Divorce Women Came All Out To Talk About Their Lives After Marriage/MUST WATCH

[@deboracopeland4795]

My moms divorce opened up the world to her. She said she was no longer just Jerry’s wife. She traveled to 35 country’s. At 82 she is still involved in most charities in this town. When she divorced she didn’t even have her high school diploma. She got it and a college degree. She was able to build up her career and retire with all the funds she needed and built her dream house on the coast. She has a man but refuses to marry. ❤😊

[@Kc-dq7zj]

Your mom is amazing! What an inspiration!

[@adrier675]

Absolutely an inspiration

[@therjfirm]

Yessss mama!!! I lovee this for her!!!

[@annmarieknapp]

Wow!! You're mother is an absolute badass!!! How fantastic for her!! She inspires me!!

[@soulshadoww55]

Go head Momma!!!

[@Daug555]

Nothing better than getting rid of dead weight. Love this for women!

[@ogolden8315]

A lot of men are the ones blocking their Wife/Gf blessings.

[@LovelyKola]

I noticed a lot of married women have that stress look and they look more older then what they are.

[@n0426]

Yeah and men want a younger looking woman but they keep on destroying us.

[@bobithasmitherson]

They always look older than their husbands

[@n0426]

@@bobithasmitherson because they lowered their standards and agreed to play their role. Some think this is love. But loving another doesn’t make you abuse yourself. If “that person” loves you truly they won’t allow you to be hard on yourself. It’s only the narcissists are the ones who have one-sided sh*tships. That will eventually burn down.

[@jam_is_jammin]

Men want you to rely on them, but they are unreliable. Weeks of asking and reminding him to do yard work that he insists he “wants” to do only to deal with the stress of it sitting undone and the embarrassment of getting confronted by the landlord. For what? A $40 job that a stranger did immediately. It’s more energy & work to rely on them. Their “help” doesn’t relieve any stress or burden. Their “help” allows stress and burden to fester and run you down. Boooooo!

[@C.Church]

Just riffing off your post: Over at "It's a Southern Thing" they have How to Tell if a Southern Woman is Mad at You. The entire funny skit, she is expressing clearly her misgivings about his unplanned big purchase and using her good fabric scissors to cut open the box. Finally after he smilingly takes a text chat while she's talking, she answers his "Huh?" type of question: She straightens up, pleasant look "It's fine." And she turns and walks away with him still looking goofy. Haha right? Comments are filled with men talking about this is how women expect mind reading, guessing games, childish, not just telling you what they want and how it's best just not to deal with women. They ALL missed the wife expressly saying what her misgivings were and ALSO only started mentally recording when she said it's fine. Nothing she said before registered. If she had to repeat her misgivings we all know they'd say "She a nag! Golly women are nags yuk yuk😂" or "We got it the first time! Why do women repeat themselves?" This is why when she eventually asks for divorce they think she sprang it on them. Reality is, she said and she said and she said her misgivings for years. Not a surprise. Not expecting mind reading. Men are playing mind games far more than women are.

[@unicorn73212]

​@@C.Churchthe difference is women don't just say, "we're not dealing with men anymore!" We mean it 80 percent of women recently divorced their husbands so that proves to you right there that men are usually the ones that initiate these kind of problems with women if they really were worth a damn then a relationship would take the stress off her and make her feel younger and full of energy. Not worn out, tired and drained of energy.

[@Quilt4Joy]

For the lady who had 50/50 custody, I always laugh when couples divorce and the husband/wife have joint custody because the man is now forced to spend time with his kids. 😂 and the ex wife gets a break to spend time doing what she wants. The wife would never get this without divorce. It’s so awesome! ❤

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Exactly. It forced him to participate. Its lovely. He said no to the nanny, now he IS THE NANNY!

[@Quilt4Joy]

@@LisaSoulLevelHealing Yep, and normally the man has to pay child support on top of 50% custody. Gold!

[@catarena8031]

I don't even know why men complain about being divorced. Just seems like a big song and dance to garner sympathy. Like, you (the man) are living the life you were already living. You deemed bringing paychecks to the table as your only sole duty to your family (while your wife did that AND everything else) when you were married. Now that you're divorced nothing's changed. Alimony and child support to the family you participated in making is the exact same thing as you did before, except with the benefits of being able to play victim about it, while simultaneously trying your luck with younger women that you seem to think you can get, now that you're a single "high quality male". No, the real problem for these divorced males is that their ex wives are happier without them. It's still hard for divorced, single mothers but if it's easier than living with the husband, that says a lot frankly. And the "alpha's" can't stand that we now know this

[@christopherbrown5409]

​@@Quilt4Joywhy TF is he paying child support WITH JOINT CUSTODY? Sounds like divorce rape to me.

[@amazinggrace313]

because you’re still responsible for taking care of your kids . That was laughable what you just said lol. It doesn’t matter where children are or even if they are there half the time .. they still need resources. Lol

[@RasheedahNizam]

Not only do the mothers have more time, but if they share custody with the father of their children, then the children get to see the difference in mother's care versus father's care. This enables children to understand and appreciate mother's efforts much more. Comedian Ali Siddiq has an excellent special about the year he went to live with his dad. It is called "Home Alone". 😅

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Ill check this out

[@geneinnewade1278]

Ok, so I watched. It was funny and sad at the same time.

[@RasheedahNizam]

I forgot- the full set was called "The Domino Effect". Yes, it was sad. Like a lot of trauma survivors, Siddiq uses humour to describe his life.

[@areyourhandsbroke]

Saw the special and it explains so well the difference between men and women

[@missssophisicated6742]

He's my favorite comedian..

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

I filed for divorce and going Associates Degrees immediately afterwards. I went from a XXXL to a Large. It's true.

[@goddess_Kate]

Every divorced woman I know is living her BEST life!!!!!!!!

[@annmarieknapp]

Divorced and happily so! I wear my mother's wedding and engagement rings after she passed 8 years ago, because she was love of my life and I never plan to remarry. I'm the man I want to marry.

[@mariedelaurentiis]

I love this! That last part especially 🙌🏾

[@FireSilver25]

Ditto! I backed good at the “man” skills and have been able to take care of my own needs LOL.

[@nangel4u24]

🙌🏽

[@Golden.Delight]

I quit smoking, i drink alcohol waaaaaay less, i got a better job after i got divorced. I got a better home on a better side of town. Its way more monthly, and im doing it comfortably with my son & a pet. My house is also clean and smellin good 🤭now that the trash is gone 😇

[@soybeans8139]

This is absolutely true for me. I got divorced about a year and 1/2 ago, and my income has almost doubled. I look and feel better too, there have been so many improvements and I’m really grateful for that.

[@jesmey4902]

Congrats 🎉 Same here I left my last relationship 5 years ago and my salary is now 2.5 times more than it was with him. My life is easier, peaceful, fulfilled and nobody is holding me back or sabotaging me anymore.

[@soybeans8139]

@@jesmey4902 Thank you and that’s wonderful, congratulations to you too!

[@justniquol8972]

Hey! I’m so happy for you.

[@unicorn73212]

Same I just recently left my ex and I still have money saved already you just have to build a stash for yourself and don't tell them about it. Not being on his lease was a huge relief because now I can save more money and sleep better at night. I'll pay a little more for privacy I will but I also learned sometimes it's actually cheaper to live alone too. I'm going to ask them how the pet policy works today because you can have dogs here which is shocking it's hard to find pet friendly places.

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Haha, i hate talking to my married friends, i feel like im trying to convince them to divorce, its soo much more fun lol😂 **im writing from toulouse france, my daughter is with her dad 🤷🏾‍♀️ here for 2 weeks!**

[@Kontroversial84]

Listening to all of these stories, I can't help but wonder why we're not teaching our young girls to never deal with men romantically/sexually and never have kids? They will save themselves a lot of trouble if they remain eternally single and childfree.

[@HaitianBlackGinger11]

I concur!

[@jozzz222]

Yeah I wonder. A lot of my trauma was from men

[@AndriaaLeoLove]

Soooo much saving. Everyone wants love but most of us just get problems from marrying and or getting pregnant.

[@LadyTate925]

I taught my daughters this. They are 23 and 22. Theyre child free and no men! They go to school and travel all summer, totally enjoying their FREE lives! I couldn't be prouder They didn't choose that marriage/child life!🙃

[@itsmelanieking]

That’s insane and magical thinking. Many women project their problems onto all men instead of getting treated with therapy. It is asinine to assign all men as bad and all women as good. I have been hurt more by women than anyone. This is misandrist, unproductive, delusional, and toxic.

[@Childfree334]

This is so true. I know a large number of divorced women. Only a handful remarried. The difference in their attitudes and demeanor are like night and day. After divorce, they're like teenagers again. The "Glow Up" is real. 🎉🍹💅🧘‍♀️💃🏾

[@Liz-wz8dh]

Good for them. They deserve it.

[@LadyTate925]

My free life is absolutely amazing. I do NOT miss giving my entire life to a man who absolutely did not appreciate me at all! 17 unhappy years. Much better single!🥰

[@FireSilver25]

When my parents got divorced around 1990 my mother BLOSSOMED. She went back to school, became a doctor, and could wear makeup and get her hair done. (My father didn’t allow her those things before) And my brother and I could finally breathe freely! He had been so abusive that we both had PTSD. She set a good example for me, and I never got married. I have been in draining relationships though that set me back years. I know there’s healthy men out there and I’m waiting for one of those rather than settle.

[@camiba6773]

i hate to be the one to say but there is like one percent of the entire population of men in this world that are mentally healthy and can hold a relationship.

[@ChristianOne]

There are some amazing healthy kind loving men in the world who are absolute kings worthy of respect. I was with one for a decade. Most of the good ones are taken BUT I can confirm, they DO exist, even for a normal average girl like I was. If you find one, enjoy every second, treat him like fine gold and let him treat you like such too. I felt unworthy of him so I STUPIDLY sabatoged it for myself. 🙄 Glad you won't settle...good men appreciate women who don't compromise their values to have a man. So good for you.

[@bmoe4609]

​@ChristianOne let's delete the king please. I don't know why people want to be kings and queens it is nothing good. Just say there are good men or people.

[@camiba6773]

@@bmoe4609 agree no one should ever hold anyone on a pedestal. I believe that is part of the issue on a woman part. You should never treat someone better than you treat yourself

[@ChristianOne]

@@bmoe4609 Both genders are of unestimable value was my point.

[@MY-im5qp]

I must agree. Currently going through a divorce and I am thriving STILL. I don't have to get off work and cook, clean, deal with the kids and then buss it wide open. I can give my time, energy and love to myself and do! I don't have to deal with someone who says they love me gaslighting me, projecting their misogynistic views on me and getting mad because I actually have an opinion that differs. I don't have to feel like I'm sleeping with the enemy who competes with me and is envious of me. Or talks about me behind my back and not to me respectfully. Girl I have PEACE! Choose YOU! Stop looking for them to fill your cup. Pour your own drink! Now this doesn't apply to those that have an emotionally healthy, loving, reciprocal partner. But if he's not that, it's not worth the stress mentally and physically. Nurture yourself!

[@sameoldsameold264]

That female does not look 52! She looks AMAAAZZIIING!😍😍😍😍

[@bleachshop]

My life literally SKYROCKETED after getting divorced. My ex husband blamed me for a lot of things that went wrong in the marriage (the house not being tidy enough, me gaining weight, me not having s*x with him enough, not contributing as much to the household blah blah blah) but when I went back to get the last of my things, the house was a mess, he was wearing clothes and shoes that I had bought him while we were married, the cookware I left, he was using. It just enlightened me to how wives are EXPECTED to upgrade their partner’s life, while they contribute absolutely nothing. My salary has increased drastically, I have 3 dogs and a cat, my own home, own car. I am literally thriving 😩🙌🏾

[@dp1202]

When I realized that his happiness was the antithesis of my misery I had to opt out. My life has improved immensely. My finances have doubled my mental physical and emotional health is good too. But most of all my spirit is at peace. That will never happen to me again.

[@relaxbebe]

The same happen to me! His happiness was to see me miserable. I opt out

[@LittleMsSunnyD]

My divorce decree is turning 21 this year and I’m going to celebrate my continued freedom from eff daddies!

[@deerhaven3350]

OH THAT'S AN EXCELLENT IDEA!!!! THIS MONTH MARKS 10 YEARS SINCE MY DIVORCE WAS FINAL. I SHOULD CELEBRATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@LittleMsSunnyD]

@@deerhaven3350 most definitely! I love the life I live and I have ZERO desire to disrupt it. At my big age they come with more issues than men’s health.

[@KFontLab]

These are definitely examples of women breaking away from unhealthy relationships they had been in for a LONG time. You should be thriving with your partner. A healthy marriage should produce growth in both individuals involved. It should NEVER be one-sided.

[@prihollis]

When I divorced in 2017, my income suddenly doubled, I bought a property (better/bigger/more beautiful and valuable than I had before with my ex), I’m just finishing my second degree. I became healthier. My pjs are silk. It’s the best thing that ever happened to me. I have never been happier! Chuck a man today 😂

[@txspacemom765]

My pj's are silk

[@qs1066]

Oh that hit hard. I absolutely WAS married to King Baby that did nothing. OMG.

[@Jac527]

Tbh these days Wedding and marriage is being a prisoner to your freedom and patriarchy and divorce is being a free citizen from patriarchy

[@MaroonRose3216]

16:37 yes! My only regret is that I didn’t leave earlier. My ex is still delusionally believing I’m upset that I left him. I … left … you. Confused much?

[@ReeMoni24]

This is encouraging. Good to see there is a good chance that leaving a toxic relationship doesn’t mean I’ll be more miserable .

[@billymobby]

“Why don’t you wanna get married?” THIS “But not all marriages are like this, yours might be different” THEY THOUGHT THAT TOO This why I’m in a relationship but I’m good on marriage & I made sure he knows that, keep it cause if I ever see stuff like this start happening I’m out & I don’t gotta go deal with lawyers. Yeah “marriage has benefits blah blah blah” idc. I’m not in a relationship for legal benefits, I’m in one b/c I love him.

[@UniquelyHerz]

I had a cousin who did that, & when her “man” suddenly die his family didn’t even put her or their kids in the obituary. Might as well just be completely single 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@billymobby]

@@UniquelyHerz seriously?! Damn did they hate her or something?

[@UniquelyHerz]

@@billymobby I honestly don’t know but she was with him for yrs & had 3 kids. They were much older when he passed though, he got shot. She basically had no say so over nothing because she wasn’t his wife.

[@txspacemom765]

Follow up: The whole pick better....I was 13 years into my marriage when I found out some pretty nefarious stuff that I would have NEVER married him if I knew. People lie, people make choices and you, the woman ,can be the best of the best and have vetted EVERY corner of their life, as best you can. His family even knew about some of his stuff and NEVER TOLD ME and laughed at ME about it. Just not cool at all.

[@jozzz222]

Not divorced. I’ve never been married. I think I’m going to skip that part lol and opt out while I continue T H R I V I N G 💫🤗🌎❤️🙌🏽

[@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha]

BayBEEEEEEE! I'm proud of you! 👏🏽 I'm divorced and never plan to remarry....I don't even want any chillens (kids) lol 😂

[@candicoatedconvos]

I found mt career less rhan a year after my divorce!! I’ve been THRIVING since

[@vonnii1013]

They do....like seriously lol women n relationships try to get their partners to stay active.....unless a man is into staying active...that dude who wants to sit on his ass will do that n ur relationship......so its better to just stay on ur own course....being single is a better way imo....u dont need to wait on no one...go it alone and live ur life...these men who want to be extra burdens...naww let them go

[@Nwakaego_]

I completely agree 100%!!!💯💯💯

[@MsMookalate]

Talking about"being a help". Yet, they don't want to help themselves

[@n0426]

@@MsMookalatelol they just want to appeal to you until they get into your pa*ts.

[@Sociedadematriarcal]

Stay away from these ninjas and have a beautiful happy life ❤

[@PeiPeisMom]

I love that you opened with Melanie, she's awesome, as are ALL the women you featured. I know for sure women who divorce never regret it

[@C.Church]

Melanie is a pick me for trans women. Bans any woman who talks about trans that doesn't totally affirms them as real women. Calls the women misogynists.

[@ashleykathryn9038]

My only regret is not getting out sooner 😂

[@freethinkingMILF]

Yep, my life got better after my divorce too, so much more peaceful in the home.

[@reginacameron3011]

I don't what the hype is about marriages. The people I know who's married they have got gained anything. Having kids made it worst b/c I always see my female friends doing the most for the kids and the household. They complain and vent to me all the time. Some of my friends lost their hair, gained weight and just flat out stressed out. Husbands cheated got outside babies. I will pass on that shit. I dated a dusty ripple cricket, took 6 months to come to my senses. Been single for 4 years and happy.

[@availanila]

My second (or third?) boss was a pre retirement man, husband and father. A certain lady in our district was never married but with one son who'd moved across the country for study and work. She started volunteering at retirement and my boss had a field day with her. He'd mock and humiliate her for forcing her aged ugly ass around since she had no one (she'd gone no contact with her family something that's unheard of in my culture) and took great care to search her out to humiliate her to the extent she switched charities. 😢 He had a full year of work when C19 hit and he was forced into early retirement . He left talking big about running his farm, wife and kids now that he wasn't busy. Well, well, well guess who got depressed and anxious at retirement?

[@Liz-wz8dh]

It sounds like moms are already used to doing it all anyway so when they get free, they just put that same energy towards doing things they want to do rather than just what they have to do. Men are probably not doing themselves any favors by letting their wives do everything for them. I guess that's why so many of them end up very bitter after getting divorced...

[@zeniascreativespace3890]

I am so grateful to be alive during this time, and even though I've had really traumatic experiences with men, I'm glad that I waited long enough before having an official relationship with any man, and that I discovered these wonderful stories and conversations from other women that have helped me to clarify the direction I want my life to go. I will absolutely not tolerate any BS from anyone, especially from men. I believe that the world is going to look a lot different and better in just a few short years, especially when it comes to relationships and the way that women live. Edit: I also just realized that the threat some men make that you'll be alone with cats is the same kind of language that abusers say to keep you under their control "you'll be alone with cats!" = "no one will ever want you! etc" I would be very wary of anyone who is willing to just say that to you, you're better off walking away from people who can say things like that to you because they have the mentality that they need to place you under their control and use scare tactics to beat you down instead of addressing you with common respect.

[@tameikadansby9042]

The women in my family who have divorced have all been wonderful and they all have found their way to love and support In better relationships. Not one of them let moving on from a toxic relationship keep them from being happy. They were all better after the divorce.

[@stephaniebrooks8044]

I'm divorced 8yrs, kids are adults, luuuuv my peace and freedom!!❤

[@n0426]

If that man truly cares about keeping that woman in his life he will usually get a maid.

[@HaitianBlackGinger11]

My father gotten two maids for my mother one for the week and the other for the weekend. The only thing my mother was responsible for, was to make sure we got up on time for school. My father also had a driver to take us to school. My father and mother didn’t even live together. What a dynamic. My father and mother’s life story is crazy and unique.

[@n0426]

@@HaitianBlackGinger11 so sad. Sorry to hear that their relationship isn’t going well. They are still together for the sake of their children. Like most people.

[@HaitianBlackGinger11]

@@n0426 That was the relationship. They lived in separate homes. My mother wanted that way.

[@n0426]

@@HaitianBlackGinger11 good for her. My mom died. I was so sad but now i see what god didn’t want her to go through..

[@HaitianBlackGinger11]

@@n0426 Aww that I’m sorry for your lost.

[@DJRenee]

9:30 EXACTLY... he hated you and he was jealous. Women, nothing worse than a uninspired man.

[@batgirlp5561]

Girl, my husband would have that dead yard green and thriving

[@TheGuniverse2k]

My mom would've done better divorced, now I'm sure I won't see her again till she's dead. I told her I would help her the rest of her life but she's in too deep. And women have way more energy than men. Way more.

[@tameikadansby9042]

My own mother was divorced twice before she married my father and she was never a woman to let anyone mistreat her. My parents arguments were respectful no name calling or violence either physically or verbally. They didn’t want my sister and I to see them fighting in a way that would cause us to think that disrespect was an acceptable response to disagreements.

[@CoachDeeFree]

Love love love this commentary ❤️

[@stephaniebrooks8044]

Im divorced, kids are grown, loving it!!❤❤

[@amandanbs4037]

🎉🧡My divorce was final 02.22.2022 & I'm thee HAPPIEST I'VE EVER BEEN IN LIFE!🧡🎉 I got out without getting pregnant. I can't explain just how happy, joyful & genuinely free I feel! I blame society & the church for the suffrage of women! LADIES, we possess the REAL POWER! Use it & stop being subservient!

[@camiba6773]

i have never been married and happily child free. I have a thriving career and what I came to understand with seeing my friends in relationships and even my poor mother who was a slave to thinking that she needed a man to validate her. You are able to focus more on yourself and your goals. you are able to be successful and healthier. Things are brighter. Dont let anyone ever tell you that you have to be with somebody in order to be successful in life. while that is okay. you should never make it a goal because you are partnering with another human being that goals might change over time. their wants change, that is out of your control. if you constantly try to control this you will not end up well. be safe and think of yourself.

[@iheartwaffles91]

You can generally hear the relief and happiness in Selena Gomez voice in her new song-"Single Soon" I know I always felt a little relief when I've been broken up with. It's like I can breath. In hindsight if I couldn't breath in the relationship then it wasn't supposed to be in the first place.

[@blackstrongmom73]

I gained so much more. If they saw me now they would drop. But the fact my life improved tremendously. Let me tell you some think they are holding you back they are really giving you momentum to push forward. All of this

[@susannehuber3996]

My life after my last two break ups got soooooooo much better. I lost 10kg without going on a diet. I was tired all the time during my relationships. I went almost crazy because of the gaslighting my boyfriend did so I don’t find out about his second life and second girlfriend. What is in a relationship for me. It makes my kids worth.

[@marthadivine8426]

Does anyone know the First Lady’s name. I would loved to read the article she was talking about. Sometimes the best thing women can do is leave. Don’t stay in a toxic relationship. The stress alone will make you ill and kill you.

[@lorenam8028]

Melanie Hamlett, she has a TikTok and KZbin channel.

[@C.Church]

She is still a pick me. Buyer Beware. I purposefully got myself banned at her channel after a couple of weeks so happy to find her. Cramming in as many of my thoughts on (fake not the real) trans people after she had the nerve to scold women for being misogynists about them and threatened to ban women who did. Me: Obvious and fair pro woman thought 1 thought 2 thought 3. Am I banned yet? Boom. Cool girls will always shock you where they are hiding.

[@ms.simeon5452]

Get me everytime " King Baby" 😂

[@nicholetaimi5331]

I was no longer physically afraid because he was wound just that tight.

[@wmd40]

10:20 💀 girl got me rolling over here hahaha. Men can be such energy vampires! Just breaking up with my ex, even though he still lives in the same apartment, has given me so much more hope and confidence. It's going to take a long time to get back to where i was before i got sucked into his emotional black hole but i keep reminding myself im not responsible for how his babyass feels. He can go be a crybaby in the other room about dumb stuff that don't matter. Men can be so petty and don't deal with their emotional issues and then expect you to constantly carry them. It's so bizarre bc I'm almost 32 and been seeing abusive relationships since i was a kid. I've been going to therapy bc of childhood abuse since i was around 11 years old! And i still go to therapy and even take medicine for my mental health. I KNOW how to cope and evaluate my thoughts/actions. I have learned to take responsibility for myself when i do wrong, and i definitely have said rude things to my ex. But then my ex would turn around and blame me and refuse to get therapy for his own emotional issues. He would try to blame his bad behavior on mental health but legit never tried to get any actual help. He just lied and used my own mental health against me. I would sit there obsessed about my own issues, house chores, and then also i could tell he was not happy and i would constantly have to cater to him. In such subtle ways that it's almost not noticable. But I planned every outing and would have to basically pack a diaper bag, except we don't have kids. With stuff for both of us bc he couldn't even be bothered to bring a bag with a water bottle and a small snack when going hiking. Despite acting like he LOVES hiking so much but in reality that was another lie just to reel me in. I could tell for example during outings like hiking he often would be sullen or sulky. Like a friggin teenager. I'd ask him if he was okay and he'd always tell me yes and I'd laugh it off with him and say "wow i can't read you at all!" This went on for so long i thought he might be autistic until i figured out he was actually just a narcissist. This was so confusing and made my mental health worse bc i could feel that he was not happy and he would not admit it. It drained the life out of me and all my energy. i didn't realize this was even possible until now, despite my age and all my therapy and witnessing/experiencing physical abuse personally. So glad for all the women coming out finally and helping others truly grasp what our mothers and aunties have been telling us for centuries 😅💞

[@thedustysocietycrimes]

I'm so glad the girlies are finally realizing how much more fun and freeing it is to be divorced. I got divorced in 2011 and I will never remarry.

[@n0426]

It’s stupid and pointless to deal with men altogether. only if a woman want to be a mother. And try to choose the best man she can find. Otherwise men are pointless only do platonic and surface level everyday interactions when needed . in reality there is absolutely no point for a woman and a man to be involved together exempt se*ual activities and its only the respectful men who will give you the courtesy of marriage if he really likes you then you can continue calling it a friendship. If he doesn’t he is playing you for a cheap joke . Let’s be real. Men and women don’t need each other but they can complement each other if both are on the right track.

[@n0426]

@@thefoxontheroad876 I don’t really agree because that child will grow up and need a father. A good male figure in their life for parenting. I never wanted to be a mother but maybe if I found the one I truly love i might give him a child if he wants that. But I really don’t want children myself. And don’t want a man either. I want true love and that is just a dream. In my opinion it’s better for women who want children and don’t have a mate is to adopt. Many children hope for a big loving safe guide in life.

[@nikkilong7377]

As a widow I too can confirm everything you ladies say. Many blessings to you all🤗

[@Blech-h9z]

Hey beautiful Maria, I got a new job, my husband is going to have to fend for himself, and I'm going to learn how to sail.

[@MariaDavids]

Wonderful sis

[@gwen7870]

Can attest, 100% true!

[@generation4.053]

I think people are marrying for the wrong because you should be happier with a partner

[@BrittneySamoneSilver]

I'm proud of you. Keep going babygirl. 🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@kated3165]

This is also what I have seen with the women I know who divorced. The men seem to be hit really hard by the separations... but the women look like a weight has been tossed off their shoulder and they are happy and energetic again. ESPECIALLY the ones that split custody 50/50 and suddenly get a whole week out of 2 for themselves! These latter ones are vocal about being the happiest they have ever been, and how 50% custody is the perfect way to experience parenthood.

[@C.Church]

Just an FYI. That white woman on the thumbnail is still a pick me. She shames women who are not down for losing spaces to trans women. Calls the WOMEN "misogynists" yet still uses black women in her video talking points to play like she's woke to injustice. Fyi.

[@C.Church]

Thanks for recognizing my posts ladies. But in case any of our lovely white friends are reading: Minority women, esp older, already feel marginalized in our own gender. In even recent historical imagery, we are the nannies, the maids, the cooks, the workhorses, the one "master" uses for seggs. The one on ancestry sites when white families branch into minority families, the one listed as a question mark at the fork. Question marks are the maids... the "birthing persons"... hint hint. 🙏

[@edunlap6594]

😂 She said she had some of the best...😂

[@thedustysocietycrimes]

That part.😌

[@Its_like_the_T-Rex]

The flip side is these king baby men regress and suffer. It's so sad how much they need a mommy.

[@ununhexium]

i love watching your reactions!

[@MariaDavids]

Thank you 😊

[@KEOSHAANEILIA]

This is so encouraging ❤️

[@freemindds355]

Your hair is pretty 😍

[@MariaDavids]

Thanks 😊

[@dangermauz754]

These stories make me feel more excitement for Britney Spears. Shes almost out of purgatory with her ex-husband. 😅

[@tameikadansby9042]

A man who finds a wife finds a good thing. That is in the Bible. What is not is the rest of the saying lol a wife who finds herself divorced finds her own happiness and inner strength and a peace that is beyond all understanding.

[@Fattyas1]

If my stepmom left my dad earlier, her life would’ve been 100% better than it is now, I know she’ll leave him soon, I love my dad but he’s a horrible husband

[@downbad2874]

My life hasn't changed, it's still a struggle

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Pour more into yourself, education, job applications, fitness, diet. It will change.

[@tigerlilly9038]

keep pushing it will be better. wishing you the best.

[@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha]

Do you mean your husband hasn't changed???

[@downbad2874]

@@tigerlilly9038 thank you so much ❤️ its greatly appreciatedd

[@downbad2874]

@@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha no I mean my life hasn't changed nor improvedimeam I got a sit down job that helps with my disability but that's all

[@way.truth.life.]

LOVING this!! 🎉

[@MojoeHart]

AAAHHH PANDERING TO THE DILLUSIONS

[@nicolebain8649]

Child I would never marry. You might as well adopt a small child...because that's marriage.😅

[@noface181]

The second lady talking about her husband who sounds like he has no skills so chooses to half ass the ones he says he will take care of like... Do men not know that now that we have money we can pay others to do the jobs they don't even know how to do right or fully. If my car breaks I can pay a mechanic. My lawn needs mowing I'll pay a service. My toilet breaks I pay a Plummer. If you half ass the things men like to pretend is only "man's work" then I'll pay a man to do them. Lazy

[@tejackson5225]

I do better single. I'll never marry again. No more "King Babies ".

[@Warhead_235]

That’s what my mom called my dad but after the divorce, I still went with my dad. Eden, though the courts ruled full cage my mom, I still said fuck your to my mom and the judge. Cops arrested me three times for staying with my dad was either one charged with resisting arrest and running away. I still manage to join the army but had to lie to get my secret security clearance. My dad was at my basic training graduation and was there when I came home from deployments. My mom however, yeah she thrived, but I didn’t care. I told her to stay on my life unless you apologize to me and my dad.

[@deeporter7369]

Married men live longer than single men. Single women live longer than married women. Tells you something.

[@stephaniebrooks8044]

Nope. Get sumbdy else to do it!😅

[@swim610]

🎉🎉❤❤🎉🎉 sisterhood rising

[@ENjesh]

I wish women could leave earlier.

[@sagthenaturalsiren5997]

The first ladies random yelling was annoying had to fast forward thru her

[@MrTeddyBoy89]

This was funny 😂

[@jacquelynn2051]

Not quite as funny as a limp biscuit

[@Sociedadematriarcal]

You should say that for your therapist

[@activistgranny2.066]

Get rid of the albatross.

[@RKmndo]

Why bother getting married in the first place? Why subject a man to that?

[@Egress00]

Nobody gets married (like genuinely) with the thought that it'll eventually fail. Nowadays it's really hard finding a good partner whether you're a man or a woman. It's not even about incompatibility anymore. You'll find husbands who contribute zero to the house and practically hate their families hence work over time to avoid their families and you'll find women with so many malicious habits. Marriage is not easy. It would be nice if it was but we don't live in an ideal world

[@ec9833]

I needed to hear this. In Melanie’s video she gave the exception to financially abused wives…I was a financially abused wife and it took 2 1/2 years, with no access to finances, not allowed to finish school, not allowed to work, disabilities rapidly took over my body, trauma was increasing its consequences for me, for my children AND I and most my children are neuro diverse/autistic…and it took finding an attorney who gave a shit but also some other variables that were necessary but 0% guaranteed and without them the divorce would’ve been halted, permanently, indefinitely BECAUSE I HAD NO MONEY other than selling every single thing I could JUST for the retainer and a loan from a very close friend who OFFERED as I was not asking anyone, barely knew anyone, zero family members outside of my own children, history of abuse in my entire life, from birth…EXTREMELY difficult to divorce this person AND had my attorney AND HIS ATTORNEY who fuckin also have a shit & told him there was NO way, essentially, she was going to try to scare me over and do anything to bend laws and he’d might as well just suck it up (she wasn’t trying to hurt her client, either)…if It hadn’t been for all those things, plus a therapist who was willing to help me even though I couldn’t pay, though modalities that ACTUALLY HEAL PEOPLE and aren’t talk therapy that barely helps anyone after years and years…so many things had to go into the freedom I now have and am just learning to wield and learn to believe in myself, with no career, no degree and a limited amount of time on a limited amount of alimony (NOT complaining)…it is getting better. Internally, inside myself it is finally getting better and I’m learning. Thank friggin gawd cuz I don’t know how much longer any of us, my children and I, could’ve survived that.

[@AndriaaLeoLove]

Hey My Sisters, Better To Not Marry Than Divorce. They Are Both Costly And Stressful Unless You Marry Mr. As Right As Possible Who Hopefully Won’t Break Your Heart.

[@MrTeddyBoy89]

This was funny 😂

[@Childfree334]

I bet all these divorced dudes ain't laughing with you Sir. 😂

[@misslola007]

​@@Childfree334💀

[@MrTeddyBoy89]

@@Childfree334 That’s their problem lol. Learn how to treat people.

[@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha]

​@@MrTeddyBoy89 LOL 😂❤