Easiest Way to Get Her IN THE MOOD

• If The Narcissist was ...
This is how to be a GREAT LOVER in the Bedroom!
#intimacy #bedroom #sensuality

[@inabind416]

Pay attention, all you men out there!!! This is sooooo true. Us women are not your sex toys, to be ignored before and after.

[@Dalenaxx3]

This!!

[@Canary_v]

me, a woman without a partner: hm, this is really interesting

[@ZuerstJesus]

:D

[@ruthnelesehgwaikolo1950]

😅

[@SENSEF]

THIS!!!👍

[@marydoogan2486]

No trust = no desire. So true! Been about a decade for me now. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@rixanneh18]

✏️"No honking..." 😂

[@kicsms_science3729]

I sent this to my husband with a comment: "I want to see if you can guess which part made me laugh out loud." 😄

[@brittanywest6484]

I just laughed too, it’s so sad it’s funny that it’s true lol. I don’t understand why any man would think honking is foreplay but, so many of them do 🤣

[@mbranch2023]

So true, everything out of the bedroom leads to the bedroom (or avoids the bedroom).

[@ashassassin]

This just reminds me of when i told my boyfriend what i like and he laughed and said girls dont like that. We've had a dead bedroom for 5 years now.

[@ladyofspa]

5 years a girlfriend!! And no good sex?! Why?

[@TheOPtmal]

why haven't you left yet?

[@JadecoreX3]

@@TheOPtmalbecause you dont just end a relationship because of not having good sex?

[@mettamorph4523]

Bad sex DOES end a relationship. They may not physically leave, but it's still over. To me, unsatisfying sex is like having a Thanksgiving dinner where only one person's food is seasoned.

[@lyyliv4368]

​@@JadecoreX3There is so much more going on in that initial comment. You cannot have a good relationship with a person when you tell them your needs and that person laughs at you and tells you those are not your needs. The foundation of a good relationship is listening and trusting each other. Where is that in this situation?

[@Queenv1992]

❤❤❤I absolutely love your channel I Learned so much and it truly made me marriage better ❤❤❤❤

[@JimmyonRelationships]

That means so much!!!

[@Queenv1992]

❤️❤️❤️

[@sakurasfish2115]

Another easier way to get this point through: Just treat her the way you treated her when you were dating. When you didn't know each other and were building the relationship towards getting laid with her. Nothing has changed, there's a reason why back then you took her out, were gentle, listened and put the work foreplaying. She's still that same person. After years of relationship, your partner will feel more like a friend, a roommate or a family member if you don't do that...and if it feels boring to do so...find new types of dates or something but imo just get her somewhere nice and after a bottle of wine whatever feels interesting. That and rubbing oil on never fails.

[@timcarroll7505]

Ok guys, a thirty minute full body massage with no expectations once a week "use a nice oil". That's a starter. Once a night conversation just you and her, 30 minutes. Listen to everything she has to say without interruption, really listen. DO NOT ARGUE! It will be a little awkward at first but will become more natural. Let her tell you how she feels with openness and ecceptance. Now it's your turn, tell her how you feel with the same expectation. It can be liberating and after about a month of this if you keep your head on straight, you will be getting all you want.

[@ajregalia1334]

While this is fine and good for building emotional intimacy it doesn't guarantee sexual intimacy, nor should it be looked at as being done for that end or it's disingenuous.

[@timcarroll7505]

@@ajregalia1334 So enlighten me. What would you recomend as a prelude to sexual intimacy?

[@ajregalia1334]

@@timcarroll7505 Things that are sexual in nature. Flirty messages sent throughout the day, sensual touch and playful teasing that builds up tension, kisses that get just a bit longer are all things that build anticipation for more. It's hard to say because it's very individualistic. Some people prefer something more spontaneous and passionate, others prefer something more planned and gradual, some like random grabbing and being touched throughout the day, for others that is something that needs to be built up to. Even what I've described is something I enjoy, it's not a one size fits all. The things Jimmy described, while important for intimacy and security, aren't preludes to sexual intimacy nor do they guarantee that your partner will be aroused at the end of the day. Having conversations about the health/state of your relationship and each other's concerns is good and important. But unless those conversations are specifically about sex and how to foster more of it they are just conversations. Looking at them in isolation as something to do or put up with to getting all you could want in regards to sex sounds....not great to me.

[@Strattaify]

😅😅😅

[@Nerdy-By-Nature]

How about just ask her? Every woman is going to be different. And if she's not open to the conversation it's highly likely you aren't doing what is suggested in the video.

[@Melborn0915]

Sorry, Dudes, that’s just the truth. There are no shortcuts. Ps. If a woman is willing to cut straight to the groping, I know you think she’s just hot… But watch out. That may be a sign of some unhealthy attachment.

[@Zmiana_Pogody]

true! (I am a woman with unhealthy attachements)

[@meh_lady]

It may not be their fault, but someone who will jump straight into sleeping with you doesn’t value themselves or the most sacred part of them. You’re taking advantage of a broken person and may not even realize that you’re disrespecting them and yourself.

[@ajregalia1334]

@@meh_lady Does this apply to two people in a committed relationship with a foundation of trust and intimacy who already have strong feelings towards each other (which is the target audience of the video)?

[@yourconnection9303]

Exactly.

[@michaelsnider2484]

​​@@ajregalia1334 I don't think so IF she actually enjoys it.

[@CuttheCrazy]

Heey! Can you add in like what emotional validation and kinda what empathy is. Can you talk about how doing things for the other person don’t automatically mean sex. Like it’s about trust and feeling like we’re in it together for me. Idk then I feel like a failure cause I’m not fulfilling his needs!! It’s wack..

[@michaelsnider2484]

I am a happily married woman coming up to our 25th wedding anniversary: Some thoughts: Thank him regularly. For going to work, for doing chores, for the great things about him: this is very empathic because you will be treating him as we all wish to be treated. Say I love you, often. Kiss him goodbye and hello whenever he comes and goes. Make a habit of saying grace together at every dinner. Try to say yes to sex whenever you can. I know this is not a popular idea right now, but men have a strong need, and the successful relationship is one where both partners prioritize the other's needs. 99 times out of 10 you will be into it once you get going. Tell him and show him what you like in the bedroom. Make every effort not to go to bed angry. Respect him. Hope this helps. Remember: a marriage is not a competition. You are a TEAM. Try to keep that in mind and face your challenges together. Always be mindful of what is good for your team and what is needed for your team to succeed in life.

[@lenavoyles526]

What if giving him the chance to fulfill you could be the greatest gift you could offer him?

[@christinao8877]

Most common complaint is all that takes too long. I would say just care if she is enjoying herself. If she’s not enjoying herself or doesn’t finish sex will dramatically decline.

[@nathantupe9018]

Can you please do this from the other side too? Men ofcourse need connection, and as a man I try my best to give my wife this stuff. Your videos feel so one way, catering to the womans needs only. Men need to feel wanted and loved too, we cant handle all of the responsibility it has to be a team effort. I read comments on every video about how husband's were "useless" and you stayed for 20 years and finally gave up. Why is it that when a man isn't meeting a womans needs he needs to be replaced, but when a woman is meeting a mans needs its because of all of the burdens she is carrying. We need to feel loved too

[@lyyliv4368]

The point here is that while both genders want intimacy, men's pre-requistes are shorter: they are visual and need to feel wanted. However, women generally need to feel both wanted AND feel connected to their partner (ie, including having the nest in order or other needs met first). So if the man shows that connection to her by his actions thruout the day light, that evening, she will show she wants him. In other words, the video from the other side would be what happens that evening. I don't know if that would make for a good video on KZbin.

[@nathantupe9018]

@@lyyliv4368 i see your point, but I don't agree fully. We do have more pre requisites than people say. We need to be seen throughout the day too. I'll be physically intimate easier sure, but if there's no connection beforehand It doesn't feel fulfilling. What happens when the man is doing all of the seeing to the nest and her needs and nothing is reciprocated?

[@evelynsaungikar3553]

@@nathantupe9018then you have a conversation, where you tell her you’re trying and don’t feel like you’re being seen. Just flip the script. Jimmy has lots of videos where he says it could be either partner in either role. But often, men need sex to feel connected, and women need connection to feel sexy. So Jimmy is giving tips on how to create connection. Because that worked for him. There are other relationship channels which might suggest different things.

[@SusanAnnePowerOfTruth]

I understand your point of view but if you know Jimmy from watching him for some time, he is a reformed husband, he is "catering" to women's needs in his videos because he feels that he deeply offended and hurt his wife in the past, and he wants to speak out to men who are maybe hurting their wives now, so they can come to the same illuminations that Jimmy did. There are tons of videos on the internet which are encouraging women and teaching women how to be better for their husbands. So please don't Despair and feel like everything is one-sided. You can find almost anything you want from any angle on the internet. No puns intended. Not all women think men have to carry the burden, and not all men think that women have to carry the burden. You will find what you seek in the comments. If you look for good women, you will find them. If you look for good men, you will find them. We are all out here.

[@mettamorph4523]

@@nathantupe9018 seeing to the best and her needs SOUNDS like paying the mortgage and providing food shopping money and laundry detergent. There's nothing personal in that. You need a place to live too, and food and soap. Do things that let the spouse know you see the individual they are.

[@lindamceachern5467]

Love her all the time...not just in the bedroom ♥

[@mmoro143]

Priceless, awesome, cute and right on money. Great double act, Jimmy👌 I LOVE YOUR SHORT VIDEOS. A way to go!!!❤

[@vinayarora5918]

No honking 😂😂😂😂

[@melodieryan925]

Yeah Jimmy.. i love this. Women need to feel safe and it can run really deep. We want to be honored, loved and explored.

[@jeanneauger1722]

This is so beautifully and concisely said! It almost makes me feel like getting married is not such a bad idea after all!

[@RaoulDukeSr]

Absolutely agree with a commenter below ! 30 - 45 min full body massage is a wonderful warm up and emotional connect. Appropriate music, lighting, candles and incense even. Quality massage oil...and full body is key !! Both individuals will be oh so warm and beautifully in the moment perfectly. Our go to massage music was a band called Morcheeba, and Thievery Corporation..total bliss💜 ahhh how life can change so very quickly 💔 One love everyone 🙏

[@elizabethsanchez3193]

I'm married but I'm turned on by hearing a man say this because it's everything I've been trying to get. I'm married and feel a little bit like a prostitute because he's not gentle, doesn't follow directions, isn't romantic and isn't emotionally mature to understand. I feel like I can have more connection with any stranger if I ventured off. 😑

[@suecutway1845]

I’m not sure how else I can get in touch with you but I have an unrelated question. Been married for 33 years. My husband is of fashioned. Does NOT do “women’s work” but over the years he has gotten better at it. However, every time I bust my ass in the kitchen and make an amazing meal I will say to him. Do you mind cleaning up and doing the dishes? And every single time I say that he comes back with,” right after you learn how to to mow the lawn and do all the outside work” and then never does the dishes. How can I stop this cycle and get him to realize this is a partnership and not the 1950’s

[@RaoulDukeSr]

Perhaps call his bluff and show him your incredibly capable of doing those tasks, then perhaps suggest dinner is on him 🤷‍♂️ typically when someone is nurtured and cooked for...they should be more than happy and willing to clean up and show their appreciation. However I'm very aware how some are "old fashioned " and stuck in their ways. You sound like you have a great heart, and work hard🙏 I bet you're an incredible chef/cook. More power to you 💞

[@moongoddess1978]

I would say no problem and go mow the lawn. That’s a deal! The lawn is every two weeks. The dishes are daily. I’d also point out that if you were single, both would have to do everything. Might as well find an acceptable compromise.

[@Lighttanguitar]

Please come over and be my husband’s bestie.

[@SusanAnnePowerOfTruth]

Really very well explained, very accurate, and really a game changer. Love us outside the bedroom.

[@Dalenaxx3]

This is spot on.

[@thomasaseymour1165]

Thank Q jimmy! Your humor honesty and philosophy is so appreciated!

[@MacRoss44]

And, frankly, when a person feels safe and valued in all aspects of a relationship, they can feel more comfortable in expressing their sexuality and more confident in sharing desires that they previously felt too unsafe to share. There is a reason why kink communities focus on creating safe conditions with constant communication, whether one is kinky or not, this is the key to great sex.

[@br8979]

Couldn't have put it better

[@NBJackson-y8s]

No honking ...killed me 😂😂😂

[@KCBfly25]

Men out there, listen to this guy. Facts!

[@thesaltybeard1793]

"No honking" lmao

[@DeZi-Bel]

Yip!! 100000%🎉

[@tom-ss2mn]

"No honking" well that throws my plans out the door lol

[@izabelazielak8963]

Just wait till the temperature drops 😶‍🌫️

[@dragonflymusings]

Appreciate the message here. But what one woman wants doesn't mean all women want that.

[@Madamchief]

Surely some women enjoy being neglected and invalidated 😅

[@ariaflame-au]

Which is why you listen to her to find out what she wants. Also, if she is tired out from cooking, cleaning and tidying up after you all day she won’t be in any mood for sexy times.

[@katecaterpillar]

Brilliant.

[@taralovestrand597]

Spot on!

[@dynamicgecko1213]

This feels overwhelming though. "In order to be able to do this one thing in the relationship, you have to do EVERY OTHER THING right. Otherwise, your partner wont wanna do it." is what I'm hearing.

[@fabplays6559]

Bingo! People don’t want to have sex with you if you don’t put the effort into your relationship. Well done, you got it first try!

[@dynamicgecko1213]

@@fabplays6559 I had already gotten it. That is not my point. And stop being patronizing.

[@RootBound505]

Then just don’t do that one thing. Problem solved

[@fabplays6559]

@@dynamicgecko1213 I’m being patronising because you’re making it sound like treating your intimate partner with respect and love is too much, when in reality it is the bare minimum.

[@dynamicgecko1213]

​@@fabplays6559 I wasnt disrespectful to anyone, I just expressed that it feels overwhelming. But you're right, maybe if you're with someone who you care about, it comes more natural feels less overwhelming. I dont have experience, so maybe that's why. Although, that still doesnt justify you talking to me like a child. So you can f*ck off for doing that.

[@lizzy8830]

Finally someone tells the whole true story 🥲❤❤❤

[@CuttheCrazy]

I feel like there is a lot missing! But this is an amazing start. For example how men want to feel respected and understood. And also from the woman’s standpoint- like just doing me one favor like picking up my food or making me dinner is not just a given. Like it’s about trust and being there over time. Not just being there when it’s convenient. And for working man which he is, being there when he is there… instead of on his phone the whole time really enjoying the time with us and me. Making us a priority.

[@JamalJohnson-se4mz]

This is so sad. Why are this creatures so complicated.

[@ashwaganda]

Feeling respected, connected, and gently cared for is "so complicated" for you? Wow... you have a serious problem with relationships mate

[@fabplays6559]

If treating a woman like a person feels complicated to you, maybe the issue is that you’re too simple.

[@JamalJohnson-se4mz]

Guys, you stop being yourselves with westernized women, for what? So they don’t take half your stuff, so they give you a blow when they feel like it? So they don’t make your life miserable? You know the world is huge, there’s more women in the world than men, stop dealing with modern Americanize instagram plague women, free yourself from this daily catastrophe. For God’s sake leave them and don’t look back.