Creativity and Self-Sabotage

[@LaurenSapalaINFJ]

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[@CC-fi8mc]

Fear of exposure. Coupled with thin boundaries, I'm afraid people will take my work and tear it apart, re-purposing it for their needs and I won't know how to protect it and keep it as "mine."

[@Queen_Sylvia]

Yes! The success feels like it was a fluke and the pressure is on to try to make it happen again. Soooo much safer to play small, but also deeply dissatisfying. Great video, as always.

[@aquariusstar7248]

I dont know if it is just fear of exposure or success. Maybe. Listening to this reminded me of the envy amd jealousy i dealt with from a classmate and my own mother bc of my talents. I think for me it goes back to the unfj tendency to care about how my success makes others feel, and the negative reactions and insecurities that come as a result--competitiveness, sabotage, etc. In other words--success doesn't feel SAFE. Every time i get "exposed" for some type of success (which is inconsistent and intermittent and often hard won) i can feel the vibes of the "haters." Ive even had folks i hired or collaborators to sabotage my efforts bc i believe they knew it was going to be successful. Even though we were sharing the spotlight, i giess bc i was doing most of the work, they pulled the plug or stole it from me.

[@1nonlycricket]

INFP here. My husband is an INFJ. My son is an INFP. This could not be further from the truth for all of us. I so needed to hear this!!! Thank you! 🙏🏾

[@lilsubz06]

The fear of success... too real

[@MBAinternetmktg]

Please provide a link to the new class.

[@Diane_McDon]

I can remember at about age 12 thinking that Everyone ‘Chameleoned’ all the time like i did

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

You really read me well Lauren! This question of why I self-sabotage is very much answered by what you have said in this video! It comes down to fear that love will be withdrawn and it will be replaced by rejection. I have to discover what my wounded child needs in order to heal and move forward!

[@flodorsey9371]

How do we do this?? Very interested in “getting to root of this” and healing that poor little girl who was wounded. Video on that??

[@B_e_a_uuutiful]

You spoke straight to my heart and provided so much clarity to why I never commit to exploring my passions. I could never put my finger on it until this video. Thank you so so much! 🙏

[@cheribarkman1784]

Thank you

[@jansimpson4364]

Worst gathering - baby shower - with people I worked with and my therapist… 😮

[@Ricky.Z]

Needed this right now. Thank you.

[@PaigeRaskin]

Needed this

[@KatAdVictoriam]

Lauren - I found your Medium articles doing research into writing in a new genre. I get your newsletter and was thrilled you have this YT channel. This video resonates. I had published a book and when I found formatting issues, I pulled the whole thing (which is the right thing to do) and when my laptop died before I could fix it, I gave up. I'm loathe to ever return to it now. Worse, I did tell people about my book and keep getting asked when it'll be back up on Amazon. I get the fear of feeling of exposure/judgment. I am an INTP. Do you do work with us types? I've read that INTPs make very poor fiction writers and should focus on Non-Fiction instead. I'd love to hear your thoughts, or opinions on INTP. When I have the extra money, I look forward to joining one of your classes in the future! I appreciate the work you're doing.