It's TOO LATE to get your life together in your 30s

[@PhreakPhantom]

Im 40. 2 years self teaching. Got my first software engineering job 3 months ago. Stay focused!

[@PhreakPhantom]

@Dan Lons my first comment was deleted. Here we go: 6 months head in HTML/CSS and Javascript to understand how web development work. Then turned focus into Python and stuck with it. I'd do 3 Python problems daily over and over again until every single concept stuck. After I was comfortable enough with it, started doing every single youtube Python project follow along video I could find. Then I'd do them on my own over and over. Applied for at least 20 entry level jobs until one landed. (I'd send my very modest portfolio even if I wasn't the fit they were looking for.)

[@PhreakPhantom]

@Dan Lons I find that focusing on the process and not the goal was key for me. Doing 2 to 3 Python exercises a day became automatic, like brushing teeth. It stuck.

[@tonybp]

Did you come across some ageism before finally landing your job?

[@PhreakPhantom]

@@tonybp Not that I am aware of. Then again, it's remote working. But I only care for the employer's opinion on me being 40. They only cared about my skills.

[@thewisetree2292]

@@PhreakPhantom so where did you find remote jobs?

[@pineapplepizza4016]

I'm the ultimate late bloomer. I wasted my 20s and most of my 30s. It wasn't until my early 40s that I decided to go back to school. It's true, it's never too late.

[@izumocore]

Well to college twice and going to work as a waiter on a cruise in my 40's, i mean late late late bloomer here.

[@Pssst.ByTheWay]

🤝🙏💪 I want this to I wish us all the best of luck💪💪💪 Diftor heh smusma 🖖

[@LivewireT]

Yesterday at age 42 I made the first step in applying for College. I believe it's not too late for me or anyone

[@bartekgorniak5758]

Ok but will they give you work, when you will be 40 years old engineer without experience yet? I dont think so

[@donnerblitzen1388]

I’m a recovering addict who is in the process of rebuilding my life at age forty. Depressed, anxiety ridden, epileptic and with brain injuries…it’s hard. Everyone looks at you as a failure and it SUCKS. I’m trying different things to try to bring my spirit up

[@Diarrheagod]

Seems like a huge chunk of us spent our 20s battling some kind of depression. Says a lot about the way things are.

[@0cean144]

I was thinking the same

[@thomasmueller2319]

The world is going down, and the us very fast.

[@GaminHasard]

Indeed crazy if we stop and think about it.

[@Diarrheagod]

@@thomasmueller2319 yeah it is. It’s only gonna get worse cuz it has to in order for something new to take it’s place

[@Diarrheagod]

@@GaminHasard it’s very sad. So many lonely and disconnected souls here…

[@cultmamacultmama3571]

I got my life together in my 40's. Teenage years lost to war and immigration, twenties lost to a debilitating illness and recovery from it, 30's lost to having had to catch up on education and making money that I could not do in my twenties due to the illness...Got finally everything together in my 40's, living my best life. It's possible. And sometimes you just don't have a choice, life does not run in a straight line for everyone, so you have to make it WHEN you can, whatever that age is for you.

[@byunbaekhyun4010]

Jesus christ i needed to SEE THIS. You're a true champ. I can only hope to be as badass as you are.

[@sevendeadlysinsandfriends3581]

Thank you for your story reminds me to not give up, im at my mid 20s right now battling physical and mental illness still hoping for the better

[@Endru85x]

Inspiring story. I began to sort my life recently, and i am almost 40. I have not been through war or serious ilness, but i had emotional problems in my 20,s, which i could not solve, so i escaped from them. fortunately, i did not become a drunk, addict or anything, just felt stuck in a loop. Life is a not a game when you have to check the boxes, make the quest before anyone else etc. I am still singel, but well,n ot everyone is meant to have a family and kids, does not mean your life does not hold value. You gotta seek your own path, not emulate what people around you do. Some of them are clueless just you were , but just try to hide it.

[@dis9078f]

I'm 23 and I needed this. Thank you so much! I just started studying in a foreign country, alone and away from my home. I feel like I'm loosing my youth sometimes.

[@micsnz]

Inspiring. Did you end up marrying or starting a family too? Or did you prefer staying single?

[@orelanic4178]

Depressed at 50 then changed my life at 52 with therapy, now I have a new outlook on life and completely new career and never been happier.

[@simonaivancic]

Congrats...and thank God 🙏❤️🙌

[@giannisparamanis9937]

Thank you for sharing. I feel sometimes it’s too late but reading this comment section I realized many others are in similar situations. We’re not alone, and I hope you continue to be happy.

[@andreagruber5813]

Thanks, because I thought I should shoot myself now. This title alone should be cancelled! Because some might really just have the gun next to them.

[@justynjonn]

I'm glad I read this because 50 is staring me down and I'm at a loss.

[@dayton3781]

What therapist

[@constructionzonebc2295]

I'm 60 years old and I didn't start getting my life together until I was 30. I have no regrets.

[@sheepleslayer586]

No regurts

[@arenuzzle6282]

@@sheepleslayer586 whats a regurt?

[@PikachusGift]

@@arenuzzle6282 it's like yogurt, but you have it again

[@Damnitjim7]

Amen, I aspire to obtain the same

[@Damnitjim7]

@@arenuzzle6282 do not regurgitate according to Google translate

[@borsero]

I'm 32. Never been so broke in my entire life. This video helped me to believe that I still can do something.

[@copainlivreur8962]

We've been there. You just gotta get up. Apply for a job. Suck it up. That's the only way.

[@kentajin7860]

@@copainlivreur8962 and live a meaningless capitalism world with minimum wage to survive!

[@stanbasov42]

@@kentajin7860 spent one year in northern Michigan. 15$ an hour makes you a good living there. Much better than the above minimal salary in the UK. You guys from the US live the best lives, stop talking tankie shit

[@notallthatbad]

You're not alone. I've had negative balances in my bank account more than I have fingers and toes. The worst was when someone nearly half my age had to pay for a dinner we went to. Can't tell you how embarrassing that was. It's rough to see the light when you are so swamped with hopelessness. There is light at the end of the tunnel, brother. Give yourself a break, get back on your feet, persist. It will get better, I promise you.

[@ImSuperhuman]

Me too bro. I’m 31 and I’m currently living at my dads and looking for work. I have developed alcohol use disorder and I just feel bleh. I had a job from 16-26. But since then I’ve gone downhill in ways. Feel lonely too

[@JavierCespedes90]

I wasted my 20s mostly on a career that wasn't for me. Last year (when I was 32), started an online fitness coaching buisness and started to grow, enough to quit my 9-5 job. Currently I'm 33 and still working on it, still growing. It is never too late to turn your life around. I'm 33 and literally starting a new career.

[@jtc9098]

I’m the same age as you. I currently work in healthcare but I am just burnt out. I make a decent living but I just want to do something else with my life. I feel like there’s more to life than throwing scrubs on at 7am and working 12 hour shifts in a hospital. Everybody thinks it’s an awesome field, but it’s honestly overrated and exhausting.

[@itsjotime]

Thank you yes that's what I want to believe it's never too late I'm 29 and things seem bleak and I feel dragged down by a lot of things but I'm still trying

[@itsjotime]

​@@jtc9098 are you a nurse that's my dream job I want to work in a nursing home tho I use to as a psw and miss it but I totally understand take some time for yourself do little things you enjoy here and there xx you can even try to do a second career or hobby you love wish you the best

[@daks8888]

I'm 38 and attempting to start a new career. I'm trying anyway.

[@JavierCespedes90]

@@daks8888 Yeah man! Fk it

[@iammichaeldavis]

A lot of comments say “I wasted my 20s”. Nah man, if you’re still here, you survived them, you’re on your path and all those years were valuable in shaping who you are today. Forgive yourself for not living up to some imaginary ideal and just focus on today and tomorrow. You got this ❤

[@TheWolfDude91]

Thanks man, I actually started thinking like that as well, like look at the world today, I dont feel bad for getting older and reaching 30, hell we earned this, we survived all the crazy shit and it seems that more is coming :D

[@Ethan_Alexandur]

@Michael Davis Thanks man, I really needed to hear that. I’m 25 almost 26 and I have been beating myself up for not living more when I was younger.

[@officialnamerartist8445]

Thank you my brother god bless you

[@steverogers6572]

Exactly. There is a video with Steve Harvey and he says 99 percent of people "waste" their lives in their 20s. It's just the way things go. You're not alone and trust me, being in your 20s when the 2008 bubble hit, yeah that has long lasting effects. If you are 30 now, I'm 31, you have MADE it this far. It's not all on you. Now the future and your next Decisions is all on you. Only you can change it. Don't worry about the past. It's done. Make the memories and experiences work for you. Godspeed everybody. We all have a purpose here.

[@neldcast9013]

Yep you only wasted them if you dont learn anything from it both the good and the bad.

[@kurushimee]

There's been people who got their life together even at 40 and 50, so it's really never late to change it!

[@nocause5395]

I'd say you're wrong especially in today's society.

[@TheSlickmicks]

@@nocause5395 I definetly disagree. The average age of an author for their breakout book is 36.

[@nocause5395]

@@TheSlickmicks How many authors out of millions make it? Let's be real, the numbers don't add up. You're more than likely to fail the later you change than you are to succeed and that's just a fact. Could it happen, sure. Is it likely, no, statistically

[@kurushimee]

@FuckOuttaHere nope, it's possible for most people, the ONLY thing you have to have is will and determination to do it, from then you can gather everything else

[@Onepunchmeme1]

@@nocause5395 In today's society men are at their top earning years from 40-60.

[@marwan.ux1]

Whenever I feel bad about not getting my shit together at 27 years old, I come back to this video and it gives me motivation to keep on goin. Thank you Dorian

[@RedaReda-vl9ff]

Dont give up my brother

[@PoisonelleMisty4311]

**Different Paths:** Each person's path in life is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. Your friends may have followed a more traditional route to success, but that doesn't mean that your path is any less valid or meaningful.

[@jayekpo]

Same here, 27 as well and made a lot of dumb mistakes. They made me so angry that I alienated myself from friends, family, and basically anyone in proximity. Working on it now but man it hurts to wake up everyday and feel stupid, useless, and forgotten.

[@michaelmaddox2536]

I'm mid 30's now and practically threw away my entire 20's due to depression. I never had help with it. Currently I'm definitely a lot more confident and decided to focus on coding myself to earn a better living. Wish me luck folks 🙏 😅

[@marllon9786]

I turn 33 in the fall. I also spent all of my 20s in a deep depression. Good luck with your aspirations! 🍀 You can do this 💪

[@psylopanda2841]

You got this brother!...

[@photina262]

You’ve got this 💪🏼♥️

[@mcfrisko834]

Don't let nobody tell you that you can't do iT! MICHAEL you can DO IT!!

[@Mr3DLC]

Dont rush during your journey You could find yourself getting stuck and doubting your abilities and you never want that Itll stall your journey even more

[@chrisridenhour]

I was poor most of my life - had a great opportunity in my late 30s and eventually got my career going. Never too late!

[@Paris__Michael]

🙂🙂🙂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾♥️🙏🏾!!! NEVA!!…… FUCK what “THEY” gotta SAY!

[@powerbad696]

Never to late for anything,people,the only time is when you're in the grave.

[@donaldlyons17]

What would have happened if you never got the opportunity in your career? Do you even think you would be where you are today?!!

[@applejellypucci]

Gives me hope, thanks!

[@Babyvalkyie]

@@donaldlyons17 But they did. And they are. Gahhdamn. The point is to try. Majority of people just give up and accept their fate. Didn't get the job? Try again. And again.

[@reneef.874]

I’m a late bloomer. I didn’t treat my 20s right. Now I’m in my 30s doing way more that I would’ve screwed up in my 20s. A great childhood is so important because I believe a large part of us didn’t use our 20s wisely due to what we endured as children, and unresolved, it carried over into adulthood. We gotta get to the root of things, heal, and keep moving forward.

[@rawloobasu6954]

It's so true that we spend our 20s thinking that our childhood was a disaster and end up doing nothing and making another decade of ours a disaster.

[@bogdanpali]

Yea, in my teenage years couldn't have fun, because my parents were overly protective. I had to be home before 10 PM every night, even when I was 17 years old. When I got 18 and escaped that "prison", went all in and fucked up 5 years of my life without doing anything productive, only living pay check to pay check and partying. Some things have to be done, at the right time. My parents are great and they only wanted what was best for me, but they failed to give me freedom. They saw that when it was too late, and gave my brother the freedom I never had. 😁

[@adventurous_bri]

Very very true!! I’m still trying to heal from my childhood

[@cameronbodell7985]

So true. Science is finally validating our experience. We can get to the root through therapy and intentionality. And then we can heal with time and patience.

[@tamie.5665]

Hit the nail on the head!

[@mikelopez5865]

I was an addict throughout my 20s. I got clean at 29 and been traveling the world since. Been sober for 3 years.

[@kentran3765]

Just wanted to echo the sentiments in this video. When I was 29 I was unemployed, living at home with my parents, and just played video games all day. I went back to school (community college) and got my RN license at 32. Made 100k my first year. I'm 36 now. I'm single, own my home, car, making 110k a year with no debt other than my mortgage. Life is good. It can be done.

[@sempraktis1597]

thanks you inspire me

[@ccplusplus5333]

What’s an RN license

[@victoriastroud4820]

@@ccplusplus5333 Registered Nurse

[@ccplusplus5333]

@@victoriastroud4820 thanks

[@miltonshipmanii4757]

Hard Work baby!

[@yeetdaddy5716]

I'm almost 33 and unemployed, living with a family member. I feel like a failure. In my mid 20s I was married, had a child, and a house. We got divorced a few years ago and my life fell apart. I'm hoping I can get it back together.

[@ScottyTownsend91]

You can and you will. Take it one step at a time and stay focused. As long as you’re breathing, there’s still hope

[@johnbrowns6072]

I agree, keep grinding... only way your going to loss is if you stop moving. Keep fighting

[@lizzyforevermore4]

You got this. Don't give up. Do your research, create a plan, execute it. Believe in yourself.

[@french2572]

Life happening to you, does not make you a failure. Keep watching videos like this one and reading the comments to remind yourself that you are not alone.

[@MrBrian987987]

Exactly you got divorced. Who thought that was good! Let me guess, your former friends.

[@bamxire8845]

I haven't lived life the best part of my 20's after losing my brother to suicide. It's my 30th today. Here's hoping for a brighter future. Thansk for your video!

[@BrokenG-String]

That's really tough man. Make your brother proud.

[@bamxire8845]

@@BrokenG-String Thanks man I really appreciate it:)

[@topg2820]

all the bestfor your future

[@bamxire8845]

@@topg2820 Appreciate the comments guys truly thank you :)

[@rickjames7923]

Good luck man, I'm cheering for you

[@AllisonSherman657]

I didn't become financially independent until I was in my late 30's, and I'm still in my 30's. In addition to having purchased my second home and earning money on a monthly basis through passive income, I've also achieved three out of five goals. I just hope this inspires someone to realize that it doesn't matter if you don't have any of these things yet, you can start today no matter your age. Change your future by investing! I made a rather big decision by investing in the financial market.

[@rougeur]

I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate or bitcoin and stocks..

[@face2lune]

I keep wondering how people earn money in financial markets, i tried trading on my own made a huge loss and now I'm scared of investing more…

[@AllisonSherman657]

@@face2lune Understanding your financial needs and making effective decisions is very essential. If I could advise you, you should seek the help of a financial advisor. For the record, working with one has been the best for my finances...

[@face2lune]

I’m Glad i stumbled on this. Please, if its not too much of a hassle for you, can you drop the details of the CFP that assisted you and how to get in touch….

[@AllisonSherman657]

@@face2lune I get guidance from *Susan Tori Davis* Most likely, the internet should have her basic info..

[@billymadison4903]

Got my life together at 34. I'm now 41. Never been happier

[@mkbriljante]

How? 😇 pls share your story 🙏🏼

[@billymadison4903]

@@mkbriljante sure! Started doing drugs and drinking at about 12 years old. Long story short lived a crazy life for over 20 years. Finally, i got sick and tired of being sick and tired. So on October 11th, 2015...I hit my knees and cried out to God. He heard my cry. A literal weight was lifted off of me that night. Been sober and the start of a different journey since I got off the floor. Not just sober...but a different person altogether. I'm not angry anymore. I'm not jealous. I love life. I went to college and got a degree in substance abuse counseling. It took God to straighten me out. I was a mess.

[@Leonidas037]

@@billymadison4903 hope you stay blessed, love that brief story 🙏

[@billymadison4903]

@@Leonidas037 thank you! Same to you!

[@yasminogbu8929]

That’s right success is so individual

[@DemonRuby]

I'm 34 and a late bloomer. All good things started happening to me after 30. I moved out, my salary increased, started working on myself both mentally, spiritually and physically and I just generally felt MUCH better - more confident, at peace with myself, stopped giving f*cks about lot of things and people, became more outspoken, set boundaries, realized tons of things about life and it just keeps getting better. Now I'm planning to learn how to ride a motorcycle 😂 I'm just living and trying to keep life interesting without any pressure, grand expectations or great goals. Of course we all have ups and downs in life, no matter the age, but the older you get, the less you are stressed about it because you know, this too shall pass.

[@yasminogbu8929]

💫 that helped me get through everything that one saying” this too shall pass “

[@serenityssolace]

Exactly. I am 26 and was trying to get into my university of first choice since I was 19. After 7 years I finally made it and in 4 years I will graduate and find a good paying job, get my own place and things can only get better. I am a late bloomer too so I get your situation exactly. God bless!

[@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223]

You moved out? Of what? Your parent's? I wish I could imagine having parents that didn't use me as slave labor and kicked me out at 18.

[@jaybosher6144]

You'll probably be better of learning to ride now than in your 20s. I'm fortunate that I lived through those adrenaline filled rides at 3 digit speeds. It's an amazing hobby. Get lessons and gear. Don't worry about your first bike, if your really enjoy the sport it will definitely not be your last

[@moonlighthugsandbugs]

Reading this was incredibly inspiring. I'm 26 and feel like I've wasted so much time. Reading comments like yours just makes me feel so hopeful. This is why it's so important to get out of our heads and actually speak to people. I get no one wants to feel ashamed but look at the same space here in the comments?! Love it!

[@thecmritter]

I am a 38 year old Doordasher, living back with my parents right now. Most days I don't believe that life can get better, or that I will ever amount to anything more, but still I wake up at 5 am EVERY DAY, and I get on my computer, and I try to figure out what I'm doing in this life. I haven't seen the fruits of my labor, and don't even think I am close to that light at the end of the tunnel. But I will keep trying until the day I die, and I thank you for your video, and some MUCH needed positive reinforcement today. Again, thank you so much!

[@ashiksaleem360]

You're the man goodluck to you lad

[@mariawoo9463]

Everything will definitely get better for you, because you want to keep trying, and that's the key - your choice of direction in life. Good luck with all the things you plan to do or the things you're doing right now! Just a bit of support from a stranger ❤️✨

[@enriquemontero74]

animo

[@lilone71742]

Life is not a race, as you mentioned you are almost there. Focus on the end of that tunnel and you'll for sure get there! Wishing you the best!

[@Automotib]

Great attitude my friend. I'm 33 and living at home currently too. Figuring out where I'm supposed to be, as well. We are all gonna make it. Keep grinding my man

[@dedzz3799]

Im 32 and homeless in a place far away from home. I took everything for granted and thinking about my mistakes in the past really took a toll on me mentally. Now Im gonna start a job, starting to be hopeful again. We can still do it if we really want to. edit : I'm doing great now guys! I got a new warm home and having complete meals a day. Im so thankful for the great chances I got recently and was so busy. Now I'm planning to pursue or should I say continue my degree. It just proves that nothing is impossible if you really want to. Stay strong brothers👊

[@v-22]

Here's a secret no one will tell you... Anyone over 50 would give everything they have to be 32 and homeless, including Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, Elon Musk, etc. You have something they would give all their fortunates to have, another 20+ years added to their lives. You are richer beyond your imagination, and maybe that is the problem, it's beyond most people's imagination so they can never value while they have it.

[@timgibney5590]

Can you give an update>?

[@Lovelikove23]

You got this 💪❤❤

[@paulthebigfish2626]

Wish you best

[@leonhogan8294]

I wish you All the best keep going don't stop and don't ever give up you got this

[@Lectwar6]

I just turned 30 and am making the changes that needed to be made. Started the changes around 28. I now have a great circle of friends, im about to get my own place, and my career is on an upwards trajectory. Anyone reading this, you can do it.

[@benjaminpayne6355]

What did you start working and focusing on when initiating the change?

[@yasminogbu8929]

Thank you

[@MsabResearch]

God bless man, happy for you :)

[@Lectwar6]

​@@benjaminpayne6355 2 big things. reliability, prioritization. Reliability is time management. showing up to work early, doing things when you said you would, communication, consistency. I focused on improving each of those as the opportunities to came. Hold yourself accountable to those things, and hold those around you to them as well. Second was prioritization and this will always be an ongoing thing. I wasted my time on a lot of things that dont help me at all. I would say i didnt have time to cook or work out, but would come home and doom scroll reddit and youtube for 4.5 hours before going to bed bored. If its not benefiting me, it goes. You wouldnt believe how much time you have to accomplish things until you start removing things.

[@Lectwar6]

@@MsabResearch thanks!

[@toddwilk9465]

I'm now in my early 40. Every decade has gotten better. Now in my 40's I have a great job and life is good. Don't listen to people that say you can't improve your life.

[@TheFlamingPike]

Yep. Beware of people who claim you can't do something.

[@highpineapple]

Exactly. All I ever hear is tons of defeatist talk. Anyone who says there's ever a point in life where it's too late to improve has zero idea what they're talking about and needs to grow up.

[@carpo719]

exactly. They are just the ones who never did anything with theirs!

[@TheRealKimJong-Il]

Any kids at all? Going to have any?

[@crystalsherman8896]

Thanks this is so encouraging

[@jongrotrian5067]

I got out of prison at 31, started a wonderful career at 33 (hired in at $14/hr, now salaried with full benefits), got married at 36, and had 2 kids at 40 and 42. Life seems pretty good to me and I was in prison a little over a decade ago.

[@quishaiesha]

I'm really proud of you story I am really happy for you even though we don't know each other.

[@drarunaj]

Good to hear that..Wishing you more happiness and joy❤️

[@HendersonHinchfinch]

Impressive man. Good for you ✊

[@idi.h5460]

Congratulations and thank you, this made me have hope

[@Bwick115]

You don't know how much of an inspiration your story is to me. I felt like my life collapsed over the past 6 months. I have been battling my own demons and issues and constantly in doubt about trying to break free from my past. If you can make a success and find happiness then why not.

[@christianahooks6369]

Thank goodness you brought this up! Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this later in life. Currently earn as much as 10 grand weekly and this has improved my financial life. Great piece!

[@lampwhite8855]

Do you mind sharing info on the adviser who assisted you? I'm 39 now and would love to grow my portfolio and plan my retirement

[@christianahooks6369]

She's OLIVIA SULLIVAN FINANCIALS

[@lampwhite8855]

i'm amazed by this, it has rekindled the fire to my goal.

[@kevinandrew8932]

Best life changing advice is to pick a good financial mentor and let them guide you towards wealth. This really saves you from loss and time wasting. I am glad I know Olivia Sullivan.

[@harrisontye1680]

I love the the fact that I can advantage of the volatile market and make so much money.

[@beautepley8352]

I was depressed as hell in my twenties, just turned 30 a couple months ago. Joining a group fitness gym changed everything for me. You will do nothing but sharpen your memory & communication skills as well as gain confidence & obtain a healthy habit. Trust me. I've never felt so alive or young. Life is good.

[@theboombody]

I WASN'T depressed, and the gym STILL helped me a lot. It got me away from playing video games too much.

[@ka0tic_estate495]

Agreed. The values that a gym provides is very significant.

[@Kamo27944]

I'm 29 , 30 in month and been struggling with the fact that I don't have my life together. Today is day 1 of trying to improve my life and this is the best video and best advice I have received . Thank you so much ❤️

[@JediWebSurf]

Reminder to keep going. 🙏🏻 You can do it.

[@danghoangluong2942]

All the best, I'm 23 and I'm just starting my journey.

[@beeperez444]

Cheering you on! Going thru the same feeling, i turn 30 in January & procrastinated ALOT. and two days ago was like a switch flipped. We ultimately do decide what our next move is even if it’s difficult, but choosing to take action is the first step. :)

[@Kamo27944]

@@beeperez444 wow thank you for this 🙆

[@kalareviews5871]

Sis... you can do it I support ya

[@andeez_nutz]

I feel like everybody that feels like they wasted their 20's due to depression or other issues needs to take a second to mentally forgive themselves for those years to be able to move forward without all the guilt and extra baggage

[@Chill-mm4pn]

Some of us are now getting help after the fact, but I guess it's better late than never. Wish I could have gotten a diagnosis for my mental health before my 20s but I'm doing better now in my 30s. :)

[@realswobby]

Maybe it's easy like this for neurotypical people but for me it's a constant struggle. I can't just "take a second", forgive myself and done, everything magically changes for better. In every single moment I would have to be aware of my true priorities in life. It's impossible, it will always be.

[@therockgirl15]

❤

[@DrSpaceman42]

Beautiful and very true

[@DavidCeeya]

💯

[@melissamoonchild9216]

I worked my ass off during my 20s, graduated in the top of my class in college, then my entire family died and I've been struggling ever since. I try to find things that make me feel like it's not too late.

[@siberianTiger639]

Stay strong. As the author of the clip said, and other people in some comments, it's truly never too late. You can be in the worst position in the world but you can always move forward. As long as you move forward you'll feel better and you'll realise there are actually more opportunities than you thought. Sometimes you just have to fight and you can't let yourself go.

[@Dang3rMouSe]

Damn. Sometimes life straight up gives you a friendly smile, puts its hand on your shoulder & then sucker punches you right up the guts into the bottom of your lungs knocking the air right out of you, dropping you to your knees & walks away giggling. The question is what do you do from there? Get lost in your own head, daily bad habits & stop taking care of yourself? Or do you decide right now, RIGHT NOW, I'm taking control & going to be proactive, not reactive, & start to create good habits & set goals beginning today. And if the weight of the loss is too much, ask yourself, what would my loved ones say to me? What would they want me to do? Live your best for them.

[@boroboro4294]

Entire family died? Like all at once? I’m so sorry that sounds like a lot for a 20 something to deal with. I hope you feel better soon

[@WaffleKrushaTTV]

I'm so sorry

[@kriuw]

i wish you the best!!! you are a great girl and u will find happines!!!

[@gatz900]

I was making $35k at 35. Now at 40, I am making $150k, own a home and have a kid on the way. Its hard when you are in the thick of being at rock bottom to believe life can turn around, but it absolutely can. You just have to have a concrete methodical plan and be patient. Cut out all destructive friends, addictions, etc and get your health, spending and daily routine straight. The most important thing is to keep learning the skills and knowledge you need to get to where you want to be.

[@daks8888]

I hope I can have a turn out like this.

[@gatz900]

@@daks8888I acknowledge I am very lucky and won't claim it was easy or that it is guaranteed but you definitely can increase the probability of good things happening to you if you set yourself up for success

[@sohelkumarsamantaray973]

Just curious brother..what do you do for living?..and what plan changed your life when you were earning 35k?

[@gatz900]

​@@daks8888nothing is guaranteed and I am no doubt very lucky, but making a plan and following through will at least make your life better in some way.

[@gatz900]

@@sohelkumarsamantaray973 I am in marketing. I quit my job, took some certification courses (which in actually were practically useless but were good to help get my foot in the door) and then started at a low level role in the career field I wanted. I hopped jobs every 1.5 years, which is going to increase your salary faster initially than staying at a place working towards a promotion.

[@mongrelking5667]

I'm 37. I think when you are in your teens or your twenties time seems to go very slowly. Chaging your habits to develop new skills for a couple of years seems like an overwhelming task. In your 30s you realize that 3-5 years is a blink of an eye. You can take that time to develop new skills and completely change the direction of your life.

[@StefanHoffmann84]

So true.

[@nyceexo53]

Also, that time is gonna pass by anyway! Idk why something so small never dawned on me until recently, but I struggled with this when thinking about how daunting going to college for 4 years would be. If those years will pass by no matter what, why not have something to show for it at the end of them?

[@KD....]

Dude, I'm 22 and the last 5 years went by so fast. Life was slow as a kid and a teenager but now life is going by in the blink of an eye. It makes me really appreciate the phrase "Life is short". It really is.

[@mongrelking5667]

@@KD.... Strap in! It's getting faster. 😆

[@TheWolfDude91]

Thats so true mate. I'm 31 now but in my 20s, time went so slow, and you always thought you have enough time to do all the shit you wanna do but in reality, we have no idea wtf we are supposed to do and waste it all on fun and games, now when I reached 30, I actually started to think straight and more serious than before, sometimes get to think like, if I only had this way of thinking back when I was younger.

[@codinginflow]

Man, this comment section is awesome. It makes you realize that the real world looks much different than what you see on social media. I also only started learning to code 1 month before turning 27 (exactly 5 years ago)

[@bistronauta]

Very true. Just found your channel and it seems to be having some interesting content for me, thanks for sharing :)

[@wipidipipaku]

and how did it go? are you a programmer now ?

[@codinginflow]

@@bistronauta thanks bro

[@codinginflow]

@@wipidipipaku yes I am

[@ElliotBrownJingles]

Absolutely true! At 35 I quit drinking, smoking, and completely wasting my potential at a factory job where I'd worked for 10 years and where the last day of work was almost identical to the first. I threw that whole life away and made a big break - not necessarily a clean break but a big, dramatic break. My friends who wanted me to hang out with them and stay drunk were angry and the friends I had who wanted the best for me understood my leaving. I left town. I left everyone. I hit reset. I started out with only the money I could make in busking (which is no more and no less than hustling with a guitar) and odd jobs. But I lived cheap with no need for alcohol, tobacco, and other ludicrous expenses. I bought ten big notebooks, a Parker fountain pen, and started writing. I read James Clear's 'Atomic Habits'. I began waking up at 4 A.M. and running every other morning. I started a study routine. I began making a new, tiny circle of friends who were trying to make their own lives better. I read, diligently, the works of great people of the past. I still do all this on a daily basis and it costs nothing. Now I have new problems but they are the problems of a person progressing, of a person getting better. I am 36 - a year has passed - and I don't recognize myself. I have my own business now and it is growing every day. I was homeless then and my prospects were shrinking every night. I just assumed I was too old to change.

[@TheFxEditor]

What is your business in? How did you change so drastically in one year?

[@ElliotBrownJingles]

@@TheFxEditor I do repair work, painting, and installations on residential properties. Most of my "work" time is spent networking and advertising. A lesson I had to learn quickly was that not everyone is my customer. I only do the highest paying clients now in the richest part of town (unless it is an elderly person, for example, who really does need an urgent job done - then I'll help them out). I managed to change so drastically because of what I've cut out of my life. I had just as much time then as I do now but I wasted every minutes of it proactively. I saw free time as something needing to be filled up. What I've realized is that the progress I'm making now isn't all that amazing - It's the progress I would have been making all along if I didn't have all the obstacles I'd placed in my own way. For example: a year ago if I'd done a small repair job and made, say, $1,000 I would let the news out to my friends. They'd be knocking on my bedroom door within 20 minutes asking where the party's at. It might seem like a stupid problem but that kind of mindset was holding me back. In short: I've cut out all the time-wasting (and it was almost all time-wasting) and I started treating my hours as sacred.

[@stoiccrane4259]

From men we tend to come into our own around our mid 30s. The sooner the better most definitely but once the 30s come creeping in it's like there's an inexplicable paradigm shift that unlocks the drive to do more and become better. For those who aren't frittering their lives away on useless habits that is.

[@rockyp32]

ho w much money

[@rockyp32]

@@ElliotBrownJingles 20 k a month is a lot be content🙏🏼 resd the Bible now g time to secure ur eternal life

[@nell_uhh]

I turn 35 this month and am not happy with where I am in life. Though this video is 2 years old, it couldn’t have popped up at a better time! I was feeling defeated like it too late to pivot and start anew. But this gives me hope. It’s never too late to change the trajectory of one’s life. ❤

[@Thewrongshoes2]

You're not alone at all, I'm 35 in March and wow do I feel so lost and defeted. But you're right this video has helped and given a lot of hope. You've got this! I hope you have a great birthday too 💚✨️

[@nell_uhh]

@@Thewrongshoes2 as long as we’re alive, we’ve got options, and we can change our trajectory. We just have to made the decision, and strive for the life we want. We’ve got 5 more years until we’re 40… let’s grind these next 5 years out so we can coast when we are older. ✨ My daughter’s bday is in March 🥰. I hope you have a great bday as well! 💙

[@Thewrongshoes2]

@@nell_uhh Thank you! Wishing ypur daughter a fabulous birthday as well! And very very wise words! Thankyou for that as well. The time is now, let's GO! 💚✨️

[@annengei2814]

​@@nell_uhh I agree 💯

[@RedaReda-vl9ff]

​@@Thewrongshoes2dont give up

[@mstr293]

31 now, thanks for giving me some ideas! I didn't ruin my life in any illegal way but I did procrastinate and is constantly full of self-doubt.

[@itswildwill]

Same lol 31

[@janedoll3237]

Same. Hopefully things get better for our generation.

[@felin_de_la_nuit]

Lots of 31 year old samessss lol but yeah same ✌🏼

[@JustinDAMusic]

Same boat

[@vowselfington8901]

same 33 next month

[@bhoondiwilliams4700]

I'm 52, I decided to go back to Uni, the struggle is real, but the challenge of learning & the sense of purpose, has given me a new zest for "EVERYTHING" Never too late

[@robertsmith4900]

I’m 29 and I’m terrified of turning 30 and having accomplished nothing but this gave me hope and encouraged me greatly. Thank you, brother. I’m glad you’re doing well now!

[@codzy3532]

well sweetie im 59 be 60 next yr thats scary for me lol

[@caseythompson9561]

You're not alone man.

[@ganduh2367]

Hey Rob. I am feeling the same. And I feel like I'm going to have a meltdown from the pressure after not achieving much in my 20s.

[@KingKalil]

Feel the exact same way bro. I’m 28 about to turn 29 next yr in February and I literally have accomplished nothing adulthood wise ever since I graduated college 3 yrs ago. Despite that I’m still finding ways to enjoy life to the fullest so hang in there

[@deescrete]

Honestly same

[@Jose-gq9bt]

I'm 25 years old, and I've messed up a lot until now. I didn't finish college, stopped attending classes, and at times, I've even thought that my life is beyond repair.

[@callmeandy5402]

relatable, 26 here but same, and dunno what job to get now if i can get any

[@imbored3581]

Almost 24 and this is abt to be me. But im willing to work retail for now but no one is hiring. Idk what to do but im trying to think of something. Also not going back to school b/c I can’t afford to put myself through it anymore

[@DenFreeman]

I wen't back and finished high school at 29, took 3 years. Now, at 35, just graduating university, keep at it bro, make your brothers proud. We believe in you.

[@unbreakableldorado7723]

all the best to you, you still have time and will figure it out! You got this!

[@matthewgregory8218]

As OLP says life is waiting for you, it’s all messed up but we service.

[@godspeedhero3671]

In my experience, it really just takes about 5 years at any point in your life to completey change your tragectory. Just work towards ANYTHING for a solid few years and you'd be surprised where you come out on the otherside.

[@CB-dl1vg]

5 years for the results, very true. But you could realistically completely change yourself in 6 months. You could lose 50 pounds, or get jacked or train for a marathon if committed. You could start on a new career/ moneymaking path. Get a girlfriend. Develop a lot mentally with conscious practice. Within 6 months you could actually be unrecognisable both physically and in your mentality compared to 6 months before, if you follow a disciplined path of progression each week. Keep that going and in 5 years you are literally a different human being

[@MelloProto]

This is my plan. I just started working out, and a lot of the things I’m in have about a 5-year time horizon. I want to upgrade my housing by the end of that and be stronger.

[@RobertBerrier]

Same here. 4.5 years for me

[@apair4002]

True. 5 years is the average to change the direction of your life. Even marriage need 5 years to stabilize especially on financial and get to know each other better. Me took 6 years to improve/optimize relationship between my wife, kids and financial. However its need knowledge, plan, aware and put effort on it. Otherwise those 5 years will succumb you to abyss, no improvement is not good.

[@rendomstranger8698]

Believe me, 5 years is complete overkill. The amount of stuff that can change in a persons life within just 1 or 2 years is insane. 5 years is only needed when you are completely trying to change your career or when you live in the US/another country where working conditions are so terrible that you need 5 years just to have enough free time.

[@jakersaridakis]

Just got accepted into medical school. I'm 33 years of age. Many of the expectations that we enforce upon ourselves are due to a social clock. The truth is that we're all on our own, unique journey.

[@samuelegunlusi1017]

Good job bro that made me feel so much better.

[@ItaliaSicilia18]

I Start Medicina at 30 and also feel old

[@rawminimalist9043]

You got this!

[@destinixshakur]

Congratulations!

[@pearljaime2]

Best of luck

[@brandoncasey7124]

Brother, I appreciate you putting this video out into the universe. I’m 34 years old and I’m at the lowest point of my life. I’ve been a plumber and struggling musician for the last 10 years of my life and neither one of them have gotten me where I want to be. I’ve been spending the last month of my life trying to figure it out and get back on track after losing my girlfriend of 3 years, then my job and house. I’m now to a point where I’ve exhausted all of my savings and just looking for answers. But thank you for putting this out there🙏🏼

[@armyoftwo13]

I’m so sorry to hear what happen to you. I hope you find what you’re looking for.

[@MrNecryptic]

Im in the same place Brandon. Ngl im kinda scared. January i wont be able to make rent or major bills. Time is up now.

[@nmc1859]

You can do it. Things will get better!!! ❤

[@nmc1859]

​@MrNecryptic this is the case for many. Many countries system is corrupt and getting worse. Just time to change our approaches. Look at what you do have (ability to learn or other advantages) and focus on working to your advantage. ❤

[@kellzndacut]

WOW bro its crazy you say this bc i want to be your profession! (become plumber, learn instrument) I have no skills I will be 24 in 2 months, but want to get to where you are, but you feel like going elsewhere. funny how life works

[@TheChaosDragoness]

Some of us lost our childhoods and a good portion of our 20s to trauma, abuse, mental illness, or some combination of the above. This is our time to truly shine, it's never too late.

[@asura8495]

real shit

[@Missmangamariah]

This 😭

[@memfis3858]

Nah, as someone in my 40s I can tell you, it IS TOO LATE to get your life together in your 30s... It just simply is too late lol. You are 31, like ok good, 32, yeh no problem, 33 still fine! 35 pfff easy, 38 nah I am young! 39 and... hmmm shouldn't I have like 3 kids going to school by now....? lol... Too late for love, for family, for children, for carieer change, for everything. Why? Cause at 40s you will be in fkin pain most of of the time, tired, exhausted, bored and you will just give up. And datng a 30 year old is a nightmare.... everyoe is divorced, weird or with kids and debt lmao...

[@SimilyYT]

@@memfis3858 No, it's not too late. You just gave up.

[@memfis3858]

@@SimilyYT Of course. There is no reason to start a family or a new life after 40s lol. You can't even enjoy that. I know some ppl can be happy just cause sun shines, well, some ppl can't. That's how it is. There is "oooh you can be who you want" or "oooh you can fulfill your dream just don't give up" or "uuu life is so beautifull" lol. It doesn't work for everyone. Actualy, I have never a person who managed to have a happy life lol. We all just go to work every day, eat, sleep and then die lmao. So why bother anyway? And after 40, 50, you are just not so sharp anymore, you have pain, sickness, you will fall asleep on your dreamy trip around the world lol... So ya, if you didn't travel around the world in your 30s, you probably never will lol... all other dreams- just the same situation.

[@Kya71887]

I was in a severe car accident when I was 20. Almost died. Lost my fiance in the wreck. I'm 35 and I'm just now getting physically and mentally stable enough to start to get my life together. Thank you for reminding me that I can still get my life together. Further proof to never give up.

[@destinixshakur]

I’m so sorry for your loss

[@grantschaures]

You've got this!

[@Ane127]

What a terrible thing to go through right at the age when we’re “supposed” to be getting our lives together and enjoying the best years of our lives. I can relate although my story is different. I’m happy you’re finally starting to feel better.

[@andresdiaz3012]

True inspiration bro🥹🫡

[@310ws]

Sorry for your loss god bless you 🙏🏿

[@waziotter]

From Sunscreen by Baz Luhrmann: “Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.” I’m 50 in 3 weeks. If I knew what I wanted to be when I grow up I’d be doing it by now. But I’m happy with my life.

[@miramuchachito296]

Thanks for bring me back that! I just love it! "For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young" and the part "get to know your parents" just break me. But trust me on the sunscreen! ( and the floss thing, guys, take care of your tooth! Is painfull and very expensive when you don't) by the way , the author is Mary Schmich "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" is the original text name

[@vakvak-g4f]

bro bought his apartment at 20's and preaching about coaching, BRO u had it easy since the beginning gtfo

[@holyturbinebatman]

The thing with life is that you may or may not get your life "together" before 30. If you did manage to get it together by 30, there's no guarantee that it'll last. You could lose it at any moment. The most difficult part is to accept this fact and work on yourself regardless. Like for me, I had a decent job and was doing fine till a year ago. Everyone including me thought that I had it together. Then the pandemic and other bunch of stuff all came together and wrecked everything. Now, I'm starting from the ground up again. It sucks but meh such is life.

[@l3hxy]

such is life

[@marcelopena3537]

Such, is.

[@godnemesis4355]

@@marcelopena3537 life.

[@RuneCode]

I feel like there's a bit of a blessing in disguise in struggling in your 20s and getting it together after 30. I envied a lot of my friends as I went through my 20s because they were so way ahead of me, but nowadays I see them either being stagnant or panicking over losing something that I'd consider "convenience" rather than necessities. After all, if you've been struggling, the worst you can lose is your life and limb. If you had a successful career and lost it, you probably don't even know/want/can't downgrade towards waiting tables or working retail. It's made even worse by how much our lives are usually lived through debt.

[@NickyDiamond44]

The Buddhists get it right. It’s not about what happens to you. It’s how you deal with what happens to you.

[@CliffDiverBOA]

I'm 28 and have been struggling with getting my life together. I just started learning coding a couple months ago and every time I see people talk about where they started learning coding I get discouraged when they say they started in their teens or early 20s. I start feeling like I'm starting too late to learn. I'm glad I watched this video it made me feel more confident about learning now.

[@jaycarl1562]

Started to learn code at 45 and gave up. Was hard to sit in a chair coding when I worked on my feet my whole life. My wife and I started a Health Care business that has become rather successful. When I think about my coding endeavor it makes me giggle. At 28 your at your prime! You got this bro! Remember, the money you work hard for, try to save as much as possible. That saved us from ruin in 2020. My buddies who financed big houses, cars, boats where all screwed when they lost their jobs. We lived modestly with only our house affordably financed. I was able to take some time to find the next path and had money to invest in whatever endeavor. My foolish friends are now mostly working jobs that would make me want to DIVE OFF A CLIFF...lol...really not funny though...

[@ToroTechie]

@@jaycarl1562 Watching this video and reading ur comment honestly made me feel better. Because even as a 16 year old, I'm always being put down and told by everyone that my future is gone, there's no hope for me. All cuz I have a GPA of 2.8. I know my context is a bit different in this case but knowing that there's hope makes me feel better.

[@Keliiyamashita]

My friend taught himself to code at 30. In 9 months. At the time he already had 3 boys. Now he works for Google! And that was 2 years ago…

[@merccc1]

@@ToroTechie Life is just to be enjoyed, money and career is just to gain the ability to afford the essentials, live more comfortably, and more readily be able to enjoy life. Don't need a ton of money or anything really as long as you enjoy the life you are living and sustain it. Anything extra is just a means to more easily enjoy it. People get too caught up in "what you should do" or competing to be better, but really that is not important unless you are competitive driven and enjoy that anyways. Just my view point, everyone dies anyway. Don't matter if you are extremely rich or have a great job. Just that you enjoyed what you had and appreciated it. Many in such positions are stressed and dreadful because of the pressure and sacrifices to reach and maintain such positions unless they are lucky. Sure they don't worry for money, but everything has it's own problems.

[@thewindozer]

Robots and AI will replace coders soon....automation is going to destroy tens of millions of jobs. Id say by 2030

[@FunkSwaggMusiK]

Im 30 right now. Living at my moms house struggling with depression and finding a job. Some days i struggle to even get out of bed. I myself blew my entire 20s and sometimes feel like its over. Im happy I came across this video.

[@Signal_in_the_noise]

I’m 33 just be glad you didn’t end up addicted to heroin

[@papoopse100]

Where ur father

[@sanaaniz]

@@papoopse100 do you even know yours ? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@papoopse100]

@@sanaaniz OFCOUSRE MY MOTHER GOT A DNA TEST WHEN I WAS BORN 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@Ray.M.12345]

Glad i'm not the only one. Stay strong my friend. ❤️

[@adamimperial5729]

Im 27 and trying a different job and felt like i was job hopping a lot and i feel so insecure, but wasnt lazy i was just lost and unsure of what i wanted and i never listened to myself. Now that i went to therapy it helped me understand that i should just do what i enjoy rather listen to other people or compare myself. Now im going back to school to be an a LPN (practical nurse)

[@trianglesandsquares420]

Do you enjoy being a nurse?

[@alicemuller9386]

To build wealth and gain financial independence. Start Investing, that’s the only true way to accumulate great income and stay rich always. Really spent my 30’s and 40’s lnvesting in stock and real estate. That’s the best decision I made earlier. Lately, discovered crypto now and life feels more good and easier

[@c.k2778]

Nobody wants to take actions, tell someone to start a business with 4000, they will complain it’s too much. Buy a new phone with that same amount, no problem. Watch Netflix 2hr, they would want more episodes. Learn a new skill in 2hrs? No it’s too much. Life is all about choice stop blaming the lack of opportunity.

[@susanharris9648]

I wish I could like this comment a million times. I’m retired and I know the kind of struggle am facing because I didn’t do the needful. My finances are in a mess right now but it's better late than never. Any good tips on investing would really go a long way in shaping my finance.

[@alicemuller9386]

@@susanharris9648 Generally, achieving a productive lnvestment requires a higher knowledge. For this reason, it’s best advised to get a financial consultant who would guide you and be a solid support structure while investing. I operate with a licensed professional and it has been a promising experience with her, so far my lnvestments has always yielded excellent returns. You can achieve a prolific lnvestment too On this note I will recommend (Anna Kristine Services) a Certified consultant who partner with a licensed body of a wealth management firm. You can do quick internet research where I believe you can easily approach her from. Research with her full name mentioned and get in touch with her.

[@susanharris9648]

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[@paul.l6310]

@Diego Ross You are very right, Job will pay your bills, business will make you rich but lnvestment makes and keeps you wealthy. Working with Anna made me understand that the future is inevitable, I'm one step into financiaI independence! thanks to her immense help in growing my finances effectively. Smart work is indeed the easiest key to success

[@drakecarter1780]

30 was my wake up call. Me at 29- no driver's license, no money, lived in my moms house. Me at 31- got my license, got a really good paying job and now own my own home. It can be done. You just need the motivation.

[@renata_mulatta]

That is excellent, Drake! I'm mega proud of you.

[@BEATmyguest31]

You went from no money to owning your own house in 2 years? LMAO 😂😭👍👍

[@drakecarter1780]

@@BEATmyguest31 Covid worked in my favor heavily.

[@Reveri247]

Just turned 29 and am in the exact same place you were. Hope I can start to turn things around soon...

[@djbelic821]

@@BEATmyguest31 maybe got a cosigner 😂😂

[@kbrown4984]

I've spent my late teens, 20s and part of my 30s taking care of my father ( Parkinson's disease) He just passed a couple of years ago. I feel like life has just started for me at 38

[@Barushia]

You have definitly NOT wasted your life!!

[@gilbertmata3335]

You got more strength than half the world.

[@Hannah-um3ri]

That is a very admirable thing you did, some people would have just put their ill parent in a nursing home so please don’t put yourself down about it 😢 May God bless you with peace 🙏

[@cod5testaccount]

May he rest in peace, same happened to my dad this past Purim. Keep on keeping on.

[@SinaFallahMusic]

God bless you. God has got you!

[@Liam-ho9du]

If your currently in your 20s or your just over 18. This video doesn’t justify your degenerate behavior that you may indulge in. You can’t put it off till later, your life starts now. You need to be constantly improving and striving for greater doesn’t matter what age you are. No matter how long your degenerate faze last, it will still be classified as regret in your mind.

[@indrinita]

It took me until my 40s to “get my life together”, and this was after decades of “doing all the right things” beforehand. It literally took decades before I could finally find the right opportunities. Decades of getting educated with multiple “useful” degrees, staying out of debt, drinking, drugs, and finding the right relationship eventually. It still took decades. So even when you “do everything right” for decades, it doesn’t guarantee anything. Luck and being in the “right demographic” unfortunately both play a big part. Both of those things were not necessarily on my side.

[@JasonEllingsworth]

Not saying you aren't an attractive person, but looks pay a HUGE part in what opportunities you have in life. Other peoples perceptions will change of you if you're ugly, and your own lack of self confidence will hold you back as well.

[@FelipeGutierrez-me9th]

@@JasonEllingsworth That´s playing in hard mode

[@dantenage9687]

You're right, i also studied and didn't worked for me, it's more important to know how to make good relationships in the job to make people not hate you

[@indrinita]

@@dantenage9687 honestly, it's more about having the right family contacts, skin colour, the right dangly bits between your legs, privilege and nepotism far more than it is about individual charisma, intelligence or even competence. It's a total myth that we live in a meritocratic society. Decades of "doing everything right" has taught me that.

[@indrinita]

@@Gubers they still all have to work anywhere from 4-10x as hard to get half as far as cishet yt men who probably often just got legacy admissions to top universities without ever really having to work too hard. It seems you've missed that fact, probably because you haven't lived it. And btw many of those kids of immigrants you speak of ARE Americans (or Canadians or whatever) and are part of the domestic born population. They still have to work way harder than the demographics who have it way easier by virtue of things they never had to work for. Let's put it this way: if a person of colour (regardless of where they were born - btw something that's never questioned of yt people), especially a woman or non-binary person of colour with a disability spent years on drugs, dropped out of school or made the kind of life mistakes the person making this video is talking about, there's absolutely no way that society would even give them a chance to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" - a nonsensical notion in the first place. They'd have no way "coming back". We're not even allowed to make mistakes. Not a single one. A cishet yt man who made the same decisions and worked as hard as I have done in my life would be far more statistically likely to be in a completely different (i.e. more successful) place in life, instead of merely middle class.

[@cretinousswine8234]

I’m 31. I lost my 20’s to depression, isolation, and anxiety. Recently discovered I have avoidant personality disorder, and now the course of my life makes so much sense and I feel I have a starting point for change

[@IPSITA1000]

Same 💯 but now i am doing much better

[@Mattiedamacdaddy]

Actually have the same story 31, played games and isolated myself, and just met with a therapist about Avoidant personality disorder

[@vauths8204]

Oh shit me too but mix in some failed relationships that kept me complicit for large chunks at a time. I too now know I have depression and avoidant personality. It's been a powerful tool just knowing what your fighting. I'm now educating myself in pharmacology

[@danigar]

This sounds just like me! I haven't diagnosed yet, planning on seeking help soon but I may have the same disorder. I completely isolated myself and now in late 30's it feels absolutely hopeless.

[@In_time]

What kind of job do you have?? I’m struggling between finding a job and finding the right job. I dread everyone.

[@jakeweden1208]

If you're aware that you're wasting your 20s/30s whilst in your 20s/30s- You're probably going to do great things.

[@kcp4444]

I screenshotted your comment! I’m going to need this lol

[@Kya71887]

@@kcp4444 Same here. Me too.

[@wandererrrrrr]

omg thank you

[@CynthiaBonacossa]

​@@kcp4444 me too

[@motivefactoryy]

I do. But don't know where to start.

[@kakai7640]

I'm 33 , getting back to college again, i hope i can make it .

[@dpbass8898]

I think having some patience really goes a long way. A lot of people want things now and overestimate what they can do in 6-12 months but they underestimate what they can do in 5-10 years.

[@th3azscorpio]

Ive learned its better to underestimate, rather than overestimate. The times I underestimated, I ended up accomplishing more than I intended. When I overestimated, I always ended up short.

[@MatchaRam3n]

Because there are many "inspirational positive" post of "super successful" people achieving something big in few years or even few months.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

Yes, people don’t understand the time and effort put into accomplishing these things. Some people it’s takes less time but that is only because of their environment most of the time. They are around the right resources or have the right support.

[@fortheloveofnoise]

Getting your life on track and having ADHD is very hard.... especially if you don't take the medicine like I don't.

[@kassiascipio8795]

And the time it take thinking about it....u cudnve already finished it.

[@octopusxoctopus]

I think for our generation the 20s are the like the new “teen years” with more freedom of choice, which makes us confused and lost. For the previous generation, you had a house and a family at 25. You had maybe 4 options of career. Now it’s like 30s are the new 20s. Money also changed its value. We have to explore more in search of a direction. I’m soon to get into my 30s and feel a lot more grounded. 20s was a mess struggling with undiagnosed depression and adhd. Went to study electrical engineering at 20 without having any clue of the work it takes. Still studying for that Bsc, for almost a decade, which takes regularly 4 years. But now at 29 it’s the first time I cope with my problems. Learnt a lot during those lost years. Stabilized after a few setbacks with a long term relationship and friends I met because of those lost years. Learnt to set boundaries for myself and others. Maybe not academic achievements and financial security, but I gained a lot in my 20s. We need to reframe our definitions for success and value in life.

[@quazar1498]

Yessssss this

[@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893]

Yes! So many people think financial security means you have your life together. Ive learned being the same age that no one really has their life together even if it appears so

[@alexhauser5043]

@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 If I had ten million dollars, all of my problems would disappear. I could afford decent lodgings in any city in Europe, find an attractive partner, have all of my health problems treated, and devote my life entirely to work that I enjoy. The only thing more valuable than money is the grace of God (assuming there is a God).

[@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893]

@@alexhauser5043 Thats a big if. Nobody in this world is without problems. Life happens even if you have alot of money. Maybe you have marital issues, issues with your children, estranged parents, anxiety, depression etc. Money doesnt save you from life happening.

[@alexhauser5043]

@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 Money saves you from the drudgery of the 9-5 grind, from hunger, from exposure to the elements, from chronic pain and illness, from sexlessness - in brief, from (real) pain. I won't die of a broken heart or because mommy didn't hug me often enough.

[@cmax4488]

I absolutely blew my 20s. Made a lot of money, spent it all on drugs and booze. Lost everything. Had to start over. I'm 2 years sober and turned 34 yesterday. Thanks for the video.

[@H.O.M.E.LANDER]

Still you had some life and good vibes in your 20s. I have nothing, it's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket. I never know how a normal life in 20s feels like. Because i never had

[@tempesttking5715]

❤

[@zitofan4life]

I’m in the same boat as you were OP. I’ve been clean for a few months now staying at my moms. Trying to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life.. don’t have any college completed but would consider going back to school . any advice in general?

[@druryzymo8195]

Awesome!!

[@StrasznySaTaN666]

Sounds so familiar. Got money from crypto, put all into drugs and booze, got into bad bad relationships with evil people (this one fuckin girl dude, shes the worst). Im 28, started putting the puzzles together again, like 6 days sober, but by God bro, i swear we are all gonna make it.

[@ProTroll69]

Bro bought a house in his 20’s and said he’s a loser. We aren’t in the same league 😂

[@CounterCultureCantCount]

I didn't party, do drugs or got lazy in my 20s. I actually worked and did everything I was told but nothing came out of it...

[@atmosrepair]

Yeah that's very common too. You do everything right, work hard, stay disciplined and yet, you're not getting ahead. In fact maybe you overwork yourself, pushing too hard, breaking yourself down, thinking that this will be the way to get rich and make it! Bit really you just try too hard, overwork, lose relationships, miss out on life itself, caught up in the rat race. "Working more hours, to buy things you don't need, to impress people you don't like."

[@SuperKeithers]

XD

[@conservativelogic7028]

Doing what's right is the bare minimum standard. You participated, and got a participation trophy out of it. Don't really know what else you expected. Success is not for everyone, there has to be losers like you out there to give meaning to the word "success." If everyone was successful, then nobody would be.

[@SuperKeithers]

@@conservativelogic7028 XD

[@inspiringothers7197]

You believed the lie humans have been sold for the past few centuries.

[@Mista_Cassla]

I'm 35 and my youtube channel is finally getting to where I want it to be where I can almost be full time! Eventually I'll be able to make enough to be pretty comfortable financially. But if I could do things over again I would save money, and work on my passion WAY earlier whatever that would of been.

[@jaysantana3078]

Get a llc start a bss, invest in stock it’s never too late . Ppl are just too comfortable to get to the money

[@harrydickinsider5848]

So Mista Cassla, how much money do you make with 158k subscribers??

[@harrydickinsider5848]

@@jonplaud Nothing is wrong with him. I looked at his channel and seen how many subscribers he had and wanna know how much his channel brings in.

[@JohnDee633]

Same age, I wish I would’ve found my passion in my 20s and worked towards it then. I waited until my 30s but I see the years of experience I missed out on. Definitely

[@JohnDee633]

@@jonplaud nobody is complaining, I think you read something wrong somewhere

[@jizamurai]

Similar story. Was completely lost in my 20s, worked tons of different retail, service and call center jobs into my 30s and began struggling with severe episodes of existential depression. Finally made enough money to go to a coding boot camp and am now 37 and about 1 year into my career as a Python developer. Never going back! 👍

[@booAHHHH]

Dude! I’m looking at doing the same thing. 35 and learning to code.

[@hannahwatkins7992]

Did you finish the coding camp? Have you started working as a developer?

[@umcara9921]

@@hannahwatkins7992 he did, he's working as a Python Developer!

[@Farkham]

I'm 33 and turning 34 in a month or so. My life is absolutely miserable, i did everything wrong and closed myself hard to everything for the last 10 years or so. Never finished anything i did and now i'm in the middle of a serious anxiety disorder, fear of death, of where i am, of my parents dying. Its rough, but i'm trying hard to learn coding, got into a psychiatrist, a psychologist. God thiis is rough and i never though a video in the internet would be something that help me, even if just a bit. But thank you.

[@acro7]

keep pushing man. the human spirit is indomitable

[@RexGamingDE]

it gets better but its hard hope you get this

[@PoisonelleMisty4311]

Success is subjective

[@Zoonofski]

Dropped out of high school due to social anxiety, spent my 20s drinking, smoking and working minimum wage. Now in my 30s, studying engineering and science at university and crushing it.

[@hanfei6871]

Love it! Don't stop winning!

[@kentajin7860]

@@hanfei6871 don't stop winning?

[@yasminogbu8929]

Awesome 💫

[@loveismylanguage9162]

Yessss

[@lisa_m3x.]

This is me.. I struggle with social anxiety every day. I turned 30 back in April, and I’m gonna be going back to school. I have so many things I want to get done & accomplished. So glad I am deciding now is the time. ❤

[@Pawhustler]

the problem isn't not having you yourself together in your 20's, its having things fairly ok and being content with that. and when you get to your thirty's, it falls apart at some point and you see it for what it really was.

[@webstime1]

Right, like feeling you're winning the race when you're actually the last one.

[@Chill-mm4pn]

Hell I started from nothing in my twenties and ended in a much better place in life now in my mid thirties. In your twenties everything is messed up because well that's life. We dont know where we are going, what should we have accomplished by that point...but life is moving too fast! You're working jobs you don't like until you find something that's pretty decent and pays more. I had my existential crisis in my twenties so everything is the opposite on my end but I can empathize. Hope y'all feel better.

[@richireach]

this guy has so many skills, be a doctor, astranout, nurse, teacher, student, and now motivator ...respect to this guy

[@DenerWitt]

I think you got the wrong guy there, but who knows what he is doing on the late hours lol

[@fernleafie]

@@DenerWitt i think you missed the joke, the guy looks a lot like a porn star that plays a lot of different roles and thats what OP is saying by all the different skills haha

[@yourworstnightmare1488]

​@@DenerWitt R/ woooosh

[@Drobexxx]

you forgot plumber

[@BlueCheckThanos]

I think he was also a cop, firefighter, pro goalkeeper

[@gordonfreeman-g5w]

I just turned 33, I'm doing now what I should've done 10 years ago but I was too retarded at the time, didn't know what the fuck I was doing. I think I'm not going to be successful until I'm 40. Stuck in jobs I despise. But this is literally the only card I have left, unless I miraculously win lotto or something. Life is tough but I'm still thankful for it.

[@ogre14t1979]

I switched careers late in my 30's from Corrections to IT. I went back to school at 37 for a B.S. in Comp Sci, and started working as a dev and later moved into Cybersecurity. It's been all upward movement and has been great.

[@omarsadiqee853]

Congrats man!

[@mrgannon]

What made you switch from Dev to CyberSecurity? Is it less stressful? Pay more? etc.

[@VadimBolshakov]

I've been for 12 year in IT now. It outsourcing sucks as hell, one project looks the same as other. Money is OK I guess, but I'm stressed all the time from micromanagement

[@faikerdogan2802]

oh hey, iam trying to get into cybersecurity as well. applying to jobs and all that jazz. please let me know if you have any advice

[@rfarrr2817]

I'd like to talk to you

[@CliffGaribay]

32 yo loser here after wasting my 20's chasing get-rich-quick schemes and getting lost in vices. Got my 1st job as a web dev 3 months ago so I can turn my life around.

[@jasminecontreras7341]

You’re not a loser! Losers never get it together. You’re getting it together

[@siddhantrana2796]

@@jasminecontreras7341 How Old Are You ? Assuming You Are Old As Most Viewers I Would Like To Ask You What Advice You Have For A Man Turning 20 In About 6 Months Who Is Trapped In This Thinking That His Life Is Beyond Repair ?

[@siddhantrana2796]

What Advice You Have For A 20 Year Old Man After Your 20s Experience?

[@DagnirRen]

@@siddhantrana2796 First advice is to change your mindset from being a boy to being a man. You’re not a 20 year old boy, you’re a 20 year old man. Maybe a “manchild” who enjoys video games and action figures like me, but a man nonetheless…

[@DagnirRen]

@@siddhantrana2796 also, my advice is to finish college if it’s free in your country or if your family helps you pay it. Get into tech sales, learn something you like or you seem interested in, such as an instrument, woodwork or even 3D sculpting and animating. Once you learn the basics, start a youtube channel and upload as you learn. That’s what I’m doing on other accounts I keep secret.

[@quincylarsonmusic]

I dropped out of high school and spent a couple years scrubbing toilets at Taco Bell before I realized I needed to come up with some sort of plan for life. It is never too late to regain control over your life, and I'm so grateful you did. Thank you for being so open and for sharing your journey so unflinchingly. It's a big inspiration to me and many other people in the developer community.

[@abualasif]

Wait, I know you...

[@philipk883]

Hol up, you the one who emails me regularly about coding. Thanks yo

[@CommieCat]

Your newsLetter is the shit. Keep it up!

[@fabririvera1631]

what a legend, thank you

[@edith918]

Wait... You must be the free code camp guy!!! Wow very inspiring!!!

[@Noctem0wl]

My heart almost jumped out of my chest when I read the tittle but this video helped me not to see myself as a complete failure. I'm 26 and I haven't done anything with my life because I lost passion for life and the things I used to love. I thought it was depression but yesterday I had my first therapy session and they made me realise that maybe it's all in my head and I just need to change the way I think.

[@fafster6439]

I can relate to your post. I'm in my 30s and started on a career change but got hit with major depression and been working through that. I know when I'm better I'm energetic and ambitious but that side of me isn't back yet. Well done for going for therapy and getting help. You're going to be ok. Like you said, a new perspective can change everything. Taking steps forward no matter how small and trying not to beat yourself up about the past

[@timgibney5590]

I was 26 when I started my change. It took many years until I hit 31 before I got my degree and then had to take entry level jobs to build my resume. Life is not an on switch. When you start to get passions you will find it is a dimmer and over 10 years it slowly increases. My passion was to prove people wrong that I was a loser who with ADHD was restarted when I was 26. It fueled me and I went to a community college to take just 2 courses I would enjoy. I get straight A's! Those credits are transferable to a state university btw. I worked crappy side hustles and kept at it with school and kept going and going. You can do it. I proved my naysayers wrong. Maybe if that doesn't motivate you find something else. Win at something! Do you love cars? Take a mechanic cert program with several courses and work at a corvette dealership. Love fashion? Go take art courses and apply after 2 years to a fasion institute. You get the picture

[@PoisonelleMisty4311]

**Success at Any Stage:** Success is subjective and can be achieved at any stage of life. Whether it's personal fulfillment, professional accomplishments, meaningful relationships, or other forms of achievement, success is not restricted by age but rather by dedication, effort, and resilience.

[@soratamia]

I'm 31 as well, soon to be 32. Life absolutely fucked me since birth. Illness, Death and Loneliness was at every corner. Now I'm working odd jobs as well with no particular learned skill. It's good to know I sitll have options left and I'm glad learning to code is the right thing. I just want to "arrive in life". Not turn over every fucking penny. I hope I can say something else in 1-2 years. Thanks for the vid, Dorian.

[@pete_99]

@soratamia you got this. 👊

[@magnefficientgaming4327]

im 30

[@Hectectica]

I'm rooting for ya.

[@pisse3000]

Best of luck. I believe in you ❤️

[@sbarter]

I started your journey at 31 too. 34 now and finally got my first legit dev job. It is possible.. and I could've done it sooner if I wasn't such a lazy bastard. stay on the grind and start networking now. and don't waste a year on machine learning like I did.

[@inactivebfa.]

I’m 22 right now and already feeling like a failure. There’s so much social pressure these days and it seems like everybody has it all figured out. But this video is so encouraging. Thank you. I have hope

[@CrystalRaye]

The first lesson in adulthood is realizing that NOBODY has it figured out. "Success" is just a mask we wear to make others think we know what we're doing when in fact we're all just silly little apes on a dust mote hurdling through infinite space trying to make meaning out of it all.

[@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223]

Those who seem like they have it figured out- are trying to fool you. And it's working.

[@KD....]

I'm also 22. I've always felt pretty bad about myself because it seems like I'm so far behind everyone else. I haven't learned how to drive yet, let alone got my license. I haven't graduated high school. I don't really have a lot of knowledge about life. I haven't been in a relationship yet. But I realized that life isn't a competition. Everyone moves at there own rate. As long as I accomplish the things I need to it doesn't matter if I'm a few years behind others, and I've realized more than ever that I'm not the only one in my position and I have time to do the things that i need to get done, but I also have to stop procrastinating.

[@TheBanjoShowOfficial]

No one has anything figured out. Life is a time spent pretending to have things figured out when no one really knows why they're doing anything when you dig deep enough into their motivation. Often times the root of most motivation really is as shallow as- "because I want more money to be happy and stress-free." This is a naive mindset. I'm 21.

[@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223]

@@KD.... I'm 29 and haven't got my license or finished high school. I don't have a job and I live with my parents... Everyone is somewhere.

[@aaronwest1055]

Grew up fatherless, mother was hardly there either. Hated by my siblings, extended family was largely indifferent. Had to piece my life together and teach myself everything. Just hit 30 and I’m pretty much looking at a life wasted on depression, issues with childhood trauma and little accomplished. I really needed to hear this. I’m trying to apply for law schools this year and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.

[@HansenFT]

You taught yourself everything, essentially raising yourself. Not really wasting time, even if it feels like that.

[@amor797]

Went through something similar!! Very dysfunctional family, had addicts and violent parents we were seperated from. They never cared to takes us back and do better. Social services failed us!!! Lived with family members we were neglected and always fend for ourselves. I never was a normal kid, always kept to myself. Couldnt keep friendships or relationships due to traumas, lack of confidence or trust. Wasted many years just trying to survive, not doing much. Fingers crossed youll succeed!!

[@NikeRunner210]

Good luck, don’t quit

[@perseus431]

Hope you are right, im 38 and have achieved nothing due to severe mental health issues, and im desperate to turn things around.

[@IrateMoogle]

Same boat, I'm 39 and wasn't able to leave the house for a couple of years due to persecutory delusions. Moved back in with my parents at 30 and still there, probably will be until I inherit the house.

[@maximumjesus]

I just turned 40 and waisted most of my 20's and 30's. I got a bachelors in Psychology but I spent the last 8 years working the night shift at a boarding school. Staying up and night and watching TV was basically my job. It was super easy but I felt like I was waisting my life. Last year I started trade school for HVAC. It feels wierd to start completly over from scratch at 40, but it's better than waisting my whole life at a crappy job forever.

[@pikachukush8067]

How good is the HVAC business?

[@IMABEAST191]

All skilled trades are booming right now!! And there is a massive shortage. If you are handy picking up a skilled trade is easy money even if your in college and working on you main career. A skilled trade quick money. I know handy Men that make over 100k a year.

[@Pssst.ByTheWay]

Much strength and Perseverance to you I’m going for a new start at 39 and I am absolutely scared shitless but working my previous crappy job would have just continued its slow process of wearing down the soul and if the soul dies the body doesn’t take long to follow 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪

[@unknownuser4816]

Wasted*

[@nicolette1375]

Whoever you are thank you. This mirrors my life. I got my bachelor's in my 20s. Worked crappy jobs in 30s. Finally got the confidence to go back to school for nursing in my late 30s. I'm still not there yet, but I'm trying and I feel way more confident now. Thank you💗

[@w87g8765]

It's not uncommon to see people actually start their career in their early 30s and get their life on track. You still have like 30 years to work until you retire when you are 60 years old, let alone most people don't really retire in 60 these days.

[@donaldlyons17]

I know people who had s**t jobs most of their working lives and you know they ended up broke depending on s.s. and a pension. They are not financial free but I wish everyone good luck.

[@thelegendofthem6120]

Alot of people I work with are above 60 and they don't slow down. People don't have to retire even at 60, some work until they die because they enjoy it.

[@donaldlyons17]

@@thelegendofthem6120 My mom doesn't want to work and my dad just retired!!!! I will be working later and at an older age than both of them. So I don't think your experience is super typical. To me people who want to work 40 hours a week till death must be in the minority!!! Good for you though but with the younger generations I think your current experience will be the norm!!!

[@thelegendofthem6120]

@@donaldlyons17 minority is suppose but I'll never go hungry or homeless praise God.

[@jessicagomez1760]

20s is the stage to be lost/depressed/etc as soon as I got to my 30 years I am finally figuring what I want and I am extremely excited for the future. Dont give up💐

[@H.O.M.E.LANDER]

I'm in my mid 20s, i never know how a normal life in 20s feels like, because i never had. It's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket 💀💀

[@brendendavis8596]

Im 29 and im finally having a bit optimism something i havent had for 10 years

[@KnittingPasta]

Lucky. I'm 34 and still lost. Even got a bachelor's degree at 25.

[@gnomodagrecia]

How'd you find your vocation? I can't find mine. The things I like (soccer, gym, games) can't really see a career in them...How to discover? 😢

[@hannah-6080]

​@KnittingPasta me too. I got a bachelor's degree finished age 22. Now age 28 I work as a janitor and I feel like I'm drowning. I'm smart but I can't get over social anxiety. Feels like a waste of a life but I need healthcare to heal and to get healthcare I need money and to get money I need healthcare... I dont want to be negative but I just rly want to blow my brains out a lot of the time

[@erhanfindik254]

Being a US citizen must be an important advantage, when you wanna turn your life around at any age. Nothing seems possible in a third world country. Enjoy the life for the rest of the world too.

[@grahamblack1961]

I've got a friend who spent his 20s and much of his 30s playing in bands that went nowhere. In his late 30s he started a masters in computer programming, now he's earning a fortune.

[@talentnetwork7275]

has he a degree or a previous knowledge of the field?

[@givolimyerukim]

@@talentnetwork7275 he started a masters - masters comes after a BA, BA is first degree, so yeah that person has the second degree in Computer sceince(Masters in cs)

[@grahamblack1961]

@@filmbuffoon If you showed enough aptitude and knowledge, it's possible. Ed Witten went from a history degree straight into postgraduate physics. Although Ed Witten is a genius.

[@TheJimbo1791]

Is he happy?

[@shabrethajennings7291]

Gives me hope I'm almost 40 I squandered my prime years lesson learned. Working to turn my life around sometimes its gets discouraging once you start getting older. As a kid I used to think when I saw people 40 plus why are they stuck in the same position. Well now I understand alot more we all have our reasons, sometimes you gotta learn the hard way. But if you're still breathing and have all your senses then get it together before you get too old to do so. Best of luck to everyone who are very late bloomers!

[@JohnScigulinsky]

I spent 30 years of my life doubting myself and thinking I'm not worthy of doing what I want, being happy, making my own choices (had to do with my childhood and type of parenting I received). I went to exactly 2 therapy sessions - and on the first one, the therapist told me I suffer from "learned helplessness". It blew my mind that I'm still acting and feeling as a 10 year old, not doing things because "of course I can't do them... what would my mother/father say? I'm not even gonna try, I'm sure I'd fail anyway". She told me next time those thoughts come into my mind, I should stop them and say "I dare to do xyz". No matter what it is, don't be afraid to do it, to try it, to fail at it, because the true failure is giving it up before even trying. I moved halfway across the world, I re-focused on an IT job I was kind of floundering at, I started learning Unreal engine programming and am making my own game. I might fail, but I'll know that just by trying, I've already succeeded in all the ways that count. I dared to be happy, or to at least go for a chance at happiness. It's not easy, but at least now I know that I can try to do different things until I find something that works for me and makes me happy, rather than stay in the same slump and never try.

[@athena3865]

I listen to John Moyer's work nearly everyday; it is life changing. He has been there too; he is now a professional hypnotist. Highly recommend.

[@ahancho]

thank you for your honest comment telling your experience. I also suffer from the same "learned helplessness" but wasnt sure how to articulate it until your comment. might have been small, but your comment has helped me reach clarity on it, thank you

[@gbear2253]

It’s never to late!! In my teens and twenties I did drugs, went to jail, hooked up with many many random guys, had kids, and worked as a stripper at dead end clubs. I’m going to turn 40. I now have 6 kids, got my GED, and am working as a high end masseuse at a private parlor! I make A LOT of money serving vip and special clients

[@antonija2302]

The same thought's here. For me the challenge is that I don't know what precisely I should go for and not having stable job or place giving me even more instability with that...

[@mandeep3.14]

Wow, relatable. I don’t feel like I can do anything, I don’t know what I want and that if I do try I’ll fail. It’s a perfectionist, inexperience and self-esteem issue.

[@dejanvranic8833]

At the age of 16 the war started in Bosnia. I was living as a civilian in a warzone for 1.5 years.Many people I knew where killed. At the age of 18 I moved to Norway with my parents. Lived in a refugee camp for 2 years. At age of 20 I started at Norwegian high school. I didnt speak the language, I suffered from PTSD, I was very depressed. I tried to take my life. But I didn't die. I started to work incredibly hard and work my way back. Started practicing martial arts, that helped me a lot. Finished the high school at age of 24 with very good grades in a foreign country. Got a good job in a private company, but quit at age of 26 because I wanted to study. Started at the University. My father got cancer, my mother became a alcoholic. Quit university to help mum and dad for 1 year.. Got back to university and studied for 5 years. Met a nice girl, but it didnt work out. at Age of 32 finished my degree and started to work in a social service helping other people who had problems. My mother alcohol problems got worse, but dad survived cancer. At age of 35 I got very bad again. This time because off my mothers alcohol problems. I spent the next 8 years getting psychological help. Realized I have spent all my life helping other people but never taking care of my self. I never got married, never owned my own house or apartment And here I am now at the age of 47. Trying to start all over again and build on the experiences and the wisdom I have developed. And I know I will succeed and my life story will be even more amazing to tell. 🙂 If I can give you a piece of advise; don't give up. You are capable of much more then you think.

[@bardwiththeeternalluck7087]

Hello, is it possible for me to contact you in some way? Your story is such an inspiration for me, especially from where I'm at.

[@heladds]

I don't know if this means anything to you .. ur story has touched me and made me feel understood like no one has ever been able to I am 46 years old in the same boat similar background ... Palestinian. thank you for sharing your story... u helped me today and that I am so grateful for

[@dejanvranic8833]

@@heladds It means a lot, thank you. Take care. Maybe this video can give you some motivation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fqSuiKJ5f5iYp5Y

[@heladds]

@@dejanvranic8833 thank u... just saw it... great share

[@2014andon]

That is a success already. Helping other people. Not everyone is capable of doing that. Dejan, much respect to you and I know your wisdom and kindness will serve more people in this world.

[@322-Dota2]

only idiots define success with working and making money.

[@mnpry87]

I struggled a lot in my early and mid twenties. Went back to school at 27 for engineering, graduated at 32, got a good job, now finishing my masters and just turned 35. We got our house last year and have a baby on the way in the next few months. What changed for me was surrounding myself with the right people. Starting with a good mentor and putting aside bad relationships with "friends" and toxic GFs. Surrounding yourself with good people that enable you to be your best self can make a world of difference. Makes it so much easier to challenge yourself to be the best you can be and succeed.

[@Steven-ik6xx]

how did you balance school and work full time? I tried this semester and it was impossible, I failed every class.

[@LibbyKay24]

Do you have college debt?

[@mnpry87]

@@LibbyKay24 I don't, I paid for junior college out of pocket (cheap), then had several grants and scholarships that paid for undergrad. My masters is paid for by my employer

[@mnpry87]

@@Steven-ik6xx it's NOT easy that's for sure and definitely getting harder now at the tail end of the masters. It was helpful that my wife could pick up on tasks to help loosen the slack and was very supportive. Honestly though what really got me through it was I wanted it more than anything. I did not see failing as an option. I scheduled my days in advance with every second of my week planned ahead. I'd ask professors if they could assign homework an extra week in advance so I could get ahead wherever I could, etc. Lots of little tips and tricks but it's mostly a mental game. I'm seeing that now especially since I don't really like grad school and am already making a decent salary doing what I set out to. Mentally it's much more challenging me to force myself through the rough patchs.

[@MrErick2391]

Wow brother just like the video you’re an inspiration for me. I’m going back to school at 28 for finance and want to get my masters afterwards, I’m glad I’m not the only one going back a little later in life. Please any advice for help would be good, congrats on all your hard work 👍🏽

[@artiemorales637]

This is the content that’s needed, turned 30 in September and studying to become a software dev and change from IT support which I’ve done for 5 years + Thanks for this Dorian!

[@andonir.6320]

Lol same boat. 3 years IT support, now 29. Good luck man!

[@dabiz4272]

I mean at least it's not like a Night and day type switch. Ur good

[@IrredeemablyEvil]

Best of luck!

[@anantamawinstead5894]

@@andonir.6320 Same, kings!

[@my-dev]

IT support is the same as being a System Administration? I'm studying to be a developer as main job and I'm also interested as being a SysAdmin as a secondary job... any opinions?

[@chrisbarton4874]

I turned 30 a couple of months ago, just like to say going through the comments have actually helped alot, lots of people achieving things after wasting thier 20s like me, so thank you guys

[@kellzndacut]

im 23, turning 24 in feb. wasted my teens/ early 20s. now i have to turn up and get my ish together or i feel like i never will, any advice?

[@chargrave3792]

save your money, plan trips instead of going out every night, learn how to cook itll make it cheaper (kinda), and last if something you want while youre out hasnt happened before midnight, just go home and try again later save you the headaches.@@kellzndacut

[@RedaReda-vl9ff]

​@@kellzndacutdont give up my bro,i wish you a really good life

[@opticalman6417]

what people call geting your life together is noting more than conforming to society expectation we didnt come to this world to live up to society expectations we came here to be are selfs so where every your at in life dont guilt trip your self in to feeling bad becuase that serve no one just make peace with where your at

[@starplushworld]

I'm 29. For me, I delt with depression a lot in my 20's, because of not having a support system in my family. Until I realized, I was wasting my time trying to get emotional support from my family, I had to find other ways to motivate myself, and it worked ☺️

[@vahangrigoryan768]

The same. I'm 29. Just started to heal from depression several months ago. Life is a wonderful thing without depression

[@manosijroy8282]

I am a 21 year old guy who will be turning 22 this December and I messed up my college life. I am an electronic engineering student and previously I had failed in some subjects in 3rd semester and 5th semester and again in one subject in a 7th semester subject. Thankfully I managed to pass in those previous semester subjects in which I failed but I failed in one of my last semester subject too so I can't even graduate this year and can only write the exam in Feb 2023 and only after passing it, I can get my degree certificate and will graduate. My results were out in August 2022 and I still haven't told about it to my parents about it as I am too scared. I am planning to do my MBA either in my country or even abroad but I am a bit worried because I haven't got my degree certificate yet as I failed in that last semester subject. I wish I could go back in time and tell the 19 year old me to concentrate in studies and not fail in the subjects.

[@N19HTBR33D3R]

I'm 47 married & father of 2 looking for a career change due to a work related injury. I'm scared shitless, I'm glad I came across your videos, they're a great motivational tool to keep going. I don't know if coding is right for me but I'm willing to give it a go. Thanks for what you do brotha, stay blessed!

[@RedBricksTraffic]

I wasted my 20s and most of my 30s, but I'll be damned if I let the same happen in my 40s. Getting my shit together and the tender age of 37.

[@AlexG-tp2ik]

36 here brother. You're not alone. We got this!

[@migueld8970]

Likewise, I kicked a 13-year coke addiction at 36. 2,5 years clean and I just got a 100K investment for an app I programmed from scratch,. It's definitely possible.

[@philippemts88]

I have the same feeling. I'm 30 and I wasted most of my 20's with depression. Hope next year I will be at university and everything will be different. Focus on the future.

[@anticorruptionagenda5106]

Get an ok job to be able to play video games , go to GYM the club and pay my rent! This is gold to me "so get my life together" is good but i don't really know what that means....

[@TwistedLullabies]

I would've ended my life at that point

[@felixsandoval8502]

I'm 29 making around $200 a month from Nicaragua, learning english and code, living with my parents, feeling like a looser. Rejected in many jobs for not having what's required for the position. I know how it feels, in my case I wasted my twenties trying to be master of all trades, being the ethernal student. But this video really helped me to continue and never give up. Thanks.

[@scottandrewhutchins]

I earned a bachelor's degree at 23, a master's degree at 29, was in the emergency room for my back two weeks later, and became homeless at 36 through no fault of my own--simply a lack of responses to my job applications and being told that I can't have Disability because there is no physical reason that I can't do a desk job.

[@scottandrewhutchins]

@@LittleRedMoon16 Living on a housing voucher, but still poor and very unwanted.

[@MusicMAAD]

@@scottandrewhutchins Seems so cruel what you've gone/are going through. Back pain is no joke and the system is so unfair. Hope things turn around for you!

[@scottandrewhutchins]

@@officialrivv Most jobs I can physically do demand a college degree in their postings.

[@alisonl5127]

@@scottandrewhutchins didn’t you say you have bachelors and masters?

[@scottandrewhutchins]

@@alisonl5127 Yeah, but employers don't seem to care.

[@NFSMAN50]

I'm 26 and I've been feeling this way, I work minimum wage, living at home with parents, I have a college degree, but no full time 9-5 job, I was unemployed for 2 years, feeling like a bum and failure, seeing everyone my age getting engaged, married, having children, buying houses etc, made me feel behind in life. I started to feel like an adult at 24 and I'm growing now. I would say things are getting better for me now, I've matured and grown up. Life is not a race but a journey, I'm applying to full time jobs and I'm saving money too.

[@Msterri4u]

You’re still very young. There’s hope! My daughter is 25 and was recently fired from Amazon and still lives at home. She’s been wanting to go to school so she just enrolled and will be starting in September. Sometimes things happen for a reason. Good luck!

[@skromnyasha]

I'm 26 also and I feel so behind in life in terms of relationships, had one guy use me and break my heart but that's about it... I don't understand how shitty people like him always get someone who wants to date them and I can't get one 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ That's my biggest insecurity because it makes me feel like I don't deserve to be loved and happy

[@chief8079]

Let me guess: people your age who got engaged, married, became homeowners probably live in cow towns where the cost of living is dirt cheap compared to places like Chicago, LA, NYC.

[@YukiNakamura]

@@skromnyasha You do deserve to be happy and loved. I'm 27 and I also have not had any relationship. I'm a good guy so since you're a good girl we could try smth x3

[@Mr3DLC]

@@ms.doomer5623 why dont you ask yo talk yo them and let them know how you think they feel about them You could probably then ask them "what could i do to get back on the right track?"

[@gSys1337]

"Don't want to be a looser Dad." Best motivational sentence.

[@tyfyh622]

*loser

[@jamesfrank3113]

Nobody should ever want to be a looser dad

[@jlex1049]

You're a looser speller.

[@WalkingandTalkingAussieGirl]

its never too late! i know someone who did a degree and masters in their 50s and started a new career

[@booshank2327]

Yeah and they probably already owned a home and/or had inheritance. People always omit these kind of details when telling such stories.

[@WalkingandTalkingAussieGirl]

@@booshank2327 no inheritance they were working a job and studied after work

[@DerDudelino]

The weird and fun thing is that as a kid we always think our parents had everything figured out, while in reality there were just going with the flow taking one challenge after the next.