Do THIS If A Man Seems Attracted To You But Is Acting Distant (This Makes Him Value You Again)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

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[@laurieparr5274]

How would you suggest a woman deal with it when they are being distant and you know they are talking to other girls but denies it. He blocked me on messenger and blocks me on Instagram. We've been seeing each other for five years.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Laurie, this doesn’t sound like a healthy, good-feeling situation to me. I’d consider moving on. ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Brown Flower! 🌸

[@donna2693]

Laurie that's major disrespect, a guy will treat you how you allow them, you deserve so much more than that...I would cut him loose and let him have permanent space (the loss of you) xo

[@nrc7788]

Hey Helena, it’s corona time and I just started seeing someone before we were all put into isolation. I am feeling disappointed that he doesn’t call or text or do any FaceTime videos as I thought we’d use this time to get to know each other more. We managed to see each other once or twice during this period when we felt it was safe to visit. But I did somehow bring up that I feel I’m getting mixed messages or that I’m confused where we stand (I didn’t do it very directly.) when we’re apart he texts me almost every day or every other day but the convos are short. When we’re together we have a lot of fun and get along! Finally I sent him a voice note explaining that I’m confused where we stand and I need more communication. He said he feels he’s disappointing me because he just can’t give more right now and that corona and being stuck at home is really affecting him and this is all he can do (I know he does zoom calls with friends etc. and is still active at home with brewing beer or cooking elaborate meals. It’s not that he’s depressed. Yet he just can’t give ME more energy right now.) it’s been about 6 dates and I don’t know if it’s corona, or his feelings towards me or I’m expecting too much. I want to just back off but how can I course correct any demanding energy or “urgency” I just put out there? I know leaning back is important which I’m practicing now but any course correction at this point?

[@Professional_Nobody]

Keep him guessing by marrying someone else

[@syrettahoilett5271]

love this,to me just don't ever go back to him

[@FashionBombshell]

T Brenneman 😭😭😭

[@rayrayndiema]

😀😂😂😂😂

[@nikkilove6128]

🤣🤣🤣

[@denisa239]

T Brenneman 😂😂

[@passionawexplore7652]

I really lost interest in a man who pulls away , there’s nothing more unattractive than a man who pulls away , that’s immature and not manly.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If that causes you to lose interest, I’d say that’s a great sign! 💜

[@leesteal4458]

True.

[@KimK_AllDay]

Can't agree with you anymore. I really liked him but the push and pull, hot and cold behavior has turned me off! I'm friend zoning his ass.

[@LisaGemini]

@@KimK_AllDay Yes, that hot and cold crap is immature, in my view. Who needs it?

[@LemansSunset350]

Same

[@kimgordon3695]

If a Man tells You he doesn't want a relationship... Believe Him!! 🌐

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely! 💕

[@kimgordon3695]

xo be SAFE ❤️

[@alfreire72]

Yes 😉

[@alfreire72]

Do the man really come back? 😉 I don't think so

[@bambiiii4858]

Kim Gordon is it in general? I mean what if he told you thAt he thinks he’s not ready yet to be in a relationship (we’re still trying to get to know each other we’re constantly talking to each other going 3months now) and we’re like friends when we are chatting BUT if we’re on our date he is sweet. Well i told him on the first day that we met that i dont like guys who are “agressive” or guys that would tell me that they like me even if we just only knew each other on a short period of time. So i guess thats what he wanted to show me. We never talk romantic topics about us when we are chatting oe texting. Well maybe thrice or twice, i said i like him he said he like me as well but both of us said we are not trying to go fast with everything,.. does this mean that he really likes me? That he just wanted us to know much more with each other? He’s not dating anyone i would know that cause we’ve been talking from morning til night even if he’s at work Lol and he cares for me sooooo much. I’m just a bit confuse

[@vitabuonavita2565]

when Right man is interested in you, HE doesn't play games, he stays interested, if he pulls back,. MOVE ON, too many nice Guys out there. Don't analyze him. ignore him.....he will come back. BUT ladies move on.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, I agree! 💕

[@23magneta]

If you have to manipulate a man into chasing you, then he isn't the right guy for you. If a guy is distant, then he isn't truly into you anymore, and that's ok. At this point, it's best to move on. If a man is being distant because he's playing games, then he is a boy, not a man. Women and men should be able to directly communicate their needs. If they can't do this, then they have no business dating. People need to leave the games behind in high school.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, I agree!

[@hadiapilar6413]

This is true, but my cousin is naturally just a more independent person, and this happened to her, but I don't think she really thought to much into it. She went about her life, did her own thing, and he came back, and they have been together 3+ years now, and likely will be engaged soon.

[@elizabethsepulveda9743]

Is not about games, rather being smart and strategic.

[@Ana-rb7ws]

Thank you for stating an obvious truth that we tend to lie to ourselves about.

[@elizabethsepulveda9743]

Sometimes it's also about giving space, to someone and not being clingy, and setting boundaries..too, is not about manipulating, anything. Once they don't even respect that or don't change their behavior, that is different.

[@barebyerin]

"It's not about playing a game, it's about changing your habits."

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely! 💕

[@Dlovely516]

Change Your vibe.

[@amyk8488]

But when does he ever truly become close ?

[@CrystalSicily]

It's about not accepting shitty behavior.

[@vanessaceilley3868]

Take him off the pedestal! Soooo true, im going through that right now with someone...i need to set boundaries!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely! 💕

[@HankiMaus]

Alex is smiling like a little boy... so adorable.☺️

[@SimplyBeautiful516]

My husband has also done this throughout our 39 year marriage. I wish I had understood what was happening sooner. Implementing the “leaning back approach” has retrained both of us to a healthier state. It’s my cue that I have put an unhealthy amount of energy into our interactions and that I need to take some time for my own interests as well. Thank you for your tremendous help !

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Thanks so much for sharing your experience here. This video might be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b3zbgmSQZZySjs0

[@redstar7292]

You can't really manipulate them to like you when they don't - best to let it go. But you will get more respect, and less dramas and unnecessary heart ache.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I agree - thanks for sharing your insights here! 🧡

[@fallintoreality6819]

Always WITHIN, my beloved feminines))) In my experience as a feminine counterpart, the feminine counterpart (man or woman) needs to put all attention on self love. In other words, the feminine needs to utilize her (I will just use the term "her" for the feminine) energy toward meeting all of the aspects of the self which the masculine triggers to the surface (not good enough, not beautiful/thin/smart/sexy enough/young enough, reject able, unworthy, etc). When the feminine stays true to herself by remaining in her feminine energy, meaning, she remains in HERSELF (when the compulsion is to reach out to the masculine), and when she receives the pain and hurt and confusion triggered by the masculine, and when, in doing so she parents/partners/loves herself the way her ego desires the masculine to love her, then she becomes extremely attractive and desirable to the masculine, because in reality, she is reflecting his potential to become an integrated masculine, a balanced being, and this embodied feminine is a rare creature indeed...like a fairy tale feminine that the masculine always dreams about... A feminine who does this is the embodiment of the goddess. She is a testimony to human potential, and there is no greater magnet of inspiration and adoration to a masculine of conscious intent than a feminine who reflects his potential. (she reflects his spiritual potential which inspires his worldly potential) Now, this will not attract every masculine, only the masculine who is interested in living his true potential. Every time the feminine unconsciously reaches out to the masculine to receive loving, accepting, validating attention, it is for her to become aware of the conditioning to turn away from herself, to stop, and redirect that energy within and give herself that attention. When she becomes skilled at redirecting her attention consciously within, she will attract a man who is seeking a woman to light his path for his own growth, rather than fulfill his needs or exceed his egoic expectations. He will be naturally drawn to the most self loving mirror. He will not be intimidated by a feminine who is stepping into and shining her feminine power, he will realize he actually needs her in order to fulfill his potential. So, beloved feminines, do the inner work. Come into conscious relationship with your unconditional self. Redirect all of your available, loving, compassionate, generous, gentle, sensitive attention away from the masculine and place it on holding safe space for all of the fractured, rejected, abandoned, hurt, hated aspects of yourself. Hold those broken pieces. Love them deeply. Make this your commitment and you will, at some point, draw in a masculine who is a clearer reflection of your true self rather than a confused masculine who isn't sure if he wants to step into his potential or remain sedate and lazy in his egoic programming. When you take this conscious step and you devote yourself wholeheartedly to it, you will never again need to figure out how to navigate anything with any masculine energy. You will always know that the direction you need to take whenever you fall into confusion, fear, doubt, uncertainty, hurt, etc; is WITHIN. Always within, dear goddesses. That is your superpower. Self love. xoxox

[@Jessicajasminm]

fall into reality this was absolutely beautiful and calmed my soul to the deepest level, bless you for this!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This is beautiful, thanks for sharing your insights here! 💖

[@fallintoreality6819]

@@Jessicajasminm I am so glad that these words felt so supportive, love! That makes my heart absolutely sing. :)

[@fallintoreality6819]

@@HelenaHartCoaching So very happy to share whatever might be helpful!

[@tashdennison4861]

@fallintoreality This left me breathless‼️☝🏽thank you so much

[@ptyh27]

My lover being hot and cold to me during quarantine. I'm at one point where I don't care anymore and finally told him I'm walking away and he can have much space as he wants. Now he keeps texting me everyday and asking me to come over. I refused him it's not that I'm playing hard to get but I just need to take a little break from pain. Men tend to take us for granted when they think we women can't live without them and vice versa. They can only realize when they feel threatening from you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Sorry to hear you’re going through this right now. This video Alex and I recorded might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac

[@hailiedances]

How did it end up?

[@ptyh27]

@@hailiedances it went well for awhile, then he acted distant again (he was depressed and he was brokenhearted with his ex) so I decided to let him go again and told him I'm seeing someone else now and this new guy looks better than him. I guess that hurts his ego. So he apologized and explained why he has been this way, he said he cares about me and wanted to see me again. Now we are happily together

[@ptyh27]

@Christy LeGrand Thank you. I have done that for 3 weeks and it was really painful and sleepless. Then he reached out and asked how I'm doing and asked when to see me but then he was being wishy washy and flaked on me at times, so that's when I decided to tell him I'm seeing someone else and sent him a picture of the guy ,told him to not text me anymore, after all these things he apologized. But then I'm still guarded cuz I feel like it will happen again.

[@amyk8488]

When he explained why he was like that what did he actually say his reason was? Was it legit or bull crap excuse? Asking cause my man does this all the time. I feel like he's testing to see if I'll get upset. Why the hell would someone do that?

[@sheenamaeoracion7411]

I love the feminine energy advise! Let the man do the work ladies and just focus on you until he is committed ❤️ thank you for this advise always remember this Alex! 🙂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this was helpful! 💚

[@claudiacocciolo9817]

@@HelenaHartCoaching I save this video for when my guy pulls back and I don't know what to do. It helps me remember just mirror his actions. This happens to me alot. When they stop pursuing as much as the beginning, I push forward taking on the masculine role accidentally without even realizing it. Now I'm being the pursuer. This just happened with me. He slowly became more distant after we slept together. Then I accidentally started pursuing, it's subtle! I didn't even realize I was doing it. Asking him what he was up to this weekend, if he was still coming over. He disappeared. It's only been a day now. But when he does come back I'll be busy, whether I'm really busy or not. Keep it friendship type conversation, and let him pursue. If and when we get together, then we'll have a conversation... But then that's the problem. I know how to mirror him, but if he comes back what do I say?

[@heatherwoodley8244]

@@claudiacocciolo9817 Any update on what happened and how it went Claudia?

[@roniwatson2664]

No he feel like when he got you and he knows you really like him that's when he starts ignoring you because he knows you will always be there

[@mediaproduction6015]

This is what is happening to me he knows I love him that why his taken advantage from me

[@roniwatson2664]

@@mediaproduction6015 You have to set boundaries even if it hurt trust me he will start acting right that's how they do when they feel there getting ready to lose you

[@feistygato9821]

@@roniwatson2664 this one. sometimes you gotta love yourself more than the idea of love.

[@darling8848]

This is true, I told him also how much ilove him.. but at the end he can't give what a relationship I want. We're still friend but no talking. Still love him

[@roniwatson2664]

@@darling8848 That's what they do want to be friends and live like you in a relationship soon as you speak up about it they say we don't go together it's like why bye the cow when you can get the milk free

[@perkieperf1028]

I’m sorry if a man act distant towards me I’m letting go, next!!!!!!..... a man knows what he wants from a woman the minute he lays his eyes on her, I don’t have time for that, I’m too old to put any work into a guy and I won’t allow him to make me question myself neither sorry bye

[@melanieward4534]

I completely agree I’m so tired and I lose interest men don’t want to leave something they treasure

[@celissewillis9399]

I loved this & its so true! A guy just recently came back into my life that id known for over 4 years & I approach him completely different than before... where before I was pretty needy, anxious & frustrated when he would or wouldn’t do certain things, the last couple of months, I shifted massively, so I was living my own life, I do the mirroring thing with him - not to be petty, but just that I don’t feel the need to respond right away or interact like crazy. My texts to him are shorter & lighter & since my habits has changed, his have changed more & more as well. I don’t make a big deal about any silence either, because I know he has stuff going on in his life & so do I. He’s even admitted certain things to me about how he feels & sees me, that he never did before, but I’m just going with the flow & enjoying life!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, Celisse! Thanks so much for sharing your experience here - that’s exactly how it works! 💖

[@luvbeautybyshrae442]

I love how you (Helena) kept reiterating that we as women have to do these thing for us, and not just him. Boundaries, Value, and Respect go a long way with both parties.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely - I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@cuarajhyrojayju4397]

I like the advice of this guy he is right to the point lots of love coaches go around the bushes and give you nothing wasting your time

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Alex gives great advice!

[@Meyouletsgo]

Yes simple and to the point without extra ! And unreachable actions

[@lanamiccoli7056]

Love the content of this video 😍 I was in a situation where the attraction was strong at the beginning, but then the guy got cold feet. The need to understand what was happening with him and to clear things up made me engage completely in my masculine energy, and I became the pursuer. If only I had known then what I know now (famous last words) I would have implemented the tools that you teach, and it would have taken 2 days and not 2 years to get myself out of that compulsive and exhausting and not to mention self blaming because I felt responsible routine. In the end however, I stopped all contact and changed my phone number too. What I learned was to ask myself, “is this how I want to be treated in a relationship, or by any person?” If not, I don’t give it anymore of my energy. When I started watching your channel, I began to stop chasing, and started allowing things to be. Thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Lana! Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here, I know many women can relate. ❤️

[@treethompkins226]

Omg, I'm currently going through this very thing. The connection was immediate, the conversation was awesome and genuine. Within days he said he wanted to pursue a relationship with me, and he was feeling me and attracted to me in every way. I agreed with him to enter into a relationship and enjoy the process. And then the distance. Wth? We were talking and texting all day everyday for hours, and then down to one text and maybe a reply. Now we are day 4 with no contact. We are still friends on fb, but don't communicate. At first I thought he was ghosting me, but I don't think so. But I'm definitely falling back and living my life.

[@heatherwoodley8244]

@@treethompkins226 Any update? What happened in the end?

[@treethompkins226]

@@heatherwoodley8244 it never went anywhere. He would show up several more times saying the thing but never actively doing anything. The truth of the manner there were other factors that got in the way, long distance, shared custody of a small child, etc. I've met someone else and we're taking our time to build something special. Thanks for checking in!

[@patriciascholz6713]

I know I should ignore him, yet that is so difficult as I have so many things I want to share, but I really have to learn to stop. Thank you both.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Patricia! 💕

[@donnaberryman4241]

Since I’ve started what you have said to do , he’s been in contact heaps more , still sitting back . I can actually feel the empowerment for the first time in my life . Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Donna, I’m happy to hear this is working for you! 💗

[@naturesantidotes6784]

I'm going through this 110% right, and found this video comforting. It is a very confusing landscape to navigate, when a man acts like you're practically his girlfriend, then does an 180 and freezes you out. So hurtful and so confusing, and having no clue on how to react.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos might help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXelcqZ-pLGGhaM, kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZfMhYijlKl2d9k and kzbin.info/www/bejne/sGeqpJ6kbKqCfc0.

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I agree with Alex Clermont and when your boyfriend text you back saying, " Hey Where've you been for a week?" Say," I'm an extrovert."

[@pocahontas330]

My current situation has made me go through deep healing about my self worth.. I am worthy a deserving of people's time, effort, appreciation etc and yes, it is so much easier once you join him on the pedestal as your equal. EFT ra is brilliant for all of this. 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes!! Thanks for sharing your experience here, Bernadine! 💗

[@ruhi2811]

Men are confused.. I'm peaceful without all that drama...

[@CrystalSicily]

Men are NEVER confused. There Hunters. When they want something they go and get it.

[@amb2810]

I like how you don’t demonize men who go ghost or cold, and how you acknowledge that it’s usually unconscious and it’s less likely to be a sign of narcissism or abuse. There’s always room to create change in their behavior but we as women have to be open to change ourselves and our reactions/behaviors to their confusing actions. To stop assuming these men are narcissists and being so quick to cut them off and blame them. Men are usually reflecting our energy, so to change what they’re reflecting we need to change what we’re energetically projecting. Thank you for this video!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your insights here. 💞

[@jlady1595]

But what should they do to keep a woman? Feeling women are taught to embrace our feminine but what does he need to do to embrace his masculine to allow women to do that?

[@flea7510]

I know this is from 2yrs ago, but this is so relevant in my life today. I had to set the boundary... And it sent me such relief doing so. Thanks,

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac, kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4PIhGiPms6Gnqc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqvLoIdujt-Cic0.

[@flea7510]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thanks again. It's been interesting to say the least. I'll take a listen for sure 😃❤️❤️❤️😊

[@gigiguzman2747]

Honestly I don’t even know why I am watching this video when I know that I just need to be patient and work on myself, make my self better for me and if is meant to be it will be.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, Gigi!

[@ginaalesha2]

I really needed this again! Shifting back to having myself on a pedestal instead of him! Love this! Thanks again Helena!❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Gina! 💗

[@nadaudsmith9571]

This is exactly what my life story is about right about now....OMG Alex, you are preaching good stuff my brother! “Word for word” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽you are on point! It’s like you’re in my head lol. I needed to hear this. Thank you & God bless both of you for what you do. 💜💜💜

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad this was helpful! 💙

[@annjames7112]

Wyz St re y hi u hi IPO

[@Femininelovevibes]

It’s difficult to not think of him when I’m under quarantine. Stuck home and at this point relying on him. If I was busy, working, just going out it would be so much easier. I asked him to call me today and he he said he would call me in a bit there was a family issue going on. That was hours ago. He hasn’t called and on top he didn’t open my message that I was letting him know, Ok. But it showed he was active. I may not pick up his call when he does call. Then later say I missed it. Setting the boundaries.

[@sarahjaynescott545]

just move on sis

[@adj5767]

Don't hang on unless you want to play yourself. The fact that you're considering playing games shows you're not in the right company.

[@samarztk]

He might be going through a lot rn. Give him some space and regroup. Men aren’t like women jeez.

[@whitney8822]

write down your day by the hour starting at 8am to 8pm, fill your day up with productive things. If you're still at home you can always read, cook, garden, journal, study, spend time with family. Be so involved into your own self growth and development that you don't have time to constantly check your phone and play mind games. Also set boundaries for yourself. You are a busy woman, tell yourself, I will only reply to a mans text messages or calls between 6am-8am and 6pm-8pm. Respect yourself. You should not stay up waiting around for a text or text him late into the night, you have to get your beauty rest. Life is short. Trust me, when you are 80 years old playing bingo you're not going to be thinking about this petty issue. Leave a legacy, what work can you do now that will make this world better? Much love to you, blessings, and most importantly peace. xoxoxo dikaios18woman.blogspot.com

[@sindhusekar1918]

Please block and delete his number and all social media handles. Don’t leave any text or last words. Value and love yourself not some douchebag who’s looking for ways to avoid you. Why the low self-esteem?

[@CarolineAllardDoucet]

Men think it's about them, they don't know that it's about the energy felt with him

[@y.h.8022]

I’m not comfortable putting myself on a pedestal. Not because I lack anything, it’s just because I think it’s unnatural. Im a humble, kind, down to earth gal and I think that many wonderful men appreciate this. what worked for me is just trying to connect authentically with a man.. showing love and affection without losing self respect.. meaning not behaving needy. But, some neediness is ok.. men want to feel needed and desired too! :)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Yuna!

[@tessouiddir]

I love both of you :your empowering people with mindfulness and boundaries and self confident ; that is why I am becoming health and life coach

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you Tess, I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@h.a.nicola-heather-anne1426]

The chemistry between you too was brilliant. You both look comfortable and at ease with each other which I personally like as a viewer. Alex well done for challenging yourself. Your communication skills are brilliant you must have worked so hard. Your clarity was brilliant and it’s obvious that it is important to you to elevate your English skills. Mission accomplished. Amazing guys👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this, thanks for watching! 💕

[@kimgordon3695]

Relax Oxytocin ™

[@pridababy]

Wow this was so deep 💯 I really appreciate it he is blocked rn giving it time getting myself together done chasing

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕

[@LisaGemini]

Alex is so adorable and very smart. I love his accent. This was a great video, Helena. You're my favorite woman dating coach because you have wonderful guests.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much, Lisa! I’m glad you enjoyed this one. ❤️

[@Tiamovlogger]

Yes,if the guy ignore you Ignore him also wait till to come back if not We move on wait for a month let see what will happen

[@h.a.nicola-heather-anne1426]

Skin is glowing Helena. Natural beauty. Alex your English has improved so much. Alex this was brilliant clear advice 👌🏾👍🏾

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💖

[@evelinaandromeda4989]

You guys are absolutely adorable! The best duo by far! Enjoyed your sweet, positive energy and the great advice! Thank you so much! Looking forward to seeing some more interesting videos from you two! 🙂🤗😘❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed this one! 💗

[@TopNotchV]

this is what I did intuitively and its true. create new habits to occupy ur time away from him. if yall live together you have to leave and let him be with his bs, take care of your thoughts and self care is crucial. make new friends, nurture your friends and family, always be graceful but stand up for your values and beliefs of what you want from the relationship and never settle. it's not your job to teach them except how to be around you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I love what you said here Victoria, thanks for sharing your insights! 💕

[@miller5170]

You have reminded me that leaning back is really easy the tough part is that at first it’s a leap of faith and trust! Ladies please trust that the higher power out there and within yourself will attract the energy you want from a man when you lean back regarding romantic love

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, thanks for sharing! 💞

[@pambrunelle8772]

YES !!! If he tells you he can't commit , do not interview for that "relationship" and date other men !!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Absolutely, I agree! 💕

[@kaitlinmontgomery2750]

I don't mean to be fresh; his accent is lovely! Just beginning the video now, Thank You both! 💜

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kaitlin! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex if you want to check them out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac.

[@jenniferhizzy6591]

Do the walk right out the door.

[@hajji1509]

😄

[@patricenicole1644]

This is really great stuff Helena! I love how Alex broke everything down. Could you one day consider doing a video on how to deal with a man who is grieving? Who has lost someone close to him such as a sibling?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, and this one might be helpful in the meantime: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQpqagoK1gopI

[@a.a.a.651]

I love his accent n dimples too, so cute

[@traceyscott5852]

Oh wow after 9 years single I have just made this mistake 🥺 I should of stayed celibate and single it’s brought up emotions I didn’t want!!!! I walked away last week and haven’t heard from him

[@Melody9616]

Tracey Scott I know it hurts. But is being untouchable so much better? We are human and that‘s part of the experience. Put your heart out there. Again and again and again and some more. At least you will have lived while being alive ❤️

[@TheJaiNetwork]

Helena is a rare gem, like myself, who thinks like a man. This was a good video.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed the video! 💖

[@jennalavena]

Helena i agree with you and your content. thank you for always liking my comments. i met a good guy once. he one time went three days without texting me. he came back saying he was busy. fast forward three months later and he tells me that he liked me since the day we met some women are pouring their traumas and insecurities onto other peoples lives. which i can sympathize with them on. but the reality is, a man’s distance with you has nothing to do with how he feels.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Jenna! 💞

[@chafarrahburney4535]

It’s time for women as well as for myself to play my role correctly not a game but understanding men way of thinking so we can have successful.healthy.challenging relationships.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here!

[@fantastic4998]

Although this video is from 2 years ago I really just received confirmation on a lot of things. I'm on the right path

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that! 💕

[@arrianathierry5937]

Great collaboration between two super coaches!👏👏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you Arriana, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💙

[@kipgill]

Really the BEST DATING video and essential to ur personal growth. Thanks so much. Alex, you are so smart and have really nailed and explained what men think. Thanks for filling in all the gaps to our understanding of men.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this was helpful! 🧡

[@Dhanfat]

When he started distance on me,I tell him block me and have a happy life then suddenly he did it😂😂😂

[@miller5170]

I love the advice when something sounds weird just pull back

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💕

[@Revolution-tl5wo]

What would be really interesting is to see on your channel an exploration into attachment theory and how it intersects with a lot of these topics. Mainly these types of behaviors are frequently found in insecure attachment, especially Dismissive or Fearful Avoidant types. Going silent is generally a red flag unless you want to put in a LOT of work and do a LOT of self-abandonment and repressing your own emotional needs just to have this guy in your life.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I actually have several videos on my channel on that topic - here are a few of them: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rqacnoRsotmZmbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZ7VkHV3ia9raZI, kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/gqKpYYSwlNOHibc.

[@ThuNguyen-yx1hj]

Thanks so much for your video, guys. I’m so confused about my situation with my man. Thanks to your video, I think I can a way to balance my emotions.❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💗 These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68si=_6B6celhlv90Oa0y, kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4PIhGiPms6Gnqcsi=TD-5dVRCFrfRBSTN and kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caacsi=_IjAGH-I9bjPd8uA.

[@patriciamasuda2506]

Helena you present a wonderful show every time because your energy is so very positive! Alex Cormant is absolutely a wonderful cohost as his energy is just as positive as yours and offers his wisdom in such a comforting way! Really enjoyed both of your thoughts and thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Patricia, I’m glad you enjoyed this! I’ll be interviewing Alex again next week! 💙

[@4d.4c.4b4]

Learning to ensure my texts are shorter and lighter as sadly naturally I am one of those who like to explain and explain long overwhelming texts

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! I know many people can relate. This video might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKnQpJqFmNCiepYsi=mN1vcr6HYXbSUh-9

[@brittanycrawford6432]

When they lose interest I don’t even want to do it anymore. What’s the point?! I don’t want a man who can live without me ! I want a man who wants me because he can’t imagine a life without me . That we love fully . Or not at all.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Brittany - I’m happy to hear that! 💜

[@notnow7829]

This guy was so into it , telling me how much fun we are going to have together this summer and to spend days at his house , blah blah.. I was kinda guarded.. and he got distant and I let my emotions get to me cuz I am pms'g and I sent him a text saying I guess you arent into this anymore nice knowing you. So now hes ghosted me I guess. Lol

[@kirakeynow]

dont worry, i have hormonal imbalance and this happened to me and i acted crazy. but with the right guy even this is okay.

[@notnow7829]

@@kirakeynow haha ..hhmm.. ok good to know. Thanks 😊

[@leen1q84]

Happens, hormones are a bi*ch & can make you act crazy & mess everything up lol

[@amysnewlife84]

Why are some men so dodgy and don't like showing they like someone , just because they could be committment phobic? If you confront them about their behaviour, why they are getting cold towards you, that's gonna send them miles away! It bothered me for years, but now it's a turn off. If he isn't available, then he rather FO!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, that would be a red flag in my opinion. If you’re feeling turned off by that behavior, that’s a good sign!

[@elianap13]

10:11 Wow, speaking about me right there. Thanks for the comfort.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! This short video clip I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqvLoIdujt-Cic0

[@MissOnelove28]

Thanks guys!… really appreciate your time and energy!…🙌🏽

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac, kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4PIhGiPms6Gnqc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqvLoIdujt-Cic0.

[@francesskaikai2324]

We were good before he visited from U S, when he left everything changed after he promised to send me some cash which he sent half. Now we does not talk every day, but he checks out my status every day.

[@LisaGemini]

My biggest issue with dating, I'd say, is guys who at first seem very interested but then disappear. I get that they have lots of things to think about, like work and their kids. But how do you hold their interest is my biggest question.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Lisa! The right man absolutely WON’T disappear, so the men that do are just “wedding themselves out” in my opinion. This video should help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qom2qKemgdOpl6s

[@Mooncat222]

It’s 50/50 investment , if not move on and find a emotionally mature man , simple thanks so much I know now ! 😊✨

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@strawberryjpeg6000]

Well this guy I like told me he liked me recently and I told him I liked him too and now he’s gone a little quiet and I’m kind of testing in a way for making him see me differently even tho he likes me, creating a different flow since he told me we should go with the flow since we both like each other a lot but he did tell me he missed me after one day of not talking as much 🥺🥺💓

[@BmoreBetterNOW]

Always be cautious when a man mentions ‘going with the flow.’ Do NOT get physical with him outside of a committed relationship.

[@FitnessSweets]

@@BmoreBetterNOW It was like fwb the he said he liked me now acting distant. Like bruh what.

[@capricorntarot123]

Separate your standards from your feelings 9:47-10:11:00

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@jac1057]

It's interesting to watch this over a year later and review the question I asked (37:50). Update... We're just friends now. We never did sleep together and I'm glad of that. We had an open and honest talk and continue to do so. He said he thought highly of me and only wants the best for me. He said he also didn't see his career changing anytime soon. So with that, he said he hoped we would always be friends and thanked me for being there when he went through some tough times. He still calls when he has time and we have good conversations. I'm more at ease with him and myself now. I'm glad we're just friends. I still love all of the advice in a video, not just that to me.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing an update on your situation, Joy! 💕

[@beebee32002]

Please do this more!! So great to see you both together on the video! x

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Kathy! Here’s another video we recorded together if you haven’t seen it yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac

[@marianasonslegacy194]

I love his accent!

[@elliejeen]

MARIANA & SONS LEGACY He’s so handsome, too!

[@IslamWorldOne]

MARIANA & SONS LEGACY cute accent isn’t lmao!

[@naturale_appeal2790]

It’s sexy

[@valenciawalker6498]

I’ve been doing mirroring after six years of dating . I usually pull back as well . I recently set boundaries. Haven’t seen him in almost two months . My bf is rarely texting replies back in several minutes to hours . Back to celibacy waiting to marriage . I will use lets be friends again I have told him years ago . Making myself less available. We live in separate cities see usually each other every few weeks . Thanks for the advice !

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@cendrawasih3477]

Fantastic

[@rosemaryedobor5142]

All i have to say is Gratitude guys it works for me I never thought humans can be this difficult to conet with but now I control I know what I want nd how i want it nd is all about me thxx 💪💜💎👑✌️💯🙏🙏🙏🍷🌹🤗🤗🌍

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad this worked for you! 💕

[@christineribone9351]

You should pull back first. Let him be the one under stress.

[@rosegaldamez1442]

This was very informative, thank you. It makes sense and it's like an inside secret as to why men pull away. Thank you both of you! and thanks for helping people!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Rose, I’m glad this was helpful! 💗

[@rosegaldamez1442]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Put it this way, I stopped working in a place as a nurse and the situation surrounding it was extremely difficult and to top it off the guy I was starting to like, worked there and he and I stopped talking. I didn't know why he stopped talking to me, when he showed interest towards me at the very beginning. Now I know: great!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video Alex and I recorded might also help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac

[@deborahocampo852]

Always great videos. Talking with common sence....i emjoy very much.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Deborah! ❤️

[@lubnazidaan7487]

I love Alex's formulas He is superbbbbbbbb

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Alex gives great advice! 💙

[@marthaayalew2505]

I love his smile! 😍

[@Diabeteslovewithdee]

I love you both Helena and Alex for sharing your true authentic experiences and insights. Thank You! I deserve better and stop giving men excuses!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome! Yes, absolutely! 💕

[@vickykaragiannis8430]

so good to listen to this Alex. Where have you been all my life when i needed you?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Vicky, here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex that should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac.

[@briggskaty]

Thanks very much Helena and Alex. This was enlightening. I appreciate your time and messages.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, thanks for watching! 💜

[@booksteaphd1613]

I'm finally mature enough to follow your advises :) THANK YOU!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac, kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4PIhGiPms6Gnqc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqvLoIdujt-Cic0.

[@cherisrae]

This is the kind of video/podcast advices/insights i need to watch and hear. Experiencing this right now esp in the midst of pandemic. Thank you for sharing your insights and advices Helena and Alex. You two made me feel a lot better!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Diana, I’m so glad this was helpful! 💕

[@cherisrae]

@@HelenaHartCoaching new subscriber here ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

So happy to have you here! 💗

[@8a.m.agentpamelamitchell556]

Grateful, I live this....now many are verbalizing it....AWESOME

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@christinesoto3283]

I love hearing him talk ❤️

[@classicalfengshui7934]

Yes I love his accent. It’s so sexy!

[@prettyshield5070]

OHMYGOSH...Alex is feeling so adorable...

[@fecarcamo2506]

Mirroring if he is in distance. When to reconnect again. I was also first doing the first.

[@glorialnagac4229]

If he text once a week what is this

[@jerseysteelfitness6927]

He's distant because is onto your games

[@hoiliswu6070]

Alex powerful massage and behaviour change I love it awesome and see you next time

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💕

[@DGilra]

Now i relieved from my fears ..thank u Both of you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! 💕

[@kristinefernandez1760]

.i like your video ms . Hart and i see alex with your colab i I've been following him for a long time😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! I’m glad you’ve been enjoying them. 💕

[@HAPPYLIFE-co1ir]

Hi from Russia! Amazing expert! Blessing man!! Thanks a lot! Simple and wise

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex that should be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac.

[@valarieivory1082]

I just found your channel and I can't get enough. I had to subscribe. Love your channel lady.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much, Valarie! Happy to have you here. ❤️

[@Sasha.999]

Thank you Alex for advising women not to sleep with men because that is the only most important thing he wants from a woman, while women want a lot more from a man and women give in to him without taking out time to know him or any investment from him. Then men love the cat and mouse game . A woman wants more after being intimate but then it’s too late because women get strung along by believing or hoping him on empty words. That is why men nowadays, don’t want to get married anymore because women become wives anyways and after a few years he might find any little excuse and move on to another relationship . Women have very limited time to waste on serial relationships , and these men waste their prime youth , then most women end up with being with younger low quality guy, who needs financial assistance to build their lives . There was a time when men chased and courted women but now tables have changed due to this modern vice of becoming their wives without the ring.

[@brendasabater4100]

WOW this is truly the best advice on your channel! He is awesome and thank you for putting this together.

[@brendasabater4100]

God has brought me to your page.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqvLoIdujt-Cic0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4PIhGiPms6Gnqc.

[@carolenaforbes9872]

I love Helena & Alex’s advise, awesome, thank you both, love ya ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Carolena! 💗

[@Mari-lv1rd]

Give to yourself what you want from others

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, I actually talked more about that in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qn26kJ2crZZ7arcsi=pv_E2Uq-mejL0kUm

[@mildredjones25]

Alex you are amazing and real

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Alex gives great advice!