DR. GABOR MATE: THE 7 IMPACTS OF TRAUMA

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Wholehearted

Wholehearted

Күн бұрын

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@Fiawordweaver
@Fiawordweaver Жыл бұрын
I’m 70. My addictions. Misuse of food and money. Losing my home as a single parent and the shame of failing my children. I write poetry instead of journaling to help me heal. I am healing. Here is one of my poems. “My face is a roadmap. My face is a roadmap of paralyzed fear It lost the contour of shine Where sadness appears. My face is a roadmap To my story afraid to unfold My face is a roadmap Of all the tears buried beneath the road. My face is a roadmap Where once there was light Molesting father, narcissistic mother and brother Darkened it to ashen abysmal night. For years my hidden molestation is what I thought shredded my soul that didn’t compare to the narcissistic abuse my mother and my religion bestowed. Trampling my heart, lungs, and vocal cords. My face is a roadmap Of religious demise Respect honor your parents at all cost Are the lies. I didn’t fight back, l didn’t utter a word. I didn’t even know what was a healthy loving world. My face is a roadmap Aging lines of frequent attacks From a shell of a mother Reminding me You’re selfish Self centered Regardless of the mountain of love showered to Her impenetrable heart sac. My face is a roadmap Wiped out by the tidal wave of trauma Voice smothered to the depths of all that Surreal drama. Good days I’m grateful to be alive, Rough days I struggle to stay to survive. My face is a roadmap 69 years Stained with tears. It took years layered with abusive narcissistic tasks To turn my roadmap Into a pretend happy face mask. My face is a roadmap It conceals Reveals A generation of trust built on sand A broken trust in me Constantly needs A helping hand Today, I author this piece to drive out my fears I want to claim happiness What’s left of my years. My face is a roadmap Also shows joy It came with a price I’d pay again and again To have my precious girl and boy. There is a truth to a portion of my heart undefeated That truth my two children saved With love over their years They repeated. My face is a roadmap Blake stares To a far away place Where all children are gently loved Always kept safe. “ Kimi swanson Minor
@SuperLuckao
@SuperLuckao Жыл бұрын
Wow So touching. I feel ur pain. May God comfort you.
@amandalynngibson8332
@amandalynngibson8332 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your poem. I am familiar with some of those roads.... Amen to the portions of heart undefeated.
@meyamalgosia1314
@meyamalgosia1314 Жыл бұрын
🙏🏻💚
@northstar5919
@northstar5919 Жыл бұрын
Watch dr Carter and dr Ramani videos, it may be helpful. Nice poem.
@Mudpie68
@Mudpie68 Жыл бұрын
The future of the past is todays memory. And Tomorrows past is the future of all your yesterdays longtime forgotten. Until they circumvent your mind making you remember today……
@mziwamadodagoba922
@mziwamadodagoba922 Жыл бұрын
Favourite point is: you think you’re reacting to the present moment but you’re actually reacting to the past.
@trashteamracing8262
@trashteamracing8262 8 ай бұрын
This, to me, is the hardest to come to terms with. Sometimes I find myself not taking a chance informed by past experiences, only realizing it after the moment is over. It becomes a vicious cycle.
@punyashloka4946
@punyashloka4946 2 ай бұрын
​@@trashteamracing8262true its the hardest part of healing.
@JohnGeorge-pw2xo
@JohnGeorge-pw2xo 28 күн бұрын
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe anxiety, trauma and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with bipolar. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
@Morrisbraga-jm9lc
@Morrisbraga-jm9lc 27 күн бұрын
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
@CathieGomez-mp8sk
@CathieGomez-mp8sk 27 күн бұрын
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
@canerbakar-jv2si
@canerbakar-jv2si 27 күн бұрын
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
@ElizabethMicheal-fu8xn
@ElizabethMicheal-fu8xn 26 күн бұрын
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
@ChristopherEric-fr8im
@ChristopherEric-fr8im 26 күн бұрын
Yes he's Pedroshrooms. I know few friends who no longer suffer ptsd and anxiety with the help of shrooms. Never had to take shrooms after then.
@lindanorris2455
@lindanorris2455 7 ай бұрын
THE ENTIRE WORLD SHOULD BE LISTENING TO THIS MAN, THIS DR.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 6 ай бұрын
WHY, HE HAS NO FIXES...
@Liam-cv6sk
@Liam-cv6sk Ай бұрын
With others guidance we fix ourselves.​@@robynhope219
@zinaidanebitno3624
@zinaidanebitno3624 Жыл бұрын
May God bless this human being for every "drop" of knowledge he shares with us.
@dmt02459
@dmt02459 Жыл бұрын
Mate has shared some useful information, no doubt, but he is only human, and it seems to me his advocacy of things like ayahuasca as a treatment for trauma are highly problematic.
@zinaidanebitno3624
@zinaidanebitno3624 Жыл бұрын
@@dmt02459 Why would you think like that?
@Marika19.09
@Marika19.09 Жыл бұрын
Аминь.
@VanessaAbq
@VanessaAbq 2 жыл бұрын
I KNOW all of these to be true. 😔 I watched someone I deeply loved struggle with addiction as an attempt to cope with all 6 of these deeply engrained effects of his trauma in his life. He ultimately lost the battle 💔 but at least he’s now in peace.
@createone100
@createone100 Жыл бұрын
🙏🏻✨💕
@VanessaAbq
@VanessaAbq Жыл бұрын
@@createone100Your comment came right on time. Not sure why but I’m feeling a little ill and heavy today. Your acknowledgment means a lot! 🙏🏽✨💞
@createone100
@createone100 Жыл бұрын
@@VanessaAbq God Bless you, and God Bless all of us who are helping those we hold most dear who are suffering from trauma. 💞
@VanessaAbq
@VanessaAbq Жыл бұрын
@@createone100 Thank you 🙏🏽 and amen! 💞
@willjones4199
@willjones4199 Жыл бұрын
My brother lost his battle to addiction too, he was 29. You are not alone. We have some amazing guardian angels
@themajor333
@themajor333 2 жыл бұрын
1 separation from self 2 Disconnection from others 3 Altered worldview- to hostile as opposed to good 4 lifelong pain- pain that stays with you and results in constant escapism 5 cognitive development - trauma inhibits brain development 6 personal shame 7 difficulty being present
@yukio_saito
@yukio_saito Жыл бұрын
Thank you for writing them down ✍
@amandalynngibson8332
@amandalynngibson8332 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. The chapters in the book of my life. I know I have had guardian angels carrying me. My "childhood" bears no resemblance to that which most people experienced. No. I don't want to go through life from the stance of "victim", but I was a little tiny person! Paltry bits only of nurturing, care, attention, security. Abusive older siblings, I was handy scape goat. I was on my own. Always. By 13 I had stopped living with either "parent", as in 1k miles away, not across town. I was legally emancipated @ 14 cuz I needed treatment for a bleeding ulcer. This is the Truth. I am grateful for resiliance and innate positivity. Gifts to be sure. The good people who provided what my parents could not give: a safe environment and good role modeling until I was 18. These lyrics "This is a lonely lonely life, sorrow is everywhere" (Paul Simon) are true, but "Resiliant" (by Apalachia Rising) is what keeps me going. 🚣‍♀️🙏🕊
@btv8787
@btv8787 Жыл бұрын
my hero
@rachelkingsley668
@rachelkingsley668 Жыл бұрын
@@yukio_saito yes thanks to this person for the list
@NB0301
@NB0301 Жыл бұрын
That's me in a nutshell.
@kathystuckless4715
@kathystuckless4715 Жыл бұрын
You nailed it my friend I'm almost 51 and I can't seem to climb out of this deep hole I fell in
@kaajalknapp3332
@kaajalknapp3332 7 ай бұрын
Hang in there! I’m the same way.
@christinarodriguez7241
@christinarodriguez7241 12 күн бұрын
You didn’t fell in that hole somehow your first caregivers left you there.
@radicalrad77
@radicalrad77 6 күн бұрын
God bless you my friend
@aspasiaholley
@aspasiaholley Жыл бұрын
May we all live in a world that is trauma informed🙏🏽Thank you for sharing this.
@first0last0
@first0last0 3 ай бұрын
I guess we never will, coz the system can’t tell if someone is telling the truth or faking it, so they rather not have a system that supports that
@katekennelly3651
@katekennelly3651 Жыл бұрын
Wow. This is the most eloquent and powerful description of trauma I have never encountered. Everyone should watch this to understand what trauma is and how it affects everything: your view of world, your ability to connect to it, your sense of time, and above all, your sense of self
@pralines100
@pralines100 Жыл бұрын
How true. I always thought I was weirder than everyone else... But no, I've just been traumatized. Almost all the points sit on me + other issues. Finding books and videos about gabor opened my eyes to what has been weighing on me all my life. Now the only thing is...how to get out of it?
@pammugridge4106
@pammugridge4106 Жыл бұрын
This man is a genius..
@loladanger
@loladanger Жыл бұрын
I’m new to his work and I have learned so much 😢
@Sophia-hj3ko
@Sophia-hj3ko 10 ай бұрын
Greatest Mind that heals and helps to navigate own self. Thank you, Dr. Mate! Respect and honour to listen to you.
@donnabatchelor5691
@donnabatchelor5691 7 ай бұрын
I'm 58 and still trying to sort out huge family trauma and so much death and loss over the years. It still bubbles up. Being around people is difficult, but I'm pushing myself to socialize more. Thank you for these impacts. It will help me know what to focus on in the future.
@vamama100
@vamama100 Жыл бұрын
It's true. I felt that disconnect out of body feeling. I started counting tiles in washroom and felt I don't see it, feel it asking myself why am I awake but asleep like in a blurr fog or not present. That was in 3rd grade. Uptill now the same. I am alive but aa if not fully awake ever. I can't hold a job. I have triggers all the time. I need attention but all I get is rejectiin. Yes, I married a narcissist who was beating me and I was running away but never escaping. I don't feel swlf worth. I need many things to fill the gap of my mother hating me never ever asking about me or being kind. I had never felt I was deserving of love happiness or money. Little to mention I tried to fill the role for other people to like me, having 30 odd jobs. Never was I longer on a job over a year.
@VanessaAbq
@VanessaAbq Жыл бұрын
Despite how it feels, please know that you do deserve love, happiness and money. It’s “normal” to feel how you feel given what you’ve been through. Hang in there. It can get better. I’m glad you came across this video and hope you have additional resources to rely on as well!
@DeeDee-el8bd
@DeeDee-el8bd Жыл бұрын
sorry for everything you are going through,i have been there to finally encounter Jesus..He was there all the time and turn everything for the better..i opened my heart and let Him in..may God touch your heatt and listen to your prayers in Jesus name.Amen🙏❤️
@Albisriede
@Albisriede Жыл бұрын
Without Gabor I would never have realized that it was the trauma my then pregnant mother experienced during Allied bombing raids in the Berlin of WWII. I've long contemplated why sudden loud noises startle and shake me to this day. Her then isolation in another country without close loved ones nearby, may have added to this challenging situation and had its traumatic effect on her babe (me). So how does one remedy such injuries 7+ decades later? It ain't easy, and it may never come to pass.
@Erri-kb6et
@Erri-kb6et Жыл бұрын
I have lifelong pain inside but also my body hurts most of the time. Sometimes I feel I have had enough of this. But listening to Gabor and searching to find what has been going on I slowly begin to feel beter and have hope for the future. I have no need and no wish to see or talk to my parents and brother again. In fact I would prefer that they just dissapear.
@beatelanger2919
@beatelanger2919 9 ай бұрын
Sie sind Stark,Alles Gute,Täter sind Schwach!!!💌💌💌💌💌💌
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 5 ай бұрын
Try EMDR. Its really helpful. I hope you get over your pain.
@Erri-kb6et
@Erri-kb6et 2 ай бұрын
@@miguelpais123 Well, I cannot say I hate them, I just have no need to be with them, I don't miss them, I don't wish them bad or so. I do fine without having contact with them. If I do I'll have to deal with their behaviour again, which hasn't and isn't going to change. So I'm not going to do that to myself just because it's family and society says you should be close to your family.
@james.yt.00
@james.yt.00 2 жыл бұрын
The best explanation of trauma. 💙
@lynnhavili5332
@lynnhavili5332 Жыл бұрын
Thank you blessed Gabor Mate Trauma survivor similar to yourself ! Thank you.
@alanfrancis9225
@alanfrancis9225 10 ай бұрын
It’s a road of Awarness development making the unconscious conscious. I would probably say for the first 40 years I was 3% conscious. Now after a hell of a lot of work I am up to 30% conscious. The body hold our secrets. I left my body to survive. Getting back in is my journey.
@Bellawassel
@Bellawassel 5 күн бұрын
I just can't wait to meet you next October, it is like dream come true moment . Thank you for all wise teachings , world needs to listen to you .
@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950
@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950 9 ай бұрын
All completely correct, thank you Gabor. X
@GodHelpMe369
@GodHelpMe369 4 ай бұрын
All I do is navigate my way through the world... Doing my best, moment-to-moment, to endure the least amount of suffering as possible... And I keep doing that every day, just waiting to die. There's no joy, no hope, no happiness in my life. It's just pain and trauma and survival and misery. It's been like this, all 45 years of my life, so far. My heart is shattered. My soul is raped. I cannot endure this hell anymore. Rage and grief consume every cell of my being.
@SandyCheeks007
@SandyCheeks007 4 ай бұрын
I wish I could tell you things will be better but I don’t know. I’m 28, from the time I was conceived, ppl mistreated me and tried to kill me. I’ve had several suicide attempts and my mother said I was trying to manipulate her being suicidal. Still to this day, I wish my mother aborted me and am trying to forgive the Church for teaching against abortion. Some ppl aren’t meant to be parents and shouldn’t be. They don’t have enough to support a child. You could be a star student like I was and with the wrong parents, they can f up your future and not even take accountability. They won’t even help you clean up their mess, in which, they created for you. I hope to one day experience all the positive emotions there are, ones I was deprived of and never allowed to experience. ❤
@ekenechristyike5461
@ekenechristyike5461 3 ай бұрын
Jesus Christ has been my go to...each time my broken dreams stand in front of me. NOBODY AND NOTHING LASTS FOREVER. But His love and assurance is my strength for each new day. SOOO SORRY FOR YOUR EXPERIENCE....
@AlinaCristina999
@AlinaCristina999 2 ай бұрын
@@ekenechristyike5461 please keep 2 kids Alyssa Siena and Amos Ronald Moriss forevermore in your thoughts & heart prayers. If you can remember me too AlAlina Cristina Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ God Bless ❤❤❤❤ Alina Cristina please remember me ❤
@zulfikaregzikutor5561
@zulfikaregzikutor5561 2 ай бұрын
I had anxiety and depression and once i started praying 5 times a day on time i do not remember the last time i had either.
@butterflyblessbless5836
@butterflyblessbless5836 Ай бұрын
Pleased this has positively impacted you. 🙏🏾
@jambeedog
@jambeedog Ай бұрын
It’s amazing how the mind works!
@cdragon1829
@cdragon1829 6 ай бұрын
On the road to healing ❤️‍🩹
@StressRUs
@StressRUs Жыл бұрын
I'm a retired psychiatrist and addiction medicine specialist, as well as recovering alcoholic/addict, and a great fan of Gabor, also of Hungarian descent. However, these 7 steps are very flawed and just seat of the pants speculations. Also, he never mentions the most powerful recovery tool, that has healed my own childhood trauma defenses: Group therapy, in my case, 12-step groups. We cannot make this journey alone. Finally, he avoids (?) the spiritual dimension, which is central in my recovery journey. Love and peace for one and all! Just don't try to do it alone.
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 5 ай бұрын
The 12-step programs have been shown to be very successful group therapies. As a psychiatrist, did you come across EMDR?
@StressRUs
@StressRUs 5 ай бұрын
@@trauma2happiness I'm a huge fan of EMDR in the hands of a well trained and experienced psychotherapist, but don't dare call 12-step groups "therapy" (which they obviously are!) down here in the MOV/Marietta, Ohio. In the wrong hands, the 12-step program becomes a rigid religion, rather than the wonderful recovery program that Bill W. meant it to be.
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 5 ай бұрын
@@StressRUs To my knowledge here in Australia it stays what it was meant to be. I meet people who have a lot of success with it. I have had lots of success with EMDR first as a patient and later as a practitioner. I think being a patient first really helped me when training to be a practitioner.
@zulfikaregzikutor5561
@zulfikaregzikutor5561 2 ай бұрын
I totally agree with your statement about 12 steps program.
@neetaarora7908
@neetaarora7908 Жыл бұрын
So true and well put across. Hope it helps those parenting and significant adults to children, and those who have suffered.... sensitive and with no way to be out of such effects. Thankyou. Bless you.
@judithpoulin2351
@judithpoulin2351 Жыл бұрын
He should write a book for pregnant moms…
@hangryturtle9006
@hangryturtle9006 Жыл бұрын
I got the first 3, learned about total depravity, reading the Bible every year. I think forgiveness is a major key to conquering PTSD. My world view is definitely changed, but I don’t need the world to be a good place like I used to, I know it never was good. Look what it did to Jesus. Heaven is the good place we long for. Follow Christ, obey his commands, believe him! Let the world be wicked, and realize that you truly CAN’T trust most people. And realize that God already has a plan in place to deal with ALL of this mess, including your pain. He’s going to wipe every tear from your eyes and I can’t wait to see such perfect love!!!
@reginalouwrens1033
@reginalouwrens1033 2 ай бұрын
God's blessings to you sir ..what a wonderful description and explaining of this complex situation. Thank you Thankyou ..from South Africa
@karenlindley9265
@karenlindley9265 11 ай бұрын
Such a powerful healing light for humanity..🙏🙏🙏💠🌸💕🌺🥺
@bettybodemeh3949
@bettybodemeh3949 Жыл бұрын
I just came across your channel. Very detailed information. Thank you so much. I understand what I've been dealing with now.
@roxiroxi4181
@roxiroxi4181 10 ай бұрын
I'm recognizing me in different points...i'm very lucky 'cos even in bad sufference most of my life i've never need sustances or need to disappear...instead my love did it! Before the addiction then death from addiction...i've never understand his self destructive desire...he was a so special man and i have to live with my sorrow missing him all the time...
@kimwhitney2064
@kimwhitney2064 Жыл бұрын
Confront-Deal-Heal & Move On ‼️
@aameinternational2054
@aameinternational2054 11 ай бұрын
We shall be well
@cdragon1829
@cdragon1829 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for helping us that need it.
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 6 ай бұрын
You're very welcome. Check out Wholehearted.org for more free videos.
@MInk00783
@MInk00783 Жыл бұрын
Spot on. Thanks for putting it in words for me.
@thestagediveofficial
@thestagediveofficial 2 жыл бұрын
This is so eye opening!
@tovecamillamcmorrow5741
@tovecamillamcmorrow5741 Жыл бұрын
I have learned so much from this man
@MariaTResele
@MariaTResele Жыл бұрын
Thanks DR Mate for sharing your wisdom.
@aqelasayeda371
@aqelasayeda371 Жыл бұрын
What an amazing human being u are. Truly inspirational. I wish I can one have a theropy session with u.
@nunya3399
@nunya3399 3 ай бұрын
Hey guys. My sister (nurse of 20+ years) referred me to this video. I have a complicated past that involves severe abuse (somehow with memories, stepmother) from as young as 2 years, and repeated abandonment from a severely drug addicted dad. As in constantly being left home alone for weeks at a time as young as 5-6. Then once around 15 he finally left and never came home. I thought he was dead, but I guess it was a multi-year drug binge. Anyway. I’m a mess and my fight or flight is so severe that as I age I believe it’s finally beginning to affect me physically. 41 now. I have a career. Children. Wife. My Life is what you would call good, but every day I feel like my life is ending and I’m steeped in depression. I’m open to advice but I don’t think I’ll find a military dr that prescribes me shroom treatment. lol. Anyone?
@lunachick7893
@lunachick7893 Ай бұрын
I'm so sorry you were abused as a child and that you weren't taken care of by the people who should do it . 😢
@trustygeorgie
@trustygeorgie 3 ай бұрын
"You think that you are reacting to the present moment, but you're actually reacting to the past." 🤯💪😇☺️❤️
@mulantisreunitingall888
@mulantisreunitingall888 Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this helpful video.
@christinamoreno9212
@christinamoreno9212 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for helping me.
@warrenhaven2216
@warrenhaven2216 8 ай бұрын
I want to heal. I hope y’all are healing too.
@Stars_intheskys
@Stars_intheskys Жыл бұрын
The world is a very bad bad bad place lots of hurt and pain.
@PlanetZipp
@PlanetZipp Жыл бұрын
The hardest thing in life is to live.
@lovemessenger997
@lovemessenger997 8 ай бұрын
3. Altered worldview
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 5 ай бұрын
It can feel like that when you are overwhelmed with trauma but as you heal, your view changes. Best of luck.
@dannylayton231
@dannylayton231 3 ай бұрын
I can relate comparing life to past. I do this all the time.
@Claudia-vs4cp
@Claudia-vs4cp 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for your very clear explaination how traumatas impact our lifes. We are not wrong, we have experienced traumatas and how we react to this ist very normal. Healing means to come in touch with unconditional love. To experience that we are loved und worthy to get attachement and all what we need as human beings. We shall not be ashamed when we seek the face of God, our heavenly father. Jesus came on earth to show us the love of the father.
@Nicnac13
@Nicnac13 Жыл бұрын
I would love to watch the full series of these
@keepingitreal-thatsright
@keepingitreal-thatsright Жыл бұрын
There are countless long videos of Gabor Mate being interviewed. They are all good. Just start with one that calls you. ❤
@Emil-c1w
@Emil-c1w 3 ай бұрын
All 7 things he said i am in pain they are all in me i feel awful i even cannot describe it
@martinortiz1019
@martinortiz1019 10 ай бұрын
Endless Thanks for your sharng your wisdom! You are a blessing to Humanity! You deservena Nobel Prize Sir.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 8 ай бұрын
No, he is not original. His work is based on the late Carl Rogers.
@star3006
@star3006 Жыл бұрын
Another excellent video .✔️ 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@sharidavis468
@sharidavis468 11 ай бұрын
Attachments are pivotal to our well being - I love ur work @drGaborMate - I would love to hear your wisdom re: complex ptsd please
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 8 ай бұрын
Wisdom? We all have it! GM is not a trained psychotherapist.
@fantastictraveller
@fantastictraveller Жыл бұрын
These are profound knowledge 💐💐💐
@_Lazare
@_Lazare 8 ай бұрын
I agree
@bigsmith6240
@bigsmith6240 10 ай бұрын
I must truly be disconnected with myself because I can honestly say I have NEVER had a gut feeling about anything.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 8 ай бұрын
Maybe u did without knowing...
@eccololo
@eccololo Жыл бұрын
Bravo 👏👏👏.
@georgeduncan8946
@georgeduncan8946 4 ай бұрын
Wooow....and just now an ad for ADHD Medication...unbelievable 😮😮😮😮😮😮
@sitinuraini_27
@sitinuraini_27 Жыл бұрын
He is amazing ❤
@LauraWestover-b2o
@LauraWestover-b2o 8 күн бұрын
It takes me a long time to get through one of these video's. With every point I dissociate and have to rewind the video.
@HowdyDoody-i8c
@HowdyDoody-i8c 5 ай бұрын
♥🙏 Thank you, Dr. Gabor Mate.
@maeraynor8134
@maeraynor8134 6 ай бұрын
I love this man
@carol-us4xn
@carol-us4xn Жыл бұрын
Every human being has experienced trauma. They just don't harm, destroy, or murder other people who don't even know them. Sociopaths do that. No excuses or exception to the rule 💯 👌 of law. No one else is responsible for your actions, only you.
@garioma1344
@garioma1344 Жыл бұрын
Two other trauma experts to explore are Bruce Perry and Daniel Siegel. Like Dr Mate, they are amazing. As a former trauma therapist Dr. Mate, Dr Bruce Perry, & Dr Siegel were my go to for training. 😉
@stacybynum3389
@stacybynum3389 Жыл бұрын
I read Dr. Bruce Perry's book What Happened To You and loved it all the way until I got to the end. He and his friend Oprah say that the trauma "didn't happen TO YOU, it happened FOR YOU." and that is bullshit. Go tell that to people who were abused and not protected from harm. Tell that to children who grew up unwanted by their parents. What a disgusting thing to tell people. I am trauma informed. I believe in healing, but that is a harmful ideology. Like gaslighting victims to tell them it happened FOR THEM.
@WEAREALLONELIZ
@WEAREALLONELIZ 10 ай бұрын
I can relate, so informative and very helpful. Thank you 💯💜
@SamuraiSunshine00
@SamuraiSunshine00 5 ай бұрын
I had trauma that i didn’t know how i hid it inside me.
@mathew4181
@mathew4181 3 ай бұрын
You've listed 7 profound effects of trauma, which can be interconnected and long-lasting. Here's a brief expansion on each point: 1. Separation from self: Trauma can lead to dissociation, causing a disconnection from one's own thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations. 2. Disconnection from others: Trauma can make it challenging to form and maintain healthy relationships, leading to feelings of isolation and loneliness. 3. Altered worldview: Trauma can shift one's perspective from a positive, trusting outlook to a more negative, hostile, or pessimistic view of the world. 4. Lifelong pain: Traumatic experiences can lead to chronic pain, both physical and emotional, which can be debilitating and lead to coping mechanisms like cognitive escapism. 5. Cognitive development: Trauma can impact brain development, particularly in regions related to emotional regulation, memory, and executive function. 6. Personal shame: Trauma can foster deep-seated shame, self-blame, and self-doubt, making it difficult to maintain a positive self-image. 7. Difficulty being present: Trauma can lead to difficulties with mindfulness and being present in the moment, as the mind may be preoccupied with memories, worries, or fears. These effects can be overwhelming, but it's essential to remember that healing is possible with the right support, resources, and therapies, such as trauma-informed care, counseling, and mindfulness practices.
@BA-ef4pr
@BA-ef4pr Жыл бұрын
I don't have addiction, but I was abandoned prior to (she didn't acknowledge i existed) and just after birth. I wish I could find if this doctor talks about how to self-heal from being abandoned at birth.
@artemiomusica5465
@artemiomusica5465 Жыл бұрын
What's the healing ? How one can get healing? How's happening healing from trauma?
@tamraya23
@tamraya23 Жыл бұрын
Good therapist or self-healing There are couple KZbin channels of clinical psychologist that are helpful. One is by Patrick Teehan. Also a book called Coming Home. I’m a trauma survivor so I hope the resources that are helping my self-healing helps you
@artemiomusica5465
@artemiomusica5465 Жыл бұрын
@@tamraya23 if you're comfortable about speaking your own trauma could you talk about yours. I would like to know what trauma you have ? And thank you for your comment. I appreciate
@tamraya23
@tamraya23 Жыл бұрын
@@artemiomusica5465 I grew up in a chaotic household with two parents, who grew up in dysfunctional families, constantly arguing and screaming at each other. They were physically and emotionally abusive to me and my siblings.
@artemiomusica5465
@artemiomusica5465 Жыл бұрын
@@tamraya23 I understood. If you wish we can be friends.
@tamraya23
@tamraya23 Жыл бұрын
@@artemiomusica5465 support groups would be better (online or in-person). If you can’t get yourself to go to an in-person one then consider online thru KZbin posts on for example the channel I mentioned or joining online support groups held by therapists. I wish you the best of luck in your healing journey 💜
@terencehennegan1439
@terencehennegan1439 Жыл бұрын
And to think everyone has trauma !... for this reason alone we all have the responsibility to be introspective rather than putting all the emphasis on the outside. Seems very few are.
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 5 ай бұрын
I am sure everyone has trauma (I am an EMDR therapist) but to varying degrees. It is great You Tube puts outside so much info we can access.
@tomasz_mackiewicz
@tomasz_mackiewicz 10 күн бұрын
he's the best
@NN-et7xt
@NN-et7xt Жыл бұрын
Brilliant x
@jonnicklison449
@jonnicklison449 8 ай бұрын
I might have finally found someone who is actually teaching describing my 50yrs of being 😮 I’m not mad just interested
@kmdvn
@kmdvn Жыл бұрын
Thank you It makes a lot sense what your saying, and you've helped me to understand things a little bit
@ShawnTylerMusic
@ShawnTylerMusic Жыл бұрын
So how do I work to correct these and heal?
@monklast9752
@monklast9752 10 ай бұрын
Stuck. Everything in me tells me to leave. No place to go. Stuck.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 8 ай бұрын
There is hope!
@sophiadybka6305
@sophiadybka6305 Ай бұрын
@@robynhope219yes there is a way!!
@Liam-cv6sk
@Liam-cv6sk Ай бұрын
I hope you worked it out. It took me a long time but I left eventually.
@Lbearist
@Lbearist Ай бұрын
Once you decide that this is it...enough is enough. Then you will be able to leave. Took me 22 years,don't wait that long
@luz4992
@luz4992 24 күн бұрын
No existe en español? Para ver este canal, gracias
@davidwhitecross9811
@davidwhitecross9811 Жыл бұрын
How do rid yourself of trauma?
@fillofchocolate
@fillofchocolate Жыл бұрын
How can I get rid of disability that caused by emotional trauma?
@fillofchocolate
@fillofchocolate 2 ай бұрын
@@miguelpais123 pain is not part of prosses if you like pain I'm not
@Caroline84fighter
@Caroline84fighter 6 ай бұрын
Gut feeling and conscience are gifts from Jesus we should listen too. And turn to him and let him lead you. Forgiveness is important
@trauma2happiness
@trauma2happiness 5 ай бұрын
Especially forgiving yourself
@luz4992
@luz4992 24 күн бұрын
Donde puedo verlo en español, me pueden decir, gracias.
@georgeduncan8946
@georgeduncan8946 4 ай бұрын
I got sick (painful sarcoidosis💥in 93'.... At same time my job of 13 yrs ended & i got emotionally distraughti was using dry erase markers on a board Daily....Vapors 🤢🤢🤢🤢😷😷
@through.a.barrel.she.breathes
@through.a.barrel.she.breathes 11 ай бұрын
Lifelong pain for sure.
@cdragon1829
@cdragon1829 6 ай бұрын
It would be nice to attend the course but can’t afford it. Thanks
@WholeheartedPublishing
@WholeheartedPublishing 6 ай бұрын
Hello, what would you like to attend to watch? Nearly everything we do is free. Perhaps we can help?
@hew195050
@hew195050 Жыл бұрын
ALL of the above.
@sarella4
@sarella4 Жыл бұрын
I knew the root of my coming lede's suffering was TRAUMA the moment in which I was by my parents conceived. Surely, I have not been alone in this knowledge for 74 years. Now, when, finally, I am about to die from a life without a moment ever lived, at least I can give thanks at last for this wonderful man's finally opening the world's eyes to the source of all of its suffering. Dr. Mate is the only and true Messiah, far greater than any Christ who ever lived.
@pammugridge4106
@pammugridge4106 Жыл бұрын
@taralilarose1
@taralilarose1 Жыл бұрын
He is not a hero, not an angel and definitely NOT the Messiah. So sorry for your suffering which also causes disconnection to YESHUA and Yahweh (God).
@johnnyt.sollitto512
@johnnyt.sollitto512 Жыл бұрын
Sarella so sorry you’ve had that much pain in your life. But when strangers respond to you here no love ❤️ is real Maybe you haven’t experienced much love but believe me lifes brought me to my knees many times - and these hells have been my blessings in hind sight Love is real bc God is love. We are all of his creation just not Christ Jesus who came to teach us the way Why did he come ? Bc the world had become so disconnected, lost in sin, so far from our creator father - that he came down in his Son to save us - show us the path back home. You’re life is just a smaller play of why Christ came down to earth - if he did it for the world - he can do it for you my friend. Your trauma just disconnected you from the love from all that truly is…. You can heal and its never too late - o/w I wouldnt be wasting my time Just surrender to the Lord in prayer. Lay it all out - asked to be saved - what do you have to lose? My friend just passed - LEE AKMAN 5-28-2023 NYC RIP - she was 100 yrs young. That means you have another 26 years - thats a whole lotta time to get back on track and live the life God meant you too And its not about doing anything so forget that too old nonsense bullshit - it’s simply about BEING Whether you’re a President or street sweeper - what matters is BEING connected to God, to source, living every moment in His presence And thats all prayer is about - coming into his presence. In fact you’re in my morning prayers. Will be praying for your renewal in spirit - your trauma disconnected you from your spirit thats all - and with simple prayer and work you can get reconnected to source, God, Christ very easily. Baby steps of faith each day thats all. A quick way I found to touch God when I was very low was to help those in worse position than me. Give to receive. Believe me brother I do not waste my time. It is all possible and I hate to see anyone in unnecessary pain for any longer than they have to be. I as lost too - for decades - its only 2 years now that I’ve been saved. I was like you in a state of hopelessness for many years…..but sometimes thats what it takes. Thats why many drug addicts find Jesus… nothing brings. You down to nothing like a good drug habit, lol. But if it gets one to Christ well then damn thats a pretty good drug habit. 😅 You’re in my prayers. Just ask and yea shall receive. Just get started and NEVER GIVE UP - you will get there. Never too late. God bless 🙏🏼❤️
@VanessaAbq
@VanessaAbq Жыл бұрын
@sarella4 Even your last days can become beautiful! And no, I’m not gonna say you just need to give your life to Christ, yada, yada, yada. Once upon a time I was that person and would have said that but thankfully that period of my life is over. Although that period of time in my life was a very authentic one for me, something still always felt “off.” It still irks me that people don’t understand you just can’t “pray” yourself out of depression, or that you must have sin in your life and need to repent, or whatever other things they may believe. Don’t get me wrong, I believe most people that believe those things have good intentions but they are also, to put it frankly, stuck in the rut of old, traditional beliefs that in the end, just can’t help everyone! Anyway, that’s a different discussion for another day but my point is that once I started opening my mind, it turned out that the very things I had been taught to be bad” in Christianity were the very things that actually ended up helping me through the HARDEST days of my life and now I’m better than ever. Obviously, I learned that there’s only “one way” but that there is A way (apart from religion) that can lead you to profound peace, joy, love, & gratitude. I know this because it’s my current experience and I hope from this point on, you will discover the things that lead you down the path where you find this to be your experience, too. Best wishes!
@AbdulSamad-qv4tr
@AbdulSamad-qv4tr Жыл бұрын
story of my life
@hoperoddy6677
@hoperoddy6677 Жыл бұрын
Makes total sense
@-.-Rob-.-XY
@-.-Rob-.-XY Жыл бұрын
I wish I didn’t know they are all true
@waindayoungthain2147
@waindayoungthain2147 2 жыл бұрын
If’s not to explain the trauma hidden behind the violence of the self drama 🎭 in the war it’s overwhelming unacceptable for the defense of real of the country in not human souls the describing of self violence destroyed the others 😟🙏🏻.
@imit23
@imit23 Жыл бұрын
How do i subscribe
@florite007
@florite007 Жыл бұрын
Like during the past 3 years PUN when most sleeple were so scared for something invented and then trusted blindly the liars over those telling them the truth
@florite007
@florite007 Жыл бұрын
You know what works great on this? Eft Techniques, the clinical ones
@nataliadartchia1781
@nataliadartchia1781 7 ай бұрын
The story of my life
@africangirl189
@africangirl189 Жыл бұрын
I got no traumas with me Alhamdulilah.
@waindayoungthain2147
@waindayoungthain2147 2 жыл бұрын
Why’d to be right in the other sight is your right! What’s about the underlying you had not seen through your honor😟. It’s the manner or your drama drawings !
@waindayoungthain2147
@waindayoungthain2147 2 жыл бұрын
Thence the Out of your is the performance to be needed praise🤥😟, it’s not true for the other players was trusted you🙏🏻! What’s ever happened I accepted that to make it better.
@kerilotta5421
@kerilotta5421 Жыл бұрын
Wow so true
@kathleenmartin8249
@kathleenmartin8249 Жыл бұрын
So now what? I have been to a multitude of therapist over my lifetime with not much help. Everything cost money and exceedingly hard to find decent therapy.
@taralilarose1
@taralilarose1 Жыл бұрын
Decent therapy only available thru the Word of God!
@nodigBKMiche
@nodigBKMiche Жыл бұрын
buy his book, & start helping your self heal❤❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🥰🥰
@miyaiun4723
@miyaiun4723 Жыл бұрын
Hi. I know its hard, I have been through it and still dealing with it. Havent had therapy. Tried finding answers în so many ways and tried improving and forgiving. I know my parents didnt get what they needed from their parents and ended up treating us in certain ways. I think we have to work on it all the time, try finding the patience of being kinder with everyone around us. Just because this world is full of suffering, and we can try helping in any way we can. We forgive because we understand that certain people cant change because they are too engrained în their ways. Maybe inside they wish they could, maybe they dont..it doesnt matter. We have to try not acting like them. And if we do sometimes, try again. I wish I could take back the times I answered în anger or maybe I didnt do enough for others. I tried, and I keep trying to improve because I know I fall short of certain stuff. And I wish nobody would suffer, so that helps forgiving. Getting to Know God helps with everything, understanding Him and why we have this reality will help you change. I know He tells the truth and He wants us to go back to Him. This life is about us trying to get back to Him. Focus on that and you will see how you will finally understand why things happen the way they do and that will help you. I hope I made some sense. Wishing you all the best.
@kathleenmartin8249
@kathleenmartin8249 Жыл бұрын
@@miyaiun4723 After many years of efforts and giving up and over the last two years, I just kept telling myself I am not giving up. I’m staying the course and I think finally I can see the end of the tunnel or some really great things that have happened. I’m off the Lyrica six months which is for the CRPS, which is a chronic pain condition, and I have reoccurring virus that I haven’t had in months as well so I’ve also been practicing heartbreak coherence and forgiveness and mirror work so I have some really good days, but I still have bad days. I agree with you totally it’s a lifelong thing, but at some point not only are we to find our way back to God but to become the person we came here to be. In other words to be the change you wanna see in the world. I’m finally beginning to really believe and feel that I can be happy and grow after a lifetime of struggling but I didn’t have all the things available to me like we do now and isn’t that a gift and something to be grateful for by the way gratitude is a huge key to all of this. There’s always something I can be grateful for. For your feedback, I send you love and wish you joy and peace.
@lugheasy7979
@lugheasy7979 10 ай бұрын
So what to do with them if there just here now wondering around lost unless or is it people who groupe up in bubble the issue ? Perception can be tricky 🤔
@islandlass74
@islandlass74 Жыл бұрын
Exquisite 💚🌲
@HS-1828
@HS-1828 4 ай бұрын
Nope. Can’t relate to all this. I believe some have horrible trauma in their past, but I believe most people are good. I do belong here and I have had anxiety over life situations just like everyone else. If you think about a situation in your past and you don’t react with fear or upset, I’d imagine you have somehow dealt with it.
@chrismccaffrey8256
@chrismccaffrey8256 3 ай бұрын
Or you've suppressed it immensely...
@HS-1828
@HS-1828 3 ай бұрын
@@chrismccaffrey8256 I really don’t think so though. People do actually cope with difficult life events as they occur.
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