Q & A: Babies, Pants, Nose Ring, Tattoos & Faith!

[@nikkinicole5588]

Short hair, nose ring and tattoos don't make you a bad person. God sees everyone's heart.

[@kaylekelly4051]

Amen

[@brittneykeller7402]

Yes I love GOD I have nose and lip (don’t wear lip anymore) and one tattoo that is puzzle connects to my mom and sister but it doesn’t change me at all and my love is still there!

[@deniseflores80]

Yes you are right, God does see our heart and how wicked it is Jeremiah 17:9

[@Mikaela777]

And the scripture says "Trust in the lord with all your heart and lean NOT on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge HIM and He will direct your path"...this is because "The HEART is deceitfully wicked above all things, who can trust it". That is also scripture.... Because our flesh was corrupted at the time of genesis 6 and the fallen angels.

[@beesilva9085]

Yes! Amen. I gave a tattoo, nose ring but I try to be the best person I can. Im not super religious but very spiritual.

[@tanyalabrec5464]

After watching the first video and this one, and reading everyone’s comments about Jill saying “like, umm, so yeah”. If you pay enough attention it happens the most when she’s answering questions that her family wouldn’t agree with. Shes doing a fine job. Growth takes time, this includes speech and personality.

[@MommaH1419]

She’s had to live her life in pleasing mode. She was a mother 90% of her life and didn’t get a childhood because of her parents passing down a child to her once weaned. I lived the same life. Not 20 but I understand. Proud of you 💕

[@caramelfrappuccino234]

Its probably when she feels a little insecure and/or at a loss for words...

[@jennifergeorge7280]

@@MommaH1419 did you resent your parents for it?

[@MommaH1419]

@@jennifergeorge7280 did I resent my parents for it? Yes. Yes I did. It’s the mother’s duty to raise the child, not the responsibility of the older children. You should be forced into becoming a parent because your parents choose to have multiples.

[@jennifergeorge7280]

@@MommaH1419 did it affect your desire to have kids either way? I've never known of families doing that until I heard of the Duggars recently. So crazy to me!

[@talitaspringerphotography]

So proud of you for making the decision to live your life how YOU believe you should and not based off of what others would. You go girl!!!

[@donnakearse2503]

🤦🏻‍♀️

[@kachellesoum1655]

Derek look so relieved and happy that his wife is finally free to make her own choices.

[@Triniprincess312]

Agreed. He looks happy

[@ciaradiam0nd]

Don’t be fooled. She’s not truly allowed to make her own decisions. He’s happy because he’s in charge now. Didn’t you hear her say they decided together about her getting the piercing? If he didn’t want it she wouldn’t have been able to get it. That’s how it works in Duggar world- dad holds the power then the power is transferred to husband. She’s growing into her own more I’ll give her that but she’ll never truly be free to make her own choices.

[@raenewnham7490]

@@ciaradiam0nd making choices as a couple doesn't mean he makes the final call. It means they think about their decisions together and what those decisions mean to them as a couple. Plenty of couples make joint decisions or consult their spouse on decisions (no matter how big or small) because they care about their input.

[@ciaradiam0nd]

@@raenewnham7490 ok we both know they don’t operate off of the normal standard of joint decision making. Don’t you know anything about this family and the religion they follow? The woman is submissive to the husband. They are “passed” from the father’s ownership to the husband once they are married. Jim bob mentions this many times.

[@raenewnham7490]

@@ciaradiam0nd they kinda separated themselves from that family.. but make whatever awful assumptions about people you want to. I see it a different way.

[@katiepenney9667]

You all do understand that for the majority of her life she’s been in a family where she probably wasn’t able/allowed to voice her opinions or reasonings for wanting to do things right? Meaning she is still getting use to having a voice and being able to disagree. She’s probably nervous and still adjusting to say what she wants and is using “like” as a filler. Cut her some slack

[@emiliequesnel8661]

This! My parents were nowhere near as intense as hers, but that what you just said! It was hard to adjust to having an opinion that was listened to or feelings that were validated.

[@lisapoole5420]

I agree, shes getting used to actually voicing an opinion publically. Public speaking develops over time. God Bless their little family.

[@makingchanges64]

agreed! heck, people who AREN’T from the Duggar family speak that way. She’s totally fine.

[@ashjankins960]

Typically, It really bothers me but I felt that’s exactly why she’s doing it. Slack cut. 😎👍

[@IWantToMature85]

She was wrong for getting a nose ring. Her family taught her not to do that. That is rebellion!

[@tammysanchez5949]

Wearing skirts or pants do not save you. Your relationship with Jesus is what matters. Love you guys!

[@donnakearse2503]

Okay nobody said anything about her clothes. Come on. She is a beautiful women and seems to be married to a very supportive husband. I’m glad for that. But to try and listening to her talk is boring. And it’s not because she is nervous. This is a bad habit.

[@staceyann318]

@@donnakearse2503 omg, you're obviously new.. it is about her clothes. Her parents are against the girls wearing pants🤦

[@nataliaparedes5370]

@@staceyann318 good good they are cause what she’s doing is wrong and is an embarrassment.

[@randisuch4317]

I think it’s important to remember when hearing Jill speak, this is the first time in her life that she’s starting to open up and give her honest opinion on topics that people in her life will judge and chastise her for. She’s only beginning to be comfortable in her own skin and her own views on the way she’s living her life...so I personally believe that she’s nervous. And for good reason. I’m sure that the longer she’s on here sharing her life with us, she will become more comfortable and her speaking will change. Jill...good for you for standing up to the people in your life that have differing views as you! 🥳

[@yusramahmoud5361]

Exactly and the many uses of like is her way of calming her nerves. Good for her for speaking up and finding her voice. And Derick for being supportive 👍🏻

[@ednamae7862]

I agree

[@brewerrkjb]

If you watch old episodes of _ # of Kids and Counting you will notice that all 4 of the oldest Duggar girls have always used "like" and "um" to a massive extent in their speech patterns. Which I think stems from education at the "Classroom of the Dining Room Table" where they were taught by who else? Queen "like" and "um" herself, Michelle Duggar about the parts of the human eye and not speech or grammar! Except when the TLC cameras weren't trained exclusively on MEEchelle any more, she promptly turned over that chore to who else? The oldest 4 D' Girls. They never got any outside influence on proper speech and grammar because they didn't go to school where those kinds of things are taught and they get graded by an adult who has a college education degree. Which is why Jill is sending her oldest son, Israel, to public school - so the kid can get some frigging interaction with students other than his brother.

[@IWantToMature85]

And nose rings don't make you comfortable. They are a sign of rebellion.

[@wuschaefer6947]

I love how Derrick looks at Jill, he looks so proud of her. I am too, Jill, so glad to see you living life in your own terms. Much success to y'all. ❤️

[@livingmooresimply1750]

I love that Derek waits patiently and doesn't interrupt you while you answer. I always interrupt people without meaning to and I am impressed at his skill!

[@karenpierson9841]

He's not patient, he's counting how many times she says like! Haha

[@livingmooresimply1750]

@@karenpierson9841 lol awww I'm the same way when I talk 🤦‍♀️

[@karenpierson9841]

@@livingmooresimply1750 yea I'm sure we all do but I think she broke the record, lol

[@aventuramami]

Yes agree!!

[@flowerchild760]

Rather than focus on the word “like” I try to listen to the voice you’re trying to express. Derrick did a good job at letting you talk and find your voice. Finding your voice as a grown married woman, having had therapy, become more open to the public. All of this is difficult, and I commend you for speaking your truth...Gods truth through living your life in a biblical way. To help people understand that wearing a dress or pants doesn’t give you salvation, and they shouldn’t focus on that. I’m so glad you’ve found a way to live life in a godly way and be united with your spouse and honor him as well. A good well rounded way to approach marriage and give God glory.

[@angelaroy1634]

As you mature into adulthood you start exploring your own beliefs where you are no longer under your parent’s roof. You are not rebelling against them just exploring your options within your own beliefs and setting what’s acceptable for you within your own growing family. I think you guys are doing a great job expanding your options while keeping your faith.

[@mom2ladybugs]

Y'all need to leave her alone!! CLEARLY & UNDERSTANDABLY she is very nervous talking about these things. Jill, I am so unbelievably proud of you being open and raw about these decisions you've made. You get to be your own person without your parents controlling your life. Congrats on this "new you"! #Inspiring #RealTalk

[@nataliaparedes5370]

Her Parents didn’t control her life they were helping her but clearly she went more to the world and is going to ruin her life like that.

[@IWantToMature85]

@@nataliaparedes5370 and the nose ring proves that she is being rebellious!

[@301banban]

I stopped watching after the Josh scandal. KZbin recommended this and am soooo glad to see you breaking free! You chose the best man to guide you through the real world

[@DelaneyWalker]

Me too!! It’s nice to see them become independent and raise their family the way they want. It’s so nice to see😭

[@IWantToMature85]

So, getting a nose ring is good just because you hate the family? Josh is the one bad person so stop it. Stop acting like her sisters are like him.

[@nikkinicole5588]

She has got out of that house and started living! I think she's more open to real life than the others. This is why she's my favorite.

[@ryflanigan5629]

wish I didn't even look at the comments. same people who are describing themselves as deeply religious are bullying her for the way she speaks. get a grip

[@jessicasyko8877]

I think she’s kinda nervous about explaining why she changed so much so that’s why she keeps saying “like” so many times. I do the same thing when I’m nervous about explaining some things.

[@hxxlls]

as my mother says, God doesn’t care if you wear pajamas or a extravagant gown or a nose hoop everyday, it’s what’s in your heart that matters. if he wants you to do it he’ll lead you to do it.

[@EmilyFShockley]

Ahhhh. I wish people wouldn't be so critical of her speech. :( I love that you two are sharing your life and your beliefs. Christianity has a lot of freedoms. It's not a cult. I'm so glad you are breaking down the Duggar ritual walls and relying on Christ and the Word. Bless you two.

[@allisonjohnson6399]

Most people hear "Christian" and think "religion". That's definitely such a closed minded concept (yes, a Christian just called someone closed minded! What a flip, huh?) There's a HUGE difference in legalistic, religious fundamentalists and blood bought, faith filled Christians. True Christianity is relationship...freedom...grace and love. I pray that Jill can honestly find that unconditional love and not a religion of fear.

[@JoJo-hc9yy]

I’m glad she’s in a healthy space. sexual abuse can affect us and so many long-term ways, going to counseling is amazing!! I’m so glad her husband supports that!

[@robyngillum8577]

It’s okay to be you Jill! As long as Jesus is at the center of who you are. 😉 I served in Central America with you and your family, and you made a lasting impression on my heart, by the way you carried yourself, how you served others, and your sweet and kind heart.

[@JentasticVintage26]

“Being okay with other people not being okay.” Wise words. You have to follow your own convictions that you and your husband have prayed about and decided together. Proud of you!

[@stephanyrosales2182]

I would love to say that, i have watched your family since the beginning, but i love to see you having your own mind and understanding that wearing pants, or getting your hair cut, or piercings, or tattoos are not a sign of your faith. They are a sign of your personality. I love to see that you have decided that you can make your own choices and that does not make you ungodly, that makes you brave. I love it.

[@rachaeldbmiller]

She is saying “like” a lot, but she is probably a little nervous opening up about certain topics so cut her some slack. Let her grow ❤️

[@gingerbennett2380]

I totally agree but it was hard to listen to after the first few minutes.

[@jacquelynroe9036]

👏🏻👏🏻

[@HopeforSnoopy]

She’s always done that. Nervous

[@joellenpaull3294]

She has always talked just like this.

[@IWantToMature85]

"Let her grow." Y'all say this because yall do not want her to believe in God.

[@bonkey8644]

I love how Derrick look at his wife while she talk.... He is in love with her ♥️♥️♥️

[@studio33unlimited]

Regarding Tattoos, I am 45 years old. I just got my first tattoo about 6 mo. ago. It says "Jesus Anchors my Soul" with an anchor, with PTSD awareness ribbon, due to my 20 years of EMS Paramedic for my career AND I can not unsee. The other thing I wanted to bring this to your attention. You have to work out your own salvation and dont worry about what people think. your relationship with Christ and husband are all that matters. Love you guys and i hope you don't stop this channel.

[@thrivingexjw2061]

I was raised in a very controlling religion. I left that religion 26 years ago & have been shunned for all those years by my entire family. They have become complete strangers to me. I have become closer to God & grown in my faith. The Bible will always be the center of my life, not a “religion.” I’m so proud of both of you for using your critical thinking skills & standing up for what’s right!

[@honeybunch5765]

In our religion family won't shun you but the church will and the gossip is hilarious. I'm so over my church since I was 28, my wedding was the turning point and how we were treated, I still went to church on and off. My late husband wasn't from the same faith. I remarried and this time around my husband is from the same faith but we are both quite aware how controlling the church is. I'm done he is struggling but it is his journey I do not want to influence him into making a decision. The guilt that has been drilled into you is ridiculous and 20 years on I'm still struggling with it, I constantly have to remind myself it was just brainwashing I'm not doomed. It was so strong I still can't get myself to join another church but I do know should I join a church I do not want to be brainwashed into it or staying in it. Our churches opened recently after lockdown and the interesting part is that one of the mainstream churches invited us very friendly no pressure to come and join in a sermon but our church sent us a scolding message to get our asses back into church because your soul is doomed should you miss just one activity and die. 😃

[@thrivingexjw2061]

@@honeybunch5765 - I can sympathize. After I left the religion, it took me 15 years before I could even walk through church doors! The guilt & fear of Armageddon paralyzed me! I now attend a nondenominational church, not fear based, instead love & no legalistic man made rules. No one looking over my shoulder ready to disfellowship me if I breathe wrong. Even though I lost my entire family ( 4 generations) and they think of me as dead in their eyes & God’s eyes, I’m still so blessed to find freedom in Christ! In my former religion when you are shunned, it’s forever ( unless you repent & go crawling back) which will never happen.. I committed no sin to repent from.. I just left it! I won’t even be notified when family members pass away!! They even take down your photos, never to be looked at again!! NOT Christian! I’m finally starting to get over the brainwashing.. it’s taken MANY years & trying to live a more normal life has been a struggle.. my religion doesn’t celebrate any holidays & there was no outside influences, no politics, no outside friends, every aspect of life was controlled by the leaders. I had to “learn” everything from scratch & the guilt was horrible, plus nightmares of being destroyed at Armageddon!! These religious cults absolutely destroy people’s lives!! I wish you happiness on your new journey 🙏🏼🎚

[@victoriastroud4820]

@@thrivingexjw2061 Wow I admire you so much for having so much joy despite the losses you've suffered. I grew up as a baptist and when I met my fiance he introduced me to the Messianic Jewish faith which is basically like a Jews for Jesus type thing. We believe in Jesus still, but also believe in observing the Torah. This has caused so much turmoil for me in my family. I no longer eat pork and shellfish and that clearly makes my bacon-loving parents so uncomfortable. (They are contantly "forgetting" what I eat and don't eat, put pork in the meatloaf and stuff like that, "are you suuuuree you can't work on saturday? We need your help with the family business." etc. Just acting like this is just a phase for me and that it isnt important. I no longer attend church with my parents. My eyes have been opened too much. My nana told me I was turning my back on my faith and destroying the family and those things really hurt. I can relate so much to Jill and her family's pushback in trying to live her own life. Ultimately, you just have to do what's right for you, your family, and your faith in God.

[@thrivingexjw2061]

@@victoriastroud4820 - I’m all about believing whatever you choose & is right for you..EXCEPT if it hurts innocent people ! Then that’s when I draw boundaries. My former religion has destroyed people’s families, and people’s lives in general. They refuse to turn pedophiles into authorities & therefore have repeat offenders & victims never see justice. They demand that blood transfusions are rejected and many die needlessly, they shun if you leave the religion.. that’s not the God that I know & love. I decided a long time ago not to let them take anything else away from me.. I have joy, my faith, grace & peace about my choices now 🙏🏼

[@keepyoureyeswideopen]

i see from your username you were jehovah's witness. whew... glad you got out of that! i wish you continued growth and good health :)

[@youllthinkofme2011]

You became adults! Your parents raised you, now their job is to accept who you became. I'm of your parents generation and it's not always easy to let my adult child make decisions that are not quite what I would have liked but that's also part of parenting... letting go of control.

[@janicejop5064]

Good for you Jill! You are not doing anything wrong, you are living your own independent life with your own family as an adult. You’re on the right path and doing great.

[@lyndie5607]

I’m proud of you Jill. Your showing love and commitment to Jesus from yr heart. That’s what matters to Him, not all that outward stuff. He looks at the heart and for those who are completely His. He’s faithful through it all. 💜

[@samanthahubbard-greer3467]

As a young mom of 4, every time I have worn a skirt or dress, its SO hard to mom and chase the kids and bend down to pick up the babies or crouching to change a diaper, I feel exposed like out there. Pants are the way to go, I could do leggings under a skirt or dress but then so many layers while mommin makes me sweaty and got and ugh. I think the pants were probably a game changer for you. Its awesome seeing you guys stay so strong in faith, and still being your selves and being individuals. Our parents all get to set there own rules for their families and children and now its your guys turn to do that for your family an children and what works for you guy

[@birdycry8070]

I have watched you since the beginning Jill. You are a beautiful soul and im proud to see you spread your wings! Good job Derrick for supporting her through it all!!!!

[@jacquelynroe9036]

Derrick seems like such a good husband to her! So supportive 👏🏻

[@kathyk4504]

I applaud you for being less judgmental overall about appearances and other standards. Frankly, I think that quality makes your ministry more powerful because you’re more relatable as people. Good for you guys!

[@Banks040]

Hands-down without a shadow of a doubt my favorite couple even though Jill is not a Duggar anymore out of all the Dugger girls Jill has always been my favorite and I am so proud that she's living the way that fits good for her family

[@anniemcdougal2249]

I totally believe that as adults you should be able to make your own decisions, especially as a married couple. Your parents did, they decided how they wanted to raise their family. You still are showing respect to them.

[@NightmasksHaven]

I’m glad that you can be yourself! I have tattoos and dye my hair crazy colors. I take care of the homeless and my family. God sees my soul. So whatever my outsides look like - it doesn’t change my heart or my relationship with God. Be yourself! Anyone who truly loves you will accept you.

[@lizmcg112]

Wooooooow Jill i really hope you don't read the rude comments on here.. She is free from her families judgements and she can be her own person now. Everyone should be happy for her. No she didn't sell out her family like you all claim. Shes speaking her truth and she has EVERY right to. So shuuuuuut up ! Shes freeeeeee 👍

[@stacygodfrey4939]

Jill I am so proud of the young woman you are. I am sorry you had to endure the many year of your old life. You look so happy! You are finally able to be the true you. You are a Beautiful Women of God. You have a lifetime of years to make up for. Enjoy every minute of it and your new family!!!!

[@JordanReads18]

People saying she uses “like” a lot do realize she wasn’t given the best education and was in a abusive house right?

[@sherripowell3955]

I have 3 tattoos all memorial. My parents, my son, my grandma. I wear pants . God is not sending me to hell for it. Jill and Derrick yall are grown . You are parents to 2 boys, make your lives happy together. It doesnt matter what denomination you choose. Be happy . God bless

[@wendyouedraogo1028]

I like ur views, I grew up strict Pentecostal and as I got older I realized that I had to have my own relationship with God.

[@allisonplumley3278]

Derrick is SO respectful and honoring of Jill! This is what biblical marriage looks like. Yes, women submit but the husband should lay down his life for her.

[@FluentWithHayley]

YES! I'm rewatching this now but I remember immediately noticing this since it's more "live" and informal. Also, it's adorable because you can tell they still really like each other, and that just makes me happy.

[@giulianacr2638]

Out of everyone I like you and Jana the best. You guys are really mature, giving and have your heart in the right place. I'm happy your husband is breaking off the patriarch controlling attitude that was fed in your circle. He seems really comfortable with you speaking your mind and even encouraging you which is awesome! I do hope you guys get a better understanding of what lgbtq is and how in no way shape or form harms people around them in society, it is quite the opposite actually. Lgbtq are often judged, isolated, demomized, etc...

[@daughterofthelord01]

To everyone who wants to be critical to these two please just leave if you don't like them or have nothing decent to say. Some of these comments are just down right toxic. Find something more constructive to do with your time. Secondly, who cares if she says 'like'. I used to say 'like' a lot because I was very insecure and uncertain of myself due to my own toxic upbringing..it took me years to finally trust tge Lord to heal me from my own trauma. There are reasons ppl are they way they are. Ppl often accuse christians of being critical but some of you who are unbelievers, and Professing 'believers' are some of the most judgemental lot and it is telling. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.

[@morningsong8077]

Well said.

[@paigeburke6870]

I can’t imagine growing up in the public eye. I’m sure you feel very judged at times. I love to see how you are growing and finding your voice in the world. You’re a butterfly don’t let people tell you that you can only be a caterpillar♥️

[@lorelllasecki8192]

Nicely said Paige

[@MrsMeowMeowWoof]

Lots of people in the comments judging the way she speaks is a little gross. "Like" is a very commonly used word as an in between. She's hardly doing anything upsetting especially since they are having a natural conversation. If you have an issue with the way someone speaks perhaps do not watch them speak then?? Who would have thought?

[@vanessaj2551]

I agree. Jill has done an amazing job navigating the world out of her parent's control. As a Christian, I am not here to judge her or anyone.

[@loricummings9195]

Jill, I totally admire you for becoming your own person by wearing pants, getting a piercing, cutting your hair, having your own style. It has not affected you as a Christian or your faith. You still share your faith openly and there is nothing wrong with wearing pants. Most Christian women do wear pants. I just watched the video of your wedding. Oh what a beautiful wedding! I loved the music, and oh, how amazingly relaxed you both were! That was such a wonderful ceremony, and truly blessed by God!

[@MommiDonni1]

Good for you both establishing your own boundaries togerher as a couple regardless of everyones opinion. I'm a pastors daughter from Alabama and struggled alot with finding myself. I met my husband and we eventually got an rv and now travel the USA with our two daughters. I had to leave the south to get away from past trauma. As an adult not being under control of anyone else is freedom.

[@seventhdayissabbath8747]

Not sure why people have to be unkind regarding the way that Jill is speaking, she is just fine in the way she speaks. We are to be kind and loving towards our brethren, this is a Christ-like attribute that we all should have. Just remember that all of our thoughts and our words that are spoken are being recorded in the books of heaven. Regarding tattoos: Leviticus 19:28 Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.

[@jessicaponticello8937]

I love this Jill was always my favorite Duggar (besides Amy) and I could not be happier to see her break free and stay true to herself despite towing the family line might have been easier most days! And the fact that Derrick is his own man and will not be bullied and intimidated into doing things the way “family” members prefer it! There are certain Duggar “spouses “ that are so easily led and manipulated to follow “dads” dictates without question. So happy for Jill and Derrick and they are so admirable!

[@chandarose7611]

@Jill I'm so proud of you, sweet soul! You found your freedom and the quiet sadness I saw in your eyes has lifted!

[@annaconigliaro2907]

I love how loving and accepting y'all have become over the years! I got tattoos for my grandma and aunt which was very emotional since they both passed but beautiful because their memory lives on through me.

[@honeybunny2807]

I am so glad you two are making decisions right for you together. Yet still staying true to your faith. God bless you both.

[@Bringmecoffee108]

I pray 🙏 yall read these comments and do not get discouraged with the negative ones. There are millions of people on KZbin with millions of opinions. Yall are awesome:) 😃 ❤

[@Isabela6166]

HI 🙋🏻‍♀️ JILL && Derrick, I can also relate to you guys. I was raised by a strict parent and them being Pentecostal as child.. I only wore dresses and skirts and my hair as very long. When I got married, my husband and I asked God for guidance and to teach us as a couple to grow. After I turned 30, I finally had gotten a nose ring and then at 40 I decided to do a tattoo which is the names of my kids on my ankle as an ankle bracelet. I also ware pants but I’m always dress kind of conservative with my shirts. And I still go to church, read the Bible every day and pray. After so many years my parents finally accepted me the way I am.. So I can relate to you guys... And I’m proud for you moving forward as a couple and a family! You guys will grow with God’s love and blessing. Thank you! Because I also haven’t changed and I’m 59 years old. And I believe in God the father all mighty! Praise God! Beautiful family!

[@beckiehouston13]

Seeing Jill so free makes me so happy

[@patriciacontois5927]

Jill, continue to be “YOU!”

[@lindabarnes4128]

Your intelligence, awareness, and understanding are admirable. You are brave, courageous and strong. Love is your bond. Your growth as two adults and one couple give all of us an example to appreciate.

[@mickeydyer9599]

Way to go Jill and Derrik!!!! I'm so happy that you can give your opinion, express yourself how YOU want to and I hope you feel very validated and HAPPY! Derrik, you appear to be a fantastic hubby. Just by the way you support Jill, the way you look at her and the way that you support her decisions and her right to have her own opinion. Also....Jill. Do not listen to these people hurling insults for saying like too much. This is the 1st time you've ever been allowed to have a voice, an opinion and not under your families rule. It takes time to be comfortable speaking to a crowd. You've got this guys!!! Sending lots of love to you both. ❤

[@superfunlantztime]

I really love how supportive you both are towards each other. It's so wonderful to see. I hope that the negative comments don't get you both down, some people are just insecure/jealous.

[@hannahharris9449]

I just dealt with things like this as well. Since I've gotten married I have gotten a tattoo. I've recently started saying that we do what's best for our family and not worry about what everyone else says. They don't always know all the situation. Loved hearing all this from you!!

[@lisathiessen9274]

Jill I can tell that you are more content and happy now that you have stepped away from the show and family. having healthy boundaries is important. you need to make decisions that are right for your family. others may not always agree and that s ok. you are not making decisions to please other people. you are doing what works for your family. dont worry about what others think .

[@kashar.savagehubert1927]

Take a shot every time Jill says "like" lol... love who she has become since marrying Darek... they are so lovely ❤

[@cavlizzy]

Omgosh.... THAT drove me NUTS!! She uses "LIKE" every other word!!!

[@courtneymcgrogan306]

I dont drink but if I did I'm sure I'd be drunk by 2mins and 30 seconds lol

[@aprilgiaffis9498]

Yessssss. I love them but thought the same thing. My English teacher kept popping in my head to stop saying like!!!

[@tbisurvivor1500]

@@aprilgiaffis9498 our 8th teacher had a like jar and everytime we said Like just like Jill is doing our teacher would put a dime in there.

[@CassGaff]

Love that you feel more comfortable doing things that you were raised against. It’s beautiful to see you grow on your own.

[@sharonsimson2263]

thank you for your honesty and frankly clearing up a number of things that social media has incorrectly portrayed. As a fan who has followed you from the beginning, I love that you both are maturing and growing with God’s grace into the individuals you want to be and making your own independent decisions carefully and thoughtfully. Nothing wrong with growing and changing it is who we are as souls having a human experience.

[@urbanhomesteadingchannel1813]

Its so great seeing the Duggar kids growing up and making decisions for themselves 💙

[@ashandblake]

First time I ever wore pants was at a movie theater, right after I graduated high school. I was mortified because I saw someone I knew from church 🤣 I think it’s admirable that you seem to have grown in your faith rather than just leave it as many do when they grow up and find that their opinions differ a little with their parents, etc. People love to tear apart their parents and the faith, but it’s important to have forgiveness in your heart and also realize that your parents were just growing and learning as they went.

[@BlindFaith777]

People pleaser right here!! At age 48 I’m just now learning how important it is to draw boundaries and be ok with others not being ok, especially when it ultimately is a concern of my own not the other person’s.

[@lindamcneil711]

Life is about growth, learning, loving those around you. God will direct your path. I am not into nose rings and tattoos, but these things do not make a Christian. My daughter got both and it doesn’t really matter to me. She has to explore who she is and I love her just the way she is. She is my daughter, no matter what. What is important to me is my relationship with her and my heart is comforted by her relationship with God. There are a few levels of decisions in life. Decisions about your relationship with God. Moral decisions. Decisions of preference. You are walking your walk with God. That is what is important. When I was 16, I left the Mormon church, the religion of my family. The Bible became a new revelations to me and my growth changed greatly as I grew in my 20s. My understanding of God’s word has greatly changed over the last few decades.Keep digging!! So glad you are seeking wise council. These separations are growth changes. It doesn’t mean your relationship with your family is dead, but different. My family disowned me, but I spent 30 years trying to continue to love them and reach out, yes, it has been messy... and there is still a chasm. Yet, God fills the gap.

[@dorothyaddington1983]

Jill, I encourage you and Derrick to continue directing your own life under God's direction. Very, very good wisdom. Family caring about one another is stronger than letting a TV network run everyone's lives - so I will pray that the Lord will bring healing to you and family. A healthy, and wise direction you both have taken!

[@madisonduke8342]

I've seen this story online so many times and didn't have any issues with it. I'm happy for Jill and making her own decisions. After watching the video, I'm mad that people left out the most important part! Can we just talk about people needing therapy to overcome toxic situations? And being able to forgive and love those who have hurt you?

[@theresabartolomeo7270]

Just move on with your life and don’t worry about what your family thinks. Family will always be family but your life belongs to you and your new family that’s all you should focus on

[@staceyann318]

I'm so glad you're finally able to be the person you've always wanted to be. Just remember, God will always love you, no matter how many piercings, tattoo's, or how much skin you decide to show. I know it has to be hard to go against your family and the way you were raised. But you have to be happy before you can make anyone else happy. Take care of you 1st so you can be the best mom for your children.. you got this♥️

[@Beautyjoy98]

I love hearing more about your life. Please continue to let us peer inside your beautiful life! Many blessing to you and your small family. ❤

[@aidancash1]

It’s so nice to see her find her voice and making her own decisions as a family.

[@MsErinsClassroom]

I’m so happy to see how much you have grown, Jill. I love that you stated that your interpretation of the Bible has changed a bit. I hope that you remain open to changing interpretations and continuing to grow.

[@KP-os1jx]

I got my first (and only) tattoo 2 weeks after my mom died. It says "Love Always" in her handwriting on my forearm and it reminds me every single day that her love is not gone just because she is no longer with me on earth. It also reminds me of God's eternal love and that thanks to what Jesus did on the cross, we will be reunited one fine day. P.S. On a pain scale of 1-10, mine was barely a 1. Getting my ears pierced was so much worse.

[@beckyj325]

I've watched the show since you guys were tiny. I'm so proud of the woman you have become. I still love the show. I'm thankful you have this channel!

[@lyndajones8968]

So very happy for you. Living under a legalistic upbringing can be devastating, but you have graciously sailed through to freedom in the Lord. Your husband is to be your covering, along with Almighty God, and no one else. So enjoy discovering your videos. I pray that other siblings eyes are opened. They too need to be freed from bondage.

[@CityChristina]

Lol they're still religious and religion is bondage. So they're still stuck until they leave the cult.

[@beverlyalexander5966]

Watching u 2 and jigger & Jearmy. I love that u all have grown into ur own . U have leaned to love ur own skin and understanding that u are adults and need to live ur own life's, raise ur children in ur own style, not being dictated to about how to live and raise ur kids . I'm so sorry that jimbob does not know just how much of a wonderful woman his daughter has become and should be proud of his son in law who will speak up for his wife . But the worst of it all is he's missing out on seeing his grandbabies grow up , he's not only hurting u but so much more he's hurting those awesome little boys who have no clue why suddenly they don't have 3bsets of grandparents . Take care and keep doing what u are doing . God is the only one who ever need to answer to. God bless u all.

[@chit-chat007]

Y’all need to just skip to another video if you don’t like what ur seeing instead of being so rude. A LOT of ppl use “like” or “um” as a filler & if it annoys u, like… um…. exit without having to say u are. 😉 it’s not a hotel. Smh

[@Emper0rH0rde]

Plus, she wasn't taught any life skills growing up. On top of that, she is probably extremely ill at ease just sitting and talking in front of millions of people after what she's been through.

[@scottiefraher5882]

Being creative with your own personal look is not a sin IMO!

[@mikaylamonnie]

Love that he supported you in your decision to get your nose pierced!

[@dorothyzierk7985]

Be yourself and it is just about your small family. It is part of growing into the young person being married and not having to please your parents anymore.

[@haveagreatday2823]

I see that Joy-Anna is also showing her individuality. GOOD for you - the more the better!! You come from a sick family, which you cannot help. But now that you're all older, you certainly can live your own lives, THANK GOD!!!!

[@AshleySteMarie-qp3rh]

Tattoos are uncomfortable but you get used to it. All of mine are very meaningful to me! In my personal experience piercings hurt way more. If you do find something meaningful to you though that you would like to get don't be afraid to get it. Its not too bad! By the way I am very proud of you all for keeping your faith but staying true to yourselves! Love yalls channel!!!

[@sbbrph2651]

Congrats to Derrick and your Law degree!!! Jill,I think you are doing a great job too!! You are both doing what is making your little family happy and healthy!!!

[@sbbrph2651]

Oh yeah,Derrick looks at you like you are "the cats's meow"LOL ( my 90 year old Dad's phrase)

[@beckychamp8508]

Folks!!!! She is not a professional speaker! She says “like” a lot! So do a ton of people in your life..... would you be this rude to them?? You’re missing the whole point here.

[@donnakearse2503]

No you are just making excuses for bad grammar. I’ve been very impressed with the young ladies of this family going out on there own. And by the way, I teach my grandchildren along with their parents to think about what they are saying and not use”like” when not necessary. Hopefully most people before going into a conversation can show intelligent language skills. “like is lazy slang and people should want to sound intelligent when speaking with others.

[@staceyann318]

@@donnakearse2503 oh Lord, ok Ms. Perfect 🤣 do you not realize this is probably hard for her? She's going against the beliefs her parents instilled in her mind. She's trying to be respectful to keep peace and not hurt anyone's feelings. She never said she was a professional speaker 🤦

[@ginadelsasso288]

I cant think of one degree where public speaking 101 was not required. It is a general studies course and is a prerequisite for everyone who furthers their education. Considering that none of these kids have had a formal education and were home schooled, i dont think many of them went to college to get a degree. This was one of the 1st classes i took in college just to get it out of the way. Even though she is in front of a camera, she knows she is speaking to 1000s so it doesnt make it any easier. I admit. It was a little annoying, but i finished listening and cut her some slack because i know she never had any formal training to speak.

[@sarahfenlonfalk]

Your piercing is super cute, Jill! I wanted my nose pierced after going on a mission trip to India but waited a while until finally getting it pierced. :)

[@bacaworld7095]

Jill, I really admire your ability to set boundaries and stand up for yourself. Always remember that forgiveness needs to come right away, but the healing can take a while. Take your time and do it right. I don’t know what’s all been going on, but It’s obvious something is happening. Just stay close to the Lord and wait for guidance. ❤️🙏🏼 I’m very sorry about the recent news of your brother. If it’s true, It’s unacceptable!! I can’t imagine how you and your entire family are feeling. Again, hold your boundaries and turn to the Lord.

[@MsPrecious61]

What I love to see is the rapport that you two have in your marriage. I see a great healthy environment for growth, I see true love. Keep it up. You two make a great team

[@fanniewilks549]

Good for you guys to be living your life in faith and answering to Jesus alone. Our journeys can be different and honoring to God even when they look different than those journeys our friends and family may make.

[@brittanythorning5716]

Love the way you think bout everything. And the way you make decisions for yourself and your family rather then thinking so much bout what others will think of those decisions ur making.

[@nonyab9572]

So so proud of you guys. Love the fact that you are standing up for yourself. Beautiful family

[@kirstymeulblok9856]

Jill I love your strength and that as an adult you were able to make changes in your life, and experience thing your parents probably wouldn’t have. My only complaint is - please watch back this video and see how many times you said “like” and then delete it from your vocabulary! Thanks x

[@arinzykes5715]

You’re beautiful, Jill! No matter what you do, anyone who truly loves you will, in time, learn to accept your decisions.❤️

[@paulabowen4432]

I am so happy that you and Derick are making your own decisions and stay true to your faith! You DO You Jilly-Boo! Hugs!!!

[@alm5816]

When I was 12-17 I had super long hair, and it’s so thick,too so I had the worst headaches when I was a teenager. I had a stroke last July and have had several surgeries on my skull since so now it’s short and spikey, like maybe an inch and a half, I’ll have to get it shaved again for another surgery in the fall by that time my hair will probably be to my shoulders because it grows so quickly!

[@karendantes4313]

That’s great they support each other as a couple. Being true to yourselves is a healthy way to live.

[@ambermiracle1992]

So proud of you for making your own decisions and no worried about what others believe is right. God doesn't turn anyone away for how they look :)

[@marylmangold5161]

Congratulations you two Jill I'm happy your getting therapy and learning to live your own happy life with your husband stay strong your a beautiful woman. God Bless You