Detransition update and ramblings: butch edition

In this filibuster of a video, I talk about the realities of navigating the workplace as a gender-nonconforming woman, "advocacy," religion, and whatever else I decided to talk about when I filmed this.

[@pariscashin]

Im so proud of you for not giving up on school and reaching your goals. Becoming a registered nurse is very difficult to do and the medical world needs more honest people like you that patients can trust.

[@meeksuh6991]

Keep fighting, Kasey. I'm not detrans, but I'm a male who get mistaken for female a lot. I wouldn't consider myself gender nonconforming, but I have longish hair, "soft" facial features, and I'm also gay. Sometimes I want to gender-bend and paint my nails, grow my hair even longer, or experiment with fashion. You're right about homophobia surrounding gender nonconformity. Butch lesbians and femme gay boys have it rough. Anyway--like I said--keep fighting! You make me feel like I'm not alone.

[@franny5295]

I would honestly rather y'all just be what you are without damaging your bodies with unnecessary surgeries or trapping yourself on drugs. I really do. I think you should just live your life and stop worrying any what people think.

[@juless5699]

It blows my mind that 'butch lesbians' & 'femme' gay men now have it harder that those in the Trans community (& often with less protections eg in workplaces, schools, uni, social media). 😔

[@Janis_Even]

​@franny5295 You don't know how people treat you if you are not like they expect you to be. Just live your life is not so easy for people who look like their opposite sex.

[@brbsnortingcatnip]

@@Janis_Even I don't know how you identify, but seeing what trans folk go through, I'd imagine it's harder to stay your assigned gender and look how you want than it is to make extreme changes to your body and still go through the same thing. I could of course be wrong, though.

[@Janis_Even]

@brbsnortingcatnip It's very kind of you to say that you don't know how I identify. Thanks for that statement. Saying that is balm for me. I think I get what you mean by saying that trans people who change body go through much. So that it would be better to stay as the assiged gender at birth. What I think about this is. I also think that the long-term consequences are dangerous and further things do not work. But some people may feel relieved if they look like the gender they feel to be. I can imagine that. It's like if you are a woman, and you would have been forced for a whole lifetime to live as a man and have hair in the face and must shave and so on. You would be pretty unhappy living your life. Because you feel good as a woman and want to go to the bathroom with other women. Dress like women etc. That's why they feel the need to go to normal. What they feel that it would be normal for them. (so that's that problem there) The other side of being gender nonconforming and living live as a female who looks like a male. That is a different situation. That is like bullying the whole life. You can't imagine that. It is really cruel. People say you are an undeveloped woman. Who never started to mature. If you go to the hairdresser you have always to find a way to demand that you don't want a Women's hairstyle. They give you confusing looks. They don't want to see a woman like that. They can't figure out whether you're male or female. That is exhausting. This makes people unsure how to talk to you. They look at you in shock. You are not a man. So you don't have a man's respect. But you're not like a woman either. So you don't have the respect of a woman either. You are not accepted. This is a hard life. Taking hormones is a completely different thing.

[@leegordon5223]

I have to say that as a Mom of an adult trans (bio female) I have a lot of respect and admiration that you do come back and update your followers. You are helping others here and in your chosen career. Thank you. Love and kindness is what our world needs so keep being true to yourself. ❤🇨🇦❤️

[@outlandishmuch]

"my advocacy is living my truth and living by example and being the representation that i needed." great quote

[@elliotcanant]

I'm FtMtF, too. Praying for you. Stay strong!! ❤

[@carriesing]

Kasey, as a retired nurse I’m going to give my opinion on the issue of correcting patients-Dont. You’re seeing people when they are ill, feeling vulnerable, their family may not be with them, etc. Don’t burden patients with your issues; just give them good care so they can rest and feel safe. No sick person needs to be put through the mental flip flops of sorting out gender madness. Just my opinion, all the best to you.

[@genericbrandsludge]

Calling her gender madness is rude lol

[@electricfishfan7159]

I don’t think Carrie was calling Kasey herself, “gender madness,” it’s just that gender itself is madness and it’s not worth engaging with strangers at the end of their ropes about philosophical/worldview distinctions. I would try to shrug off being missexed in a nursing context as well unless a patient’s mistake engenders practical issues like scaring them or causing confusion of who to call.

[@franny5295]

​@@genericbrandsludge It is crazy to people who aren't going through this. It's very crazy and makes zero sense to me which is why I'm trying to hear peoples stories so that I can at least not be mean without realizing it. They're already going through it rough and I don't want to make it worse for anybody.

[@nonayobiznez5311]

woah!

[@chrisleigh485]

@@franny5295I think that is the point Carrie is making. When people are in the hospital, they are drugged, in pain, elderly, confused, and/or most likely recovering from something that would have caused death without medical intervention. Asking someone in that state to remember to identify a female who presents as a male and then adding a correction when they don’t is unfair and certainly not empathetic. Many patients have a hard time relaying their own basic information, much less someone else’s.

[@jenniferabbott8505]

As a mom I wish your videos were shared in every high school and college for those that have been pulled into the culture without understanding the real damage but there is hope with the truth as you’ve proven. My heart goes out to you for speaking honestly.

[@lauralaura12345]

Butch and non gender conforming women are valid and beautiful.

[@ExecutionSommaire]

Yeah. Physiques that stick out can definitely be attractive, especially if the personality is also interesting.

[@jaxflfreebird]

Yes they are, especially to you because you said they are. So, please, have a relationship with those people.

[@kayetaylor5551]

Such a shame Casey can't see what we see....such a hottie...I wish she could see in my head.....oh hang on😂😂😂 maybe not cause she would think I'm a bit of a perv....anyway....I would!!!!😂😂😂 Sorry Casey....but you are hot❤

[@Smudgyglasses]

​@@jaxflfreebird??? What are you talking about

[@BloodSweatandFears]

Right? There have been butch and masculine women in the gay community for everrrrr!

[@TPeres45]

Aww, sweetheart. You don’t need a label. I wish everyone would stop thinking labels will help. You just be yourself. You are unique and worthy of love. You are very humble, but I wish I could see a little more confidence. I admire you for what you put out to the universe. Keep it up. Sending you lots of love. Go kick butt, kiddo. ❤ ~from just a mom out here wishing you all the good things.

[@leegordon5223]

Her confidence is continuing to grow with such great accomplishments.❤❤❤

[@melaniegrace7707]

For what it’s worth when I look at you, I see a woman. Definitely Butch, but a woman nonetheless. I’m glad you’re learning to accept yourself for who you are, it’s sad that other people are so close minded that they can’t appreciate a great person when they see one. Also I love how you’re choosing to move forward. You are here to create self acceptance and inspire others! You’re an incredible spirit in a beautiful body, it makes me so happy and proud to see people not let their hardships define their future. Your voice is authentic, powerful, and helpful to others!!

[@toohottohoot9356]

I’m so glad to see you!!! Stay butch! Us old lesbians are here for you. I’ve been “misgendered” my entire life too. Other people’s perception of me changes absolutely nothing about reality. Same goes for you.

[@FoodNerds]

I’ve been misgendered my entire life because of my name I don’t even care. If that were the worst thing in my life, it wove sooooo easy!

[@nebraskamomma]

"Guys every day for me is de trans awareness day" lol i laughed. Keep on rockin KC

[@Luellavonstein]

I just love her!

[@ProntoPronto2]

She is so beautiful, too bad she just didn't know and that some "professionals"people took advantage of her mental health. She is beautiful, and someday she will see it and embrace it. ❤❤❤

[@janesmith8050]

I started listening to this on my phone and went to my laptop to finish and comment because my comment may be long. This comment is coming from the perspective of an older Gen X femme who has been aware of butch girls since I was 11 or 12. I am hard-wired to be attracted to butch women. They are rare and beautiful to me and I always thought that it must be particularly challenging to stick out like a sore thumb in whatever society you lived in. About 17 years ago I started noticing the phenomenon of butch women transitioning and transgenderism becoming a growing trend. This alarmed me because 1. The women were transitioning at very early ages (18, 19, early 20's) and I knew that what we think we want at those ages can change dramatically the older/more mature we get, and these women were making permanent changes to their bodies before really understanding themselves. 2. The vast majority of the time (this has changed now) the women who were transitioning were obviously butch women. I remember thinking 'wow, there goes a generation of butch women' and it made me really sad. It has only been very recently that butch women have been accepted and now it feels like it's going backwards again. Natural born butch women have always existed and are everywhere, they are just rare. I have known and deeply loved butch women as the unique and incredible women that they tend to be and it really hurt to see the majority of young butch women get conned by trans ideology. Femme lesbians have an innate attraction to and celebration of butch women and it's been so painful to "lose" so many of them to this regressive, misogynistic, and homophobic trend/ideology. I support and celebrate all detransitioners and wish you all the best. I really appreciate Kasey's thoughtful articulation of her experience with transitioning and detransitioning- her choosing to share her experience is deeply valuable and I hope that she will be able to continue to share as long as she finds it beneficial to do so. The other thing that I wanted to add was that 20-30 years ago it was rare for a butch woman to experience any problems with using women's restrooms, but trans ideology has made this more problematic as more women are on guard about sharing their spaces with men and yes sometimes butch women get misgendered. My girlfriends would on occasion get misgendered, it never bothered them, and a quick and simple correction (if they chose) was all that was needed. There is another butch detransitioned KZbinr named Carol whose KZbin name is @SourPatches2077 who also makes really thoughtful commentary. Blessings Kasey, and thank you.

[@sheilaoreilly6826]

Kasey did an interview with Carol. Great insight from them both ❤️

[@waitingandlearning]

I'm in agreement with you. As a straight tomboy woman, I found I had most in common with other tomboys or butch women, and I found their place in society beautiful. I miss the balance our society had when there were more butch lesbian women in it.

[@lorrainechamberlain7818]

Great comment, my Sister.♥️

[@theresas740]

Thank you, Sister! I've been watching my Butch sheroes jump ship for 30 years now and it's heartbreaking. I see so much homophobia in trans ideology, especially the lie of "trans kids." How many kids with gender dysphoria would grow up to realize they are simply lesbian, bi or gay like you and me?

[@andreacoles5947]

As a femme lesbian I completely agree with you.

[@carolinelvsewe]

Can I add, I as a straight person living among lesbians for the most part, keep wondering WHY WHY WHY I should care what you are beyond kind and respectable as we all should be. Keep speaking up for loving people just because.

[@jamisonfawkes8537]

if it’s something you’re comfortable with, i found that bras specifically made for woman who have had a double mastectomy helped a lot with my own confidence. i can’t erase my years of testosterone use or my double mastectomy, but i found that the appearance of having breasts made me feel better personally. sending love ❤

[@Chamomile369]

My grandma wore one of these after she had breast cancer and it really helped her!!

[@carolinelvsewe]

Big congrats on school and being awesome at your job!!!!🎉. My daughter is studying the same right now. It’s hard work! Great care is so important. WHO you are is so much more important than gender, color, religion etc. Thanks for a new video updating us that really care. You are an achiever!!!

[@Grandma_Jizzzzzzzard]

I get so delighted when I see that you have uploaded! You look absolutely fabulous ❤

[@einericklon8486]

Hi Kasey ! My experience is similar to yours. But I'm older and not a lesbian. I quit HRT 2021 and still get taken for being a man. It is what it is, sometimes it makes me so frustrated and other days I can handle it with more ease. Your videos are spot-on ! Thank You ! ✌

[@mjwin8913]

Also, I’ve seen good, professional nurses get away with completely ignoring comments and responding with their role/purpose for the encounter… “I’m here to give you your meds” “I’m trying to discharge room 410 but need some help.” Directing people back to the objective with confidence and a compassion that tells them they’re safe with us is something that’s highly needed at the hospital these days. You got this :)

[@missmischief9732]

As a gay woman I went through a period where I strongly wanted too present as more unifentifiable as male or female and struggled with body dysmorphia around having breasts which I actually still struggle with from time too time. I feel like what you are sharing is so important I know internalozed homophobia or raised being taught how a female or male should be raised or behave can be so destructive as a young developing person esp with this huge push for us to be either femme or masculine instead of letting us be just who and what we are affirming that its okay to be femme or masc as a biological male or biological female and having dysmiphioa comesn in a range as well. So from the bottom of my heart i appreciate you for beingn honest an open about who you are and finding who she/you are.

[@das5655]

Better trans masculity

[@das5655]

Respec detrans respect trans

[@rosmarinaus]

Kasey, I have so much respect for you. Whatever your concerns/anxieties, I think you will address and handle them thoughtfully. You are courageous and resilient.

[@normanshadow1]

One day masculine women and feminine men will be accepted.

[@quinnvids]

it is so awesome to see you doing so well in your career and being confident, asserting yourself, setting your boundaries around media/political stuff, etc. you look and sound so healthy, strong and vibrant.

[@ginnythurber5636]

As a seasoned nurse, try not to let those bad interactions with patients discourage you. If they didn't have a problem with your appearance, many of them would find a problem with something else. There are also fields of nursing where your appearance wouldn't come up very often if at all if it turns out you dont want to deal with it. And finally, congrats on doing so well in nursing school! It is NOT easy.

[@Popcorneocpop]

I’ve been watching you from the start of you posting. I also detransitioned back to my birth sex of female about 2 years ago now. You don’t know me but I love you and Im so happy for you! Thank you for the update! Its good to see you

[@elizabethrivard7397]

I found this song just over a week ago. I am a mother of a beautiful 36 yr old queer lesbian daughter very "butch" & you remind me of her. She's so amazing. I have always known she was incredible from the day she was born. She has this warriars heart. I love this song "Already Enough" by Karen Schroeder. I hope that you look it up? I cried when I heard it, as I played a couple of times & I still cry listening to it. I hope that you love it too. I wish you all the best on your journey called life. Never forget it's a wonderful gift. Sincerely ❤Liz

[@Luellavonstein]

As a fellow nurse turned psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner. I just want to tell you how proud we all are of you that you’re gonna be joining us! I think that you are going to make such a difference in so many lives even though it’s very hard right now to deal with these challenges. Think of it as a stepping stone because 10 years from now or further on out when you’re where I’m at and many of us that are a lot older than you, you’re gonna look back on this and realize that you were so extremely strong to get through all of this and to get where you’re at now, and where you’re going in your future. Nurse bullying is a real thing so you just keep on advocating for yourself and regardless of how many people make these mistakes you just remember every day how incredibly awesome everybody who follows you thinks that you are ❤❤❤

[@luanao7665]

Love it ! I am also detransitioning (but back to male in my case) .. just starting the process. It is scary because I did some facial surgeries and electrolysis hair removal, and I am not sure that I will fully pass as male anymore.

[@jennb4611]

I would love to see you be so fully yourself that others' opinions of you are just background noise. ❤

[@Geoplanetjane]

Doesn’t matter

[@psycherevivedby]

hair doesn't make you female, all females have body hair

[@GGG.793]

I’m so happy to see you again on here❤. When I first came across a couple of your videos, you broke my heart!! NOT that you need me or anyone to say how proud they are of you, I just kept thinking through this video is I am so proud of her!! You have come so far from the first time I saw you and you are going to continue to grow. You are amazing Kacey.💞 This made me smile and I needed one today!!!

[@BriannaWeldon]

What I am learning from this is that transitioning isn’t necessarily because the individual feels like they can’t express gender how they please, but that their communities won’t allow them to. I did not know people transition because being a masculine woman or feminine man isn’t acceptable by the people around them. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@yianna147]

and it literally reinforces homophobia!!!!

[@batmansmith7422]

You're lovely, Kasey. I never medicalized because of money + vanity about my voice, but I claimed to be anything but a lesbian for a long, long time. Keep on keeping on and kicking ass with nursing stuff, it's a hard field.

[@thewomanatthebluedoor535]

You've made amazing leaps and bounds and I'm so happy for you :) Love the tats, you rock em!

[@MaxWrite]

I'm genuinely so happy that you're doing well and just living your life. 💜

[@virginiaraine2207]

I don’t know you, and I have been a quiet follower ; just so you know big props and respect for you just being out and open about the truth of you! Not just detranstioning but your goals and everything . You are valid you are loved just know you got people rooting for you to be successful and safe . Congrats on the schooling you got this , you just take it one day at a time , one shift at a time you got this

[@heretoday788]

KC - It's because when some people find out they were wrong about your gender, they may feel like you were trying to trick or deceive them. Being in a dependent role/situation in a hospital situation can make many people guarded, especially if they have medical trauma. I know it's difficult not to personalize these interactions and I hope people become more understanding of detrans and gender non-conformity, but right now many people are just lost and confused. I'm sorry you experience these interactions just because of your appearance.

[@stickapot3623]

Thanks for the update. It is inspiring to see that your life is rounding out and you achievements that are more defining of who you are than this part of your life.

[@galacticaturkey88]

I've been following your story for a while and watching all your vids, All i know is that you are incredibly strong, i would have caved a long time ago to everything you've been through, your mental fortitude is to be admired

[@Reet64]

I’m very glad you’re doing so well in school and work. It’s a hard go when the left/liberal media has ignored this topic for so long. The more conservative media has been the only ones willing to say what a woman is. So people automatically assume gender critical means being aligned with the right. I am anything but.

[@Clementine_D]

Kasey, I'm so happy to see you doing so well in your life!

[@katlouise3483]

I just want to say I’ve been following your posts Kasey, you deserve all the best in life and I’m so proud of you.

[@Bookwasbetter]

I'm currently switching careers from law to nursing, and if I can do it, so can you! I don't know you, but I'm excited for you and your journey! You seem like a very emphatic person who will do very well in healthcare. Thanks for the update!

[@kellyschmidt9927]

Congratulations on all your hard work! I’ve followed you for about a year now, and I so appreciate your honesty and vulnerability as a human being. May everything you set your mind and heart to become a reality for you.

[@LilyBean82]

I don't know where I belong in the gender discussion. I was born in 82 and spent the 90's in rural Kentucky listening to death metal, dressing goth with full on face paint, wearing men's clothes and feeling a lot more masculine than feminine and curious about same sex relationships, atheist, and straight edge (I guess to be ironic.) I got beat up a lot, and got harassed by a lot of Christians. I morphed throughout the years but settled nicely into a long term hetero relationship with an anarchist who is morally more conservative than liberal. I have been exposed to a lot of fringe thinking on both ends of the spectrum at this point and it lands me in a complicated position. It broke me from adopting popular narratives because I don't fit into any of them neatly. I think it's good mental exercise to be as open minded as possible, to the point of absurdity, and to maintain a personal narrative that's always evolving. When we don't do this, we end up on one of the extreme ends of the spectrum where we blindly follow--no critical thinking allowed. Because if bible-thumping fundamentalist Christians ever applied critical thinking to their beliefs and behavior toward the LGBTQ+ community, they'd find very quickly how wrong and disgusting their behavior is. Conversely, liberal folks can be really awful, too, like when my liberal friends found out who I was dating. They treated me different. One of my trans friends told me that all conservative people are detestable bile, referring to my bf. A liberal teacher used to talk to me openly but now takes any opportunity to "talk sense into me" about the risks of becoming a conspiracy theorist. A couple other liberal friends faded away from me and won't make any attempt to speak to me. So, I don't know where I belong, and I don't understand why people have to be so hateful and exclusionary. I feel a little outcasted by the very people who I've always rallied in the streets for! All because I sleep with their "enemy" and they don't even know him or his stance on trans issues. They just saw the word conservative and made assumptions about him and me. It blows my mind.

[@insidiousmischka]

There is such a thing as the middle way and lots of shades of gray. I live in that space. I'm totally fine with LGB to the point I feel it's almost unnecessary to point it out because it's such common sense thing for me and always has been. However, I'm 100 percent against gender identity ideology and consider the underlying reason for 'transness' to simply be mental illness/reaction to trauma/homophobia/fetish/etc and so on. I don't consider it evil or disgusting (well, except for AGPs that see women as body parts and biological functions they themselves want to try on because it gives them a hard on), just a symptom of an underlying problem. I don't think 'trans people' as a demographic actually exist, it's a manufactured totally made up 'identity' that some are really gaining from financially (the unscrupulous medical community, etc). That said, I identify with a lot of feelings of gender non-conforming people because I am myself in many ways gender non-conforming. I love gender bending and non-conformity. But I also see the huge differences there are between women and men especially when it comes to the effects of testosterone on behavior (more violence, risky behavior, etc.) and physical strength and that is why women need their single sex spaces and need to be protected from males as much as possible.

[@Prince-of-Whales666]

Same position as you. I refuse to be bullied by holier than though liberals into renouncing my friends just because they have different opinions to mine. We can agree to disagree. I feel a bit lost because I do consider myself a liberal, but the ideology is being gangrened by emotional blackmail such as “if you even say hello to a cop then you are complicit to institutional racism”, “if you are not an intersectional feminist, don’t call yourself a feminist”. I really don’t like it. It’s like bullying and it stresses the heck out of me. And not just me, i know.

[@carolr7962]

It's so difficult for everyone. Your voice is pretty key to anybody saying your male. I think you're doing the best in just letting it go a little more casually.

[@clappaclappa]

You are so smart and interesting. I hope that you’ll be an advocate for others that went through what you experienced. There’s going to be so many unfortunately. Either way you have so much to offer the world and I’m glad you are in it. You have a big heart for service and you handled all that terrible online crap with such grace. Very admirable.

[@SeekAfterGod]

you said “ they didn’t know I transitioned and when they saw me in the community they treated be great because they thought I was just a cis straight guy” “they treated me better than when I was in church because they didn’t even know it was me because I had just changed so much because I dress differently and my hair is shorter My voice was deeper and I started working out.” if they didn’t know you were trans as you said that doesn’t really make sense that they are nicer to trans people than they are to gay people. they were nicer to you, because as you said, they thought you were a cis straight guy. They did not recognize you. If people didnt know you were trans that doesn’t prove people are more excepting of trans then gay. someone would have to know that you were trans for you to be able to decide how they would treat you as trans. I can’t even imagine what it would be like to be caught in the middle between gender critical’s leftists and conservatives. they all want you to join their team and everybody has a tug-of-war over your story.

[@courtneyj2058]

I thought the same. I think as someone who grew up both as a gender non-conforming female and a mainstream conservative Christian, it’s ridiculous to me that anybody truly thinks we believe in “transing the gay away”. I’d give anything for my trans family member to “just be gay” or gender nonconforming as opposed to surgically altering their body-even as I absolutely still believe homosexuality is a destructive lifestyle. I think KC has said she grew up very fundamentalist; unfortunately, that does a lot of damage to the psyche beyond the gender stuff. I’m sorry she has had such bad experiences with conservatives using her for their narratives, but I think she needs to know that a lot of us mainstream conservatives disagree with that behavior as much as we still would disagree on the issues. There is a nuance there. We aren’t “afraid of things we don’t understand” nor do we “hate”. We disagree fundamentally on a philosophical level with the worldview of the left. And I think leftism and gender ideology has absolutely had an effect on coworkers/ patients insisting she is male. They hear drips and drabs of men masquerading as women and they assume she is one of them. It’s unfortunate and I don’t understand her reasoning that more awareness regarding detransitioners wouldn’t help them understand her better. That seems to be her position.

[@suzetteduncan]

so glad to see you! been wondering how you've been doing. glad for the update.

[@robslams2324]

I can’t imagine worrying about my gender all day

[@Dee-mj3pu]

Do your patients need to know to whom you are attracted & why??

[@TaureanTruth]

the narcissism that makes these people think they’re trans doesn’t go away after they go back lol

[@cyndicatbudgets]

I'm so happy to hear that you are doing well. Take care sweet Kasey! 🩷🩷

[@conniegmarkie6599]

I love hearing your perspective. It's incredibly valuable. You look great - so much healthier and so much more comfortable in your skin. Wishing you well.

[@mjwin8913]

I work in the hospital and I don’t think there would be anything wrong with saying, “oh, I’m a girl- I was born a girl, had to do some treatments that changed my voice/messed with my endocrine system, and I’m happy to just be recovering from that now.” Especially in the hospital, it should be a safe place to do that.

[@samiyam3949]

I really love your videos and your honesty, I learned so much from you today and you have such a sensitivity! I consider the deepening of sensitivity as a feature of development/consciousness... Keep going, keep sharing

[@clareclements6724]

I'm so happy to hear you are getting on well. You're a superstar. Shine on.

[@MindmusicArt]

Glad to hear from you again, Kasey! Stay strong girl! You got this! 💖 You look beefy, that's so awesome! 💓❤I need to focus harder on my upper body ♀🥋

[@emy9272]

So happy for you, you're killing it! You've come so far. You're unstoppable! ❤❤💪🏼

[@GGG.793]

When I left my last comment, I didn’t watch the last few minutes of your video! I don’t know where you live and I wouldn’t want you to say!! I see lots of women that look like you look you! If I walked passed you I would never take a double take!! I wish this world would understand that you never know what someone is going through in life. You can’t tell from the outside like I said, in my other comment, you put a smile on my face and I needed one today if I was outside today, my eyes get puffy when I cry, I’m sure lots of people would think what’s wrong with their eyes. Again, it was so nice to see you and hopefully I’ll see more of you on my feed💞

[@paulinehawkins2207]

Congratulations on getting half way through nursing school. You’re amazing. Keep doing well. ❤

[@juless5699]

🎉If only we had all (as a society)...decades ago...allowed males & females to present however they want to (ie not conforming to outdated ideas of what 'male' & 'female' is 'supposed' to look like, sound like, dress like etc). Would we have had such a huge Trans movement if we had simply accepted that 'male' & 'female' has both masculine & feminine traits. Some females will present as more masculine naturally. Same goes for men who have more feminine traits. If only we (society throughout history) had not been so reductionistic in how we (arbitrarily) defined what it means to be male or female. I'm glad you are continuing to accept your own masculinity as a woman. May your future be filled with only good things ❤

[@jennynevins6329]

I applaud you for putting this out there. You are helping untold numbers of people.

[@runningraven]

Okay. Homophobia got you into wanting to transition. The point of those of us saying that gender ideology is harmful is that most of us (LGB people) went through everything you're going through concerning homophobia and came out on the other side, and stronger, just with our breasts, voices, hairlines, and genitals intact. We've grown up and are now fully fledged adults who don't give a flying fig about people who don't think being a lesbian is okay... and we see that gender ideology hasn't made your journey any easier. So, sure, homophobia sucks and we NEED to work towards acceptance (which we did, and rather successfully in many places before the gender stuff took off). We also need to protect homosexual people (among others) from needlessly adopting and consequently being harmed by gender ideology. Can we agree on that?

[@marthasundquist5761]

Just continue on being you....folks are so confused/upset by all of their perceptions being turned upside down in the world. Folks need to just like you for you...whoever you are, or how you present yourself.

[@kayetaylor5551]

Nothing new here....tom boys or butch girls have always been called male....end of....people just need to stop listening to the horrible confusing words that are there to hurt and make money ....really sick...sick sick sick

[@brookerichards9037]

To be fair, “folks” are not the confused ones. They don’t like being told they that are either. To each his own. Everyone has an opinion on something and that shouldn’t be made to appear as wrong or some type of phobia. No one has to accept anything. They only must follow all laws in regard to it, and that is reasonable

[@troyrobert6266]

Your updates give me life. Please don’t stop

[@missmartpants2269]

Glad to see you doing so much better. God bless!🌱🌾

[@mmc1086]

U look fine as hell

[@WildnUnruly]

I’m weird. I had a extreme womanly body when I was 12. I’m like an exaggeration of all things that make a woman. I never had a “girlish” look and this made me a target for every disgusting man out there. I had men flashing me as I simply walked to school. I was introduced to abhorrent sexual behaviors, stalked, harassed and called every vile name in the book because I looked like a walking bombshell, of course liking this way automatically labeled me easy or a prostitute. I learned about shame. I learned to hide and be afraid. I did not want to be myself. I learned how to abuse myself by not eating and running. I made a skeleton of my body so I could not be me. Not the same as your story. But maybe you can see that you are not alone. I finally grew into my body but it took many many years. I now appreciate who I am and have joy in my heart.

[@rebeccao8895]

Glad you’re doing well and achieving your goals. ♥️

[@rose-hope]

I’m sorry you are going through this. Some of us are very appreciative of butch lesbians but I absolutely agree that a big part of today’s trans trend is that people are still homophobia and would rather see a woman become a man rather than date women. Sending good vibes!❤

[@AlibraMentality]

I heard somewhere that your true self is your “authentic self”. Being authentic in your day to day life is the way to go. Just speak from your heart ( and that’s the real you). Who cares about your outside, it’s about the inside. And you have a beautiful soul.. keep shining bright 🌞🌞

[@juliam3980]

I'm so glad to see you in your own place, finding your tribe and doing real work and learning (in nursing school). It's great!

[@AccidentalCarnivore-ul3kg]

New subscriber here! Your video popped up in my feed. I listened to your story. I will try and catch up on your other videos soon. Keep living your best life Kasey. Keep doing you. You are loved. ❤

[@SebastianSkadisson]

The difficulty for some people to accept you as a woman might also be because of an evolutionary quirk. It's hard to explain but i'll try with my favorite animal: Otters. Space and size impact soundwaves and resonance profoundly. Us tall humans, with our relatively big ears when compared to Otters, hear Otters singing and yelling as a rather high screeching sound. But when you have small ears and smaller voice boxes like Otters have, especially when compared to humans, your Otter kin suddenly will sound like T-Rexes sound in our movies to us. It's not exactly perfectly accurate, but when you slow down the sound of an Otter's singing or yelling, you lengthen the soundwaves like the smaller hearing organs of Otters would do when processing the sound of other Otters, and they sound like T-Rexes to them. Impressive and booming. And this is where human psychology comes in and gives us false information about the size and dimensions of a person, just because the voice doesn't match their physique. If a mountain of a dude has the voice of a mouse, we cringe, even if afterwards we might find it cute or lovely. If a filigrane dude booms at us with a deep voice, we cringe, even if afterwards we find it interesting and charismatic. But that only happens when the person is able to self-reflect and move past the stuff that nature tells them "by default". That only happens when people manage to step over natural bias and natural ignorance. I hope that this helps in that most people who are offended or become super defensive when they encounter a transitioned or detransitioned person, don't do it out of evil. It's literally just ignorance, mostly unknowingly. They, in the moment, don't know that they are ignorant, they are way too occupied with coping mechanisms trying to tell them that who they encountered is somehow abnormal. Their brains basically prevent them from using too much brain power, putting it bluntly.

[@trainsonplanes709]

I think I learned something about otters right now, thanks. Also, your comment makes a lot of sense. A lot to think about here

[@drstewart]

Is it really ignorance to operate under what evolution has indicated for thousands of years? For the vast majority of human interactions, perception and evolutionary cues such as secondary sex characteristics tell you what you need to know. That's not bias, that's reality. People may not deal well with unexpected conflict in those perceptions. Ingroup thinking is a thing that happens. In this case, the group is the overwhelming majority of people who don't have sex/gender issues. Health compromised individuals aren't necessarily in a place for a teaching moment nor for exhibiting evolved social graces. It happens, particularly in the healthcare field. You're not seeing people at their best, and whatever your personal issues are, those take a far backseat to patient care. I've seen patients be bigoted for any number of reasons in every possible category. Disrespect is never appropriate but patients may refuse care from anyone for any reason, their own actual ignorance included. It comes down to exhibiting an irregular condition to the public at large. Interacting with the public as an atypical, non-conforming person, in a setting as intimate as healthcare, is going to yield mixed reactions. People could be less of a jerk, sure. This is the case with any non-homogenous social condition. It's also unlikely in a country where anywhere from a third to half of the population are aggressively and proudly obtuse.

[@SebastianSkadisson]

@@drstewart Those are good points, thank you. We don't call animals ignorant for acting in pure instinct when taking advantage of everyone else around them, even their siblings. So calling humans acting on instincts ignorant could be a logical affront, too. But wouldn't this way of thinking, when taken as the defacto correct way of thinking, reduce humanity to a barbaric state of being? Wouldn't us assuming that people always just act on instinct mean that by default every human is seen as a savage, forcing them to proof themselves over and over again to loose the status of a savage in our world view? And yeah, group bias plays a huge role, and that kind of bias, that's not found in just a single person, might be easier to train and inform than trying to train and inform one single person away from biases. But when you blow an issue up into societal proportions, you inevitabely start to social engineer to reach any goal. Social engineering is, in my mind, a form of ignrance - when social engineering you are willingly and knowingly ignorant towards individuals in order to reach a goal within a larger public/society. It may help in the long run, but will severely lessen the quality of life for a lot of individuals, no matter what goal you are persueing. And just like in psychology the outcome is never sure, you would have to constantly assess and correct your "social engineering therapy" for it to actually reach a goal. You are absolutely right that when engaging with a job as intimate as healthcare work, you will have to face the good and the ugly in human nature, unfiltered and at least psychologically pretty harshly. The only thing that might dampen this negative effect in my opinion is civility, but it seems that in hard times, like the one we are facing globally right now, people are getting rid of civility rather quickly. Thanks for your reply, i've learned something and hope i didn't spin off into all heavens with my reply.

[@SebastianSkadisson]

@@trainsonplanes709 Thank you for reading and replying. I'm glad i could inspire thought. :D I wish you a great day.

[@GeeMak999]

Hey Kasey Good to see you again my dear

[@emilyditzler4843]

So glad You know Yourself. At Your age You have taken the time to get to know Yourself and most people don't. It is very deep reflection to go inside to find out who we really are and it is not about the physical as much as it is about the realization of oneself inwardly that brings truth to each of us. Realization can take a long time but the journey is worth it even with the ups and downs. Arriving is all that matters. I have so much respect for You.

[@Leah_F.]

As a kid in the 80’s, we didn’t know of any labels. We just accepted everyone as they were on the inside. I think people today don’t live in that same concept, & it’s so sad to see. I believe it’s partly because of all the different labels, because with labels, comes higher expectations. Try to tune out the ignorance of others, & just continue on your journey & working on yourself. Let your inner light shine, & eventually it will pay off! Much love!! ❤

[@43aqueous]

Do you think it would help if you said something along the lines of 'I'm a detransitioner and I was born female'? If someone said that to me it would sober me up really quick to the fact that you just never know what someone has been through and I honestly think that is super important.

[@mollystewart2595]

There is SO much more to women than how we present on the outside or how feminine we are. You’re a woman because you are and everything about you is what makes you a woman. We’re all different with different stories and styles and characteristics. Thank you for being vulnerable. What you have to say is important.

[@andgabby2510]

Your tattoos are so beautifully done! Lovely! ❤️

[@thissweetlife7250]

I am really super proud of you and your amazing no matter what! ❤

[@MG-vo7yn]

congratulations on all of the progress you have made and are making!!!

[@lorrainechamberlain7818]

Keep going. You’re on the right track! Just make good friends in life and it will all get better. You can live a great life in the real world as YOURSELF cuz you’re terrific. You don’t need that community and the limited mind space. Loved listening to you. Go forth & be happy. ♥️

[@nancybackus338]

Kacey, you are a beautiful young woman, inside and out. Continue on your path. I definitely see you in a healing profession like nursing and wish you much success. You are a dear soul. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

[@RoseH-UK]

Hear me out, I'm not here to offend. I'm here to answer your query. You roughly said "what about me being detrans changes my ability to care for others?" If you really think about it from a patients perspective, they're being cared for by someone that made a massive bad decision for themselves so how can the patient expect the detrans carer to know what's best for them if they can't even do that for themselves? I sympathize, i really do. I thought i was gender fluid bc of all this gender stereotype crap. I just hope that might cure some of your confusion over the matter. I wish you the best, I'm sure you can make incredible educated decisions for your patients.

[@kleek9581]

Thank you for the updates & personal look into the life of someone actually living this

[@franny5295]

Up until my early twenties I was a tomboy. I was such a tomboy. Climbing trees, falling out of them, tearing up sideways popping wheelies on my bike with my brother and our male friends. I didn't really like playing with girls very much because they didn't want to do the things I wanted to do. I even begged my mom for a hysterectomy and she did something radical: She asked me why. And I explained that my periods hurt, and they were messy, and I hated it and I didn't need it anyway because I didn't want kids. My mother looked at me and she said: You'll change your mind. And I insisted I wouldn't and while I cried from frustration she went and bought me some motrin and pads with wings, they had just come out and they were expensive but she bought them for me, and she told me: "Let's fix the actual problem. You don't have to cry. Here, this is how you take this medicine and these pads will keep your clothes cleaner. Change them more often and if you need more, I can buy more." She also made sure I had a heating pad and that I could use that as needed for comfort waiting for the meds to kick in. I was born in 1981. If I'd been born within the last 10-20 years, they would have destroyed my life. I didn't want children at 13 but what 13 year old wants kids? What I needed was comfort and time to finish growing up and I'm so sorry you didn't get that. I'm so sorry you didn't get the support that you really needed. I married and had a family and I am so glad my mother talked to me. And helped me without hurting me. There seems to be this thing where abused girls try to hide behind a male gender and rather than helping them cope with the trauma they suffered, they're exploited because it fits the agenda. And I think it's a scam to turn hurting people into cash cows and it's so unfair. I'm so sorry... Edited to add: Just so you know, you're not the only one that's going through the "there's no one like me." I'm descended from Africans trafficked in north America. We're told our ethnicity is "black" or "African American." Elon Musk is African American. I was born here. I did my DNA to track my origins and it turns out that I'm a semite. I'm descended from biblical Isrealites. Biblical Isrealites are Africans and I'm Hebrew. I'm not really an American. Legally, I'm a stateless African that lives in America. Nobody else is expected to accept being identified as "a whole other continent American" but they did that because the truth is we don't belong here. But we also no longer have a state to return to in the African continent. I know this isn't exactly the same but I just wanted to know you're not by yourself. You're really not. Imagine the awkwardness when I'm designated an African American and I tell them no, I checked my DNA and verified my ethnic origin is semitic. I'm ethnically Hebrew, my ethnicity is not a color or two whole continents seperated by a gigantic ocean, only one of which, I have ever set foot on 👀

[@jennb4611]

I'm a Christian and conservative, and I am so sorry my community failed to love you. There's an anti-biblical narrative many of us unfortunately believe -- that God wants us to make everyone do what He wants. Truth is, we can't even make ourselves do what He wants. 🤪 That's why we needed Jesus to do it for us. We should have loved you better, Kasey. ❤️

[@jhickman4735]

I'm gen x lesbian and I really feel for the young , boyish lesbians today who have to worry about people seeing them as trans, I know I would have hated that. I'm not butch and not feminine either but I do know throughout my life is someone has called me sir ( mostly because of my short hair ) it has really upset me, I just hate that. I am a same sex attracted woman and because of that I am not attracted to transwomen, it's just impossible for me.

[@harredondo1]

When someone I love was hallucinating in the hospital they thought my sister was my nephew, and told them he loved them and to be a good boy. She just replied, I love you too and gave them a hug. When someones in the hospital or has an illness perhaps even dying you just roll with it and make them feel as comfortable as possible. It will be okay and get sorted out in the end.

[@DanielleStarry]

your POV of being a "guest" is what makes you such a welcome guest :-) I hope you're having a splendid weekend!

[@johnhummus2519]

I hope and pray that you stay strong and find peace. You are a great example and truly I'm sorry we let the world get to this point 🙏

[@sharamadsen3080]

Going from a girl to a woman a Hard transition. Many women have a breakdown or huge challenges around 17-23...eating disorders, depression, anxiety etc. It's remarkable that you have struggled yet you are excelling school. Keep working hard. I recommend focusing on others and give yourself to settle...around age 25 there is a settling that occurs in the mind and with emotions etc

[@writtenbyrabbits6563]

I'm really happy that you're doing so well. You're beautiful, inside and out. A lot of us sapphic girlies have a type and you're it. Hope you find your people.

[@seeninthedark]

God bless you Kasey, may He continue to let you heal and solidify yourself outside of the ways people define you

[@user-ho6vl9jz5o]

So nice to see you again!!

[@saltykitty9215]

This was a very interesting and unique detrans POV! Enjoyed listening to it. Good luck with your life!

[@BoardroomBuddha]

1000% this. I've always said that it seems like it is more acceptable to be a medicalized "transman" than a sinful "lesbian".

[@needknowledge4250]

Hey KC, I stop taking testosterone 4 years ago, I live stealth but there are now moments where pepole call me she. I know i am detransitioning but because I look more like a feminine male then female I have now curves due to fat distribution, softer skin, so I understand that weird space at work. I also take care of people for work. Just wanted to share.

[@allgirlreview433]

Your tattoos are gorgeous. I am truly proud of you being your authentic self.

[@eetadakimasu]

I'm so sorry for all you've been through and are going through. I think it works also be okay if they're confused just to say that you're detransitioning, if you want to say anything.

[@Boogie44]

I wish you luck with school! Glad to see you uploading still. 🎉 🍀