Effectively Helping An Addict Or Alcoholic Find Recovery (2020)

If your family member is an addict or alcoholic, I'm sure you've already been trying to help them find recovery. BUT, ARE YOU DOING IT EFFECTIVELY? In this video, you'll discover the crucial dos and don'ts for helping an addict or alcoholic find their recovery. It's not your fault your loved one is struggling with addiction, nor is it your responsibility to make sure they recover, but there are some things you could be doing to slow down the process.
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[@PutTheShovelDown]

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[@kellymurphy8418]

So my fiancé is in his late 50’s and in 2016 was in ICU cause he went through something no parent should go through and started drinking vodka around the clock . Eventually he blood started coming out of both ends . His esophagus was clamped . It was discovered he has a fatty liver and lesions on it . He wound up picking up from there and going to the gym , got into a healthy lifestyle. He did this till 6 months ago when he bought a house . Lots of stress in that and he caught himself slugging vodka down . I did not know for 3 weeks. We do not live together. He came clean to me when we woke up one morning and was very sad about it. Said he is an Alfa male and it’s hard to admit I have a weakness , said he should have never let the stress of buying this house cause him to start drinking vodka around the clock . He did stop but went to beer instead and roughly a month later stopped completely . That lasted 3 months . Did it on his own . All of a sudden the was like I’m not an alcoholic, I could have a beer if I want to . As you can guess he started drinking beers a few times a week. 2 weeks ago he started urinating blood . Said it was probably from sex. I begged him to go to the ER. He told me if it continued the next day he would. It did continue the next day but not as bad. The next day in the evening he stopped off to get food at a bar/restaurant that he does business with an old friend of his walked in and they wound up having a couple of beers together. I could tell he was drinking when we spoke on the phone. I asked him and he said no I’m just tired. A few hours later he called me after sleeping and he sounded perfectly fine told me he ran into his friend earlier and had a couple of beers completely forgetting that he had lied to me. Then that morning at 5 AM he did go to the hospital and he spent three days there they discovered a mass in his bladder. After three days in the hospital he was discharged I called him on my dinner break at work that Thursday night and he sounded like he was drinking beer again I was completely sure so this time I got mad because I couldn’t believe he did that when he left the hospital. I said I can’t talk to you right now because you’re drinking he started being condescending and say he wasn’t drinking he was just tired I came in to pick up a check of money that was owed I guess that means I’m drinking blah blah blah. I hung up on him the next day I wrote him a very loving text message how alcohol is affecting his health and he needs to follow up with care with the doctors which I believe he will do because he’s pretty good at doing that. I told him in the text that I know I can’t control his drinking but that every time I see him drink it breaks my heart. But I want him to live a long happy and healthy life and then I love him more than anything. I ended up saying that I am praying that I hear from you and then you tell me you’re going to do everything possible to be healthy. I have never heard from him since then. I know he’s OK as in alive because I do see that he checks in on Facebook. I know this is a very long drawn out message. It’s the first one I ever left on this KZbin lol and I’m using a microphone with it makes it easy to just go on and on with. I would like anyone’s suggestions that will help. In my heart I feel that what I did was the right thing. He knows how much I love him. And I do know that he’s in love with me and I know that deep in his core he knows he’s an alcoholic because he told me that one time he had a weakness to it even though he decided to go into denial after that I feel that he knows.

[@stacielove7678]

Thank you! THANK YOU!! I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!! I WISH THERE WERE MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHERE I live. Small town and no resources!

[@melissavo4300]

Why are you not with 1 million subscribers yet ? I need this . Same pattern same results . If he can’t see to hard core change to my approach must be different

[@lauradifuria1984]

You think you want to know the whole story. Then after finding things out you realize you were better not knowing. All the trauma and betrayal. Ignorance really can be bliss sometimes.

[@carieluce8409]

I think the biggest help was my family not enabling me. And yes it is a journey. And taking acnolegment and admitting is what changed me.

[@Susan_1]

Good advice!!!! Normally it seemed like people from the AA think you are not practicing tough love. Sometimes admitting you need help is a huge step , then expect them to do all the leg work too is just too overwhelming for the addict. They call us their enabler! Sometimes its confusing.

[@jesusisgoat8656]

They can't because they don't want to. I know from experience, plus testimonies from several ex-addicts around me. Once you make up your mind, willpower will follow.

[@lorimast]

My husband just made 1 year sobriety after his slip! That also means I've been watching you for over 1 year. 😊

[@teerak144]

I have a 40 year old son who is addicted to meth. He got put in the state hospital for being gravely ill with a diagnosis of schizophrenia so when they released him after 28 days, (not enough time) I took him in, thinking I will help him get back on his feet and help him get Social Security Disability and a roof over his head. It is clear he is not going to stop using and I cannot have this in my home, it's dangerous. Sleeping with one eye open and wondering if they spiked your milk. By the time he got SSI, and a home I was worn out and done. I am him Payee so his bills get paid, but he burnt house down because there were demons in the walls. Stupidly I let him stay a few days and then quickly got him into a motel, when the money ran out, he was on the street. For my own sanity and safety I choose to take care of my own life and he can do what ever he wants. I told him I loved him when I took him a blanket and pillow so he could sleep in his car, but I could not help him as long as he chose to do meth. I would rather wonder how he is than have him under my roof. His father was an abusive alcoholic and his fathers father was the same. And his grandmother on that same side had mental health issues and was addicted to pills. I know the power of God and I know he is able to change them, and so I pray for them all and give them to God, he can help them more than I can.

[@jennigagnon7590]

My husband and I have been fighting to get our marriage back on track. He admitted to cheating on me a few years ago and I almost asked for more details than I needed to know. He came clean, I'm trying to work on the trauma. He was deep in the addiction and now that he's trying to get clean he is trying to do better

[@hasiynafall1668]

Whoa that research part hit home ...he keeps saying he's gonna do it but I'm calling and finding something for him ...opioid addiction just sad

[@taralenzotti3418]

As usual, your video hits all the nails on their heads. I agree that navigating the horrible waters of rehab, treatment centers, IOP, and therapists for my SUD child is the right thing to do. I wouldn’t expect a teenager who is sick with a brain disease/disorder to do it so why would it be different for SUD? Great confirmation and affirmation of my efforts and a help in keeping on the right path going forward.

[@marilyn0530]

Number 5 hit home hard; I was expecting them to be an open book, no omissions, and always the truth, not realizing that this wasn’t and is not about me, but about my best friend. Sometimes we need to try to put ourselves on their shoes and feel for at least a moment what they are feeling; pain, shame, fear, etc.

[@jessicamcclave8415]

Thank you so much for making these videos! I felt so lost and alone dealing with my husband and my mother in law being active addicts. Well my mother-in-law is in early recovery and is living in a halfway house and my husband is about to go to rehab. Thank you 🙏 it’s helped me so much the last couple of days watching your videos and doing research.

[@LisaNEdwards]

I am binge watching and catching up!!! script almost amazing and soon picked up... watch this space xx

[@Drawntotheoldpath]

Thank you for your content. Ive found myself dealing with an addicted love one recently and these videos really help uncover what is truly unfolding around me and I am no longer left to my own imagination. I really feel steps ahead of my interactions. Maybe not 5 steps yet but definitely ahead of this demon of addiction. Im working on building trust for my addicted loved one. Alot of damage has occurred by not knowing what I was dealing with. But learning how to communicate motivational is really helping thanks to your videos. Thanks again!

[@saskiaguy1940]

Honesty is a tough one for my husband. He has lied about his drinking for our whole marriage (23 years). He’s sober now because in order to reconcile after our separation, my boundary was that I didn’t want to be with him if he continued to drink. He chose to go to AA (own choice), but I sensed he was reluctant and that he only said it to get back home. Now he’s not attending AA Zooms (I’m not interfering) and I just know he’s in denial because he keeps dropping hints that he’s going to start drinking again. An example being, he suggested he was going to try making home-made cider the other day. Truth is, he can’t be honest with himself let alone me. What is the way forward with regards to my response to this situation? I’m attending Al-Anon 2/3 per week and working the steps for my own personal recovery, but feel frustrated that we can’t have a close relationship because the ‘elephant’ in the room is still very much there! 😓

[@chasematthews212]

😂😂😂 my frustration just melted and it feels after years...I have found a good person to listen to ....thankyou ❤

[@Guitar.Gemini]

I need this info. I found your channel the other day, and it’s given me hope. I watched someone close to me drink themselves to death a few years back, and I don’t want to see it again.