. I think (maybe this is just me) that it's important to have a support network of people that come from all walks of life. I'm slowly finding the courage to speak up even when it would be safer or more convenient for me to be quiet and complacent.

[@asadchoudhrya]

It really does take an immense amount of bravery to work through this insanely complex situation. You’re opening my eyes and my heart. I’m growing as a person from your testimony.

[@carriecarrie7975]

I’m very glad that you have found self acceptance. As a woman I’ve gone through girly phases… I’ve gone through tomboy phases… I’ve gone through some weird out of this world phases 🤦🏾‍♀️😅…Embrace your uniqueness as a woman. We are not completely a monolith. Some days I feel like wearing heart earrings other days I feel like wearing skull earrings🤷🏾‍♀️😅 we come in all different shapes sizes personalities interests etc. it is actually great to not be like everyone else. I’ve always marched to beat of my own drum (even within the different groups (being a woman, being black… I’ve never fit easily into one of those boxes)…and it feels pretty great and free to me. I just consider myself the lone wolf that occasionally joins the pack from time to time (in order provide some balance in my life). The life needs balance. The soul needs self acceptance… we’re never gonna be perfect… and some days we’re up..some days down… some days we feel pretty…and other days we feel ugly… or fat/skinny… moody…it’s a life’s work. Embrace yourself as you are and not what others want you to be.❤️

[@kashiayami]

I listened to your earlier statements, I'm glad you're moving forward, I'm glad you're not giving up - I keep my fingers crossed, I wish you strength and all the best❤

[@triciat2855]

Thank you for speaking out, KC! Your voice is important and all kids thinking about transitioning should hear what you have to say. So sorry to learn that you experience abuse; as a Gen Xer, this completely perplexes me. In the 70s and 80s, a more "masculine" girl was just a tomboy and cross dressing was perfectly acceptable (as a teenage girl, I wore vintage men's suits and doc martens for much of my high school years). I appreciate your honesty, self-awareness and your important message. It is okay to be gender nonconforming, and no one needs to change their bodies through artificial hormones and surgery.

[@nakushii_Kraft]

when I was a little girl i was devastated that I wasnt a boy....I grew up to be a masculine female and I am ok with that......I am glad when i grew up in the 80s that no one was around to put me in a box...Imma in my own category...I am me...and thats ok...Ppl just need to be ok to be themselves.....not try to change ppl physically to match their personality masucline or feminine....be ok to be yourself thats what counts.

[@LindaASJ]

I hope we come to a point in society that everyone can accept themselves as they are and we can all accept each other. I’m concerned that we will have so many young people who will go through the trauma of transitioning and putting themselves at such a health risk then changing their minds.

[@TechNACITYbjj]

THANK YOU SO SO MUCH. I / WE LOVE YOU!! JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. YOUR PURPOSE IN SAVING / HELPING / ENCOURAGING US is IMMENSE!!

[@tamarabg6477]

So glad to see your doing better, getting counseling and healing. I've been kinda worried about you, thank you for the update. You are a beautiful young woman, and I'm glad you're strong enough to see that now. Sending you so much love!