Do men have it easier???

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@miguelpanta 4 ай бұрын

men are only loved for the value they provide. if men find themselves in tough situations, often times there is no-one for emotional support, they usually go through their hardship alone. no, I wouldn't say at all that men have it easier.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

I also don’t think men have it easier… you can never generalize, but I do see that women have high expectations and also manipulate men to surpress their feelings, so in that way the woman doesn’t give him emotional support at all… of course it’s not always the case, but common…. I have still the opinion that women love men and want them, but they go too much in competition with them in male energy… and by keeping them quiet they can control them….

@adamfillman9020 4 ай бұрын

Why do think that is out of curiosity? I personally have a desire to understand this phenomena. It’s been hurting my mom and I’s relationship almost irreparably. I believe it’s a neural thing but if that’s the case why isn’t there any study? Alternatively I think it’s behavioral. Either which way I just don’t know how to communicate or expose (educationally not vehemently) this “thing”

@kirerunte1046 4 ай бұрын

@adamfillman9020 easy, people reject truth and morals and there roles, women pick terrible men and don't submit to there husband's until that changes then it never will

@kirerunte1046 4 ай бұрын

@adamfillman9020 no morals runs from truth and doesn't accept there role and doesn't submit and they need there fathers to pick the men they should marry

@UnimportantAcc 4 ай бұрын

@@adamfillman9020in your case this is not the same thing as what is being discussed, your mother (and to a lesser extent your family) should always be the exception to this rule! For a mother to act this way towards you I would say is a sign of narcissistic personality disorder or even psychopathy. I obviously cannot diagnose anyone however! Essentially she's not mentally wired to be the archetypal mother - I hope that's not rubbed off on ya in a bad way

@davidp2888 4 ай бұрын

We're told to express our emotions, and then we're mocked/shunned for doing so.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

I agree, that this is often the case…

@kieronwalters3120 4 ай бұрын

Never cry in front of a woman.

@DynamicVlogs69 4 ай бұрын

I agree. Unless she's my therapist

@miguelpanta 4 ай бұрын

i disagree. if you cannot be totally vulnerable in front of a woman, she may like you for what you provide, but she does not truly love you.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

I hear you, but if you ever want to really open to a woman, there is no way around😊. But of course there need to be enough trust….

@delivererx 4 ай бұрын

Its easier to jump ship than to support or even be with the same man.

@Rusty_Pickup 4 ай бұрын

News flash sweetheart. It never has been easy for men.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

Exactly, it’s a long story… and not solved, yet, after such a long time…

@G4nda1f 4 ай бұрын

@@GudrunSilvestre And even if you truly understand as your post above implies and your video title is just a "shameless plug" as another comment states, I'd still like to speak to this further. It definitely is not "easier" for men. For anyone to claim that men have it easier just shows how truly out of touch they are with reality (and likely indicates their strong ideological, feminist bias). I don't think women who make such statements have even the faintest idea of how arrogant and off-putting and entitled and clueless they are. To use examples from social media (a bad idea I know, and certainly not representative of many women) it would be very easy to conclude these women are petulant, immature, spoiled children-in-adult-bodies who are completely unaware of reality and of how privileged and valued and protected women actually are in society. They whine on and on about issues that amount to first-world problems while men on the other hand are dealing with the weight of the world struggles. Or they complain about the terrible actions of a few bad men (which indeed these actions are quite reprehensible, but these behaviors are also strongly condemned by most men), and they use this to smear and defame all men as being terrible, which is truly detestable from the perspective of all the good men out there. That being said, I don't think any fair view would over-simplistically conclude it's all one way or the other. The phrase "walk a mile in my shoes" speaks to the point I'm trying to get at here. To be fair, in many ways men have it so much harder than women do. There's just no comparison. Women aren't even in the same universe as men in these areas. But conversely, there are other areas where women truly have a more difficult time than men. So it's not just clearly one way or the other. We each have our unique struggles. However, one last thing to note, given the pervasive and overwhelming feminist bias in the culture these days, I would say that in addition to the normal difficulties men have to deal with, they further have to deal with a system and society heavily weighted against them. So it is very hard to conclude any way other than: In general, men have it more difficult these days, when everything is taken into consideration.

@slapfight3581 4 ай бұрын

It's so truth... Till I was angry - my marriage went better or worse... My work flourish... But my boss (jealous asshole) was complaining that I'm too angry, and I'm mistreating other employees... When I started to fight with my anger and I did it well. Than all collapsed... My wife get affair, my children disrespects me, at work I got problems. It was because all they really wanted from me - was to make shit done, not to be nice...

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

Wow… thank you for sharing💙

@TungB 4 ай бұрын

It is what it is. Best thing any of us can do is let it be. Most people eventually develop a high enough EQ to realize that life is hard for everyone. When you're young, you are always wrong about this idea; idealism demands it, there's no getting around it. You just have to be wrong and then learn...and then leave it alone. It's a wild ride if you're clever enough to know when to step out of the way.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

I hear what you are saying and agree to a certain level. But the issue is too important not to be spoken out, because the missed balance between men and women create more desasters in the world then people even realize…

@Kaisoazion 4 ай бұрын

The notion of gender roles and power at play between genders is what causes a divide. No one will ever be equal, I believe, if we continue to shift support towards a specific group (gender, race, class).

@kenwarner 4 ай бұрын

I'm a simple man. I see a video affirming my existence, I click.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

😊

@huuhhhhhhh 4 ай бұрын

Was taught that anger equaled weakness. While there is some truth to this, depending on where it comes from and how it is expressed, this programming led me to feel that after anger I was weak. I wasn't tapping into the underlying vulnerability though but merely "feeling" the shaming of an internal rejector. It's hard to get out of this pattern without making embarrassing mistakes along the way.

@edheldude 4 ай бұрын

Many boys experience their aggression being socialized away from them where it should be their primary response to situations. Aggression isn't anger, it's our capability to affect things. Women envy that.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

Thank you… I can feel where you went through and it feels actually powerful💙

@reinotsurugi 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for speaking the truth in love. I've struggled in my marriage, but am ultimately thankful she demanded the right things of me, helped me become more of a man.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

That’s awesome 😊

@SaunDaugherty 4 ай бұрын

Listen... I just appreciate the fact that you thought about it. Being a man is a THANKLESS job. A woman can get paid for simply existing. This is not so for men. We also are expected to put ourselves aside to protect you and your children. Then, when fathers day comes around... we get a sweater or something like that, and we are expected to take the family out because that's what Dads do. It is a thankless job to be a man.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

Oh, sorry to hear you are feeling like that... thanks for your honesty!

@SaunDaugherty 4 ай бұрын

@GudrunSilvestre if you really care to know... I wasted a comment on a woman bashing video called 'was Ester Villar right 50 years ago' by a KZbinr called ' far from eden' because I thought that it was a woman who wanted to have this discussion. I would really like you to get an understanding of what this is for men. I am not angry with women... I'm just tired. I hope that your thought helps us better relate for the sake of the young ones, and helps our families come back.

@SaunDaugherty 4 ай бұрын

@@GudrunSilvestre ultimately, you asked the question. I wanted to give you an answer.

@SaunDaugherty 4 ай бұрын

@GudrunSilvestre one more thing. I would really like to hear your side onto things because it is very high time that men and women clear the air. If we do not endeavor to do this, then these children that come behind us will lose their way. They already are.

@enablerdave 4 ай бұрын

Well though out. Good video. It does my heart good to listen to you explain it. Learning to control anger and sadness provides part of the strength that is in inherent in male energy. Anger is necessary for provoking men (and women) into action. Get mad, do something about it. Learning how to direct that angry energy to productive uses is the key. Misdirecting it creates disaster. Anger can turn to sadness if a positive outcome is not achieved. However, anger redirected to positive action and outcome can create joy. Sadness and crying often turns into anger and again, that anger can be used to get things done. That's what real men do.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

Very well said 😊. Yes, there is an anger that happens spontaneously in certain situations like a motor and yes, the outcome can be joy in a „positive“ case. This happens when a man is connected to his anger/feelings and with that to his power. The other anger I mainly mention here is an anger, that is NOT lived and often not even feeled. Often surpressed and so men are disconnected from there power. This anger has its roots in childhood and the boy was not allowed to espress it and never healed it. Often deep traumas they never processed. So this anger comes from sadness. Whenever the anger is processed and expressed in a healthy way when a man is grown up, all the sadness of the lonely boy comes up, the anger resolves and the man can cry, or just be sad, and get his power back by healing. Otherwise he stays disconnected. Thanks for your very useful contribution 😊🙏

@enablerdave 4 ай бұрын

@@GudrunSilvestre Ahhh.. yes, now I understand more what you are saying. I too always feel as if my sadness and anger are unwelcome to others. But, it's not the type that comes from daily interactions and activities.. it's the deep rooted "feeling" that lives in the back of my mind. I was always "taught" to hold it in.. deal with it silently. Don't let it out. Thanks for explaining it further! Good stuff!

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

@@enablerdaveEXACTLY!!! This is what I mean… I am glad, you are aware of it, so you can look at it. Most people lost their access to it completely 💙

@moiluck 4 ай бұрын

As a man who feels strong and masculine, I have no problems to express myself even when I’m angry, and I mean expressing as a man without a vehement behavior. There is no need to be violent when nobody attacks you in a phisical way and even more when a man is talking to the woman he loves when you are true to yourself. As a prove of my authentic expression capabilities I will say as a random viewer, I started watching the video because of your beauty and I stayed here till the end because of your beautiful accent. Now, I ended up interested in the content. Greetings from Spain.

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

That sounds great. Thanks for your honesty 😊. And I am happy, the content was interesting as well for you🙏😄

@moiluck 4 ай бұрын

@@GudrunSilvestreYes, the content as well 😊

@hongolloyd8728 4 ай бұрын

Pull up your pants and tie your boots ladies, you got work to do.

@robertreed2168 4 ай бұрын

I need a hug :)

@JorisWeima 4 ай бұрын

Just look around at tons of men and tons of women (give it some time, 'gather data'). Which of these two groups looks happier on average?

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

Hm… very good question… here in Germany I barely see really happy people in general unfortunately 😂🙈

@JorisWeima 4 ай бұрын

@@GudrunSilvestre yea well here in NL its no different!

@Leto2ndAtreides 4 ай бұрын

German woman? ... I feel like it makes more sense to me that a German woman be reasonable. lol Anger directed at women... Anger comes off as rejection. It's understandable that women (in relationships with men) not want that directed at them... And they shouldn't, if they are reasonable women themselves. In the past, there were less restrictions on men being angry. But also, more people were in relationships where they didn't particularly love their spouse (not that that makes for stable relationships either)

@GudrunSilvestre 4 ай бұрын

German… exactly, that’s why I don’t understand what you mean in the first sentence, my English is just not good enough😅… No, women don’t want to feel the anger of a man, because it comes out of aggression. I also experienced that! But… A woman also doesn’t want to dominate their man in the end, since they would describe him in that case. So a man must be real in his power to be respected by a woman. So it’s about HOW he shows his anger. If he does it by threatening the woman it’s of course not right. But if he does it authentically with responsibility without being a threat, the woman needs to handle it.