doing life alone.

In this video, I share the realities of navigating life on my own-handling the quiet routines, figuring things out as I go, and occasionally wishing someone else could pitch in with the emotional heavy lifting. It’s about finding balance between independence and the hope that maybe, one day, there’ll be room for someone else in the life I’ve built.
------
TikTok - bit.ly/4dakJdD
Instagram - bit.ly/3zKLmYb
Substack - bit.ly/3y2AGU6
Freewrite Typewriter - bit.ly/3W29yfO [affiliate link]
The Hatch - Digital Planner - stan.store/the...
Templates + Digital Products - bit.ly/3WrbW1d
The Pivot Sessions - bit.ly/3Mk7s6J
Work with Me - [e-mail]
ABOUT ME:
Hi! 🙋🏼‍♀️
I’m Ash - a writer, content creator, and movie lover with a penchant for the nostalgic. I spend more time talking to my dog than actual humans, and when I’m not arguing with fictional characters, my days are spent writing endless drafts or down movie-related rabbit holes. In this little corner of the internet, I share my love for storytelling, the ups and downs of my creative process, and the sometimes ridiculous, often relatable moments that come with being a 30-something and not having it all figured out.

[@euphonicbalance]

This sounds like my inner monologue. It was wonderful to see London so beautifully shot too. X

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you so much! So glad the piece resonated with you ✨🥰

[@Jana-ln9tq]

Wow, this could have been written by me. I don't really envy my friends for their individual partners (also because I feel that many of them settled for less than average guys) but for the comfort and security of having someone by your side through thick and thin. But I'm sure eventually someone wonderful will come along for both you and me :)

[@the.ashfiles]

It will happen! And I get that feeling about settling. Which is exactly what we are NOT doing ✨🥰

[@LoveHarryStyles89]

This is one of the best videos on KZbin ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@the.ashfiles]

Oh wow! Thank you so much 🥹✨🙏🏻

[@noonegoaway5627]

Beautifully done🥹 Im still in my early 20’s and already feel this way. But stumbling upon your videos had made me feel less alone Thank you💕✨

[@the.ashfiles]

I’m so grateful to have you here and happy that this resonated with you. In whatever stage of life, this subject seems all too common, so all I hope for is that I can help others know they’re not alone in their aloneness ✨❤️

[@ValeHow-de5ts]

Absolutely love your video! I think it's such a common problem these days, but vast majority just don't talk openly and honestly about that. I think in fact it's a pandemic of singleness as many people being not officially single feel very alone inside of their so called relationships. I hope and wish that all people who feel along will meet their proper partners soon x

[@the.ashfiles]

I couldn’t agree more! Thanks for sharing? Happy to have you here ✨🥰

[@ValeHow-de5ts]

@@the.ashfiles sending you love x

[@the.ashfiles]

@@ValeHow-de5ts back at you ✨❤️

[@ValeHow-de5ts]

@@the.ashfiles ❤️

[@themellaedit8817]

This is so beautiful! It makes me long for London and described my life there in my 20s perfectly. ♥️♥️♥️

[@the.ashfiles]

I love that it resonated with you in some way 🥰✨

[@whatzup331]

I would love to hear you talk about feeling whole and building a life for yourself...I struggle with that. I just feel empty

[@the.ashfiles]

I’ll definitely work on something. But in the meantime, just know I don’t always feel full. It comes in waves… a lot of my fullness comes from distraction and when that runs out I fall into emptiness. It’s so normal, so just know you’re not alone ✨🫂

[@Sarah-pb1co]

It’s so heart warming hearing that from someone else, it can feel so isolating thinking that I’m the only one feeling that way, especially being the only single person in my circle. In my early twenties, I never thought it can be that painful to live this reality everyday didn’t even think it would bother me, now that I’m in my mid twenties it almost feels suffocating. I truly hope you find what you’re looking for, the whole that would make space for you ❤

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you so much Sarah, I’m so glad the piece resonated with you and I hope the same for you ✨❤️

[@lisahowes2701]

This is beautiful ❤

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you so much 🥹✨

[@jacquitaylor3733]

I'm aromantic, and I feel this so very deeply...

[@the.ashfiles]

✨🥹❤️

[@sjoywilson]

Found you on TT! I’m going through this exact thing right now. Grateful to have found you!

[@the.ashfiles]

So grateful to have you here 🫂✨🥰

[@andtheothergirl]

I turned 33 today and I just discovered your channel and its comforting to know someone out there is feeling what I am feeling. Thank you for this❤

[@the.ashfiles]

So happy to have you here and glad this piece resonated with you. You’re not alone in your aloneness. Happy Birthday! ✨🥳

[@luckysprout]

I've been thinking about your beautiful content and storytelling since seeing it on Tiktok recently and I'm so happy I circled back on KZbin to watch the full length videos. I feel a lot of kinship with your journey, having done a London move too (though I'm back in Canada now). I'm heading back there for a visit next month and your footage has made me more excited, and dreaming of writing in London cafes again soon. 🩷 Looking forward to the next chapter in your story you share!

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you so much for such a kind message, I’m so glad my story resonated with you in some way and so grateful to have you along for the journey 🥰✨

[@ryeofoatmeal]

excellent video but why nobody complain about how low the volume of this video?? I'm sure my speaker is fine cuz I clicked other video, it's loud. I had to turn on cc cuz can't hear sh*t 💀 but the content is damn good!

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you… strange about the audio. No issues on my end, but appreciate the feedback ✨

[@awilko192]

I used to feel the same way, and in some ways still do even now that I’m in a relationship. I was afraid of dating because I didn’t want to have to sacrifice things that were important to me. But then someone told me “the right person for you won’t take from your life, they will only add” and that hit me like a rock lol and made me more open to meeting people. Hope you’re doing well on your adventures 💗

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you! And I agree with that ✨🥰

[@haiphan5599]

I feel the same about my life right now. This video brings me great comfort, knowing I'm not the only one alone :)

[@the.ashfiles]

So glad it resonated with you, you’re not alone in your aloneness friend ✨❤️

[@cookies3905]

so well written and a little too relatable, bravo

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you! 🥰 glad you resonated with it, hope you feel a little less alone in your feelings ✨

[@asthamalhotra2345]

I am so glad I found your channel. ❤❤

[@the.ashfiles]

I’m so grateful to have you here 🥰✨

[@annaclift6023]

Oh yes I've been there. I've been single my whole life, and I really resonate with how you feel! For me, I'm so glad I know someone who knows me completely and gave up everything for me, which changes everything. My personal relationship with Jesus means that even if I feel lonely sometimes, I'm comforted knowing I am never truly alone. I'm so happy I'm completed in him, rather than the pressure of needing a partner - whether or not I end up with someone. If you want to meet him and find out who Jesus really is, I'd recommend reading the story for yourself - the Gospel of Luke in the Bible is good place to start, or find a Bible-believing church near you. He is the only one who can satisfy all our longings - to be known and loved. 🥰🙌

[@the.ashfiles]

So glad you found that ✨🥰

[@JenRaynorUK]

Beautifully written, so relatable ❤

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you so much! 🥰✨

[@notinthemood]

👏💥 you're so creative!

[@the.ashfiles]

Thank you so much! 🥰✨