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Trauma in childhood can leave with obvious problems, but also a subtle tendency to hide your authentic self, and to avoid reaching for big goals that are important to you. In this video I share common reasons why people who were abused in childhood will cope try to manage their vulnerability by playing small. I'll teach you strategies to gradually step forward and big "bigger," braver and more true to who you are and what you want in life.
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[@frappedelimon4351]

Anna, you are truly the fairy godmother I needed as a kid. Thank you for all that you do. I'm healing slowly but steady, your Daily Practice is marvellous. I didn't think I had ALL those fears that come out every day. There's been days that I try to think of fears and resentments and I have very few, and some days I have many to write down. Still, the Daily Practice has really helped me out to regain control over myself. Now I can notice when my symptoms are controlling me, but I remember "I ALWAYS have the option to be the person I want" and with that phrase I can silence the fears and control my emotions, my body, my thoughts again. Hugs from Mexico.

[@frappedelimon4351]

Personal note: 16:41

[@idid138]

​@@frappedelimon4351your time stamp. I have a friend who is like this & it is such an admirable qaulity & a good goal for me too.

[@siennaprice1351]

I’m totally blind, autistic, and have CPTSD. I was raised by people that didn’t allow me to do certain things that benefited my blindness and my autism. I was also discouraged from crying, or showing emotions of anger, and even extreme joy. So now, I hold myself back from things, like crying, touching and exploring my surroundings, running into things, and stuff like that. I even hold myself back from having meltdowns. I do believe that I can change this, and I will change this. I have healed so much. I don’t dwell on the past like I used to. So I feel like I will overcome the self restriction. I will overcome the self shame.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm so glad you're part of our community, Sienna. You've been such a positive presence for us!

[@siennaprice1351]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy i’m glad to be a part of the community as well! I’m really grateful and proud of the progress that I have made. Chris said five years ago, I probably wouldn’t have said half the things I just said right now. I would’ve hated myself with a passion, I would’ve had zero respect for myself. But now, for the most part, I do love myself. I promise, I am committed to learn to love myself all the way.

[@babaganouche9605]

This is so beautiful ❤

[@quatore-5886]

I am sorry you have been through so much. Please remember that if you keep your goals in mind and really truly believe it's possible, you will move forward. I hope you find love and healing

[@siennaprice1351]

@@quatore-5886 anything is possible if you put your mind, your heart, and soul into it. This is something I believe in 100%!

[@patm.-xq5tr]

To all those who feel it's too late: it's not! I'm in my 70s & I felt that way until I reached a certain point in healing where I focused more on my healing process & how good it feels. Now I'm identifying life goals for my time left in this life.

[@cindydavid6637]

Thank you for sharing !! Much love ❤️ it’s never too late

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you so much for sharing this! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@lindaweedmark6025]

Thank you so much. I've been struggling with this at age 65. Full speed ahead then! 😊

[@patm.-xq5tr]

We all can move forward❣️ We will have ups & downs but the up periods will get more frequent & longer. Love & encouragement to you❣️

[@catspyjamas7944]

🙏❤️

[@LindaGrey-wm9uc]

I've been so disregulated I'm amazed I'm still alive, I've done such stupid things. At 73yrs finally have a counselor. Don't wait so long to seek help. It is never too late.

[@mikesaler1038]

You are so right. We got my dad into ptsd therapy at ag3 92! And yet I still will sometimes feel depressed over the fact that I didn't start until I was almost 60! All the best to everyone here!

[@JamesSavik]

There's a proverb that sums this up: the tallest trees get the axe. In my career, I took the jobs I could get, not the ones I wanted. I hooked up with the partners I could get, not the ones who would be good for me. I didn't major in the field I was interested in, I majored in the one that would get me hired. I see a pattern.

[@voreshbo7031]

Or only the strong survives, or survival of the fittest

[@crazypresci]

I am scared of success... I stop everything as soon as I start to see results. Because It feels like I am doing something wrong by stepping out the space others put me...

[@kadd4415]

I can relate bc I avoid being the centre of attention in some settings because I learned in childhood that the attention would cause so much conflict from my sisters - it just wasn't worth it. I don't know if it was jealousy or maybe so little attention to go around only the dominant could get some. But those experiences are so old and disintegrating. I wish you the best moving forward :)

[@PaigeSquared]

I get worried I'll work my ass off to cross a finish line or goal, and then people will expect it from me all the time, when it is beyond my average capacity. Similarly, I'm afraid of accepting a job that I technically qualify for, but not being able to manage the position on a long term basis.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We understand as few others can. You're in the right place and we're all here to support you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@voreshbo7031]

I hear , see and i feel ya

[@bec472]

I feel this too! Fear of being visible to others

[@MikeMuntDesign]

I've never heard brain fog described that way before and it totally fits me: "get one thing done and opps, off into the fog again..." Always believed I was lazy even though I knew something else was going on too.

[@phemery1182]

I am severely struggling with this right now at 56 years old. Getting to point not worth relationships or interaction with people. Everyone else seems normal and got the instruction manual I didn't. ACOA, childhood/adult DV, attachment issues in all relationships, codependency++, etc. Beginning to lose hope I can ever change. You are a major support, thank YOU!

[@Islaras]

hugs, we're all rooting for you ❤

[@jackiegerarde9938]

You CAN change. If I did anyone can. And trust me, everyone else is not normal. I still filter everything in my mind but it doesn't bother me. It took a lot of work to climb out of my hole. Groups really do help. Even non support groups like walking events, food bank volunteering and library free classes. Anything that is an opportunity to practice different thoughts is worth it. Behavior follows. My aunt lived to 104. You're waaaay too young to give up. Plus you're here so you don't want to. ❤

[@karenbradley6304]

I could have written this myself. I'm 60 and this video is me too. Thank goodness Anna took the courage to do what it takes to help us all. She's a lifesaver.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I'm 54, I didn't get the manual either. I'm trying, but not so hard.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Healing is possible and we're all here to support you! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@mindofthespirit1543]

I thought of writing a book once (fiction) describing what it is like with childhood trauma. I used to be a good writer. Like Anna, adult trauma really made it more difficult. It seems that person died.

[@mariannenaderi4041]

I feel the same am sorry for my young self . If only I had this knowledge then 😖

[@rae66chel]

I didn’t realize I was making myself “small”, I still remind myself I’m an adult & I can speak up with kindness. Yoga also reminds me “to take up space” in the final resting pose ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@DrewClark-ov5up]

I’m learning the same things. And ballet is my way to take up space, put myself out there, and not stay small.

[@Allthingscheri]

I am right here today. Empty. Walls built. Avoidance. I am writing my fears and resentments right now. I am ready to show up! I am ready to be my true authentic self my sweet loyal compassionate and funny self. I just met someone and I’m going to show up with joy and curiosity and most of all boundaries in a nice way. Thank you Anna. You’re right the world needs us ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I love it! Good luck on your healing journey! Nika@TeamFairy

[@TheMary0831]

Anna, I can't thank you enough. You are the first person who taught me about dysregulation. I was shut down (as a formerly outgoing and fairly fake-confident person) for the past 10 years, because of re-traumatization at age 50. And when you talked about your experience with that, it all made sense. I was isolating. So, a year ago I cut out alcohol and really started working on writing my feelings and paying attention to what sent me into dysregulation. It was VERY tough to basically remove my escape (wine) and then force myself to work on the issues. I watched many of your videos and attended one of the group zoom sessions, and I have spent a lot of time reading and feeling grateful. A year later, and I am to the point where I have a great job and after a year there as well, I'm starting to really thrive. I am going to even give a 5 minute presentation to our department during our monthly meeting this week and I'm not freaking out about it at all. I am amazed at that! Doing the work is of the utmost importance. I also noticed that my memory is getting better, and I can remember a lot of good things about my childhood and past that I hadn't bothered to think of in years. It's wonderful! I also don't feel resentment towards my parents or family members, either. So you have really helped improve my world. CPTSD does NOT own me, I am going to keep striving to manage it going forward.

[@DBLuvPack888]

Congratulations on your healing ❤️‍🩹! Where do you live? What kind of therapist did you use?

[@TheMary0831]

@@DBLuvPack888 I initially went to therapy 20 years ago, for about a year. It didn't help all that much, except that I learned a few things I had (identity crisis, codependence), I did subsequent research on my own. But it made me aware of dysfunction in my family and that there were a lot of Cluster B disorders. Basically I've done a lot of research, journaling, meditation, exercise, and learning from people like Anna Runkle and others. I ran into Anna while researching narcissistic abuse.

[@dolbow]

Congratulations!

[@iiislandbreeze]

My name is Mary too, and your #s have significance in my life! :-) Anyway, I am 41 and fighting/surviving thru a lengthy life crisis that I never expected... and your words give me hope that I will get past this and I have more to live for and will ENJOY life again, God/universe-willing. Thank you !

[@iiislandbreeze]

You're speaking my language, Anna, on all of the brain fog / "dementia" very real fear / "I used to be smart" / "I need my intelligence back!".... It is literally on my written goals lately to "get my brain cells back!"... I can't wait for mental acuity to come back. In addition to re-regulating practices, I will try to reduce sugar. And do the daily practice more frequently. Life has been extra hard lately. Holding onto hope, we are all facing challenges & wanting healing 🙏🏻

[@lottanerve1777]

I still talk and see my mother, who was the person responsible for my physical abuse. I was sexually abused by grown men so many times that I can't really recall. There's too much trauma to list here but, I struggle with what you have spoken about, struggled for years. I am still angry about what happened and understand that, she was abused, she didn't have an understanding of the ways to cope. Today, she's a different person. Then, there's me. Really feel like a washed up version of myself. After all of life's traumas. I watch these videos because, lol. Therapy is like a guarded secret in society, for the wealthy.... If it wasn't for doctors/therapists/or people who do these videos that explain in the way that they do, So many people would fall through the cracks and who knows where'd they end up. Thank you for doing these videos...

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you are here. Thank you for watching! Nika@TeamFairy

[@intothemystic888]

I have CPTSD from severe childhood trauma. I can't afford therapy at this time. Thank you so much for your videos, they are a godsend. ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You're welcome! If you haven't already try the Daily Practice. It's a free course that provides the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Good luck on your healing journey! Nika@TeamFairy

[@zhaystyle]

“Bring your gifts to the world where they are desperately needed” Thanks for showing us we matter/ our healing matters. So glad you created this channel!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@SingerLucieWalker]

I wrote -- then deleted -- a comment, but I'm back because this is so huge. I've watched your channel since last Dec and admittedly only started the daily practice last week. Already, huge things are "shaking loose" in me. I was on the daily practice call a couple days ago, and while I've done an incredible amount of healing through the years and have come a long way, I've never before heard absolutely everything I go through described in detail. I'm endlessly grateful to you, Anna, and to the folks here in your community.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

So glad to meet you! That was a good call. Glad you were there.

[@SingerLucieWalker]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you so much. Very happy to meet you as well. I get a lot out of your videos, and the call about the daily practice really tied it together.

[@haliec496]

My trigger in work is being under valued. I work diligently, over time when required, I am really good in my role. My boss always want to add more to my plate without acknowledging my prior efforts. It peevs me off. I can hate him for days afterwards, avoid him as much as I can. I know I do this as a pattern, have done since early teenage years. Now as an adult I don't act on these thoughts and feelings, I just get on with my day and let them deal with their own negatively. Not my business. So the length of time I spend mulling over it has lessened which in turn helps my mental health. Great video.

[@Crownd1_]

Are we playing it small or playing it simple? We know what we can handle and what we want to handle. Besides, people tire me out. I'm 64yrs old and I've had just about enough of society. I've been disabled since '18 because of my mental health issues. I have simplified my life and live minimally. I don't believe I'm playing it small. I'm doing what gives me peace and contentment. 🙏🇺🇲✌️😎

[@rhiannonchaffer2588]

It's an important point. I believe both aspects can be at play. I know that I have played small all my life but since trying to heal from ME/CFS that's affected me for the past 18 years, I appreciate the simple life. Detoxing (or trying to) body, mind and home. And doing what you love. However I still that I'm playing small even when I'm doing the things I feel nourish me. It's all very confusing and it gets to the point that I don't know what to do for the best anymore.

[@Heyu7her3]

​@@rhiannonchaffer2588 A lot of it is familial and/or societal expectations that you've internalized

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Me too. It's less stressful.

[@SevenBenches]

Hi Anna -Thank you.I am learning so much from you. I found your videos after an amazing man with CPTSD and depression , committed and then suddenly went MIA and ghosted me. I would have moved mountains to just be there for him - if I wasn't cut out so abruptly. But even to this day I will not dishonour him or disrespect him.Yes I was gentle, respectful and accepting of his situation. He was always ENOUGH. I was sad to find out perhaps I was a trigger( I don't know?) and that broke me. To go from being somebody's something to somebody's nothing overnight - it is hurtful. He has not reached out in almost five months.As if he is hiding. He had a constant need for space. I feel he ran. I felt lost.Yes, I was deeply in love and chose to walk beside him. I blame myself and I don't even know why. I am learning about myself too through your videos.How does someone like me on the receiving end help him and also better understand all this?

[@lindaweedmark6025]

"I was made for this river," yesss! 🥰☺️💖 I love the sure & total belief in your voice, in your face, as you say this! 🎉

[@lindsey2930]

Gosh!! Hits deep. I understand all you're describing. Intense!! My childhood was filled with constantly hearing my dad talk about my tone of voice. He would tell my mom and sister that I NEVER appreciated anything. I was ALWAYS making my dad angry one way or another. My mom let this happen and would go along with whatever dad said... I felt hopeless most of my childhood. Walking on egg shells because I had so much confusion why I ALWAYS made him mad why my mom would stick up for me. I appreciate this video... I have shared this channel with my younger sister recently... We will see how it's perceived. Hope all in the comments are well and continue the road to your greatest self😁

[@pumpkinarthur]

Im 27, going through a lot since my entire life, as it seems. Im tired, im sorta alone, as always i guess. I just want tl say thank you. Maybe theres hope, lets start again

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

There is hope and healing is possible! Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD. Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD Nika@TeamFairy

[@raemahhenderson1602]

She’s just delightful, a blessing from Yahweh.❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

What a beautiful thing to say. Thank you.

[@raemahhenderson1602]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy You’re welcome, Anna ☺️

[@tandye0014]

I suffered from ADD for years. The last few years of my marriage was really bad. I messed up at work frequently. Every time I messed up the cycle would get worse. After I got divorced 9 years ago and started a new career as an independent massage therapist, I knew I would be without health insurance for awhile. But I was healing. The ADD got better. Then I realized the ADD was actually a trauma response. It was so liberating!!! Thank you for the work you do. I try so hard to get my best friend who also struggles with Cpsd to listen to your videos. She isn’t there yet. It’s hard to watch when I just want to help. Anyway thank you again for your work!

[@sharonknapp5015]

This so spoke to me. I also used to be brilliant until I wasnt. I also tested for dementia. CPTSD And then the continued abuse by my X kept me overwhelmed. I'm going to try your daily practice. Thank you for acknowledging my story in yours. That was very significant. 💙

[@Leonardqh5kp]

I suppressed myself until I was 38 without knowing and then I had a mental breakdown and a major limerence episode. Your videos have been wonderful lessons since that time late in 2023 ❤❤❤. Even recognising people are triggering lol

[@visualapologetics4891]

Thank you for mentioning sugar. I am a mom who has spent 20 years dealing with my kids’ issues of anxiety and extreme fatigue, and sugar is a very dangerous substance. One of the top autism doctors said a year or two ago that while he has been treating children for spectrum disorders for over 30 years, it is only recently that he has gained a full appreciation for how toxic sugar can be. He said that for some people, sugar, even just a little, can be poison. There are many nutritional factors in play here, but sugar has been known to be a big health problem for over 100 years. Try to choose natural foods, like a banana, or apple, instead of a sugar laden snack. It’s not just a little important, it’s really important.

[@lottanerve1777]

Apparently the sugar and the lack of vitamins/minerals is HUGE

[@SweetUniverse]

It's true- as soon as you put yourself out there, someone's going to take a shot at you ✌✌

[@goldalevin869]

Your real self might come running out like a colt. Love it. Great imagery. Time to say yes to yourself and to life and bring your gifts to the world. Yes, yes, yes. 😁

[@DKMRFCBrlz]

I just watched this and I already know a more careful rewatch is necessary, this is so valuable

[@lindsey2930]

Agreed. This is a good one.

[@kendallliann]

Thank you Anna. This felt like the pep talk I needed! I do feel like life is just passing me by and I do wanna do something about it. I'm afraid of all the things you mentioned - especially what other people will think. My trouble is that I still feel like I don't even know what I want. It's like I'm scared of what I want. However I definitely don't want what I am doing even though it pays well.

[@alishaduffy9968]

As a SW therapist who is also healing through CPTSD I appreciate you soo much. Thank you ❤

[@RoseMoon2]

I've got a very important question concernong the diet point. I already know from experience how incredibly important diet is for our mental wellbeing but here's the thing: I have dysphagia, that means I struggle to swallow and therefore can't eat or drink (everything/enough). After years of in and out of hospitals and psych wards it's clear that my dysphagia is a psychosomatic symptom. The only things I am able to somewhat choke down are things like very creamy soup, yogurt and spreads and puddings and well both spreads and puddings are very sugary. These things are also obv not very filling. The worse I'm doing mentally the worse my symptom also gets (I start choking more, can't swallow my own saliva, etc) so ofc Im trying my best and I have learned a lot in these past years but I still do get dysregulated and then I'm starving again (not bcs I want to but because I literally choke when i try to swallow something, i can't even drink water) and whenever I hear how important the food you eat for a regulated nervous system is it just makes me even more hopeless, it feels like I'm stuck in this loop of I can't eat normally (without choking too much) unless I'm regulated BUT I also struggle immensly to get regulated when I can barely eat or drink anything. Wow this was a lot. Thank you so much to anyone who did read all this.

[@anju8376]

does movement help you? i feel like i have a less intense version of this due to injury/healing after strangulation abuse. i found a lot of relief from learning head/neck movements in dance class, doing neck rolls/stretches/self-massage, and weirdly learning to sing (the idea of making a big sound and finding openness/space). i still have symptoms and maybe theyll never go away but these help me out

[@RoseMoon2]

@@anju8376 hey thanks for the reply! I'm sorry abt what happened and I'm honestly glad you've found ways to help yourself! More often than not movement actually does help me as well, I've been trying Yoga lately but again, it doesn't always seem to work. Haven't tried singing (I'm honestly lacking the confidence) but my psychologist suggested I try making sounds like "Aah" and "Ooh" from deep in the belly to help stimulate the vagus nerve and even with that I struggle because I'm so scared of people hearing me 😅

[@melissamoore5275]

I love your voice of reason! Thank you. It feels very motherly and I need it in my life.

[@ThisSlowCoach]

I discovered this to be true after starting to meditate as a gift to myself when I turned 50. So true. Thank you. You are eloquent smart and generous.❤

[@D3Misty]

It ruins kids life. They abused me until I was 30 years old. My whole life was stolen from me because of this and everyone called me stupid growing up.

[@benedettasavitri9644]

We need you giving your best ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama]

Its like you are our online mom. I dont think you understand how much we appreciate you.

[@empresssoundz3981]

Omg you described what I believe happened to me. I need to regulate.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You're in the right place! We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@lindaweedmark6025]

Those first 2-3 minutes! 🎯 I didn't even realize I was affected this way. This must be why my family member urged me to come out of my shell!

[@calmdowngurl]

This is so true. Triggered and boom. Used to happen Alot for me . Now I wait and definitely triggering after speaking up for myself..

[@bridgettetraveler658]

Anna thank for all of your help. U are doing a great job. I'm glad you're not allowing small minded ppl to stop u. U keep on doing u & GOD Bless U!!!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for your kind words! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@ViirinSoftworks]

I have CPTSD and a lot of other issues, and I've recently decided to get into Mad Science. Even talked to a few investors, farmers, and politicians about my idea, and they're supportive of it. My idea: Forcibly evolve mushrooms to eat alkaline. If mushrooms evolved to eat radiation in Chernobyl, I should be able to torture some into eating the batteries we've all thrown in the trash and ended up in landfills. Edit: Heck, look at abandoned/empty mines. Full of poison and carbon dioxide and no sunlight. Sounds like a good place for me to send my creations, doesn't it? Let's see if I can succeed or not.

[@markmattingly2929]

This is spot on wonderfully explained and I am a living testament of this I continued ruminating and looping over and over and over in my head that what she's talking about My real challenge began when I had I noticed and I also was witnessing myself doing this stuff so I began my journey with self-awareness of where I was at in that moment where I was standing and then why was I getting that thought in my head. And I began the hardest part of my healing which was getting rid of and stop the dysregulation in my head stop the in my head . I had to stop the dysregulation in my head. And I kept believing that I couldn't do it I couldn't fix it I just could not fix this and I did I did because I had to and you have to understand that You have to stop that or you're not going to fix yourself You're going to make yourself much much worse complex PTSD Will win again and you will be right back where you started I know I did it over and over and over I'm trying to save you some precious time in your journey to heal. As I've said tools are wonderful if they're presented like they're presented on this channel not through the lens of someone that doesn't only understand it but have been through it and all of the other I call crazy ways to try to figure out how to get healing started from this terrible feeling that you get.

[@2rythm797]

Your vids are great tools for us to identify with dysfunctional habits that were already developed within us. I also hopinh and looking forward to see more of your vids that taught us how to counteract those dysfunctional habits, heal from the traumas and starts creating new habits that are healthy so we can start becoming healthy and having healthier relationships.

[@guybuckles6337]

Thank you so much for this. The precise and honest way that you describe a set of feelings I feared nobody else could understand is so, so liberating. The hope that there might be a way to get past my own defenses and live more fully, even more so. Bless you for the work you've done, and for sharing it in such a generous way. I'm really trying to use your advice to turn my crappy childhood experience into knowledge that helps me grow and be more open to life, and I hope that other people who've felt alone with these feelings will find inspiration in your example.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you are here! Nika@TeamFairy

[@2rythm797]

I love how you present this in chunks that we can actually digest

[@dolbow]

Thank you so much for everything you do - I think for some of us, the post-trauma path was actually ultra high performance - and yet, even that is following someone else’s script and despite accolades can be unfulfilling and inauthentic

[@therealfronzilla]

I don't know how I found you on here but I think you just started changing my life everything on this you hit everything on this get home intelligence brain fog trauma and top of Trauma from childhood to adulthood wow it seems like I forgot how to punctuate but I'm doing talk to text 54 and have been lost in the desert

[@KJ-wh8fu]

I am so grateful for you. 😢❤

[@karlasilis-cruz8835]

Anna, thank you so much for this video and your KZbin channel! I find it helpful and inspiring to start my healing journey!💝

[@markmattingly2929]

You're very humble person I've been CPTSD for over 25 years and right now this very moment if I decided that I didn't like what you were saying I would just simply do what a person should do just leave your channel and that would be it I realize because I have had this so long that this channel is your therapy it's your therapy and I know it and it should be your therapy because you have helped a lot of people and I am in my healing process I am perfectly fine with my complex PTSD at this time I don't know what'll happen tomorrow but I know I've been in a great place for quite a while so long that it's scary but hey I'd rather be scared than have the terrible symptoms of what I have the ones I had a long time ago oh wow please I don't ever want to go back there ever so I'm in my healing phase every single day and will be till I take my last breath and hope that I stay in that phase of my terrible mind that told me for so long I was nothing but everything you're saying is the exact road that I followed exactly pretty much so it works for me before I even knew you and the therapist that I had that did this with me I'm still with today and I've been with her for a long time and you and her are preaching the same gospel about CPTSD and it worked for me I'm not saying to anyone on this channel watching this lady right now that you're going to live happily ever after and be healed and everything will be over real soon that would be a total lie we're all different It might take you a long time to figure it out or it may take you a little bit of time I wish you well all of you I've had this a long time it is it can be a I've always called it my fire breathing dragon that's what I've called my CPTSD it's my fire breathing dragon I do not know if this dragon is lurking around the corner right now he could be years ago I would run as fast and hard as I could away from this fire breathing dragon because it was going to kill me literally even though the fire breathing dragon is metaphorically speaking the CPTSD was not it was very real and I gather my tools cuz I had to I didn't have a choice I was going to take my life or use the tools It was that simple That's where I was many years ago now my journey it's easier it's more understandable when I think I'm going to take action or react to hastily I just simply do not accept this dysregulation that is your worst enemy get rid of it the way she's telling you to get rid of it the exact way that she is telling you to get rid of it if you forget what she's telling you go back to the first rule one and view it again and again and again and tell you start using it You're not going to win You're not going to win it's a tool It is a very important tool beginning during and after I hope that no matter what you're on this channel a lot especially when you get into the falsehoods about yourself and all the false things that you think about yourself just because you're complex PTSD I want you to be able to to look at yourself like I do now and go hey this used to be something that was really really overwhelming and I couldn't live I could not live being a person anymore because of this now I look at myself and say I've got this not the CPTSD so much as I've got this like I've got this meaning I've got this under control right now where I'm at in this moment in this day in real time right now so thumbs up to myself and great big kudos to myself because I'm still healing I'm not going backwards I'm going forwards You can do it keep watching this channel Peace out remember I got this!!

[@sunnycurtis3236]

You have been so very helpful for me on this sh*t!!! Thank you. YOU have been so courageous.

[@dafne_rdz]

when I come across videos like this it blows my mind and totally make me think that we live in a simulation 😅😅 I swear you're just describing a conflict I'm going through with a friend, and this weekend I was just reflecting that it was caused because I used 'my voice' to say something I didn't like... it's weird how I know other people go through the same problems as others but this video just popping up at this precise moment is so weird 😅😅😁😁 thanks for sharing this information with us! 🙏🙏🙏

[@Nancy-dz1vo]

Thank you! great video

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@idid138]

Just started in 2016??? Amazing! You are amazing! Thanks for all you do. 💕 Edit: when I 1st started watching you I thought you were a professional counselor because of your knowledge. I was shocked & impressed & inspired to keep following & listening when I learned you are self taught out of necessity. I think what you're doing is God's work. Thank you again.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for your kind words! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@Eloysacanta]

Amazing, helpful channel!!! :)

[@mYcRiSpDiScK]

Love the Crappy Childhood community! We will all find our river just please love yourself even when life can't :')

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for being a part of it! We appreciate you in the community too! Nika@TeamFairy

[@kristelwalton3141]

I love hearing this! And I’m so happy you got bigger because you have helped me improve my life ❤

[@susannluckmann7705]

😳 I already get dysregulated when I think about dropping the sugar from my life 🥺 too scared.

[@lailimade]

😂😂😂😂

[@frappedelimon4351]

Ikr, I am currently dealing with an addiction with sugar, but I say to mayself "ok I DON'T have to leave it 100% RIGHT NOW. Today, for this meal, is going to be 10%" or something like that. I hope you heal from your symptoms!

[@susannluckmann7705]

@@frappedelimon4351 I am working on it. I looked into bright line eating and that shocked me, to rhink I could never ever eat another piece of cake or a cookie in my life. So I have to do it my way, some how. 🤓

[@freefree1664]

maybe try alternative sweetener type foods - not the fake stuff but natural like stevia, xylitol etc that are common ingredients in Keto deserts. It satisfies the 'need' for something sweet without the actual sugar component

[@Billybobcan]

Thank you for the food work. This video helps🎉

[@realestatecoach8626]

Yes mam, thank you for helping me with this. I need this breakthrough in Jesus Name. May God get the Glory for my Life!

[@PlasticR0b0t]

This video is exactly what I needed to hear right now and I will certainly be watching it again and again. Every point hit home with me an answered questions that I have had. Thank You so much for this incredibly helpful insight. You’ve really given me a clearer view of what I’m experiencing.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm so glad the video was helpful! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@sandragalloway3275]

Love your channel... so refreshing to hear honest help that so many of us need.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@rmhjules7295]

Why do I always feel guilty when I want to do something that involves spending money? I live pretty much paycheck to paycheck with a little cash I can spend doing stuff, buying something I like but don’t need or fir putting gas in my car so I can take a drive and explore which I love. I felt guilty when I got my horse ( I was making more money then) I feel guilty because I like going to dog shows and showing my dog. Why is this? I always feel that I could be using my money to help other people, but then I wouldn’t be able to do anything for me. I just struggle with that.

[@arlettecervantes6300]

when we have more resources, we have money to give. at this moment in time, you only have money for yourself, and that is okay. im sure when you have more money on hand, youd give. there are also other ways to give: volunteering your time and such. its hard not to feel guilty, but there is a purpose for why you cannot give just yet. know that the money you spend on yourself is to enrich your own life, so that you have more purpose for why you make money and once there is surplus youre able to give all you want. i struggle with the same thing and this is what ive realized for myself so far

[@monikagin]

Thank you so much for all your work dear Fairy and team. It took me a yr to realise my thinking feeling guilt loop and limerance from your channel. I relate with the dementia at 30😅 I am still on the way to heal. Thank you for once again reminding to be my true self first.❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you are here! Good luck on your healing journey! Nika@TeamFairy

[@cookie_dough_hangover]

I don't know how to do it. I feel it's way too late. I am 47 and feel like my life is over.

[@jaygunter210]

I will be 56 at the end of this month. I’ve felt the way you’ve describing since my thirties. It feels real but it’s not. For the sake of your 55+ self, do what you can now, while you’re still in your forties.

[@cookie_dough_hangover]

@@jaygunter210 that's so kind of you. Thank you for your advice.

[@JustinWyllie]

Yes. The other commentator is right. I'm 56 and still finding myself. If you do, even living one year as your 'authentic self' is a blessing. So 47 - you have plenty of time.

[@Juniperus_Godegara]

Please be informed that you are wrong here! It is definitely not too late.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Even Aristotle said that the average age for coming in to yourself was 49!! That made me feel better. I am 54 and still living and learning how to deal with life. It's never too late to take things as they come. Xxx🎉

[@em_m5989]

First time I hear brain fog is a cPTSD symptom, I thought it was just going to be like this for the rest of my life. I was indeed a lot smarter as a child and then just lost it all, flunked out after postgrad. People seemed to notice how crazy I was getting so I quit, cut off the phone, never showed up again. Oh well.

[@lizAscully]

The timing of this... Thank you 😭❤️

[@joshsimpson8143]

I am told I am extreme in everything. Always just looked at myself as bold for just saying what needs to be said and take up for myself. But I do crush everyone, if I feel offended or disrespected I am level 50 out of 10 aggressive. I also have been told I’m adhd and I always avoid all functions with people and am a “lone wolf” . Everything you have said in all your videos I’ve looked at in the last few days explains me to a T. I have trauma from childhood but also from several other points in my life. So how does cptsd go with other traumatic events? Thank you you have given me hope maybe I can be better for my family and not be so uptight 24/7 always on edge.

[@theboyisnotright6312]

I have stayed small my whole life. And im pretty close to alcoholic, and thinking i need to quit. Problem is with no booze, all that other issues pop up and that sucks, then back to the bottle 😢. At 54 not sure it's possible to fix. Doctor told me if i keep boozing i will get pancreatitis. Would like to avoid. By the way,if you get a blood test the doctor knows exactly how much you drink. 😊

[@Mas8ko]

I quit drinking 4 years ago and if I did it, I know that you can too. I went on drinking knowing I had a problem for many years before that

[@gigiatkins5923]

All those “other issues” that pop up are precisely what you need to deal with in order to heal. We spend a life time trying to avoid the unpleasant feelings but the feelings always win if we don’t meet them head on

[@Bee46727]

You can do it!

[@theboyisnotright6312]

Thanks for all the helpful and nice comments! Yes being a little older also means it's damn near impossible to BS yourself. I need to make a decision here 😊 . Probably need some Ativan to get the first demon out of the way. I will keep you all informed.

[@m.mendoza5315]

If you're having trouble putting alcohol consider cannabis. Every year thousands of people die of alcoholism/ overdosing on alcohol. Zero people die from consuming just cannabis.

[@ToniaRichardson-tm3ff]

EXCELLENT, and potent information!!!

[@visualapologetics4891]

This is an awesome video. Thank you!

[@pecan_bun]

Thank You fairy Anna 👣🧚🏻‍♀️🍩🧋✏️

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@Juniperus_Godegara]

Love your videos, your messages always come at the best times. ❤❤❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm so glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@cvdirecto5008]

Thank you, i needed this.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You're so welcome! Nika@TeamFairy

[@MarjoleinKeijser]

Thank you!

[@ZeldaZelda-RichesToRags]

Love Anna Garcia!

[@RootBound505]

What if the trauma and the repercussions of the traumatic past are still present and ongoing?

[@darialo8740]

Live this. Thank you 💛💛💛

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@imenzinabouaouni2182]

i watched almost all your videos, at first it helped a lot about insights and for that I will be eternally grateful for you. but now I start to feel exhausted each time i watch your videos as the focus is on talking about problems rather than practicle solutions. ps: you are great at analysing the problem.

[@robertmunteanu618]

I haven't watched all her videos and still know few practical solutions. I guess you didn't pay attention or just playing smart

[@dianerobinson8837]

Anna , I'm so happy i found you. Your my angel thank you.

[@mindfulmarie-]

Thanks Anna keep them coming such freedom in your words

[@jbpoeticjustice]

Thank you for sharing your experiences and expertise with the world! I bet you help more people than you know. I've blamed my physical disabilities for the brain fog and loss of intelligence. Very interesting. I'm working on healing past trauma again, wondering how I do it permanently this time. I seem to slip back into relationship patterns and set myself back again.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for watching! The Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step to healing. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on healing CPTSD. Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD Nika@TeamFairy

[@percubit10]

I was trggered by many cause I was seeking approvals and validation. I was silenced not to talk about hiw I feel about others.

[@andrearush6209]

Your sugar comments are🎯

[@BBFCCO733]

How do you deal with haters? It really is a setback.

[@TheLove1Makes]

Good encouragement video. Thanks

[@christinejones8654]

This video was for me

[@jenniferwhisks9248]

I'm so utterly ruined by the treatment and behaviour of my partner who had CPTSD. Four years of madness.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You may want to watch these videos: • Don't Let Your Partner Blame You for Their CPTSD TRIGGERS kzbin.info/www/bejne/iF6vcmeYftCCnrM • Is Your Partner Affected by Childhood Trauma? Here's What to Do. kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZmaTnKigaaacntE • Partner with CPTSD? These Tips Can Help Have a Great Relationship kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnq6h4Wkd56CasU • If Your PARTNER Has CPTSD, You'll Want to WATCH THIS kzbin.info/www/bejne/o6WWmX2cbth3arc • Couples That Trigger Each Other's CPTSD Reactions: One-on-One Coaching with Anna kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6mbiGeNrZV2i9U • Fighting Doesn't Always Spell the End for Couples with CPTSD kzbin.info/www/bejne/b3K1YXx5oZt_aLs • CPTSD: How to Stay Regulated in a Relationship kzbin.info/www/bejne/lWOkaZhvjsl9sNE Nika@TeamFairy

[@PeteLenz]

I had a highly prescribed way of “shining” - nothing but extreme educational performance. Sigh.

[@raquelfernando7885]

Hello Fairy. I love your videos. They've been of immense help. Grateful for your beautiful work. When you talk about cutting the sugar do you also refer to not consuming fruits? Or just processed sugar?

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I do eat fruit. I don't eat foods that would spike my insulin. You can learn about it here: ble.life/V9fe9O

[@iiislandbreeze]

ANNA... 3:53 , you described a surge of cortisol + adrenaline as "you can FEEL IT RUNNING DOWN YOUR ARMS".... is this a thing? I would get these specific feelings of "acid running down my upper traps, shoulders & arms", for years. I felt like I was the only one!! It happened very often in the mornings during severe situational depression episodes, and sometimes in the afternoon or evening. It is always paired with the deepest ache in my soul & I am forced to pay attention. It does suddenly go away when the severity of the depression starts to lift. I wonder if it really is cortisol surges causing that very specific (& eerie) feeling.

[@76652-j]

Thanks to share, fairy

[@jar2979]

❤

[@Heyu7her3]

Ugh, I wanna be "small" for once. Everyone else is -- why can't I be?

[@user33TMH]

Amen!!!!!❤

[@jackasschicken5922]

Does the tendency to automatically feel comfortable around other people who also have cptsd ever go away? I don't know that I've ever had a strong connection without my girl having trauma in her childhood too. Is that ok? I never knew that was why I felt normal around some girls but not others, even before talking to them. Do I just ignore this?

[@connectionqueen]

What are first steps in moving thru this process?

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

The Daily Practice is a great place to start. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here's a link if you're interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Calista@TeamFairy

[@hectormayoral443]

15:48 hater's gon hate