Eliminate Teenage WMD's - Whining, Manipulation & Disrespect

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Do you have a house full of WMD’s? No, I’m not talking about Weapons of Mass Destruction.
What I’m talking about is something, that at least for a parent, is just as unsettling:
“Whining, Manipulation and Disrespect”.
If you’re anything like the hundreds of families I’ve worked with, you probably don’t need much of an explanation to know how exhausting what I’m talking about is.
Fortunately there is a solution, and it begins with committing this simple 5-word-phrase to memory: Whatever You Permit, You Promote.
Meaning: Any time you allow a kid to get away with a behavior, the message you’re unintentionally sending is that the behavior is OK.
Featuring Joshua Wayne, MA - Family Counselor and Director of ONE CARING ADULT

[@imho2278]

When my daughter at 15 told me she despised me, I was just dropping her off at school. I looked at her, and said, 'Enjoy catching the bus from now on',

[@gerrimiller3491]

I constantly pray that our 16 year old daughter stop being manipulative, evil ways and stop trying to drain us financially

[@XuliusCaesar]

I dislike my 13 year old step son on a very real and adult level. He rages (daily, usually multiple times) at his mother and I for simply saying "no" to him, throws things around, lies, does drugs, steals, and has the strongest sense of entitlement I've ever encountered. He refuses to go to school, or do any chores. His friends are all pothead losers and he's become "one of them" (if you take his weed away he gets physically destructive/violent) He is rude to everyone, and is such a proficient liar to the point I just don't believe anything he says at all. As the step father, I am powerless to do anything, he just disregards everything I say and immediately runs to his mother who then gives in just because she doesn't want to deal with the literal hours of him getting in her face and screaming over a trivial matter. We are at the end of our rope with him, and his mother has told me in no uncertain terms that she hates him. I want to send him somewhere else, and the longer it goes on like this the less I care about where we send him. He has put such a strain on our family, even his 9 year old sister has said that she wishes he would "just go somewhere else and stay there". If he keeps up like he is I don't want to leave my family, but to preserve my own sanity I might have to, because it's almost at the point where I want to call the social worker and tell them to put him in a group home on the other side of the country, either that or have him prescribed meds that will turn him into a zombie just so we can have some semblance of a happy family life. It sucks to say it, but he has embarked head first down the path to being a "no-hoper" and shows no signs of wanting to straighten himself out despite being given all the support and resources he needs. He sees what he is doing to us but doesn't care, as long as he gets what he wants. He has shown traits of narcissism, and only pretends to be nice when he wants something, because if you say "no" to him he flips out, as in 0-1000 in .5 seconds. You can't even remove yourself from it because he follows you everywhere while screaming at you and belittling you. If his mother isn't around and he doesn't like a boundary I have drawn he calls his mother at work incessantly. For example yesterday I told him he wasn't borrowing my 4 wheeler and he called his mother at work 26 times in the run of 20 minutes. She didn't answer him immediately so that's what he does. He is the most unpleasant person I know, and I have zero traction with it. Our household is only happy when he's not in it, and there are times I wish he wouldn't come back. I know its horrible, but unless you've lived with him you can't possibly understand just how awful he is.

[@Opal5674]

Update?

[@brittanyhoneycutt4293]

Hope this has resolved

[@seercyful]

By law, you only have to provide food, clothing, and shelter. Let him know that you love him no matter what, and even if. Dr. Paul Jenkins has many U tube videos and a website called “Living on Purpose “. I could suggest many things that have helped me to improve the behaviors of my three Grandchildren, but you should definitely check out his videos. I’m 72 years old and have been raising my youngest son’s children for the past 14 years. My son had many if not all of the behaviors you described with your step son, until the drugs killed him. I applied Dr. Jenkins practices when he was 13 and my grandchild graduated with a 4.0 GPA and made a 1590 on his SAT. Going to college and studying Neuroscience. Second grandchild graduated this year and is working. Third grandchild is a sophomore in high schools. Yes I am the meany, but they know I love them and I’m just trying to protect them. I feel your pain and frustration brother!

[@mariealkonga2891]

𝙷𝚒 𝚐𝚞𝚢𝚜𝚜 𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚜𝚊 𝚍𝚒𝚛𝚊 𝚐𝚊 𝚑𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚜𝚌𝚑𝚘𝚘𝚕? Hi 𝐍𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐧..

[@shrewmingledotcom]

oh hi

[@shrewmingledotcom]

i didn't exepct you to be here lol

[@tearamarieolegario3438]

CHOANNN HAHAHAHA

[@rehyannacalimutan2849]

marie Alkonga hola MAMeh

[@JosE-sc6ci]

dli ko naresuan pero hellooo aHHAHAHAH

[@thejessman1460]

Stand up for your principles and stop rewarding bad behavior. Most of these disrespectful teens don’t have/haven’t had a Father.

[@ruthallen3042]

Ew

[@moorspa76]

What if the teen has a father but he doesn’t discipline him/her? Just like in my case.

[@rulesfortheenotforme613]

Not always true!

[@amberygoodatmath9568]

asa naman ning ga homeschool sa english?

[@mrdo-wo5fy]

KAMIII

[@amberygoodatmath9568]

mr. do kinsa ka

[@mariealkonga2891]

Nica HAHAHHA e chatt kooo

[@rivkyb7840]

But teens get mad if you say something and it doesnt help

[@PantherFan08]

have a 13 year old son that is WMD and is very unruly and has been trying to put me in jail for his crimes cause he set a fire in our apt and the police and fire department is looking the other way and their trying to pin it on me and at this point no one is listening to me when i say something is defiantly wrong with my child but no one won't listen to a damn word i tell him if he kills me they probably still won't do anything to him

[@roxy4438]

What's up Sukarno!!!

[@secreteobsession3584]

Sometimes my child is rude to me she likes to test me or at she's being ok at the moment but what I've noticed since she's been living with my grandmother is that she's very manipulative so she wants me in her life for the fun stuff which is going out cinema all the good stuff that you do with 17 but then when it comes to the serious part of her life where I'm not happy with her school work or subject decision for college she's picked decisions on her own without consulting with her mother or grandmother or family to get advice it's like no other really made my own decision and I can't live like that where you only need your mother when you choose to or when it's only for fun but when it comes to respecting your mother and the decisions she makes it's like I don't need you for that I just need you for the fun stuff and I don't know a parent that would settle for that crap

[@moorspa76]

I totally understand what you are saying. i would not tolerate such behaviour either. It just makes the teen even more self entitled.

[@Joani161]

It is really fun when it is an 82 year old man!

[@randomfalla2754]

my son is 13 and he whines all day everday it started when he turned 11 or maybe 12 somewhere in between and its driving me insane he whines about small things alot of things and i dont know what to do...i've grounded him lots..took away privileges billions of times..im all out of ideas...any suggestions ?..would a punch in the head work ?

[@SwimminWitDaFishies]

Random Falla I am sorry to be the one to tell you this, but you may have (knowingly or unknowingly) created your own little monster. What is critical for you to do are 2 things: (1) Set Boundaries and (2) Consistently enforce them

[@plusbonus1165]

@@SwimminWitDaFishies What makes you think Random created the problem? Thats like saying a kid that drinks is drunk because of the parent . I have three teenagers and an 8yr old. My oldest male teen is responsible on the whole. My daughter who was brought up in the same house and had the same school opportunities chose to hang out with the 'cool' kids. She's now a drug fucked stoner who is constantly on the wrong side of the law and randomly smashes the family home up. When I tried to stop her , the police gave me a talking to and let her go....! It's the choices the teen makes.

[@SwimminWitDaFishies]

Renny Alcott Sorry to tell you that you as a parent could have done more. What do you mean by the "cool kids"? Are they the best and brightest ones who are college bound to great schools? Are they the ones who have parents that host big parties at their mansions and allow them to drink alcohol and smoke weed? It is your obligation to know where your kids are and who they hang around with. Setting limits and being the "bad guy" sometimes is your job as a parent. Some kids need more supervision than others. You need to talk to them and get a handle on what's going on in their life. Bringing home a stellar report card doesn't mean everything is a-ok. You have to issue consequences when the kid messes up - even if it means you are with them all weekend long. When drugs are involved, you and your family may want to check out a meeting that is geared to helping those who have an addiction. Good luck! PS - Like it or not, kids make bad choices. In the eyes of the law, they are allowed to do that until they are 21. Your job as a parent is to guide them and teach them to make better choices.

[@dianeross4522]

@@plusbonus1165 I am so understanding of what your saying.

[@badgyalleelee8718]

Don’t put your hands on him love you will get a polite visit from CPS. I’m currently waiting on this 14 year old to get a residential facility acceptance so I can move on with my life and go back to school since I had to quit my jobs and schools because of him and his behaviors

[@YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he]

😂i have garde alterne thankfully😂😅 only haf time when she comes dirt is everywhere 😂 junk food is everywhere 😂 i cant paint rap musique is everywhere 😂😂 total disaster😂