Don't Believe These Father Wound Myths! (Truth Revealed Inside) - Terri Cole

[@terri_cole]

Let me know: which father wound myths did you believe? What questions do you still have? Download the guide to see if you're playing out a father wound in your relationships: www.terricole.com/father-wound-myths-guide and if you want to heal your father wound, sign up for the course: terricole.com/fatherwound

[@fauziakhan9954]

I am Dr Fauzia khanum from Pakistan. I am a psychiatrist and a therapist. Your videos are soooo life changing. I am so grateful to you. ❤

[@terri_cole]

So happy to hear that ❤️❤️

[@Travelgal710]

I moved out of state and would stop taking Dad's late night drunken calls, pleading for 'whatever' . Then when he passed away about 5years after I moved,I felt - shoved down deep-8ntense guilt. Hence, one of your podcasts about anticipating needs & becomibg overly co-dependent. Studied codependency endlessly, I still could not trust a relationship long enough. When I thought I'd beat it, at 35yrs old, I was in a relationship with a complicated, yet vert nice man (probably a covert narcissist). He was Navy officer, a good (I thought) Catholic, etc., which made me believe he was the one. When I became pregnant, he just left & and cut off all communication. Terri, you have an awemazing gift to put this awful trait into a perspective like no others have. Thankyou.

[@terri_cole]

I am so sorry to hear that, Sherry ❤️ I am glad my videos are giving you additional insights.

[@jan854]

I resonate with this message! My dad died when I was young and was a very caring and loving father, however his death still created father wounds since I feel like I still needed him while growing up

[@terri_cole]

Sending you love, Jan ❤️

[@n.d8001]

No matter how long it will take for me, i will listen to ALL your videos because they give me keys to internal freedom, keys to become myself, to understand myself, to heal myself,to appreciate myself , to transform myself. I am 73 yo so grateful so grateful for all the free educational material you provide .❤

[@terri_cole]

I am so happy to hear that, thank you for letting me know how my work is impacting you ❤️❤️ I am cheering you on!

[@halfhawkhalfman]

It turns out that I'm an excellent father.

[@_______529]

Terri,I have experienced the same things as you and I'm thankful to the Universe that I found your channel and I'm starting my healing from now on ❤.

[@terri_cole]

I'm so glad you found my channel, too 💕

[@MMM2World]

Thank you for your ongoing work to make these educational and healing videos and available to people. You’ve helped raise my awareness about my father wounds and healing journey. I’m always missing some kind of benevolent father (and mother) energy in my life. I am trying to learn to reparent myself, but it is a challenge to not look for other people to give me these things and find those things in myself. It’s a big shift mentally. I’m grateful for all the inspiring people in the world though (past present and future!)

[@terri_cole]

Thank you for sharing that with us- I think you're in good company here. ❤️ I have a bit more on reparenting here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hpTQloqhj71-eJY It has more to do with the mother wound, but still applies.

[@MMM2World]

Thank you! ❤

[@Travelgal710]

Terri Cole, I always preface my search for all of my searches with you. Reduces (eliminates) myths. Thank ya! ❤️ I'm sure I knew I had Father Wounds. Yep, I was smart, and matured physically early, favored my mom most, which also agitated verbal assaults. The physical abuse & verbal was directed to Mom. This caused great conflict internally. He did not hit me, therefore, I didn't believe I suffered. I, too, thought I had outsmarted it yet I had difficulty committing & trusting a relationship. Still do, still collect partners, would not marry. I'm using your work with Mt counselor. P.S. I love the background this morning. 🌄

[@terri_cole]

That's so sweet of you, Sherry! I'm so happy you're using my videos with your counselor, too. ❤️❤️ And thanks! I was in LA when I recorded this xo

[@marilynoverton8142]

So very helpful, Terri. Thank you very much!

[@LindaCuesta-dt8eh]

Thank you Terri for covering this topic. My father was both physically and emotionally unavailable. This being the case I found surrogate father figures (friends dads, teachers, close family friends). Growing up these men filled the void of my biological father so was I still affected?

[@terri_cole]

I find that many of us end up finding surrogate father figures to fill the void- so glad you did ❤️ It really depends, you might want to watch the Father Wound 101 video I did listing symptoms: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g5S4kqKpirqogrs If you relate to any of that, you might want to explore it further, but if not, then it's possible finding those father figures helped you heal!

[@LindaCuesta-dt8eh]

@@terri_cole Thank you Terri. I watched the video and I totally relate. Guess I was hoping to dodge this bullet. Thank you again.

[@terri_cole]

That's understandable, Linda. The good news is, you can still heal. I've got a playlist with all the father wound content I've done in the last few weeks here: kzbin.info/aero/PLMaWdZCQtiJ998hZfFYuGWqN0RPxP4nyy Sending you so much love 💕

[@paulfalstad1]

Hi Terri! Just found your videos and am so glad I did. I can tell that you were wounded, which you admit. Your transparency and vulnerability makes you more effective. Clearly, it has equipped you to help your clients and us. Thank you for sharing your life and the healing you found in your journey. You said that you are chosen to help the suffering. Do you feel that calling is from God? I feel that my suffering makes me a better counselor and helper, friend, father, co-worker, and human. And I believe I'm gifted of God to do this work. However, I'm not happy how I got here cuz it was decades of misery and struggle without having the necessary answers that I only recently found. Regardless, I've committed what's left of my life to help others in whatever way I can. Thanks again for sharing and giving of yourself fearlessly. Paul Falstad CDCA 3:43

[@terri_cole]

Thanks for watching, Paul. I wouldn't say I'm chosen- just that I feel like it's my dharma. Deepak Chopra is one of my teachers and he says that if we've suffered and we've found a way out and through, we need to share it with others. I teach what I most needed to know because I want to spare other folks years of suffering if I can. I hear you on not necessarily loving the decades of misery and struggle, though 💕

[@pamwatkins4855]

Thats,fabulous, woman!

[@JenniferWilliams-bb7hi]

Can a father wound not only impact romantic relationships but friendships too? Like is it possible to have and attract emotionally unavailable friends as well?

[@mariposamoreno]

yes. this has happened to me. i have father and mother wounds

[@terri_cole]

It's possible, although I have found that mother wounds often play out in friendships more often while father wounds really play out in romantic relationships. ❤️

[@FeralRanchWife]

Whenever I’m given the chance to not have to be a seriously driven competitive career woman, I often sabotage the chance to be “semi-retired”, live a more relaxing life, or recently, I caught myself doing this. I am an only child, and my dad wanted a boy. My parents were sure they were having a boy, so all my stuff was blue. My dad was into sports, played them himself, was very competitive. “Second place is first loser” 🙄 I did not play the kind of sports he was into. I was/am into horses. Makes sense why I OVERdrive myself, even when I don’t have to. I’m going to work on chilling out, especially when I don’t have to live/eat/breathe whatever business venture I come up with (which results in being “number 1”, which turns out is never good enough in my own mind. Always reaching for MORE). My dad was around (when not playing sports), but was impossible to communicate with and very critical. Now he tries to be overly “loving”/nice, which freaks me out. Can’t get back what you threw away when your kids were kids. I forgive him, but not going to be wounded anymore. Video summed up what could have been 10 years of therapy! Thanks Terri! You’ve helped me become a healthier functioning person emotionally 💛

[@terri_cole]

I am so glad it was helpful, and thank you for sharing your experiences here 💕 I can relate, a lot. If you didn't catch my previous father wound videos, they're here- might be helpful: kzbin.info/aero/PLMaWdZCQtiJ998hZfFYuGWqN0RPxP4nyy

[@pamwatkins4855]

I am one of an ,father wound, abounded

[@well_weathered]

Thank you for sharing, daughters are said to be very perceptive on the father's mood, but I guess,we can misinterpret cues. Silence would be a tough one. 🫂 I don't have many memories from childhood but I do recall when my dad was leaving (moving out), I asked where he was going. His response was to ask my mom. I felt so betrayed. I did not want to stay with my mom. My parents got back together. As a teen I thought they should separate. I never thought they would stay together for life but they did. My father has cancer now, both are in poor health these past couple years. This isn't something I feel I could deal with at this time especially since my memories are so few. I am subscribed and I hit the 🔔 . Thank you. 🌹

[@terri_cole]

I am witnessing you with so, so much compassion and sending love your way ❤️❤️ These videos will be here whenever you're ready, and it's so good that you're able to recognize and honor that this isn't the right time for you to explore this topic.

[@gturcott1]

Acoa honey