Eliminate Unrealistic Expectations and Stop Comparing Yourself!

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The Art of Skill

The Art of Skill

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@iainbean1
@iainbean1 2 жыл бұрын
As a white belt, I’ve been having a rough few weeks. Stupid mistakes paired with not being able to train as much as I wanted to lately, as well as starting to feel my age. I was never going to quit, but I definitely needed to hear this. Thank you very much.
@jacobgomez2682
@jacobgomez2682 2 жыл бұрын
Man I restarted at 36 and I can barely move after rolling a few days in a row my thighs are sore as hell, and as a mechanic I'm on my feet 12 plus hours a day but I'll keep at it, frustration is there but someday itll all click!
@TheCerealQuiler
@TheCerealQuiler 2 жыл бұрын
Just wait until you get your blue belt and start overthinking, forgeting techniques, being tapped by the white belts that just started... You'll think you forgot everything and got worse than when you started.
@TheSQLPro
@TheSQLPro 2 жыл бұрын
Stretch my friend - I'm almost 40 - the only want to continue is to be smart with your recovery. You can also supplement your BJJ with some of what I call "slow" strength exercises (such as Yoga/budokon), isometrics (planks, handstand, hanging on a pullup bar or rings etc), tempo exercises (for example slow squats, slow pushups), and some good compound body weight exercises that have bigger range of motion (dive bomber pushup for example does this and helps you stretch). There are no stupid mistakes, just opportunities to learn what to do and what not to do. I hope this helps. BJJ is an amazing journey.
@Big_Shiesty75
@Big_Shiesty75 2 жыл бұрын
Purple Belt here. For the longest time, I felt I had to dominate every roll. Having trained for 7 years, I finally hit the wall. I took a 7 month break and when I came back, i focused more on learning the move and the technical side of it. If i get tapped by a white belt, I get tapped. I have grown tremendously by adopting this mindset, wish I would have had it earlier. Not only in moves, but in concepts. BJJ has become fun again, even on those nights when I get my ass handed to me. If i do something on a higher belt that I have never done before, regardless of what happens in that roll, I consider that a win for me. Small things but they make the biggest growth. Oss!
@bassi1973
@bassi1973 2 жыл бұрын
"Compare Yourself to Who You Were Yesterday, Not to Who Someone Else is Today" Jordan Peterson. This changed my life, not only my BJJ experience
@joekarate9424
@joekarate9424 2 жыл бұрын
I really like that quote! I’m definitely a bit to hard on myself!
@briancompton2079
@briancompton2079 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent! Now “try as hard as you can at one thing, and see what happens.” That’s my plan anyway!
@rafbo2
@rafbo2 2 жыл бұрын
Great points, as an older BJJ practioner, I can relate. I was once told that expectations are resentments under construction
@johannesheinrich9240
@johannesheinrich9240 Жыл бұрын
I agree. Being without expectations is a major step to mental freedom
@nassiridaniel
@nassiridaniel 2 жыл бұрын
Buddah said that the source of all suffering comes from your wanting desires. Something or rather like that. I feel expectations just set you up for disappointment, especially in this game! Great video Rick!!!
@vic1111189
@vic1111189 2 жыл бұрын
This is the perfect message for me now, i cannot train as much as i want to because of my job, people that started same time with me is way better than me right now and i feel like shit. Thank you for posting this.
@TheRepairSpecialist
@TheRepairSpecialist 2 жыл бұрын
You explain things so wonderfully. As an lower blue belt I keep getting my ego smashed every session. After listening to you I realise that my ego can only get smashed because I have created an ego. If I can drop that ego then there’s nothing to get smashed any more. Just enjoyment in the sport. Thank you for your video. Craig
@fred7705
@fred7705 2 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely right. thinking this way allowed me to go throught my 6th year of bjj. Just try to be better than yourself and better you were the day before. 🤙🏽 even in a bad roll , the worst bjj night of your life there is a beautiful opportunity to learn and grow!
@johnnyb2799
@johnnyb2799 2 жыл бұрын
Just the title makes me say RIGHT ON!!! One of our resident black belts told me, "enjoy the process". You are right on point in my opinion.
@cazio2020
@cazio2020 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, from a 43 year old purple belt that can only train 2-3 times a week. We strive for progress, not perfection.
@bradleycannicott2348
@bradleycannicott2348 2 жыл бұрын
I’m pretty sure there was a quote from M J Fox a few years back that went something like ‘My happiness reduces in direct proportion with my expectations but increases in direct proportion with my acceptance’ In other words don’t expect too much and then when good things do happen it’s a welcome bonus - do your best everyday - stay safe
@magcitrate
@magcitrate 2 жыл бұрын
In the beginning, I thought it was a marathon. Then, changed to a walk. Now, I’m thinking it’s a crawl…
@davidsteinke1
@davidsteinke1 2 жыл бұрын
its a crawl for sure. 1.5 yrs in, 2 stripe white belt :)
@surfingdonster7727
@surfingdonster7727 2 жыл бұрын
Being a high competitive athlete my entire life as a 4th deg. blue and 55yrs old now I try to keep myself sane by reminding myself daily that the alternative of giving up is BY FAR MUCH WORSE and more damaging........ by the way Rick I train under David C. @ Helena BJJ
@TrishCanyon8
@TrishCanyon8 Жыл бұрын
What a great opportunity for growth for you. ENJOY. And you are so right. Compete against yourself.
@doublet630
@doublet630 2 жыл бұрын
Love this video. I’m the oldest in our gym and quite new as well. My zeal to “keep up” has caused a few phenomena that I hadn’t fully banked on (injuries, bruised ego, etc)
@johnmedige1612
@johnmedige1612 2 жыл бұрын
I'm guilty of this and reflect constantly about it... much to learn I have
@loganlogan9095
@loganlogan9095 2 жыл бұрын
As a white belt who has been training for about a year and a half I really appreciate your words of wisdom. I have a wrestling background and have wanted to quit several times in the gi but continue in nogi since I am a lot better without the gi. I am not going to quit either but my frustration with the gi is getting better as I get more acclimated and more training. Thanks.
@TheCerealQuiler
@TheCerealQuiler 2 жыл бұрын
Expectation is directly proportional to disappojntment when things go wrong. And on the other extreme, when things match the expectation we just get euphoric by over reacting and create more expectation for the next minutes, hours, days... just to build up the disappointment when it comes. But what we're not taught is that euphoria isn't happiness.
@mybjj9643
@mybjj9643 2 жыл бұрын
I recently subscribed and have really been enjoying your videos. Like you, I'm an older practitioner- mid 50s. I'm a purple belt and plan to keep at it until I'm a black belt and beyond. Your words of wisdom, such as this video, have really helped my perspective. I train at an MMA gym and some o the white and blue belts are beasts. Such great advice to stop comparing yourself with others.
@crypticmonkey5470
@crypticmonkey5470 2 жыл бұрын
Nicely put, thanks for this. I agree, there are some tough times on the mats but when I think about it, its my perception and reaction to things that causes me to feel positive or negative. The challenge is within me not within anybody else, my ego is what I try to overcome the most.
@songbird11332
@songbird11332 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Rick, I really needed that today 🙏🙏🙏
@hankowitz
@hankowitz 2 жыл бұрын
I love your videos and perspective, Rick. I hope you are enjoying your recent move, and appreciate what you put out. Much respect, sir 🙏
@davidsteinke1
@davidsteinke1 2 жыл бұрын
beautiful video - applicable in LIFE, not just jiu jitsu.
@dodzer
@dodzer Жыл бұрын
pure stoicism, I'm a brown belt that's only realising this. So much of my frustration is in trying to "win" in training. Its a pointless weight I put on my own shoulders.
@MarcinG1978
@MarcinG1978 2 жыл бұрын
'The greatest rival you'll ever meet will be yourself'.... Thanks so much for another brilliant video. Greetings from Ireland. 🙏🍷
@nerdobject5351
@nerdobject5351 2 жыл бұрын
I think best way to explain this is separating an expectation vs. a goal. Going to the gym and setting a goal on hitting that submission you have been drilling. That’s a goal. Then you set the expectation that may not happen for reasons out of your control.
@epfamily09
@epfamily09 Жыл бұрын
Great video Rick. Thanks for sharing this 👏
@dadmindmatters
@dadmindmatters Жыл бұрын
More awesome content about bjj related knowledge oss.
@neklang9020
@neklang9020 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this valuable advice
@momentum8640
@momentum8640 7 ай бұрын
I agree. Well said.
@ajabisong
@ajabisong Жыл бұрын
Very very beautiful words…🌺❤️
@ianleemusic
@ianleemusic 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@powerplantproductions2987
@powerplantproductions2987 2 жыл бұрын
These videos are great, thanks!
@josephconnor2261
@josephconnor2261 2 жыл бұрын
I think this is good advice. Thank you :)
@ravilangabriel6689
@ravilangabriel6689 Жыл бұрын
Expectation often leads to disappointment!
@mang6423
@mang6423 2 жыл бұрын
Great video!!
@theFormidable1
@theFormidable1 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I needed to hear this right now.
@SeamusBrady2010
@SeamusBrady2010 2 жыл бұрын
I find it hard to improve because of my age. It takes so long to achieve incremental improvements. But my body is suffering for it at times if I push to much. Twenty years ago I look at the young guys and see myself. I feel pressured to do better with them because they don’t understand how age affects. So I end up defending and not improving my overall game. It’s hard to accept.
@wm6549
@wm6549 2 жыл бұрын
Good advice. Thank you!
@tededo
@tededo Жыл бұрын
Magnificent.
@performxl
@performxl 2 жыл бұрын
Professor, the concepts you’re sharing are imo above many peoples ability to comprehend (for now), hence the pushback/resistance. Keep on producing this wonderful series of videos. I hope your move to California y going as expected! (See what I did there? 😂)
@amorestperpe
@amorestperpe Жыл бұрын
EMS doing that he's dead but I'm going to still make it look like there's something we can do CPR.
@wishanaigawood
@wishanaigawood 2 жыл бұрын
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