ENFPs, INFPs & INFJs - IT ISN'T SELF SABOTAGE!

[@anonymouscrank]

3 Things that Really Drain Me: repetitive activity, repetitive activity, and...repetitive activity.

[@enfp]

You forgot repetitive activity :)

[@babblingbananas]

Dan, you are so spot on with this analysis! I used to spend a lot of time coming up with detailed plans and scheduling everything on a calendar because I thought that is the right way to go about things. Yet I noticed that I always felt mentally exhausted after working out the plan and just could not make myself get started. I also hate looking at calendars. Whereas if I just jump in with an exploration mindset and forget about deadlines and schedules and other practical duties, I can keep going. I once spent 14 hours straight writing because I got really into the subject matter. At the end of that day I was physically tired but mentally exhilarated!

[@SR-mv2mf]

Ya this makes sense to me. It didn't help me that my family of origin emphasized "being practical " over doing what you want to do well

[@enfp]

+Shruthi Reddy appreciate them for what they've given you and now spend the rest of your time creating the life you won't. Resentment or regret doesn't help anyone :) besides... Imagine if you're parents did teach you anything practical, you might be one of those crazy nfps spinning into alternate realities

[@kirsteni.russell5903]

Yes--that's a can-do approach to the problem. "Self-sabotage" may well be what's happening, but focusing on THAT is like grieving your DNA. What can you do about an unconscious drive you can't switch on or off? On the other hand, if you know an activity turns you off, slows you down, puts you to sleep, etc., it's a wake-up call to change activities.

[@takchengsze4719]

Good advice. One thing I really hate as an infp is prolong meetings. I was an architect and we always have to attend 5-10hours meeting. Now I am a freelance comic illustrator. I think the work style align with my personality more.

[@enfp]

Oh God, I'm "the boss" and an hour or so is usually the longest meeting I can handle.

[@takchengsze4719]

@@enfpthe client pays the architects to show up in the meetings. I like creative work but cannot stand the political drama. thanks for your advice. I feel so much happier now.

[@Dancestar1981]

Dreams Around The World god I even hate that when I was doing a business traineeship I was forced to be at work by 7:30 for crappy meetings that had nothing to do with me when I could have been sleeping. I’d eat snacks and drink coffee with abandon just to try and stay awake and everyone else would give me the death stare. I was just thinking well if you don’t like it don’t expect me to come to your stupid f... meetings if you want me to stay at work 5 days a week until after 6pm and have no life then let me sleep until midday otherwise I’ll be so drained you won’t get a decent performance

[@takchengsze4719]

@@Dancestar1981 meeting sucks.

[@ryzeonline]

Absoluteley. Uncommon, but spot-on, view, I love it.

[@enfp]

Thanks J-Ryze!

[@naveen1894]

You are right. I also feel same. If it's coaching or giving talk I feel great before , during and after. But I think it's self sabotage if there is something that needs to be done but not in alignment with our liking. Then we should take support and help from those who enjoy it. Example: Filing tax return, maintaining accounts, etc

[@Lue7251]

Studying school subjects and revising them in a frequent intervals is where I procrastinate. But when it comes to studying, reading and writing books of my interest or painting, I just can't get enough of it. I could sit with them for hours in a row. My teachers have high hopes from me, because I easily understand concepts. But when it comes to revise the concepts in a structured way I simply procrastinate and can get easily distracted.

[@melissadavis4279]

Yes yes yess. So realistic and true. Set yourself up for success and be true to one's self.

[@great3danesmom]

This is great!! I’ve wondered about this “self sabotage” thing. The idea has been around 30 + years at least in the psychology field. It’s amazing how many people buy into this and accept its true for them. And it’s so culture mainstream. I know when some would tell me that I would accept it, especially if they were in a position of authority or someone I admired. How I wish I’d known about being ENFT. And that as you said, it’s not that I self-sabotage myself but I didn’t or couldn’t do it. Thanks Dan for another great video.

[@kimberlymaiers6821]

Dan - Geniuses are often kinda nuts, so accept that. :-) Seriously, this video is golden and its timing is perfect for me watching it now.Thank you! Gonna share this with my group.

[@mrsicandy23]

I’m an ENTP and I relate to ENFPs A LOT until it comes to this type stuff (and confrontation) I’m a wreck if I don’t accomplish what I say I will, I may not feel like doing it but I believe I have to grow in order to help others grow OAN you’re 100% accurate in your observation

[@PeaceNLiebe]

Lmao this makes me not feel bad for dropping out! Also the fact that so many influential people didn’t pursue the typical education, career, etc.

[@brucetowe7713]

Love the perspective! Great thoughts on how to change the view of self-sabotage. of course, one thing I dislike a LOT is making lists of self-reflective items ;-) Very worthwhile video. I appreciate what you do

[@charlespaul6775]

"..get those videos. And the we can be FRIENDS." Haha. sooooo ENFP😂 cheers!

[@trombonehead94]

Dan, it's like you have a transcript of our daily conversations! You are right on with this one. Good insight! We think both your video about time management and the one about how to finish what you start are great resources too for folks like us to plan our success by our own terms in the TJ-System. Thanks again for your awesome videos! Love, ENFP+ENTP couple

[@sandrad9695]

Genius. I procrastinate scheduled, overly routine things. Because they’re BORING.

[@ChantelStays]

Subscribed. You are brilliant and straightforward and speak right to me: infj. The s and t types are not relatable to me at all.... I seriously lack any of their skill set, and admire them intensely. The school system definitely is set up for failure of NF types. My favourite activity is researching, painting, dancing and my most fave... sleeping 👌🙏🏽 also I have always typed as infj ... I mean obsessively tested haha, but I really really resonate with infp and enfp, do you have any tips on how to truly differentiate once and for all. On cognitive tests I am high on both Ni and Ne and Fe and Fi

[@adrim888]

YOUR CHANNEL IS A FREAKING BLESSING!

[@enfp]

Thanks Adriana :) :)

[@jtwright4095]

concur; i test as ENFP/INFP & you've said it & it makes a lot of sense & u've put it in an easy formula that i can meditate on...it's simple, but: maybe instead of feeling inferior/bad (related to your comment re living in a predom. S/T(?J) world) about putting sh*tty(haha) stuff off, a different perspective could lead me to more happiness...which could lead me to more $ ... which could lead to HIRING SOMEONE ELSE TO DO DA SH*TTY STUFF!! ty :)

[@Dancestar1981]

Jt Wright exactly outsource the things you don’t do well so you can concentrate on what is important to you

[@JamesLauderdale]

Excellent notion!

[@begoherrero6894]

Loved this

[@Lafilledlapluie]

Lol when I went to architecture school. If you're an enfp and your internal values don't align with the philosophy of architecture school and culture you'll struggle. Even my enfp friend that has the genuine passion to be an architect has struggled especially when she doesn't have help. Gotta play your strengths

[@enfp]

Most definitely!

[@nichollesweat7435]

Genius, I'm going to try it and let you know! 😊

[@mariasteinbrecher4146]

Nuts and genius. But I think you know that.

[@alexadellastella5247]

Very insightful! Thanks!

[@enfp]

You're welcome!

[@mayhawthorn5092]

Thank you. That was helpful

[@enfp]

You're welcome May!

[@gamboamia]

Spot on, as usual! :)

[@TheBananaDeanna]

So true! Spot on.

[@shadilayshadilay587]

dude i love the painting in the back!

[@enfp]

+Shadilay Shadilay thank you thank you

[@shadilayshadilay587]

Where can i get one? :D Btw how does an ENFP (like me) get out of depression? I feel bad when i'm alone as i think of my misstakes. Things in my life have gone ape wild since two years back, And i feel like i'm not getting it out of my head. If you know how i should handle it. Please tell me! Thanks in advance

[@jent9197]

You are speaking my language... it's uncanny...

[@yossiludmir2407]

You are a Genius!!!!!

[@sleepyclaus3750]

So is like trying to find your passion?

[@veronicalujan2526]

Oooooh true loo

[@alecfleming373]

Job hopping like a serial killer... Just not vibing with others. No shame, thinking of making it a business idea...

[@elkabutelka1]

I like you :)