Doctor Reacts: Didn't Know She Was Pregnant AT BOOT CAMP!?

[@MamaDoctorJones]

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[@jamie_marie_]

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[@dietotaku]

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[@yourlocalmarvelfan6211]

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[@MsPomeranianlover]

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[@TheKrispyfort]

I went through 3 urine and 2 blood tests for hCG. All were negative and the Dr said I was overreacting. Overreaction is now learning how to drive

[@melanieroberts2221]

Had roughly 10 pregnancy test show up neg on base. Finally a positive. The doc says how far along do you think you are. I said 18 weeks. He said your uterus is the size of 6wks. We argued. He did an immediate ultrasound. We should of bet money I was right. I was under developed he said

[@bridgit001]

😂

[@jamieb3318]

😂

[@stadot1427]

I hope you call them overreaction. "Hey, Overreaction, it's dinner time!"

[@TheKrispyfort]

@@stadot1427 yeah nah 😆 I don't think calling a teen Overreaction is going to end well for anyone 🤣

[@RinRiot1980]

I can absolutely confirm that having labor pains without knowing that you're in labor is absolutely terrifying. I had a misogynist for a doctor when I had my third miscarriage. I requested a d&c, but he decided that I should have to suffer, instead. A week later, I passed the fetal remains, but apparently some tissue remained in my uterus. A week later, I went into labor. Since I thought the miscarriage was over, I decided that I was constipated. After 20 hours of labor, several suppositories, and a few hot showers, I had my mom take me to the ER. They quickly deduced that I was in labor and went ahead and got me on the OR schedule for the following day. While I was waiting, I had to use the restroom - I stood up to walk to the next room and a gush of blood hit the floor. I was hemorrhaging. I woke up a couple hours later and found out I had emergency surgery. I don't remember much else from the hospital stay - other than the turkey sandwich they gave me before I left. It was Christmas Day, after all. I'm still angry at that doctor 20 years later. If I had hemorrhaged at home, I could have lost my fertility or my life. Just because he wasn't "a fan of surgical intervention."

[@Rosie_C]

That’s super wild! They are very careful to do ultrasounds after miscarriages, these days. I’ve only had one miscarriage, and I’ve always been grateful for how quick and natural it was. My 9 week exam started it, and by that evening when I got an ultrasound it was done.

[@professionalinsomniac8338]

Clearly this man wants someone to sue him.

[@JesseFred]

I'm so sorry you were forced to go through that 💛 I hope you're doing really well now despite that doctor's best efforts to ruin your body and your life. Sometimes I feel like living as fully and happily as possible is the best revenge against doctors like that! I know suing bad doctors can be out of reach for so many of their patients because of time and/or money constraints, but holy shit I feel like you should get compensated for such painful and dangerous treatment! I feel like male doctors are about 50/50 whether they will believe you or care about your pain or problems. Female doctors are a lot more empathetic but even women docs might not come through for you in a lot of cases! I'll admit that I'm biased though, as I've had my own issues with way too many doctors. I have a nerve degenerating disease that was missed by maybe a dozen different doctors over 8 years because they all said "pain is normal for someone as fat as you, lose weight and you'll stop having pain". Losing weight definitely did not help my pain, and after 8 years I finally got a diagnosis - turns out that even when they find a treatment that works (which they still haven't), you can only maybe recover/heal about 2 years of nerve damage. So now, in my 12th year of this disease, I'm about to go stay in hospital AGAIN to try a bunch more treatments because I'm losing control over swallowing and the rest of my GI tract is quickly ceasing to work. Sorry I went on my own tangent there, I just wanted to give context about why no one should ever trust doctors implicitly - just because they got through their very extensive training doesn't mean they will have post their biases! No one should have to suffer because a doctor is full of themselves and refuses to think outside their narrow point of view! I just remembered I had another experience with a VERY misogynistic and condescending male doctor a couple of months ago. I went to emergency with cardiac symptoms - I woke in the middle of the night with pain in my chest and down my left arm, mid scapular pain, I passed out and had confusion when I came to, and my usual textbook blood pressure was all over the place. They checked me over for major heart problems, pulmonary embolism, and blood clots throughout my body. I got the all clear for those, so they sent me to the medical ward so the doctor there could figure out what had happened. The crusty old asshole doctor decided (without doing any further testing) that it was just anxiety. I told him that yes, I do have significant anxiety, but that's why I knew this wasn't anxiety because it felt very different. He didn't listen, he told all the nurses to treat me like a psych patient (which is awful btw, even "psych patients" shouldn't be treated as condescendingly as they all started treating me). But most frustratingly, I knew there was something physical happening to me, and now no one was even looking into that anymore! I was the one who actually ended up figuring out what was wrong with me - another male doctor had prescribed me a medicine at 4x the dose I should have had, and that was causing me to black out as well as the other symptoms. I realised every black out happened 2 hours after I had that (new to me) medicine. If I hadn't figured that out, who knows what would have happened to me! I still can't believe that it 2023 male doctors are basically treating female patients for "hysteria" when I was actually having a real physical problem that could have killed me! I can't believe you were told to tough out something that could have ended up killing you! It's so frustrating! I'll stop ranting (here) now 😆 I just hope that the newer generations of doctors will do better, especially to people with female presenting bodies. I know there's a lot more women doctors being trained now, maybe that will make it more likely for women to be treated more like male patients are treated! I hope your example and my examples can help other women reading these comments to ready themselves for being (mis)treated by doctors! I'm not anti-doctor or anti-medicine by the way! I've been extremely lucky to find excellent, intelligent, empathetic, and trusting female doctors - a gp, a neurologist, and a psychiatrist, and I'm finally feeling like I'm well looked after! So my advice to others reading this would be to keep looking if you're able to, because there are thankfully good doctors to be found! Good luck and good health 💛 to you and everyone else!

[@margaretwordnerd5210]

This could become more common with new laws and threats against health providers. In the 1980s a woman in Kansas City MO had a 7 month pregnancy but vital signs stopped. As weeks went by without a spontaneous abortion aka miscarriage, worried doctors sent her out of state because Missouri hospitals were terrified of the backlash for a late term abortion.

[@River2384]

If doctors can't keep their personal feelings about "surgical intervention" to themselves, then they really shouldn't be doctors. Their job is to treat patients and give them the best care, not make them scared or uncomfortable due to their own feelings or bias. That also goes for misogynistic doctors and doctors that know nothing about female anatomy. Especially if you're a male doctor and SUPER especially my OB/GYN, you better have a full understanding of how the female reproductive system works, and being an "older doctor" isn't an excuse. I had an older male gyno, in his mid-late 60s maybe, who had no idea about half the things I would ask him. Dude, you've had all this time to keep educating yourself, do it!! 😮‍💨 If you can do that, don't be a doctor!!!

[@Taangela]

Its crazy but about 90% of us didnt get our periods during basic training. The stress and intensity of it all I guess.

[@Stephofcourse]

I’m not surprised at all. We had like 7 guys in a row come into the ER for rhabdo due to basic so clearly they don’t really care how hard they push you

[@resQfurppl]

intense exercise & low body fat will sometimes stop your periods

[@Stargaze_17]

I didn't start until after I turned 18. I'm sure, if I joined the military, it would have extended to an even later date.

[@KitBlueMedia]

My training was OSUT. We all didn't have periods for about the first 6 weeks. After that one would start and then it was a domino effect. 40 women all having their period at the same time. It was never ending! 😂

[@Taangela]

@Nikki Ackerman You're so right, once they started it was over and we were all in sync 😆

[@mariyahupalo8500]

There's actually a shocking case from russo-ukrainian war. Ukrainian combat medic Mariana Mamonova found out she was pregnant when she was in Azovstal (Mariupol). Together with her comrades from Azov Regiment, she was forced to stay in the besieged metallurgical plant because there was no way of evacuation possible at that moment. Then, they were "extracted" from Azovstal and became POWs at Olenivka concentration camp near occupied Donetsk. She stayed the entire pregnancy, at first, in the besieged city with terrible hygiene and food supply, then she stayed in the camp, was denied food, threatened by russians that they will take her child away and raise her as a russian child. When she was released on Sep 21, 2022, she went in labor the next day. Luckily, her little daughter is relatively healthy, but oh my, it's just horrible...

[@alecburrett7482]

If I remember correctly, her husband went on a rant afterwards about how he didn't want her to be in active duty afterwards. It was probably stress from the experience.

[@JuMiKu]

There were several reports of stolen babies and children. Those weren't empty threats.

[@DailyMusic]

@@JuMiKu several? Maybe, like, thousands?

[@WouldntULikeToKnow.]

That's horrific

[@irinakuchevska4325]

Russia is a terrorist!

[@smitleystacey]

My mom was a massage therapist on a Navy base, and one of her clients was a guy going through SEAL training. He found out after training that he'd fractured his arm sometime during the last two weeks of training, but he was in so much general pain he didn't notice anything was wrong. My mom even gave him a massage post-fracture but pre-diagnosis, nothing seemed out of the ordinary to her. I can totally believe that a pregnant woman wouldn't notice the difference between "1st trimester fatigue" and "boot camp training fatigue"

[@fionafiona1146]

That sounds horific

[@Kaalyn_HOW]

I was thinking the same! I'm sure she DID feel awful, but just assumed everything weird or awful or exhaustion was just basic training and military adjustment.

[@Darkflowerchyld718]

Same thing happened to my sister when she fractured her groin in basic. She was in such a general state of discomfort she didn't even realize she hurt herself as badly as she did. I don't know how she functioned. The human body is truly remarkable sometimes.

[@becca1189]

Exactly! How would she (or anyone) who hasn't experienced either be able to differentiate between the two while experiencing both simultaneously? I'm just amazed at her endurance!!

[@gabriellacorrea5846]

This is incredibly common and a lot of the time. Some of them will know that they have broken something and still continue forward.

[@jenks624]

Dad: "What's gotten into her?" Casually stays seated with his newspaper. A baby, dad. A baby got into her.

[@MiVidaBellisima]

I was deployed with two women that didn’t know they were pregnant [at first lol]. One joked about being pregnant and was told she had to go get a test at the medical clinic- it was positive and she was sent home. The other hid her pregnancy (conceived shortly before leaving for deployment, although irresponsible, it’s not uncommon.) She was a heavy set girl so nobody suspected a thing. I had no clue until she showed on fb with an infant and I was wondering whose baby it was bc I didn’t remember her being pregnant and I just spent over 6 months as her neighbor in the desert lol

[@Shayril]

My mom's roommate in the Army didn't know she was pregnant. I don't know if it's still usual, but in the early 80's, a pregnancy test was standard when women went for their yearly physical. They told her she was in her second trimester, but her response was that wasn't possible unless she somehow got pregnant over the phone. 😂 She told them that she was either 9 weeks or 9 months based on when she had leave. Well, she went into labor that night. My mom said she went from having a completely flat stomach to being the size of a beach ball in a matter of hours.

[@fionafiona1146]

​@@Shayril it's very impressive how awkward things can be

[@Kekeliz]

How r u able to deploy with out a pregnancy test tho

[@D38401]

​@@Kekeliz they probably where very early. A test doesn't not usually show positive. Until you miss your period. I'm speaking from past years. Not took one in 18+ years.

[@shadowkissed2370]

I had a friend who went to basic pregnant, she had a loss in the family so they let her go to the funeral and she took that time to voluntarily ended the pregnancy without telling anyone. She went back to basic a day later and within that week she had tore something in her body and was medically released. I am not sure what it was but it had to do with her female parts. She had to go through extensive surgery when she got home, after surgery she stayed at my house until she healed up.

[@katemueller1359]

my sister is a highschool senior, and one of her friends recently went to the ER with abdominal pain and left with a baby. luckily her family is being very supportive.

[@Stoffmonster467]

That happened to a girl when my neighbour worked at a boarding school for teenagers with special needs. The midwife crossed the emergency unit and said to her "come with me" while all others assumed some appendicitis or stomach problems. But a 16 year old girl may deny that pregnancy out of fear.

[@laceyschenk6152]

My best friend literally missed her graduation in this exact scenario. It's been 13 years this month❤

[@devdawg22]

A girl I went to school with had a toilet baby. She didn't know she was pregnant. Her back really hurt but always did due to a past 4 wheeler accident, she thought she had to pool, was a premie baby girl. Thankfully her dad was hone and helped get the baby out at call for help. Her baby stayed in the NICU for a but but she is now like 20 years old

[@mistybraun9973]

When I went to boot camp for the Marines, a few of the woman in my platoon were sent home when they were found to be pregnant. It happens. Most people don’t realize that women in boot camp rarely have their period. Marines had three months in boot camp and none of us had our periods that whole time. Dunno if they put something in the eggs or if it was due to the physical agree, but no period. The DIs still had a recruit carry an ammo can of period products but only the drill instructors ever used them. The women in my platoon who were pregnant weren’t found until about two months in so that must have been hard for them to be sent home and forced to go through the whole thing again once they were no longer pregnant.

[@AramatiPaz]

Heavy physical or psychological effort can affect the period. And I assume the camp has both.

[@virginiatruett7115]

All the physical demands plus the stress can affect periods. When I went through USAF boot camp, most of us did not have our periods. I can understand not realizing it during boot camp, but I feel for her because I remember feeling wiped out tired during the first trimester and going through basic training would have been ten times harder.

[@jenniferclark9842]

Stress can cause it.

[@RadHerring]

Same thing happened when I went to Navy boot camp. They were there and then suddenly they weren't lol

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

I used to do sports, and if you have a period of prolonged extreme physical exertion your period skips. It comes back when your body adjusts to that level of activity tho :)

[@raysangel1973]

Something VERY similar happened when I was in the Navy. I was a medical lab tech and was stationed at a small Marine Corps base in Japan. One of the young woman Marines I knew was having issues with her stomach moving and weight gain. It was to the point where she was not fitting into her uniforms. She had gotten a depo shot about 6 months before. When I looked up her labs I noticed that the doctor who ordered the shot did not have us perform a pregnancy test. Their reason was that she has been on depo for a while and was not late to get her next shot. Of course, she was pregnant. They had to send her back to the states immediately because they were very concerned that her child might have complications as a newborn that would put it in a nicu, something we did not have at the clinic. Mom was running at least 3 miles a day. Baby was born back in the states as healthy as can be. As a matter of fact, she is 23 and has her own baby now!

[@jessicaroseelizabethp.7911]

excellent! So glad you helped make sure the pregnancy test had been done then!!!!

[@odzk1757]

6mo? depo is every three months

[@odzk1757]

Literally 12-14weeks

[@maximillian1109]

Well, running long distances, pregnant or not, is what human females are made for so...I'm not surprised baby was fine.

[@scoylephoto]

Fun Fact: American Gothic (the image used to parody the parents) actually depicts a farming father and his daughter, though many people confuse the woman for his wife. And that is the extent of my use of the art history class that I took 13 years ago.

[@elizabethquinn8362]

Another fun fact about "American Gothic" is that the models he used for the painting were his sister and his dentist. So, although that's the fictional relationship depicted, the real people he painted were not a real father and daughter!

[@Elizabeth-rq1vi]

It interesting what we remember from random classes we’ve taken isn’t it?

[@JessieI]

@@Elizabeth-rq1vi, it's more interesting that a few teachers spin the truth. But the saddest thing is that teachers in Red States are no longer allowed to teach truths. 15 years from now a whole crop of new adults will be looking for work and applying for college and they will be effectively WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE. Some may be intelligent enough to be retaught to learn, but many will be lost and left to work jobs they never planned, at incomes that won't sustain them, let alone a family.

[@veevee306]

One of my best friends found out she was pregnant while on orders in the Army. Couldn't figure out during her PT why she had such terrible abdominal cramps. Her husband (also Army) took her to the hospital and the whole platoon found out she was expecting! She already had a daughter and her son was born that fall. He's in high school and they still call him Platoon Baby.

[@serephita]

I used to be friends with someone who didn't know she was pregnant until like, a month into boot camp. She had taken 2 pregnancy tests (a week or so apart) prior to taking another one before starting boot camp. 3 weeks in...surprise! LOL The first 2 had been negative. We dubbed her now son "ninja baby" for a while

[@999Giustina]

I took 3 pregnancy tests eeks apart that all came back negative. My son is a teenager and I was pregnant for each test. I wasn't in the military so just took my vitamins and remained suspicious. I just felt pregnant, if that's a thing.

[@ClaudiaArnold]

Our neighbor, in the 80, was such a case. She already had three children but still had a fourth without knowing she was pregnant. She claimed being older, and overweight, and with a lifetime of digestive trouble, how was she to know? She actually mistook the kicking of the child for gas - but I think she didn't *want* to know.

[@myredpencil]

@@ClaudiaArnold in the '80's it was hard to get answers to questions like that at home! Home pregnancy tests were a total science project!! Little test tube you drip your collected urine in, then add their tube, sit it in a little stand with a slanted mirror at the bottom, then wait eons (2hrs?8hrs?Overnight??felt like)to see whether or not a teensy floating ring showed up! Really! And with No Such Thing as the internet, maybe a friend could loan her a book or she could bring her kids to the library and check some out on pregnancy & menopause. She probably couldn't be bothered to arrange childcare to see a doctor for something that was not giving her any problems, right?? I can totally see doing that if I was that out of touch with my body to not recognize pregnancy by the 4th. BTW, I was the product of a mom that didn't know she was pregnant at 33 and after her first husband turned out to be sterile, but my daddy was not! Yay me. I was only 5 lbs

[@NyssaThomassen]

I didn't have that "starry eyed" moment, but my husband did... and then my baby immediately peed on my husband. Literally, that was his first action after being born. Oh, this is dad? *Pees*

[@PentadFinancial]

I can relate. I don't know if she did but I definitely did! Although I believe it was a combination of the entire process (watching the miracle of birth) and knowing that I was a big part of that.

[@jackiearnolds]

Gotta mark his territory 😂 "This one is MY father!"

[@GizmoAndKiwi]

I think I've wrote it before on one of those videos but it was SO HELPFUL that MDJ always says it's okay not to be the starry-eyed movie-mother when your child is born and that she herself needed time to get to know her kids. When my child was born it was always in the back of my head that it's normal. That you can want a child but still need some time to learn to love it - and I did. Thank you so much!

[@nitsirkroy]

My pregnancies were extremely planned yet when my first son came I heard his cry and my FIRST thought was total fear. What did I do? That’s an actual baby! Omg what now? Who gave me permission to care for another life! Just panic lol. The love at first sight happened shortly after tho when I was able to hold him skin to skin on my chest. Best moment ever ❤

[@belfrybb]

Thank you for sharing this. I’m 7 months into a very planned pregnancy and every once in a while I wake up in the middle of the night in a panic thinking “wtf am I doing?!” I’m always relieved to hear that other people struggled with the same fear 💕

[@nitsirkroy]

@@belfrybb Every stage of motherhood has challenges however no matter what you’re feeling I can guarantee others have felt it too! It’s the faking a happy face which makes us think we need to be perfect. I’m so excited for u congrats on the pregnancy! I’m so sure you will have many amazing moments with your little one. The bad ones you tend to forget for evolution and self protection anyways lmaaoooo

[@JustTheTruth-Please]

My pregnancy wasn't planned and I never wanted to carry a child, was too young at the time to boot. I remember him laying in his little hospital cot and feeling like there was a physical part of me right there, like someone had cut off my arm or my leg and put it in the cot. Love doesn't cover it, it has been a lifelong bond, tighter than my own old skin is now. Everyone has their own stories, their own way to love and my wish is everyone has a good story. We mommas get there when and how we get there.

[@thevictoriagoogin]

My first one was planned, and I was great in the hospital. We pulled in the driveway & I was fighting back tears. I got to the kitchen & my Aunt whom I lived with asked what's wrong & I lost it, I said I don't know what I'm supposed to do now. Just bawling. She of course laughed and said it's gonna be alright. He's 15 now & has a 12 yr old brother so I guess I didn't do too badly. 😂

[@MissNutt87]

I definitely felt this with my first baby. He was a long time coming (5yrs of fertility treatments) and 26hrs induced labour. I ended up with an emergency caesarean, and when they got him breathing and brought him over to me I was happy he was here and ok, but couldn't process much of anything else. Wasn't until I got to see him again the next day and spend time with him that I really fell in love with him.

[@ShinheeEntertainment]

This situation is actually pretty normal. We have a lot of Trainees show up to Basic Training, and they sometimes don't know that they are pregnant. This is why during the first week of training, everyone goes through medical and all the females get pregnancy tests. This is the same for people going to NTC/JRTC and any deployments. But if you tell the clinic that you're on birth control sometimes they won't test you.

[@codename495]

When I was in any female, on BC or not was tested prior to absolutely anything training or deployment wise AND likely any time during that exercise that she sees a doc.

[@occheermommy]

These episodes are at least 10 years old. Idk how long ago you guys were in but those practices may have been developed because of these types of situations.

[@splendidpursuits]

False negatives happen.

[@35yoglenmckenna31]

I believe in this type of pregnancies it doesn’t show up on the test just like the symptoms

[@ThennaryNak]

@@occheermommyI went to basic in 2000 and one of the girls that came in at the same time ended up testing positive for being pregnant in the first couple of weeks in reception. So pregnancy testing has been part of the process for basic for at least a couple of decades.

[@kokothevaliant]

Skipping the actual content of your videos for now because my first baby was stillborn at 39 weeks about a month ago and watching birth stuff is difficult, but I just wanted to come here to say I love your channel and watched your videos all the way throughout my pregnancy. I just wish there was more medically-informed coverage, like the videos you create, of when pregnancy doesn't end happily and would love to see you cover the topic of stillbirth statistics and problems you see in the OB community with prevention.

[@purpleghost106]

This is such an important topic, and we definitely need to have more factual videos on it. I am so sorry, I hope that you're getting support to get you through this (reddit has a loss-mom community that is very supportive and understanding, if you wanted some peer support) But, I am glad you're trying to speak out and ask for the topic (difficult I'm sure) because it would be better if there was more information given about loss on the medical side of things.

[@kokothevaliant]

@@purpleghost106 Thank you for replying! And for letting me know about the Reddit group. I haven't used Reddit in years but that group sounds like it would be for me so I'll check them out. Thank you ❤️

[@lauraelliott6909]

I'm so sorry for your loss! That is truly heartbreaking. I wish you the utmost healing and comfort.

[@JessieI]

Thank you @K.Burton for having the courage to speak up on a painful subject, because you're right, it DOES need to be covered and spoken of. Mothers, Fathers, families, should never have to grieve in silence. I'll be honest, I haven't lost a pregnancy, so I cannot know the depth of your pain, but it seems to me that the silence and secrecy makes miscarriage/stillbirth so much more painful than it would be otherwise. I wish I had some kind of magic for you, some charm to wash the pain away, but I don't. What I can offer you is this: Sorrow does not last forever. Love does. What you will be left with is the gift of Empathy. All humans are capable of Sympathy, but Empathy happens when you are willing to accept the struggle and pain, live through it and learn how to come out the other side. It doesn't sound like a gift we want, and we certainly didn't ask for whatever happened to us, but our healing is a healing we can then offer to others who are struggling with the same. Because we both know, no one knows our sorrow and can talk with us, like someone who has been through our struggle.

[@MadamSutdisi]

Sorry to hear about your loss. I also had a pregnancy loss and I wanted to say that it does get better. A hug from a stranger on the Internet.

[@salamanda11]

These are my favorite videos! The craziest thing to me is that most of the people are just like “yeah i was gaining weight and I couldn’t keep it off” but not in a way that immediately looked pregnant to them?? I just found out I’m pregnant a week and a half ago. May my pregnancy be as uneventful as hers!!

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Congratulations!!! I pray for a positive pregnancy and birth experience!!! ♥

[@lucialma]

Congratulations on your pregnancy ❤

[@codename495]

Sometimes you don’t show much at all. I’m tall and have a long torso so even though I had big babies 8+ lbs-9lbs I never really looked “ pregnant”. I got thicker in the waist, but if you didn’t know me you’d just think I was chubby. I was always jealous of the cute little basketball bellies my friends had.

[@lucialma]

@@codename495 that’s a good point. Also, people who are very physically fit often don’t show the same way as average people. I know a girl who is a Pilates instructor, and she never looked pregnant the entire time.

[@ibfayfay]

I'm 5'5 and 108 lbs, but when I was pregnant, no one could tell. Even at 39 only those who knew me really well could tell

[@shannonmcrae1364]

Mama doctor Jones!!!! I’ve been watching for years, so when I had the feeling I was pregnant, but I had an IUD, I thought of you saying “just take a pregnancy test” so I did and it was POSITIVE!!!! Mama doctor Jones is the real MVP

[@Bribreezzzyy]

Omg I’m terrified! Which iud did you have? But also congratulations

[@shannonmcrae1364]

@@Bribreezzzyy thank you however I miscarried. It was the mirena IUD

[@mimisezlol]

​@@shannonmcrae1364 I'm so sorry, a miscarriage is always difficult one way or another

[@tanyabrown9839]

My first teen pregnancy I got pregnant a couple of condoms had burst, my second teen pregnancy happened 3 months after I had a copper plated IUD inserted. So I had two daughters when a teen.

[@gh0stly_retr048]

I just got put on birth control, and I'm not gonna lie the stigma around it is terrible... I'm not active.. but I'm a teenager who has terrible period cramps and throws up and has to miss school but everyone looks at me with disgust when i am at the pharmacy and it just makes me feel terrible but watching all of your video speaking about the stigma is helping me feel less... terrible.. thank you

[@lucialma]

I WAS that teenager, throwing up and missing school due to period pain. I’ve given birth and I can honestly say that my menstrual cramps at age 15 were more painful than my actual labor contractions. I wish my adults would have accepted at the time that birth control was the way to ease my suffering, and if you are a minor then I’m so glad that yours do. But the stigma is still ridiculous; even at 20 I had pharmacy techs make comments to me about filling my prescription for medically necessary birth control pills. I’m sorry you have to deal with that!

[@MalissaWilson]

Chiming in on the judgy med techs at the pharmacy. I was married for years and still getting looks from people. It's just regular medication, just like vitamins. I wish more people would just chill out about it you know?

[@jinde75]

Who looks at you in disgust at the farmacie?! I went on the pill when I was 14 so I could plan the first two days on the weekend. Never had problems. The USA is so sex negative. I’m really sorry people did that to you.

[@SarahMilesSmiles]

Your insurance may have mail order prescriptions, once you know you can tolerate that particular kind. It would let you avoid the judgy pharmacists/techs. Today if I encountered that (34), I would've played into it to make the employee uncomfortable, but I definitely wouldn't have had the courage for that as a teen. Like, you know how they're supposed to offer counseling for meds? Ask really, REALLY pointed questions about where babies come from and proper use of your script. Or, go into VIVID detail about why bcp was prescribed, you know, since they clearly don't get that there are other reasons doctors prescribe them. Even if they were primarily prescribed for birth control purposes, it's none of their business and you don't deserve to be treated like that. All they need to know is that your doctor deems them medically appropriate. I hope you get relief with them! And if it takes a while to start helping, might I suggest all the period/labor simulator videos on here? I personally get great relief watching guys be big babies about the whole thing.

[@PikaEast]

Here's a quick way to deal with that: "Nobody wants to f*ck you, huh?" The judgiest ppl usually have the worst sex lives pika

[@chidenisee]

I was in boot camp for the Navy when a girl found out she was pregnant. She had a false negative before she came and then in Great Lakes after processing she felt sickly. She was about almost 3 months when she found out after they did a pregnancy test. I didn't have a period and others didn't because the stress can really mess your system up.

[@katiecabrera10400]

My sister was in basic training for the Navy when she fainted one day and upon running some tests she found out she was pregnant with my now 1 yo niece! She was super shocked that she was pregnant and had to be medically discharged.

[@gabriellagalli8564]

Every time the mother talks about how horrible they feel about not knowing they were pregnant I feel my heart crack. Don’t blame yourself for not knowing you were pregnant! Don’t blame yourself for not having the instant connection with your baby or finding out you have post pardon depression or post pardon anxiety! Your videos will always help me get ready on eventually having a baby myself! Thank you Momma Doctor Jones!

[@lsmmoore1]

Like seriously. I've heard of dolphins knowing a woman was pregnant before she did. Which makes sense. Dolphins have a really good echolocation sense and time to learn how to identify pregnancy signatures that way. We don't have that luxury. We don't need to be blamed for not having the sensory info a dolphin does.

[@harringt100]

LOL, post pardon depression. I think that's what Rudy Giuliani has these days, right?

[@myredpencil]

Postpartum. Postpartum.

[@occheermommy]

You have to do the one where she gives birth in the camp bathroom with the nurse. And also the older black lady that ended up almost dying from high blood pressure. She was amazing.

[@Jacelyn5440]

I have to share the story of my firstborn. It was in 1975 in a military hospital. No one there except my husband, as far as support. Not just anyone was allowed on that floor. We had no family near us. So, I was induced and was in labor for about 16 hours. They had to do an emergency C-Section. When the baby was born and they went out to tell my husband, they told him the baby's head had molded! WOW! He thought it was like -- molded bread or something! LOLOL That has been something to laugh about through the years. The baby is 48 now.

[@ShadeyLadey]

I didn't know I was pregnant until 19 weeks. My Dr told me it was my gallbladder making me sick. So a month later I'm gowned up in the hospital waiting for surgery when a nurse came in and told me I was pregnant! Now I'm 24 weeks ❤

[@Diana95413]

I have NEVER heard anyone describe the way a mom feels after birth they way you did. That is pretty close to the way I felt. I always felt so guilty about not having the "normal" starry-eyed reaction. Glad to see I'm not the only one.

[@lianna0303]

My first didn’t know I was pregnant, while actually pregnant. Found out at 3 weeks 5 days thanks to mama doctor jones advice of if In doubt test, with PCOS my periods are all over the place so I have always tested monthly and who knew in April it came back positive, I stared at that test for 30min straight in pure shock and excitement. I’m 10 weeks now and still shocked that I got pregnant after three years of not preventing pregnancy had fully convinced myself that I would need fertility treatment to conceive. Can’t wait to add our bundle of joy in December ❤

[@catinabox3048]

3 weeks and 5 days hardly counts as not knowing. That's when people who actively try usually find out...

[@cats-and-tiedye]

⁠​⁠@@catinabox3048 I think she meant this is the first “I didn’t know I was pregnant” video she’s watched since being pregnant

[@jasminekennedy4774]

Aww congratulations! I found out I was pregnant when I was 3 wks and 5 days too after a miscarriage. I'm due in November 🥰

[@DoAwayCrochet]

The actor looks like Taylor schilling who plays piper from orange is the New Black.

[@MelanieBarrozo-u7s]

@@jasminekennedy4774hope you and baby are doing well. I found out I was pregnant again a week after the due date of a miscarried baby. It doesn’t lessen the blow of losing a child but there’s something extra special about a rainbow baby.

[@kedb621]

I can say as a doula who had a client who was pushing and baby a heart right started to dip and the OB wanted to take her into the OR, I stopped him and asked if she could try pushing in a different position or if forceps/vacuum/etc could be tried since she was already pushing. He legit didn’t want to but the husband stepped in. We got her in her knees and baby was out after a few more pushing and totally fine. It’s crazy that there are OBs out there who are very knife happy

[@Theherbalempress]

I can barely even take care of my 15 month old while pregnant without almost passing out or feeling like I’m dying so I’m a little jealous that she was able to do all of that while pregnant. I do feel sympathy for her since she wasn’t aware and had to go through that traumatic birth experience but I’m glad that her and baby are doing great now 😊

[@melissacoviello2886]

Right

[@ionaperryman2742]

Exactly the same here 😂😵

[@As-fk1rb]

Same I'm on my 6th pregnancy my youngest ones are 2 and 4 and keeping up with while 28weeks and huge as a whale is exhausting.

[@valentinagambetti167]

I could barely show up to work in the office in the first trimester of my pregnancy, I can’t imagine going through all that physical activity 😅

[@daisyadele967]

Some people are just lucky and feel no symptoms. I was also very sick during all of mine. I had to quit working because I couldn't stop throwing up and had to stay in a dark room till my second trimester. I couldn't even watch TV or look at any light. Everything made me sick.

[@EmiEvergiven]

I really appreciate that you always revisit your feelings around meeting the baby for the first time. When I recently had my baby I felt extremely depressed and detached for several weeks (mostly due to a number of circumstances and health concerns). Your videos about this really made me feel better during that time. ❤

[@purpleghost106]

[@mirandamartha44]

I would’ve had no idea i was pregnant until my 7th weeks but at 3 weeks my husband noticed my period hadn’t come and suggested taking a test, he kept better track of my cycles than i did and i was the one with the app lol, took the test and got an immediate positive… i felt amazing the first 6 weeks and barely had any symptoms. Now i have them all 😂 Edited to add this little tidbit: the night after we found out i was pregnant we went and got me prenatal vitamins and the “doing what you can with the knowledge you have” advice helped me avoid a panic attack over not taking them from the beginning. Thank you for that!

[@MorganHorse]

As an ADHDer, I’d really love to hear how you feel having ADHD and being a parent. I don’t think I could do it. You’re amazing!

[@amypetersen1668]

My brother has ADHD and is an amazing dad to two little girls. It helps that his wife is super organized. But he takes his medication and makes lots of lists, lol. He seems to be able to disconnect better from work (which is super busy for him) when not there and really focus on family time. I’m pretty sure my Dad has ADHD as well and has always been a great dad. My son has ADHD too. He’s 15 now and seeing the way he interacts with his little cousins, he’s going to be a great dad someday. As for moms with ADHD I know a few women who have it and they are great moms too! I think ADHD shouldn’t stop you from being a mom or really stop you from anything. If you really want something, you’ll be able to do it!

[@Ella_Vande]

Honestly, as a mom with ADHD, being a mom is one of the only things I’m doing well in my life. 😅 I have one diagnosed ADHD kid, one neurotypical, and one too young to be diagnosed yet, but I’m pretty sure he is too. I’m homeschooling them all this year, and am really excited about the flexibility. My sweet husband also helps a lot with keeping me focused and scheduling things.

[@MorganHorse]

@@amypetersen1668 I don’t think I want it 😂

[@amypetersen1668]

@@MorganHorse parenting isn't for everyone. ADHD runs in families so you might be more likely to have a child with it. That would help as you would know what life is like for them. I didn't- only be living with 2 people who have it- so it's been challenging. But I just didn't want you thinking you couldn't do it because of your ADHD :)

[@meadowleaf5424]

I have happy news and I wanted to share it because this is one of the few places I can. After many years of painful periods that really trigger my gender dysphoria, I STARTED A BIRTH CONTROL! It is not a typical use for it but I am FINALLY getting gender affirming care! I'm so lucky with everything going on in the US but I'm lucky enough to live in CA. I just wanted to share that :) Thank you for making your videos! I love this series!

[@captainahab5522]

I hope that it helps Glad you’re getting the care you need

[@skysocalbalen6075]

That's awesome! May your side effects be few and may you adjust to it quickly!

[@meadowleaf5424]

@@skysocalbalen6075 Thank you so much!

[@emilybastong3896]

That's awesome and I'm so happy for you🎉 also sending love out to everyone not being able to access gender affirming care because of ignorant politics at the moment. You are loved so much❤

[@Annap137]

I’m so happy for you ❤❤❤❤

[@LaurLumos]

As someone who is currently 19 weeks pregnant... I'm honestly just impressed with how much she was able to do in her pregnancy. Holy crap! I can barely do anything, I'm so tired and sore lol

[@chiisanaxxai]

Almost 22 weeks and same here! Hyperemesis was debilitating and I’m only starting to stabilize and gain some semblance of not being ill back. Still tired all the time, but I can at least do stuff for short periods of time. Hope everything goes well with the rest of your pregnancy and for you and your baby!

[@AbsolXGuardian]

Honestly it's just so variable. You'll have people who struggle to conceive and carry just because of the general low level stress of having a job or emotionally fraught experiences. While other people can go through hell and carry to term.

[@minecraftressa2740]

I have had four pregnancies. First was a breeze. Next two resulted in miscarriage (one at 12 weeks, which was horrible and the second very early in the pregnancy.) My fourth pregnancy I was so sick and absolutely miserable. Sick all day every day which resulted in losing 70 lbs while pregnant. He is now almost 16. Every pregnancy is different. I learned that you just do what you can. I hope you feel better soon.

[@randischneider23]

I don't have "that other time of the month" but I do remember having those and this IS definitely better than that other time of the month 😂😂😂

[@stephanieraymond7583]

I didn't connect with my daughter at first, I was in shock when she was first born. I knew I was pregnant but didn't know I was in labor because I wasn't in any pain, and then everything happened so fast. Then in the recovery room, I started to hemorrhage, and because I'm allergic to opioids and couldn't have blood thinners, I had an emergency surgery without any kind of pain killer or numbing. I was in agony for days, and even when I was able to get painkillers, it hurt so bad to hold her for more than a minute or two. But I did bond with her once we were home. 7 days later. And now I love her more than life!

[@froggyinthecloset]

About the "starry-eyed" experience after having your baby, in Malcolm in the Middle, Lois, the mother, admitted to her husband Hal after having the fourth kid Toby that she never had that moment with any of her boys-- she didn't feel anything. But Hal reminded her of what you said: they're strangers as babies, and you grow to love them. You learn who they are, and you love them for who they are. So, if you ever worry about that, remember that you don't feel that way about any random stranger that comes into your life-- baby or not. Love is a lot of work and patience, and you will feel that way for your baby as you get to know them. ❤️

[@resQfurppl]

MDJ is right, even when planning & wanting a baby many women have postpartum depression & problems bonding with the baby. it can lead to guilt & more depression, scared to tell anyone for fear you will be seen as a “bad mother”. your not alone & there is help, but it definitely needs to be shared more

[@jesuispapillon]

mama doctor jones posting this while it’s my other time of the month is the funniest thing i’ve seen today 😭

[@margaretworley1116]

Usually, it's my time of the month too, but I'm late this month. Granted, I had my tubes removed 18 months ago, and just started a new med. If I'm pregnant, we have bigger issues.

[@jennifercourtemanche9793]

Love that you always talk about the mom meeting baby cliches and how you don't need to have that. I do have to laugh though because I have a goat this year that has her second baby (first one she's raising - long story last year) and she is one non-cliched momma. She won't stand to nurse him until I grab her collar and yet will lick his poopy butt clean. Choices.

[@alyrios]

To be fair, in the video she says she went to a military college, not actual basic training which is for enlisted personnel (think Citadel, or West Point). I don't know if they do pregnancy tests at these colleges the way they're done at MEPS before you ship out (it happened to me before I shipped out). I can't remember if I had another while at reception battalion, I probably did, along with all the other tests and shots you get while there. I do remember skipping periods during both BCT and AIT. I was told during sick call that it was normal due to the stress we put our bodies into.

[@pr3942]

Thanks, didn't catch that.

[@sophiahuelskamp8150]

USNA and USMA require female cadets to take pregnancy tests when they take the mandatory medical tests on Indoctrination day, but Military Institutes like Citadel or VMI do not.

[@ChemiGlowAngel]

I was wondering why no one else caught that. She would have had tests at one of the military academies, but if she went to somewhere like the Citadel or NMMI (which I did) there wouldn't have been a test. No necessarily would she have been going into military service after. Those are just schools.

[@DPBGMODELRAILROAD]

@@ChemiGlowAngel she could have also just been in an ROTC program at any number of colleges or universities in the United States!

[@codename495]

I didn’t have a period the entire time I was in basic training, wasn’t pregnant but we were working pretty intensely.

[@peachxtaehyung]

Yeah i cannot imagine being in this situation, i cant imagine going into labor and about to give birth minutes after finding out you're pregnant! Especially since they didnt want to have kids!

[@karolanemichaud5828]

What you said about not having heart eyes at the sight of the baby like in movies just made me laugh. My mom told me that when I was born, her reaction was to awkwardly say ''Hi...welcome'' to me

[@fawnwolfe7355]

Interesting, a pregnancy test was part of my physical at MEPS before leaving for boot camp.

[@Eszti1218]

Maybe she was still too early to show positive?

[@barbtries]

i think that would be typical and prudent. In clinical trials all women are tested if there is any possibility of pregnancy

[@kelly1827]

She says she was going to "military school" so maybe she was in ROTC and not actually sworn into the military.

[@ozzibear]

​@@kelly1827 they still test her.

[@SlammyWinchester]

@@kelly1827 That's what I'm assuming. She was at ROTC, the Citadel, or something along those lines, not actual BMT or OCS/OTS

[@TheKrispyfort]

What about the people who (even if the pregnancy is planned) look at the infant for the first time and are like "get it TF away from me" and now revolted by the idea of parenting?

[@dietotaku]

actress looks a bit like reese witherspoon circa legally blonde. also i appreciate you reminding people that you don't have to have an immediate bond with your baby and not having that doesn't make you a bad mom. i think a lot of moms, *especially* those who are neurodivergent or struggled with prepartum depression or other mental health issues, don't have that starry-eyed experience and we immediately feel enormous guilt about it. i appreciate the destigmatization of that process of "ok cool i birthed you but i don't even know you, just... just gimme a minute here..."

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Yep ♥

[@occheermommy]

Yeah I had never really been around kids and I was only 21 when I had my oldest. I was afraid of her and a little jealous. I think it was that my husband gave her all the attention now but also he knew what he was doing more than me. It took a while and an appt with my counselor to get over the jealousy. By about 3-4 weeks we were bonded and everything was fine but I was terrified at first. Having an earthquake her first night home from the hospital didn’t help the terror

[@christina.kleman]

I thought Reese Witherspoon when she was in Sweet Home Alabama

[@famefree499]

I was thinking Piper Chapman from Orange is the new Black, idk her real name tho lol

[@PentadFinancial]

Maybe it's my age but I was thinking a young Meg Ryan.

[@kiri6562]

I love you raising awareness about not everyone feeling starry-eyed after having their baby and needing more time. As someone who doesn’t have children and knows a lot of child free people I think this myth is harmful to them as well. If you ever say I don’t want children it’s always met with a “you’ll feel differently when you have your own”, which completely ignores and dismisses their feelings on a very important, personal subject. Also some people might put aside their doubts of wanting children expecting this rush of love and to feel differently.

[@penguinZ85]

Thank you for once again mentioning that you can live your baby without being starry eyed. After my daughter was born, I was exhausted and my arms were shaking. I was afraid to hold her and do skin to skin because I was afraid of dropping her. My husband held her and did skin to skin. She started rooting around looking for a nipple and one of the nurses made a judgy backhanded comment about it’s interesting that the baby’s first attempt at breast feeding is on daddy. I felt like I was already failing as a mom and my self esteem was undermined. Once we got home, I felt more capable because I wasn’t under the microscope.

[@kittimcconnell2633]

I had the same reaction as Mama Doctor Jones when my child was born: I do not know this person! The love came as I spent time with and got to know my baby. Does this TV show ever EVER show an adoption? So many people advocate for adoption but we don't see it happen on television. And like it or not, most people imitate what they see on TV. If you want adoption to be a real-life option for people who aren't prepared for parenthood, SHOW THAT IN TV AND MOVIES. I mean besides Juno. That's the only movie I can think of that showed someone giving a child into adoption.

[@colors_in_noise]

When I went to basic training almost every female in my platoon including myself lost our periods. Due to the stress and high physical activity it’s very common. You take a pregnancy test during the orientation process but if you have a sexual encounter that could result in pregnancy just before you leave for training it’s too early to show up. Depending on activity level and stress level after training many females don’t get their period back or it’s irregular. Mine was irregular for the first 2 years. I would wonder how tall she is and how much weight she gained if she stayed with in height and weight requirements and tape if she was over military weight? I also wonder how her new unit didn’t give her a pregnancy test after training? When I was in they gave pregnancy tests all the time.

[@alyrios]

She didn't go to actual basic training. She was a student at a military college (think Citadel). So, the summer before1st year is called "boot camp." A friend of mine has a son who just finished his 1st year at the naval academy and the weeks before the semester started was called like that. So basically she was a college student dealing with classes and military training ala ROTC. I don't know if the Ht and Wt standards would apply here, to be honest, and no idea if females would get tested for pregnancy either seeing that they are students. I also skipped periods when I went to BCT way back in 1995.

[@pamelaflirtyskunk7698]

I still CANNOT imagine NOT knowing I'm pregnant. I had so many symptoms, I gained weight, I felt strange bubbles before kicking soon afterwards. I developed horrible headaches and they discovered I had severe preeclampsia, I gained 60 lbs due to edema. Within 48 hours after delivery, I'd lost 60 lbs of the 97 lbs I'd gained during my pregnancy. I was on bedrest from 5 months on and still had to be induced at 37 weeks because my body was shutting down. 36 hours of labor (only 30 min of delivery) my son was born. I was 30 min from an emergency C-section. They'd broken my water 23.5 hours prior to me finally delivering

[@jamie_marie_]

Fit is sooo important with condoms! People really need to buy a few brands/sizes and try them out. Grabbing a random pack of condoms on the way to your booty call is a recipe for disaster. 😅

[@AramatiPaz]

Now even the ones distributed by the government have different sizes. People really need to pay attention.

[@drcreeper08]

how do you know if it's the wrong fit?

[@myredpencil]

@@drcreeper08 too loose, too tight basically. The band around needs to be quite tight, enough that it doesn't creep off as you're doing the deed. Magnums are large, but don't get a show-off size! It shouldn't fit like a comfy sock. But the end needs to be left long to make room for your umm, deposit. So spend a few dollars next payday on a variety and maybe try on one of the new sizes by yourself so things don't go wrong later. And hang onto that rim when you're done, or you're leaving it behind! Remove yourself politely before it gets baggy and deal with it. Condoms are easier to change than diapers!!

[@Daisy_19971]

THANK YOU for speaking on the fact that we all don’t have that instant fallen in love feeling. When I gave birth, I was shaking so much in pain I couldn’t even focus on the fact I birthed my daughter. Early in my postpartum I felt immense guilt that I didn’t have that fallen in love moment right away. So I appreciate that you spoke on that. ❤️

[@MJUltra512]

Lol I had crazy molding (my head got stuck and they eventually did a C-section, only after trying everything else like suctioning me out, my poor mother). Apparently I was a hit with the med students with my massive pin head!

[@sabbymg]

I really appreciate that you often mention not being crazy in love with your baby immediately. My experience was a lot like you explained, and it was even harder for my husband. Hearing your explanation helped me convey it to my husband too, so he didn’t feel so bad.

[@shadowkissed2370]

My 3rd pregnancy was a planned C-section, because I had 2 prior emergency C-sections because my body wouldn't dilate and the babies didn't want to come out, my baby had started into the birth canal and the top of his head was like that but not to that extreme. He was even delivered 2 1/2 weeks early. He was so stuck that my Ob/GYN had to call three of his colleagues into the OR to assist him. One of the Ob's was a woman petit woman, and when the suction failed to pull my baby back up and out she had to jump and slam her elbow into my abdomen to pop him back out. I had a HUGE bruise on my abdomen for a month or so after that. My baby had that bump on his head until he was about 2 years old, though it got smaller every year.

[@Kelly_Ben]

I was almost 2 months pregnant when i found out. I'd been training for an ultra marathon, so being tired, sore, and hungry were totally expected. It wasn't until AFTER the 34 mile race that i realized my period was a little TOO late. Thankfully, he was completely healthy, and i was given the ok to continue running, though i obviously cut it down. Than you for speaking logically about exercise during pregnancy. Too many people - and doctors! still live in the past where women should be covered in bubble wrap and lift nothing heavier than a frying pan.

[@elizabethshaw7472]

I remember in boot camp we were told that some women didn't get their periods due to stress, and it was supposedly common. I was a little jealous when I still got mine. We were also told it was common for some of us to gain wait, because even though we were a lot more physically active, we were also being fed higher calory foods to make up for that activity, and some bodies just responded differently to that.

[@AMVactivists]

I'd kinda like to see an episode where the child is given up. If a woman doesn't want kids, goes through an unexpected birth and *still* doesn't want to be w mother that's okay too

[@AnniCarlsson]

Think they had one and jones have seen it on here. Don't remember when that was but have a small memory over it

[@codename495]

Nothing like ridding yourself if a human being because you’re careless and unaware.

[@joanneaugust6611]

​@@codename495Don't be rude. Some people really don't have the capacity. Either financially or mentally or for other reasons. In some cases for it's a lot less selfish to give a child up for adoption than raise it.

[@catinabox3048]

Not a lot of people are willing to share that they gave a baby up for adoption, for fear of judgment. It's not just about strangers either. Once they put their story out there, their families and friends will also know and that can really make their lives miserable. Similarly, you won't see representation from people whose babies did not survive, simply because they're not likely to want to share that story and relive a horrible moment in their lives. Plus, I'm sure TLC is aware that the audience likes happy endings.

[@sistersubdued9503]

@@codename495 nothing like outing yourself as a d bag. Idk, seems kinda careless and unaware.

[@jenniferlancaster7040]

Oh I didn't know i was pregnant are my fave MDJ episodes!

[@Theherbalempress]

I always drop what I’m doing and watch these over everything 😅

[@RomySews]

I’d like to see ‘5 fertility myths you should forget’ as someone constantly told my biological clock is ticking! Or ‘3 gynaecological warning signs’ would also be interesting 😊

[@bunhelsingslegacy3549]

Any time I'm told that, I tell them I disconnected all that crap years ago... shuts 'em up just fine.

[@bunhelsingslegacy3549]

@Ash It may well be true that one's eggs and ability to carry a pregnancy are on a timer, but the implication of being repeatedly told that "your biological clock is ticking!" has never in my experience been to imply "if you want kids, get on that soon", it always seems to be "you'll suddenly magically change your mind and become fiixated on procreation even though you have been actively against procreating since puberty", which, in my experience so far (and the experience of a lot of my childfree friends), is utter BS.

[@debymello4756]

@@AshMan1ac99 Sure, but just saying "more" is a tad misleading and the deal made out of it is exagerated very often. Sure, it raises, but it's small, so far from the "coin flip" many people make it sound like, mostly because, without inheranted (that should be in their knowlege from youth) issues, the chances of it happening at all are small in the first place, so, when it's something like "double chance", it's basicly a raise from 1.5% to 3%

[@myredpencil]

@@debymello4756 What even is the operative word "INHERANTED"?! wth

[@debymello4756]

@@myredpencil born with. Family wide. Had from the beginning pra early on

[@vegasmiri1810]

The fact that baby survived basic training is badass. If I even look at something inconvenient, I miscarry waiting for my little badass. . 🎉Babydust🎉 to all who are TTC.

[@jinde75]

The fact that she managed that is badass! I’m impressed.

[@HappyLittleNinja]

Ahh… this is what it looks like when you love your job. Doc, you were positively radiant. The video pauses and photo inserts were hilarious. (When did you start editing like this?)

[@sweetlorikeet]

I do think it's really important that we raise more awareness that the "instantly and totally in love with the baby" story is not how it always happens. I've known people who expected that moment, were relying on it happening, and when it just... didn't, that came with so much shame and guilt and regret.

[@spacewitchvulcan]

My second delivery was days long. As soon as he was born, I fed him and said "here dad. I need sleep." I was in no condition to bond. My third was 9 minutes long. From absolute beginning to delivery. I was able to bond immediately. Your body can only do so much, ladies!

[@TheAtomized_Wizard]

Hooray!! I just binged this entire series as a new viewer (or crockpot?) and I am so happy there is a new one!! ❤❤ love you so much BDJ

[@TheAtomized_Wizard]

MDJ not BDJ Also thank you so much for liking my comment you are hilarious

[@Galastel]

During my basic training, my periods stopped from the stress. She could have assumed the same was happening to her. And if she wasn't feeling well, she'd just blame it on basic training. Regarding the C-section, I've read elsewhere of a case of an athlete working out heavily through pregnancy, and then she couldn't deliver vaginally because the well-developed muscles of her stomach just wouldn't let the baby through. Considering this girl was in basic training, doing push-ups and sit-ups and whatnot, and spending extra time in the gym because she thought she needed to lose weight, that might have been the case for her as well. It's consistent with the baby's head shape.

[@floridafan6931]

Thank you so much for talking about not instantly having that "starry eyed love" for your babies. That you loved them, but needed to get to know them. I had the same experience, but was made to feel guilty for it by the nurse in the delivery room. I carried that guilt for years.

[@susansprigg7665]

Would it be possible to get in touch with some of the women from didn't know I was pregnant? Ask some of your questions around their stories as I think it would be interesting and may also help other Mothers xxx

[@occheermommy]

That would be cool but I doubt they have a way to co tact them u less TLC is able to give names

[@myredpencil]

There is probably a Facebook group for moms who didn't know they were pregnant, but just average people. Let these folks be, they're busy enough, but plenty of people who's story you have not yet heard are out there waiting to tell their story. But be honest about who you are and why you're there, I'm sure you personally mean well, but some groups are exclusive probably. Best of luck!

[@chloeb1642]

I'm in my first trimester and can barely get off the couch, let alone do basic training. I mean, way to go.

[@SuperLauraLoca]

MY FAVORITE TIME OF THE MONTH! ❤

[@kendramaculagh9295]

The phrase "you do the best you can with the information you have" has become a life motto. I also tell people this all the time. Best truism of all time

[@M-Joy]

A lot of people don't have their periods during bootcamp because it's such a new stress on their bodies (for people who go from non-active to active lifestyles) so I could understand not thinking too hard about missing period in bootcamp, after your body has time to adjust though....

[@M-Joy]

having finished the video, I see she said her period was happening as "normal" for her

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

@@M-Joy Though in reality that was probably just pregnancy bleeding.

[@codename495]

I didn’t have a cycle at all all through basic and the first few months of active duty.

[@jasminekennedy4774]

​@@M-Joyif she's pregnant then it's not called a period. It's just pregnancy bleeding.

[@pumpkinsspiced]

"You do the best you can with the information that you have," has been so helpful to me in completely un-related circumstances. Thank you for saying it every month so it would be right there in my head.

[@tawnyprovince-ward2353]

I’d love to see someone look at my second born with all the love. She came out pissed. I’d defend her and fight for her, but good lord she was such a angry baby. She’s a mean ass toddler it’s her base personality trait. She’s slowly getting nicer, but that’s been a lot of work to teach her you cannot just be mean.

[@JootjeJ]

My mum was born the summer after what in The Netherlands is called "the hunger winter". Much like many women around her and many women with an extreme fitness regime my gran had stopped having periods as soon as food became scarce. That meant she didn't realise that she was pregnant. She spent the winter feeding her children and husband while eating as little as possible herself. If she ever did feel bad about that she never told anyone. She just did the best she could with the information she had.

[@thebigw3651]

My MIL found out at the physical right before boot camp that she was pregnant. So I wonder if she was either too early for the test to be positive, she wasn’t pregnant yet, or if they forgot to do the pregnancy test at that physical.

[@sgtsharon4336]

In basic training they do text for pregnancy your first day there. All the physical training your period will stop completely during that time. It picks back up a couple months after you finishing BT.

[@laner.845]

A solid half of my flight in basic training lost their periods due to the stress and shock to the system we were going through. The MTIs told us that it could happen and not to worry about it. I think it was a good 7mo before I had another cycle and almost a year before anything approaching "regular" cycles. Considering I wasn't sexually active, there's zero chance I was pregnant for any of that. If her MTIs told them the same thing, it's probably not a thing that ever crossed her mind.

[@myredpencil]

I wouldn't be surprised if the military slipped the women a little "mini-pill" (testosterone only, will stop periods & prevents pregnancy if taken continually). It's an incredibly efficient way to keep them from bleeding or pregnancy, makes a woman feel more "masculine"(powerful, higher energy & stamina, aggressive, angry) but in a setting where all that is beneficial. I myself was on the mini-pill after my blood pressure was deemed too high to be on the extra estrogen. It had exactly the effects I described, those are mine alone. I heard from a man who experienced it firsthand, that in the mid-'80's in the Army, they were given saltpeter to dampen their sexual drive. He said you consent to be the property of them when you sign up, basically.

[@AlmiePret]

The actor reminds me of Cloé in Smallville... When I get stressed, I tend to skip my periods. When I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant, I had just been kickboxing for 8 weeks, getting punched in the stomach one night a week. But during that time, I had actually had two irregularly strong periods, which worried the doctor and then I followed suit... Obviously, I stopped with the training, there were some complications with the birth (I was in labor for 5 days...), but my son is now a healthy 9 year old boy.

[@mariannetfinches]

I will never get bored of these videos! I'm now the "take a pregnancy test" friend 😅 I'd love to know the details of why weight during pregnancy is an important metric. Is it a measure of the baby growing? Sufficient blood volume? Amniotic fluid? It sounds like it's important but I'm not sure I've heard why

[@shannernanner]

That’s an interesting question!

[@rebeccac.l.5601]

Yes to all of those! It also suggests proper growth of the baby, and it's an important measure of the mother's health. If the mom is gaining too much weight too fast, she's at higher risk of high blood pressure and other issues. If she's not gaining much, she may not be getting the necessary nutrition for herself and the baby. It's not the sole indicator of health but it's important.

[@mariannetfinches]

@@rebeccac.l.5601 cool, thanks!

[@kolinajane4691]

I LOVE that you talked about how not all new parents fall in love at first sight with their baby! Evvvvverybody is different and those experiences can be so different too.

[@pegs1659]

My sweet mother was pretty young when she married my dad and then got pregnant with my brother. After she had him she would not leave the clinic with him and refused to take him home. Her mother had to get on a bus in Georgia and ride it to Mississippi to talk to my mom to get her to agree to take him home. So, its totally true that you don't fall in love immediately after your baby is born.😂😂😂😂😂😂 Btw, my mom turned out to be the best mother ever! RIP Mom❤

[@AshleysTarotCorner]

I am pregnant right now and I can tell you with 10000000% truthfulness that I couldn’t even run after a bus or I’d have hurled. Props to any mama’s that can maintain activity, I surely could NOT. 😅

[@littleleeu272]

I didn't have that immediate love either, because I fell asleep once he was out. A very confusing experience 😂

[@rachelnewberry2765]

I like that you said you don't necessarily love your baby right as you meet them. I didn't cry. I was just relieved and amazed and exhausted... Basically, the story of the rest of motherhood 😅

[@toyyatoy]

0:10 all I saw was the intro about periods, I did not have a single one in the 5 months of training, it is very common, most of us didn’t, the extreme change in diet, physical activity, whatever the government was putting in us (we started growing white hair out of our necks, just the females.) etc. yeah I was so glad to go without!

[@bootybuttcheeks]

That's scary

[@squee599]

I love your comment about loving them but not "knowing" them immediately. After my second baby was born I felt so sad to be away from my eldest child and that I was stuck in hospital with this screaming baby I didn't know. And then I felt guilty for thinking that! Its a very difficult time!

[@catoninetales]

I don't know if you still do other shows, but season 6, episode 20 of M*A*S*H is a good one where one of the main characters, an army nurse, thinks she could be pregnant. It's a fascinating glimpse into 1950s medicine (the show is set during the Korean War) and the US Army's policy on pregnant women at the time.

[@katiekane5247]

Is that when Radar's bunny gets spayed?

[@2listening1]

7:13 I love how you photoshopped American Gothic, Doc Jones!! 😂😂😂😂

[@RGJenn]

3 Gynecologic warning signs would be an interesting video!

[@christadutoitbrown4027]

I know your videos have nothing to do with dogs or death but your comment you make in these videos have helped me deal with the traumatic loss of my dog two days ago. You saying you do the best you can with the information you have at the time has really helped me not beat myself up too much about my dog dying from getting a bag stuck on his head while we were all sleeping on Monday night. Thank you for your educational videos and know that your words help in ways that you probably never imagined.

[@bonnieb7608]

I joke around saying that my daughter came out holding the pill that didn't work 😂 She's almost 23 and she was a pill baby. I find out afterwards that her dad's older 3 were all birth control babies. 2 were depo shots and the first was a pill & condom baby. We got together again when she was around 10 and I was on the pill, used foam, had him wear a condom AND pull out just to be safe because i knew all 4 of his kids (3 with one mom and 1 with me) were all birth control babies and i didn't want to go through the issues with him again with another baby. He ended up having 1 more with the next girl he was with and she was on the depo shot. We joke around now that he had "super sperm and nothing could stop them" 😂

[@justchefana]

I love that you post this a d start with that favorite time of the month. It always somehow falls right around that other time of the month for me.

[@dmarti11235]

This one confuses me a little. I remember pregnancy test being a part of in-processing. I'm male so I didn't take it, but I remember it being on the checklist for females. She said she went in 2005 though so maybe it wasn't a requirement then? Anyway, glad she and baby are healthy!

[@AramatiPaz]

It can be a false negative. Very common in early pregnancy.

[@labradoodledandies4697]

it's been a requirement for far longer than that.

[@meridellwriter]

It was most likely a false negative. If I recall correctly, most pregnancy tests (or at least the at-home kind) cannot pick up on a pregnancy until something like 2 weeks post-conception at the absolute earliest, which is usually about four weeks after the first day of the last period she had. However, that last bit is not an exact science, which is why the weeks of pregnancy are numbered from the first day of the last period rather than by the date of conception, since the latter is nearly impossible to pin down exactly but if the woman is tracking her periods the former is extremely easy to pin down. If she conceived right before starting basic training, it may simply have been too early for a test to pick up on it. If they don't do this now, what the military could do to help prevent these kinds of situations would be to run multiple pregnancy tests on female recruits over the course of the first month.

[@mond5004]

I know my periods stopped while in OCS. The physical demands and stress did it. I can totally see how she wouldn't know for those first months, but i also wonder about her periods after that.