Blindspot: When Everyone Sees It But You - Love Is Blind UK Nicole Benaiah Sam

[@pnwlady]

The reunion redeemed Nicole. She finally saw Sam the way everyone else did. I really liked this season, the people were real.

[@no.6377]

I'm so glad she finally took the kid gloves off in addressing Sam and gave Ben credit for protecting her.

[@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast]

14:41 “ it’s kind of like asking a con man are you a con man?” Lmbooo exactly like girl 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@DrCherieTypes]

and the "con man" says: yes yes yes yes 😁 14:45

[@ngobassa]

@@DrCherieTypes "that's kind of asking a con man, if he's a con man". That's exactely what I thought, while watching the show! What do you suggest she should have asked to find out Sam's true intentions?

[@dahliaherrod4301]

​@@ngobassashe could have asked Sam why does he want to marry her, what kind of life he sees them having with specifics and what he thinks he can offer Nicole. Also she could ask why he was attracted to Jasmine versus Nicole but that might draw drama she can't navigate well

[@shelleylarose]

He is so freaky looking 👀 no loss, no personality or looks, just a man with a fake ego, Freddy run for your life she is a train wreck, Maria is Muslim when it suits her needs, Ben is a sweet soul, he has to ask himself was it worth being 2 nd choice

[@olivecharles2231]

Nicole is a people pleaser. she has a lot of empathy, and struggles to see the worst sides of people. She had been striving to stay true and authentic to herself in this experiment. If she admits the relationship with Sam was not real then it means she can't trust her own judgement as It was the same judgement she used when she married which resulted in divorce. Ben wants an acknowledgement that he was right about Sam and saved her. She wants to forget the whole Sam thing as it's a reminder of her mistake, which is uncomfortable for her to acknowledge.

[@Vxruxxss]

100%

[@heatforce666]

LOVED that you brought up Benaiah’s feeling in this!!!! He had such good instincts when it came to Sam. It made me so angry for Benaiah when they spoke. Sam makes my skin crawl.

[@zahararay5611]

I was judging Nicole so harshly. Your analysis made me completely change my perspective and reminded me to exercise empathy when watching these shows. I actually think I’d be a complete mess if I was on this show. Probably more problematic than Nicole. Thank you for posting ❤

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you for sharing your reflections - empathy is so important, it’s the first step to healing others, and also ourselves ❤️

[@zahararay5611]

@@DrCherieTypes ❤️❤️❤️

[@Alkemiss]

My sentiments exactly. I'm not built for TV shows like this and I know I'd be an embarrassment lol🥲. I actually saw a bit of myself in Nicole after Dr Cherie's analysis and felt like ive experienced some nativity in past relationships.

[@zahararay5611]

@@Alkemiss I hear you. I actually saw some of myself in Cat/Kat. YEAH I KNOW!!! But I was more of an asshole than an innocent like Nicole. These reality show people shed a light on our own shortcomings.

[@no.6377]

@@zahararay5611 I feel terrible for relating to Cat the most😂😂 I mean, I'm not as verbally combative at all. But I do have intense abandonment fears and basically self sabotage. Instead of being an outright asshole, I'll just withdraw into myself. Which is its own flavor of asshole.😅

[@katec9893]

Seeing Nicole at the reveal was difficult to see, her intuition and her body reacted to Sam with anxiety. She knew she'd made a mistake but it took a while for her conscious brain to process.

[@joandawkins112]

Thank you for the most insightful interpretations of the events laid out in this episode.

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

Watching Nicole get reeled in and duped was so difficult for me to see

[@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast]

Facts but then again I was also annoyed by her ignoring the obvious red flags

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

@@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast Well, yes, that's part of what made it so difficult! I was upset with everyone in the slow motion train wreck.

[@pnwlady]

The best book someone could ever read - the fake emotional intimacy is so obvious.

[@acd1168]

She needs to self reflect. Idk how she fell for that

[@verronica2]

same

[@theCatsitter878]

That's very similar to the Zack,Irina, Bliss situation, Bliss tried to warn him as well about Irina but he didn't listen and regretted it in the end.

[@joanna0988]

Bliss also didn't give concrete reasons to Zach. I don't get the point of warning someone and then not giving evidence because it's gossiping or sabotaging. Either go all the way in or don't even mention it.

[@katec9893]

​@@joanna0988 It's because it's usually a gut feeling that's often difficult to put into words. Since it's the intuition that is picking up the warning signs the conscious brain often takes a few days or weeks to process the intuition and put reasons together to explain it.

[@joanna0988]

@@katec9893 It's intuition but also there are concrete situations that show that the person is being shitty. In Ben's situation he had at least 2 things he could have told Nicole about Sam being a shady person. Sam saying beggars can't be choosers after Jasmine dumped him and he was left with Nicole. Him freaking out in the lounge that Nicole is fat after she joked that he might not be able to lift her. All he said was "Sam isn't sincere and he's not here for the right reasons". He should have been specific and said everything because Nicole is compassionate and probably thought that Ben was just misreading Sam.

[@katec9893]

@@joanna0988 I think he was very aware that he could be cast as a villain or gossip if he said specific things about another person in the pods like that. He was anxious and uncomfortable warning her at all because he knew it could be interpreted as him trying to manipulate her into choosing him. I think he handled it as well as he could and thankfully the producers didn't twist the situation to make him look bad.

[@andaredvex]

Massively underrated channel. Your analyses of Love is Blind are so amazing and one of a kind! And while MBTI may not be considered a standard personality test according to psychology's consensus, I think it has the potential to offer truly great insights. The way you use it to explain the behavior and relationships of these contestants blows my mind every time. You go, Dr. Cherie! Hope you'll be reaching a wider audience, soon.

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you for your kind words 🥰 Mainstream MBTI cannot be the standard because self testing lacks objectivity and consistency, and is highly reliant on the person’s self awareness. I also think the 4-letter system has diluted down the cognitive function stack, not offering enough nuance to our internal complexity. I’m hoping to introduce the cognitive functions and Typology theory to a wider audience in a more relatable and practical way 😊

[@oksanaml9279]

100% agree 👍

[@kristinehovemoen7888]

Agree 🎉❤

[@tahnaiyarussell]

Finally, a video that isn't dramatic and doesn't make fun of our accents. I appreciate how insightful and educational this video is. Really made me look at some things differently.

[@ijustneedmyself]

People are making fun?? I think most of us love the accents so I'm surprised 😅

[@kristinehovemoen7888]

Agree ❤

[@Daniela-Christianson]

I love your accents ❤

[@elliodhadh25]

This is a fantastic analysis! I had so much empathy for Nicole. I figured that she was choosing based on previous patterns and trauma, and she was ultimately spooked by Benaiah's lack of commitment when she needed reassurance to feel comfortable. I'm so happy herself and Benaiah have reconciled, they seem so lovely together!

[@joanna0988]

See I think Nicole is flaky and only on the show for fame. She was on another reality show already so maybe Sam and her have more in common than people think.

[@elliodhadh25]

@@joanna0988 oh I didnt know that! I knew Cat was but not Nicole 😭

[@luckyrabbit2]

@@elliodhadh25It was a cooking show not a big deal

[@stacyb-r6931]

​@@joanna0988 It can also just mean that she is more open to these types of experiences because she had a positive experience on that cooking show

[@joanna0988]

@@stacyb-r6931 Sure but to seek it out means you want to be in the public eye. Plus she sang on the show so I think she wanted exposure for that.

[@taechic]

No wonder Beniah was my favorite, we share the same stack. Love your analysis once again!

[@Jenny-vm3yu]

I’m an ENFJ so no wonder an INFJ was also my favourite.

[@bmc9696]

If a ni-dom (Intj or infj) tells you not to trust someone, you believe them. They may not be able to quote reasons but you should know theyve been gathering information from day one and arrived at a conclusion that is seldom wrong. Also, when the ni-dom is trying to warn you to protect you and you dont believe them, thats like a dagger to their hearts. Im surprised Beniah gave nicole so many choices.

[@being-Lisa]

Ni-doms are amazing!

[@eda5086]

Idk MBTI is not scientifically

[@kalindazimba1854]

I hope they all, especially Nicole, watch this. It will help everyone adjust themselves in general. For their own growth and development.

[@QueenyKay]

Yeah. I truly hope Nicole watched this video and apologizes to Ben for being so dismissive of his feelings. He was very gracious in the way he handled that. I would've been extremely frustrated and that would have caused real tension between us for sure.

[@oompaloompa83]

@@QueenyKay I've seen her comments. She's being completely accountable to all that and she sincerely apologised to him on the reunion, so hopefully she's realised how it makes him feel.

[@QueenyKay]

@@oompaloompa83 Yeah I saw the way she wanted to share the blame with Ben on the reunion. I know she's apologized for a lot of things but I don't know if she realized that shutting him down when he was trying to talk about his discussion with Sam was a way of dismissing his feelings. This video is an additional tool to help her grow that's why I hope she watches it. So far she and Ben are my favorite couple.

[@oompaloompa83]

@@QueenyKay Sorry, I wasn't clear. I'd seen her commenting on videos here on KZbin since the end of the show. A couple of people brought this exact thing up and she said she sees it and apologised for her behaviour. She said she was working on these things.

[@weronikakonieczna1856]

I love how your opinions are always so well-balanced and respectful but at the same time so on point and not wishy-washy. We get 20 minutes of structured analysis with concrete, real life examples to illustrate it (which my Se is loving 😃 !). Very helpful of you to also incorporate advice/suggestions for the characters on how they could handle the situation in a more healthy way! We're learning along the way ❤

[@khxliakhxlia3605]

Perfectly said❤

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you for your support ❤️ It’s so reassuring to know that you found my content respectful but still on point and structured - it’s what I aim to do 🙂

[@katiem82850]

Soooooo happy you did this analysis on this group!

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you for your support 🥰

[@katiem82850]

@@DrCherieTypes Thank you for sharing you fascinating and insightful perspectives

[@TheGracefulGlowup]

So happy you're back! Jasmine called him out immediately! I felt so bad for Nicole because she seemed so naive and genuinely surprised! I saw the immediate regret too 😅

[@penguin34567]

I always look forward to your LIB analyses! This was very interesting as Nicole's decision making process was puzzling to me. I was also quite surprised by how easily Beninah took her back. I did pick up her lack of acknowledgement for Ben's care and concern. Hopefully she will learn how to do that. On a side note--I'd love to hear your type analysis for Jasmine and Bobby (one of my favorite couples this season!)

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you for your support 🥰

[@oksanaml9279]

Not me. They seem to be consumed with gossiping about all the others. And she was such a pot stirrer especially when she was badgering Ollie which ended up making him leave in a huff which I don't blame him for.

[@joanna0988]

My favourite couple is Sabrina and Steven and I'd love to hear the reasons why they work so nicely together.

[@imadtorch8770]

her gut pulled prank on her 😂

[@pnwlady]

I don’t think Sam or Nicole are in touch with their gut feeling/intuition. They both are trying to have an experience to redeem themselves in their own minds. Nicole from her failed marriage and Sam from his unsuccessful romantic life. Sam might not be a bad person but he’s so insecure and desperate he hurts people. He needs to learn how to love himself before anyone can love him. The focus on the superficial isn’t helping.

[@Tevin730]

How has sam hurt anybody. He was on the show trying to find a match like. Why do people keep putting this negative outlook on him

[@smitty5641]

​@Tevin730 because it's obvious that he's full of 💩 his responses are very generic. He lacks depth and couldn't handle jasmine calling him out

[@IshtarNike]

​@@Tevin730Based on how he acted on the show I have no doubt that he's the sort of person to string girls along and tell them everything they want to hear. Then if it gets serious he'll be unable to keep up the charade and then eventually leave them after things get tough while telling them it's because they didn't like him enough etc. etc. You can absolutely do a lot of damage by accident if you're desperate and selfish enough. He's clearly in that ball park.

[@Anna-bo5dk]

@@Tevin730 It is obvious that he is this type of guy: Being desperate for attention and love, so saying everything the other person wants to hear to get this love and attention, but no interest in the other person at all.That IS hurtful and when I was younger I fell for guys like this. Later you feel used and also like the other person didn't really care for you at all. All he wants is any girl to say "I have a girlfriend", no deep connection. The way he talked, like beggars can't be choosers etc is just disgusting. If you don't see that, you may be a similar person?

[@michellegrantvaughn1561]

This is such a great video thank youuuuuu!!!! Okay quote of the day “It’s like asking a con man… are you a con man?” 😂 I cracked up at that excellent point. I thoroughly enjoyed your analysis and can’t wait to watch the show.

[@saynay333]

Thank you for this analysis. Nicole was so confounding to me.

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you for your support 🥰

[@stacyo.1080]

I didn’t understand Nicole’s naïveté although she had been married previously. She comes off like a teenager from an emotional standpoint. What you said was very interesting.

[@wittlekikz]

Just because someone has been married before doesn't equate to being experienced with men. Nicole strikes me as someone who's been very sheltered and likely married the first guy she ever seriously dated, so it may make sense that she is not as experienced in spotting the signs as Jasmine is, who mentions her varied dating experiences. It's so surprising when people bring up her previous marriage as proof of her experience. As someone who married their college sweetheart and got divorced 10 years later, in my 30s, I can tell you, I am still feeling the weight of my inexperience in the current dating world. One can't just assume someone is experienced because they were married, especially if you don't know their dating history.

[@stacyb-r6931]

​@@wittlekikz Exactly 💯

[@QueenyKay]

​@@wittlekikzand don't forget that Sam manipulated her. I wonder if Dr Cherie thinks it was manipulation since she never used that term but he clearly love bombed her and asked her to marry him right after Jasmine dumped him. He knew she was in a vulnerable state ( she was crying and showed she was mentally lost) and that's when he chose to ask her to marry him. It's like cults that prey on vulnerable people. They know your exact weakness and use it to their advantage. I find Nicole actually less naive than anyone thinks because as soon as she said yes and they saw each other, she told him she didn't wanna go to Greece and wanted to focus on their relationship outside of the cameras and that's when Sam showed his true colors. So she found a way to make him reveal his true intensions. It took her 2 days to understand that she made a mistake. Zack still went to Mexico to explore his relationship with Irina. I think the pods intensify your feelings and experience. I believe they said that you speed date everyone on the first day and then they ask you who to write down your 2 or 3 favorites and if it matches that's the 2-3 people you will date constantly for the next 2 seeks. I believe Lauren and Cameron said they had 12 to 16 hour dates at some point so you can imagine why Nicole would rather trust her experience of Sam than what other people told her.

[@no.6377]

@@wittlekikz I don't think her being inexperienced should've been such a factor tbh. I also don't think OP is talking about romantic or sexual experience strictly, because just living life and having a long term relarionship should give you some sort of discernment. As a fellow inexperienced introvert, I found some of her decisions were downright...baffling. As mentioned, the whole asking a conman if he's a conman decision was just bizarre. Does she go around thinking dishonest people are gonna just let her know they're dishonest as long as she asks them directly? I guess it's easy to think this from the outside looking in, but I know that things are so much different when you're caught up in emotions. Either way, Nicole did lack maturity when the show was filming and hopefully she'll grow from this experience and be a bit less naive.

[@Pou1gie1]

@18:45 I think Benaiah needs to stop felling the need to protect Nicole. Ppl learn better from falling on their face than from when they are protected from injury. I wonder what she will think during the episode where they reflect on the show when she sees Sam's comments about her. That's going to be a very important moment.

[@connie27100]

I agree that her response to Ben's concerns was not satisfying. It did come across as dismissive. It would be frustrating for me as well. Hopefully, once she can watch how Sam operates in the background, she will have no choice but to accept a new reality. It may not be one that she is ready for, so I also understand why she's, in a way, protecting Sam and her memories with him. She is not privy to all that information that we have seen. Still, she dismissed her own concerns, Bens and Jasmines. I did wonder how people can operate with that level of denial. Frustrating, though, all around.

[@Afak6]

I missssed you Dr. Cherie!! So excited you’re analyzing this new season. 😃❤️

[@ningyding]

Your analyses are so incredible!!

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you for your support 🥰

[@tiaratorres1897]

This was very interesting, I loved the analysis! but as a chemist I kept getting distracted by nickel, iron, telurium, silicon, etc., (Ni, Fe, Te, Si) seeing the elements in the circles due to notation lollll

[@TheMaxymama]

Wow, you knocked it out of the park again. I'm so amazed by your breakdown, Dr Cherrie. 👏🏻

[@lucillespider]

damn, i see myself in these characters and i feel so called out. lol.

[@joanna0988]

That's why I come here 😅😅 Call me out Dr. Cherie !! 🙌🏻❤️

[@DarylSimpson58]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.

[@peterwilliams6361]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@DarylSimpson58]

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[@peterwilliams6361]

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[@peterwilliams6361]

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[@ijustneedmyself]

​@@peterwilliams6361 Peter, just so you know, this is paid advertising. It's disgusting this individual is posting comments advertising someone's services under the guise of being friendly and helpful. I've seen this lady's name in many comments strewn across KZbin and it's very obvious it's trying to push people to this lady's website. I wish you the absolute best in the hardship you're currently facing. Take care.

[@Kakarott2023]

yeah! i have waited for you dr cherie :) Please analyse the men and women from Love is blind mexiko. This is the wildest show of the franchise, i was so shocked

[@kaydenpat]

Loved your analysis. So detailed and interesting. Nicole just strikes me as very naive but I'm glad that she ended up with Benaiah in the end. I wonder what she's thinking now as she watches the season and sees how Sam truly is and what he said about her behind her back. I hope we find out at the reunion.

[@armutable]

As always, loved your analysis! Thank you for this amazing job, I hope you’ll bring more, especially on Ollie and Cat. They have this duality to them I cannot grasp-like good kids hanging out with a wrong crowd. Both of them entertaining Sam and “instagram life” but having so much more depth, good values and empathy to offer.

[@DrCherieTypes]

The duality you sense is because the superficial values and behaviour stem from a place of deep insecurity and pain

[@grapefanta5975]

I went through something like nicole and sam and it took me so so long to get over it. I always try to look at things from multiple perspectives to understand the situation, but sometimes its hard to tell which of my thoughts are real and which are just me being delulu lol. This is video is so helpful in giving me the clarity i need ❤ its difficult to watch others hate on nicole and sam… Im trying to remind myself to give myself grace and kindness. I hope anyone else who’s faced/facing a similar situation as nicole and sam finds this video and starts their healing 💗 Thank you Dr Cherie!

[@DrCherieTypes]

We’ve all been fools when it comes to matters of the heart ❤️

[@dahliaherrod4301]

Sam makes me sad. He's so painfully insecure and desperate for love. That desire is so strong, too strong for any one person to fulfill. I think he lacks any sense of self worth or concrete identity. He actually reminds me of the incels who latch on to looks because they don't know how to navigate social situations. I hope he steps away from dating and gets into therapy. But more than that, I hope he finds Jesus who can give him the unconditional infinite love he's seeking

[@lisabrightly]

I have no idea but I've known many shallow people and that's it for them, I've never seen one develop depth or maturity.

[@shelleylarose]

He does not make me sad, he’s a jerk and you can see it right away, I take people for face value analyzing people is justifying bad behaviour, I am 60 years old and gave up that trait long ago, leave analysis to the shrinks.

[@dahliaherrod4301]

@@shelleylarose oh he's absolutely a jerk and any woman who thinks they can put on the cape to save him is delusional. I can also see the root of the issue and feel compassion for him. Ultimately Sam has to want to get help.

[@seethroughwalls]

@dahliaherrod4301 - I was with you until you said the J-word. Why does religion need to be mixed into everything? Please don't answer that.

[@dahliaherrod4301]

@@seethroughwalls nah I'll answer. I thought about leaving Jesus out of it but it wouldn't be genuine because I truly believe Sam needs Jesus. I think we all do. I leave it up to the channel creator to decide if she wants to delete my comment. I think it's a bit unreasonable to ask me to leave out my faith which informs my entire world view. I would never ask anyone else to deny their faith. Why ask it of me?

[@aminaa4253]

Such an incisive and thoughtful analysis. The insights about making decisions solely with your inferior function is helpful for understanding Nicole's actions - and more generally. I think they will continue to run into roadblocks because Benaiah likes to confront things head on, and as you mention Nicole avoids difficult feelings or things that make her feel bad

[@LydiaHricMachova]

Wow, what a wonderful analysis! Thank you, you've helped me understand a lot of what happened. Very insightful!

[@verronica2]

I agree, 100% spot on and I like how you described it, even though its a little confusing at least you had a tool to back your opinions up :) Especially sad about how Nicole continues to be in denial about Sam and dimisses Beniah, he does not deserve that

[@TheGracefulGlowup]

I can’t wait to hear your thoughts about the other couples, especially Demi and Ollie!

[@Bobbiekallday]

Thank you!!! This analysis perfectly describes how I feel about watching Nicole. I couldn’t understand why she was ignoring certain things.

[@patriciafletcher7834]

Dr. Cherie. I think you nailed it and that if Nicole does not become less defensive of Sam and more sensitized to Benaiah's feelings and express more respect for Benaiah's love for her then this marriage could be endangered.

[@gaia5434]

Your videos are such a mirror to who we are. Just found out and I learn and enjoy watching them. Thank you for the insights

[@thembaskonje1320]

I take my hat off for this useful analysis of the interaction between these interesting individuals. I agree Sam seems more being about the selfaggrendizement. Benial on the other hand seems very level headed and genuine without alterior motives

[@kymanipalmer2102]

I think nicole needed more healing before going on this show

[@serebart]

Dr Cherie I have watched several of your videos and I must compliment you on the quality and depth of your content! So interesting, so detailed and analyzed from different angles as well as according to the MB typing, a pleasure to watch (also how you pick out the perfect clips and juxtapose them). I just wish you made a video describing and explaining in detail lower and higher functions. I’m an INFJ but haven’t researched yet how this translates into Fi/Fe etc. Keep up the great content! Thanks 🙏

[@muma6559]

great analysis ! Thanks for sharing

[@Annakimjdididjjdjd63838]

I love your breakdown!!

[@Kim-km2kv]

Just found your channel. It was very interesting. Great job 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@DrCherieTypes]

Thank you! 🥰

[@SundaysSound]

Thank you so much for this analysis - it was so hard for me to understand Nicoles decision, but your explations were truly insightful. Obviously as a viewer you have seen more than she has but also less of their conversions - that's something to have in mind as well! Would have never guessed Nicole was a ESTJ as I am - it makes me wonder about decicions I have regretted and if I may have made them with my Fi ^^ I'm excited for your next videos on this season of LIB that I enjoyed so much this far!

[@yamaj2524]

So glad to see another video dr !! Love your videos

[@YaIngaYaYa]

I quite like Benaiah but i felt that his over-protective actions at times came off as a bit of a flag that Benaiah could be potentially a bit controlling. They look quite happy together so maybe that aspect works well in their relationship.

[@lolaispure4296]

Dr Cherie. Honest to God you are ALWAYS SPOT ON❤❤❤❤ Wish you were my therapist❤

[@DrCherieTypes]

If you ever wanted to chat: calendly.com/drcherietypes

[@lolaispure4296]

@@DrCherieTypes thank you!!!🙌🏿🩷

[@ItsGoingDao]

I look forward to seeing all your takes for this season esp our villains 😆🤗

[@BlackNella]

I was waiting for you!! I kept checking

[@mmwalks]

I love the cats on your shirt!

[@DrCherieTypes]

🐱🐱🐱

[@joanna0988]

I didn't even notice that, thought they were flowers 😅 So cute!

[@tammyhaywood1650]

Excellent breakdown!!

[@kholsk8857]

Oh wow, this was so insightful. I wish i could have my personality analysed the way you were able to in this situation. Do I start with the 16 personalities quiz? I know I'm an INFP but I'm so interested in dive deeper into understanding myself more. I could relate with what you mentioned about Nicole making a decision from her Fi and then instantly regretting it. I do not want to succumb to scarcity mindset but I want to make more use of my thinking, which I think may be Te...

[@DrCherieTypes]

I’ve developed my own methods to analyse natural speech and behaviour in order to work out what functions people have, and therefore their type. I do offer analysis sessions, link here: calendly.com/drcherietypes Unfortunately I can’t recommend any self tests available at the moment that provide enough objectivity to give accurate, reliable results. They often only reflect back what people already think of themselves, or who people want to be.

[@dreaoca]

Please do more shows than love is blind 🙏

[@Babesinthewood97]

”The sweet boy never wins”. Please. There are millions of women who really long for a sweet man. Other men can be abusive and violent, narcissistic etc and what I personally want is exactly what he thinks noone wants. A sweet boy, well, guy, man, not a school boy as I’m obviously not a school girl, but you get my point. Edit: i haven’t watched the show so I don’t know anything about this particular guy, but I just reacted to the saying.

[@Ela29653]

I love this. So spot on

[@Daniela-Christianson]

Thank you for reminding me that Beniah said he couldn't see himself getting engaged, thereby making Nicole vulnerable to Sam.

[@Levigna1983]

I enjoyed this one because I felt very close to Benaiah and here is why, he's INFJ too. And there are not many INFJs in these kind of shows, right? Very underrepresented. I felt strongly against Sam, and I would have spoken up as well, just as he did. I appreciated the insight about him not feeling the need to back it up with examples and that not working with Si. I will keep it in mind :)

[@ericaavery9382]

I agree about Benaiah not quoting Sam and just giving the conclusion in terms of his functions. To add to that, I also think Benaiah didn't want to give the specifics of what Sam said because he didn't want Sam's comments to hurt her. Like "I heard his real opinions, he sucks, please just believe me." Because "He's wondering about your weight and after he was rejected by Jasmine, said beggars can't be choosers about you" would SUCK to hear. He was also trying to protect her feelings.

[@pearlosibu]

Very helpful and insightful. Thank you.

[@suzanne26slinger]

benaiah is the hottest guy on the show

[@cubbybear8322]

Whatt? That's a wild statement 😮

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

this was great - thank you

[@trafficcontrol2420]

Was waiting for your review on the show!

[@yagushka]

Never heard of the functions, that’s so interesting 🧐

[@dudaresende955]

I really loved your analyses.

[@muma6559]

I've lived the fact that ESTJ just don't take advice for their own benefit, they just can't see it... it's frustrating. And they don't look out for other's feelings. ESTJ really need to work on that and be mindful to consider when someone is being truthful to them.

[@kedeine1]

Can't wait for your analysis on Cat and Fred

[@gwendee5070]

Wow, great analysis! I just came across your channel. I personally thought that Nicole was trying to do damage control by not explaining what happened between her and Sam to Ben, she was embarrassed, hurted and confused by her decision. I get the feeling she felt rejected after wanting to have sex with Sam. She brought up to Ben how intimacy is a sensitive thing for her and that she doesn't want to have sex too quickly.

[@stacyb-r6931]

Apparently didn't happen and couldn't happen because they are not allowed to hang out or meet before arriving in Greece after the reveal. Seems Sam made it up

[@Vim-eo2zy]

They both admitted it was a lie at the reunion. I think what happened was Nicole wanted physical comfort from Sam but maybe Sam took it the wrong way or twisted it. Because Nicole was adamant it was a lie, when it was clarified that the physical intimacy Sam was talking about was that she wanted to sleep with him. Physical intimacy is a broad term, Nicole probably did not think it meant trying to sleep with him until after watching the series back and realizing that's what Sam meant which she called out as a lie at the reunion and he agreed it was.

[@elusiveglasslizard]

@cherie what do you think about Objective personality? OPS?

[@lisabrightly]

I have the exact same personality stack as Beniah, I honestly couldn't date a person like Nicole. Shes just not sensitive and understanding enough.

[@rennie-s]

Same. I can see why he's drawn to her. He can tell that she's a genuinely good and sweet person, just like he can tell that Sam is duplicitous and insincere. But we're a very sensitive type, and can't keep sharing our love, loyalty, and uncanny insight just to be punished and unappreciated. It's like Sam is saying, "Trust me," and Nicole's response is "I do." Meanwhile Beniah is saying, "Trust me," and her response is, "I don't want to talk about it anymore." Beniah deserves better.

[@shelleylarose]

I agree you have to be deep, I am very sensitive and it makes me very observant, I see things other people don’t see

[@madgiemadgie9128]

But Beniah didn't give her assurance.when she asked, he didn't immediately give her the firm answer she needed. She was foolish to fall for Sam,but I feel had Beniah immediately "claimed" her, she would have pushed Sam aside.

[@Tesss2953]

Your content is so interesting. What would be the best match for an INTP according to you? I have booked in a session with you for the 27th.

[@DrCherieTypes]

I look forward to meeting you! I've come to realise through my work that compatibility is very individualised and nuanced in reality: it's your type, which functions you personally value, your upbringing, what you were taught to aspire to or reject. There's no one Perfect Match, even if a lot of theories might say there is. We can definitely explore what's best match for you in our session.

[@Co-Co-Jo]

Sam was Sam, and it was clear he grew up in total insecurity and someone who hasn't developed the maturity to start adulting because of said insecurities. And a BIG question...does anyone get creeped out by Benoiah? He totally used Nicole and Sam's insecurities to play find a way in by playing the hero in a situation he continued to fuel...coincidence? And why did Nicole feel a stronger emotional to Sam, trusting her gut? Cos he was actually been real to his own detriment and does speak without thinking. He thinks he's being cool with the comments he makes and what says what he thinks people want to hear. He hasn't developed the ability to filter thos. Plus he is still confused about who he is and truly put the pain of his past behind him. Sam isn't evolved as a person to consciously manipulate whereas Benoiah is. And one more question: did Benoiah question any of the other guys who said disrespectful things about the girls in banter??

[@avez8307]

Great video, I'm curious if anyone has done the personality analysis or couples analysis with Dr. Cherie? Can anyone share their experience, Im kinda thinking about it 🤔 would love to hear from anyone who did

[@hayfield11]

I’d love to see someone you’ve analysed take your observations on board

[@laghibli9127]

What i found interesting i her body language she nods her head like a no when beniah asks her hand when they met

[@shallnoTfear]

Ugh! I have been in Nicole's place and trusting and forgiving. What a shame!

[@A_Space]

This is excellent

[@pppaaattt4671]

Sam is pathetic/immature

[@lansvance4870]

I was thinking the same. He comes across as being 13 years old mentally. Like you can tell there is something very much not genuine… he is like a child lying to his parents to get something out of them.

[@104overnout]

After watching this show, Man, I'm going to stay single. I think it's more peaceful to be single.

[@Caramelchi]

Please get married. Pray to God about your spouse St Joseph Novena Prayer is a good start. Choose carefully!

[@kajapotrebujes9325]

Sam is like real life David Brent 😂😂😂

[@weronikakonieczna1856]

Danke!

[@DrCherieTypes]

Bitte schön! 🥰 I am so grateful for your support!!

[@cass_sorrel]

Ahhhh yes, concluding with NI, but not giving concrete details (SE) to support the intuitive conclusion... Feeling seen here! One of my growing edges as someone with the INFJ stack lmao. I get really stressed having to explain the details/concrete evidence, not because I don't have any, but because it's a LOT of evidence that my brain picks up on and condenses down very fast. I get overwhelmed by the evidence. Probably trauma, as I would get punished and gaslit for communicating concrete things to my family growing up. A lot of my childhood and adult trauma involves people dismissing or even attacking me when I provide concrete details, so now, the fear of reliving that trauma exhausts me. The older I get, the more I realize that, as long as people are desiring the concrete details in good faith, that it is a reasonable ask and *very necessary* to take time to relay the evidence. I am learning to keep NI statements and conclusions for myself/share with trusted folks and folks who trust me/save it for art and poetry (lol), and to be more upfront about SE stuff in supportive environments. I can use NI in unsafe spaces silently to take action, but no need to announce a conclusion! Not using my SE and TI to communicate has meant that I'm more prone to being seen as a paranoid, cryptic, or dramatic to people who don't know me or can't see the situation themselves. I've also been on the receiving end of high NI warnings that included no concrete evidence in the statement. It is annoying, but since I'm an INFJ, I don't dismiss pattern recognition, so I used the warning to move slowly and observe the person/situation for concrete evidence myself. These days, if I am too flustered or too overwhelmed to provide concrete evidence I try to stick to at least one observation instead of feeling like I need to share ALL OF THEM and tell people to go slow (ex: "this person confessed to looking at wedding rings after the first date i had with them. I suggest moving slowly with this person" or "tread lightly with this org and see what you notice" rather than be super alarmist and vague ("STAY AWAY!!!"). I also just have to have the boundary with myself that I can't be in relationship with someone who doesn't seek evidence or believe evidence that is given to them. It is painful. I recently broke up with someone who would reject evidence, just rode on pure NE ("but what about all the possibilities?" in a burning building), no sensing, rejected embodiment constantly, etc. (Embodiment is difficult for me, but I don't hate it, just takes more intention). Beniah and Nicole's relationship holds a good mirror to remind me the ways that I stay in unsatisfying relationships: I can get stuck in needing to help someone "see" why a situation is bad, rather than picking partners who have a good relationship with reality and their gut. Instead of using my insight to make decisions about who I want to be with, I historically have use my insight to rescue others or "make" someone see (codependency). And I see Beniah doing this as well. My ex would constantly ignore reality and I would feel shame and like I was a "downer" for noticing the reality of a situation, rather than just exiting the relationship.

[@cass_sorrel]

also, the irony of Nicole seeing Sam as misunderstood, even though his actions speak for themselves, while she seems to not understand Benaiah or the situation she has with Sam at all.

[@JH-tz5hy]

Sam had major incel energy. All the women were interchangeable to him, he didn't like any of them in particular, and just went after the ones that he thought liked him, because he just wants someone to like him (which is understandable as a human, just not okay to use people as a means to an end rather than a end in themselves)

[@quorraquar2677]

Yessssss‼️

[@juliart9479]

If someone wants to hear everyone’s facts but primarily trusts their own interpretation of those facts, would that be an Se/Ni pair? Or is that more related to Fe/Ti?

[@AiResearcherPhD]

S and N is what’s is being observed. T and F is how the observation are interpreted. Both Ti and Te are capable of surveying and drawing their own conclusions.

[@tunzlunz]

I see the functions you see Dr Cherie but in a different order. Nicole strikes me as more of an Ne Fi Te Si. I think Ne is her hero that’s why she was able to move on from Benaiah so quickly especially seeing the clip of how strongly they connected at the reunion I think it was uncharacteristic of a Te hero to give up so easily on someone they have such a strong connection with. Especially since Nicole’s goal was love not marriage. So I see her being a bit unskilled with Te than it being her hero. It’s giving child Te with Fi parent. Also she didn’t seem like Fi was her weakness. She seems so confident in her Fi that it has to be higher in her functional stack. I understand that we get better at our fourth functions as we get older but they still tire us out. I don’t see Nicole trying to form a life around that Fi function because that would be exhausting and terrifying if it really is her 4th function. A corporate job would be a dream for a Te hero. It would be very uncharacteristic of them to leave that familiarity to be a nomad with Benaiah which is what her Fi desires.

[@tunzlunz]

Another thing is I see many seeing Nicole as dismissing Benaiah’s feeling when it came to his warning of Sam but once again it’s the way Benaiah presented it. Very Fe of him to say, Sam was saying this about you and that about you. Instead of saying that Sam said some nasty about someone I love and it really hurt my feelings. So Nicole responds by reassuring him that she’s fine. Once again her very confident parent Fi says don’t worry about what Sam says or who Sam says I am. I know who I am. So she missed the mark of reassuring Benaiah because she didn’t understand what Benaiah was saying. I’m not blaming Benaiah by the way. As Dr Cherie has pointed out it’s just them not understanding each other’s functions. Though I am comforted to see that when they came back for the reunion Nicole seems to finally understand how much Benaiah was hurting by the things Sam said about her.

[@AiResearcherPhD]

Are you typed as a feeler?

[@tunzlunz]

@@AiResearcherPhD I am. Why lol?

[@irregularlyregularly]

"Teehee" -Ryan Higa

[@dougscience6361]

7:59 the wife of my kids 😅😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅

[@Ketobodybuilderajb]

Hi, Cherie

[@renatalawrance122]

NIcole is a red flag herself. And Benaiah is a drama queen

[@Vim-eo2zy]

People are not perfect beings. Nicole is not a red flag in the sense that she's a straight up dick head. Which is more red flag behaviour. She is just imperfect like you, me and any other human being, and so is Benaiah. Sam on the other hand, while also an imperfect human being, comes across more like a red flag the way he carries himself, at least by how he's portrayed in the show.

[@Vim-eo2zy]

No she is flawed just like everyone else but of you follow her insta, she's far from the superficial type, very down to earth and always working towards improvement and self growth. Those are the best type of people. Sam on the other hand has qualities that he clearly needs to work on and take accountability for, for himself rather than trying to please others or take accountability because other people tell him to. Benaiah was over protective of Nicole but I don't blame him because Nicole came across pretty naive and Sam is far from genuine. It looks like Ben heard some other stuff about Sam as well, that we did not get to see on camera as he had said in interviews.

[@ask_why000]

Nicole should have done home alone. Sam never should have been on the show.

[@rebekahsunday3254]

Sam is so slimy. “I wanted to be a true gentleman” while bringing up a moment to try to embarrass Nicole is the opposite of being a gentleman.

[@tunzlunz]

Lol who hasn’t had their character besmirched after dating an ESFJ! Ugh Sam is the worst. Telling everyone Nicole is easy to save his ego was so cringe.

[@maxaguilar3824]

Maybe Nicole just wanted the fame too and didn't want to string along Benaiah.

[@neoda1801]

7:58 hahahahha